A

* (highest rank, grade, music): From the initial position of the letter A in the English alphabet.
* (blood type): From A antigen


bit

From Middle English bitte, bite, from Old English bita (“bit; fragment; morsel”) and bite (“a bite; cut”), from Proto-Germanic *bitô and *bitiz; both from Proto-Indo-European *bʰeyd- (“to split”). More at bite.
Cognates
Cognate with West Frisian bit, Saterland Frisian Bit, Dutch bit, German Low German Beet, Biet, German Biss and Bissen, Danish bid, Swedish bit, Icelandic biti.

der

(BDSM) A gag of a style similar to a bridle.


BBC

en-noun

BBC (countable and uncountable, plural BBCs)

She on my TV screen; I’m talking DVD / British bitches love my cock; I’m talking BBC

2014, ScHoolboy Q, “Californication”, in Oxymoron:

(sexuality, slang, vulgar) Initialism of big black cock.


AA

AA (countable and uncountable, plural AAs)

approach anxiety
approach anxiety#English

(seduction community) Initialism of approach anxiety.


big

Inherited from Northern Middle English big, bigge (“powerful, strong”), possibly from a dialect of Old Norse. Ultimately perhaps a derivative of Proto-Germanic *bugja- (“swollen up, thick”), from Proto-Indo-European *bʰew-, *bu- (“to swell”), in which case big would be related to bogey, bugbear, and bug.
Compare dialectal Norwegian bugge (“great man”), Low German Bögge, Boggelmann.

der

(BDSM, ABDL) The participant in ageplay who acts out the older role.


wall

From Middle English wal, from Old English weall (“wall, dike, earthwork, rampart, dam, rocky shore, cliff”), from Proto-West Germanic *wall (“wall, rampart, entrenchment”), from Latin vallum (“wall, rampart, entrenchment, palisade”), from Proto-Indo-European *welH- (“to turn, wind, roll”).
Perhaps conflated with waw (“a wall within a house or dwelling, a room partition”), from Middle English wawe, from Old English wāg, wāh (“an interior wall, divider”), see waw.
Cognate with North Frisian wal (“wall”), Saterland Frisian Waal (“wall, rampart, mound”), Dutch wal (“wall, rampart, embankment”), German Wall (“rampart, mound, embankment”), Swedish vall (“mound, wall, bank”). More at wallow, walk.

cog

the apples on the other side of the wall are the sweetest

throw enough mud at the wall and some of it will stick

throw things at the wall and see what sticks

Depreciation of assets happens. Prepare yourself
Marla. Get ready for the wall.

1996 December 27, “The Definitive Answer to "Why Nice Guys Finish Last"”, in alt.romance (Usenet):

At what age would you peg the
'wall' to be for men, on or thereabouts?

2001 February 2, “what a drag it is getting old”, in soc.singles (Usenet):

I have never had a problem getting the attention of men. I'm 44
and there's no wall staring me in the face

2001 June 19, “the laws of biomechanics”, in soc.singles (Usenet):

That was only six
years later and Natasha is not near the wall yet

2002 January 22, “towards a useful smv metric”, in soc.singles (Usenet):

As for the wall....Im convinced part of this is just something us guys tell ourselves to 'get back'(in our minds) at all the girls who wouldn't sleep with us 5-10 years ago

2015 July 20, “catcalls are bad”, in rec.sport.football.college (Usenet):

(slang, seduction community, chiefly definite) The stage of biological aging where physical appearance and attractiveness start to deteriorate rapidly.


French

en-noun

French (countable and uncountable, plural French or Frenches)

→ Zulu: iFulentshi

Inherited from Middle English Frenche, Frensch, Frensc, Frenshe, Frenk, Franche, from Old English Frenċisċ (“Frankish, French”), from Proto-West Germanic *Frankisk (“Frankish”), equivalent to Frank + -ish (compare Frankish). Cognate with Middle Low German vranksch, frenkisch, vrenkesch, vrenksch (“Frankish, French”), Middle High German vrenkisch, vrensch ("Frankish, Franconian; > German fränkisch (“Frankish, Franconian”)), Danish fransk (“French”), Swedish fransk, fransysk (“French”), Icelandic franska (“French”).
Doublet of Frankish. piecewise doublet of Francis, Franz, and Francisco, which are derived from Late Latin Franciscus
In reference to vulgar language, from expressions such as pardon my French in the early 19th century, originally in reference to actual (but often mildly impolite) French expressions by the upper class, subsequently adopted ironically by the lower class for English curse words under the charitable conceit that the listener would not be familiar with them.
In reference to vermouth, a shortened form of French vermouth, distinguished as usually being drier than Italian vermouth.

gl

"Frankish, Franconian; > German <i class="Latn mention" lang="de">fränkisch</i> (“Frankish, Franconian”)

piecewise doublet

French--^([sic]) to do the French--Cocksucking; and, inversely, to tongue a woman.

1916, Henry Nathaniel Cary, The Slang of Venery and Its Analogues, volume I, page 94:

You can be whipped or caned... or you can have French for another pound.

Always use condoms with Greek (anal intercourse), straight sex (vaginal intercourse, fucking), French (oral sex).

‘French’—still used by prostitutes as a term for oral sex.

(uncountable, dated slang, sex) Synonym of oral sex, especially fellatio.


French

en-adj

French (comparative more French or Frencher, superlative most French or Frenchest)

more French (comparative)
Frencher (comparative)
most French (superlative)
Frenchest (superlative)

→ Choctaw: Filanchi

→ Tamil: பிரஞ்சு (pirañcu)

French active

French girl

She was a tall redhead, with a shape that would make you jump for joy and a reputation as the best French girl in the place.

1946, Milton “Mezz” Mezzrow, Bernard Wolfe, “Not too Far Tangent”, in Really the Blues, New York, N.Y.: Random House, book 1 (1899–1923: A Nothin’ but a Child), page 23:

(slang, sexuality) Of or related to oral sex, especially fellatio.


Chad

From Middle English Chadde, from Old English Ċeadda, of obscure meaning; name of a seventh-century Anglo-Saxon saint, revived in the 20th century.
The sense of “alpha male” originates from an apparent stereotype that men with such a name tend to bear that temperament, first attested in c. late 1990s in Chicago, Illinois (specifically "successful white man, yuppie"), but in common usage only as of the late 2010s via 4chan slang.

etydate

They are united by the fact that women will not have sex with them, usually attributed to shallow obsessions with looks or superficial personality, and by their hatred of “Chads” and “Stacys”, the men and women who have sex.

2018 April 25, Alex Hern, “Who are the 'incels' and how do they relate to Toronto van attack?”, in The Guardian:

Short for “female humanoid”, it’s used in place of the word “woman” to depict how, in an incel’s view, women are not entirely human, but are instead robot-like androids who only crave sex with Chads.

2018 April 28, Kate Wilson, “Last week in tech: sex robots”, in The Georgia Straight:

(Internet slang, seduction community, incel slang) A very handsome, usually tall man whom women find sexually attractive; at times seen as an alpha male of a group.


zipper

→ Cebuano: siper

→ Esperanto: zipo

→ French: zipper

→ Japanese: ジッパー (jippā)

→ Korean: 지퍼 (jipeo)

→ Portuguese: zíper

→ Spanish: zíper

→ Tagalog: siper

1925, zip + -er. The trade name was registered in 1925 by B.F. Goodrich for “boots made of rubber and fabric,” claiming use of the name since June 1923. No longer a registered trademark.

(BDSM) A string of clothes pegs or clips attached to the body and then quickly pulled off.


queen

en-verb

queen (third-person singular simple present queens, present participle queening, simple past and past participle queened)

queens (present singular third-person)
queening (participle present)
queened (participle past)
queened (past)
queene (alternative obsolete)
quene (alternative obsolete)
queyne (alternative obsolete)

From Middle English quene, queen, cwen, from Old English cwēn (“queen”), from Proto-West Germanic *kwāni, from Proto-Germanic *kwēniz (“woman”), from Proto-Indo-European *gʷénh₂s (“woman”).
Cognate with Scots queen, wheen (“queen”), Old Saxon quān ("wife"; > Middle Low German quene (“elderly woman”)), Dutch kween (“woman past child-bearing age”), Swedish kvinna (“woman”), Norwegian kvinne (“woman”), Danish kvinde (“woman”), Icelandic kvon (“wife”), Gothic 𐌵𐌴𐌽𐍃 (qēns, “wife”), Norwegian dialectal kvån (“wife”). Related to and possibly merged with and/or absorbed some senses of English quean, from Middle English quene, from Old English cwene (“woman; female serf, quean”), see quean. Generally eclipsed non-native Middle English regina (“queen”), borrowed from Latin rēgīna (“queen”) (see Modern English Regina). Doublet of quean and gyne.

gloss

"wife"; > Middle Low German <i class="Latn mention" lang="gml">quene</i> (“elderly woman”)

cog

The classic posture, in which you lie on your back while the male serves you, may make him feel arrogant and in charge. Try Queening him. Have him lie on his back while you sit on his face (make sure he has an airway through either his mouth or his nose).

1996, Lorelei, The Mistress Manual: The Good Girl’s Guide to Female Dominance, Scranton, Pennsylvania: Berkana Press, →ISBN, page 138:

She saw his pink tongue flickering on Clare's exposed nympha as she queened him, her love juices shining on his chin and throat[…]

2012, Yolanda Celbridge, The Castle of Maldona:

(BDSM, slang, transitive, usually of a woman) To sit on a person’s face to receive oral sex, typically while straddling the person’s head.


finish

en-verb

finish (third-person singular simple present finishes, present participle finishing, simple past and past participle finished)

finishes (present singular third-person)
finishing (participle present)
finished (participle past)
finished (past)
finish (infinitive)
finish (first-person present singular)
finished (first-person past singular)
finish (present second-person singular)
finishest (archaic present second-person singular)
finished (past second-person singular)
finishedst (archaic past second-person singular)
finishes (present singular third-person)
finisheth (archaic present singular third-person)
finished (past singular third-person)
finish (plural present)
finished (past plural)
finish (present subjunctive)
finished (past subjunctive)
finish (imperative present)
finishing (participle present)
finished (participle past)

→ Gulf Arabic: فنش (fannaš)

From Middle English finishen, finisshen, finischen, from Old French finiss-, stem of some of the conjugated forms of finir, from Latin fīnīre, from fīnis (“end, limit, border, boundary”), possibly from Proto-Indo-European *dʰeygʷ- (“to stick, set up”) or from Proto-Indo-European *bʰeyd- (“to split”).

der

Fucked my cousin in her asshole
Before I finish on her tits

2016, “Redneck Shit”, performed by Wheeler Walker Jr.:

"Understand the anxiety around sex and what beliefs are triggering it," says Van Kirk."Are you worried you aren't good in bed? That you'll come off as selfish? That pleasuring you will take too long? Reframe that anxiety. Your excitement needs to be louder than any anxiety" to finish.

2019 June 14, Macaela Mackenzie, Lindsay Geller, “Why Your Orgasm Is MIA—And Exactly What To Do About It”, in Women's Health, archived from the original on 2021-01-25:


boy

en-noun

boy (countable and uncountable, plural boys or (eye dialect) boyz)

boys (plural)
boyz (plural pronunciation-spelling)
boi (alternative)

Jamaican Creole: bwoy

Sranan Tongo: boi, boy

→ Cebuano: boy

→ Chinese: boy

desctree

→ Dutch: boy
→ French: boy
→ Lingala: bɔ́i
→ Indonesian: boi

→ German: Boy

→ Hungarian: boy

→ Iraqi Arabic: بوي

→ Italian: boy

→ Japanese: ボーイ (bōi)

→ Polish: boy

→ Russian: бой (boj)

→ Spanish: boy

→ Swahili: boi

→ Tagalog: boy

→ Vietnamese: bồi

→ Welsh: boi

Etymology tree
Proto-West Germanic *bōjō
Old English *bōia
Middle English boye
English boy
From Middle English boy /boye (“servant, commoner, knave, boy”), from Old English *bōia (“boy”), from Proto-West Germanic *bōjō, from Proto-Germanic *bōjô (“younger brother, young male relation”), from Proto-Germanic *bō- (“brother, close male relation”), from Proto-Indo-European *bʰā-, *bʰāt- (“father, elder brother, brother”).
Cognate with Scots boy (“boy”), West Frisian boai (“boy”), Dutch boi (“boy”), Low German Boi (“boy”), and probably to the Old English proper name Bōia. Also related to West Flemish boe (“brother”), Norwegian dialectal boa (“brother”), Dutch boef (“rogue, knave”), Bavarian Bua (“young boy, lad”), German Bube ("boy; knave; jack"; > English bub), Icelandic bófi (“rogue, crook, bandit, knave”). See also bully.

gloss

"boy; knave; jack"; > English <i class="Latn mention" lang="en">bub</i>

boy

formerly, African male servant in colonies

mutil

male of any age, used as a friendly diminutive

poika

affectionate term of address for male dog

all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy

since Adam was an oakum boy in Chatham Dockyard

when Adam was an oakum boy in Chatham Dockyard


finger

en-verb

finger (third-person singular simple present fingers, present participle fingering, simple past and past participle fingered)

fingers (present singular third-person)
fingering (participle present)
fingered (participle past)
fingered (past)

PIE word
 *pénkʷe
From Middle English fynger, finger, from Old English finger (“finger”), from Proto-West Germanic *fingr, from Proto-Germanic *fingraz (“finger”), from Proto-Indo-European *penkʷrós, from *pénkʷe (“five”). Compare West Frisian finger, Low German/German Finger, Dutch vinger, Danish, Norwegian, and Swedish finger; also Old Armenian հինգեր-որդ (hinger-ord, “fifth”). More at five.

cog

She fingered him, spreading the gel and sliding the tip of her finger inside him.

2007, Madeline Bastinado, A Talent for Surrender, page 201:

She smiled, a look of amazement on her face, as if thinking that maybe this was the cock that she had been fantasizing about just now, as she fingered herself to a massive, body-engulfing orgasm.

2008, Thomas Wainwright, editor, Erotic Tales, page 56:

(transitive, sex) To use the fingers to penetrate or sexually stimulate one's own or another person's vulva, vagina, or anus.

صَبَّعَ

to penetrate and sexually stimulate with one's finger


MG

en-noun

MG (countable and uncountable, plural MGs)

(uncountable, pornography) Initialism of weight gain.


AR

AR (countable and uncountable, plural ARs)

(pornography) Initialism of age regression.


hard

en-adj

hard (comparative harder or more hard, superlative hardest or most hard)

harder (comparative)
more hard (comparative)
hardest (superlative)
most hard (superlative)

→ Finnish: haarti

→ Spanish: hard

From Middle English hard, from Old English heard, from Proto-West Germanic *hard(ī), from Proto-Germanic *harduz, from Proto-Indo-European *kort-ús, from *kret- (“strong, powerful”). Cognate with German hart, Swedish hård, Ancient Greek κρατύς (kratús), Sanskrit क्रतु (krátu), Avestan 𐬑𐬭𐬀𐬙𐬎 (xratu).

صَعْب

requiring a lot of effort to do or understand


train

→ Irish: traein

→ Maltese: trejn

→ Scottish Gaelic: trèan

→ Welsh: trên

[t̠ɹ̠̊˔e̞ɪ̯n]

From Middle English trayne (“train”), from Old French train (“a delay, a drawing out”), from traïner (“to pull out, to draw”), from Vulgar Latin *traginō, from *tragō, from Latin trahō (“to pull, to draw”), ultimately from Proto-Indo-European *tregʰ- (“to pull, draw, drag”). The verb was derived from the noun in Middle English.
For the meaning to teach compare typologically Russian ната́скивать (natáskivatʹ) (akin to тащи́ть (taščítʹ)).

m+

ната́скивать

it ain't the whistle that pulls the train

it is not the whistle that pulls the train

it isn't the whistle that pulls the train

it's not the whistle that pulls the train

“You want us to run a train on you?”

2005, Violet Blue, Best Women's Erotica 2006: Volume 2001, link:

(sex, slang) An act wherein series of men line up and then penetrate a person, especially as a form of gang rape.

trenzinho

sex: an act wherein series of men line up and then penetrate a person


swing

en-verb

swing (third-person singular simple present swings, present participle swinging, simple past swung or (archaic or dialectal) swang, past participle swung or (archaic) swungen)

swings (present singular third-person)
swinging (participle present)
swung (past)
swang (archaic dialectal past)
swung (participle past)
swungen (archaic participle past)

From Middle English swyngen, from Old English swingan, from Proto-West Germanic *swingan, from Proto-Germanic *swinganą (compare Low German swingen, German schwingen, Dutch zwingen, Swedish svinga), from Proto-Indo-European *swenk-, *sweng- (compare Scottish Gaelic seang (“thin”)). Related to swink.

lyödä kierre

cricket: to make the ball move sideways in its trajectory

at church every time the doors swing open

We find it difficult to meet couples our age, and often swing with single, straight men. We have rules: no married guys cheating on their wives, no one too young or too old, and no one who supports Trump.

2017 October 13, anonymous author, “My life in sex: ‘We have rules for swinging: no one cheating on their wives, no one who supports Trump’”, in The Guardian, →ISSN:

My husband wasn’t so lucky and didn’t get to swing at all so was very disappointed. I’m desperate to do it all again but he’s not so keen.

2023 October 26, Eleanor Gordon-Smith, anonymous quotee, “My husband persuaded me to swing. I’m desperate to do it again, he’s not – what should I do?”, in The Guardian, →ISSN:

(intransitive, sex) To participate in the swinging lifestyle; to participate in wifeswapping.


crush

en-noun

crush (countable and uncountable, plural crushes)

From Middle English cruschen (“to crush, smash, squeeze, squash”), from Old French croissir (“to crush”), from Late Latin *crusciō (“to brush”), from Frankish *krustijan (“to crush, squeeze, squash”), from Proto-Germanic *kreustaną (“to crush, grind, strike, smash”). Cognate with Middle Low German tokrosten (“to crush, shatter”).
Akin also to Middle Dutch crosen (“to bruise, crush”), Middle Low German krossen, krȫsen (“to break, shatter”), Old Swedish krusa (“to crush”), Swedish krysta (“to squeeze”), Danish kryste (“to squash”), Icelandic kreista (“to squeeze, squash”), Faroese kroysta (“to squeeze”), Gothic 𐌺𐍂𐌹𐌿𐍃𐍄𐌰𐌽 (kriustan, “to gnash”).

cog

Just as they say that marijuana leads to harder drugs, Gallegly is claiming that crush is a "gateway fetish"—a term I've never heard before. He claims that if someone starts with bugs they'll end up escalating to human babies in no time.

2000, Katharine Gates, Deviant Desires: Incredibly Strange Sex, page 137:

(uncountable, sexuality) A paraphilia involving arousal from seeing things destroyed by crushing.


collar

en-verb

collar (third-person singular simple present collars, present participle collaring, simple past and past participle collared)

collars (present singular third-person)
collaring (participle present)
collared (participle past)
collared (past)

From Middle English coler, borrowed from Old French coler (Modern French collier), from Late Latin collāre, from Latin collāris, from collum (“neck”). Cognate with Gothic 𐌷𐌰𐌻𐍃 (hals, “neck”), Old English heals (“neck”). Compare Spanish cuello (“neck”). More at halse. Doublet of collet.

(transitive, BDSM) To bind (a submissive) to a dominant under specific conditions or obligations.


plate

→ Maori: pereti

→ Hindi: प्लेट (pleṭ)

From Middle English plate, from Old French plate, from Medieval Latin plata, from Vulgar Latin *plat(t)us, from Ancient Greek πλατύς (platús, “broad, flat, wide”). Compare Spanish plato.
(foot): Cockney rhyming slang, from "plates of meat" for "feet".

der

More plates means more dates!

(slang, seduction community) Any of the potential romantic or sexual partners with whom a person keeps in touch as part of plate spinning.


horizontal

en-adj

horizontal (comparative more horizontal, superlative most horizontal)

more horizontal (comparative)
most horizontal (superlative)

/ˌhɒɹɪˈzɒntəl/

/hərɪˈzɔɳʈəl/

horizontal tango

Comparing a man who inspires you intellectually and makes you laugh with a guy who fulfils all your horizontal desires means you’re not comparing like with like.

2020 February 2, Mariella Frostrup, “One is a great guy; the other is good in bed. So who do I choose?”, in The Guardian:

(sex, euphemistic) Relating to sexual intercourse.


hammer

en-verb

hammer (third-person singular simple present hammers, present participle hammering, simple past and past participle hammered)

hammers (present singular third-person)
hammering (participle present)
hammered (participle past)
hammered (past)

From Middle English hamer, from Old English hamor, from Proto-West Germanic *hamar, from Proto-Germanic *hamaraz (“tool with a stone head”) (compare West Frisian hammer, Low German Hamer, Dutch hamer, German Hammer, Danish hammer, Swedish hammare). This is traditionally ascribed to Proto-Indo-European *h₂eḱmoros, from *h₂éḱmō (“stone”), but see *hamaraz for further discussion.
(declare a defaulter on the stock exchange): Originally signalled by knocking with a wooden mallet.

sense

the nail that sticks out gets hammered down

A short time later I’ve got Lissie in bed. I’m really going after it, really hammering her.

2012, John Locke, Wish List (Donovan Creed), John Locke Books, →ISBN, page 19:

(sex, transitive, colloquial) To have hard sex with.


brat

en-noun

brat (countable and uncountable, plural brats)

Early Modern English (c. 1500) slang term meaning "beggar's child". Possibly from Scots bratchet (“bitch, hound”). Another possibility is that it was originally a dialectal word, from northern and western England and the Midlands, for a "makeshift or ragged garment," from Old English bratt (“cloak”), which is from a Celtic source (Old Irish brat (“cloak, cloth”)). In the sense "characteristic of a confident and assertive woman", coined by English singer and songwriter Charli XCX in her 2024 album Brat.

coinage

(BDSM) A submissive partner who is disobedient and unruly.


brat

en-verb

brat (third-person singular simple present brats, present participle bratting, simple past and past participle bratted)

brats (present singular third-person)
bratting (participle present)
bratted (participle past)
bratted (past)

Ruthie was Ed's own submissive, a short, pretty, feisty ash-blonde New York City native who combined her submission to Ed with a good deal of mischievous bratting and a lot of sharp, intelligent conversation […]

2021, Ardie Stallard, Switch: A Tale of Spanking, BDSM & Romance:

Rather, Ana moves between playful bratting and a type of “conquer me” wantedness that good Dominants would respond to with increased control and correction.

2020, Jessica M. Kratzer, Communication in Kink, page 43:

(BDSM, intransitive) To act in a bratty manner as the submissive.


game

game (third-person singular simple present games, present participle gaming, simple past and past participle gamed)

games (present singular third-person)
gaming (participle present)
gamed (participle past)
gamed (past)

From Middle English game, gamen, gammen, from Old English gamen (“sport, joy, mirth, pastime, game, amusement, pleasure”), from Proto-West Germanic *gaman, from Proto-Germanic *gamaną (“amusement, pleasure, game", literally "participation, communion, people together”), from *ga- (collective prefix) + *mann- (“man”); or alternatively from *ga- + a root from Proto-Indo-European *men- (“to think, have in mind”).
Cognate with Old Frisian game, gome (“joy, amusement, entertainment”), Middle High German gamen (“joy, amusement, fun, pleasure”), Swedish gamman (“mirth, rejoicing, merriment”), Icelandic gaman (“fun”). Related to gammon, gamble.

cog

Returning briefly to his journalistic persona to interview Britney Spears, he finds himself gaming her, and she gives him her phone number.

2005 October 6, “Picking up the pieces”, in The Economist:

A business associate of mine at the time, George Wu, sat across the way, gaming a stripper the way I taught him.

2010, Mystery, The Pickup Artist: The New and Improved Art of Seduction, Villard Books, →ISBN, page 100:

How did Amanda know she wasn’t getting gamed? Well, she didn’t. “I would wonder, ‘Is he saying stuff to other girls that he says to me?’ We did everything we could to cut it off […] yet we somehow couldn’t.”

2010 July 9, Sheila McClear, “Would you date a pickup artist?”, in New York Post:

(transitive, seduction community, slang, of males) To perform premeditated seduction strategy.


call

en-noun

call (countable and uncountable, plural calls)

→ Armenian: քոլ (kʻol)

→ Georgian: ქოლი (koli)

From Middle English callen, from Old English ċeallian (“to call, shout”) and Old Norse kalla (“to call; shout; refer to as; name”); both from Proto-Germanic *kalzōną (“to call, shout”), from Proto-Indo-European *golH-so- (“voice, cry”), from *gel(H)- (“to vocalize, call, shout”).
Cognates
* Scots call, caw, ca (“to call, cry, shout”)
* Dutch kallen (“to chat, talk”),
* German kallen (“to call”)
* Swedish kalla (“to call, refer to, beckon”)
* Norwegian kalle (“to call, name”)
* Danish kalde (“to call, name”)
* Icelandic kalla (“to call, shout, name”)
* Welsh galw (“to call, demand”)
* Polish głos (“voice”)
* Lithuanian gal̃sas (“echo”)
* Russian голос (golos, “voice”)
* Albanian gjuhë (“language, tongue”).

cog

the call is coming from inside the house

"They have a little network of women that watch out for each other," Morford said. That means that if one prostitute doesn't come back after going out on a call – whether it's an Internet prostitute or a streetwalker – and the other women can't get hold of her, they get scared, close up shop and won't work, Morford said.

2015 March 3, Lyda Longa, “Internet hookups mean fewer prostitutes on Daytona’s streets, police say”, in The Daytona Beach News-Journal, Daytona Beach, Fla.:

(informal, slang, prostitution) A meeting with a client for paid sex; hookup; job.


without

From Middle English withoute, withouten, from Old English wiþūtan (literally “against the outside of”). Compare Dutch buiten (“outside of, without”), Danish uden (“without”), Swedish utan (“without”), Norwegian uten (“without”). By surface analysis, with- + out.
Superseded non-native Middle English sauns, sans (“without”), from Old French sans, sanz, senz (“without”).

inh

withoute (alternative obsolete)
wythoute (alternative obsolete)
wythowt (alternative obsolete)
wythowte (alternative obsolete)

“What's within reason?” “Hand-job, blow-job, full sex — straight, full service. Greek, maybe, if you're not too big. Golden shower, if you like, but not reverse. No hardsports. And absolutely nothing without.”

2012, Maxim Jakubowski, The Best British Crime Omnibus:

(prostitution, euphemistic) Without a condom being worn.


milk

en-verb

milk (third-person singular simple present milks, present participle milking, simple past and past participle milked)

milks (present singular third-person)
milking (participle present)
milked (participle past)
milked (past)

From Middle English milken, from Old English melcan, from Proto-Germanic *melkaną, ultimately from Proto-Indo-European *h₂melǵ-, the same root as the noun. Compare Dutch and German melken, Danish malke, Norwegian mjølke, also Latin mulgeō (“I milk”), Ancient Greek ἀμέλγω (amélgō, “I milk”), Albanian mjel (“to milk”), Russian молоко́ (molokó), Lithuanian mélžti, Tocharian A mālk-.

Controlled milking can actually establish and consolidate a mistress’s dominance over her sub rather than diminish it.

“No, no, no! When a male is in chas-ti-ty,” (Clive always drew out this word and also slavery, emphasizing every syllable to give it extra importance) “he should receive regular milking to maintain good hygiene.” (Yet more kinky behavior cloaked as healthy living.) “Milking helps flush out the toxins which accumulate within the prostate gland of a chaste male.”

2015, Joyce Snyder, Mistress Pussycat: Adventures with Submissive Men in the World of Femdom, Headpress, →ISBN:

(transitive, BDSM, vulgar) To masturbate a male to ejaculation, especially for the amusement or satisfaction of the masturbator rather than the person masturbated.


petting

en-noun

petting (countable and uncountable, plural pettings)

(sex) The act of kissing, stroking, etc., a person in a sexual manner.

撫摸 /抚摸

kissing, stroking, etc., in a sexual manner

не́жничанье

сексуа́льные


foreplay

Actually in quick undressing or actual lovemaking modern nylons usually get ruined, but if you keep your nails and fingers smooth taking them off gently makes good foreplay, along with mutual undressing generally.

1972, Alex Comfort, The Joy of Sex, Crown, pages 215–216:

Root (Amy Acker): Hey, sweetie, you busy? / Sameen Shaw (Sarah Shahi): A little. Skip the verbal foreplay, Root. Why you calling? / Root: Can't a couple of gals take a little break from work to catch up?

2015 January 6, Denise Thé, “If-Then-Else”, in Chris Fisher, director, Person of Interest, season 4, episode 11:

(sex) The acts at the beginning of a (usually human) sexual encounter that serve to build up sexual arousal.


snowball

From Middle English snoweball, snoweballe, snaweballe, snayballe, equivalent to snow + ball. Cognate with Scots snawbaw, German Schneeball, Luxembourgish Schnéiball, Dutch sneeuwbal, Afrikaans sneeubal, Limburgish snieëbal, West Frisian sniebal, Saterland Frisian Sneebaal, Sneebal, Swedish snöboll, Elfdalian sniųoboll, Danish snebold, Norwegian Bokmål snøball, Norwegian Nynorsk snøball and Icelandic snjóbolti.

(sex) A sex act involving passing ejaculated semen from one person's mouth to another's.


snowball

en-verb

snowball (third-person singular simple present snowballs, present participle snowballing, simple past and past participle snowballed)

snowballs (present singular third-person)
snowballing (participle present)
snowballed (participle past)
snowballed (past)

(slang, sex, vulgar, intransitive) To receive ejaculated semen in one's mouth, and to then pass it back and forth between one’s mouth and another person’s mouth.


switch

→ Gulf Arabic: سويچ (swīč)

→ German: Switch

Perhaps from Middle Dutch swijch (“twig”), first attested in c. 1592. The mechanical device for altering the direction of something sense is first attested in c. 1797, pertaining to pivoted rails on minecart railways, which were once wooden.

камута́тар

system allowing the interconnection of telephone lines

Ideally, if one of your ladies happens to be a switch (or would be willing to switch for this scene), I would love to be able to inflict a little "revenge tickling" as well, as part of a scenario.

2012, Terri-Jean Bedford, Bondage Bungalow Fantasies, page 99:

(especially BDSM) One who is willing to take either a submissive or a dominant role in a sexual relationship.


parachute

Borrowed from French parachute, from para- (“protection against”) (as in parasol) and chute (“fall”).

Under that there are dildos and butt-plugs arranged by size on two shelves: two fat butt-plugs and four small ones, four two-headed dildos, eight ordinary dildos. Under that, the little material hanging on nails: five different pairs of nipple clamps, some clothespins, a parachute for the balls, a dog collar, two hoods, one in leather, one in latex, six cockrings, in steel or leather, regular or with built-in ball-squeezers, two dick sheaths […]

1998, Guillaume Dustan, translated by Brad Rumph, In My Room, London: Serpent’s Tail, →ISBN, page 53:

Parachutes are usually made of leather and can be purchased through most fetish catalogs or stores catering to the BDSM scene.

2012, Peggy Sue, Guide to Female Supremacy, London: Gynarchy International Editions / Lulu Press, →ISBN, page 75:

She came near and grabbed his balls tightly with her left hand, tugging them downward while applying a parachute harness with her right hand. […] His balls stretched downward under the delicious weight.

2016, John Caesar, Wife Scorned!, Lulu.com, →ISBN:

A parachute is a small collar, usually made from leather, which fastens around the scrotum, and from which weights can be hung.

2022, Mohamed A. Baky Fahmy, “Scrotum in Human Conscience”, in Mohamed A. Baky Fahmy, editor, Normal and Abnormal Scrotum, Cham, Switzerland: Springer, →DOI, →ISBN, page 22:

(BDSM) A small collar which fastens around the scrotum and from which weights can be hung.

parachute

BDSM: scrotum collar from which weights can be hung


slave

Inherited from Middle English sclave, from Old French sclave, from Medieval Latin sclavus (“slave”), from Late Latin Sclavus (“Slav”), traditionally assumed to be because Slavs were often forced into slavery in the Middle Ages. The Latin word is from Byzantine Greek Σκλάβος (Sklábos); see that entry and Slav for more. Displaced native Old English þēow. Thrall and bondsman/bondswoman, however, remain common synonyms. Doublet of ciao and Slav.
An alternative hypothesis derives sclavus from Ancient Greek σκῡλεύω (skūleúō), σκῡλάω (skūláō, “to strip or despoil a slain enemy”).

In the clip the black female “slave” dons a chain around her neck for which her white mistress possesses the key. The black woman sub is further disciplined by the power of speech—the force of silence.

[2016, Ariane Cruz, The Color of Kink: Black Women, BDSM, and Pornography, NYU Press, →ISBN, page 39:

(BDSM) A submissive partner in a BDSM relationship who consensually submits to, sexually or personally, serving one or more masters or mistresses.

奴隸 /奴隶

submissive partner in a BDSM relationship who (consensually) submits to (sexually) serving


sandwich

sandwich (third-person singular simple present sandwiches, present participle sandwiching, simple past and past participle sandwiched)

sandwiches (present singular third-person)
sandwiching (participle present)
sandwiched (participle past)
sandwiched (past)
sammich (alternative slang)
Sandwich (alternative obsolete)

[ˈsæmˌwɪt͡ʃ]

[ˈsæ̃ˌwɪt͡ʃ]

Named after its supposed inventor, the Earl of Sandwich (see Sandwich).

They sandwiched her, the footballer at her back, his dick tucked into the perfect seam of her ass as he fingered her pussy while the shorter, leaner, covered-in-tattoos Monsieur Artiste kissed her and pinched her nipples


drone

→ Asturian: dron

→ Dutch: drone

→ Italian: drone

→ Punjabi: ਡ੍ਰੋਨ (ḍron)

→ Polish: dron

→ Portuguese: drone

→ Spanish: dron

From Middle English drane, from Old English drān, from Proto-West Germanic *drānu, from Proto-Germanic *drēniz, *drēnuz, *drenô (“an insect, drone”), from Proto-Indo-European *dʰreh₁n- (“bee, drone, hornet”). Cognate with Danish drone (“drone”), Dutch dar (“male bee or wasp”), German Drohne, dialectal German Dräne, Trehne, Trene (“drone”), Low German drone (“drone”), Swedish drönje, drönare (“drone”).
The etymology of the sense of "remote-controlled aircraft" is disputed; theories include early military UAVs dumbly flying on preset paths.

inh

(BDSM) In dronification kink, one who is mindless and obedient to a dominant, characterized by a detached and robotic identity and an anonymous appearance, typically composed of a latex suit and gas mask.


turn out

en-verb

turn out (third-person singular simple present turns out, present participle turning out, simple past and past participle turned out)

turns out (present singular third-person)
turning out (participle present)
turned out (participle past)
turned out (past)

From Middle English turnen out, tornen out, equivalent to turn + out.
The slang and prison terms meaning "to turn into a prostitute, etc." are probably an ellipsis for turn (inside) out (“to flip someone's character or role”).

He then turned her out onto the streets of Chicago with a quota to meet: $500 for a night's work.

2008, Carolyn Maloney, Rumors of Our Progress Have Been Greatly Exaggerated:

Like I told you, I'm still turning this one bitch out. […] Sunday is three days away, if you ain't turned her out by then she ain't worth it.

2008, Joseph B. Haggerty, Sr., Shame: The Story of a Pimp, page 361:

The nigga that turned her out was named Derek “Sweets” D. I despised that pimping motherfucker with passion.

2012, Eyes . . . JB, If I Should Die Tonight: The Untold Stories, page 18:

(sex, transitive, slang) To convince a person (usually a woman) to become a prostitute.

(sex, transitive, prison slang) To rape; to coerce an otherwise heterosexual individual into performing a homosexual role.


juice

en-noun

juice (usually uncountable, plural juices)

Tok Pisin: jus

→ Czech: džus

→ Danish: juice

→ Faroese: djús

→ Hungarian: dzsúsz

→ Icelandic: djús

→ Indonesian: jus

→ Japanese: ジュース (jūsu)

→ Korean: 주스 (juseu), 쥬스 (juseu)

→ Norwegian:

Norwegian Bokmål: juice, jus

Norwegian Nynorsk: juice, jus

→ Papiamentu: djus

→ Serbo-Croatian: džus

→ Slovak: džús

→ Swahili: juisi, jusi

→ Swedish: juice, jos

→ Zulu: újúsi

From Middle English jus, juis, from Old French jus, jous, from Latin jūs (“broth, soup, sauce”), from Proto-Indo-European *yéwHs, from *yewH- (“to mix (of meal preparation)”). Doublet of jus and ukha. In this sense, mostly displaced native Middle English sew (“juice”), from Old English sēaw (“juice, sap”) (> English sew (“juice, broth, gravy”)). Sense of "soft drink" most likely an ellipsis of fizzy juice, another similarly common term in Scotland.

the blacker the berry, the sweeter the juice

the darker the berry, the sweeter the juice

1981, Susan Griffin, Pornography and Silence: Culture's Revenge Against Nature, page 62, quoting Yvette Clemons, The Skin Flick Rapist.
The demand that a woman drink semen is repeated throughout pornography. Volume after volume presents such scenes as this which we find in The Skin Flick Rapist: "Maria gagged on his juice. It made him so angry that he reached out with his right hand and pulled at her hair."

I pulled my cock out of North and he fell forward, his face in the cum-soaked laundry. He rolled over on his back and looked up at me. I shook the last drops of juice from my prick.

2005, Michael Thomas Ford, Tangled Sheets, Kensington Books, page 242:

(uncountable, slang, vulgar, sex) Semen.

Lily shuddered and looked at me as I came up from between her legs with her juices dripping all over me.

1999, Tristan Taormino, editor, Best Lesbian Erotica 1999, Cleis Press, page 62:

Body singing with pleasure, she found he was right, and her juices flowed as he pulled her back down on his stiffness.

2006, Donna Lea Simpson, Awaiting the Night, page 247:

(uncountable, slang, vulgar, sex) The vaginal lubrication that a female naturally produces when sexually aroused.


pineapple

From Middle English pinappel (“pinecone”, literally “pine-apple/pine-fruit”), from Proto-West Germanic *pīnapplu. Later applied to the fruit of the pineapple plant due to its resemblance to a pinecone. Compare the Middle Dutch and Dutch pijnappel (“pinecone", formerly also "pineapple”), and Middle Low German pinappel, Old High German pīnapful, Middle High German pīnaphel, and early Modern German pinapfel — all in the sense of “pine cone”. Compare also the post-Classical Latin pomum pini, the Old French pume de pin, the Middle French and French pomme de pin and Spanish piña. By surface analysis, pine + apple.


raw

en-adj

raw (comparative rawer, superlative rawest)

rawer (comparative)
rawest (superlative)

From Middle English rawe, raw, rau, from Old English hrēaw (“raw, uncooked”), from Proto-West Germanic *hrau, from Proto-Germanic *hrawaz, *hrēwaz (“raw”), from Proto-Indo-European *krewh₂- (“raw meat, fresh blood”).
Cognate with Scots raw (“raw”), Dutch rauw (“raw”), German roh (“raw”), Swedish rå (“raw”), Icelandic hrár (“raw”), Latin crūdus (“raw, bloody, uncooked”), Irish cró (“blood”), Lithuanian kraujas (“blood”), Russian кровь (krovʹ, “blood”). Related also to Old English hrēow, hrēoh (“rough, fierce, wild, angry, disturbed, troubled, sad, stormy, tempestuous”). More at ree.


raw

We did it raw.

You know what I be on, I'm about to go raw

2020, “What You Know Bout Love”, performed by Pop Smoke:


little

en-noun

little (countable and uncountable, plural littles)

From Middle English litel, from Old English lyttel, lȳtel, from Proto-West Germanic *lūtil, from Proto-Germanic *lūtilaz (“tending to stoop, crouched, little”), from Proto-Indo-European *lewd- (“to bend, bent, small”), equivalent to lout + -le. Cognate with Dutch luttel, regional German lütt and lützel, Saterland Frisian litje, West Frisian lyts, Low German lütt, lüttje. Related also to Old English lūtan (“to bow, bend low”); and perhaps to Old English lytiġ (“deceitful”), Gothic 𐌻𐌹𐌿𐍄𐍃 (liuts, “deceitful”); compare also Icelandic lítill (“little”), Faroese lítil, Swedish liten, Danish liden, lille, Gothic 𐌻𐌴𐌹𐍄𐌹𐌻𐍃 (leitils), which appear to have a different root vowel. More at lout.

der

An adult in a child-like role, or in the more junior of two paired roles.

(countable, BDSM, ABDL) The participant in ageplay who acts out the younger role.


top

en-noun

top (countable and uncountable, plural tops)

From Middle English top, toppe, from Old English top (“top, highest part; summit; crest; tassel, tuft; (spinning) top, ball; a tuft or ball at the highest point of anything”), from Proto-West Germanic *topp, from Proto-Germanic *tuppaz (“braid, pigtail, end”), of unknown ultimate origin.
Cognate with Scots tap (“top”), North Frisian top, tap, tup (“top”), Saterland Frisian Top (“top”), West Frisian top (“top”), Dutch top (“top, summit, peak”), Low German Topp (“top”), German Zopf (“braid, pigtail, plait, top”), Swedish topp (“top, peak, summit, tip”), Icelandic toppur (“top”).
The sense of a spinning toy is separated from this, obscurely related to Dutch top and dop in this sense, against Standard Dutch tol, and French toupie having this sense.

suprulo

BDSM: dominant partner in a BDSM relationship or roleplay

one's elevator doesn't go all the way to the top

(BDSM) A dominant partner in a sadomasochistic relationship or roleplay.

(loosely, by extension) A dominant partner in a sexual relationship.


top

en-verb

top (third-person singular simple present tops, present participle topping, simple past and past participle topped)

tops (present singular third-person)
topping (participle present)
topped (participle past)
topped (past)

I used to be a slave, but I ended up topping.

Giving advice to the dominant partner on how to run the BDSM session is called "topping from the bottom".

(BDSM) To be the dominant partner in a BDSM relationship or roleplay.


ATM

en-noun

ATM (countable and uncountable, plural ATMs)

(pornography, vulgar) Initialism of ass to mouth.


dom

Coordinate term: domme

(BDSM) A dominant in sadomasochistic sexual practices, especially a male one.


dom

en-verb

dom (third-person singular simple present doms, present participle domming, simple past and past participle dommed)

doms (present singular third-person)
domming (participle present)
dommed (participle past)
dommed (past)

Nola is actually "Nurse Nola," a dominatrix who specializes in medical role playing. […] "After that," she continues, "I started domming, which I did for a long time, but have never liked much."

2006, Bitch: feminist response to pop culture, numbers 31-34:

(slang, online gaming or BDSM) To dominate.


neg

The purpose of a neg is to lower a woman's self esteem while actively displaying a lack of interest in her—by telling her she has lipstick on her teeth, for example, or offering her a piece of gum after she speaks.

2005, Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, Text Publishing Company, →ISBN, →OL, pages 20–21:

A neg is not an insult but a negative social value judgment that is telegraphed.

2007 February 6, Erik von Markovik, The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed, St. artin's Press, →ISBN, →OL, page 94:

As we sped down Lake Michigan Drive, I was still feeling a little star-struck and decided that on account of her uber-hot looks, I'd need to start launching negs at her like there was no tomorrow.

2011, Benton Miller with Travis Wolfe, The Journal: Man's Quest for the Perfect Match, Moon Planet Publishing, page 104:

Negs include asking whether her nails are real, or saying that you saw someone else wearing her skirt.

2012, Meg Barker, Rewriting the Rules: An Integrative Guide to Love, Sex and Relationships, Routledge, →ISBN, →OL, pages 77–78:

(seduction community) An expression or implication that one has a negative value judgement of someone in order to make them desire one's approval, especially when trying to pick up a date.


neg

neg (third-person singular simple present negs, present participle negging, simple past and past participle negged)

negs (present singular third-person)
negging (participle present)
negged (participle past)
negged (past)

Women, on the other hand, are wired to believe that men are always ready to reach home base and never turn down a booty opportunity. So when he negs you, it seems unnatural, and you may worry that something’s wrong with your relationship.

2011 December 16, Jessica Knoll, “The Surprising Reasons He Turns You Down For Sex”, in Cosmopolitan:

I mean, the thing is, overall you want the chick to feel good about herself around you and because of you. It's true that good negging really helps that, but bad negging--negging where she's already insecure--can kill it.

2001 January 18, traction_free, “Negging”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet), message-ID <9477av$dpq$1@nnrp1.deja.com>:

She's an 11. This is going to take some hardcore negging.

2005, Neil Strauss, quoting Erik von Markovik, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, Text Publishing Company, →ISBN, →OL, page 151:

(transitive, seduction community) To express or imply a negative value judgement of someone to make them desire one's approval, especially when trying to pick up a date.


AFC

en-noun

AFC (countable and uncountable, plural AFCs)

I've successfully transformed myself from an AFC (Average Frustrated Chump) into an RAFC (Recovering Average Frustrated Chump).

2008, Zander Martin, The Players, →ISBN, page xxxvi:

Most AFCs, most guys looking in from the outside, can relate to the idea of what an average frustrated chump is – they can identify with it.

2011 September 13, Rollo Tomassi, “Average Frustrated Chump”, in The Rational Male:

My problem was the same as every other average frustrated chump (AFC).

2015, Trina Boice, Base Hits and Home Run Relationships: What Women Wish Guys Knew, →ISBN:

average frustrated chump
average frustrated chump#English

(seduction community) Initialism of average frustrated chump.


versatile

en-adj

versatile (comparative more versatile, superlative most versatile)

more versatile (comparative)
most versatile (superlative)

[ˈvɜː.səˌtaɪɫ]

LL-Q1860 (eng)-I learned some phrases-versatile.wav

/ˈvɜː.səˌtɑɪl/

[ˈvɜː.səˌtɑɪɫ]

From Latin versātilis (“turning easily”), from versātus, past participle of versō (“I turn, change”), frequentative of vertō (“I turn”).

2004, queenchaser1158, “Horny Versatile TV/TS Wanted in Phoenix”, in alt.personals.gay (Usenet):

(BDSM) Being a switch; capable of taking either a dominant or a submissive role.

مُبَادِل

gay sexual slang: capable of taking both a top and bottom role

(sex, loosely) Capable of being either a dominant or a submissive partner in a sexual relationship.


bottom

en-noun

bottom (countable and uncountable, plural bottoms)

bottoms (plural)
botton (alternative dialectal)

→ Dutch: bottom

→ French: bottom

→ Portuguese: bottom

PIE word
 *bʰudʰmḗn
From Middle English botme, botom, from Old English botm, bodan (“bottom, foundation; ground, abyss”), from Proto-West Germanic *butm, from Proto-Germanic *butmaz, *budmaz, from Proto-Indo-European *bʰudʰmḗn (“bottom”). Cognate with Dutch bodem, German Boden, Icelandic botn, Danish bund; also Irish bonn (“sole (of foot)”), Ancient Greek πυθμήν (puthmḗn, “bottom of a cup or jar”), Sanskrit बुध्न (budhna, “bottom”), Persian بن (bon, “bottom”), Latin fundus (“bottom”) (whence fund, via French).
The sense “posterior of a person” is first attested in 1794; the verb “to reach the bottom of” is first attested in 1808. bottom dollar (“the last dollar one has”) is from 1882.

cog

Since what I wanted to do was be a bottom, a masochist, I had to learn that you could do it and be safe, that you could do it and not sign your life away, that you could do it by agreement, and that it was still fun.

1981 August 15, Nancy Wechsler, Gayle Rubin, Pat Califia, “Sadomasochism: Fears, Facts, Fantasies”, in Gay Community News, volume 9, number 5, page 6:

(countable, BDSM) A submissive partner in a sadomasochistic relationship.

(countable, loosely, by extension) A submissive partner in a sexual relationship.


bottom

en-verb

bottom (third-person singular simple present bottoms, present participle bottoming, simple past and past participle bottomed)

bottoms (present singular third-person)
bottoming (participle present)
bottomed (participle past)
bottomed (past)
botton (alternative dialectal)

(BDSM, intransitive) To be the submissive partner in a BDSM relationship.


constellation

PIE word
 *ḱóm
From Middle English constellacioun, constillacioun (“(astrology) position of the moon or a planet in relation to the ascendant sign of the zodiac; horoscope; (astronomy) formation of fixed stars, constellation; (astronomy) elevation or position of the sun”) [and other forms], borrowed from Old French constellation (modern French constellation), or directly from its etymon Late Latin cōnstēllātiōnem, the accusative singular of cōnstēllātiō (“collection of stars supposed to exert an influence upon human affairs, constellation”), from Latin con- (prefix denoting a bringing together of several objects) + stēlla (“star; meteor; planet”) (ultimately from Proto-Indo-European *h₂stḗr (“star”)) + -ātiō (suffix forming nouns).

nb...

constelacioun, constellacion, constellacyon, constellacyoun, constillacion, constillacione, constillacioune, constillatioun, constollacion, constolacioun

sterrebeeld

arbitrary formation of stars perceived as a figure or pattern, or a division of the sky including it

rykelmä

(figurative) A configuration or grouping of related things.

(sexuality) A network of connections between people who are in polyamorous relationships, for example between a person, their partner, and that person's partner.


necrophilia

en-noun

necrophilia (countable and uncountable, plural necrophilias)

/ˌnɛkɹə(ʊ)ˈfɪlɪə/

From necro- + -philia. From necro- (Ancient Greek νεκρός (nekrós, “corpse, dead”)) + -philia (Ancient Greek φιλία (philía, “affection”)), after German Nekrophilie (in Krafft-Ebing 1887).

uder

(sexuality) A pathological attraction to dead bodies.


barebacking

(slang, sex) The practice of engaging in sexual intercourse, most often anal sex, without using a condom.


bareback

bareback sex


bareback

en-verb

bareback (third-person singular simple present barebacks, present participle barebacking, simple past and past participle barebacked)

barebacks (present singular third-person)
barebacking (participle present)
barebacked (participle past)
barebacked (past)

(intransitive, slang, sex) To engage in penetrative sex without a condom.

In this video, the big guy gets to bareback the little guy.

(transitive, slang, sex) To sexually penetrate without a condom.


barebacker

(slang, sex) A person who engages in barebacking.


sub

* Shortened form of any of various words beginning with sub-.

[…] roleplay where a sub or bottom takes care of a top's bodily and hygiene needs […]

2004, Paul Baker, Fantabulosa: A Dictionary of Polari and Gay Slang:

"It means that I'm both a sub and a dom." "Submissive and dominant," I said. He nodded.

2007, Laurell K Hamilton, The Harlequin:

Typically a dom and a sub have a more or less standard routine that they like to go through all the time.

2008, Lannie Rose, How to Change Your Sex:

We're not that kind of sub!

2012, “Karai's Vendetta”, in Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles:


sub

sub (third-person singular simple present subs, present participle subbing, simple past and past participle subbed)

subs (present singular third-person)
subbing (participle present)
subbed (participle past)
subbed (past)

switch

one who is willing to take either a sadistic or a masochistic role

You've never subbed before. Jessica will be expecting a man on stage that follows orders and enjoys what she's going to be doing. Do you want to be spanked? Possibly whipped?

2012, Alicia White, Jessica's Breakdown, page 53:

Wasn't like she'd never subbed before. She'd been a sub longer than she'd been a Dominatrix–ten years she'd spent in a collar.

2012, Tiffany Reisz, Little Red Riding Crop:


perform

perform (third-person singular simple present performs, present participle performing, simple past and past participle performed)

performs (present singular third-person)
performing (participle present)
performed (participle past)
performed (past)
perform (infinitive)
perform (first-person present singular)
performed (first-person past singular)
perform (present second-person singular)
performest (archaic present second-person singular)
performed (past second-person singular)
performedst (archaic past second-person singular)
performs (present singular third-person)
performeth (archaic present singular third-person)
performed (past singular third-person)
perform (plural present)
performed (past plural)
perform (present subjunctive)
performed (past subjunctive)
perform (imperative present)
performing (participle present)
performed (participle past)
performe (alternative)

From Middle English parformen, performen (“to perform”), from Anglo-Norman performer, parfourmer, alteration of Old French parfornir, parfurnir (“to complete, accomplish, perform”), from par- + fornir, furnir (“to accomplish, furnish”), from Frankish *frummjan (“to accomplish, furnish”), from Proto-Germanic *frumjaną, *framjaną (“to further, promote”), from Proto-Indo-European *promo- (“in front, forth”), *per- (“forward, out”). Cognate with Old High German frummen (“to do, execute, accomplish, provide”), Old Saxon frummian (“to perform, promote”), Old English fremman (“to perform, execute, carry out, accomplish”). See also frame, from. Modernly, rather than Proto-Germanic *frumjaną, associated with Latin formō, analyzable as per- + form.

representar

intransitive: to exhibit an expected pattern of behavior

(intransitive) To exhibit an expected pattern of behavior; to function; to work.

(sexology, uncommon) Of a man, to be able to initiate or fulfill an act of sexual intercourse.


hardcore

en-adj

hardcore (comparative more hardcore, superlative most hardcore)

more hardcore (comparative)
most hardcore (superlative)
hard-core (alternative)

From hard + core: hard to the core; 1936 (n.); 1951 (adj.)

(pornography) Depicting penetration and abnormal sexual activity.

হার্ডকোর পর্নোগ্রাফি

of or pertaining to pornography that depicts penetration


vanilla

en-noun

vanilla (countable and uncountable, plural vanillas)

vanillas (plural)
vanille (alternative archaic)

Borrowed from Spanish vainilla, a diminutive form of vaina (“pod”). "Plain" senses derive from the perceived plainness of vanilla ice cream.

(countable, sexuality, slang) Someone who is not into fetishism.


vanilla

en-adj

vanilla (comparative more vanilla, superlative most vanilla)

more vanilla (comparative)
most vanilla (superlative)
vanille (alternative archaic)

An uncharacteristically vanilla threesome and non-cute realist rendering - derived paradoxically from tracing drawings rather than photographs.

2006, Felix Lance Falkon, Gay Art: A Historic Collection, →ISBN, page 136:

While Dominick was more of a vanilla kind of a guy himself, he wasn't a total dunce when it came to the kinkier sides of things.

2010, Chloe Stowe, Hard Water, →ISBN, page 37:

Sebastian could never do that, be in a marriage with a vanilla woman.

2014, Christina Thacher, The Negotiation: A BDSM Romance, →ISBN:

(sexuality) Not kinky, not involving BDSM.


lair

From Middle English leir, leire, lair, lare, from Old English leġer (“couch, bed”), from Proto-Germanic *legrą, from Proto-Indo-European *legʰ-.

(seduction community) A group where pickup artists meet to discuss and practise seduction techniques.


hot rod

hot rods (plural)
hotrod (alternative)
hot-rod (alternative)

Attested since 1945 in American English, specifically meaning ‘hunk of metal’.


dock

en-verb

dock (third-person singular simple present docks, present participle docking, simple past and past participle docked)

docks (present singular third-person)
docking (participle present)
docked (participle past)
docked (past)

A dock (sense 1, sense 2) for cruise ships
A laptop docking (sense 5) station
A GUI dock (sense 6) on Linux
From Early Modern English meaning "area of mud in which a ship can rest at low tide, dock", borrowed from either Dutch dok (“dock, wharf”) or Middle Low German docke (“dock, wharf”), both from Middle Dutch docke (“port, harbour”), of uncertain origin. The original sense may have been "the furrow a grounded vessel makes in a mud bank". Compare Danish dok, Dutch dok, West Frisian dok, German Dock, Low German Dock, Swedish docka.
Some sources link this word to an unattested Middle Dutch *docke (“watercourse, trench, canal”), which is a ghost word, only being inferred from Mediaeval Latin documents in the form of ducta, doctus, doccia (“conduit, canal”). However, if this theory is correct, then it would relate the word to Italian doccia (“drainpipe”), making dock a doublet of douche and duct.
An alternative theory ties Middle Dutch docke to a North Germanic or Scandinavian source, notably Old Norse dǫkk, dökð (“depression in the landscape, pit, pool, trench”); compare Icelandic dökk, Norwegian dokk (“hollow, low ground”), Swedish dank (“marshy ground”). If so, this would make dock a doublet of dank.

multiple image

A dock (sense 􂀽1, sense 􂀽2) for cruise ships

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noncog

(intransitive, sex) To engage in docking; to insert the tip of one participant's penis is inserted into the foreskin of the other participant.


daddy

daddies (plural)
daddie (alternative Scotland often)

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The guy I've been dating offered to do bondage with me, and I was like "Yes please, daddy."

The very attractive Daddy-type in the harness and cap.

1988 May 7, Christopher Wittke, “It Takes Two To Tango”, in Gay Community News, page 10:

(BDSM, sexual slang) A dominant male partner, often used as an address.


presentation

en-noun

presentation (countable and uncountable, plural presentations)

presentations (plural)
præsentation (alternative)

/ˌpɹɛzənˈteɪʃən/

From Old French presentation (French présentation), from Latin praesentātiōnem, accusative singular of praesentātiō (“representation, exhibition”).
Morphologically present + -ation

(mainly LGBT) Gender presentation; gender expression.


master

masters (plural)
maistre (alternative archaic)
Marse (alternative Caribbean US dialectal obsolete)
marse (alternative Caribbean US dialectal obsolete)
mas'r (alternative)
Master (alternative)
mastre (alternative obsolete)
maister (alternative obsolete)
mayster (alternative obsolete)
Massa (alternative)
massa (alternative)
massah (alternative)
massy (alternative)
masta (alternative)
Mastah (alternative)
mastah (alternative)
mastuh (alternative)
measter (alternative UK obsolete pronunciation-spelling)
mester (alternative dialectal)
mister (alternative dialectal)

Sranan Tongo: masra

→ Catalan: màster

→ Finnish: master

→ French: master

→ German: Master

→ Polish: master

→ Portuguese: máster

→ Spanish: máster

→ Turkish: master

From Middle English maister, mayster, meister (noun) and maistren (verb), from Old English mǣster, mæġster, mæġester, mæġister, magister (“master”), from Latin magister (“chief, teacher, leader”), from Old Latin magester, from Proto-Indo-European *méǵh₂s, (as in magnus (“great”)) + -ester/-ister (compare minister (“servant”)). Reinforced by Old French maistre, mestre (noun) and maistriier, maister (verb) from the same Latin source. Compare also Saterland Frisian Mäster (“master”), West Frisian master (“master”), Dutch meester (“master”), German Meister (“master”). Doublet of maestro, magister, and meister.

doublet

Southern US, African-American Vernacular, obsolete

use the master's tools to dismantle the master's house


hentai

en-noun

hentai (countable and uncountable, plural hentai or hentais)

→ Cebuano: hentai

→ Finnish: hentai

→ French: hentai

→ German: Hentai

→ Indonesian: hentai

→ Italian: hentai

→ Korean: 헨타이 (hentai)

→ Polish: hentai

→ Portuguese: hentai

→ Russian: хентай (xentaj)

→ Spanish: hentai

→ Swedish: hentai

→ Tagalog: hentai

→ Ukrainian: хента́й (xentáj)

Pseudo-Japonism, derived from 変態(へんたい) (hentai, “pervert”), short for 変態性欲者(へんたいせいよくしゃ) (hentai seiyoku-sha, literally “person with abnormal sexual desires”).

ja-r

へんたい せいよく-しゃ

There was a hentai video that I saw / I told you about the night that we first made love

2019, “Hentai”, in Cry, performed by Cigarettes After Sex:

X defines adult content as […]
This definition also applies to "AI-generated, photographic or animated content such as cartoons, hentai or anime".

2024 June 5, “Porn now officially allowed on X with safeguards for those under 18”, in Channel News Asia:

(Japanese pornography) A work of anime or manga (or any similar medium) that contains heavily sexual or pornographic art.


gape

en-verb

gape (third-person singular simple present gapes, present participle gaping, simple past and past participle gaped)

gapes (present singular third-person)
gaping (participle present)
gaped (participle past)
gaped (past)

From Middle English gapen, from Old Norse gapa (“to gape”) (compare Swedish gapa, Danish gabe), from Proto-Germanic *gapōną (descendants Middle English geapen, Dutch gapen, German gaffen), perhaps from Proto-Indo-European *ǵʰеh₂b-. Cognates include Russian зяпа (zjapa).

(pornography) To depict a dilated anal or vaginal cavity upon penetrative sexual activity.


rigger

(BDSM) A person who applies functional or artistic rope bondage to another person's body.


scat

en-noun

scat (countable and uncountable, plural scats)

scats (plural)
skat (alternative)
skatt (alternative)

Origin uncertain. Both the Oxford English Dictionary and Merriam-Webster suggest derivation from Ancient Greek σκῶρ (skôr, “excrement”), compare English scato-, but Random House Dictionary suggests that the popular character of the word makes this unlikely. Perhaps from English dialectal scat (“to scatter, fling, bespatter”), or an alteration of shit, which is also used for "drugs, heroin".

Enema queens, like scat queens, are really the scum of the earth.

1988, “Pete”, quoted in Seymour Kleinberg, Alienated Affections: Being Gay in America, Macmillan, page 183

“[…] I hear he’s into S&M and scat and all kinds of kinky shit. […]”

1998, Dennis Cooper, Guide, Grove Press, →ISBN, page 170:

In short, when venturing into the realm of extreme fetish, ensure you have an extreme understanding of a partner’s boundaries before laying down a plastic tarp for scat play.

2004, Phineas Mollod, Jason Tesauro, The Modern Lover: A Playbook for Suitors, Spouses & Ringless Carousers, Ten Speed Press, →ISBN, page 72:


dominant

→ Polish: dominant

This calendar is not for the faint of heart (unless you have some strong butch dominant to hold you while you swoon)

1988 December 25, Wickie Stamps, “Leather, Peace and Wombyn over Forty”, in Gay Community News, volume 16, number 24, page 7:

His story was a fable you told dominants in training to stress the importance of comprehending the depths of your submissive's needs.

2011, Jayne Rylon, Mistress's Master, page 65:

(BDSM) The dominating partner in sadomasochistic sexual activity.


domination

domination (countable and uncountable, plural dominations)

/ˌdɒməˈneɪʃən/

/ˌdɑːməˈneɪʃən/

From Middle English domynacion, from Old French dominacion, from Latin dominātiō (“rule, dominion”), from dominor (“domineer; rule”); see dominate.

By night, I am Mistress Shay Noir, the Black queen of domination. The world's most beautiful sadist.

2017, Teejay LeCapois, The Black Dominatrix Universe, →ISBN, page 121:

(BDSM) A fetish characterized by control and power over and discipline of one's sexual partner.


gimp

Attested in US slang since the 1920s. Maybe influenced by, or cognate with limp.

(BDSM) A submissive dressed in a full-body suit of latex or a similar material.


scene

scenes (plural)
scæne (alternative archaic)

From Late Middle English scene, from Middle French scene, borrowed from Latin sc(a)ena, from Ancient Greek σκηνή (skēnḗ, “scene, stage”). Doublet of scena and skene.


scene

en-verb

scene (third-person singular simple present scenes, present participle scening, simple past and past participle scened)

scenes (present singular third-person)
scening (participle present)
scened (participle past)
scened (past)
scæne (alternative archaic)


slam

slam (third-person singular simple present slams, present participle slamming, simple past and past participle slammed)

slams (present singular third-person)
slamming (participle present)
slammed (participle past)
slammed (past)

From Middle English *slammen (not recorded), apparently from a Scandinavian source ultimately from Old Norse slæma, slœma (“to slam, swing a weapon, strike an object out of reach”), related to Old Norse slamra, slambra (“to slam”). Cognate with Norwegian Bokmål slamre (“to slam”), Swedish slamra (“to pound, beat, make a clatter, rattle”), Norwegian Nynorsk slamra (“to sway, dangle”).

правя капо

card games: to defeat by winning all the tricks

Your bird's textin' me
'Tremzy is the man,'
You be tryna call her but she's busy gettin' slammed
The way she's gettin' doggied you would think she's tryna dance

(transitive, sex, slang, vulgar) To perform coitus upon forcefully; to rail.


stray

From Middle English stray, strey, from Anglo-Norman estray, stray, Old French estrai, from the verb (see below).

(BDSM) A submissive that has not committed to submit to any particular dominant.


(BDSM) A relationship in which the submissive is available for the dominant at all times.


(BDSM) Of or relating to a 24/7 relationship.


MILF

MILFs (plural)
milf (alternative)
Milf (alternative)

Acronym of mother/mom/mama I'd like to fuck. Popularized via the sex comedy American Pie (1999), see quotations.

acronym

(pornography, slang) A pornographic actress in her late twenties or older.


banger

→ Estonian: bänger

→ Finnish: bängeri

From bang + -er. The sausages were so called because of their excess water content and impervious skin, leading to the risk of explosion if not punctured before cooking.

He is also a former international chick banger.

2008, Dewan Gibson, The Imperfect Enjoyment, page 177:

A thing or person which bangs, in any sense.

(sexuality, slang) A person who has sex.

[…] yet not only was Gok able to tell her that her 'bangers' were amazing: he buried his head in her cleavage. No other man on television would have been able to get away with that.

2010, Emily Herbert, Gok Wan: The Biography:

(British, sexuality, slang) A woman's breast.

(British, sexuality, slang) A man's penis.


sissy

af

clipping of <i class="Latn mention" lang="en">sister</i>

sissy bar

a passenger backrest for a motorcycle or bicycle

sissy squat

a weightlifting exercise emphasizing knee extension

I realised I still held my normal male clothes and dropped them to the floor under the desk, out of the way. […] Would it hurt? Yes, I knew it would from watching videos of sissies being spanked by their dominant mistresses.

2018, Paul Zante, Sissy Dreams: Motel Sissy, page 4:

(BDSM) A male crossdresser who adopts feminine behaviours.


pedophile

pedophiles (plural)
paedophile (alternative British)
pædophile (alternative dated)

From pedo- (“child”) + -phile, after Ancient Greek παιδοφῐ́λης (paidophĭ́lēs) (from παῖς (paîs, “boy, child”) + φιλέω (philéō, “I love”)).

com

Apart from his sexual behavior, the pedophile is typically law abiding.

1982, National Council on Crime and Delinquency, Criminal Justice Abstracts, volume 14, page 253:

The pedophile, a particular type of child molester, is an adult whose conscious sexual interests and overt sexual behavior are directly either partially or exclusively toward children.

1986, Patrick B. McGuigan, Jon S. Pascale, Crime and Punishment in Modern America, page 109:

He uses trolling techniques to fight back against trolls that he particularly finds malevolent—specifically pedophiles and RIP trolls.

2018, Jill Anne Morris, The Internet as a Game:

(psychiatry, sexology) A person aged 16 or older who is mostly or only sexually attracted toward prepubescent children.


fisting

2003 August 17, Sean O'Hagan, “Sex on the brain”, review in The Observer, page 5,
[…] and comes to a climax of sorts (sorry) with – and here the more sheltered among you should avert your eyes – a girl-on-girl fisting scene.

(slang, vulgar, sex) The act or sexual practice of inserting one or both hands into the vagina or rectum of one's sexual partner.


blackmail

Anglo-Scottish border
Scottish Highlands
blackmail
border reivers

From black + mail (“a piece of money”). Compare Middle English blak rente (“a type of blackmail levied by Irish chieftains”).
The word is variously derived from the tribute paid by English and Scottish border dwellers to border reivers in return for immunity from raids and other harassment. This tribute was paid in goods or labour, in Latin reditus nigri (“black mail”); the opposite is blanche firmes or reditus albi (“white rent”), denoting payment by silver.
McKay derives it from two Scottish Gaelic words blàthaich, pronounced (the th silent) bl-aich, "to protect" and màl (“tribute, payment”). He notes that the practice was common in the Scottish Highlands as well as the Borders.
More likely, from black + Middle English mal, male, maile (“a payment, rent, tribute”), from Old English māl (“speech, contract, agreement, lawsuit, terms, bargaining”), from Old Norse mál (“agreement, speech, lawsuit”); related to Old English mæðel (“meeting, council”), mæl (“speech”), Gothic 𐌼𐌰𐌸𐌻 (maþl, “meeting place”), from Proto-Germanic *maþlą (“gathering, agreement”), ultimately from Proto-Indo-European *med- (“to give advice, measure”). From the practice of freebooting clan chieftains who ran protection rackets against Scottish farmers. Black from the evil of the practice.
Expanded c. 1826 to any type of extortion money. Compare silver mail (“rent paid in money”) (1590s); buttock mail (“fine imposed for fornication”) (1530s, Scottish).

der

(by extension) Compromising material that can be used to extort someone.

(BDSM) A type of roleplay where the submissive shares information that may be extorted by the dominant.


submissive

(BDSM) One who submits to a dominating partner in BDSM practices.


frottage

en-verb

frottage (third-person singular simple present frottages, present participle frottaging, simple past and past participle frottaged)

frottages (present singular third-person)
frottaging (participle present)
frottaged (participle past)
frottaged (past)

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From French frottage (“rubbing”), from frotter (“to rub”) + -age (suffix forming nouns).

(sexuality) To rub parts of the body against those of another person for sexual stimulation.


frottage

en-noun

frottage (countable and uncountable, plural frottages)

(uncountable, sexuality) The practice of rubbing parts of the body against those of another person for sexual stimulation.


homework

homework (usually uncountable, plural homeworks)

/ˈhəʊmˌwɜːk/

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(BDSM) Tasks assigned by a dominant for a submissive to perform when they are physically away from their dominant or otherwise free.


gangbanger

(vulgar, sex) Someone who takes part in a gangbang.


dungeon

From Middle English dongeoun (“keep of a castle; dungeon; abyss, cave, den; whirlpool”), from Anglo-Norman donjun (“keep of a castle; keep used as a prison; dungeon”) and continental Old French donjon (“keep of a castle”), from Vulgar Latin *dominiōnem, seemingly derived from Latin dominus (“master, lord”) perhaps via some figurative sense like “dominant building”. Doublet of donjon. The sense of “prison (associated with a castle)”, first attested in Anglo-Norman (13th c.) and apparently never in continental Old French, likely developed in combination with Old English dung (“underground prison cell”), whence Middle English donge (“pit, abyss”, senses that are also attested for Middle English dongeoun).
The game term has been popularized by Dungeons & Dragons.

der

senses that are also attested for Middle English <i class="Latn mention" lang="enm">dongeoun</i>

(BDSM) A room dedicated to sadomasochistic sexual activity.


sword fighting

(slang, sexuality) Mutual penile frottage.


fluffer

"This isn't MGM. I don't do this full-time," she said. "During production, I'm the AD. Occasionally, I fill in as a fluffer."

1991, Robert Reeves, Peeping Thomas, →ISBN, page 112:

(pornography) One who arouses male pornographic actors before filming.

撫弄師 /抚弄师

arouses a male pornographic actor through fellatio


CNC

consensual non-consent
consensual non-consent#English

(BDSM) Initialism of consensual non-consent.


CBT

en-noun

CBT (countable and uncountable, plural CBTs)

Here Welles engages in the same kind of stereotypical thinking his characters condemn in their antagonists. For example, in a gay male psychology, testicles are not mandatory for “manhood,” if manhood is defined as being able to produce offspring. Testicular manipulation, or “cock and ball torture” (CBT) as it is known in sadomasochistic parlance, is an act around which extensive sexual scenes can be constructed.

1992, Les Wright, “Gay Genocide as Literary Trope”, in Emmanuel S. Nelson, editor, AIDS: The Literary Response, New York: Twayne Publishers, →ISBN, page 60:

For the female dominant, men’s cocks can provide hours of delightful fun. In the scene, this is often known as cock-and-ball torture or CBT, and bondage is an important part of this specialty.

1994, John Warren, The Loving Dominant, New York: Rhinoceros, →ISBN, page 167:

For CBT you will need thinner rope, rope that is quarter of an inch thick, and six to eight feet long. If he is particularly hairy, you may have to trim or shave him so his little hairs don’t get caught in the rope.

1998, Claudia Varrin, The Art of Sensual Female Dominance: A Guide for Women, Secausus, New Jersey: Citadel Press, published 1999, →ISBN, page 47:

cock and ball torture
cock and ball torture#English

(BDSM, uncountable) Initialism of cock and ball torture.


facial

Early 17th century, borrowed from Medieval Latin faciālis (“face-to-face, direct, open”), from faciēs (“form, configuration, figure; face, visage, countenance”) + -ālis (“-al”, adjectival suffix).

af

Long-Dong Chuck gave his co-star a creamy facial.

(slang, pornography, sex) A sex act of ejaculation onto another person's face.


sarge

From sergeant, q.v. In reference to PUA slang, coined by American writer and television personality Ross Jeffries after the behavior of his cat Sarge.

coinage

I did not interpret this advice correctly at first and in the same sarge as the hand-slap Juggler observed that she was really into me and liking my game but a little annoyed that I kept encroaching on her by moving myself closer to her while keeping myself square.

2003 March 4, SexPDX, “Juggler Workshop Review and Lay Report (VERY LONG)”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

I thought it would be funny and depressing to join them on what they call the "Saturday Sarge." A sarge is when a group of morons roam around looking for girls to annoy. Sounds gr8 right?

2012 September 25, Matt Jenkins, Bertie Brandes, “My Day Out with the London Seduction Society”, in VICE, archived from the original on 2023-07-23:

(seduction community) An instance of sarging.


sarge

en-verb

sarge (third-person singular simple present sarges, present participle sarging, simple past and past participle sarged)

sarges (present singular third-person)
sarging (participle present)
sarged (participle past)
sarged (past)
Sarge (alternative)

Sure, the echoes of PUA raise concerns and I have no doubt Saturday Sarge has its fair share of men just wanting to pick up women for sex (Phil says in the four years he's sarged he's only slept with about 10 – the same amount another sarger says he's slept with in the last six months).

2014 October 18, Gareth May, “Saturday Sarge: meet the men who go hunting for women”, in The Daily Telegraph, London: Telegraph Media Group, →ISSN, →OCLC, archived from the original on 2019-03-01:

(intransitive, seduction community) To go out and engage women in order to pick them up.


clover clamp

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(chiefly BDSM) A metal clamp, usually joined to another by a chain, meant to be worn on the nipples to cause pain.


munch

en-noun

munch (countable and uncountable, plural munches)

From Middle English monchen, a variant of mocchen, mucchen ("to munch (food); chew audibly"; > Modern English dialectal mouch), probably imitative in origin (compare English crunch; German mampfen).

gloss

"to munch (food); chew audibly"; > Modern English dialectal <i class="Latn mention" lang="en">mouch</i>

onomatopoeic

imitative

And thanks to the stunning paxie for getting it all together and creating the best munch ever in the history of munches. :)

1996, peh^ – the prat with the hat, “What Is a 'Munch'?”, in alt.sex.femdom (Usenet):

does anyone know any BDSM parties and munches, in greece???

2000, Anton, “BDSM Parties and Munches”, in alt.sadistic (Usenet):

(countable, BDSM) A casual meeting for those interested in BDSM, usually at a restaurant, bar or pub.


glory hole

The boy looks into Mugwump eyes blank as obsidian mirrors, pools of black blood, glory holes in a toilet wall closing on the Last Erection.

1962 [1959], William S. Burroughs, Naked Lunch, New York: Grove Press, page 75:

One trick I used is turning things into a word problem. For example, if there are three glory holes in the bathroom at the club and 28 guys at the circuit party, how many rotations of guys will it take before everybody's had a turn?

2009, Richard Appel, “Family Gay”, in Family Guy, season 7, episode 8, spoken by Peter Griffin:

His personal assistants wear go-go boots and every vocal booth / Must have a glory hole

2009, “Scoliosis Jones”, in Jhelli Beam, performed by Busdriver:

(sexuality, slang) A hole in a screen or wall big enough to allow an erect penis to be stuck through, made to facilitate anonymous sex with another person.


IR

(pornography) Initialism of interracial.


sixty-nine

en-noun

sixty-nine (countable and uncountable, plural sixty-nines)

Calque of French soixante-neuf, from the rotational symmetry of the numeral 69 — if rotated a half-turn (by 180°), the numeral remains the same, and a couple both giving oral sex at once have, in principle, a similar rotational symmetry.

(sexuality) A sex position where two people give each other oral sex at the same time.


doggy

doggy (countable and uncountable, plural doggies)

Her favourite position is doggy.

(uncountable, sex) Ellipsis of doggy style.


Lawrence

en-proper noun

Lawrence (countable and uncountable, plural Lawrences)

Lawrences (plural)
Lieurance (alternative)

(US, law, sexuality, US politics, informal, uncountable) Ellipsis of Lawrence v. Texas, a 2003 U.S. Supreme Court ruling that legalized same-sex sexual relations; and reaffirmed the existence of a right to privacy under due process following the 14th Amendment.


paraphilia

en-noun

paraphilia (plural paraphilias or paraphiliae)

paraphilias (plural)
paraphiliae (plural)

性的嗜好障害

せいてきしこうしょうがい

Despite the serial aspect of these killings, lust murder still remains a distinct subcategory of both sexual and serial murder. It is also referred to as erotophonophilia, one of the most extreme forms of paraphilia.

2003, Eric Hickey, Encyclopedia of Murder and Violent Crime, SAGE, →ISBN, page 281:

Formal study will be necessary to clarify the nature, prevalence, and interrelations of plushophilia, fursuitism, and autoplushophilia among furverts and to document the nature and extent of any co-occurring paraphilias.

2009 April 10, Anne A. Lawrence, “Erotic Target Location Errors: An Underappreciated Paraphilic Dimension”, in Journal of Sex Research, volume 46, numbers 2–3, Routledge; Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality, →DOI:

Yes, really. Blanchard has expanded the DSM's "paraphilia" section (where crimes such as paedophilia and exhibitionism go) to include transvestic disorder.

2012 December 9, Paris Lees, “Transgender people get a status update”, in The Guardian:

As Stoller says, "perversion is a sturdy word, throbbing with assumptions, while paraphilia is a wet noodle."

2013, B. Protter, S. Travin, Sexual Perversion: Integrative Treatment Approaches for the Clinician, →ISBN:

Other paraphilias are more blatantly transgressive and usually illegal: amokoscisia (desire to slash or mutilate females); anthropophagy (cannibalism); anthropophagolagnia (rape accompanied by cannibalism); […]

2013, RJ Parker, Peter Vronsky, Michael Newton, Serial Killers True Crime Anthology 2014, volume I, page 29:

(sexology) An abnormal sexual arousal or attraction, especially to objects or situations that are not of a sexual nature; typically of extreme or pathological nature.

(sexology) Sexual arousal in response to sexual objects or situations which may interfere with the capacity for reciprocal affectionate sexual activity or lead to clinically significant distress or impairment (e.g. are obligatory, require participation of unconsenting individuals, lead to legal issues).


frotteurism

/fɹɒˈtɜːɹ.ɪzm/

(sexuality) The act of non-consensually rubbing one’s genitalia against another person, usually a stranger, considered a psychiatric condition as well as a criminal offense in most places. (If consensual, it is frottage.)


infantilism

infantilism (usually uncountable, plural infantilisms)

(sexuality) A paraphilia based on the sight or feeling of diapers, or being diapered.


infantilist

(sexuality) One who is subject to infantilism.


klismaphilia

From Ancient Greek κλύσμα (klúsma, “enema”) [from Ancient Greek κατακλυσμός (kataklusmós, “deluge, flood”)] and φιλία (philía, “(fraternal) love”).

bor

(sexuality) The condition involving enjoyment of, and sexual arousal from, enemas.


necrophile

/ˈnɛkɹəʊ̆faɪl/

He has seizures of erotic and macaberesque madness. He is a sort of necrophile. He has kept a journal in which he sets forth his disease with the utmost clearness.

1903, Guy de Maupassant, translated by M. Walter Dunne, A Tress of Hair:

(sexuality) One who is subject to necrophilia.


mysophile

Yes, I am a mysophile. In my imagination I loiter at places where there is filth, mud, and decaying things, places where it stinks. I also wear my underwear until it stinks and becomes very dirty.

1936, Magnus Hirschfeld, Sexual Anomalies and Perversions: Physical and Psychological Development and Treatment, page 431:

Ethel is a mysophile. She derives her gratification from the dirt in which she is living.

1949, Wilhelm Stekel, Compulsion and Doubt: (Zwang und Zweifel), page 355:

(sexuality) One with a sexual dependency on something soiled or filthy, usually a kind of underwear or feminine products after use.


scopophile

scopophiles (plural)
scopophiliac (alternative)
scoptophile (alternative)
scoptophiliac (alternative)

From Ancient Greek σκοπός (skopós, “watcher”) + -phile.

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Caligula was a scopophile who was not ashamed of his irregular desire to watch others making love, while Mr. Hoover, as a voyeur, favored the keyhole and wiretap as methods of observation.

(psychology, sexuality) One with a sexual dependency on openly observing genitalia and sexual acts, as opposed to a voyeur, who watches in secret.


urophilia

/ˌʊɹɒˈfilɪə/

(psychology, sexuality) Undinism, a fetish for or sexual dependency on either the smell and/or taste of urine, or the sight and sound of someone urinating.


-trix

Most of these derived terms were borrowed directly from Latin

(BDSM, plural usually -trixes) Forms nouns defining women who engage in specific forms of sexual dominance (by analogy with dominatrix)


trichophilia

(sexology) A paraphilia in which one is sexually aroused by, or extremely fond of, human hair.


Dom

(BDSM) Alternative letter-case form of dom.


Master

Masters (plural)
master (alternative)
Massa (alternative)
Mastah (alternative)

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(BDSM) Used as the title of a dominant, especially a male one.


Mistress

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(BDSM) Used as the title of a female dominant.


CG

(ABDL, BDSM, age regression) Initialism of caregiver.


ménage à trois

ménages à trois (plural)
menage a trois (alternative)
ménage-à-trois (alternative)
menage-a-trois (alternative)

/ˌmeɪnɑːʒ ɑː ˈt(ɹ)wɑː/

/ˌmɛnɑːʒ ɑː ˈt(ɹ)wɑː/

/məˌnɑːʒ ɑː ˈt(ɹ)wɑː/

/ˌmeɪnɑːʒ ɑː ˈt(ɹ)wɑː/

/ˌmɛnɑːʒ ɑː ˈt(ɹ)wɑː/

/məˌnɑːʒ ɑː ˈt(ɹ)wɑː/

/məˌnɑːʒeɪ ˈt(ɹ)wɑː/

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Borrowed from French ménage à trois (literally “household of three”).

bor

David and Angela and I had a ménage à trois for about five minutes, but then I made her leave because David and I were gonna play.

1996, Cyrinda Foxe, in McNeil & McCain, Please Kill Me: The Uncensored Oral History of Punk, page 134

No, the two guys don't go for each other; the triad tried a ménage à trois once but stopped because Chris thought it was icky.

1999 November 15, John Cloud, “Henry & Mary & Janet &…”, in Time:

(sex) A sexual act or experience involving three people; a threesome.


GS

TV into GS and BS, are you there?

1987 March 11, washroom wall in a bar in Columbus, Ohio; quoted in Thomas Edward Murray and Thomas R. Murrell, The Language of Sadomasochism: A Glossary and Linguistic Analysis, Westport, Connecticut: Greenwood Press, 1989, page 78

My interests are humiliation, public exhibitionism, nipple torture, hot wax, bondage, C & B torture, G.S., all fantasies

a. 1990, SM Express, number 24, page 26; quoted in Thomas Edward Murray, Thomas R. Murrell, The Language of Sadomasochism: A Glossary and Linguistic Analysis, Westport, Connecticut: Greenwood Press, 1989, →ISBN, page 79:

Mistress Julie of New York is accepting slaves who enjoy S&M, B&D, enemas, foot worship, G/S and related subjects

a. 1990, Women in Command, number 16, page 25; quoted in Thomas Edward Murray, Thomas R. Murrell, The Language of Sadomasochism: A Glossary and Linguistic Analysis, Westport, Connecticut: Greenwood Press, 1989, →ISBN, page 78:

(sexuality) Initialism of golden shower (“the act of a person urinating on another”).


PIA

en-noun

PIA (countable and uncountable, plural PIAs)

(sexuality) Initialism of penis in anus.


RH

RH (countable and uncountable, plural RHs)

(pornography, literature) Initialism of reverse harem (a genre of fiction in which a woman has multiple male sexual partners or love interests).


SAM

Sexy dyke seeks seasoned top to spice up my play life. Interested? Think you have what it takes to tame a novice SAM? Write me at GCN Box 545

1991 February 4, “Butch In The Streets.... (personal advertisement)”, in Gay Community News, volume 18, number 28, page 13:

(BDSM) Initialism of smartass masochist; a brat.


AV

Borrowed from Japanese AV (adaruto bideo), from English adult video.

bor+

(Japanese pornography) Initialism of adult video (“video pornography”).


third base

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(colloquial, sex) Touching another person’s genitals in a sexual manner; mutual masturbation.


orbiter

The orbiters in her life in high likelihood like to talk about this and make themselves her emotional tampon and outlet.

2015, Jack N. Raven, Penetration: A Tactical Manual on Forming Deep Emotional Connections!:

(slang, seduction community) A person who constantly hangs around with someone they are attracted to, but too shy to talk to.


encounter

From Middle English encountren, from Anglo-Norman encountrer, Old French encontrer (“to confront”), from encontre (“against, counter to”), from Late Latin incontrā (“in front of”) itself from Latin in (“in”) + contrā (“against”).

Though Mr. Cosby described the sexual encounter in 2004 as consensual, Ms. Constand said she was too intoxicated to physically or verbally resist.

2021 October 10, Graham Bowley, “For One Bill Cosby Juror, the Work Did Not End With the Trial”, in The New York Times:

(sexuality) A sexual encounter; sexual activity, especially unplanned or unexpected, between two people who have not already established a sexual relationship with each other. In many cases, it does not lead to a relationship, and thus is utterly transient. A sexual encounter can be consensual or non-consensual; in the latter case, it is known as sexual assault. A consensual sexual encounter that happens only once is commonly known as a one-night stand.


fet

oh, btw...when you consider the fet-clothing available out there, realize how many have a collar attached.

1997, NuBabyByte, “Iron Shackles, Bare Feet”, in alt.torture (Usenet):

It was 'Lingerie Night' at a local fet club a few years ago.

2003, Morgane, “Relatives turning up in the scene”, in soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm (Usenet):

(BDSM, usually attributive) Clipping of fetish.


chad

(Internet slang, seduction community, incel slang) Alternative spelling of Chad (“alpha-male; a virile man”).


swinging

en-noun

swinging (countable and uncountable, plural swingings)

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The sexual practice is so called after the custom in swing dancing of changing partners after each dance, unlike traditional ballroom dance styles where one has a single partner.

Then one night in bed, Simon gently suggested swinging. I was resistant to it, but I thought Simon might leave me if I said no. I agreed to it for him, for our relationship.

2025 June 22, Olivia Ladanyi, “This is how we do it: ‘I discovered my bisexuality when my husband and I started swinging’”, in The Guardian, →ISSN:

(sex) An activity where couples engage in sexual activity with different partners, often in a group setting.


coupling

coupling (countable and uncountable, plural couplings)

From Middle English couplynge; equivalent to couple + -ing.

The biggest film of March 1992 was “Basic Instinct,” an erotic thriller featuring an established movie star in explicit onscreen couplings with a sexy up-and-comer.

2022 March 20, Jason Bailey, “‘Basic Instinct’ at 30: A Time Capsule That Can Still Offend”, in The New York Times, →ISSN:

(sexuality) An act of sexual intercourse.


boi

boi will be treated as a boi at all times and will find himself the recepitent ^([sic]) of many bare bottom spankings, private and in front of Daddies ^([sic]) friends.

2002 March 14, “"MR MARKS"|STRICT DAD FOR BAD BOYS IN PORTLAND OREGON”, in alt.personals.spanking.punishment (Usenet):

You, tattooed, butch boi with experience and a leash.

2004, Kelly A. Morris, Things - Now, Then & Strange, →ISBN, page 178:

I fucked the boi that way. His ass had never known how good a man's dick feels when it's deep inside […]

2007, Will Kane, Forbidden Fruit: Psalms of a Black Master, →ISBN, page 273:

(BDSM, especially in roleplay) A male bottom (i.e. submissive partner), defined not by junior age, but by his obedient role and submission to the dominant "top".


BD

BD (countable and uncountable, plural BDs)

(BDSM) Initialism of bondage and discipline.


pop shot

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Possibly from pop (“rapid”) + shot; possibly confusion, by assonance, with pot shot.

(pornography, slang) Synonym of money shot.


pup

It could be any dude, as long as you really want to fuck him. It could be a... a twink, a bear, an otter, a circuit queen, a chub, a pup, a gipster, a daddy chaser, a leatherman, a ladyboy, a Donald Duck. Donald Duck's a gay guy who's been kicked out of the Navy.

2017 April 23, “Success Failure”, in Silicon Valley, season 4, episode 1, spoken by Russ Hanneman (Chris Diamantopoulos):

Mentorship, I learned from the Fog City pups, plays a huge role in their family business, where the pack hierarchy comes into play.

2019 February 5, Mike Miksche, “Teaching Young Dogs Old Tricks”, in Slate, New York, N.Y.: The Slate Group, →ISSN, →OCLC, archived from the original on 2024-06-22:

(Pups are apparently different from "furries," who dress up in animal suits. And they are both different from "bunnies," which the author didn't explain and which I have neither heart nor stomach to Google.)

2019 April 29, Christie Blatchford, “Christie Blatchford: What ’puppy play’ enthusiasts do behind closed doors shouldn’t be for our reading pleasure”, in National Post, Toronto, Ont.: Postmedia Network Canada Corp., →ISSN, →OCLC, archived from the original on 2024-06-23:

(sex, slang) Someone who participates in pup play (the sexual practice of role-playing as a young dog).


acrophilia

(sexuality) Sexual arousal from heights or high altitudes.


thud

From Middle English thudden (“to strike with a weapon”), from Old English þyddan (“to strike, press, thrust”), from Proto-Germanic *þuddijaną, *þiudijaną (“to strike, thrust”), from Proto-Germanic *þūhaną, *þeuhaną (“to press”), from Proto-Indo-European *tūk- (“to beat”). Cognate with Old English þoddettan (“to strike, push, batter”), Old English þȳdan (“to strike, stab, thrust, press”), Old English þēowan (“to press”), Albanian thundër (“a hoof, talon, a shaft", figuratively, "oppression, torment”).

cog

Pillowcase whippings offer the look and feel of a flagellatio scene’s atmosphere, mood, and psychology while involving only very mild amounts of pain. (A pillowcase is almost all “thud” and very little “sting” in the sensations it creates.)

1992, Jay J. Wiseman, SM 101: A Realistic Introduction, 2nd edition, San Francisco: Greenery Press, published 1996, →ISBN, page 181:

It still wasn’t what I’d call painful but as he swung his arm and the strands of the flogger hit me together it felt like a solid thud rather than a number of different tails stinging me.

2013, Sophie Morgan, No Ordinary Love Story, London: Penguin Books, →ISBN, page 294:

(BDSM) A slower, dull impact with a wide surface area.


blood sport

en-noun

blood sport (countable and uncountable, plural blood sports)

blood sports (plural)
bloodsport (alternative)

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S&M

Here's room one-fifteen / Filled with S&M queens

1967, Lou Reed, Sterling Morrison, “Chelsea Girls”, performed by Nico:

Some of their picks include the Hempel in London, which offers S&M thrills, particularly in a room called the Lioness's Den. In the room, a bed hangs from the ceiling and is enclosed with bars, with handcuffs available.

2011, Eva Christina, The Book of Kink: Sex Beyond the Missionary:


CEI

2014, “Erotic Girl 4 ALL Your Pleasures Are You SERIOUS About EDGING? JOI ? CEI ? Let's See How Much Will Power You Have”, in alt.penthouse.sex.femdom:

2015 May 23, Humiliate You, “Are You A Little Dick Man?? WANT Little Dick Humiliation - JOI with A Side of CEI”, in alt.sex.femdom (Usenet), retrieved 2022-02-02:

(BDSM) Initialism of cum-eating instructions: written or recorded instructions directing a submissive to consume semen.


DM

DM (countable and uncountable, plural DMs)


DS

DS (countable and uncountable, plural DSs or DSes)

DSs (plural)
DSes (plural)
D. S. (alternative)
D.S. (alternative)


full nelson

(sex) A sex position where one partner penetrates the other from behind while holding up the recipient's legs.


daisy chain

daisy chains (plural)
daisy-chain (alternative)

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PIE word
 *dagaz
The noun is derived from daisy + chain. The verb is derived from the noun.

ketju

thing resembling a daisy chain in having several elements connected together

daisy-chainer

person who participates in a daisy chain (group-sex formation)

(by extension) A thing resembling a daisy chain (sense 1) in having several elements connected together, often in a circle.

A series of complicated personal relationships in which, over time, people have had different partners who have themselves had other partners within the same group of people.

ketju

The whole feeling-and-sensation market has shot up—shock, scandal priced out of range for the average man. You have to do more than take a little gas, or slash the wrists. Pot? Zero! Daisy chains? Nothing! Debauchery? A museum word from prelibidinous times!

1964 September 21, Saul Bellow, Herzog, New York, N.Y.: The Viking Press, →OCLC, page 179:

(slang) A group-sex formation involving multiple partners, with the participants lying in a circle, each one performing oral sex on another person.


nipple clamp

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(BDSM) Either of a pair of metal clamps, usually joined by a chain, meant to be worn on the nipples to cause pain.


bondage

bondage (countable and uncountable, plural bondages)

Inherited from Middle English bondage (“serfdom”), from British Medieval Latin bondagium (“an inferior tenure held by a bond or husbandman”), from Middle English bond (“tenant farmer, serf”), from Old English bonda (“householder, husband, head of a family”), of Old Norse origin. Sense development influenced by the unrelated terms bond and bind.

der

Their marriage broke up when she discovered he had been engaging in bondage games with a local dominatrix while he was supposedly working out at the gym.

(sex) The practice of physically restraining people for sexual pleasure, such as by tying up or shackling.

人身依附

practice of tying people up for sexual pleasure


docking

From Middle English dockyng. By surface analysis, dock + -ing.

From their discussions, the participants mentioned informational and stimulating variations. For touching, one could always use feather dusters, a massage, a tongue in the ear, spooning and sucking toes (known in New York City as "shrimping). There's also "docking" for foreskinned men who can creatively stroke appendages.

1986 December 14, E. G. Martin, “Hot & Healthy: A Second Coming Out”, in Gay Community News, volume 14, number 22, page 7:

(sexuality, slang) The sex act involving two men co-joined by their penises, with overlapping foreskins.


swinger

(sex) A person who practices swinging (sex with different partners).


A-level

(Internet slang, prostitution, euphemistic) Anal sex.


pegging

en-noun

pegging (countable and uncountable, plural peggings)

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(sex) The act of anal penetration of a man by someone, usually a woman, wearing a strap-on dildo.