JOI

2014, Erotic Girl 4 ALL Your Pleasures, “Are You SERIOUS About EDGING? JOI ? CEI ? Let's See How Much Will Power You Have”, in alt.penthouse.sex.femdom (Usenet):

2015, Humiliate You, “Are You A Little Dick Man?? WANT Little Dick Humiliation - JOI with A Side of CEI”, in alt.sex.femdom (Usenet):

(BDSM) Initialism of jerk-off instructions: written or recorded instructions directing someone to masturbate.


blow jobber

blow jobbers (plural)
blowjobber (alternative)
blow-jobber (alternative)

(sexuality, vulgar, slang) Someone who performs fellatio (blowjobs).


asslicky

en-adj

asslicky (comparative more asslicky, superlative most asslicky)

more asslicky (comparative)
most asslicky (superlative)

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(pornography, LGBTQ) Of, pertaining to, or performing ass licking.


chemsex

But of course, not all chemsex enthusiasts will look worse for wear – just as not all alcoholics will be found on a park bench.

2015 November 5, Zoe Cormier, “Chemsex: how dangerous is it?”, in The Guardian:

I have redonned my jeans, but the atmosphere at the next place will not require me to wear anything more than my underwear at most. We are going to a chemsex party.

2017, James Wharton, Something for the Weekend, Biteback Publishing, →ISBN:

(sexuality) Sexual intercourse under the influence of recreational drugs.


tamakeri

(Japanese pornography) A sexual fetish and subgenre of pornography based around the physical abuse of a man's testicles.


foodplay

Those of us who enjoy foodplay suggest a waterproof tarp (with a "sacrificial" sheet over it if the tarp feels unpleasant)--followed by a bath.

2000, Conrad Hodson, “How do I *stop* being a sex negative twit?”, in soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm (Usenet):

I'll be discussing aphrodisiacs in detail in Chapter 10 but don't forget just how sensational food-play can be during foreplay. Try feeding each other when you're eating something creamy like chocolate mousse.

(sexuality) The use of foods during sexual or erotic activity.


fuckslave

(sexuality, vulgar) Somebody who is obligated to serve the sexual desires of somebody else.


deep-throater

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She was an exquisite deep-throater. I could actually feel the very back of her throat; a mildly strange but not entirely unpleasant sensation which aroused me even more.

2006, Gerrie Lim, In Lust We Trust: Adventures in Adult Cinema, page 1952:

Well, she was a deep-throater, took it all the way in.

2008, Tennessee Williams, Annette J. Saddik, The Traveling Companion and Other Plays, page 99:


stealthing

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2012 'Poz' lover lied to fulfill fantasy
However it’s hard to tell the truth from fantasy in the chats, which don’t include Boone talking of killing anyone, defence lawyer Ian Carter put to Lapointe. “During these hundreds of pages as part of that sexual fantasy of chasing, stealthing, pozzing or whatever you want to call it, he never indicates he wants to kill anyone?” Ian Carter asked her. “That’s correct,” said Lapointe, noting Boone does talk about giving people HIV and people dying of the disease.

2017, Stealthing: Man explains why he takes off his condom during sex, The Independent
He doesn’t see stealthing as breaking an agreement made before sex and seems not to care at all about violating the rights of his partner

2017, Stealthing isn’t a ‘sex trend’. It’s sexual assault – and it happened to me, The Guardian
“Stealthing” is the pop culture name to describe a “new sex trend” reported to be “on the rise”. It refers to the act of deliberately removing a condom during sex without your partner’s knowledge or consent.

(sexuality) The practice of removing a condom during sex, without a partner's knowledge or consent.


IOD

(seduction community) Initialism of indicator of disinterest.


titty fuck

(sexuality, vulgar) Alternative form of tit fuck.


titty fuck

en-verb

titty fuck (third-person singular simple present titty fucks, present participle titty fucking, simple past and past participle titty fucked)

titty fucks (present singular third-person)
titty fucking (participle present)
titty fucked (participle past)
titty fucked (past)


tittyfuck

(slang, sexuality, vulgar) Alternative form of tit fuck.


tittyfuck

tittyfuck (third-person singular simple present tittyfucks, present participle tittyfucking, simple past and past participle tittyfucked)

tittyfucks (present singular third-person)
tittyfucking (participle present)
tittyfucked (participle past)
tittyfucked (past)


buttslut

buttsluts (plural)
butt slut (alternative)

(sexuality, slang, vulgar) Somebody who frequently craves anal sex.

persehuora

vulgar slang: somebody who frequently craves anal sex


SMV

en-noun

SMV (countable and uncountable, plural SMVs)

When alpha male podcasters and bloggers boast that “Men’s Peak SMV is Age 37”, I agree.

2024 February 1, “When Men’s Dating Options Hit The Wall”, in Salt Lake Single Guy, archived from the original on 2024-12-26:

sexual market value
sexual market value#English

(seduction community) Initialism of sexual market value.


heterosex

heterosex (usually uncountable, plural heterosexes)

From hetero- + sex. Attested since the 20th century.

These [gay] characters will not accept the past solutions of heterosexual society. They will not commit suicide, nor will they seek salvation in heterosex.

1980 April 12, David Roggensack, “The Thing of Shapes to Come”, in Gay Community News, page 15:


manlet

But, let’s not limit our options here: there are some taller manlets on this list, because their manlet energy is just unbeaten, regardless of their height.

2022 February 5, Various Authors, “What’s a ‘Manlet’? Recounting some of Fandom’s Finest Weird Guys”, in QSO Media:

(derogatory, seduction community) A short man, especially a muscular one.


*(Sex): By analogy with 69, a mutual oral sex position.
*(Food): An antonym of 86 (“to temporarily remove an item from the menu”) via a reversal of the numbers.

(sexology, slang, uncommon) A sex position in which one partner lays on top of the other, with their genitalia facing the other partner's head, in order for said partner to perform oral sex.


en-verb

68 (third-person singular simple present 68s, present participle 68ing, simple past and past participle 68ed)

(sexology, slang, uncommon) To have sex in the 68 position.


cummie

cummies (plural)
cumie (alternative)
comie (alternative)

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The butt plug began to throb again, and I could feel the tube sucking my cummies out of me, over and over.

2007, Mako Allen, Auntie Eva's Boarder, page 107:

o,what I'm going to do is take away the privilege of having baby cummie time, and that means no cummies whatsoever at nap-time or bedtime.

2015 November 13, Slutty Whores, alt.sex.phone.ads (Usenet), retrieved 2016-07-19:

That's a good little boy, shoot all your cummies on mommy's favorite dress while we have Peeking Phone Sex.

2016 June 18, NO LIMITS PHONE SEX, “NO CUMMIES FOR A NAUGHTY BABY! ~ALLISON1-855-999-8469”, in alt.sex.phone.ads (Usenet), retrieved 2016-07-19:

I diaper myself or she helps Diaper me and sometimes I get to wet them, she knows I like that. And she whispers in my ear that "baby wants to make a cummie in his Diapers […]

2019, Michael Bent, Rosalie Bent, Understanding Adult Babies: Their Psychology and Lifestyles:

(BDSM, hypocoristic, usually in the plural) An emission of semen or female ejaculate, used especially in the context of ageplay roleplay.


subby

en-adj

subby (comparative more subby, superlative most subby)

more subby (comparative)
most subby (superlative)

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"That means a lot of people will either be very Dommy or very subby. You need to deal with both, and honestly right now you don't seem able to handle that.” I took in the serious face and lack of pushiness and frowned.

2013 June 24, Livia Olteano, Blitzkrieg Love, Simon and Schuster, →ISBN:

The sub wasn't acting very subby, and the wanna-be dom was looking more like a switch. For that matter, so was the sub. Or former sub. Well, whatever he is, it wasn't what Master Thomas needed. Master Thomas is clearly all dom.

2015 September 16, Bailey Bradford, Gacy Grant, Racheline Maltese & Erin McRae, Cassandra Murphy, S.E. O'Connor, Charles Payseur, CB Potts, Torrance Sené, Dawn M. Sooy, T. Strange, Angelique Voisen, Exchange of Power Anthology, Torquere Press, LLC, →ISBN:

That pretty little sub, Kelly, who'd been with Master Thomas for months, was laughing and flirting — […] Kelly wasn't acting very subby, […]

2017 November 21, Bailey Bradford, Exchange, Totally Entwined Group (USA+CAD), →ISBN:

(BDSM, slang) Submissive (in regard to BDSM roles).


DD/LG

(BDSM) Initialism of daddy dom/little girl: a paraphilia involving ageplay between older male and younger female personas.


CMNF

Initialism of clothed male, naked (or sometimes nude) female.

For quotations using this term, see Citations:CMNF.

(BDSM) A form of sexual roleplay in which the players act out situations in which the man wears clothes but the woman is naked.


ambiphilic

(sexuality) Having a teleiophilic attraction to both men and women.


PMV

en-noun

PMV (countable and uncountable, plural PMVs)

(pornography) Initialism of porn music video or pornographic music video, a fan-made video clipshow of pornography set to music.


two set

(seduction community) Two women who are out together socially, and one of whom the pickup artist wishes to isolate and seduce.


flat cracker

flat crackers (plural)
flatcracker (alternative)

"But she didn't associate much. You could see right away she was a flat cracker." A flat cracker, explains Cannonball, is a lesbian.

1994, Delores Kennedy, On a Killing Day, New York: S.P.I. Books, →ISBN, page 47:


phallophilia

The cosmophobic equivalent of erotic phallophilia (male homosexuality) is erotic phallophobia, that is, the fear of homosexuality, specifically of passive homosexuality, which is closely related to androphobic shame in men.

1972, Samy Mokhtar Abdel Malik, The Conquest of Cosmophobia, Roseneath Scientific Publications, →ISBN, page 314:

Fetta did seem upset and appeared to have a case of phallophobia, commingled, I thought, with a splash of phallophilia because he seemed miffed about instances of exposed male genitalia in some of my publications.

2011, Ed Sanders, Fug You, Hachette Books, →ISBN:

Say hello to a phalanx of fellows whose phallophilia lies fallow on the hollow feather pillow.

2020, Dominic Pettman, The Humid Condition, Punctum Books, →ISBN, page 44:

(sexuality) A sexual attraction to penises.


intergen

(slang, pornography) Intergenerational; featuring participants whose ages differ greatly.


femsub

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reality pornography

(pornography) A genre of pornography with staged scenes, usually shot in cinéma vérité fashion, that set up sexual encounters.


small penis syndrome

(psychology, sexology) An anxious belief that one's own penis size may be smaller than average.


kinbaku

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Borrowed from Japanese 緊縛 (“tight binding”).

(BDSM) A Japanese style of bondage that involves tying a person up using simple yet visually intricate patterns, usually with several pieces of thin rope.


Griswold

Griswolds (plural)
Griswood (alternative)
Griswald (alternative)

(US, law, sexuality, US politics, informal, uncountable) Ellipsis of Griswold v. Connecticut, a 1965 U.S. Supreme Court case that legalized contraception, allowing access to contraceptives for married couples; and reaffirmed the existence of a right to privacy under due process following the 14th Amendment.


electroplay

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(BDSM) sexual activity involving electric shock


adult baby

(sexuality, ABDL) A person who has a paraphilia involving role-playing a regression to an infant-like state, wearing diapers, etc.


diaperism

(sexuality) A fetish for wearing diapers, part of autonepiophilia.


pornosexual

(sexology) A person who prefers pornography to actual sex.


pornosexuality

(sexology) The preference of pornography over actual sex.


paypig

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From pay + pig, possibly with a suggestion of piggy bank.

financial domination
financial domination

(BDSM, slang) The submissive participant in financial domination, who provides another person with money.


meat rod

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butt-munching

butt munching (alternative)
buttmunching (alternative)

(sexuality, slang) Synonym of anilingus.


mammalingus

(rare, sexuality) Oral stimulation of the woman’s breast.


RACK

risk-aware consensual kink
w:risk-aware consensual kink

(BDSM) Initialism of risk-aware consensual kink.


spider gag

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The projections are supposed to resemble a spider's legs.

(BDSM) A ring gag with a number of curved projections to prevent it from turning in the wearer's mouth.


average frustrated chump

average frustrated chump (plural average frustrated chumps)

Wryly admitting his afc status (average frustrated chump), Mr Strauss logs on as Style, achieves pua stardom and becomes role model and tutor to a new generation of afcs.

2005, The Economist - Volume 377, Issues 8446-8458, page 92:

I've successfully transformed myself from an AFC (Average Frustrated Chump) into an RAFC (Recovering Average Frustrated Chump).

2008, Zander Martin, The Players, →ISBN, page xxxvi:

My problem was the same as every other average frustrated chump (AFC).

2015, Trina Boice, Base Hits and Home Run Relationships: What Women Wish Guys Knew, →ISBN:

Though I knew my new mind-set was seriously warped, I felt more ethical in many ways as a pickup artist than I had been as an average frustrated chump.

2015, Allie Borden, The Celibacy Project:

(seduction community, derogatory) Someone who does not get as much sex as they want.


beta orbiter

... who, despite his money, spends most of his time as beta orbiter to a woman named Daisy whom he met in Army training. Gatsby spends his money on lavish parties he doesn't attend at a house he bought across from Daisy's ...

2018, Felix Biederman, Matt Christman, Brendan James, Will Menaker, Virgil Texas, The Chapo Guide to Revolution: A Manifesto Against Logic, Facts, and Reason, Simon and Schuster, →ISBN, page 216:

(slang, derogatory, seduction community, neologism) A person who accommodates or mingles with others in the hope of eventually getting sex.


AFChick

I am an AFChick (female version of "average f*cking chump") who has been lurking, posting, dodging, and lurking again for a few months now.

1999 December 28, Janice Graham, “Does saying belowme really work?”, in soc.men (Usenet):

I figured that I wasn't going to ever break out of AFChick status unless I beared^([sic]) a little constructive pain and stuck with it.

2000 January 6, The Fair Penitent, “Smelling funny? (Re: interesting airplane ride... )”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

One of them is already for a long time member of the lesbian/feminazi scene here, and for I can tell most of them are way beyond the AFChick stage and hearing about some of them trying to act like an "alpha female" was sooooo pathetic...

2000 February 13, Boris, “Women as AFChicks”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

average frustrated chump
average frustrated chump

(seduction community, slang) A female average frustrated chump.


AFCdom

And I think this is CENTRAL to AFCdom getting perpetuated in our society. Chicks are unaware of what they want, announcing all the time that they want things that are different from what they actually respond to.

2001 July 1, Final D, “Failure Report”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

That reaction would fit my personality, and I'd have the added benefit of it being a neg, (makes her feel a *little* silly for thinking I would), while at the same time showing her that I'm so far removed from AFCdom that it didn't even occur to me buying a drink was an option.

2001 September 5, Bet For A Living, “Can't buy drinks?”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

Are you trying to drag us back into the middle ages of AFCdom?

2006 July 1, Bernd Jendrissek, “A Jim Summers Update”, in alt.support.shyness (Usenet):

(seduction community) The state or condition of being an AFC.


AFCness

I will admit that I was having difficulty understanding the gist of the thread in general since you all were talking about female AFCness in ways that I have not considered.

2000 February 13, Zipjack, “Women as AFChicks”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

AFCness is an addiction, in that it's a detrimental state that creates a certain sense of security in the short term, does not benefit the addict in the long term, but a dependency on that state is very difficult to get rid of.

2001 October 31, FinaliDentity, “Thanks for everything in this NG - but I just aren't a "player" guys!”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

AFCness is a very resilient disease. I've heard of many cases where it seemed to be in total remission, but then came back with a vengeance.

2006 June 24, Czouch, “About to suffer info overload”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

(seduction community) The state of being an AFC.


WBAFC

I guess this shows that even WBAFC's aren't completely clueless. :)

2001 July 30, TSntana97, “Why alt.seduction.fast is not for me (long)”, in alt.support.shyness (Usenet):

The Last Seduction [snip of a long, pointless post by a WBAFC who needs a spanking]

2002 October 15, Vince Runza, “seduction by AFC signs - VERY HELPFUL?”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

The only "special" status I've claimed on ASF so far is that I am/was WBAFC. I'm not sure I'd say I'm WBAFC anymore.

2006 December 28, speeding, “Is speeding any better than gordo???”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

(seduction community slang) Initialism of way-below-average frustrated chump.


BAFC

Don's a BAFC.

1997 August 29, Ross Jeffries, “Ross Special Offer (Paul Ross)”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

Im not sure where to begin, I am a BAFC (below average frustrated chump), Im 33 and have only gotten laid by two different girls (purely by accident, dont think i had anything to do with it)

2000 April 13, brother_...@my-deja.com, “hi Im new, please flame me.”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

I'm realizing now what a BAFC I was before I found this place 5 months ago.

2001 September 6, Wintermute, “Thanks ASF!”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

(seduction community slang) Initialism of below-average frustrated chump.


ride high

en-verb

ride high (third-person singular simple present rides high, present participle riding high, simple past and past participle rode high)

rides high (present singular third-person)
riding high (participle present)
rode high (participle past)
rode high (past)

* Possibly an allusion to one who rides on horseback in an upright, proud, commanding manner.

(idiomatic, slang, sex) To perform the coital alignment technique.


footslut

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(BDSM, slang) A submissive who has a foot fetish.


mammaphilia

(rare, sexuality) Attraction to a woman’s breasts.


Eisenstadt

en-proper-noun

Eisenstadt (countable and uncountable, plural Eisenstadts)

(US, law, sexuality, US politics, informal, uncountable) Ellipsis of Eisenstadt v. Baird, a 1972 U.S. Supreme Court case that expanded legalized contraception, expanding access to contraceptives to unmarried couples, and effectively legalized premarital sex, under the Equal Protection Clause following the Griswold ruling; and reaffirmed the existence of a right to privacy under due process following the 14th Amendment.


ekiben

Borrowed from Japanese 駅弁(えきべん) (ekiben).

(sex) A sex position which consists of one participant carrying the other while penetrating them.


BMWW

It includes a reluctant husband way out of his depth, BMWW (black man, white woman) sex and interracial breeding of a hotwife. There's some BDSM (bondage, gags). This is intense erotica, for adults only.

(sexuality) Initialism of black man, white woman.


Princeton rub

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...but the clean young things digging it all as their birthright may rub off on you. (You know, Uncle, the Princeton Rub?)

1971, John Francis Hunter, The Gay Insider:

I have enjoyed both serial and mutual, simultaneous fellatio, anal intercourse, mutual masturbation, even, at times, the 'Princeton Rub.'

1982, Barry Gifford, Landscape with traveler: the pillow book of Francis Reeves, →ISBN, page 47:

BOOM BOOM: (To CEIL, referring to SIDNEY) What did the closet queen say? CEIL: Something about the Princeton rub.

1983, Doric Wilson, Doric Wilson's Street Theater, →ISBN:

(sexuality, LGBTQ) Sexual stimulation from rubbing one's penis against another man; homosexual frottage.


devil's doorbell

en-noun

devil's doorbell (plural devil's doorbells)

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A sinner like me who uses her fingers for “ringing the devil[’]s doorbell” has trouble actually determining whether these moms are in on the joke.

2015 November 11, Wannabee Blunt, “How often do you ring the devil's doorbell?”, in Blunt Moms:

I agreed to review this anthology entirely because “the devil’s doorbell” is the best euphemism for “clitoris” I’ve ever heard in my entire life.

2016 May 3, Caroline Russomanno, “The Devil's Doorbell”, in All About Romance:

“Because we talked about it on the playground,” Molly quipped, “right after we discussed what happens when you ring the devil's doorbell.”[…]
“Oh.” Lauren finally got it. “Is that what kids nowadays call it? I feel old because we just called it the clit—”

2017, Robert J. Crane, Unearthed, page 111:


rosebudding

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(slang, sex) The action or practice of letting one's rectum prolapse from the anus as an extreme sexual practice.


suicide suspension

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So called because the suspended person has the appearance of a person who has hanged themselves.

(BDSM) The act of suspending a person upright by means of hooks placed in the flesh of the upper back.


full service

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“What's within reason?” “Hand-job, blow-job, full sex — straight, full service. Greek, maybe, if you're not too big. Golden shower, if you like, but not reverse. No hardsports. And absolutely nothing without.”

2012, Maxim Jakubowski, The Best British Crime Omnibus:

(sex, euphemistic) In prostitution, full sexual activity including penetration.


bio-sex

bio-sex (countable and uncountable, plural bio-sexes)

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(biology, sex) Biological sex (an individual's anatomical sex at birth, which may not correlate to gender identity).


doggy dinner bowl look

doggy dinner bowl look (plural doggy dinner bowl looks)

doggy dinner bowl looks (plural)
DDBL (alternative initialism)

Presumably an allusion to the expectant gaze of a dog waiting for its owner to put food in its bowl.

She smiles, laughs, has a doggy-dinner-bowl look.

2004, Tony Click, The Layguide: How To Seduce Women More Beautiful Than You Ever Dreamed Possible, unnumbered page:

She began to give me the doggy dinner-bowl look, as the PUAs call it. It is the look that is the goal of any approach. Her eyes glazed over, her pupils dilated, and she just watched my lips move, entranced and attracted.

2005, Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, page 154:

CJ tries to use a Doggy Dinner Bowl look on me, saying, 'Pete, I can't let her see me like this, she'll think I'm some kind of pervert. You gotta meet her, say I'm sick, really sorry, all that shit.'

2008, Zander Martin, The Players, page 258:

(informal, seduction community) A look of rapt attention, expectation, or excitement, seen as a sign of romantic interest or pleading.


buttplay

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butt-play (alternative)
butt play (alternative)

(sex, may be considered vulgar) Stimulation of the anus or anal region, usually for the purpose of sexual gratification.


spitters are quitters

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“I'm going to come. You need to stop unless you want me to do it in your mouth.” His voice was ragged and he was coming undone and I was thinking maybe I wasn't so bad at this after all and then his hand tightened on the back of my head and it was too late. I swallowed and then grinned up at him. “Spitters are quitters.” I rose to my feet as he collapsed on the bed again.

2013, Chelsea M. Cameron, Sweet Surrendering, →ISBN:

She takes it in her mouth almost reflexively. She sucks and jerks simultaneously. There's no way I can hold back. Ninety seconds of this and I've exploded all up in her throat. She swallows. Like a champion. Spitters are quitters.

2015, Caspar Vega, The Sexorcism of Amber Holloway:

(sex, informal, vulgar) It is better to swallow a sexual partner's semen after oral sex than to spit it out.


meat shot

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(pornography, slang) A close-up of the genitalia of one or more performers.


ENF

ENF (countable and uncountable, plural ENFs)

Initialism of embarrassed, naked (or sometimes nude) female.

init

(uncountable, BDSM) A form of sexual roleplay in which a woman acts out situations in which she is accidentally, unintentionally, unwillingly, or reluctantly naked and consequently embarrassed, ashamed, or humiliated.

(uncountable) Pornography depicting such a situation.

(countable, rare) The woman in such a situation.


consensual non-consent

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Consensual non-consent describes engaging in behaviors that may include role-playing nonconsensual behaviors, or may involve negotiating sexual behaviors where one partner agrees to give up consent during certain behaviors or relationships.

2021 February 2, David J. Ley Ph.D., “Consensual Non-Consent: Exploring Challenging Boundaries”, in Psychology Today (article), retrieved 2025-01-05:

(BDSM) A mutual agreement between partners to be able to act as if sexual consent has been waived; for example, rape roleplay.


con-non-con

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consensual non-consent
consensual non-consent#English

(BDSM) Clipping of consensual non-consent.


SPH

en-noun

SPH (countable and uncountable, plural SPHs)

small penis humiliation
small penis humiliation#English

(BDSM, Internet slang) Initialism of small penis humiliation.


COF

[…]PSE (porn star experience) means you up the ante a bit in the bedroom with a bit of COF, Spanish, Tromboning, CIM, maybe even CIMWS (never my thing)—and for the really adventurous, Greek[…]

2017, Samantha X, Back on Top: Confessions of a High-Class Escort, Hachette, →ISBN:

(prostitution slang) Initialism of cum on face.


little space

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(BDSM, ABDL, neologism) The state of mind a little enters when they are comfortable engaging in ageplay.


funishment

funishment (countable and uncountable, plural funishments)

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[…] when punishment turns into “funishment”, and the Minuscule starts “acting out” in order to have some desired masochistic play.

2014, Raven Kaldera, Sabrina Popp, Unequal By Design: Counseling Power Dynamic Relationships:

(BDSM, countable, uncountable) A "punishment" administered for the enjoyment of the submissive, rather than as discipline.


gooning

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Explanations of "gooning" often reference accessing a primal, implicitly male state of sexual excitement and indulgence, a kind of physical speaking in tongues through masturbation.

2018 July 18, John Sherman, “Why Some Guys Like Jerking Off Together”, in BuzzFeed News, archived from the original on 2022-08-18:

Edging, gooning's close cousin, is a bit more time-consuming and involved, but it comes with the promise of a more powerful and gratifying ejaculation at the end.

2020 November 21, Michael Stahl, “The Psychedelic Science of 'Gooning' — Or Masturbating Into a Trance”, in MEL Magazine, archived from the original on 2022-07-03:

So, if you're in need of a legal, au naturel way of improving your meat-beating, have you considered gooning or mindgasms?

2021 September 8, Ian Lecklitner, “Reddit's Quest for the Perfect Fap Drug”, in MEL Magazine, archived from the original on 2022-09-24:

While gooning can be perfectly healthy for those who can exercise self-control and have their sessions in moderation, some aspects of the larger gooning culture can quickly become problematic.

2022 October 3, Lauren Beller, “G is for Gooning”, in Medium, archived from the original on 2022-12-22:

She adds that the two main quirks she noticed among her OnlyFans followers were "foot fetish stuff" and "gooning".

2022 November 20, Michael Moran, “OnlyFans star Angela White tells all about money, 'gooners' and foot fetishists”, in The Daily Star, archived from the original on 2022-12-22:

(BDSM) A form of masturbation that involves edging ("maintaining sexual arousal without reaching orgasm") for a long period of time, resulting in a hypnotic, trance-like state. This is sometimes enhanced with a drug, such as amyl nitrite, nitrous oxide, marijuana, or methamphetamines.


magic sauce

magic sauce (countable and uncountable, plural magic sauces)

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cum swapping

Another relatively new twist is "cum swapping," where a woman passes the semen into the mouth of another woman.

2010, Gail Dines, Pornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality, Beacon Press, →ISBN, page 18:

This might include giving a man a handjob and smearing his cum on his face, or it might involve forcing a man to lick his creampie out a woman's vagina or ass. Similar and related activities include snowballing and cum swapping, as well as women humiliating men through the use of other men's semen such as might take place in some cuckolding situations.

2017, Dave Holmes, Stuart J. Murray, Thomas Foth, Radical Sex Between Men: Assembling Desiring-Machines, Routledge, →ISBN, page 203:

But really, a threesome without cum swapping is... well, it’s like a tuna sandwich without the mayo. Sure it was fine, but something felt missing.

2020 June 14, Christine Stevens, “Girls Guide to Cum Swapping”, in Medium, archived from the original on 2020-10-15:

(vulgar, sexology, pornography) A practice (typically in pornography) in which a person passes semen from their mouth into another person's mouth.

Snowballing (sexual practice)#Cum swapping


spreader bar

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(BDSM) A rod with cuffs or rope on both ends that is used to hold a person's arms or legs a fixed distance apart.


sissygasm

Sissification also involves mind control through erotic hypnosis in which the sissy-in-training watches videos that glorify the process of worshiping giant cocks that put the would-be sissy’s pathetic little “clitty”—i.e., tiny penis—to shame. He is sternly instructed to gain sexual satisfaction from prostate stimulation rather than penile stimulation and is trained to achieve “sissygasms” by either sitting on dildos or being fucked in the ass.

2018 April 30, Jerome London, “The Art Of Sissification: Is ‘Sissy’ A New Sexual Orientation?”, in Thought Catalog, archived from the original on 2021-01-25:

Google sissygasm. Teasing around their butt with your fingers or a vibrator will help. The goal is to have them only cum from anal stimulation. If you have to, make them wait another week if they can't do it without vibrating their[…]

2019 May 4, Scott Barry, 609 Pages of Horse Shit, Lulu.com, →ISBN:

(BDSM, slang) An orgasm reached solely through penetration of the anus, rather than by stimulation of the penis or clitoris.


sissygasm

en-verb

sissygasm (third-person singular simple present sissygasms, present participle sissygasming, simple past and past participle sissygasmed)

sissygasms (present singular third-person)
sissygasming (participle present)
sissygasmed (participle past)
sissygasmed (past)

(intransitive, BDSM, slang) To reach orgasm solely via penetration of the anus, without stimulation of the penis or clitoris.


Lucky Pierre

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(sex, slang) The person in a threesome who both penetrates and is penetrated.

(sex, slang) A man in a threesome with two women.


subdrop

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(BDSM) A state of low spirits experienced by submissives after BDSM play.


brown shower

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(slang, pornography) The act of a person defecating on another, usually for sexual stimulation of one or both persons.


doggystyle

doggystyle (third-person singular simple present doggystyles, present participle doggystyling, simple past and past participle doggystyled)

doggystyles (present singular third-person)
doggystyling (participle present)
doggystyled (participle past)
doggystyled (past)

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(slang, transitive, sex, mainly in pornography) To have doggy style sex with (as the active or insertive partner).


predicament bondage

(BDSM) A form of bondage in which a person is restrained and forced to experience opposing sensory forces.


sharing is caring

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(sex, humorous, informal) One should let other people have sex with one's partner / one's spouse.


FLR

(BDSM) Initialism of female-led relationship.


ball gag

ball gags (plural)
ball-gag (alternative)
ballgag (alternative)

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Here is a model with an alluring docile expression, wearing a ball gag. Her arms and breasts also are bound.

1978–79, Teresa Hommel, “Images of Women in Pornography and Media”, in New York University Review of Law and Social Change, volume 8, number 2, →ISSN, page 209:

Miserable, violated and looking like a rag doll, Marsellus, red ball gag still in his mouth, opens his watery eyes to see Butch coming up behind.

c. 1994, Quentin Tarantino, Pulp Fiction (screenplay); quoted in Kathryn Bond Stockton, Beautiful Bottom, Beautiful Shame: Where “Black” Meets “Queer”, Durham, North Carolina: Duke University Press, 2006, →DOI, →ISBN, page 6:

(BDSM) A gag with a rubber or silicone sphere that is strapped into the mouth behind the teeth.


lavender lad

Coined by U.S. federal senator Everett Dirksen in the 1950s. From the association with femininity of the color lavender. An alliterative construct, pairing lad (“boy”) and lavender.

(historical, US, politics, sexuality, LGBTQ, slang) A homosexual male.


pancurious

en-adj

pancurious (comparative more pancurious, superlative most pancurious)

more pancurious (comparative)
most pancurious (superlative)
pan-curious (alternative)

(sexology) Exhibiting a state of uncertainty about one's pansexual or panromantic status.


eternity collar

en-noun

eternity collar (plural eternity collars)

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This is an eternity collar. You will find no latches or clasps. The effect is that of an unending circle. Accepting this collar is a commitment.

Sure, many people who came to the club wore collars, but eternity collars? The ones that required special tools to remove?

She said, "I would like either an eternity collar or a chain that I could hang a pendant from that showed signs of our relationship that I wore all the time."

2023, Michael Fording, The Unwanted Gifts:

(BDSM) A collar worn by a submissive as a sign of devotion and never taken off.


cock cage

(BDSM) (slang) A chastity cage that covers the penis and testicles.


vac bed

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The dungeon room features fetters, a bondage chair, a bondage stool, a ladder back chair, a St Andrews Cross, a whipping bench, a vac bed, a full length cage/rack, and a Rococo throne.

2017 June 30, Ellen Scott, “You can now book a stay in a fancy dungeon suite designed for all kinds of BDSM fun”, in Metro:

I love mummification, rope, vac beds, latex, you name it!

2021, Alicia Zadig, Yes, Mistress: Why Men Crave Female Domination:

(BDSM) A device that produces a vacuum inside a latex envelope, used for sexual enclosure.


frogtie

en-verb

frogtie (third-person singular simple present frogties, present participle frogtying, simple past and past participle frogtied)

frogties (present singular third-person)
frogtying (participle present)
frogtied (participle past)
frogtied (past)

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(BDSM) To tie the ankles of (a person) to their thighs, bending their knees 180°


play party

play parties (plural)
play-party (alternative)

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(BDSM) A social gathering held for people to participate in BDSM activities.


WIITWD

As it happens, my perspective on claims to "real" and "play" in BDSM is a bit different, and it may be useful to some (it remains, of course, only one person's perspective). It comes down to this - all of wiitwd is play. Not because everything is play, or because there is anything trivial or fake about wiitwd, but because the real thing doesn't occur with consent, and isn't about giving people what they want and need.

1995 March 23, Steven S. Davis, “Even Steven - JJ /How I came to wiitwd/ ‘Real’ BDSM, Part 2”, in alt.sex.bondage (Usenet), retrieved 2022-03-04:


rope bunny

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Compare angst bunny (“someone who enjoys angst literature”).

This is a great tie for a rope bunny who likes to feel helpless and completely bound.

2017, Lord Morpheous [pseudonym], Bondage, Beverly, Massachusetts: Fair Winds Press, →ISBN, page 84:

(BDSM, slang) A person who enjoys being tied up with rope.


D/s

(BDSM) Initialism of dominance and submission.


dungeon monitor

en-noun

dungeon monitor (plural dungeon monitors)

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(BDSM) A person charged with supervising BDSM activities at a play party or a BDSM club.


DDBL

doggy dinner bowl look
doggy dinner bowl look#English

(informal, seduction community) Initialism of doggy dinner bowl look.


B and D

(BDSM) Abbreviation of bondage and discipline.


B & D

BiM needs Bi or Gay Master (M or F) to train me in mild B&D. I will serve you.

1977 April 9, “Personal advertisement”, in Gay Community News, page 14:

Tattoed^([sic]) &/or pierced submissive woman wanted by handsome, hung, dominant man, 42, for B & D fun.

1993 December 3, “Variations”, in The Boston Phoenix, volume 22, number 49, Boston, Mass.: The Phoenix Media Communications Group, Adult Services, page 3:


mouth job

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This might delay the food order a half hour, rarely more, depending on how far the mark lived from the bar and insisted on going to bed for a fuck, or whether he was willing to be served in his vehicle with a mouth job.

2005, Frank Bond Beaumier, Tropic of Detroit, Volume II, page 236:

When I do a mouth job on a bloke in the park at night, I shut my eyes and sometimes pretend it's him, because it's the only special thing I could really give him.

2009, Robin Eddy, A Kind of Heaven, page 80:

I'm inferring nothing. I am implying that he wants a mouth job.

2015, Daniel Curzon, Volume XI of COLLECTED PLAYS of DANIEL CURZON: 2011-2013, page 21:


grandmother rule

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(BDSM) A rule at certain events requiring that one's behaviour and appearance be such that it would not shock even one's grandmother.


financial domination

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(BDSM) A type of erotic humiliation in which the submissive gives money and control of their finances to the dominator.

domination financière

BDSM: domination of one's finances by another person


findomme

(BDSM) A female dominant who practices financial domination.


finsub

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Blend of financial + submissive (“one who submits to a dominant in BDSM practices”)

blend

(BDSM) A submissive who submits to financial domination.


C and B torture

C & B torture (alternative)
C&B torture (alternative)

My interests are humiliation, public exhibitionism, nipple torture, hot wax, bondage, C & B torture, G.S., all fantasies

a. 1990, SM Express, number 24, page 26; quoted in Thomas Edward Murray, Thomas R. Murrell, The Language of Sadomasochism: A Glossary and Linguistic Analysis, Westport, Connecticut: Greenwood Press, 1989, →ISBN, page 79:

cock and ball torture
cock and ball torture#English

(BDSM) Abbreviation of cock and ball torture.


C & B torture

(BDSM) Alternative form of C and B torture.


G/S

(sexuality) Alternative form of GS (“golden shower”).


hairbrushing

en-noun

hairbrushing (countable and uncountable, plural hairbrushings)

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Fancy my naughty male bottom flaming red over your knee or across the end of your bed as you spank me to a crisp and whale the tar out of me with a riding crop after the hairbrushing

a. 1990, Corporal, volume 10, number 3, page 34; quoted in Thomas Edward Murray, Thomas R. Murrell, The Language of Sadomasochism: A Glossary and Linguistic Analysis, Westport, Connecticut: Greenwood Press, 1989, →ISBN, page 79:

Especially if you have already prepared him with a thorough hand-spanking or hairbrushing, he will soon be jumping at the thin, intense pain of the stripes across his nether cheeks.

1996, Lorelei, The Mistress Manual: The Good Girl’s Guide to Female Dominance, Scranton, Pennsylvania: Berkana Press, →ISBN, page 138:

(BDSM) The act of spanking a person with a hairbrush.


hypoxyphilia

(BDSM) A paraphilia involving an attraction to breathplay.


cock and ball torture

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(BDSM, paraphilia) A sexual activity involving the application of pain or constriction to the penis or testicles.


Obergefell

en-proper-noun

Obergefell (countable and uncountable, plural Obergefells)

/ˈoʊbərɡəˌfɛl/

(US, law, sexuality, US politics, informal, uncountable) Ellipsis of Obergefell v. Hodges, a 2015 U.S. Supreme Court ruling that legalized same-sex marriage; and reaffirmed the existence of a right to privacy under due process following the 14th Amendment.


queening stool

(BDSM) A low seat with an opening allowing the dominant partner to sit and receive oral sex from the submissive partner lying underneath.


DAP

en-noun

DAP (countable and uncountable, plural DAPs)

double anal penetration
double anal penetration#English

(sexuality, slang, vulgar, pornography) Initialism of double anal penetration.


throat goat

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From throat (“to take into the throat”) + GOAT (“greatest of all time”).

compound

(sex, slang, vulgar) One who is exceptionally good at fellatio; particularly deep-throating.


DVP

en-noun

DVP (countable and uncountable, plural DVPs)

(sex) Initialism of double vaginal penetration.


CG/L

(BDSM) Initialism of caregiver/little: a paraphilia involving ageplay between an older, caring, parentlike and a child persona.


cucky

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cock-drunk

en-adj

cock-drunk (comparative more cock-drunk, superlative most cock-drunk)

more cock-drunk (comparative)
most cock-drunk (superlative)
cock drunk (alternative)

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(sex, vulgar) In an incoherent and libidinous state due to intercourse with a penis.


golden shower boy

en-noun

golden shower boy (plural golden shower boys)

(LGBTQ, sexology) A male homosexual who enjoys urinating on other homosexuals or being urinated on by them.


notch count

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From the English idiom notch on one's bedpost.

Guys who've only ever had long-term partners or a limited notch-count often have boring, bland, quick, vanilla sex.

2016, Tom Torero, Street Hustle, page 192:

Don’t reveal your notch count. If a woman asks you how many girls you’ve been with, just say something like, “What, today? Not many...” or “If I told you, I’d have to kill you.”

2022, Dominic Mann, Alpha Male: How to Become the Dominant, Masculine Alpha Male Women Want to Submit To, unnumbered page:

Many times a woman with a higher notch count is more difficult to get into bed with than a woman who has had few sexual partners.

2022, Sam Wilson, The Definitive Guide to Having Sex with Women in the 21st Century, unnumbered page:

(seduction community slang) The number of sexual partners of a given individual.


pornhwa

Blend of porno + manhwa. Piecewise doublet of pornhua.

(pornography, manhwa) A pornographic manhwa (Korean comic).


cleave gag

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(BDSM) A gag consisting of material that is pulled between a person's teeth instead of being tied over the mouth.


vampire glove

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“Ever heard of a vampire glove?”
Riley stared at him in disbelief. His lips twitched. “I see that you have. The inside of the piece covering your nipples, have^([sic]) the same spikes attached.”

2020, Linzi Basset, Isabel James, Kristen Breanne, Unwrapped Hearts:

(BDSM) A glove with small sharp spikes protruding from the finger parts.


cold approach

Since I became a pick-up artist, I've performed over two hundred cold approaches.

(seduction community) The act of approaching a stranger (usually female) and asking them on a date.

kylmä lähestyminen

the act of approaching a stranger and asking them on a date


cum swapper

(vulgar, pornography, sexology) A person who partakes in cum swapping.


bar fine

(prostitution, Asia) a payment made by a customer to the operators of a bar that allows a dancer, hostess, or some other employee of that bar to leave work early, usually in order to accompany the customer outside the bar for sexual services


wet play

wet play (countable and uncountable, plural wet plays)

(sexuality) Sexual activity involving liquids; either urolagnia or sploshing (wet and messy fetishism).


polycurious

en-adj

polycurious (comparative more polycurious, superlative most polycurious)

more polycurious (comparative)
most polycurious (superlative)
poly-curious (alternative)

From poly (“polyamorous; having relationships with multiple partners, with the knowledge and consent of all involved”) + curious.

compound

Yes, just like the lifestyle, no one is made to feel left out; there's something for the "poly-curious" amateur right through to the seasoned "ethical non-monogamist".

2009 July 25, Colette Bernhardt, “Radar: the moment”, in The Times, archived from the original on 2022-12-14:

Polyamory, a practice of maintaining multiple close relationships as an alternative to monogamy, draws adults of all ages, and online dating has made it easier for the polyamorous and poly-curious to find one another.

2016 February 12, Lisa Bonos, “A therapist, a lawyer and a sex educator answer our questions about polyamory”, in The Washington Post, archived from the original on 2020-08-11:

Neither of us had an open relationship before we met each other, but we always talked candidly about sex, love, and relationships. Like many poly-curious couples, we tested the water by having threesomes, before branching out and dating individually.

2019 February 18, Franki Cookney, “What Cheating Looks Like in a Polyamorous Relationship”, in VICE, archived from the original on 2022-12-11:

In major cities, there are plenty of ways for non-monogamous and polycurious people to meet, among them apps, dinners, friends, blind dates and parties.

2019 August 3, Alice Hines, “Polyamory Works for Them”, in The New York Times, archived from the original on 2022-07-29:

What unique joys would a relationship with Tom bring? And would they be worth the heartache of knowing that Michael was sharing new experiences with other people, too? To help me think through the possibility, I found a website for people who were polycurious.

2021 November 17, Jen Trinh, The Burlfriends Collection, →ISBN:

The next few hours were a whirl of erotic performers, espresso martinis, small talk with polycurious strangers ("Come here often?") and watching women strapped to what looked like a torture device having their lingerie-clad bottoms whipped by a smartly suited male dominatrix.

2021 December 21, Laura Pullman, “The rise of polyamory: sex parties, throuples and open relationships”, in The Times, archived from the original on 2022-01-13:

(sexuality) Curious about or open to polyamory; potentially interested in having relationships with multiple partners.


uniboob

(paraphilia, pornography) A character, typically female, with a single breast in the center of the chest.

yksirintainen

pornography: female character with a single breast


pompoir

From French pomper, to pump.
Borrowed from Tamil பூம்புகார் (pūmpukār, “Poompuhar”).

bor

(sexology) A sexual technique the woman uses her pubococcygeus (vagina) muscles to stimulate the man's penis while both partners remain still.


bladder desperation

(sexuality) A sexual practice involving a full bladder and sometimes erotic denial of bathroom access; omorashi.


DD/LB

(BDSM) Initialism of daddy dom/little boy: a paraphilia involving ageplay between older and younger male personas.


ENM

(BDSM) Initialism of embarrassed, naked (or sometimes nude) male, a form of sexual roleplay in which a man acts out situations in which he is accidentally, unintentionally, unwillingly, or reluctantly naked and consequently embarrassed, ashamed, or humiliated.


shit tester

Ok, 6 years ago I had this awful fling for about two months with the ultimate shit-tester bitch.

2001 August 18, Lars Hansen, “++ Tips for contacting a chyck from 6 years ago.”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

Except that if she's a shit-tester, she's already proven herself to be SHIT.

2002 April 24, Win At Betting, “Passing Shit Tests By NEVER TRUSTING HER”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

"I've just looked that up. Shit tester. It seems to mean, a woman who disagrees with you."

[2014 December 13, Stella Grey, “Online dating: wandering into the manosphere”, in Alan Rusbridger, editor, The Guardian, London: Guardian News & Media, →ISSN, →OCLC, archived from the original on 2021-06-24:

(seduction community, vulgar) Someone who shit tests.


pussy torture

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(BDSM) A sexual activity involving the application of pain or pressure to the vulva or vagina.


daddy dom

en-noun

daddy dom (countable and uncountable, plural daddy doms)

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I felt that he had become obsessed with making a statement to the effect that incest was natural normal and ok. Which far exceeded my comfort zone. But does that differ overly much from age play and daddy Dom stuff?

2000 July 28, CRC, “The longer I'm here, the more I like Sherman”, in soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm (Usenet):

(BDSM, uncountable) A sexual practice in which a male role-plays a paternal figure and dominates the submissive partner.

Daddy Doms know the power of a good cuddle

2015 June 5, Kayla Lords, “The Definition of a Daddy Dom”, in Kayla Lords:

(BDSM, countable) A sexually dominant male who role-plays a paternal figure.


breast torture

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(BDSM, paraphilia) A sexual activity involving the application of physical pain or constriction to the breasts, areolae or nipples.


pissgirl

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(BDSM, slang) A submissive female participant in urolagnia.


netorase

/ˈnɛ.təʊˌɹɑː.seɪ/

Borrowed from Japanese 寝取(ねと)らせ (netorase).

(Japanese pornography, slang) A genre of sharing or cuckoldry pornography where a protagonist's love interest has sex with others, which the protagonist enjoys, actively encourages or even causes.


AB/DL

any ab/dl's in the pittsburgh area wanna get to know one another??? males or females, e-mail me if your intrested in playing

1998 September 3, paul sanders, “26yo ab/dl seeks playmates”, in alt.sex.fetish.diapers (Usenet):

Through a phenomenological analysis of said media and empirical online research, the article questions the stigma associated with AB/DL, arguing that, while the eroticization of childhood is a constant of Western culture, the most shocking aspect of AB/DL sexual fantasies resides in the pleasure associated with regression and passivity.

2022 May 24, Elisa Cuter, “The shock value of infantilism: AB/DL practices in porn, documentaries and public perception”, in Porn Studies:


anal-erotic

1970-1975, Lou Sullivan, personal diary, quoted in 2019, Ellis Martin, Zach Ozma (editors), We Both Laughed In Pleasure
J & I had beautiful sex. He stayed last nite & we were all over each other almost the entire time. […] He's wearing these these wonderful bikini underpants that are so full. He's really gotten to be an anal-erotic too which I just love.

(psychology, sexology) One who experiences or focuses their eroticism on the anus.

The social behavior of anal-erotics is strongly bound up with money and pedantic behavior.

1924, Isador Coriat, “A Note On The Anal Character Traits Of The Capitalistic Instinct”, in The Psychoanalytic Review, volume 11, page 436:

psychosexual development
psychosexual development

(psychology, sexology) One who exhibits personality traits associated with the anal stage of psychosexual development.


anti-slut defense

This is known as her 'Anti-Slut Defense', and will happen at some point during the escalation. It can be when you go to feel her thigh, feel under her shirt or even right before you two are about to have sex.

2016, Lamont Lloyd, Be Fearless With Women: Unleash Your Animal Magnetism, page 164:

As part of her anti-slut defense, she will be accused of saying she was too drunk to say no, so she could not be labeled a slut or have to take responsibility for having consensual sex.

2020, Karen Stollznow, On the Offensive: Prejudice in Language Past and Present, page 84:

(seduction community) The avoidance of taking responsibility for initiating or agreeing to sex, so as not to appear slutty.


rainbow kiss

Glad to know I'm not the only one into rainbow kisses here.

1997 March 30, Satan Claus, “Gardenburgers...”, in alt.punk (Usenet):

Halmstad Hook […] sounds like another level of the "rainbow kiss"

2002 June 15, ThePsyko, “To all trolls”, in alt.punk (Usenet):

Things got really funny when Tamika mentioned if we knew anything about the rainbow kiss. […] "It's when your man eats you out while you're on your period." […] "You heard me, Monica. Your girl over here talking about rainbow kisses, Queens niggahs don't be doing that shit, that's them Uptown fools coming up with some shit like that."

2003, Erick S. Gray, Booty Call, Brooklyn, N.Y.: Black Print Publishing, →ISBN, pages 125–126:

However, when a health educator asked the youth with whom she works about rainbow kisses, the teens laughed at the idea, and said "no way" was it happening in their group (Barrett, 2004).

2007, Susan L. McCammon, Choices in Sexuality, third edition, Victoria, Australia […]: Thomson, →ISBN, page 362:

Kissed exchanges of period blood (the "rainbow kiss") and sperm (the "snowball") are probably acquired tastes.

2010, James McConnachie, Sex, London, New York, N.Y.: Rough Guides, →ISBN, page 90, column 2:

And while a rainbow kiss is certainly not the most common sex act around, Hall says it's just one activity on a spectrum of sexual activities that people with various bodily fluid kinks and fetishes can enjoy.

2022 May 17, Amy Mackelden, Taylor Andrews, Emma Glassman-Hughes, “What's a Rainbow Kiss? Experts Explain How to Do It Safely”, in Cosmopolitan, New York, N.Y.: Hearst Communications, →ISSN, →OCLC, archived from the original on 2023-08-11:

(slang, sex) A supposed sex act in which a man and a woman who is menstruating simultaneously perform oral sex on each other, followed by a kiss where the couple mix semen and period blood in their mouths (which makes the so-called "rainbow").


free use

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In some cases, free use takes place within a BDSM dynamic, and will make use of kinkier things like bondage, sensory deprivation and even other people to enhance the fantasy. But in others, free use is perfectly vanilla.

2021 March 13, Isabelle Kohn, “Anytime, Anywhere: The Growing Appeal of the Free-Use Fetish”, in MEL Magazine, Marina del Rey, Calif.: Recurrent Ventures, archived from the original on 2023-08-07:

In practice, free use is an arrangement between two consenting adults. One partner has the liberty to initiate sex without asking and without foreplay, whether the other partner is occupied, asleep, or what have you.

2023 August 18, Magdalene Taylor, “What’s the ‘Free Use’ Fetish, and Why’s Everyone Talking About It?”, in VICE, archived from the original on 2023-08-25:

Whether you agree with it or not in your own relationship, “free use” is spreading like wildfire, with categories of gay adult videos devoted to the trend popping up all over the internet.

2023 August 22, Jake Myers, “The “free use” fetish is sweeping the gay community. Is it ruthless, or a relief?”, in Queerty, archived from the original on 2023-08-26:

(sexuality) A kink in which someone consents to being available to have sex with or to be "used" by their partner at any time.


sarger

Atul quit sarging earlier this year – he now has therapy, a gym routine and a girlfriend (who he met online) – so instead, I shadow Phil for the day. Phil's story is typical of many sargers. A bad break up led him to the PUA community, which led him to Saturday Sarge. A sarger for four years (he started at 26) he's now a respected 'approach coach' – someone who guides the more inexperienced or nervy 'sargers' through their first few months of approaching women on the street.

2014 October 18, Gareth May, “Saturday Sarge: meet the men who go hunting for women”, in The Daily Telegraph, London: Telegraph Media Group, →ISSN, →OCLC, archived from the original on 2019-03-01:


(pornography, vulgar) Initialism of ass to mouth.


g/g

There's a "healthy" serving of g/g action in each movie, similiar to Andrew Blake, but the action's a little heavier, ie the scenes are generally slightly longer and more explicit than (especially) Andrew Blake's later movies, this applies to the hetero as well as g/g stuff.

1995 March 27, Nigel Taylor, “Request: Review/storyline of Cameron Grant films”, in alt.sex.movies (Usenet):

I wish they would have shown much more of Nancy Vee and you when you did the initial g/g in the car... what little we saw was premo, absolutely premo!

1998 May 31, voya...@ix.netcom.com, “tina tyler posts again”, in rec.arts.movies.erotica (Usenet):

I love girl/girl porn also - and Vivid used to have really great g/g kissing scenes.

2003 February 10, Sam Slater, “Lack Of Kissing”, in rec.arts.movies.erotica (Usenet):

(slang, pornography) Initialism of girl-on-girl.


painal

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Painal is when you have anal sex with the intent of causing pain to your partner. The partner in this scenario actually derives pleasure from the pain.

2015 May 1, Natalie Robinson, Swinging For Couples Vol. 2: The Intermediate Guide To The Swinging Lifestyle - 11 Things You Must Know To Ensure A Safe, Fun, Exciting, & Adventurous Swinging Experience, volume 2, Enlightened Publishing:

"Yes. Please, Ransom..." her voice trailed off. Was she blushing? "I actually kind of want the painal." "Kind of want it ?" He repeated her tentative words, wondering at her bravado. Painal: Anal sex that hurt, preferably in a good way. If she wanted it to hurt, he could hurt her without really hurting her. “Are you sure that's what you want?”

2016 June 28, Molly Joseph, Annabel Joseph, Diva, volume 2, Scarlet Rose Press:

I went to Pornhub.com, and here were the videos that popped up just from going to the homepage: “Therapist Cures Your Anxiety,” “Fucking My Auntie's Face As My Stepuncle Walks in And Catches Us,” “Petite College Freshmen Moans Daddy While Fucked Doggy,” and “No Mercy Anal Compilation—Tight Teens | Relentless Rough Fucking | Painal.” The common theme in all of these videos is well-endowed men treating women like blow-up dolls with pulses, their fake and unconvincing moans silenced when men haphazardly jam their veiny third legs down their throats. Absurd? Yes. To be fair, even seventy-five percent of those 2,500 college students surveyed cited unrealistic expectations in the porn they watch.

2020 June 16, Aaron Gouveia, Raising Boys to Be Good Men: A Parent's Guide to Bringing up Happy Sons in a World Filled with Toxic Masculinity, unabridged edition, Simon and Schuster, →ISBN:

(pornography) Painful anal sex; specifically, heterosexual anal sex that causes pain to the woman.


verbal humiliation

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(sexuality, BDSM) Erotic humiliation performed through words.


small penis humiliation

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(sexuality, BDSM) A form of sexual fetish or kink where an individual, usually a woman, derives arousal from the act of belittling or demeaning another man's penis size.


unicorn hunting

(LGBTQ, sexuality) The practice by two people who are in a relationship, usually a heterosexual couple, of seeking a third partner for the relationship temporarily or permanently, usually a bisexual woman, either to join a threesome or to start a polyamorous relationship.


cashfag

cashfags (plural)
cash fag (alternative)
cash-fag (alternative)

(slang, vulgar, LGBTQ, BDSM) A homosexual male paypig or finsub.


diaperslut

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I'm more of a wanna be diaperslut. I just need access to more diapersluts in order to achieve my life goals.

Can i please have my birthday at diaperslut chillis next year, please and thank you? 🙏

Is there a better feeling than taking a cute awkward transfemme and turning them into an adorable diaperslut.

2023 November 19, bittykitty1999, Twitter:

(ABDL, BDSM, vulgar) A person, especially one who is submissive, who has a sexual interest in diapers.


suspended congress

Calque of Sanskrit अवलम्बितक रत (avalambitaka rata), from the Kama Sutra.

clq

अवलम्बितक रत

(sex, idiomatic) A sex position which consists of one participant carrying the other while penetrating them.


sensory play

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(sexuality, BDSM) Activity in which one partner delivers various sensory stimuli to the receiver, including but not restricted to those that cause pain.


wet and messy

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wet and messy fetishism
wet and messy fetishism

(sexuality, BDSM) Pertaining to wet and messy fetishism.


wet and messy fetishism

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(sexuality, BDSM) A fetish for involving substances with a slimy consistency in sexual activity, other than bodily fluids.


sensation play

(sexuality, BDSM) Synonym of sensory play (“activity in which one partner administers sensory stimuli to another, with or without pain”).


shitslut

shitsluts (plural)
shit-slut (alternative uncommon)

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The faceless man grunts enthusiastically as he forces the perfectly formed monster from his bowels, and into the groaning mouth of his the shitbegging, shitslut.

1997 February 21, Suzie [SleaZe], “'Perverse' Prose by Suzie SleaZe”, in alt.sex.tasteless (Usenet):

Of course it wasn't the first time. Bowser always KNEW he was a little shitslut~

2018 September 27, WantFriesWithIt, Twitter:

open wide shitslut

(BDSM, vulgar) A person, especially one who is submissive, with a sexual interest in excrement; a scatophile.


foot fetishism

(sexuality) Sexual activity involving a partner's feet.


foot fetish

foot fetishes (plural)
footfetish (alternative rare)

(sexuality) A fetish involving sexual attraction to feet.


petplay

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pet-play (alternative)
pet play (alternative)

(BDSM) A form of sexual roleplay in which one or more players take on the role of an animal, especially as the pet of another.


mouthpie

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(pornography) Semen visibly displayed after ejaculation in the mouth.


diaper stuffing

en-noun

diaper stuffing (countable and uncountable, plural diaper stuffings)

diaper stuffings (plural)
diaper-stuffing (alternative)

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I need to draw some diaper stuffing...take a smaller fuzzy and stuff 'em in my diaper~

Hmm, I wonder if people would be interested in a diaper-stuffing YCH... ...With *your* character getting stuffed into *my* diaper, of course!~

Diaper stuffing is absolutely amazing and so hot and I can't wait to see more of it 😍

(ABDL, BDSM) A kink or paraphilia, such as in role-playing, involving the idea of a person being placed or stuffed inside of a diaper.


tail plug

tail plugs (plural)
tailplug (alternative)

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I lay whimpering in the corner, my ass stinging from my tail plug and my jaws hurting from the gag. Julie ignored me, readying the meal until I heard a car drive into the garage.

1998 December 6, Nessus, “Stocking Tops(Revised)Pt17”, in alt.sex.stories (Usenet):

Why oh why is there no INFLATABLE puppy tail plug?

looking for a puppy boywife. mandatory dress code is short skirt, thigh highs, dog ears, and tail plug. please be prepared to bark, lay down, and open your mouth on command.

(chiefly furry fandom, BDSM) A butt plug that has a tail on its obverse.


pacifier gag

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No sooner did she begin complaining than a large pacifier gag was strapped into her mouth. All she could now do was suck on the large nipple and sob softly to herself.

1994 June 9, “Diaper Reformatory”, in alt.sex.fetish.diapers (Usenet):

I'm buying a pacifier gag today, who wants to use it first? ;)

Mommy unfastened the strap from behind my head, removed the pacifier gag and placed it beside her place setting. It stayed in my full view - a reminder of what was to come later.

2021 March 2, Colin Milton, edited by Michael Bent, Rosalie Bent, Tales from the Diapered Nursery: An ABDL Novel, volume 6, AB Discovery, page 38:

(ABDL, BDSM) A ball gag with a pacifier attached to its rubber or silicone sphere.


paci gag

paci gags (plural)
paci-gag (alternative)

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Who wants to be put in mits, paci gag, hole in the back of your diaper and mounted :)

Stuck, bound and diapered you begin to fuss as your new caretaker applies a enema to your bum...and a thick paci gag to your maw.

2016 August 14, DakureBrunswick, Twitter:

A fantasy of mine is hearing mommy and daddy have adult time while I’m locked in my crib with a paci gag and mittens, fussing over the baby monitor just as the laxatives kick in 🥺🥺🥺

2022 December 9, lottlebabiejade, Twitter:


boobgasm

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(sex, slang) An orgasm resulting from stimulation of the erogenous zones of the breasts.


boobgasm

en-verb

boobgasm (third-person singular simple present boobgasms, present participle boobgasming, simple past and past participle boobgasmed)

boobgasms (present singular third-person)
boobgasming (participle present)
boobgasmed (participle past)
boobgasmed (past)

(sex, slang) To reach orgasm via the stimulation of the erogenous zones of the breasts.


vaginal lubrication

(biology, sexuality) A naturally produced fluid that lubricates the vagina.


self-facial

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(slang, sex, pornography) A sex act of ejaculation onto one's own face.


super soaker

super soakers (plural)
supersoaker (alternative)

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Genericized trademark from the Super Soaker brand name, a powerful water pistol that uses manually pressurised air to propel water.

(sex, slang) One's genitalia, either male or female, which can ejaculate intensively.

(sex, slang, metonymic) One who can ejaculate intensively.


day game

Near-synonym: street pick-up

(seduction community) The practice of going out in daylight hours to cold approach strangers and attempt to seduce them.


approach anxiety

(seduction community) The anxiety one experiences at the prospect of chatting up a stranger.


gutter game

(seduction community) The practice of going out at night to cold approach strangers on the street outside nightclubs etc. and attempt to seduce them.


plate spinning

(informal, seduction community) The practice of staying in contact with a number of potential romantic or sexual partners at the same time.


zipper sex

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(sex, slang) Any sexual act that does not require the removal of any clothes.


cumflation

en-noun

cumflation (countable and uncountable, plural cumflations)

Blend of cum + inflation. By surface analysis, cumflate + -ion.

(uncountable) A genre of fetish pornography in which one or more participants become or appear to become inflated by semen; typically by being ejaculated inside.

(countable) An instance of a cumflation scene.


cumflate

en-verb

cumflate (third-person singular simple present cumflates, present participle cumflating, simple past and past participle cumflated)

cumflates (present singular third-person)
cumflating (participle present)
cumflated (participle past)
cumflated (past)

Blend of cum + inflate. Back-formation from cumflation.

(transitive) To inflate (someone or something) with semen; typically via ejaculation, as part of cumflation pornography.

(intransitive) To become inflated by semen in such a manner.


mesugaki

Borrowed from Japanese メスガキ (mesugaki), from 雌(めす) (mesu, “female (animal)”) + 餓鬼(がき) (gaki, “brat”). The term began being used among English speakers around 2020.

ja-compound

WE NEED MORE POKEKID IN EEVEE COSTUME DOUJINS DAMMIT!! preferably one that presents her as a mesugaki :9

2020 May 26, @harid_ziran, Twitter, archived from the original on 2024-07-18:

Riro quickly became one of the company’s most popular idols due to her gimmick as a “mesugaki” type character.

2023 November 28, Brandon Lyttle, “VTuber Riro Ron terminated for ‘dangerous and harmful’ activities”, in Niche Gamer, archived from the original on 2023-11-29:

Mutsuki is a brat that like to be suggestive with sensei. She's a mesugaki archetype, one of the more popular one in fact (despite it starting in azur lane)

2023 December 25, @megamega171, Twitter, archived from the original on 2024-07-20:

Youre Oshi is the vtuber who made the loli song playing into the lolicon fetish of the Mesugaki. Dude cant pick a side on this topic.

2024 April 16, @king_of_games34, Twitter, archived from the original on 2024-07-20:

(Japanese pornography) A slutty bratty girl; a young (or young-looking) girl who likes to sexually tease her superiors.


rapeplay

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rape play (alternative)
rape-play (alternative)

(BDSM) A form of sexual roleplay in which the players act out nonconsensual situations, such as rape or sexual assault.


sexual dysfunction

(medicine, sexology) A difficulty experienced by an individual or partners during any stage of normal sexual activity.


pornhua

Blend of porno + manhua. Piecewise doublet of pornhwa.

(pornography, manhua) A pornographic manhua (Chinese comic).


from behind

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(slang, sex, of a sex act) Engaged in the missionary position, usually anal sex.


short-time

en-verb

short-time (third-person singular simple present short-times, present participle short-timing, simple past and past participle short-timed)

short-times (present singular third-person)
short-timing (participle present)
short-timed (participle past)
short-timed (past)

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A freelance prostitute who was named the Indian Princess for the Indian costume she wore was a legend in Tong Du Chon. This young lady only “short-timed” officers generally in the rank of major or above.

2011, Herbie R. Taylor, A Boy from Barnhart: Times Remembered, page 316:

Thien even stole money from a farang who short-timed her and then passed out in his hotel room.

2013, Christopher R. Cox, A Good Death, page 119:

(Vietnam, prostitution) To hire or be hired as a sex worker for the time period that ends when ejaculation is reached.


same day lay

same day lays (plural)
same-day lay (alternative)

(seduction community, vulgar) An act of sexual intercourse with a woman one has cold approached on the same day.


vacuum bed

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(BDSM) A device consisting of a large, latex envelope attached to a frame, from which most of the air may be removed via a vacuum pump while a person lies inside, which heavily restricts movement and induces asphyxiation for the purposes of stimulation.


tape gag

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(BDSM) A gag with sticky tape placed over the mouth to prevent speech, often as a restraint device to stop the subject from calling for help and keep its wearer silent.


pussy control

She had the epitome of pussy control.

2008, A Blessing in Disguise, A Real Black Woman Is the Closest Thing to God, page 57:

TeAire had dick control but September had pussy control. If she was controlling her pussy then he could last for what seemed like forever.

2013, N'spired Wit'Love, amp, Love, The Crossroad of Friendship - The Intersection of Truth and Betrayal, page 95:

I knew some of these hoes out here been having sex for years and didn't have that much pussy control.

2018, Candace Mumford, Ms.Bam, Project Princess 2 (Freshman&Sophomore Year), page 293:

(slang, vulgar, derogatory, sexology) The ability of a woman to provide sexual pleasure by massaging, squeezing, and tightening the muscles of her vagina.


fag cash

(slang, vulgar, LGBTQ, BDSM) Money or gifts provided by a homosexual male paypig or finsub.


meat dealer

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(Philippines, prostitution) A pimp or an escort service.


porn tube

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From porn (“pornography”) + tube (“a television”). Probably originates from the tendency of early pornographic video-sharing websites to model their names after YouTube (“an American video-sharing website”), such as Xtube (launched 12 March 2006), RedTube (25 April 2007) and Tube8 (2007).

compound

Theres a porn tube category for 'Violent Vomiting" wtffff

When you're on a porn tube, click a video and it says 'Sorry, This video is Deleted'
Depressing as fuck

stileproject is literally just a porn tube site now. helluva fuckin pivot, holy shit

2018 December 8, @HotTopicDropout, Twitter:

I linked to a preview because Reddit deletes porn tubes links, but you can find it easily on Google

2021 August 24, u/Ruizhen08, “[Request] videos where stepmom is tricked or convinced into sex”, in r/NSFW411, Reddit:

"Porn tubes" and free content are great and all but if you really like those classic bondage clips or whathave you. You should really consider buying them from the producer. It's totally worth it and looks so much clearer.

2022 December 28, @TreeHornTaped, Twitter:

All hail XVID
which now sounds like a porn tube site

2024 May 25, u/flcinusa, “When something doesn't play in another media player you know vlc got you covered.”, in r/pcmasterrace, Reddit:

(pornography, Internet slang, colloquial) A pornographic video-sharing (or hosting) website.


mind break

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(fiction, chiefly pornography) Dramatic loss of rational thought after excessive sexual abuse.


autoplushophilia

From auto- (“reflexive, regarding or to oneself”) + plushophilia (“the sexual attraction to plush toys”), from plush (“a plush toy”, noun) + -o- (“a linking vowel inserted interconsonantally between two morphemes to ease pronunciation without contributing to the word's meaning”) + -philia (“abnormal love of something”).
Coined in 2009 by the American psychologist, sexologist and physician Anne Lawrence.

affix

Formal study will be necessary to clarify the nature, prevalence, and interrelations of plushophilia, fursuitism, and autoplushophilia among furverts and to document the nature and extent of any co-occurring paraphilias.

2009 April 10, Anne A. Lawrence, “Erotic Target Location Errors: An Underappreciated Paraphilic Dimension”, in Journal of Sex Research, volume 46, numbers 2–3, Routledge; Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality, →DOI:

'Gareth Craven. Likes to do things with dogs.' 'A zoophiliac.' 'They've got a name for it?' 'Everything's got a name. Necrophilia.' 'Dead people.' 'Autoplushophilia.' 'Auto-what?'

2018 November 10, Mark Griffin, When Darkness Calls, Little, Brown Book Group, →ISBN, unnumbered page:

Just like autoplushophilia does not always tie into the furry fandom, not all folx with this paraphilia are interested in being furries. As well, despite autoplushophiliacs often emulating plush animals in their role-plays, it does not mean that they are interested in bestiality (sexual encounters with live animals). In fact, it’s the plush aspect that is arousing to them.

2021 May 14, “Fetish Friday: Autoplushophilia”, in Between the Thighs:

(sexology, very rare) The sexual attraction to envisioning oneself as a plush toy.


autozoophilia

From auto- (“reflexive, regarding or to oneself”) + zoophilia (“the human sexual attraction to non-human animals”). Coined in 2009 by the American psychologist, sexologist and physician Anne Lawrence.

prefix

Species dysphoria in zoophilic men can be understood as an outgrowth of autozoophilia, just as gender dysphoria in gynephilic men can be understood as an outgrowth of autogynephilia.

Real animals share some physical similarity with anthropomorphic animals, suggesting that some male furries may additionally experience both sexual attraction to real animals (zoophilia) and sexual arousal by the fantasy of being a real animal (autozoophilia), if they are motivated by an ETII.

2019 July 10, KJ Hsu, JM Bailey, “The "Furry" Phenomenon: Characterizing Sexual Orientation, Sexual Motivation, and Erotic Target Identity Inversions in Male Furries”, in Archives of Sexual Behavior, volume 48, number 5, International Academy of Sex Research:

Pup play is a form of autozoophilia wherein participants engage in activities, manners, and behaviors akin to canines.

2024, Roger Kuhn, Somacultural Liberation: An Indigenous, Two-Spirit Somatic Guide to Integrating Cultural Experiences Toward Freedom, North Atlantic Books, →ISBN, page 159:

(sexology, formal) Synonym of pet play (“a fetish activity in which one takes on the role of an animal, sometimes as the pet of another”).


cashmaster

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(slang, BDSM, uncommon) A highly paid or exceptional findom, i.e., a dominant who practices financial domination.


pump someone's fist

en-verb

pump someone's fist (third-person singular simple present pumps someone's fist, present participle pumping someone's fist, simple past and past participle pumped someone's fist)

pumps someone's fist (present singular third-person)
pumping someone's fist (participle present)
pumped someone's fist (participle past)
pumped someone's fist (past)

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(slang, sex, somewhat vulgar) To thrust one's penis into another person's open fist.


martymachlia

(sexology) A paraphilia which involves sexual attraction to having others watch the execution of a sexual act.


B+D

GWM master seeks obedient subordinate candidate to train. Discreet. B+D married a plus. Serve me.

1996 October 4, “Variations”, in The Boston Phoenix, volume 25, number 40, Boston, Mass.: The Phoenix Media/Communications Group, Adult Services, page 3:

(BDSM) Abbreviation of bondage and discipline.


B&D

Submissive MWC, in search of dominant WM or WF for spanking sessions, B&D roleplay. Spank her while I watch, spank me while she watches. Anything goes.

1996 October 4, “Variations”, in The Boston Phoenix, volume 25, number 40, Boston, Mass.: The Phoenix Media/Communications Group, Adult Services, page 2:


Domme

(BDSM) Alternative letter-case form of domme.


CFNF

Initialism of clothed female, naked (or sometimes nude) female.

(BDSM) A form of lesbian sexual roleplay in which the players act out situations in which one woman wears clothes but the other woman is naked.


EUF

Initialism of embarrassed, underweared (or sometimes undressed or underclothed) female.

(BDSM) A form of sexual roleplay in which a woman acts out situations in which she is accidentally, unintentionally, unwillingly, or reluctantly in her underwear and consequently embarrassed, ashamed, or humiliated.


domspace

en-noun

domspace (countable and uncountable, plural domspaces)

domspaces (plural)
dom space (alternative)
dom-space (alternative)

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From dom (“dominant”) + space (“state of mind”).

compound

(BDSM) The psychological state of the dominant or top during sadomasochistic activity.


bottomspace

en-noun

bottomspace (countable and uncountable, plural bottomspaces)

bottomspaces (plural)
bottom space (alternative)
bottom-space (alternative)

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From bottom (“submissive”) + space (“state of mind”).

compound

(BDSM) The psychological state of the submissive or bottom during sadomasochistic activity.


brat tamer

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(BDSM) The dominant who controls a brat (a submissive who is disobedient and unruly).


forcefem

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Clipping of forced feminization; equivalent to force + fem.

(BDSM) Forced feminization; a sexual fetish involving a submissive male being forced to take on feminine roles.


puppygirl

puppygirls (plural)
puppy girl (alternative)
puppy-girl (alternative)

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(BDSM, endearing) A woman or girl who engages in pet play as a dog.


bakunyu

Borrowed from Japanese 爆(ばく)乳(にゅう) (bakunyū), from 爆(ばく) (baku, “bursting”) + 乳(にゅう) (nyū, “breast”).

(Japanese pornography) A genre of Japanese pornography characterized by featuring women with extremely large breasts; chiefly found in hentai, though also in live-action pink films.


dom/me

dom/mes (plural)
Dom/me (alternative)
dom(me) (alternative)
Dom(me) (alternative)

(BDSM) Gender-neutral dominant in a BDSM relationship.


temperature play

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(BDSM) Any sexual activity involving stimulation using objects or substances with very high or very low temperatures.


glory wall

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(sexuality, slang) A large hole in a screen or wall big enough to allow an individuals buttocks or lower body to be stuck through, made to facilitate anonymous sex with another person.


autopaizuri

en-noun

autopaizuri (plural autopaizuri or autopaizuris)

autopaizuri (plural)
autopaizuris (plural)

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(Japanese pornography) An act or instance of paizuri on oneself; sexual stimulation on the penis using one's breasts.


hoe around

en-verb

hoe around (third-person singular simple present hoes around, present participle hoeing around, simple past and past participle hoed around)

hoes around (present singular third-person)
hoeing around (participle present)
hoed around (participle past)
hoed around (past)

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(slang, sex, African-American Vernacular, intransitive) Synonym of cat around (“sleep around; have sex with various partners”).


femboydom

en-noun

femboydom (countable and uncountable, plural femboydoms)

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From femboy + dom, short for domination or dominance.

(BDSM, uncountable) A sexual practice in which femboys dominate other people.

(BDSM, countable) A femboy dominator in sadomasochistic sexual practices.


futadom

futadom (countable and uncountable, plural futadoms)

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From futa + dom, short for domination or dominance.

(BDSM, Japanese pornography, uncountable) A sexual practice in which futanari dominate other people.

(BDSM, Japanese pornography, countable) A futanari dominator in sadomasochistic sexual practices.


permalock

en-verb

permalock (third-person singular simple present permalocks, present participle permalocking, simple past and past participle permalocked)

permalocks (present singular third-person)
permalocking (participle present)
permalocked (participle past)
permalocked (past)

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(BDSM, intransitive) To be "locked up" permanently; to use a chastity cage for an indefinite amount of time.

(BDSM, transitive) To make someone wear a chastity cage for an indefinite amount of time.


permalocker

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(BDSM) Someone who wears a chastity cage for an indefinite amount of time.


futanarization

en-noun

futanarization (countable and uncountable, plural futanarizations)

futanarizations (plural)
futanarisation (alternative UK)

/ˌfuː.təˌnɑː.ɹɪˈzeɪ.ʃən/

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(Japanese pornography) The act, process, or instance of becoming a futanari, usually by a female growing a penis.


magnet play

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Ratchet did the mech a favor and didn’t look at him while he recovered. He turned the seed magnet around in his pliers instead, examining it. […] ¶ “You should get a spotter if you’re going to experiment with magnets,” he said, once he figured Jazz was halfway to calm again. […] “Look, I’ve done magnet play, I’m not judging, but this thing is too powerful for how small it is. You’re lucky it didn’t get into your energon system.”

2023 March 27, neveralarch, “A Miracle Opened Wide”, in Archive Of Our Own (fan fiction), archived from the original on 2024-08-08:

Are nipple piercings magnetic?? That would be so fun if they were... imagine magnet play 😵💫

2023 December 13, @mementoviviere, Twitter, archived from the original on 2024-11-05:

(BDSM, science fiction) Any sexual activity involving magnets.


inspin

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Blend of involuntary + spinster, after incel

(Internet slang, seduction community) A woman incel.


night game

(seduction community) The practice of going out in nighttime hours to cold approach strangers and attempt to seduce them.


poophole loophole

poophole loophole (plural poophole loopholes)

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(slang, idiomatic, humorous, sex) The idea that a woman can remain a virgin by engaging in anal rather than vaginal sex.


spreader pants

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From spreader (“a spacer or device for keeping two objects apart”) + pants, and so-called because the device spreads the wearer's legs apart.

compound

(ABDL, BDSM, neologism) A thick, firm but yielding device worn around the crotch—usually supported by straps above the shoulders—that spreads the wearer's legs apart, forcing them to crawl.


spit-roast

en-verb

spit-roast (third-person singular simple present spit-roasts, present participle spit-roasting, simple past and past participle spit-roasted)

spit-roasts (present singular third-person)
spit-roasting (participle present)
spit-roasted (participle past)
spit-roasted (past)
spit roast (alternative)
spitroast (alternative)

(transitive, slang, sex, somewhat vulgar) To engage in the sexual practice whereby two people penetrate a single sexual partner at the same time, one orally and the other vaginally or anally.


spit-roasting

en-noun

spit-roasting (countable and uncountable, plural spit-roastings)

(slang, sex, somewhat vulgar) The sexual practice in which two people penetrate a single sexual partner at the same time, one orally and the other vaginally or anally.


xvideo

xvideos (plural)
X video (alternative)
x video (alternative)
Xvideo (alternative)

Compound of X (“obscene, adult, pornographic”, adjective) + video. The website sense is derived from a notional singular form of XVideos, a pornographic video-sharing website, itself named after the first etymological root and coined in 2007 by the website creator Stephane Michael Pacaud.

compound+

(pornography, Internet slang, generally uncommon) A pornographic video or film; a porno.

(pornography, Internet slang, rare) Alternative form of XVideo (“a pornographic video uploaded to XVideos”).


salirophilia

(sexuality) A sexual fetish in which the active partner enjoys making a great mess of someone whose appearance was previously neat and tidy.


cum cow

Compound of cum + cow. Compare milk (“masturbate (someone) to ejaculation”, verb).

(BDSM, vulgar) A person who has their semen collected by their sexual partner.


faunoiphilia

From fauna (“animal”) + Ancient Greek κοινωνία (koinōnía, “sexual intercourse”) + -philia (“used to form nouns meaning the abnormal liking of something; a paraphilia”).

der

(sexology, formal, very rare) The sexual attraction to watching non-human animals copulate; zoophilia.


altocalciphilia

From Latin altus (“high”) + -o- + Latin calx, calcis (“heel”) + -philia.

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altocalciphilia […]

[1954, J[acob] E[dward] Schmidt, Sex Dictionary, and Lexicon of Related Emotions, La Crescenta, Calif.: Hannah Publications, →OCLC, page 84:

The executive liked to indulge in altocalciphilia and masochism by persuading women to dig their high heels into his chest.

2002 February, Rod L. Evans, “altocalciphilia”, in Sexicon: The Ultimate X-Rated Dictionary, New York, N.Y.: Citadel Press, →ISBN, page 11:

Then again, I’m most certainly not alone in my “shoey” fetish. Forget women, but men across the globe too have been suffering in their sweet-and-silent agony over their altocalciphilia, which is defined as an uncontrollable desire or sexual fetish for high heels—by far the most common sexual fetish around the globe.

2016 February 11, Mallika Nawal, “The Secret Spell Of The Stiletto”, in Swarajya, archived from the original on 2016-02-12:

The theme of this issue? Fetishes as realized by photographer Steven Klein, especially: altocalciphilia (the fetish of high heels), pictophilia (the fetish for erotic pictures), and autagonistophilia (the fetish for being on camera).

2017 October 3, Lilah Ramzi, “Killer Heels Dominated at Visionaire’s 67th Issue Launch Party”, in Vogue, archived from the original on 2024-12-20:

Among the Trump women, Marla Maples is the only one consistently photographed wearing flats—sneakers and espadrilles—a result of her inner tomboy, her post-divorce downsizing, and her former publicist’s [Chuck Jones’s] shoe fetish. The diagnostic name for Chuck Jones’s problem is altocalciphilia.

2018, Nina Burleigh, “#FreeMelania”, in The Trump Women: Part of the Deal, New York, N.Y.: Gallery Books, →ISBN, part 5 (Ivanka Trump, First Daughter):

Altocalciphilia, the attraction to high-heeled shoes specifically, is probably the largest subset of Retifism. […] Richard von Krafft-Ebing hypothesized that most Retifists are also masochists, and this can be seen most acutely in Altocalciphilia, where the long and sharp heels are often used to inflict pain upon submissive men—most popularly in the genitals.

2019, Dennis DiClaudio, “Retifism”, in “Inanimate Objects”, in The Deviant’s Pocket Guide to the Outlandish Sexual Desires Barely Contained in Your Subconscious, Bellevue, Wash.: becker&mayer! books, →ISBN, page 101:

This objectification in altocalciphilia—shoe fetish—is preserved through an optical casting of a perceptual frame that makes a ‘cut’ from the field; immobilizing that cut within a static framework (Bryson, 1980: 97), so as to produce a redundancy: the material dead object and its referent, which it presents (Berkeley, 1989). […] In opposition to glamour, the high heel as fetish performs a distinction: the sexual difference through the masculinization of the female body.

2020, Mike Zundel, “Fetish”, in “High Heels”, in Timon Beyes, Robin Holt, Claus Pias, editors, The Oxford Handbook of Media, Technology, and Organization Studies, Oxford, Oxfordshire: Oxford University Press, →ISBN, page 250:

I am not aware of any empirical research specifically into altocalciphilia, but in researching this topic I did come across an interesting Master’s Thesis by Sancaktar (2006), who provided an analysis of shoes within the context of the social history of fashion, and which included a chapter on shoe fetishism. […] The “preparatory paraphilias” that typically precede serial killing and attack paraphilias, such as anthropophagolagnia, include agonophilia (sexual arousal caused by a sexual partner pretending to struggle), altocalciphilia (sexual arousal from high-heeled shoes), […]

2024, Mark Griffiths, edited by Mike Sutton, Sexual Perversions and Paraphilias: An A to Z, Curtis Press, →ISBN, “Altocalciphilia” and “Anthropophagolagnia”:

(sexuality, rare) A fetish involving sexual attraction to high-heeled shoes.


betatize

en-verb

betatize (third-person singular simple present betatizes, present participle betatizing, simple past and past participle betatized)

betatizes (present singular third-person)
betatizing (participle present)
betatized (participle past)
betatized (past)
betatise (alternative)

beta + -ate (verb-forming suffix) + -ize

af

She can hold her purse, she's just trying to betatize you, and I don’t use that world lightly, into doing something for her and kind of turning you into this, like, doormat for. You might think I'm exaggerating here and I'm being this complete red pull guy, I'm telling you, it’s the truth, she’s willing to see if she can steal the frame and make you her personal assistant and kind of make you do something, like, everything you do has to be on your own terms, right, so when she says hold my purse for me and you hold it for her, I know it may not seem deep, but it definitely is.

2024 December 18, YBCTooCold, 5:17 from the start, in Female Sh*t Tests (TIER LIST):

(seduction community) To turn into a beta in socio-sexual hierarchy.


RAFC

I've successfully transformed myself from an AFC (Average Frustrated Chump) into an RAFC (Recovering Average Frustrated Chump).

2008, Zander Martin, The Players, →ISBN, page xxxvi:

average frustrated chump
average frustrated chump#English

(seduction community) Initialism of recovering average frustrated chump.


multibreast

(paraphilia, pornography) A character, typically female, with more than two breasts.


multiboob

(paraphilia, pornography) Synonym of multibreast.


triboob

(paraphilia, pornography) A multibreast having exactly three breasts.


quadboob

(paraphilia, pornography) A multibreast having exactly four breasts.


Black New World Order

the Black New World Order (canonical)
black new world order (alternative)
BNWO (alternative initialism)

(BDSM) In raceplay, a fetishistic world order where black men sexually rule and exploit over other races.


BNWO

Black New World Order
Black New World Order#English

(BDSM) Initialism of Black New World Order.


rope kiss

(BDSM) A temporary imprint or mark left on the skin by a rope.


Mxtress

(BDSM) Used as a title of a gender-neutral dominant.


bitchsuit

bitchsuits (plural)
bitch suit (alternative)

The “Bitch Suit” an absolutely wonderful bondage punishment!!!⛓😈⛓

She's gunna be in that bitchsuit a long time if she doesn't age

2021 January 21, u/vaultdweller611, Reddit, r/hentaibitchsuits:

going to the tgirl party except when i arrive they pull me into a dark room and force me into a bitch suit and then make me crawl around the house while they treat me like the boston dynamics robot dog and push me around and kick me and pull my legs out from under me 😵💫😵💫😵💫

2024 July 17, @neverslutgender, Twitter:

(BDSM) A bondage suit which restrains the arms and legs, forcing its wearer into a crawling position.


pedocriminal

From pedo- (“child”) + -phile, after Ancient Greek παιδοφῐ́λης (paidophĭ́lēs) (from παῖς (paîs, “boy, child”) + φιλέω (philéō, “I love”)), and from Middle English cryminal, borrowed from Anglo-Norman criminal, from Late Latin criminalis, from Latin crimen (“crime”).
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According to TF1: “[The] Justice considers that the lack of moderation, cooperation with law enforcement and the tools offered by Telegram (disposable number, crypto, etc.) makes him an accomplice in drug trafficking, pedocriminal offenses and fraud.”https://fox5sandiego.com/news/telegram-founder-pavel-durov-arrested-in-france/amp/

"Here lives pedocriminal J. Rivoire. The Canadian justice is asking for his extradition. France's is refusing. We are ashamed," the message reads, in French.https://www.cbc.ca/lite/story/1.6716076

(psychiatry, sexology) A pedophile that acts on their impulses and engages in sexual acts with a child (in opposition to a pedophile that doesn't act on their impulses, thus restraining themself from engaging in sexual acts with a child).


postcoital tristesse

(sexology, psychology) A feeling of sadness, anxiety, irritability, or agitation experienced by some individuals after consensual sexual activity.


autofisting

(slang, vulgar, sex) The The act, process, or sexual practice of fisting oneself.


naizuri

en-noun

naizuri (countable and uncountable, plural naizuri or naizuris)

From Japanese 無刷り (naizuri), a blend of 無 (nai, “nothing”) + パイ擦り (paizuri, “titty fucking”).

blend

(Japanese pornography) A sex position or sex act where type penis is stimulated by small breasts.


ruined orgasm

(BDSM) An orgasm that is not accompanied by the typical pleasant physical sensations, usually achieved by withdrawing stimulation just before it occurs.