"pick-me" meaning in English

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Noun

Audio: LL-Q1860 (eng)-Flame, not lame-pick-me.wav Forms: pick-mes [plural], pick me [alternative], pickme [alternative]
Head templates: {{en-noun}} pick-me (plural pick-mes)
  1. (slang, derogatory) Synonym of pick-me girl. Tags: derogatory, slang Synonyms: pick-me girl [synonym, synonym-of]
    Sense id: en-pick-me-en-noun-dlBViZyQ
  2. (slang, derogatory, by extension) A person who acts against the interests of their own (typically marginalized) group in the hope of obtaining majority favour. Tags: broadly, derogatory, slang Categories (topical): Feminism, Social justice
    Sense id: en-pick-me-en-noun-P0JbMDV~ Disambiguation of Feminism: 16 84 Disambiguation of Social justice: 6 94 Categories (other): English entries with incorrect language header, Pages with 1 entry, Pages with entries Disambiguation of English entries with incorrect language header: 34 66 Disambiguation of Pages with 1 entry: 18 82 Disambiguation of Pages with entries: 10 90

Inflected forms

Alternative forms

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