"it's not you, it's me" meaning in English

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  "etymology_text": "Originally used in American sports as a humblebrag consolation to less successful players. Popularized in romantic contexts by the 1988 American comedy Casual Sex?",
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          "ref": "1988, Casual Sex?:",
          "text": "Matthew: We have a problem...\nMelissa: Is it me?\nMatthew: No, no, no. It's not you, it's me. I'm not attracted to you.\nMelissa: Oh.\nMatthew: Now, I don't want you to take this as a rejection, but as an acceptance between two people whose needs are profoundly incompatible. And you're not alone. I devote an entire chapter to this in my book.",
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          "ref": "1993 October 28, “The Lip Reader”, in Seinfeld:",
          "text": "George: I don't understand. Things were going so great. What happened? Something must have happened.\nGwen: It's not you, it's me.\nGeorge: You're giving me the \"it's not you, it's me\" routine?! I invented \"it's not you, it's me\"! Nobody tells me it's them, not me! If it's anybody, it's me.\nGwen: All right, George, it's you.\nGeorge: You're damn right it's me.\nGwen: I was just trying to...\nGeorge: I know what you were trying to do. Nobody does it better than me.\nGwen: I'm sure you do it very well.",
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          "ref": "2011, Lotte Daley, chapter 1, in Faking It, Penguin:",
          "text": "‘[…] I've been repeatedly calling him all morning. He won't pick up. All I got was this pathetic text,’ I cough and clear my throat. ‘It said, “It's not you, it's me, I'm sorry Katie”.’",
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        "Don't blame yourself for the end of our relationship."
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        "(often ironic, sarcastic) Don't blame yourself for the end of our relationship."
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          "code": "az",
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          "sense": "don't blame yourself for the end of our relationship",
          "word": "günah səndə deyil, məndədir"
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          "code": "ca",
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          "sense": "don't blame yourself for the end of our relationship",
          "word": "no ets tu, sóc jo"
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          "code": "fa",
          "lang": "Persian",
          "roman": "be xâter-e to nist, taqsir-e xodam-e",
          "sense": "don't blame yourself for the end of our relationship",
          "word": "به خاطر تو نیست، تقصیر خودمه"
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          "sense": "don't blame yourself for the end of our relationship",
          "word": "não é você, sou eu"
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          "lang": "Spanish",
          "sense": "don't blame yourself for the end of our relationship",
          "word": "no eres tú, soy yo"
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        "Casual Sex?",
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      "code": "az",
      "lang": "Azerbaijani",
      "sense": "don't blame yourself for the end of our relationship",
      "word": "günah səndə deyil, məndədir"
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      "code": "ca",
      "lang": "Catalan",
      "sense": "don't blame yourself for the end of our relationship",
      "word": "no ets tu, sóc jo"
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      "code": "fa",
      "lang": "Persian",
      "roman": "be xâter-e to nist, taqsir-e xodam-e",
      "sense": "don't blame yourself for the end of our relationship",
      "word": "به خاطر تو نیست، تقصیر خودمه"
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      "code": "pt",
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      "sense": "don't blame yourself for the end of our relationship",
      "word": "não é você, sou eu"
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      "code": "es",
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      "sense": "don't blame yourself for the end of our relationship",
      "word": "no eres tú, soy yo"
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  "word": "it's not you, it's me"
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