kino

Coined by Ross Jeffries, from kinesthesia.

I noticed, however, that the more interested the 11 became, the more kino the 10 gave me.

2005, Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, Text Publishing Company, →ISBN, →OL, page 154:

It is the specific pacing of escalating kino that is important, not the physical touches.

2007 February 6, Erik von Markovik, The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed, St. Martin's Press, →ISBN, →OL, page 138:

There's no way for me to find out a girl's attitude toward kino without giving it a try and pushing some limits, so I never miss an opportunity to touch her.

2008 September 23, Tony Clink, The Plan: Have Sex Tonight with a Gorgeous Woman in 69 Easy Steps, New York: Citadel Press, →ISBN, →OL, page 27:

(seduction community) Physical contact with another person, touch.


scissor

en-verb

scissor (third-person singular simple present scissors, present participle scissoring, simple past and past participle scissored)

scissors (present singular third-person)
scissoring (participle present)
scissored (participle past)
scissored (past)
scissors (alternative rare)

From Middle English cysour, cysoure, cysowre, altered from sisours (“scissors”), from Old French cisoires, cisours, cisur, from Latin caedere (“to cut”); current spelling influenced by Latin scindere, scissus (“to split”).

(intransitive, sex) To engage in scissoring (tribadism), a sexual act in which two women intertwine their legs and rub their vulvas against each other.


homosex

en-noun

homosex (usually uncountable, plural homosexes)

From homo- + sex. Attested since the 20th century.

"I don't know what they take me for, or how old they think their kids are. But I had to promise to watch you all 100% of the time to make sure there would be - and I quote - 'no sex or homosex'. Because I guess that's a word now."

2013 March 3, Jocelyn Samara D., Rain (webcomic), Comic 336 - Insufferable:

(sexuality) Homosexual sexual intercourse.


yaoi

yaoi (countable and uncountable, plural yaoi or yaois)

From Japanese やおい (yaoi), a blend of 山(やま)無(な)し (yama nashi, “no climax”) + 落(お)ち無(な)し (ochi nashi, “no point”) + 意味(いみ)無(な)し (imi nashi, “no meaning”), originally mocking those who criticised early yaoi works for being too focused on sex scenes instead of storylines.

ja-blend

(Japanese pornography) A form of hentai involving two or more men in a gay relationship.

ইয়াওই

narrative involving men in a gay relationship


flogger

From flog + -er. Compare Low German flogger (“a flail”).

Savanna walked around the stock, unhooking her flogger from her belt.

(BDSM) A lightweight whip with multiple lashes.


avisodomy

(sexuality) The act of a human being having sex with a bird.


MEF

(Internet slang, sexology) Initialism of Masochistic Emasculation Fetish.


collaring

en-noun

collaring (countable and uncountable, plural collarings)

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Collarings in my view are significant events and should be treated as such. They should include a fair amount of forethought and dedication on the part of both parties.

2022, Dan & Dawn Williams, Hearts & Collars, page 147:

(BDSM) The binding of a submissive to a dominant under specific conditions or obligations.


down low

down low (countable and uncountable, plural down lows)

down lows (plural)
down-low (alternative)
downlow (alternative)

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[Chorus]:And keep it on the down low Nobody has to know.

1995 December 11, “Down Low (Nobody Has to Know)”performed by R. Kelly:

(sexuality) The state of being a man who secretly sleeps with people other than his partner.

I sleep with men, but I am not bisexual, and I am certainly not gay. I am not going to your clinics, I am not going to read your brochures, I am not going to get tested. I assure you that none of the brothers on the down low like me are paying the least bit of attention to anything you have to say.

2001 April 3, Linda Villarosa, “AIDS Education Is Aimed 'Down Low'”, in The New York times, page 5:

(African-American Vernacular, sexuality) The state of being a man who secretly sleeps with other men.

I think it must be hard for trans men who like guys. Most gay guys don't like vaginas. […] The guys I'm interested in are down-lows, DLs.

2014, Susan Kuklin, Beyond Magenta: Transgender Teens Speak Out, Humen: Candlewick Press, published 2015, →ISBN, →LCCN, Mariah: The Real Deal, page 90:

(African-American Vernacular, sexuality) A man who secretly sleeps with other men.


QoS

(slang, sexuality) Initialism of queen of spades.


money shot

(moment in film): So named because it is often considered the most important part of the film, and often an actor who is unable to provide the shot goes unpaid.

Allen Gregory DeLongpre: Uh-oh, Principal Gottlieb. Looks like somebody forgot their danish, huh?
Judith Gottlieb: Aw, crap.
Allen Gregory: Three, two, one, and there's the money shot.

2011 Allen Gregory, "1 Night in Gottlieb" (season 1, episode 2)

(pornography, slang) The moment in a pornographic film where the male subject of the scene in question ejaculates.

(pornography, slang, by extension) The release of semen on the partner's body, especially on the face or in the eye.


babooning

From baboon + -ing: in the sense of caning, because of the bright red buttocks (like those of a baboon) that result.

(vulgar, sex) An obscene sexual act by which the rectum of a person prolapses due to excessive anal sex.


MMF

MMF (countable and uncountable, plural MMFs)

(sex) Initialism of male male female (“a sexual act between two males and one female”).


creampie

There was a recent post about Christy doing a creampie (internal cumshot). That never happened but the scene with Eric Edwards in this movie is close, as he cums on her puss.

1999 January 26, Stan Stewart, “help:christy letting a guy cum in her mouth”, in alt.fan.christy-canyon (Usenet):

[…] the “creampie” or “internal cum shot,” in which semen is photographed as it drips from a vagina (Cream Pie 1999).

2000, Michael Thomas Carroll, Popular Modernity in America: Experience, Technology, Mythohistory, Albany, New York: State University of New York Press, →ISBN, page 119:

Add new girl "Shannon" to the list of anal creampie girls--I did one with her last week for the January release of Knee Pad Nymphos, Vol 5.

2002 October 6, Dave Cummings, “Best Creampie Ever”, in rec.arts.movies.erotica (Usenet):

Alright, AFAB porn performers: we're all doubling our scene rates for creampie scenes, right?

2022 June 24, Siri Dahl, Twitter, archived from the original on 2022-12-15:

(pornography) Semen visibly displayed after ejaculation in the vagina or anus.


ASD

ASD (countable and uncountable, plural ASDs)

anti-slut defense
anti-slut defense#English

(seduction community) Initialism of anti-slut defense.


aftercare

(BDSM) Tender affection and physical care given to a partner after an activity, usually to serve as a transition between the activity and whatever follows it.

事後照顧 /事后照顾

affection given to a partner after a BDSM activity


asphyxiophilia

(BDSM) A paraphilia involving an attraction to breathplay.


tit fuck

tit fucks (plural)
tit-fuck (alternative)
titfuck (alternative)
tittyfuck (alternative)

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(sex, vulgar) A sex position or sex act where the penis is stimulated in between the partner's breasts.


tit fuck

en-verb

tit fuck (third-person singular simple present tit fucks, present participle tit fucking, simple past and past participle tit fucked)

tit fucks (present singular third-person)
tit fucking (participle present)
tit fucked (participle past)
tit fucked (past)
tit-fuck (alternative)
titfuck (alternative)
tittyfuck (alternative)

(transitive, sex) To stimulate the penis between the breasts of (a person).


subspace

en-noun

subspace (countable and uncountable, plural subspaces)

subspaces (plural)
sub space (alternative)
sub-space (alternative)

From sub (“submissive”) + space (“state of mind”).

compound

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My problem, though, is that when he whips me, I resist going into subspace. He has to whip me for fifteen or twenty minutes before I even begin to feel any psychological effects.

2000, Gloria G Brame, Come hither: a commonsense guide to kinky sex:

When he was far gone into subspace, pain was enough to make him come.

2003, Chelsea Shepard, Two Moons: Worthy of a Master Book One:

(BDSM) The psychological state of the submissive or bottom during sadomasochistic activity.


fluff girl

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John walked over to the women on the couch with a pandering smile. "I really hate to break this up, but we're ready to roll tape." Rod switched position with Karen's fluff girl, waited for his cue, then it was back to the races.

2000, Peter Scott Harmyk, Say Good-Bye to Johnnie Blue, Ivy House Publishing Group, →ISBN:

Buck looks down at his crotch then back up again, "There's nothing to pick up anymore." Cliff peers around. "Who's the fluff girl today?" The young woman on the sideline steps forward, "I am." "Okay, Annie, please take care of Buck," says Cliff.

2003, Lynn Isenberg, My Life Uncovered, Don Mills, Ont.: Red Dress Ink, →ISBN:

(pornography) A woman who arouses male pornographic actors before filming.


mummification

en-noun

mummification (countable and uncountable, plural mummifications)

From mummify + -ication, after French momification.

(BDSM) The practice of wrapping a person's arms, torso, and legs in order to restrict their movement.


futanari

futanari (countable and uncountable, plural futanari or futanaris)

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From Japanese ふたなり (futanari, “hermaphrodite”), from 二(ふた) (futa, “two”) + 形(なり) (nari, “shape, form”) or 態(なり) (nari).

(uncountable, Japanese pornography) A genre of Japanese pornography featuring intersex or hermaphroditic characters that are depicted as attractive, usually works containing female characters with a penis and sometimes testicles.

فُوتَانَارِي

genre of pornography featuring intersex characters

(countable, Japanese pornography) An intersex or hermaphroditic character, usually female and with a penis, in such works.


finish off

en-verb

finish off (third-person singular simple present finishes off, present participle finishing off, simple past and past participle finished off)

finishes off (present singular third-person)
finishing off (participle present)
finished off (participle past)
finished off (past)

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It's a great idea to get good at using vibrators both on yourself (if you like them) and on partners. For many women, vibrators are part and parcel of good sex. Sometimes you'll like having unassisted sex for a while and then finish off with a vibrator. Sometimes a vibe can be great to add to penetrative sex.

2016, Allison Moon, “Mapping Your Route: Anatomy & Orgasm”, in Girl Sex 101, 2nd edition, Lunatic Ink, →ISBN, →LCCN, →OCLC, page 117:


play doctor

play doctor (third-person singular simple present plays doctor, present participle playing doctor, simple past and past participle played doctor)

plays doctor (present singular third-person)
playing doctor (participle present)
played doctor (participle past)
played doctor (past)

[…] Jimmie volunteered, […] "How can you have kids if you don't play doctor?"

1931 October, R. L. Whitely, “Interviewing the Problem Boy”, in E. George Payne, editor, The Journal of Educational Sociology, volume V, number 2, Albany, page 99:

By the time they are six, they may play doctor and take one another's rectal temperature or place objects into their orifices, […]

1988, Lynn Leight, Raising Sexually Healthy Children, New York: Avon Books, published 1990, →ISBN, page 226:

(sexuality, usually of minors) To explore or sexually engage with another person's private parts, particularly in the context of roleplay of a medical nature.

leikkiä lääkäriä

to engage in sexual role-play of a medical nature


ravishment

en-noun

ravishment (countable and uncountable, plural ravishments)

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humbler

Mistress Desiree removed the ball crusher and then selected the humbler. Telling him to bend over so she could apply this sweet looking device.

2023, Sandra Wild, Lustful Whispers: Forbidden Passions Ignite:

(BDSM) A physical restraint that clamps around the base of the scrotum and prevents straightening of the legs.


switch-hitter

switch-hitters (plural)
switch hitter (alternative)

I met this fat, balding, bisexual 'switch-hitter'— that was his word, 'switch-hitter'— and he was my first experience."

1983, Edmund White, States of Desire: Travels in Gay America, page 218:

The thinking is Ralston's gay—lots of us Fifth Squadders think he's gay. […] Or maybe he's a switch-hitter, a bisexual. Who knows?

2010, Paul Bouchard, A Package at Gitmo, page 78:

(slang, sexuality) A person who has sex with both male and female sexual partners.


teabagging

teabagging (countable and uncountable, plural teabaggings)

Oh, I thought you meant "teabagging", when you hold a guy's balls in your mouth.

2003 August 17, Jenny Bicks, “A Woman's Right to Shoes”, in Sex and the City, season 6, episode 9, spoken by Samantha:

(slang, sex) The act of a man inserting his scrotum in another person's mouth, in a similar motion as when a tea bag is juiced into a mug.


eonism

Coined in 1920 by the British physician and sexologist Havelock Ellis (1859–1939) after Chevalier d'Eon (1728–1810), a French diplomat, spy and soldier who presented as male for 49 years, then as a female for 33. Ellis had previously used the term sexo-aesthetic inversion.

The chief of these intermediate sexual anomalies are: (1) physical hermaphroditism in its various stages; (2) gynandromorphism, or eunuchoidism, in which men possess characters resembling those of males who have been early castrated and women possess similarly masculine characters; (3) sexo-esthetic inversion, or Eonism (Hirschfeld's transvestism or cross-dressing), in which, outside the specifically sexual emotions, men possess the tastes of women and women those of men.

1927, Havelock Ellis, Studies in the Psychology of Sex, Volume 2 (of 6):

Ellis seems, however, to regard this 'less common but more complete' type as embodying the essence of eonism, and he objected to the term transvestism because it focused attention solely on the element of cross-dressing.

2006, Richard Ekins, Dave King, The Transgender Phenomenon, SAGE Publishing, page 63:

2013, C. N. Armstrong, 12: Transvestism, D. Robertson Smith, William M. Davidson (editors), Symposium on Nuclear Sex, Elsevier (Butterworth-Heinemann), page 88,
Homosexuals do not as a rule want to change their sex and identity. This is the fundamental anomaly in eonism.

(sexology) The pretence of being the opposite sex, especially that by a man of being a woman; transvestism.

éonisme

pretence of being the opposite sex — see also transvestism


dirty Sanchez

dirty Sanchezes (plural)
dirty sanchez (alternative)

Referring to a stereotype of mustached Mexicans.

I told her, repeatedly, that the only thing I wanted to do on my birthday was give her a dirty Sanchez, which I think is doubly appropriate for my little wetback slut.

2002, Morgan D. Rosenberg, Sex, Death and Travel: A Novel:

He did the dirty Sanchez - fucked my arse, wiped his cock in his hand, and then drew a mustache of shit across my upper lip.

2006 Belegana: Just a Silly Wite Man by Sean Makiney (page 43) http://books.google.com/books?vid=ISBN1411692098&id=i69t8zbyzO4C&pg=PA43&lpg=PA43&ots=aP-UaO3Je2&dq=%22dirty+sanchez%22&sig=NDclv3box6jZerxrmW9fopqs9ho
[An ex-porn star] will be attending a meeting with presidential advisor [..], giving her recommendations on important national issues.
If their meeting goes accordingly, then Palestine will be receiving a Dirty Sanchez from Israel.

2006 Porn star's name may ring a 'Bell' New York Daily News, originally published on September 27, 2006 https://web.archive.org/web/20070106083308/http://www.nydailynews.com/news/gossip/story/456104p-383834c.html
We can't get too graphic here, but word is that the action includes some bodily functions and an act known as a "Dirty Sanchez."

(vulgar, slang, sexuality) After anal sex, the act of drawing a mustache on the recipient's face with the object of penetration (usually a penis).


feel the burn

en-verb

feel the burn (third-person singular simple present feels the burn, present participle feeling the burn, simple past and past participle felt the burn)

feels the burn (present singular third-person)
feeling the burn (participle present)
felt the burn (participle past)
felt the burn (past)

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The phrase was popularized by actress Jane Fonda in her highly successful 1980s aerobic exercise videotapes.

(sex) To feel the vaginal or anal pleasure or burn felt during sexual intercourse.


short time

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Ok, so what is short time? One young bar ladies’ explanation always comes to mind when asked this question. “You come, I go!” There it is, very simple!

2022 February 8, “What do you prefer? Short time, good times, Long time, bad times”, in (Please provide the book title or journal name):

(Southeast Asia, prostitution) A meeting with a sex worker that usually ends when ejaculation is reached.


collared

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From Middle English colered, colleryde; equivalent to collar + -ed.

(BDSM) Of a person, committed to submit to a particular dominant.


sexual literacy

en-noun

sexual literacy (plural sexual literacies)

(health sciences, sexology) Knowledge required to advance and protect one's own sexual health and well-being.


golden shower

Among the frequently requested and highly priced practices were the “golden shower” and “brown shower,” being urinated and defecated on in a sexual context.

1985, Stanislav Grof, Beyond the Brain: Birth, Death, and Transcendence in Psychotherapy, Albany, New York: State University of New York Press, →ISBN, page 218:

ULTRA BIZARRE FEMALE: Age 25, seeks to correspond with submissive men on female domination, foot worship, enema, golden shower and anus worship

a. 1990, Bizarre Lifestyles, volume 1, number 1, page 53; quoted in Thomas Edward Murray, Thomas R. Murrell, The Language of Sadomasochism: A Glossary and Linguistic Analysis, Westport, Connecticut: Greenwood Press, 1989, →ISBN, page 77:

(sexuality, slang) The act of a person urinating on another, usually for the sexual gratification of one or both persons.

zlatá sprcha

the act of a person urinating on another


gunplay

gunplay (usually uncountable, plural gunplays)

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My problem with gunplay is that it could lead to very bad habits. They're always loaded, even when they're "not loaded", and if you get used to thinking of them as not loaded you're going to get careless.

1998 August 5, the wharf rat [username], “Re: ATTENTION, People new to "BDSM"”, in soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm (Usenet):

The recent fuss about gunplay isn't an ickiness issue but a safety argument.

1999 October 21, Malcolm McMahon, “Re: A proposal: soc.subculture.bdsm-ykiok?”, in soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm (Usenet):

When the professor turned out to be too warped even for my tastes — consensual knifeplay is one thing; drunken gunplay quite another […]

2009, Quince Mountain, “Cowboy for Christ”, in Jeff Sharlet, Peter Manseau, editors, Believer, Beware: First-person Dispatches from the Margins of Faith, Beacon Press, →ISBN, page 116:

(BDSM) A sexual practice involving the use of a (usually unloaded) firearm for physical and mental stimulation.


dominator

dominators (plural)
dominatour (alternative)

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Young looking 30 yr old dominator, but might bend (flexible) for the right person.

1988 May 7, Jeff Winters, “Personal advertisement”, in Gay Community News, page 13:

One who, or that which, dominates.
(BDSM, uncommon) A male dominant.

One who, or that which, dominates.
A male dominant.


playroom

playrooms (plural)
play-room (alternative)

She'll take them to bed with her, and she'll give them stuff to make them feel like lords of creation, and they'll play round games. Then one day they'll wake up in shackles in her playroom.

(BDSM) A room dedicated to sadomasochistic sexual activity.


scissoring

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Divya […] The evenings aren’t our most sexy time together, as a couple.
Frankie Yeah, the scissoring tends to happen in the afternoon. We often combine it with a nap. We love napping.

2023 April 1, Kitty Drake, “Our sleeping secrets caught on camera: nine beds and the people in them reveal everything – from farting to threesomes”, in The Guardian, →ISSN:

(sex) A sex act in which two women intertwine their legs and rub their vulvas against each other.


who's your daddy

I got fisted one time [by] a very short lesbian. [mimes] "Who's your daddy?" "...Eileen?" "That's right, bitch!"

A humorous or sarcastic statement of (often sexual) superiority over someone else.

(BDSM) An assertion that one is the dominant in a relationship or situation.


erogenous zone

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The parts of the body significant in giving sexual pleasure we call "erogenous zones."

1910, Sigmund Freud, “The Origin and Development of Psychoanalysis”, in The American Journal of Psychology, volume 21, number 2, page 209:

His neck, shoulders, upper back, and spine were erogenous zones.

2001, Joyce Carol Oates, Middle Age: A Romance, paperback edition, Fourth Estate, page 254:

(sexuality) A part of the human body that is particularly responsive to sexual stimulation.


BBW

BBW (countable and uncountable, plural BBWs)

Abbreviation.
* (big beautiful woman): Coined by Carole Shaw in 1979 in the first sense with the launch of BBW Magazine, a fashion and lifestyle magazine for plus-size women.

Dank Demoss, who’s described herself as “obese” and a BBW — “big beautiful woman” — walked into the New York City studio and sat down in a wheeled office chair before the interview started and she immediately looked uncomfortable and let the crew know it.

2025 February 11, Patrick Reilly, “500-pound rapper suing Lyft over ride denial asks for couch over chair at ‘Breakfast Club’ interview: ‘This is accommodation’”, in New York Post:

(sexuality) Initialism of big beautiful woman, used as a positive description for women who are (sometimes slightly) overweight and physically attractive.

big beautiful woman

(body morphology) Initialism of big-boned woman, recoinage of the acronym, making fun of the typical term for overweight women.


DT

DT (countable and uncountable, plural DTs)

DTs (plural)
DT. (alternative)
Dt. (alternative)
Dt (alternative)
D/T (alternative)

(pornography) Initialism of deep-throating.


BG

BG (countable and uncountable, plural BGs)

(slang, pornography) Initialism of boy/girl.


HB

(slang, seduction community) A hot babe, someone pickup artists try to seduce. (Usually followed by a number in the 1-10 scale of physical beauty, e.g. HB10.)


handball

en-verb

handball (third-person singular simple present handballs, present participle handballing, simple past and past participle handballed)

handballs (present singular third-person)
handballing (participle present)
handballed (participle past)
handballed (past)

(sexuality, slang) To insert a hand into someone's anus.


dommy

en-adj

dommy (comparative more dommy, superlative most dommy)

more dommy (comparative)
most dommy (superlative)

Rita said she thought she’d be a sub, but found in the scene she was ‘getting a bit dommy’.

2010, Stephanie Clifford-Smith, “A Dynamic Duo”, in Kink: A Straight Girl's Investigation, Crows Nest, N.S.W.: Crows Nest, →ISBN, page 88:

I don’t usually get that wet, but apparently, all I was missing before was a hot dommy man slapping my ass.

2022, Renee Rose, chapter 2, in The Cleaner (Chicago Bratva), →ISBN:

He anchors his hands on his hips, one of my favorite moves of his, because he looks all dommy.

2023, Jane Henry, chapter 16, in Adoration (Montavio Brotherhood), →ISBN:


gasper

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1999, floodin...@webtv.net, “gay male gaspers/breath control and choking roleplay.”, in alt.sex.necrophilia (Usenet):

(BDSM, slang) One who is aroused by autoasphyxiation.


deep-throat

en-verb

deep-throat (third-person singular simple present deep-throats, present participle deep-throating, simple past and past participle deep-throated)

deep-throats (present singular third-person)
deep-throating (participle present)
deep-throated (participle past)
deep-throated (past)
deep throat (alternative)
deepthroat (alternative)

→ Dutch: deepthroaten

/ˈdiːpθɹəʊt/

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After several minutes of deep-throating Derek, Darcy pulled his slobbery cock from her mouth and began licking her own saliva off it.

2021, Sophie Palmer, Yummy Tits: Collection of Explicit Erotic Short Stories:

(transitive, sex, vulgar) To perform fellatio or irrumation so that the entire penis is inside the mouth; often penetrating into the oesophagus, requiring the suppression of the gag reflex.


haa

(Japanese pornography) The sound of heavy breathing when sexually aroused.


hotdogging

(sex, vulgar) A sex position or sex act where the penis is stimulated in between the partner's buttocks.


pickup artist

Researching a book proposed by an editor, I allowed myself to be taken under the wings of the greatest self-proclaimed pickup artists in the world and entered an underground subculture of men dedicated—sometimes to an unhealthy extreme—to figuring out the mystery of the opposite sex.

2004 January 25, Neil Strauss, “HE AIMS! HE SHOOTS! YES!!”, in The New York Times, →ISSN:

(seduction community) One who uses specialized tactics to seduce women.


threeway

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(sex) Alternative spelling of three-way (“sexual act involving three people”).


scopophilic

scopophiliac (alternative)
scoptophiliac (alternative)
scoptophilic (alternative)

(sexuality, psychology) Of or pertaining to scopophilia.


GG

GGs (plural)
G.G. (alternative)
G. G. (alternative)
G.-G. (alternative)
G-G (alternative)

(slang, pornography) Initialism of girl/girl.


femdom

en-noun

femdom (countable and uncountable, plural femdoms)

→ Russian: фемдо́м (femdóm)

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From female + dom, short for domination or dominance.

(BDSM, uncountable) Female domination; a sexual practice in which women dominate men or other people.

I'm acutely aware that I'm on my knees in front of a gorgeous femdom.

2017, D. L. King, Unspeakably Erotic: Lesbian Kink:

She wished she had some fuck-me stiletto thigh-high boots on to give her more of a Domme appearance, but she had seen plenty of femdoms at the club wearing comfortable walking shoes.

2018, Kallypso Masters, Box Set: Rescue Me Saga Books 4-6 and Bonus Western Dreams:

(BDSM, countable) A female dominator in sadomasochistic sexual practices.


ballbusting

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Near-synonym: cock and ball torture

(informal, BDSM) The beating or kicking of the testicles.


SRS

SRS (countable and uncountable, plural SRSes)


karada

Borrowing from Japanese 体 (karada, “body”).

I began the entrancing process of getting into my karada. Being new, the rope only had a little give in it[…]

2009, Gemma Martinelli, Journeys In My Bare Feet, page 281:

(BDSM) An intricate rope structure tied around the body.


safeword

safewords (plural)
safe word (alternative)

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Likewise, a top's ability to respond to your safeword is what makes her a safe partner.

2004, Felice Newman, The Whole Lesbian Sex Book, →ISBN, page 201:

If you don't like something that's happening or you want the scene to stop right away, simply say your safeword.

2006, Tristan Taormino, The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women:

My guess is our victims probably used their safewords or protested at some point, but our guy doesn't care about safewords or the BDSM creed...

2007, Sloan Christopher, Dangerous Obsession:

(chiefly BDSM) A word used in (especially sadomasochistic) sexual practices to unambiguously indicate that a participant actually desires the activity to cease and is not merely feigning a lack of consent.

paraula de seguretat

a word used to indicate that a participant wants to stop


safeword

en-verb

safeword (third-person singular simple present safewords, present participle safewording, simple past and past participle safeworded)

safewords (present singular third-person)
safewording (participle present)
safeworded (participle past)
safeworded (past)
safe word (alternative)

Like it's kind of in my head that maybe I could surprise him, like Eddie said, you know, before I flip out and safeword.

I am going to trust you to safeword though. Say red if you need to. Okay?

2015, Cari Silverwood, Take Me, Break Me, page 177:

This can be difficult if your partner is trying to safeword but all that is coming out is a mew or growl.

2011, Lee Harrington, Spirit of Desire, page 199:

(chiefly BDSM) To stop a sex act by using a safeword.


ponygirl

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(BDSM) A woman, usually submissive, who takes the role of a pony; this typically includes wearing tack such as a bridle and bit


CFNM

Initialism of clothed female, naked (or sometimes nude) male.

On Jan 28, 3:12 am, "yon" wrote: > > On Jan 23, 12:49 am, goi...@hotmail.com wrote: > > > >And with CMNF (so the > > > reverse of CFNM) - some […]

2007 January 30, Anna, Re: Nude swimming class, rec.nude, Usenet

“He went for my zipper, but I took his hand and held it firmly behind his back, and I could feel his heartbeat quicken”
Power games
Clothed female, naked male (CFNM) and clothed male, naked female (CMNF) are both popular kinks and […]

2012, Debby Herbenick, Grant Stoddard, Great in Bed, Penguin, →ISBN:

“It's called CMNF. Clothed male, nude female, and CFNF, clothed female, nude female. They're two major fetishes that have gotten popular recently. We employ the big one, CFNM, clothed female, nude male extensively in London.”

2017, Emily Elizabeth Varner, The Event, eXtasy Books, →ISBN, page 328:

(BDSM) A form of sexual roleplay in which the players act out situations in which the woman wears clothes but the man is naked.


domination line

en-noun

domination line (plural domination lines)

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(sex) A telephone line that a person calls to be sexually dominated.


teleiophile

Of the remaining 428, 70 were classified as pedophiles, 225 as hebephiles, and 133 as teleiophiles.

2003, Ray Blanchard et al., “Self-Reported Head Injuries Before and After Age 13 in Pedophilic and Nonpedophilic Men Referred for Clinical Assessment”, in Archives of Sexual Behavior, →DOI:

Daniel Bergner, age 48, the divorced father of two teenage children, is what sexologists would call a straight, vanilla teleiophile.

2009 January 24, Charles Mcgrath, “Surveying the Outer Reaches of Lust”, in New York Times:

(sexology, rare) A person who is sexually attracted to adults.


AAM

Coordinate term: MAP

One user appeared to be selling child sexual abuse material, writing "Sixteen is a cool number" and "Sells to anyone" alongside a Wickr handle and the acronyms "map" and "aam," which stand for minor-attracted-person and adult-attracted-minor respectively.

2022 June 10, Ben Goggin, “Wickr, Amazon’s encrypted chat app, has a child sex abuse problem — and little is being done to stop it”, in NBC News:

(sexuality) Initialism of adult-attracted minor (see usage notes on MAP).


Eiffel Tower

Calque of French tour Eiffel. Named after its architect Gustave Eiffel (1832–1923). The sexual sense is based on a comparison of the steeple shape of the high-fiving arms to the shape of the building.

named-after

[Billy:] I'm not gay, dude. / [Malcolm:] No, you don't seem gay, man. / [Billy:] I would be down for a little Eiffel Tower action, though. / [Karen:] Not, gross! [Billy:] Well, that's not gay. […] [Karen, being hugged by Billy and Malcolm:] Squeeze me, squeeze me. Squeezed between my two men. A little squeezin'. [kisses air] / [Billy:] Eiffel Tower? / [Karen:] Literally no, never.

2016 September 2, Brian Jordan Alvarez, directed by Brian Jordan Alvarez, The Gay and Wondrous Life of Caleb Gallo, episode 5, spoken by Billy, Malcolm, and Karen (Jon Ebeling, Nick Jandl, and Stephanie Koenig):

(slang, sexuality) A spit roast with the two penetrating partners high-fiving.


HMV

(pornography) Abbreviation of hentai music video (“a fan-made hentai anime clipshow set to music”).


blue film

(slang, film, pornography) a pornographic film


diaper lover

(sexuality, ABDL) A person who wears diapers for pleasure or a fetish rather than necessity.


toilet training

en-noun

toilet training (usually uncountable, plural toilet trainings)

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Toilet Training […] involves teaching them how to drink pee or poop (depending on which they're into), straight from a woman's body. I talk in detail about how I will make them drink my pee, or I talk about pissing over their face. […] Somewhat similar to toilet training are toilet boys. These guys like to worship your ass and be used as your toilet paper.

2011, Stacey Weiss, Secrets of a Phone Sex Operator, page 40:

“I know you're in a lot of pain right now, my pet, but I desperately need to pee and I think I'd like to start your toilet training now.”
“Yes Mistress,” Millie said, offering no resistance to the inevitable.
“Fucking hell that's hot!” Mistress Carla exclaimed. “I mean, I've literally seen thousands of men and women drinking piss, but to see the owner do it? And for a ponygirl? You must be something truly special,” she said to Kayla.

2021, Faye Valentine, Trained for Charity:

(BDSM, euphemistic) The practice of enforced coprophagy or urophagia.


ponyboy

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In other words, I don't fantasize about having a ponyboy brought over to me and being bred with him. That hasn't come into the fantasies...

1999, Katharine Gates, Deviant Desires: Incredibly Strange Sex:

They may really love to play the role of a ponyboy at a public club on weekends...

2000, Gloria G Brame, Come Hither: A Commonsense Guide to Kinky Sex:

The age-old fetish of the ponygirl or ponyboy has never been hotter! History shows that humans have thrilled for millennia to the idea of turning a human being into a horse — even Aristotle reportedly loved to be saddled...

2008, Rebecca Wilcox, The Human Pony: A Handbook for Owners, Trainers and Admirers:

(BDSM) The male equivalent of a ponygirl.


slaveboy

slaveboys (plural)
slave-boy (alternative)
slave boy (alternative)

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(BDSM) A young male slave (submissive partner) in a BDSM relationship.


burusera

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Borrowed from Japanese ブルセラ (burusera), from a combination of ブルマー (burumā, “bloomers”) + セーラー服 (sērā-fuku, “sailor suit”), from English bloomers and sailor respectively.

Products on sale at a burusera shop

1994, Japan. Keisatsuchō, White paper on police ... (excerpt), page 71:

[…] say I looked like a giant prehistoric squid, squirming and oozing ink from my ink sac in a futile attempt to confuse my predators. Next to the video was a link to a burusera fetish¹⁴¹ site where hentais could bid on my blood-stained panties.
¹⁴¹ […] schoolgirl uniform fetish

2013, Ruth Ozeki, A Tale for the Time Being: A Novel, Penguin, →ISBN:

Includes a selling knickers to a burusera shop scene, a hilariously cheap “disco” set, but not enough cumsoaked schoolgirls for this reviewer.

2015, Clive Davies, Spinegrinder: The Movies Most Critics Won't Write about, SCB Distributors, →ISBN:

Meanwhile there are rumors a dejected Takuboku is not dead but now running a burusera (used panties) fetish boutique in Shibuya.

2018, John Whittier Treat, The Rise and Fall of Modern Japanese Literature, University of Chicago Press, →ISBN, page 284:

(sex) Girls' used underwear and/or school uniforms, which are bought and sold by sexual fetishists.


long time

Long Time in Thailand or LT is the term used to define how long the lady is willing to spend time with you. This usually means it will be all night and into the next morning, and you can date her or just hang out with her.

2019 August 26, “What is Long Time in Thailand – Bar Fine Guides”, in Thailand Amigo:

(Thailand, Indonesia, prostitution) A meeting with a sex worker that usually lasts the entire night.


Saint Andrew's cross

Saint Andrew's cross (plural Saint Andrew's crosses)

Saint Andrew's Cross (BDSM)
Saint Andrew's cross

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(BDSM) An upright X-shaped frame to which a participant can be tied.


painslut

Now I'm not saying that it isn't an edge I cross from time to time, but I need the confidence that some little painslut won't decide afterward to press charges.

2001, Edbun, “Do you enjoy the pain of spanking?”, in soc.sexuality.spanking (Usenet):

You two are quite an addition to my little circle. We've got just about one of everything: painsluts, pony boys, rubber queens, latex lovers […]

He was playing a part, but River had never really understood painsluts. A little slap and tickle was one thing, but getting off on being beaten just didn't make anything like sense to him.

(BDSM, slang, sometimes derogatory) A person who enjoys receiving pain.


JAV

(pornography) Acronym of Japanese adult video.


gokkun

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Borrowed from Japanese ゴックン (gokkun, “gulp”).

bor+

(Japanese pornography) A genre of pornography in which a person consumes the semen of multiple men, usually from some vessel or container such as a cup or beaker.


ageplay

Although Linden Lab announced that sexual ageplay was always banned in Second Life […]

2008, Tawfik Jelassi, Albrecht Enders, Strategies for e-business: creating value through electronic and mobile commerce:

Then again, that kind of ageplay is basically a normalized kink […]

2008, Bitch: feminist response to pop culture:

(sexuality) A form of roleplay in which the player deliberately acts an age different from their own (and usually younger).


bloodplay

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No surprise, not all Goths are in it for the beliefs, the bloodplay, the S&M violence, mostly underage fashion victims who like the smell of leather...

2005, Mike Philbin, The Life and Death of Hertzan Chimera:

...the appeal of bloodplay, at least for some individuals, arises from the very risks that this practice poses.

2007, Michelle Belanger, Vampires in Their Own Words: An Anthology of Vampire Voices:

It may involve increased risk of spreading disease (cutting, bloodplay), psychological danger (humiliation play, incest fantasies, rape roleplay)...

2008, Anil Aggrawal, Forensic and Medico-Legal Aspects of Sexual Crimes and Unusual Sexual Practices:

(BDSM) Sexual activity in which a participant is deliberately cut so as to release blood.


handballing

(sexuality, slang) The act of inserting a hand into a partner's anus.


subbie

“This is my subbie, and you get no say in that.”
“She's not your subbie, Dominic,” I stated. “You left her hanging in the shibari room last night. […]

2014, Katherine Rhodes, Not Quite Juliet: Silver Soul 1:


PTHC

When a new site appears, it is blazoned through all the related groups with a headline like “msn goood pthc club!!!” — the acronym signifies “preteen hardcore.”

2003, Philip Jenkins, Beyond Tolerance: Child Pornography on the Internet, NYU Press, →ISBN, page 63:


catbath

catbaths (plural)
cat bath (alternative)
cat-bath (alternative)

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‘Cat bath, hmm, I wonder what that is?’ I said, trying to imagine what it involved.

2007, Moammar Emak, Jakarta Undercover II, →ISBN:

The sex worker, called ‘Angel’, scored 7/10 for her all-over ‘catbath’; 8/10 for the ‘bareback barrel blow job’ (BBBJ), and 8/10 for her ‘fuck job’ (FJ), which took place with a condom.

2012, Lenore Lyons, Michele Ford, Men and Masculinities in Southeast Asia, →ISBN:

[…] but His Hardness wants that damned, hellified, diabolical catbath and foot massage you do.

2014, Nancy Hartwell Enonchong, Harem Slave, →ISBN:

(sex) A form of foreplay, chiefly in Southeast Asian sex work, in which one participant licks the other all over their body.


noncon

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I liked the point you made about the ep showing both consensual and noncon BDSM.

2002 February 8, atara <asta...@cyberg8t.com>, “Re: Did anyone see Buffy the Vampire Slayer last night?”, in soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm (Usenet):

consensual non-consent
consensual non-consent

(BDSM) Involving consensual non-consent.


cock ring

cock rings (plural)
cockring (alternative)
cock-ring (alternative)

“[…] Conventional tattoos belong firmly among the iconics of the hegemon. It's like wearing your cock ring to meet the pope, and making sure he sees it. Actually, it's worse than that. What are they like?”

2014, William Gibson, “Death Cookie”, in The Peripheral, G. P. Putnam's Sons, →ISBN, page 6:

(slang, vulgar, sex) A band, worn around the base of the penis, used to slow down the flow of blood from the penile tissue and hence maintain an erection.


PSE

The kind of service I'm looking for is sexy GFE with a ‘twist’ of PSE. I am late 40s, hail from New York and am an entrepreneur. Regards, The Peacock.

2017, Samantha X, Back on Top: Confessions of a High-Class Escort, Hachette, →ISBN:

(prostitution) Initialism of porn star experience.


blowie

"I said," my friend says on the phone, "I can call the cops and have you arrested or you can give me a blowie."

2008, Shane Lindemoen, Empire Dirt, Fallen Publishing, page 91

‘I didn′t mind being groped by him,’ Crystal replied. ‘He was cute. In fact I′m looking forward to later; don′t I have to pretend to give him a blowie?’

2010, Zoe Foster, Playing the Field, Round 23: The Enchantress vs The Press, unnumbered page,
‘A brothel. Anyway, they got kicked out ′cos one of them – not Josh – took photos on his mobile of some bird giving him a blowie, and she flipped out.’


lovemap

From love + map, coined by John Money in 1980.

(sexology) A mental conception of one's ideal lover and sex life.


hardpoint

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(BDSM) A structure for holding someone suspended with rope.


OTK

/ˈəʊ ˈtiː ˈkeɪ/

My Mom's paddlings were usually for *back-talking* or *being fresh* - a habit I never broke. They were spontaneous and sharp, usually OTK or standing up, secured by one arm, and given with the hand or the hairbrush.

1994 July 24, Gaetana <gaetana@aol.com>, “Hot Summer Nights”, in alt.sex.spanking (Usenet), retrieved 2022-01-30:

I thought of the other identity as my darker self. Her screen name was Pirategrrl; her “real” name was Jenny. I listed her hobbies as swordplay and, on the advice of a friend well versed in chat-room culture, OTK--over the knee, erotic shorthand for spanking.

1997 July, Lynn Darling, “‘Dear Ravager, I've never done this before...’”, in Esquire, volume 128, number 1, New York, →ISSN:

Lynn Darling (1997), for example, created the identity of Pirategrrl just to test out her own reaction to taking part in the OTK (“over the knee,” or spanking) culture.

1998, Walter S. DeKeseredy, Martin D. Schwartz, “Male Peer Support and Woman Abuse in Postsecondary School Courtship”, in Raquel Kennedy Bergen, editor, Issues in Intimate Violence, Thousand Oaks, California: Sage Publications, →ISBN, page 89:

[…] the OTK site with its graphic spanking photos […]

2002, Les Roberts, The Dutch: A Milan Jacovich Mystery:

“So, you want a straightforward, otk, bare butt, hand spanking. Don't blame you. They're the best kind.”

2006, Kiki Faran, Once Upon a Knee Mf Spanking & Domestic Discipline Stories Book Three:

Haron's howling came later that afternoon, as she was upended for a bare-bottomed, open-air, OTK spanking on the Mull of Kintyre. I think I'm always going to giggle in future whenever I hear the relevant Paul McCartney song.

2008, Abel and Haron, The Spanking Writers:

(BDSM) Initialism of over the knee (spanking position).


BDSMer

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Rather than occasional BDSM indulgences in the bedroom, lifestyle BDSMers practice their craft 24/7.

2007, Peter Ludlow, Mark Wallace, The Second Life Herald:

After many more visits and discussions with BDSMers, I began to understand the power play and sexual high that BDSM can bring.

2007, Marlene Wasserman, Pillowbook: creating a sensual lifestyle:

(informal, BDSM) One who participates in BDSM.


CIM

[…]PSE (porn star experience) means you up the ante a bit in the bedroom with a bit of COF, Spanish, Tromboning, CIM, maybe even CIMWS (never my thing)—and for the really adventurous, Greek[…]

(prostitution slang) Initialism of cum in mouth; indicates that the client ejaculates in their mouth.


TNG

For example, some communities set up TNG (The Next Generation) groups to address the issue of young people coming into communities and being overwhelmed by attention from much older, and more experienced, dominants (a dynamic which is exacerbated by many older submissives having left the community following non-consensual experiences, MacAulay Millar, 2012).

2013 December, Meg Barker, “Consent Is a Grey Area? A Comparison of Understandings of Consent in Fifty Shades of Grey and on the BDSM Blogosphere”, in Sexualities, volume 16, number 8, →DOI, →ISSN, page 907:

Research on these topics at college campuses might be difficult to conduct, particularly if the researchers do not want to focus on people who already identify with the BDSM community. The researchers might want to connect with local TNG (The Next Generation, for people 18-35 years old) groups, whose members might attend college.

2018, Carolyn Meeker, Negotiating Self: An Exploration of Women’s Perceptions of Their Feminist and Submissive Identities (doctoral dissertation), Miami, Florida: Florida International University, retrieved 2022-02-28:

When asked about the demographic makeup of her TNG group, Megan explained that it was fairly diverse. Most participants are queer.

2018, Sarah R. Young, “Creating Safe Schools: Clubs, Curriculum, and School-Based Inclusion for LGBTQ+ Youths”, in Chuck Stewart, editor, Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Americans at Risk: Problems and Solutions, Santa Barbara, California: Praeger, →ISBN, page 137:

He also noted that older crowds tended to be a lot more sexual in their play, and that many of the older folx in the community also were often members of other alternative lifestyle communities, namely that of “swinging.” This, he explained, is different from most of the TNG crowd, who are at BDSM clubs to participate in things like suspensions, needle play, extreme degradation and S&M, pony or puppy play, etc.

2019, Justine Roxanne Leiser, Deviants Performing Deviance: A Participant/Observer Case for BDSM as Performance (doctoral dissertation), University of Colorado, retrieved 2022-02-28:

Many kink communities have a TNG group in their area, and local dungeons will have TNG play party nights where only members who are 18-35 can attend.

2020, Jessica M. W. Kratzer, “Kinky Access: Information Provided to Young Adult Kinksters by ‘The Next Generation’ Groups on Fetlife.com”, in Rachel Kalish, editor, Young Adult Sexuality in the Digital Age, Hershey, Pennsylvania: IGI Global, →DOI, →ISBN, page 199:

(BDSM) Of or pertaining to younger BDSM practitioners, typically under the age of approximately 35 years, especially as a collective.


TNG

Many cities including Madison (Wisconsin), San Francisco, Boston, Vancouver, Columbus (Ohio), Albuquerque, Glendale (Arizona), Tucson, and Austin (TX) also have a TNG.

2009, Jennifer Tyburczy, Exhibiting Sexualities: Pleasure, Power, and Performance in Museums (doctoral dissertation), Evanston, Illinois: Northwestern University, page 294:

TNG was the brainchild of some young adult kinksters entering the BDSM scene in New York and the first one formed there in 1999. Since then TNGs have sprung up nationwide in many major cities.

2015 February 25, Darian, Keiden, Laura, Reese, and Tex, “Kinked Off” (letter to the editor), in Baltimore City Paper Baltimore, Maryland: Baltimore Sun Media Group, retrieved March 2, 2022

TESTNG was one of the first two TNGs to ever exist, which was a sort of, TES is an extremely hierarchical organization and there are all these little sub-organizations within it, so there’s all these branches, you know, and there’s one specifically for women tops or femme tops who have submissive bottoms, there’s one specifically for people who are into master and slave relationships.

2017 March 29, Stella Dance, “NYC TOHP Interview Transcript #036”, interview by Michelle Esther O'Brien, New York City Trans Oral History Project, New York: New York Public Library, retrieved March 2, 2022, page 22

(BDSM) A social club for younger BDSM practitioners, typically for those under the age of approximately 35 years.


SDL

(seduction community) Initialism of same day lay.


penis captivus

(medicine, sexology) The supposed event of a penis trapped by vaginal muscles and unable to withdraw from a vagina during heterosexual intercourse.


paizuri

en-noun

paizuri (countable and uncountable, plural paizuri or paizuris)

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Borrowed from Japanese パイ擦り (paizuri), blend of オッパイ (oppai, “breasts”) + 擦り (suri, “rubbing”).

blend

(Japanese pornography) Synonym of titty fuck.


shit test

shit tests (plural)
shittest (alternative)
shit-test (alternative)

Coleman left and Passow texted him an apology, the Intercept reported. In reply, Coleman said that he was only warming up the car, and added, "I'm sorry baby I failed your shit test."

2020 August 26, Carter Sherman, “Teen Democratic Candidate Aaron Coleman Accused of Choking His Girlfriend”, in VICE, archived from the original on 2023-05-27:

(seduction community, vulgar) A conscious or unconscious challenge posed by a woman to a man to determine his suitability as a romantic or sexual partner consisting of acting in a cold, unfriendly, provocative or otherwise defiant manner and seeing how the man reacts and whether he is able to stay unfazed.


shit test

en-verb

shit test (third-person singular simple present shit tests, present participle shit testing, simple past and past participle shit tested)

shit tests (present singular third-person)
shit testing (participle present)
shit tested (participle past)
shit tested (past)
shittest (alternative)
shit-test (alternative)

This all started because the American accused me of "shit testing" him. I had no idea what he meant so I Googled it, and spent an afternoon in silent wonder.

2014 December 13, Stella Grey, “Online dating: wandering into the manosphere”, in Alan Rusbridger, editor, The Guardian, London: Guardian News & Media, →ISSN, →OCLC, archived from the original on 2021-06-24:

(transitive, seduction community, vulgar) To target with a shit test.


maledom

en-noun

maledom (countable and uncountable, plural maledoms)

From male + dom, short for domination or dominance.

(BDSM, uncountable) Male domination; a sexual practice in which men dominate women or other people.

And these things are better coming from a femsub like her because you so often dismiss criticism from maledoms as proof that they can't take competition.

1997, Anthony & Joy Hilbert, “Attention Joy gets (was: Woofie on Trust)”, in alt.personals.bondage (Usenet):

(BDSM, countable) A male dominator in sadomasochistic sexual practices.


topman

Back in the alcove I watched as a bearded daddy type whipped a guy who was bent over the sawhorse. The topman kept the tip of his tongue poked between his lips like a little kid hard at work in a coloring book.

1989 February 12, Christopher Wittke, “A Leather Belt Is The Perfect Accessory...”, in Gay Community News, volume 16, number 30, page 8:


omorashi

(sexuality) The sexual fetish of arousal from the feeling of having a full urinary bladder or a sexual attraction to someone else experiencing this feeling.


Berkley horse

After Theresa Berkley, its supposed inventor.

(BDSM) A BDSM apparatus consisting of a triangular frame to which a person can be tied for flogging.


pissplay

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We did everything we'd written about, even pissplay. The sex was great, but she was hysteric. She didn't want me to have sex with other women; she left her husband for me. That was a real tragedy, and I learned my lesson.

2000, “Eurydice”, in Satyricon USA: A Journey Across the New Sexual Frontier:

GWM, grn, brn, 41, looking for asian or hispanic that wants to piss all over or in me. Do you live in the San Jose, CA area. Email me. Looking for fun.

1998, Herryass, “PissPlay”, in alt.sex.watersports (Usenet):

(BDSM) Any sexual activity involving urine or urination.


santorum

Campaign for the neologism "santorum"
Dan Savage
Rick Santorum

From the surname of former US Senator Rick Santorum (born 1958). After Santorum made statements comparing homosexuality to bestiality and opining that mutually consenting adults do not have a constitutional right to privacy with respect to sexual acts, US columnist Dan Savage gathered input from his readers and held a contest for definitions to "memorialize the scandal". Savage set up a website which defined the term, and helped to promote it. See Campaign for the neologism "santorum" for further information.
Rick Santorum's surname, in turn, comes from Italian; see Santorum for more.

She wads up the t-shirt, uses it to wipe a trickle of santorum from her ass, and throws it under the cot.

2005, Jack R. Dunn, Hard, archived from the original on 2011-09-12, page 134:

In the “for what it's worth” department, the frothy mixture of lube and fecal matter that is sometimes the byproduct of anal sex is called santorum.
Safety Warning #6: Be particularly cautious where this santorum goes. As previously noted, you don't want to get any fecal matter in the vaginal area. Bad safety risk.

2007, Robert J. Rubel, Squirms, Screams and Squirts: Now you can turn great sex into extraordinary sex, Nazca Plains, →ISBN, →OCLC, →OL, page 65:

Then, one of them broke ranks and rammed his blood-lubed fist straight up my ass and twisted hard, pulled it out and licked the santorum clean.

2008, Richard J. Polney, “A Horrible Night of Research and Erudite Bloodletting”, in Christopher Pierce, editor, Men on the Edge: Dangerous Erotica, Hemdon: StarBooks, →ISBN, →OCLC, →OL, page 38:

Any residents not burned alive in the fires or drowned in the flood will be made to drink a mixture of bodily fluids typically deposited in on the streets during Mardi Gras until death. The mixture should consist of (but is not limited to) sweat, snot, urine, saliva, tears, vomit, sexual fluids, and feces and santorum.

2008, Austen James, Hate Starve Curse: A Disagreeable Man's Search for Nothingness in the Face of Everythingness, 1st edition, Broken Science, →ISBN, →OL, page 30:

I'll fuck you till my dick's dry / Squirt santorum in my eye

2011 April 1, “Booty Sex”, in Icemilk (music), Sofa King Delicious, ASIN B00510PZO0:

(neologism, sex, slang) A frothy mixture of lubricant and fecal matter as an occasional byproduct of anal sex.


NTR

Borrowed from Japanese NTR(エヌティーアール) (enutīāru).

(Japanese pornography, slang) Initialism of netorare.


NTR

en-verb

NTR (third-person singular simple present NTRs, present participle NTRing, simple past and past participle NTRed)

NTRs (present singular third-person)
NTRing (participle present)
NTRed (participle past)
NTRed (past)
ntr (alternative)

(Japanese pornography, slang) To cuckold.


netori

/ˈnɛ.təʊˌɹi/

Borrowed from Japanese 寝取(ねと)り (netori).

(Japanese pornography, slang) A genre of cuckoldry pornography where a protagonist takes away someone else's love interest.


netorare

/ˈnɛ.təʊˌɹɑː.ɹeɪ/

/ˈnɛ.toʊˌɹɑ.ɹeɪ/

Borrowed from Japanese 寝取(ねと)られ (netorare).

(Japanese pornography, slang) A genre of cuckoldry pornography where a protagonist's love interest or close associate is corrupted and taken away by an antagonist.


pedohebephilia

(sexology) Primary or exclusive sexual attraction to prepubescent and pubescent children by an adult.


fireplay

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Many years I attended a BDSM conference where a well-known and respected BDSM master presented a demonstration of fireplay as part of the planned programme.

2009, Peter Masters, This Curious Human Phenomenon:

(BDSM) Any of various sexual practices involving fire, such as setting fire to alcohol against the skin.


ass to mouth

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Acts are classified as 'ass to mouth', or 'ATM' in porn industry language, when 'a man removes his penis from a woman's anus and, without cleaning it, places it in her mouth, or the mouth of another woman

2010, Karen Boyle, Everyday Pornography:

“Anything I want,” you whispered into my ear. “Yes, yes,” I said. “You're going to do ass to mouth next,” you said. “And don't you dare flinch. I have a dirty cock covered in your shit and you're going to suck and lick it clean.

2010, Valerie Gray, the Education Of a Slut:

The list of unsafe (and for many people, distasteful) practices common in porn is lengthy and ever changing. Besides the incredibly trendy ass-to-mouth fetish, there's bottle-fucking, bile-drooling, throat-gagging to the point of vomiting, eye and nasal ejaculation, anal-to-vaginal penetration, anal penetration without lubricant, multiple male "cream pies"...

2005, Russ Kick, Everything you know about sex is wrong: the Disinformation guide to the extremes of human sexuality (and everything in between):

(pornography) A sexual act in which the penis or another object is removed from someone's anus and promptly put into another's mouth.


CTF

en-noun

CTF (countable and uncountable, plural CTFs)

(countable, pornography) Initialism of cock transformation.


double dildo

double dildo (plural double dildos or double dildoes)

double dildos (plural)
double dildoes (plural)

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I get a double dildo and slide it into both openings. She moans with delight and throws her body around and trembles uncontrollably. At this point in my imaginings, I come.

Even the much more staid Shanghai site featured in its display and its pamphlet a double dildo, a penis on each side, purportedly used by lesbians in the sixteenth or seventeenth century.

2007, Paul Rutherford, A world made sexy: Freud to Madonna, page 38:

(slang, sexology) A dildo whose two ends are both designed for penetration.


party and play

Consider Steve, a 32-year-old Latino, someone interviewed as part of a larger study in Long Beach, CA, as he discusses his predilection toward identifying himself as HIV positive in party and play (drug and sex) situations (situations he sees as the essential core of gay cultural life in Long Beach).

2009, Vincent J. Del Casino Jr., “Living with and Experiencing Disease”, in Tim Brown, Sara McLafferty, Graham Moon, editors, A Companion to Health and Medical Geography, →DOI, →ISBN, page 198:

(sexuality) Uninhibited, high-risk sexual activity accompanied by the use of recreational drugs.


PNP

PNP (countable and uncountable, plural PNPs)

(sexuality) Initialism of party and play.


genitorture

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The content of these videos often includes genitorture, tit-torture, bondage, spanking, flagellation (with belts, whips, and canes), water sports[…]

1995, John Robert Burger, One-handed histories: the eroto-politics of gay male video pornography, page 62:

Sounds are sometimes used in SM play for medical scenes and male genitorture.

1996, Bill Henkin, Sybil Holiday, Consensual sadomasochism: how to talk about it and how to do it safely, page 225:

If you have violent fantasies of evil women owning males as absolute property, with such elements as genitorture, castration, amputation, skinning alive, cooking alive, butchering, cannibalism, etc, you owe it to yourself to give Katharsis a look see.

1997, John Randall, “ASFD: F/m males as absolute property owned by women ... torture, genitorture, castration, execution”, in alt.sex.femdom (Usenet):


edge play

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(BDSM) Any sexual activity involving the risk of physical harm, such as bloodplay or asphyxiation.


red wings

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From red + wings, by analogy with an angel obtaining its wings.

Told us all how he got his red wings over the bandstand railings. Her skirt, an umbrella blown inside out, white tights shed to high heels.

2005, Owen Sheers, Skirrid Hill, page 15:

I remember my friend describing his face when he described eating the pussy of a bleeding woman. That he had red wings.

2007, Maggie Nelson, Women, the New York School, and Other True Abstractions, page 194:

He ate that freak-fuck out once when she was on her period and earned his red wings like the animal he was.

2016, Jim Marquez, A Moveable Beast: Tales From L.A. & Beyond, page 81:

(slang, sex) An instance of a male getting menstrual fluid on his face while performing cunnilingus.


shibari

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Borrowed from Japanese 縛(しば)り (shibari).

What if your slave needs to be spanked/caned/flogged to get warmed up before serious rough sex that involves face slapping, but your ideal evening consists of spending an hour or so tying up your slave in an elaborate shibari rope harness and then just sitting there watching him/her twist slowly from the suspension rig?

2006, Robert J. Rubel, Master/Slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice, page 36:

“She's not your subbie, Dominic,” I stated. “You left her hanging in the shibari room last night. […]

2014, Katherine Rhodes, Not Quite Juliet: Silver Soul 1:


singletail

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Velvet also whips him, beats him and torments his cock and balls (by kicking, squeezing or the judicious use of a singletail whip) on a regular basis — as often as he needs and wants, but at least several times a week.

1999, Katharine Gates, Deviant Desires: Incredibly Strange Sex:

Stopping her tapping, Angelica belted the singletail, and grasped Allison's lead pulling her tits up sharply to render her helpless.

2008, Jennifer Campbell, Allison's Training, page 110:


cumdump

cumdumps (plural)
cum dump (alternative)
cum-dump (alternative)

“Me and my guys need ourselves a cumdump for when we go on tour. Some hole who'll keep us entertained on our private plane and take care of our cocks at night – especially numero uno here.”

2007, John Patrick, Come Again, Volume 1, page 61

He couldn't simply enjoy me as his personal cumdump for the past several weeks and not feel a thing, even if the gift was nothing more to give me something to remember him by after he gave me my deserving promotion.

2010, Eric Summers, Big Holiday Packages, page 40

He grunts, pulls out, pulls off and uses the hard stomach below him as a cobblestone cumdump.

(sex) A place or person to ejaculate in, especially a body part or cavity.


bottom bitch

A Bottom Bitch has a social status above the rest of the girls

2002, Bruce Szathmary, Dolly's the Greatest Little Whorehouse in Nevada, →ISBN, page 41:

Now Niki my bottom bitch, she always come up with my bread / The last nigga she was with put stitches in her head

2003, “P.I.M.P.”, in Get Rich or Die Tryin', performed by 50 Cent:

"Then you gon' ride till I die? You gon' be my bottom bitch?" he asked.
"Yes," I responded, although I hadn't the foggiest idea what a bottom bitch was.

2006, Nikki Turner, Tales from Da Hood, →ISBN, page 241:

Although referred to by the title “bottom bitch,” she is the top prostitute on this team, privileged to sit in the front.

2010, Avi Steinberg, Running the Books: The Adventures of an Accidental Prison Librarian, →ISBN:

The top ho is called the “bottom bitch.”

[2010, Vanessa Place, The guilt project: rape, morality, and law, →ISBN:

(slang, prostitution) The most successful prostitute under a particular pimp, who has higher status but more responsibilities.

"I'm your bottom bitch." He pushed his dick back in and started stroking her with everything he had.

2008, Risqué, Red Light Special: A Novel, →ISBN, page 122:

It's fricken' three a.m.; put your dicks back in your pants for the night, or wherever else you choose, because we all know Bailey's the bottom-bitch.

2011, Jaden Lane, If You Could Read My Mind, Xlibris, →ISBN, page 241:

(slang, sex) A particularly submissive sex partner, especially a gay male.


piledrive

en-verb

piledrive (third-person singular simple present piledrives, present participle piledriving, simple past piledrove, past participle piledriven)

piledrives (present singular third-person)
piledriving (participle present)
piledrove (past)
piledriven (participle past)

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So I switched into doggie style, which gives me my piledriving ability, but after a while my knee began to hurt ... I can pile-drive forever, and if I don't go off, what the hell do I care?

1993, Robert J. Stoller, Porn: Myths for the Twentieth Century, page 50:

When she thinks of having him inside her, her pussy grips and pulses like the mouth of a child that hasn't been fed. ... What begins as a languid glide accelerates into the stomping/pounding/piledriving frenzy of a mosh pit.

1996, Maxim Jakubowski, The Mammoth Book of International Erotica, page 570:

He proceeded to piledrive his cock down into me with long, deep strokes, all the time reminding me who was in charge […]

“Ohh!” she squealed as Mark's hips continued to piledrive his prick into her rectum, which now had a loose-floating, rubbery-feeling area involved with the plunging cock-head.

2006, Rod Waleman, The Stepdaughters, page 128:

(sex, slang) To make deep and rapid penetration in the fashion of a piledriver.


cat around

cat around (third-person singular simple present cats around, present participle catting around, simple past and past participle catted around)

cats around (present singular third-person)
catting around (participle present)
catted around (participle past)
catted around (past)

Perhaps referring to the behavior of a cat in heat.

Mrs S. was convinced that any girl who visited a boy in his bedsitter after 10 p.m. was up to no good. 'If you boys want to cat around, okay, but you're not going to do it under my roof! This is a respectable house!' she was fond of saying whenever she suspected we were trying to put one across her - which was practically all the time.

1998, Francis Hugh De Souza, No. 3, Templeton Place, page 171:

Before then, I catted around, ever since the urge came to me. I learned blond hair, blue eyes, an innocent look works with women. I had many girls. I stayed out to all hours. Mother never cared.

2004, Dale Maharidge, Michael Williamson, And their children after them, page 133:

None of them seemed to know that Nikki had been catting around behind Brandon's back with her roommate's boyfriend (thank God).

(slang, sex, intransitive) To engage in sex with various partners; to sleep around; to cheat on a sexual partner.


peacocking

Peacocking may take place in legislatures and lodges, churches and chain stores. But it is particularly evident and bizarre in academia, a world where everyone is supposed to produce logically ordered exchanges of ideas.

1997, Emily Toth, Ms. Mentor's impeccable advice for women in academia, University of Pennsylvania Press, page 66:

Men do it to get attention from women. Peacocking in pickup circles is pretty much a given. It's not for everyone and if you do decide to do it, you have to fully commit to it.

2010, Dag Albright, How to Meet and Pick Up Women, Leisure Crest International, →ISBN, page 85:

While you can decide for yourself if peacocking is your thing or not, I recommend you make a conscious effort to stand out from the crowd when you head out. If you dress like everyone else, you'll just blend into everyone else.

2010, Eric Rogell, The Art of War for Dating:

Brian: Quagmire told us to dress flashy so girls would notice us.
Stewie: Oh, right. Peacocking.

2011 April 10, Tiegs for Two (Family Guy), season 9, episode 14, spoken by Brian and Stewie Griffin (Seth McFarlane):

(seduction community) Ostentatious dress or behaviour employed by a man in an attempt to impress women.


sexual anorexic

en-noun

sexual anorexic (plural sexual anorexics)

(psychology, sexology) A person with sexual anorexia, a physiological loss of sex drive.


keyholder

keyholders (plural)
key holder (alternative)

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(BDSM) A dominant partner who controls whether their submissive partner is able or allowed to orgasm or receive sexual stimulation, typically by locking the submissive partner in a chastity belt or chastity cage.


malesub

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PCT

PCT (countable and uncountable, plural PCTs)

post-coital tristesse
w:post-coital tristesse

(sex) Initialism of post-coital tristesse.


TPE

TPE (countable and uncountable, plural TPEs)

total power exchange
total power exchange#English

(BDSM) Initialism of total power exchange.


humiliatrix

humiliatrix (plural humiliatrixes or humiliatrices)

humiliatrixes (plural)
humiliatrices (plural)

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From Latin humiliātrīx or humiliate + -trix, compare humiliator and dominatrix.

2005 March 27th (4:25am), “aaadoveliz” (user name), alt.personals.spanking (Usenet newsgroup), “thongs, bikini, panties, panty, bikini, stockings, garterbelt TallCenter harvey glory bubba”, Message ID: <85b18095.0503270425.70a037db@posting.google.com>
The high-heeled humiliatrices of Cincinnati.

Miss D, a dominatrix and humiliatrix, who is a regular commentator on a number of sissy blogs

2010, Sally Hines, Tam Sanger, Transgender Identities:

But who was I to judge him I would probably die a miserable death myself for being the dominatrix, the slut buggerer, the forced bi specialist that would make grown men do unthinkable things by sucking each other off, the humiliatrix who would men^([sic]) weak at the knees with her power by forcing them to stick their tongue up my bottom hole and clean it, the woman who could stick stub cigarettes out on a mans^([sic]) chest while cumming all over his face.

2011, Rose Budworth-Levine, Intimate Encounters, page 62:

(BDSM) A dominatrix who specialises in humiliation.


switchy

en-adj

switchy (comparative more switchy or switchier, superlative most switchy or switchiest)

more switchy (comparative)
switchier (comparative)
most switchy (superlative)
switchiest (superlative)

I'm switchier than my boyfriend; I'm fine with either topping or bottoming, whereas he's only comfortable with bottoming.

(sex, slang, BDSM, LGBTQ) Versatile; not exclusively a top or a bottom, or inclined to switch between sadistic and masochistic roles.


gynemimetophilia

(dated, nonstandard, rare, sexology) A sexual attraction to trans women or to men who look and act like women.

(dated, nonstandard, rare, sexology) A sexual attraction to transfeminine individual, or trans woman, who has not had sex reassignment surgery.


event-based

event-based (comparative more event-based, superlative most event-based)

more event-based (comparative)
most event-based (superlative)

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event-based PrEP

For MSM preferring event-based PrEP dosing, the nurse should counsel that this is an off-label use of the medication.

2020, Courtney J Pitts, Sexually Transmitted Infections, An Issue of Nursing Clinics, page 435:

If event-based dosing is recorded in patient records or service registers, efforts must be made to ensure the confidentiality and security of these records, since event-based dosing will identify these clients as men who have sex with men.

2020, World Health Organization, Consolidated HIV strategic information guidelines, page 90:

TDF/FTC has also shown benefit when taken "on demand," or "event-based dosing,” operationalized as two pills on the day of potential exposure through sexual intercourse, and one pill daily up to 72 hours after the last potential exposure.

2024, Shannon C. Miller, Richard N. Rosenthal, Sharon Levy, The ASAM Principles of Addiction Medicine:

(sex) Taken only when sexual activity creates a risk; on demand.


number close

en-verb

number close (third-person singular simple present number closes, present participle number closing, simple past and past participle number closed)

number closes (present singular third-person)
number closing (participle present)
number closed (participle past)
number closed (past)

I number closed her but she flaked.

(seduction community) To end the pickup of a woman by getting her telephone number.


number close

(seduction community) The successful acquisition of a woman's telephone number at the end of a pickup attempt.


sleepsack

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(BDSM) A device resembling a sleeping bag, often fastened with a zipper, that tightly immobilizes the occupant.


ponyplay

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(BDSM) A form of petplay in which one or more players take on the role of a horse or pony, especially as the pet of another.


sarging

en-noun

sarging (usually uncountable, plural sargings)

I noticed you have done a lot of preperation for your sargings and I must say, you learn quickly. My advice is to immediately find another chick or 3 to get to know.

1999 October 20, RE>< Ialt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

Unlike actual tomcat behavioral patterns, presumably sarging does not involve biting a woman on the back of the neck to render her in a kitten-like, docile state before entering her with a barbed, hook-like penis.

2016 October 27, Bethy Squires, “Pick-Up Artists Don't Understand What 'Alpha' Even Means—As Evidenced by Wolves”, in VICE, archived from the original on 2023-06-02:

(seduction community) The act of sarging.


electrosex

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At a command to lift his legs, Savin switched out the plug for another electrosex variety, adding the needed gel to the torpedo-shaped insert.

2010, Michelle Polaris, Magician's Chains, page 216:

He wasn't done using his electrosex toys on Gina. Jacob watched her face as Mike placed one clamp on her right nipple and then her left. She grimaced a bit before writhing around seductively on the table.

2012, Gail Starbright, Slave Girl for Rent, page 43:

(BDSM) Electrostimulation for erotic purposes.


pissboy

(BDSM, slang) A submissive male participant in urolagnia.


top from the bottom

en-verb

top from the bottom (third-person singular simple present tops from the bottom, present participle topping from the bottom, simple past and past participle topped from the bottom)

tops from the bottom (present singular third-person)
topping from the bottom (participle present)
topped from the bottom (participle past)
topped from the bottom (past)

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Aaron didn't appreciate being topped from the bottom, but Joey's voice was so rough Aaron didn't care who was running the show.

2009, K. A. Mitchell, Collision Course, page 97:

“Topping from the bottom is a very bad habit to get into. Perhaps this will break you of it.”

2012, Cara Carnes, Passion's Training, page 71:

(BDSM) To make demands while supposedly in a submissive role.


non-con

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Consensual non-consent
consensual non-consent


panromantic

en-adj

panromantic (comparative more panromantic, superlative most panromantic)

more panromantic (comparative)
most panromantic (superlative)

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As Jessica, a twenty-one year old white woman who self-identifies as a bi- or panromantic asexual describes, […]

2008 October, Kristin S. Scherrer, “Coming to an Asexual Identity: Negotiating Identity, Negotiating Desire”, in Sexualities, volume 11, number 5:

Neth, a 24-year-old from the West Country, describes herself as a "panromantic asexual".

2012 February 26, Rosie Swash, “Among the asexuals”, in The Guardian:

“I feel like it’s really important to say that anyone can be queer,” said Sonja Lund, a sophomore theatre major and panromantic lesbian on panel at the event.

2012, Katie Gossen, "Residence Life defies LGBT stereotypes", The Panther (Chapman University), 22 October 2012

(neologism, sexology) Romantically attracted to people regardless of sex or gender identity.


DHV

As you demonstrate higher value (DHV) to the set and neg the target, attraction is created.

2007 February 6, Erik von Markovik, The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed, St. Martin's Press, →ISBN, →OL, page 88:

You have to telegraph the notion that everyone wants you. It’s all part of a tactic called DHV, or “demonstration of higher value” in pickup parlance.

2008, Faye Flam, The Score: How the Quest for Sex Has Shaped the Modern Man, Penguin Group, →ISBN, →OL, page 31:

“You see, Mother Natures users emotions to enforce certain biological imperatives, and those emotions are triggered by DHVs.”
“Wait, hold on, I’m confused. What do you mean by a DHV?” asked Adam.
“A DHV,” I replied, “is a demonstration of higher value that makes the woman notice that you are of higher value than the average next guy or the last guy.”

2010 January 26, Erik von Markovik, The Pickup Artist: The New and Improved Art of Seduction, New York: Villard, →ISBN, →OL, pages 177–178:

Correct application of DHV lays the foundation for attraction since nearly every woman prefers a guy who is considered a winner.

2011, Benton Miller with Travis Wolfe, The Journal: Man's Quest for the Perfect Match, Moon Planet Publishing, page 27:

(seduction community) Demonstrate higher value / demonstration of higher value.


IOI

If she asks you what your name is, that's an IOI. If she asks you if you're single, that's an IOI. If you take her hands and squeeze them, and she squeezes back, that's an IOI. And as soon as I get three IOIs, I phase-shift.

2005, Neil Strauss, quoting Erik von Markovik, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, Text Publishing Company, →ISBN, →OL, page 151:

She gives you a fake IOI to see if you will start chasing her.

2007 February 6, Erik von Markovik, The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed, St. Martin's Press, →ISBN, →OL, page 129:

Pickup artists must continually gauge their reactions, seeking IOI, or “indicators of interest” from the opposite sex.

2008, Faye Flam, The Score: How the Quest for Sex Has Shaped the Modern Man, Penguin Group, →ISBN, →OL, page 32:

(seduction community) Initialism of indicator of interest.


stylemog

en-verb

stylemog (third-person singular simple present stylemogs, present participle stylemogging, simple past and past participle stylemogged)

stylemogs (present singular third-person)
stylemogging (participle present)
stylemogged (participle past)
stylemogged (past)

Blend of Style (“pseudonym of Neil Strauss in the seduction community”) + AMOG, reportedly coined by Owen "Tyler Durden" Cook.

“What? I just said ‘awesome.’ That’s because I think it’s hilarious. Seriously, I can't wait to read it.”
They all laughed again. Evidently I was Stylemogging them.

2005, Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, Text Publishing Company, →ISBN, →OL, page 292:

Strauss himself created "Stylemogging", a more subtle technique in which one uses barbed compliments to establish oneself as the supreme arbitrator of whatever is under discussion. "You've got better at that, a bit," is apparently a classic Stylemogging comment. At this level, it all starts to get a little scary.

2005 September 3, “Operation pick up”, in The Times, London: News UK, →ISSN, →OCLC, archived from the original on 2020-02-26:

I think what you did was okay. Keep up the good work.

2010 May 25, Bernd Jendrissek, “Re: Anomalous event code: 24052010/1”, in alt.support.shyness (Usenet), message-ID <4dfcf912-ea34-47a6-a636-58037997c7f4@v18g2000vbc.googlegroups.com>:

(seduction community) To patronize or talk down to someone by complimenting them as though from a position of authority on the compliment's subject.


AMOG

So he watched the body language AMOGs used to lower his status in sets; he observed the eye contact they used to signify to girls that he was a creep; he analyzed the way they’d pat him on the back with so much force that he’d lose his balance.

2005, Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, Text Publishing Company, →ISBN, →OL, page 234:

You start the whole thing by approaching a “set,” then pick a “target,” throw her a “neg,” assess her IOIs, use your wingman to help you with a DHV, then, working your way from the final attraction phase, A3, you change location for C1 through C3, always ready to counter her ASD and disarm or escape the AMOG. Who ever said women were the more complicated sex?

2008, Faye Flam, The Score: How the Quest for Sex Has Shaped the Modern Man, Penguin Group, →ISBN, →OL, page 2:

He backs this up with an understanding of how to annihilate an AMOG—the alpha male of a group—with a vital skill known as ‘amogging’ (making them look stupid).

2011, Anouchka Grose, Why Do Fools Fall in Love: A Realist's Guide to Romance, Tin House Books, →ISBN, →OL, page 197:

(seduction community, incel slang) Initialism of alpha male of group.


armbinder

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(BDSM) A restraint that binds the arms together into a single sleeve.


minute man

minute men (plural)
minute-man (alternative)
minuteman (alternative)

(slang, derogatory, sex) A man who reaches orgasm undesirably quickly during sexual intercourse.


ring gag

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(BDSM) A gag with a hollow ring that holds the mouth open.


SSC

(BDSM) Initialism of safe, sane and consensual.


LMR

I figured she'd probably started dating someone else, someone who had been able to break through her LMR.

2005, Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, Text Publishing Company, →ISBN, →OL, page 372:

A woman's LMR threshold may differ from person to person, and a woman's own LMR threshold will change depending on the value of the man she is about to sleep with and other circumstances.

2007 February 6, Erik von Markovik, The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed, St. Martin's Press, →ISBN, →OL, page 200:

The first way around this L.M.R is, if she says, "We shouldn't be doing this", reply, "You are right. This is so bad." And continue kissing.

2012, Greg Dean, Elite Dating Skills: Black Book, Sonic Audio Publishing, →ISBN:

(seduction community) Initialism of last-minute resistance.


shinju

Borrowed from Japanese 真珠, literally "pearl".

(BDSM) The binding of the female breasts.


PUA

Sure, the echoes of PUA raise concerns and I have no doubt Saturday Sarge has its fair share of men just wanting to pick up women for sex (Phil says in the four years he's sarged he's only slept with about 10 – the same amount another sarger says he's slept with in the last six months).

2014 October 18, Gareth May, “Saturday Sarge: meet the men who go hunting for women”, in The Daily Telegraph, London: Telegraph Media Group, →ISSN, →OCLC, archived from the original on 2019-03-01:

Many also did not know that there is a name for men who often use such cruel tactics in pursuit of women: PUAs, or pickup artists.

2019 December 29, Li Yuan, “For China’s Pickup Artists, Sex Is the Goal and Urging Suicide Is a Tactic”, in The New York Times:

(seduction community) Initialism of pickup artist.


Loving

en-proper noun

Loving (countable and uncountable, plural Lovings)

(US, law, sexuality, US politics, informal, uncountable) Ellipsis of Loving v. Virginia, a 1967 U.S. Supreme Court ruling that legalized interacial marriage under the Equal Protection and Due Process; and reaffirmed the existence of a right to privacy under due process following the 14th Amendment.


viriloid

en-adj

viriloid (comparative more viriloid, superlative most viriloid)

more viriloid (comparative)
most viriloid (superlative)

a viriloid woman

(sexology) Having certain aspects of the virile.


fladge

One could find plenty of 'soft fladge' in British porn films […]

2005, Edward Shorter, Written in the Flesh: A History of Desire, page 227:

His honesty was a joy to behold: “I don't know shit about the fladge, son, but my punters can't get enough of it. […]

2011, Nick Urzdown, A Spanking Good Life, page 25:

(BDSM, slang) flagellation (as a sadomasochistic practice), or pornography that depicts it


incel

en-noun

incel (countable and uncountable, plural incels)

Blend of involuntary + celibate. Coined by "Alana" in 1997 on an online forum (originally as invcel). Came to widespread usage in the mid-2010s, chiefly online, but now more widespread.

(uncountable, seduction community, informal) "Involuntary celibacy": the state of being not sexually active despite wishing to be.


incel

People who are 'incel' are often suspected as being gay. It's annoying.

2001 May 30, Gra - gra, “I love you!”, in alt.support.shyness (Usenet):

(seduction community) Not having sexual relations despite wishing to.


sissyfication

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From sissy (“timid or cowardly person”) + -fication.

af

(BDSM) A situation where a submissive is forced to take on a feminine role, that of a sissy.


lavender scare

Lavender is considered a feminine colour, and some male homosexuals act in a feminine manner.

(historical, US, politics, sexuality, LGBTQ, slang) The fear and persecution of homosexuals in the 1950s in the United States.


lezdom

en-noun

lezdom (countable and uncountable, plural lezdoms)

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Similar scenes exist on the Menstruation Sluts.com website which advertises “60 menstruation lezdom photos” and which exploits this same idea, that the forced smelling and tasting of menstrual blood is something particularly abhorrent […]

2012, Lauren Rosewarne, Periods in Pop Culture: Menstruation in Film and Television, page 143:

(BDSM, uncountable) Lesbian domination; a sexual practice in which a lesbian dominates the other woman or women.

(BDSM, countable) A lesbian dominator in sadomasochistic sexual practices.


mamading

Borrowed from Spanish mamada (“blow job”) + -ing.

The story was based on footage taken on a mobile phone and eventually posted on YouTube of a young woman engaged in mamading (the provision of fellatio to multiple strangers) with 24 men in exchange for what she believed to be a free holiday. It transpired that the ‘free holiday’ in question was the name of a drink.

2017, David Harrison, Richard Sharpley, editors, Mass Tourism in a Small World, CABI, →ISBN, page 188:

(sex, slang) A game in bars where young women are encouraged to perform as many public blowjobs in as short a time possible, in return for free alcohol.


man juice

manjuice (alternative)
manjuices (alternative)

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“Thank it for fucking you, for providing with a mouthful (and she giggled) arseful of man juice! That's what you will do for all cocks you serve, boy!”

I need some of your hot man-juice tonight!

Honey, your man juice has been wasted in a lot of tissues.

2013, Jane Livingstone, One With the Wind:


breathplay

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I think it's safe to say that no matter which position one takes on it, breathplay is considered edgeplay.

1998 September 10, M. Shirley Chong, “Re: Bill Majors: my experience--Part Three”, in soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm (Usenet):

These are stated as absolutes, even though we know perfectly well that there IS a level of force that can be applied to the kidney area safely, that restricted ciruclation is perfectly safe for a short time and that breathplay is commenly^([sic]) engaged in with no problem at all.

2006 December 14, Bob King, “Re: Now that you have shot the messenger; WAS: Defining Abuse in Absolute and Total Power Exchange”, in soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm (Usenet):

It even includes the consensual breathplay of faith (Juliette Lewis) and Max Peltier (Tom Sizemore) in Strange Days: Peltier's meta-sadistic crimes notwithstanding, he gave Faith only what she desired, and afterwards her eyes glittered "with sated lust" (Cameron and Cocks 1993).

2013, Lewis Call, BDSM in American Science Fiction and Fantasy, Palgrave, →ISBN, page 25:

(BDSM) Erotic asphyxiation; a sexual practice involving the intentional deprivation of oxygen to the brain, often by means of choking.


knifeplay

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When the professor turned out to be too warped even for my tastes — consensual knifeplay is one thing; drunken gunplay quite another […]

2009, Quince Mountain, “Cowboy for Christ”, in Jeff Sharlet, Peter Manseau, editors, Believer, Beware: First-Person Dispatches from the Margins of Faith, Beacon Press, →ISBN, page 116:

Michael's knifeplay had never aroused him, but that fact had never concerned Jonathan, for Michael had never insisted upon it.

2009, Erastes, Transgressions, Running Press, →ISBN, page 318:

Partly because I loved milder forms of knifeplay but had never taken it as far as I'd fantasized, but mostly because of her.

2014, D. L. King, She Who Must Be Obeyed, Lethe Press, →ISBN, page 106:

(BDSM) A sexual practice involving the use of knives, daggers, or swords for physical and mental stimulation.


painplay

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I do not have much experience with painplay, and am not sure how much I'll be able to take, but I'm prepared to find out.

1996 December 17, k'Shandra, “Reflections on Safewording (long)”, in alt.sex.bondage (Usenet):

I was originally into plain old bondage, but have found that both submission and painplay are things that I can eroticize.

2000 December 24, Sockermom9 [username], “Re: Psycology of BDSM”, in soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm (Usenet):

But I'm curious -- what got you started doing BDSM? What fantasies were intense enough to drive you to try painplay in the first place?

2002 June 24, Janet Hardy, “Re: sub vs bottom”, in soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm (Usenet):

(BDSM) Any sexual practice involving the intentional infliction of pain.


waxplay

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It is much safer to test a few drops from each candle you use for waxplay, than to depend on a rule like "red candles usually burn hotter than white."

1998 March 4, Adrian, “Re: Paraffin (was You Know You're Into Something Kinky When...(YKYISKW))”, in soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm (Usenet):

Oh, a visual digression. My beloved has learned (after all these years, that a great way to weird me out is simply to have me remove my contact lenses before we play. I'm severely nearsighted, so all I see is vaguely colored blobs. It's great with waxplay.

1999 March 15, Lacenlthrs [username], “Re: Fashion fetishes and BDSM”, in soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm (Usenet):

That certainly perked up my ears...I'm *very* partial to waxplay meself. Do I detect another of the KinkyFolk? ;-)

2000 February 19, Jas, “Re: Hello”, in alt.support.childfree (Usenet):

(BDSM) The practice of dripping melted wax onto a person's naked skin (usually from a candle) for sensual and/or sexual stimulation.


topspace

topspace (countable and uncountable, plural topspaces)

topspaces (plural)
top space (alternative)
top-space (alternative)

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From top (“dominant”) + space (“state of mind”).

compound

Most of the time I take care of other people, and when I get into topspace I just like to be selfish and "cruel".

2001 October 8, Laura Goodwin, “Re: Fantasy role play”, in soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm.femdom (Usenet):

He'd been so far into topspace during the scene that he hadn't noticed when the Overseer had arrived, but the cabrón stood there now.

2011, Cherise Sinclair, To Command and Collar, Loose Id, →ISBN:

“Topspace, but never subspace. The two are very different. I have to apologize. Now I know what you and Jonathan went through, and I feel closer to you after the experience.”

2012, Laci Paige, The Silken Edge, →ISBN:

(BDSM) The psychological state of the dominant or top during sadomasochistic activity.


andromimetic

From andro- + mimetic. Literally “male mimic”.

(dated, nonstandard, rare, sexology) Transmasculine.


andromimetic

An andromimetic...is the counterpart of a gynemimetic. He lives full-time as a man. If he has access to male hormone and undergoes hormonal masculinization, it is more likely than not that he will seek hysterectomy and breast removal...

1988, John Money, Gay, Straight, and In-between: The Sexology of Erotic Orientation, →ISBN, page 98:

(dated, nonstandard, rare, sexology) A transmasculine individual or trans man.


hit the wall

en-verb

hit the wall (third-person singular simple present hits the wall, present participle hitting the wall, simple past and past participle hit the wall)

hits the wall (present singular third-person)
hitting the wall (participle present)
hit the wall (participle past)
hit the wall (past)

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Don't tell Heather Locklear. She won't be able to hear you anyway, as she is over forty and will have to turn up her hearing aid. By the way, please note that, according to urbandictionary.com, men don't hit the wall.

2014, Lisa Scottoline, Francesca Serritella, Have a Nice Guilt Trip, page 50:

N. L. Shraman, How to Seduce a Girl? The Science of Seduction
Ninety percent of girls hit 24, they hit the wall; 25 they hit the wall because they don't care take care of themselves. They don't know any better because they hit their peak so young.

(informal, idiomatic, seduction community) Of a woman: to lose her physical attractiveness through growing older.


lesbian bed death

Coined by University of Washington sociologist Pepper Schwartz in her 1983 book American Couples.

(LGBTQ, sexology) A supposed phenomenon by which lesbian couples in committed relationships have less sex than any other type of couple, and generally experience less sexual intimacy the longer the relationship lasts.


shotacon

en-noun

shotacon (usually uncountable, plural shotacons)

shotacons (plural)
shotakon (alternative)

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From Japanese ショタコン (shotakon). By surface analysis, shota + -con (“abnormal sexual attraction”).

surf

The term shota-con is a variant of the term loli-con for "Lolita complex" comics, a genre of porn comics for men featuring young girls. Shota is a common Japanese boy's name, thus shota-con indicates porn comics featuring young boys.

2004 Deborah Shamoon, "Porn Studies", page 101

Lolicon or Lolicom is a contraction of "Lolita Complex," an unhealthy interest in underage girls exemplified by the Lolita Anime. Its rarer male variant is Shotacon.
Shotacon is a contraction of “Shotaro Complex,” or an unhealthy obsession with little boys. It is said to derive from the boyish good looks of Shotaro Kaneda, the protagonist of GIGANTOR

2006 Jonathan Clements, Helen McCarthy A Guide to Japanese Animation Since 1917 page 31

(uncountable, Japanese pornography) A sexual complex where an adult is attracted to young, typically prepubescent boys, or the fictional depictions thereof.

(countable, Japanese pornography) An individual with such a fixation.

(uncountable, Japanese pornography) Erotic or suggestive art, manga, anime, or other media featuring underage boys.


ABDL

en-noun

ABDL (countable and uncountable, plural ABDLs)

/ˌeɪ ˌbiː ˌdiː ˈɛl/

(uncountable, sexuality) Sexual practices involving paraphilic infantilism, or sexual arousal that stems from pretending one is an infant through the use of diapers and other paraphernalia.


raceplay

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Her response to the off-topic remarks on "raceplay" is a somewhat somewhat^([sic]) elliptical reply that Avatar T is "very knowledgeable about Japanese culture, and feels she's learned a lot by exploring racial embodiment here."

2012, Sharon Collingwood, “Feminist Teaching in Virtual Worlds: Development Of A Pedagogy”, in Sharon Collingwood, Alvina E, Quintana, & Caroline J. Smith, editor, Feminist Cyberspaces: Pedagogies in Transition, Cambridge Scholars Publishing, →ISBN, page 283:

Hot historical plantation slavery fantasies & super fun modern slavery videos for you dirty apes into raceplay, racial humiliation

2012 September 18, zombieG, “Raceplay for niggers, plantation slavery fantasies”, in alt.sex.fetish.feet (Usenet):

College, nah. Lesbian, nah. Interracial....maybe some raceplay...he keeps looking, unsure of what he's in the mood for tonight.

2014, “Anonymous”, in Christina Escamilla, editor, 64 Deaths: An Anthology, →ISBN:

(BDSM) A form of sexual roleplay in which the players act out racially charged situations, such as interracial master–slave relationships.


findom

findom (countable and uncountable, plural findoms)

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This includes public humiliation, findom, blackmail, hardcore cock and ball torture, bloodletting, cutting, edgeplay and so on.

2008, Hardcore mistress, “****DOMINATRIX BUSTS YOUR BALLS WITH A ROCK**** 75162”, in alt.sex.telephone.alt (Usenet):

Your money is much better spent on a FinDom Phone Sex Goddess Taryn.

2011, Chris, “I will OWN you”, in alt.sex.femdom (Usenet):

“The kind of domination I'm looking for isn't spankings or boot licking,” Maxwell went on. “As my screen name indicated, the kind of control I'm looking for is something calling^([sic]) 'findom'. […] I get sexual gratification from having someone, a woman preferably, taking control of my finances and spending my money as she sees fit.

2014, Helena Shaw, Maxed Out: A New Adult Billionaire Romance, page 17:

financial domination
financial domination#English

(BDSM, uncountable) Synonym of financial domination.

(BDSM, countable) A dominant who practices financial domination.


gift giver

It is difficult to say exactly how many people are intentionally spreading HIV, but in any given week, in the San Francisco Bay Area personals section of Craigslist, it is not unusual to find at least a couple of personal ads by bug chasers or gift givers.

2016 November 30, Joseph Channing, “An Undercover Look Inside the World of HIV Bug Chasers and Gift Givers”, in SF Weekly:

(slang, sexuality) A sexual partner who transmits HIV to a bug-chaser.


Florentine flogging

(BDSM) A two-handed style of flagellation involving the rhythmic use of a pair of matching floggers, one in each hand.