prawn

en-noun

prawn (countable and uncountable, plural prawn or prawns)

First attested early 1400s as various Middle English forms prayne, prane, praune, and prawne, which present no clear cognates in languages other than English. The forms suggest a hypothetical Old English form *prægn, where *æg would have evolved into Middle English *ay, but it is unclear if the word is of Germanic origin, from another European language, or loaned from a substrate. In the Isle of Wight, a word prankle ("prawn") is recorded and thought to be related. Century, following Skeat, suggested transposition of an unrecorded Old French *parne, *perne related to Spanish perna (“a flat shellfish”), Old Italian perna and diminutive pernochie, parnocchie, glossed as "shrimps or prawne, fishes" by John Florio, but the OED considers Florio's entry incorrect and the suggested connection semantically and phonologically implausible.
(woman with toned body but unattractive face): From the idea of discarding the head of a prawn before eating it.

sense

She's a prawn!

(Australia, colloquial, derogatory) Synonym of butterface: A woman with an attractive body but an unattractive face.


shrimp

en-noun

shrimp (countable and uncountable, plural shrimp or shrimps)

From Middle English schrimpe (“shrimp, puny person”), ultimately from Proto-Germanic *skrimpaz (“shrivelled”) (compare Middle High German schrimpf (“a scratch, minor wound”), Norwegian skramp (“thin horse, thin man”)), from Proto-Germanic *skrimpaną (“to shrivel”) (compare Old English sċrimman (“to shrink”) and scrimp, Middle High German schrimpfen (“to shrink, dry up”), Swedish skrympa (“to shrink”)), from Proto-Indo-European *skremb-, *skr̥mb- (compare Lithuanian skrembti (“to crust over, stiffen”), and possibly Albanian shkrumb (“embers, ashes; crumble”)).

ပုစွန်

general term for prawn, shrimp, crab, lobster, scampi

(slang, uncommon) Synonym of butterface: a person with an attractive body but unattractive face.


glass ceiling

A metaphor using ceiling to suggest a barrier to upward mobility, and glass to allude to the often unacknowledged or “invisible” nature of this limitation.
Coined by US author and diversity advocate Marilyn Loden in 1978.

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There are fears of hitting a "glass ceiling" beyond which known or suspected gay men and lesbians cannot rise. According to Fortune: "In a 1987 survey by the Wall Street Journal, 66% of major-company CEO's said they would be reluctant to put a homosexual on management committees"

1991 December 15, Kathyrin E. Diaz, “Telling Fortune”, in Gay Community News, volume 19, number 22, page 7:

Women are “woefully” under-represented in parliament, the courts and the boardroom, with new research showing that the glass ceiling is still holding back 6,000 women from the top 33,000 jobs in Britain.

2007 January 5, Polly Curtis, “Six thousand women missing from boardrooms, politics and courts”, in The Guardian:

[…] it was the genteel chauvinism of the enlightened elites at Kleiner Perkins that carried with it the sting of betrayal. They promised her a meritocracy and gave her a glass ceiling instead: “It just wasn’t fair.”

2017 September 19, Jennifer Szalai, “The Education of Ellen Pao”, in New York Times:

“Has the glass ceiling shattered?” said Bakari Sellers, a political ally of Harris. “No, but it does have another crack.”

2021 November 19, Chris Megerian, quoting Bakari Sellers, “Kamala Harris makes history, again, as first woman with presidential power — for 85 minutes”, in Los Angeles Times:

And yet as we stand amid the metaphorical shards of all those shattered glass ceilings, it’s hard to ignore the fact that empowerment feminism hasn’t really delivered on its promises.

2022 July 29, Lux Alptraum, “Women, the Game Is Rigged. It’s Time We Stop Playing by the Rules.”, in The New York Times, →ISSN:

“My father really believed at some point that [communism]^([sic]) would be great for humanity, perhaps also because he was facing all the glass ceilings for being a Jewish boy,” she says.

2023 October 14, Raphael Minder, quoting Agnieszka Holland, “Lunch with the FT”, in FT Weekend, Life & Arts, page 3:

(idiomatic) An unwritten, uncodified barrier to further promotion or progression, in employment and elsewhere, for a member of a specific demographic group.


chaste

en-adj

chaste (comparative chaster, superlative chastest)

chaster (comparative)
chastest (superlative)

From Middle English chaste, from Old French chaste (“morally pure”), from Latin castus (“pure”).

... but the cars of chaste women have either coverings thrown over them, or white sheets hung over; for instance, on the cars of the female part of the family of the deceased Nawabs Khanduran and Muzaffar Khan, there used generally to be fastened thick dirty white cloths, and in like manner also on their palanquins—although one brother was the chief treasurer, and the other a commander of seven thousand men. And most assuredly this is a requirement of modesty; for one whose palanquin or cart is turned out with much splendour, verily the idea comes to the minds of the sight-seers and common people, that in it there must be some lovely one, bright as the morning, the envy of the fairies. Hence, for the cars or palanquins for women to ride in to be greatly embroidered is, in the opinion of certain men of standing, who are worthy to be trusted, of great infamy.

1871, Henry Court translating Sher Ali Afsos as The Araish-i-Mahfil, or, The Ornament of the Assembly, p. 31

I ask again what reason could a chaste woman possibly have for being out so late? and in that part of town?
Your Honor, we repeat our motion that you recuse yourself from this case.

Synonym of pure and virtuous, particularly

Synonym of modest, particularly (sexism) in reference to behavior expected of sexually pure women.


misogynist

From Ancient Greek μισογύνης (misogúnēs), from μισέω (miséō, “I hate”) + γυνή (gunḗ, “woman”), equivalent to misogyny + -ist.

"Confound all women, I say!" muttered the young misogynist.

1857–1858, W[illiam] M[akepeace] Thackeray, The Virginians. A Tale of the Last Century, volume I, London: Bradbury & Evans, […], published 1858, →OCLC, page 327:

Job, like myself, is a bit of a misogynist - I fancy chiefly owing to the fact of his having been one of a family of seventeen - and the feelings expressed upon his countenance when he realised that he was not only being embraced publicly, and without authorisation on his own part, but also in the presence of his masters, were too mixed and painful to admit of accurate description.

1886 October – 1887 January, H[enry] Rider Haggard, She: A History of Adventure, London: Longmans, Green, and Co., published 1887, →OCLC:

One who professes misogyny; a hater of women.

One who displays prejudice against or looks down upon women.


misogynist

misogynist (comparative more misogynist, superlative most misogynist)

more misogynist (comparative)
most misogynist (superlative)

Misogynistic: relating to or exhibiting misogyny.


gynophobia

I fear both kinds. I must admit to gynophobia – the general fear of women – and, in particular, venustraphobia – the fear of beautiful women.

2012 January 14, David Tang, “The second-class sex”, in Financial Times:


misandry

en-noun

misandry (usually uncountable, plural misandries)

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Formed in the late 19th century as mis- (“hatred”) + -andry (“men”) by analogy with misogyny; compare the Ancient Greek μισανδρία (misandría), from μισέω (miséō, “hate”) + ἀνήρ (anḗr, “man”).

The scenework proves unsuccessful when Carmichael recalls not the source of her misandry but another episode of overacting, that of castratively biting off the moustache of an amorous man.

2016, Leslie H. Abramson, Hitchcock & the Anxiety of Authorship:

Hatred of, contempt for, or prejudice against men.


misandrist

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A misandrist hates all men, and a philandrist likes them.

2000, David Macfarlane, Mail & guardian bedside book, 2000, page 46:

Others support Harmange and Coffin, yet stop short of calling themselves misandrists.

2021 October 1, Laura Cappelle, “With ‘I Hate Men,’ a French Feminist Touches a Nerve”, in The New York Times:

One who professes misandry; a hater of men.

мужчынаненавісніца

one who professes misandry; a hater of men


misogyny

misogyny (usually uncountable, plural misogynies)

From Ancient Greek μισογυνία (misogunía) and μισογύνης (misogúnēs, “woman hater”), from μισέω (miséō, “I hate”) + γυνή (gunḗ, “woman”). By surface analysis, miso- + -gyny.

Although she argues against a simplistic conflation of types of prejudice, she suggests that misogyny is typically present in both narcissistic and obsessive forms of anti-Semitic prejudice.

1999, Joanne Marie Greer, David O. Moberg, Research in the Social Scientific Study of Religion, →ISBN, page 29:

His misogyny, like that of his predecessors, is more than prejudice; […]

1999, Ethel Spector Person, The Sexual Century, →ISBN, page 84:

[…] a lonely straight male had no equivalently forgiving Theory of Masculinism to help him out of this bind, this key to all misogynies: […]

2001, Jonathan Franzen, The Corrections:

This ontological symbiosis also explains his misogyny. By envying Sue, as the man he cannot become, he projects his self-loathing onto her, trying to diminish what he actually admires.

2005, Jeff Johnson, William Inge And The Subversion Of Gender, →ISBN, page 122:

2006, Jack Holland, Misogyny: the world's oldest prejudice, →ISBN:

[…] I have always found it hard that Hamlet, a character that I love and admire, is guilty of a puerile misogyny and, perhaps, more worryingly, of the unnecessary deaths of his old friends from university, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern. When I played him, I could find reasons for the misogyny but half-ignored the murders.

2014 April 12, Simon Russell Beale, “Why Shakespeare always says something new: As the 450th anniversary of Shakespeare's birth approaches, the great Shakespearean actor Simon Russell Beale explains his secrets [print version: The king and I]”, in The Daily Telegraph (Review), London, page R7:

Hatred of, contempt for, or prejudice against women.


butterface

Ellipsis of various forms of everything looks good but her face, great body but her face, etc., under the influence of butter (perhaps also with connotation of “plainness”, grease, etc.) and buttface, which see. Compare summerteeth.

you don't look at the mantelpiece when you're poking the fire

I can’t even look at her, she’s such a butterface.

Her face wasn't quite as pretty as he had hoped — Earl, the other mechanic back at his father's place called this kind of girl a Butterface...

2010, Laura Lippman, I'd Know You Anywhere, New York: HarperCollins, →ISBN, page 76:

(slang, derogatory) A person who has an attractive body but a less attractive face.

背影殺手 /背影杀手

attractive person with unattractive face


androphobia

In the case of androphobia, a reaction can occur when exposed to men or masculinity, in anticipation of such experiences, or even hearing words related to the male sex.

2021 July 25, Jordan Davidson, “Androphobia (fear of men): what is it, causes, treatment”, in Ro:


machismo

machismo (usually uncountable, plural machismos)

First attested 1940, from American Spanish machismo, from Spanish macho (“male”), + suffix -ismo (“-ism”).

(informal) An excessive masculine pride.

PSP [Puerto Rican Socialist Party] spokesperson Victor Lopez-Tosado told GCN: "[…] The party is mainly organized in a Latin American country where oppression, as a result of machismo, etc., to homosexuals is very common."

1979 April 7, Rebecca Chase, “PSP Supports Gay Rights”, in Gay Community News, page 1:

The Dominican Republic is traditionally regarded as a patriarchal island brimming with machismo — where, indeed, a recent U.S. ambassador was publicly vilified for bringing his husband to his posting. It was, and is, an unlikely place to find an enclave of acceptance. So what explains this unique tolerance?

2017, Sarah A. Topol, “Sons and Daughters”, in Harper's Magazine:

(Latin American) male chauvinism, misogyny


poontang

poontang (countable and uncountable, plural poontangs)

Origin uncertain. Likely from French putain (“prostitute”). Compare Jamaican Creole punani (“female genitalia”); also Tagalog putang ina (“contemptible person”, literally “prostitute-mother”) from Spanish puta (“prostitute”).

cog

(US, slang, vulgar, dated, derogatory, offensive) A woman, especially when discussed from a heavily sexualized, sexist, and misogynist perspective.


frou-frou

en-adj

frou-frou (comparative more frou-frou, superlative most frou-frou)

more frou-frou (comparative)
most frou-frou (superlative)

Borrowed from French frou-frou, an onomatopoeia.

They ate in a frou-frou restaurant at the top of a skyscraper.

Kinda like a frou-frou dessert at a chichi restaurant, restaurant.

2009 September 1, Michael Chapman; Matthew Chapman, “Strong Bad Email #204: dictionary”, in Homestar Runner, spoken by Strong Bad (Matthew Chapman):

This is a column for a Sunday paper, designed to be absorbed at leisure, over coffee and frou-frou pastries, at around noon.

2012 June 30, Miranda Sawyer, “Rewind radio: Love Love Love Like the Beatles; Is It Worth It?; 6-Love-6”, in The Observer, →ISSN:

For the price of a frou-frou Starbucks drink, a Netflix subscriber could binge this content ad nauseam without suffering through a single commercial – the ideal home viewing experience.

2023 January 21, Andrew Lawrence, “Netflix’s Reed Hastings changed the way we watch TV – for better or for worse”, in The Guardian, →ISSN:

Highly ornamented, overly elaborate; excessively girly.


male chauvinism

A belief in the innate superiority of men over women.


male chauvinist

en-noun

male chauvinist (plural male chauvinists)


brownbagger

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(US, colloquial, derogatory) Synonym of butterface.


all cats are grey in the dark

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Calque of French la nuit, tous les chats sont gris (“at night, all cats are grey”), sometimes understood with vulgar reference to secondary senses of cat and pussy.

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[Of a widow:] And to make carnall appetite content,
To take lacke of beautie but as an eye ſore.
The fayre and the foule, by darke are lyke ſtore.
When all candels be out, all cats be grey,
All thingis are then of one colour, as who ſey.
And this prouerbe ſaith, for quenching hot deſyre,
Foule water as ſoone as fayre, will quenche hot fyre.

1562, John Heywood, A Dialogue Conteynyng the Number of the Effectuall Proverbes in the Englishe Tounge..., page 10:

‘When all candles be out all catts be gray:’
This none but careless leachers will say.

1611, John Davies, "Vpon Englishe Prouerbs", Scourge of Folly, §387

There's as good Bread bak'd here as in France, and Joan’s as good as my Lady in the Dark. In the Night all Cats are grey. Unhappy's he that wants his Breakfaſt at Two in the Afternoon... Sancho’s proverbial aphoriſms, and the ſimple Waiting-Woman's Comment upon the Text, were no ſmall Diverſion to the Dutcheſs.

1719, Peter Motteux & al. translating Miguel de Cervantes as The History of the Renowed Don Quixote de la Mancha, Vol. III, p. 307

The Face first grows lank and wrinkled; then the Neck; then the Breast and Arms; the lower Parts continuing to the last as plump as ever: So that covering all above with a Basket, and regarding only what is below the Girdle, it is impossible of two Women to know an old from a young one. And as in the dark all Cats are grey, the Pleasure of corporal Enjoyment with an old Woman is at least equal, and frequently superior, every Knack being by Practice capable of Improvement.

1745 June 25, Benjamin Franklin, "Advice to a Friend on Choosing a Mistress"

... at laft [King Croquignolet] gained intelligence of a famous wizard in the land of Gotham, a very prodigy of ſcience, to whom the world is indebted for old Robin's Almanack, the Court Calendar, the Attorney's Vade-Mecum, the Lady's Diary, and the Gentleman's Magazine... He firſt made known to mankind that after a ſtorm comes a calm; that it is day when the ſun is riſen; that dead men tell no tales; that ſhops ſhut are a ſure ſign of Sunday; that all cats are grey in the dark; that as ſoon as the ſun is ſet, there are many beaſts in the ſhade.

1796, "R.C." translating Marguerite de Lubert as Princess Coquedoeuf and Prince Bonbon: A History..., p. 8

However—the Frenchman's a practical man... He's trained to spot the redeeming graces as adroitly as a highly bred pig sniffs truffles. And faced with the homeliest dame he'll work over her until he can say, "Yes—she's certainly homely, but she has 'delightful ears'"; or "and exciting back to her neck"; or "provocative biceps." And the worst he cares to admit about any woman is "Yes, she is very ugly, but she has 'something' (Elle a quelque chose)." And if you get him in a cynical but wholesome mood he'll indicate that after all, "All cats are grey at night!"

1937, "They Order It Better in France", Esquire, Vol. 8, No. 3, p. 209

In one poem, unjustly attributed to Voltaire, the regent was accused of conducting an affaire with his eldest daughter, the Duchesse de Berry, which seems to have been true. The libertine regent loved women, but none more than his remarkable mother Liselotte, and it was to her that he uttered the famous rebuke when she complained he chose such ugly mistresses: "Bah! Mama, all cats look gray in the dark!"

1991, Marie-Christine Anna Agnes Hedwig Ida von Reibnitz, Cupid and the King, p. 56

"All Japanese look alike" is the racist counterpart to the sexist "In the dark, all cats are gray."

2011, Wendy Doniger, The Uninvited Spider, page 31:

(UK, sometimes vulgar and offensive) Sex is enjoyable regardless of the physical attractiveness or social station of one's partner.

dans la nuit, tous les chats sont gris (Cajun)

en tiempos de guerra cualquier agujero es trinchera

นารีงามสรรพเมื่อดับเทียน (naa-ree ngaam sàp mêua dàp tian, literally “women are beautiful when candles are extinguished”)


oinker

The slug they dug out of him was a .22. A woman's gun? Or was I being a sexist oinker?

2006, Robert B. Parker, Hundred-Dollar Baby, Putnam, →ISBN, page 150:

(derogatory slang) An MCP; male chauvinist pig.


antiwoman

en-adj

antiwoman (comparative more antiwoman, superlative most antiwoman)

more antiwoman (comparative)
most antiwoman (superlative)

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That Megawati Sukarnoputri has been labeled an antiwoman president has little to do with religion. Among other things, she voted not to ratify a provision that 30 percent of people voted to parliament should be women.

2010, Anne Rasmussen, Women, the Recited Qur’an, and Islamic Music in Indonesia, page 271:


boys' club

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(informal) A male-dominated organization, especially in business, that excludes or mistreats women.


old boys' club

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A boys' club (an organization that excludes women), especially one with an established history of male control.


antiman

antiman (comparative more antiman, superlative most antiman)

more antiman (comparative)
most antiman (superlative)

Feminism was often portrayed by the media as an attempt to put women's rights ahead of other people's, as being antiman and antifamily...

2004, Steven P. Schacht, Doris W. Ewing, Feminism with men: bridging the gender gap:


antisexist

antisexist (comparative more antisexist, superlative most antisexist)

more antisexist (comparative)
most antisexist (superlative)


mansplaining

Blend of man + explaining, or from mansplain + -ing.

Mansplaining isn't just the act of explaining while male, of course; many men manage to explain things every day without in the least insulting their listeners... Mansplaining is when a dude tells you, a woman, how to do something you already know how to do, or how you are wrong about something you are actually right about, or miscellaneous and inaccurate "facts" about something you know a hell of a lot more about than he does.

2009 May 8, Karen Healey, “A woman's born to weep and fret”, in Karen Healey's Livejournal:

It's hard to appreciate the full pathological depths of mansplaining unless you've read late-period Heinlein, an experience comparable to being trapped in an elevator for six hours with a boorish know-it-all offering his theories on economics, politics, sex, aesthetics, military strategy, investing and myriad other topics.

2014 December 1, Jeet Heer, Sweet Lechery: Reviews, Essays & Profiles, The Porcupine's Quill, →ISBN, page 179:

“Cognitive therapy” is the fancy clinical term for what is otherwise known as “mansplaining.”

2015 December 7, James Taranto, “You're Being Hysterical. Calm Down.”, in The Wall Street Journal:

(informal, derogatory) The act of condescendingly explaining something, particularly by a man to a woman, in order to appear knowledgeable, or from a mistaken presumption that she has an inferior understanding of the topic.


BOBFOC

Acronym of "body off Baywatch, face off Crimewatch".

Female Threes can be less than a Two and more than a Four for a variety of reasons: many MILFs* and GILFs* are Threes, as are BOBFOCs* and their opposite, FFTBBBs*.

2009, Kate Copstick, Jamie Maclean, Sex and the Recession, page 31:

She had never been a stunner, but she had had height and good legs and a good walk, and those three can take you a long way. These days she was what the boys on the squad call a BOBFOC: body off Baywatch, face off Crimewatch.

'So she was a BOBFOC?'
'A what?'

2011, Anita Notaro, Take A Look At Me Now, page 47:

(UK, colloquial, derogatory) Synonym of butterface (“a person with an attractive body but ugly face”).


missing white woman syndrome

en-noun

missing white woman syndrome (uncountable)

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Coined by American journalist, television newscaster and author Gwen Ifill.

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The Petito case, which is still unfolding (her fiancé, with whom she’d been travelling, is believed to be in hiding) seemed like another instance of what the late journalist Gwen Ifill famously described as “missing white woman syndrome”: a hunger for stories about victims who look like Petito, to the exclusion of all others.

[2021 October 8, Helen Rosner, “The Long American History of “Missing White Woman Syndrome””, in The New Yorker, →ISSN:

(derogatory) The disproportionate media coverage of a missing person or similar case involving a young, white, upper-middle-class woman, contrasted with lesser coverage of males, non-white ethnicities, etc.


mansplain

en-verb

mansplain (third-person singular simple present mansplains, present participle mansplaining, simple past and past participle mansplained)

mansplains (present singular third-person)
mansplaining (participle present)
mansplained (participle past)
mansplained (past)

Blend of man + explain, equivalent to man + -splain.

But what's getting all of the attention in the bill is the part where legislators have banded together to mansplain the various shadings of the crime of "rape" to America.

2011 February 1, Jason Linkins, “What’s behind the drive to redefine rape in new and insane ways?”, in The Huffington Post, archived from the original on 2016-04-01:

There were some Occupy-style solutions: those whose voices dominate should “step back” for an entire meeting. […] Men should notice when they are “mansplaining” (this one got a thunderous ovation).

2012 May 18, Sarah Seltzer, “Can Occupy fight back against the war on women?”, in The Nation, archived from the original on 2013-08-14:

Positioning himself as the white guy mansplaining to a black woman what’s best for her, The New York Times’s John Caramanica argues that Rihanna’s attempt, on the album, “to make public art with the person who physically abused you is immature, pre-feminist, post-ethics.”

2015 February 27, Robin James, Resilience & Melancholy: Pop Music, Feminism, Neoliberalism, Alresford, Hants: Zero Books, →ISBN:

(informal, derogatory) To explain (something) condescendingly (to a female listener), especially to explain something the listener already knows, presuming that she has an inferior understanding of it merely because she is female.


male answer syndrome

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Like most statements on BlueSky that call attention to norms of masculinity, accusations of male answer syndrome tend to be offered and taken in good humor.

2002 June 27, Lori Kendall, Hanging Out in the Virtual Pub: Masculinities and Relationships Online, University of California Press, →ISBN, →OL, page 76:

Psychologists at Southwestern University sought to determine whether such a thing as male answer syndrome actually exists.

2011 October 25, Valerie Young, The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women: Why Capable People Suffer from the Impostor Syndrome and How to Thrive in Spite of It, New York: Crown Business, →ISBN, →OL, page 201:

(sometimes capitalized, derogatory) A supposed male compulsion to answer questions regardless of whether one knows the answer.


manhater

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From man + hater. Compare Old English mannhata (“man-hater”).

From past experiences it seems that 99% of man hating women consider themselves feminists, but few feminists consider themselves manhaters.

2011, Joseph Lowe, Losers and Winners on the Unknown Road to an Unpredictable Destiny:

Julia has to make various disclaimers (feminism does not always imply lesbianism and vice-versa; she is a lesbian 'but' not a manhater) before occupying a pro-feminist stance.

2013, Christina Scharff, Repudiating Feminism (Epub) Young Women in a Neoliberal World:

One who hates men or the male sex; a misandrist.


transmisogyny

From trans- + misogyny. Coined by Julia Serano in her 2007 book Whipping Girl, who defined it as the intersection of traditional sexism (belief in women's inferiority) with oppositional sexism (belief in a rigid gender binary).

Coordinate term: transmisandry

The blog critic gudbuy t'jane is even more scathing in her condemnation of the video in arguing that the fact that Lady Gaga 'uses trans women and drag queens to exoticize her videos doesn't defer from the cissupremacist stance that women=vagina, and trans women are therefore not real women . . . This is transmisogyny.'

2011, Diane Railton, Paul Watson, Music Video and the Politics of Representation, Edinburgh University Press, published 2011, →ISBN, page 146:

I talk about “transmisogyny” in my book, which is the intersection of being trans and experiencing misogyny. As a trans woman, I don't just experience how our culture devalues femininity—I'm treated as a fake woman.

2011, Julia Serano, edited by Jennifer Baumgardner, F 'em!: Goo Goo, Gaga, and Some Thoughts on Balls, Seal Press, →ISBN, page 199:

As to bisexual trans woman, in addition to all of the above, they are also subject to a whole other set of sexual harassment and violence as a result of transphobia and transmisogyny (this goes especially for trans women of color).

2013, Shiri Eisner, Bi: Notes for a Bisexual Revolution, Seal Press, published 2013, →ISBN:

The state is unable to provide equal protection and non-discrimination to those within its borders because the state itself enshrines white supremacy, heteropatriarchy, and transmisogyny into its legal codes – a structure that operates through nonconsensual imposition, coercion […]

2017, Elizabeth Whalley, Colleen Hackett, “Carceral feminisms: the abolitionist project and undoing dominant feminisms”, in Contemporary Justice Review: Issues in Criminal, Social, and Restorative Justice, volume 20, number 4, pages 456–473:

Later in the text, the author speaks directly with a street sex worker, describing her as a “pretty transgender teenager”, giving a counterpoint to the language earlier in the text—however this occurs well after the transmisogyny of the introductory paragraphs (Wane 2011, 69) …

2020, G. L. E. Easterbrook-Smith, “'Not on the Street Where We Live': walking while trans under a model of sex work decriminalisation”, in Feminist Media Studies:

(LGBTQ, neologism) Hatred of or contempt for trans women.

Sexism
Whipping Girl
oppositional sexism
transmisogyny


butterbody

After the model of butterface, equivalent to an ellipsis of various forms of everything looks good but her body, great face but her body, etc., under the influence of butter, which see.

Her body really wasn’t that great, on second thought. Her arms and neck were tight and thin, but her hips and legs were a little dumpy. She was sort of a butterbody, really.

2008, Mark Fuller, “match.com”, in On the Beautiful Sea: Eight Stories, A Mutual Respect Books & Music, →ISBN, page 42:

The list began as an online poll letting men of all ages cast their votes for the biggest butterbodies of 2008.
But what exactly is a butterbody?
According to the Spike TV website, butterbodies are girls who are hot everywhere but their bodies.

2009, Nicki Lamont, "Sexist shows should be stopped", The Chronicle (Durham College), Volume 35, Issue 12, 10 February 2009, page 5

We all love Adele. She's pretty, she's soulful, she's talented, and she's strong. Earlier this week Karl Lagerfeld called her a butterbody ⎯ but he's since apologized, proving that her charm is universal.

2012 February 10, Evan Lambert, “Adele: I Was A Boozy Shut In”, in Out:

(colloquial, derogatory) A woman who has an attractive face but a less attractive body.


chill girl

[Chill girls naturally] have tons of dude friends, they're not invested in the person they're casually sleeping with, and they like sports and beer.

2014 October 19, Anna Breslaw, “What Happens When the Chill Girl Falls in Love”, in Cosmopolitan:

(slang) A girlfriend considered by her boyfriend to be self-sufficient, "low-maintenance" and "chilled out".


play the gender card

play the gender card (third-person singular simple present plays the gender card, present participle playing the gender card, simple past and past participle played the gender card)

plays the gender card (present singular third-person)
playing the gender card (participle present)
played the gender card (participle past)
played the gender card (past)

Oh, I don't wanna play the gender card card right now. You wanna play a card? Let's play the "let's not die" card.

2003, 01:04:56 from the start, in Finding Nemo, spoken by Marlin (Albert Brooks):

What worries me is that she is accused of "playing the gender card" when citing the old boys’ club, while he is seen as unifying by citing civil rights confrontations.

2008 January 8, Gloria Steinem, “Women Are Never Front-Runners”, in The New York Times, →ISSN:

[…] the CAS was going to lose two of its best teachers; tolerate a mediocre one who had skillfully played the gender card by hiding behind her pregnancy; and retain an ineffective one.

2010, Robert Fedorchek, The Translators: A Novel, Bloomington: iUniverse, →ISBN, page 463:

How can you tell the difference between someone playing the gender card and someone actually calling out misogyny when you so obviously have no expertise on the matter?

2013 June 19, “Did someone play their gender card at you? Poor baby.”, in We, the Intelligentsia, …, archived from the original on 2014-03-29:

(idiomatic, often derogatory) To assert that sexism is involved in a situation, especially in order to exploit sexist or antisexist attitudes.


misogynoir

/mɪˌsɒd͡ʒəˈnwɑː/

/məˌsɑd͡ʒəˈnwɑɹ/

Blend of misogyny (“contempt for, hatred of, or prejudice against women”) + French noir (“black”), coined by the African-American feminist activist and scholar Moya Bailey and first published in a 2010 online essay: see the quotation below.

coinage

My reorientation to the misogynoir ruling the radio took place when I tried to make the argument that “All the Way Turnt Up” was a great song because it didn’t objectify women. This was something I could get behind; a song simply extolling the youthful value of keeping the bass bumping in your vehicle. That was until I read the lyrics and found the choice lyric “three dike bitches, and they all wanna swallow.”

2010 March 14, Moya Bailey, “They Aren’t Talking about Me …”, in Crunk Feminist Collective, archived from the original on 2022-03-15:

Hip-hop feminist studies continues to tackle black sexual politics by discussing and challenging the persistence and prevalence of hip-hop "misogynoir" (the hatred of black women and girls), respectability politics, and compulsory heterosexuality within the music and the culture at large.

2013 spring, Aisha Durham, Brittany C. Cooper, Susana M. Morris, “The Stage Hip-Hop Feminism Built: A New Directions Essay”, in Signs: Journal of Women in Culture and Society, volume 38, number 3, Chicago, Ill.: University of Chicago Press, →ISSN, →OCLC, page 730:

Unfortunately, the idealization of white women is most often paired with the condemnation of black women, creating the intersectional problem of misogynoir: the combined racism and sexism black women face.

2014 September 24, Monica Cruz, “Someone Tell Kanye West to Stop Insulting Black Women”, in The Paper: Fordham University’s Student Journal of News, Analysis, Comment and Review, volume 43, number 6, Bronx, New York, N.Y.: Fordham University, →OCLC, page 9:

Drawing upon a history in which racism, heteropatriarchy, and inter-racial gender ideology rendered Black women invisible and marginalized, Pough compels Black feminists attempting to reject hip-hop feminism to revisit the historical record of Black women pushing back against Black male sexism and misogynoir in Black political, cultural, and social spaces.

2015 January, Treva B. Lindsey, “Let Me Blow Your Mind: Hip Hop Feminist Futures in Theory and Praxis”, in Urban Education, volume 50, number 1, Beverly Hills, Calif.: SAGE Journals, →DOI, →ISSN, →OCLC, archived from the original on 2015-03-19, pages 57–58:

[A] Black woman as the arbiter of racialized sexism against a young Black girl is an example of misogynoir.

2016, Sonita R. Moss, “Beyoncé and Blue: Black Motherhood and the Binds of Racialized Sexism”, in Adrienne Trier-Bieniek, editor, The Beyoncé Effect: Essays on Sexuality, Race and Feminism, Jefferson, N.C.: McFarland & Company, →ISBN, page 157:

To me, his words seemed a form of “misogynoir” – discrimination prejudice, and violence aimed specifically at women of colour.

2022 December 21, VV Brown, “The Sun will protect Jeremy Clarkson. Who will protect women who suffer violence every day?”, in The Guardian:

(neologism) Contempt for, hatred of, or prejudice against black women.

misogynoir

contempt for, hatred of, or prejudice against black women


pussy pass

From pussy + pass, modelled after hall pass, etc.

"It won't buy you any wine," Paxton told him.
"I know that," the drunk replied in an insulted tone. "It's a pussy pass, ain't it?"
Paxton grinned wearily. "How would you know that? You'd rather have a snort than a screw any day."

1978, George G. Gilman, Edge: Red River, Pinnacle Books, →ISBN, page 45:

Or when some gorgeous piece of ass in a Blades Jersey offers you a pussy pass good for one night only and you have to turn her down.

2007, Deirdre Martin, Chasing Stanley, Berkley Sensation, →ISBN:

Maybe it was the fact that women allowed their exes an all-access pussy pass, or men were too egotistical to believe their exes didn't want the dick anymore.

2013, Mary B. Morrison, Unconditionally Single, Dafina Books, →ISBN:

(slang, vulgar, derogatory) A notional ticket allowing a man to have sex with a woman.


womanhater

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I suppose, the gentleman’s a womanhater; but, Sir, I think you ought to remember, that you had a mother: and pray, if it had not been for a woman, where would you have been, colonel?

1738, Jonathan Swift, A Complete Collection of Genteel and Ingenious Conversation, page 311:

From his insertion of these strictures on women, which are not the most courtly, it has been inferred that he was a womanhater; but that he was not so, appears from some of his prologues, especially from that to the ‘Knight of the Tower.’

The petticoated-intrusion may be resented by a few cross-grained “theologs,” bachelors before their time, or womanhaters because some boarding-school miss has failed to fulfill their idea of fidelity.

1895–6, Florence Guertin, "The Yale Prom", in Bachelor of Arts, page 365

One who hates women or the female sex; a misogynist.


genderist

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The Feminist Movement, […] is split between two types of feminists: the equality feminists and the gender feminists. Those who demand equal rights, […] are the equality feminists, […] The others are the NOW type, […] the gender feminists, or genderists. This radical element attempts to remodel women into something other than what nature has determined women to be. […] The genderists address particular vitriol toward non-conforming women still "enslaved" to men, like those who get married and have babies, […] And for her apostasy, Sommers says, the genderists “wish to excommunicate me from my sex.” The genderists tend to position themselves among the far left politically, to reject all advances of women as inadequate, and to hate America.

2010, William Davis Eaton, Liberal Betrayal of America and the Tea Party Firestorm, ELDERBERRY PRESS, INC., →ISBN, page 47:

(uncommon, in right-wing usage, derogatory) One who believes in gender ideology or does not support traditional gender roles.


tip drill

I said it must be ya ass, cause it ain't ya face
I need a tip drill, I need a tip drill...
It must be ya money, cause it ain't ya face
You a tip drill, nigga, you a tip drill

2007, Cornell Iral Haynes Jr. & al., "Tip Drill"

(African-American Vernacular, derogatory) Synonym of butterface: A person with an attractive body but an ugly face.


jessie

From Jessie as a diminutive of Jane, Jean, etc., here used in their extended sense of any young working-class girl.

(colloquial, dated) Synonym of sissy: a cowardly, effeminate, or homosexual man, a girly man.


womansplaining

Blend of woman + explaining, modelled on mansplaining.

The War on Women perpetrators keep trying to tell us that government not funding something equates to government banning something. That must be womansplaining, I guess? Except I’m not willing to have women made out to be idiots. So maybe “liberalsplaining.”

2015, Joy Pullmann, quoted by "David C Kifer", Tolerance (on newsgroup alt.quotations)

2015, "Chris Davis", quoted by Emily Crane, The moment that left the new Prime Minister scratching his head: Tanya Plibersek accuses Malcolm Turnbull of 'mansplaining' during Question Time… but what does it mean? (in Mail Online) http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3237538/Tanya-Plibersek-accuses-Malcolm-Turnbull-mansplaining-question-time-does-mean.html
Womansplaining: When a woman incorrectly explains something, but you're not allowed to tell her without being accused of mansplaining.

The minister took offence with the accusation, saying he'd be judged much more harshly if the tables were reversed and he accused a woman of womansplaining.

2016, Daniel Peters, “Minister accused of MANSPLAINING by a female senator calls her a 'hypocrite' as boring parliamentary committee hearing turns into a fight about hipster language”, in Mail Online:

Andrea’s righteous womansplaining of Pink Floyd to Richie is worth repeating in full: “Your point-of-sales strategies are archaic. Your marketing makes you look like a vacuum-cleaner company. Dark Side of the Moon doesn’t even have a single on it and it’s a blockbuster! […]

2016, Dan Martin, “Vinyl recap: episode five - the high-end soap that's proving lovably trashy”, in The Guardian:

She offered her own story to warn me about what can happen when a Christian invests too much in her work and too little in finding a spouse. It was a bad case of womansplaining.

2016, Katelyn Beaty, A Woman's Place: A Christian Vision for Your Calling in the Office, the Home, and the World:

Many men have reported a drastic rise in womansplaining.

2017 December 19, “The Rise Of The 'Feminazis'”, in Youth Ki Awaaz:

(informal, derogatory) Condescending explanation of something by a woman, particularly to a man.


hypersexist

en-adj

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Rather, Baraka could see black women only through a hypersexist, black male heterosexual gaze. His Kawaidan philosophy of life endorsed the black male domination of black women.

2001, Jerry Watts, Amiri Baraka: The Politics and Art of a Black Intellectual, page 240:


prosexist

Prosexist symbolization was present throughout Western society; feminism used scientific knowledge & social scientific methods to criticize & explain these symbolizations.

1980, Sociological Abstracts, volume 28, page 1139:

Walzer's critigue of sexism could be be explained and justified, against a conventionalist prosexist alternative, by my account of moral explanation.

1990, Alan Gilbert, Democratic Individuality, page 154:

However, this scale was shortened to 30 items (16 prosexist and 14 antisexist statements) by Parker (1996), based on pilot work, because a small sample of Canadian university students judged 10 of the original statements to be inappropriate in the mid-1990s.

2014, Raymond F. Paloutzian, Religious Orientation and Authoritarianism in Cross-cultural Perspective, page 185:


postsexist

It's also notably different from defiantly politically incorrect humor, which revels in its flirting with racism and sexism in the name of free speech, but doesn't argue or imply that we live in a postracist or postsexist world.

2006, Lisa Jervis, BITCHfest: Ten Years of Cultural Criticism from the Pages of Bitch Magazine, page 323:

In the case of Star Trek particularly, its creator, Gene Roddenberry, conceived of a series that imagined a social world that expressed ideals of a postracist, postsexist, post religious (and implicitly postcapitalist) and peaceful earth governed by a unitary government, conditions that dif not exist in Roddenberry's lifetime and do not exist today.

2012, Peter Robson, Law and Justice on the Small Screen:

And part of what grounds the possibility of the joke being presumed to be “post-sexist” or “ironic” are national identity claims about Canada being a nation of equality between the sexes (even in the face of continuing gendered inequality).

2015, Lynda Mannik, Reclaiming Canadian Bodies: Visual Media and Representation:


cryptosexist

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Much work of this kind has been appearing of late, especially made by women, so locked into formerly cryptosexist methodologies and iconographies is this art.

His other motives, whether crypto-sexist, racist, vegetarian, or whatever, need not concern us.

1994, Paul Lawrence Farber, The Temptations of Evolutionary Ethics, page 151:

All things considered, however, most CMV proponents would likely borrow from Warren's critique of the logic of domination: the moral problem with humane farming, it could be argued, is that it relies upon a system of animal husbandry that remains despotic and prone to oppressive backsliding as it perpetuates speciesist hierarchy in a crypto-sexist vein.

2014, Carol J. Adams, Ecofeminism: Feminist Intersections with Other Animals and the Earth, page 153:

(rare) Covertly sexist; not obviously sexist.


quasisexist

As I have argued before, the way androgynous male goths open themselves up to quasisexist and homophobic abuse through their style can be seen as a deliberate appropriation of the marginalised position assigned to women and gay men in our culture.

2007, Paul Hodkinson, Youth Cultures: Scenes, Subcultures and Tribes:

I realized I could do this by cracking insensitive, sadomasochistic, exhibitionistic, quasisexist, politically incorrect, scatologically correct and genitally erect jokes.

2013, G. Sampath, How to Make Enemies and Offend People:

Here's the section women have been patiently waiting for after trudging through a swamp of quasisexist discussion.

2015, Al Bruno, Crossed Out: Our Lives without Christ:


supersexist

supersexist (comparative more supersexist, superlative most supersexist)

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Or, as U.S. welfare rights leader Johnnie Tillmon put it, welfare is “like a supersexist marriage. You trade in a man for the man” (1972).

2010, Gertrude Schaffner Goldberg, The Feminization of Poverty in Rich Nations, page 15:

This means, then, that many, if not most, male feminists and male womanists exist, literally, in a "no-man's land," where they receive the cold shoulder from feminists and womanists, and are shamelessly shunned by male antifeminists and antiwomanists and the supersexist men who rule the male supremacist world.

2010, Reiland Rabaka, Forms of Fanonism:

Devaney heads back to the bedroom, and I can hear her rummaging through drawers. “I'm cold,” I say. “Plus, can I respectfully add that this is supersexist?”

2016, Cheryl Della Pietra, Gonzo Girl: A Novel, page 83:

Of, relating to extreme levels of sexism.


ultrasexist

ultrasexist (comparative more ultrasexist, superlative most ultrasexist)

more ultrasexist (comparative)
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An ultraviolent — and ultrasexist — biker epic set for the most part in the Arizona desert, it's steeped in biker lore and southwestern mysticism, giving it the eccentricity that seems to be the exclusive province of B movies these days.

1990, The Motion Picture Guide 1990 Annual: The Films of 1989, page 49:

Malcolm's temple addresses during the 1950s particularly reveal his ultrasexist views, and many sisters in the Nation of Islam complained to Muhammad about his grossly offensive sayings against them.

1992, James H. Cone, Martin and Malcolm and America: A Dream or a Nightmare:

It is during the 1890s and 1900s that one encounters misogynist – or at any rate ultrasexist – reactions among intellectuals and, not least, emancipated intellectuals of liberal origins, which seem to express uneasiness and fear.

2014, Eric Hobsbawm, Fractured Times: Culture and Society in the Twentieth Century:


manbashing

(derogatory, slang) Overt prejudice against men.


Twirlgate

(informal) A 2015 controversy in which a male television presenter asked tennis player Eugenie Bouchard to give a twirl, perceived as sexist by some viewers.


Shirtgate

The backfiring of Shirtgate created a temporary pause in the Big Panic, and revealed a basic truth. Most people appeared to have no objection to the kinds of expression that were now being presented as sexist.

2016, Jerry Barnett, Porn Panic!: Sex and Censorship in the UK:

(informal) A 2014 controversy in which a shirt worn by scientist Matt Taylor at an informal interview associated with the European Space Agency landing of a probe on a comet was branded sexist by some viewers on social media.


Pussygate

From pussy + -gate, in reference to Trump's remark that "when you're a star, they [women] let you do it, you can do anything... grab them by the pussy".

(informal, vulgar) A controversy in 2016 regarding a lewd recorded conversation between politician Donald Trump and Billy Bush on the subject of women.


women are wonderful effect

the women are wonderful effect (canonical)

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(psychology, sociology) The phenomenon in psychological and sociological research that people seem to associate more positive attributes with women in general than with men in general, reflecting an emotional bias.


transmisogynoir

/ˌtɹænz.mɪˈsɑd͡ʒ.ɪˌnwɑɹ/

Blend of transmisogyny + misogynoir, from trans- + misogyny + French noir (“black”); coined on the site Gradient Lair in 2014.

When Black American transgender women contend with these dynamics, they experience transmisogynoir, the interactive product of anti-Blackness, transphobia, and sexism.

2017, Kevin L. Nadal, The SAGE Encyclopedia of Psychology and Gender, SAGE Publications, →ISBN:

(neologism) Hatred of, contempt for, or prejudice against black trans women.


transmisandry

From trans- + misandry, modeled on the earlier transmisogyny.

Coordinate term: transmisogyny

A Black trans-of-color critique shows that we need theories not only for thinking about how trans women of color navigate but also for racialized transmisandry, to explain the ways in which Black trans masculine persons live in a sphere of literal and discursive policing […]

2017, E. C. Krell, “Is transmisogyny killing trans women of color? Black trans feminisms and the exigencies of white femininity”, in Transgender Studies Quarterly:

Transmisogyny and transmisandry are asymmetrical types of violence. Any claim of transmisandry which is used to vilify trans women and other assigned male at birth trans people should be heavily interrogated if not simply dismissed outright.

2019, Morgan Lev Edward Holleb, The A-Z of Gender and Sexuality: From Ace to Ze, Jessica Kingsley Publishers, →ISBN, page 277:

(LGBTQ, neologism) Hatred of or contempt for trans men.


female chauvinist

en-noun

female chauvinist (plural female chauvinists)

2010 February 15, Karen Salmansohn, “Are You a Female Chauvinist?”, in Psychology Today:


female chauvinism

During the five years I spent on and off dating apps, I described myself as a feminist on my profile, inviting some lovely messages including (and I quote) "third-wave feminism is all about female chauvinism" and "R U feminist?

2016 November 24, Suzannah Weiss, “Are You a Female Chauvinist?”, in Glamour:

A belief in the innate superiority of women over men.


male, pale and stale

(derogatory, informal) Dominated by older white men or their interests.


Joan's as good as my lady in the dark

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From or alongside the use of Joan as a sexually available member of the lower classes found in related expressions such as He is our Ladies Chaplaine, but serves Ione and Joan's as good as this French lady. Ultimately a calque of Latin and Ancient Greek expressions such as πᾶσα γυνὲ τοῦ λύχνου ἀρθέντος ἡ αὐτή ἐστι (pâsa gunè toû lúkhnou arthéntos hē autḗ esti) and sublata enim lucerna quaevis mulier cuiusvis est similis (“all women are the same when the lamp is removed”), which Plutarch considered only accurate as an excuse to escape lecherous and adulterous men but which Erasmus considered a description of how all women would indulge themselves so long as witnesses and punishment could be avoided.

‘Ioan in the darke is as good as my lady:’
Nay, perhapps better, such ladies there may bee.

1611, John Davies, "Vpon Englishe Prouerbs", Scourge of Folly, §386

Here is as good bread made as in France; and in the night Joan is as good as my lady; and unhappy is that man that is to break his fast at two of the clock in the afternoon and there’s no heart a handful bigger than another; and the stomach is filled with the coarsest victuals; and the little fowls in the air have God for their provider and cater; and four yards of coarse Cuenca cloth keep a man as warm as four of fine Lemster wool of Segovia; and when we once leave this world, and are put into the earth, the prince goes in as narrow a path as the journeyman; and the pope’s body takes up no more room than a sexton’s, though the one be higher than the other; for when we come to the pit all are even, or made so in spite of their teeth and—and good night.

1620, [Miguel de Cervantes], chapter XXXIII, in Thomas Shelton, transl., The Second Part of the History of the Valorous and Witty Knight-errant, Don Quixote of the Mancha. […], London: […] [Eliot’s Court Press] for Edward Blount, →OCLC:

...in the darke, all Cats are blacke, and Jone is as faire as my Lady...

Night makes no difference 'tvvixt the Prieſt and Clark; / Jone''' as my Lady is as good i'th'dark.

1648, Robert Herrick, “No Difference i’th’Dark”, in Hesperides: Or, The Works both Humane & Divine […], London: […] John Williams, and Francis Eglesfield, and are to be sold by Tho[mas] Hunt, […], →OCLC, page 329:

Sir Sim[on Addlepot]. Faith and troth I do not railly, I deal freely. / Flip [Lady Flippant]. This is the time and place for freedom, Sir. / Sir Sim. Are you handſom? / Flip. Jone'''’s as good as my Lady in the dark certainly; but men that deal freely, never ask queſtions certainly.

1671 March (first performance), [William] Wycherley, Love in a Wood, or, St James’s Park. A Comedy, […], London: […] J[ohn] M[acock] for H[enry] Herringman, […], published 1672, →OCLC, Act II, page 22:

...when Henslowe notes Heywood's next play he has a little more respect for him; for, although the total was again but five pounds, three pounds on February 10, 1598/9 and the rest two days later, the dramatist on both occasions is Mr. Heywood. The only surviving fragment of the piece, ‘Jonne as good as my ladey’, may be a song in Γυναικεῖον with the burden 'What care I how faire she bee...

1931, Arthur Melville Clark, Thomas Heywood, page 12:

The current proverb ‘In the dark Joan is as good as my lady’ carried no moral overtones; it merely reflected upon male anxieties that social superiority might bring some kind of special benefits in terms of the quality of sexual pleasure. A countryman, so the story went, who had given a large sum to have sex with a lady was overheard on his way home from behind a hedge moaning about his wasted money with the line that his Joan at home was as good as the lady had turned out.

1995, Anthony Fletcher, Gender, Sex, and Subordination in England 1500–1800, page 18:

A wife. But what wife and when? Pretty, yes, but godly and modest. He remembers something Taffy said once: ‘A homely Joan is as good as a lady when the lights are out.’ Aye, Taf, he thinks, but best to marry one whose face you can worship. An image of Lucy Tompkins pops unbidden into his mind.

2014, Antonia Senior, Treason’s Daughter, page 169:

all cats are grey in the dark
all cats are grey in the dark#English

(potentially vulgar and offensive, archaic) Synonym of all cats are grey in the dark: Sex is enjoyable regardless of the status, physical attractiveness, or social status of one's partner.

all cats are grey in the dark

Adagia
Anthony Munday
Erasmus
If You Know Not Me, You Know Nobody
Moralia
Plutarch
Thomas Heywood


misogynoirist

Narrators demonstrated resistance coping techniques through direct confrontation with aggressors, such as racists, sexists, homophobes, elitists, and misogynoirists.

2022 December 6, LeAnna T. Luney, “Like our foremothers survived: Self-education, direct confrontation, and humor as resistance coping in Black womxn and femme college student being”, in Frontiers in Education, volume 7, →DOI, page 10:

(neologism) A person who exhibits misogynoir.


misogynoirist

(neologism) Relating to or exhibiting misogynoir (the hatred of black women).


muh soggy knees

Distorted pronunciation of misogyny. See muh.


ethnosexism

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Adapted borrowing of German Ethnosexismus + ethno- + sexism, introduced by Gabriele Dietze 2016 in reference to the discourses around 2015–16 New Year's Eve sexual assaults in Germany.

af

An intersectional form of discrimination pushing narratives where a sex or gender is constructed as disadvantaged due to ethnic background and geopolitical position.


fragile masculinity

Anxiety felt by men who feel they do not meet cultural standards of manhood