"be cruel to be kind" meaning in English

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Verb

Forms: is cruel to be kind [present, singular, third-person], being cruel to be kind [participle, present], was cruel to be kind [past], been cruel to be kind [participle, past]
Etymology: From William Shakespeare's Hamlet, Act 3, Scene 4: "I must be cruel, only to be kind: / Thus bad begins and worse remains behind." Head templates: {{en-verb|be<is,being,was,been> cruel to be kind}} be cruel to be kind (third-person singular simple present is cruel to be kind, present participle being cruel to be kind, simple past was cruel to be kind, past participle been cruel to be kind)
  1. To act cruelly in order to achieve a positive outcome in the future. Wikipedia link: Hamlet, William Shakespeare Related terms: tough love, treat them mean, keep them keen

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