bridesmatron

From bride + -s- + matron, by analogy with bridesmaid and maid of honor, matron of honor.

In the celebrated Aldobrandini fresco-painting, found in the baths of Titus, the bride is seated veiled on a bed, with the pronuba or bridesmatron near her, whilst the bridegroom sits at the foot of the bed.

1854, Erotica. The poems of Catullus and Tibullus, and the Vigil of Venus, a prose tr. with notes, by W.K. Kelly. To which are added the metrical versions of Lamb and Grainger, and a selection of versions by other writers, page 49:

The banquet ended, the bride was escorted to the nuptial couch (Lectus genialis) by Pronubae, bridesmatrons, who differed from the bridesmaids of modern times only in the respect that they were married ladies who had been united to only one husband (Univirae).

1867, The Poems of Valerius Catullus, page 233:

Sallie Adele Pendleton, the maid of honor wore pink satin covered with georgette, and the bridesmatrons, Mrs. Leo Gatlin and Mrs. Wilbur Groom both wore gowns of pink georgette, all carrying bouquets of Columbia roses in the light and darker shades.

1920, The Independent, volume 43, page 6:

A badly defaced panel shows a Roman marriage ceremony (H. 19% in. [49.2 cm.]). The contracting couple are clasping their right hands, while the officiating bridesmatron stands behind them with her hands on their shoulders.

1924, The Bulletin of the Metropolitan Museum of Art, volume 19, page 241:

Lois Gill, B K, wore an enchanting bridal gown and Mrs. Charles McConville (Barbara Reifel), B K, and Diane Lancaster, B K, were bridesmatron and bridesmaid.

Mrs. Bobby Pechal of Temple was bridesmatron, Miss Annette Pyle of Houston served as bridesmaid.

But Elagabalus solemnly went through a form of marriage with Zoticus and insisted that someone should act as “bridesmaid or bridesmatron.”

1958, The Caesars: Might and Madness, page 240:

Mrs. Dean Webb was bridesmatron and Harold Klusman was best man.

Huey and her cousin Terry Kwong were bridesmatron and bridesmaid respectively.

Miss Helen Hale, sister of the bride, served as maid of honor, while Miss Ann Dougan, daughter of Chief Claim Agent J. W. Dougan, was the bridesmaid and Mrs. Andrew Hurst of Roanoke, was the bridesmatron.

1970, Norfolk and Western Magazine, page 297:

Attending the bride in gowns of pastel green trimmed with white daisies were Mrs. Patricia Parks as Matron of Honor and Judy Williamson and Karen Allbert, sisters of the bride, as bridesmatrons.

[…] F. Meikle and the groom’s cousin, Miss Bonnie Robertson, were bridesmatron and bridesmaid.

1973, Lenna Gowdey, Our Sire's Monument: The Merrithews of America, page III:

The bridesmaid, Miss Joan Spellman of Denton, and bridesmatron , Mrs. Karl Linke, Jr., wore gowns of sea green and amber.

1982, Ancestry and Descendants of Johann Dirk Eilers, 1815-1885, Pioneer Settler, Johnson County, Nebraska, page 78:

Their good friends Maurice and Lora Dell Freed served as best man and bridesmatron.

1983, Houder-Westcott Proud Connections, page 304:

The bridesmaid, Lois Anderson, sister of the bride, and bridesmatron, Mrs. Tom Latter, Jr., wore dresses styled like that of the maid of honor, but were a darker shade of blue.

1984, Marilyn Macklin, The Damgaard Family Album, page 121:

Wearing alike costumes of holiday red silk taffeta the attendants were Mrs. Donald Lind (Pat Stafford), the matron of honor; Mrs. Ronald Green (Gretchen Teal), the bridesmatron; bridesmaids Miss Carolyn Schimmel, Miss Marilyn Mousel of McCook and Sherrill Saylor, who was the sister's junior bridesmaid.

1985, John Galen Saylor, Helen Smith Saylor, A Smith Lineage: A Brief History and Genealogical Record of One Line of Descendants of Robert Smith, 1623-1985, page 282:

Bridesmatron was Shannon Packer. Bridesmaids were Barbara Bremer and Cindy Wilson.

1991, Association of Philippe Du Trieux Descendants Newsletter, page 12:

Bridesmatrons were Teresa Sessions, the groom’s twin sister, Eau Claire, and Kathy McCourt, the bride's sister-in-law, of Portland.

1994, The American Descendants of Henry Luce of Martha's Vineyard, volume 4:

Bridesmatron was Christa Wells Campbell from West Palm Beach in Florida and bridesmaid was Setsumi Togawa from Nashville in Tennessee.

1996, Journal of the Clan Campbell Society, page 35:

Miss Beverly Durbin of Kewanee, and Mrs. Paul Grieve of Toulon, were the bridesmaid and bridesmatron.

1998, Virginia M. Heaton Horton, Nicholas Blust/Von Blust from Baden, Baden, Germany to Freeport, IL, 1827-1998, page 75:

Out in the driveway, Tova smoothed the cleaner’s plastic over the sleeves of her green bridesmatron’s dress, the Tova Zissie dress.

2003 January 16, Risa Miller, Welcome to Heavenly Heights: A Novel; republished United States: St. Martin's Publishing Group, 2014 July 8, →ISBN:


kothi

(India) In the culture of the Indian subcontinent, an effeminate man who takes on a passive or female gender role in same-sex relationships.


feMRA

/ˌfɛm ˌɑː(ɹ)ˈeɪ/

On the websites we examined, it was very often feMRAs – female men’s rights activists – who were the strongest critics of rape culture, with activists like Straughan (2013), Fiamengo (2014) and Barbara Kay (2014a, 2014b) taking the lead in contesting feminist arguments.

2016, Lise Gotell, Emily Dutton, “Sexual Violence in the 'Manosphere': Antifeminist Men’s Rights Discourses on Rape”, in International Journal for Crime, Justice and Social Democracy, volume 5, number 2, page 74:

Lauren discusses these issues with FeMRAs – female men's rights activists – something that seems like a completely foreign concept in a book about saving feminism.

2017, Erin Emily Ann Vance, "Why Women Are Leaving Feminism", Flurt, Winter 2017, page 19

At the same time, ‘good’ women who actively participate in MRGs (‘feMRAs’, or female men’s rights activists) are (a) held up as evidence that men’s rights activism is not anti-women and (b) enrolled to ‘legitimize claims that would likely be viewed as being clearly more offensive if put forward by men’ (Gotell and Dutton 2016: 74).

2019, Ana Jordan, The New Politics of Fatherhood: Men's Movements and Masculinities, page 197:


Ah Kong

[ˌɑː˧ ˈk˭ɔŋ˦]


dwarfmaid

dwarfmaids (plural)
dwarf-maid (alternative)

"What? She be the Goldenaxe? No—that would rive the rock indeed. No dwarfmaid wields coldmetal–"

1988, Elizabeth Moon, Divided Allegiance, unnumbered page:

Throngs of people moved across the stone ground, though the dwarfmaid could still see the paving stones in many places.

2002, Douglas Niles, World Fall, page 43:

Many people do not know about mermen, and I did not know about dwarfmaids.

2018, Joseph R. Lallo, The Adventures of Rustle and Eddy, unnumbered page:


elfmaid

elfmaids (plural)
elf-maid (alternative)

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She became known as 'the Fair' because of her beauty; many said that she looked more like an elf-maid than a hobbit.

1955, J. R. R. Tolkien, The Return of the King, unnumbered page:

“Soth fell in love with a beautiful elfmaid, a disciple of the Kingpriest of Istar. […]

1985, Margaret Weis, Tracy Hickman, Dragons of Spring Dawning, unnumbered page:

There were two others riding with Ruth Marlowe and the nameless paladin: an elfmaid and her human servant.

1997, Rosemary Edghill, The Empty Crown, page 663:


bridesmaiden

[…]; and so warmly did he share the partiality of Lady Mary and Lady Jemima for the gentle recluse, whom he persisted in calling “la belle au bois dormant,” that, when informed that though the funeral baked meats of the late Earl were not to furnish forth the marriage-table of his successor, the bombazine of the two noble spinsters was, in a decent time, to give place to bridesmaiden white, he was unable to resist a mild “hurrah!”

1855, Catherine Grace F. Gore, Mammon; or, The hardships of an heiress, volume 2, Hurst and Blackett, page 45:

And when a little bridesmaiden, uncommonly like you, / Comes into church so trippingly, all dress’d in white and blue, / You’ll discover, as you reach the middle aisle, / Why they linger’d, linger’d, linger’d at the stile.

“But it will be a deception,” urged Mòr. “I shall have to appear as chief bridesmaiden, whilst I am a married woman.”

1880, Agnes Smith Lewis, The Brides of Ardmore: A Story of Irish Life, page 258:

The Night wore all her starry gems of pride, / To be bridesmaiden to that peerless bride;

1885, Edwin Arnold, The Secret of Death: From the Sanskrit with Some Collected Poems, page 58:

There were errands to be done, he said, but as these “errands” always took him over to the little island of Urk, where lived a certain pretty Olla Tronk, who was Jacqueline’s great friend and her chosen bridesmaiden, the sisters naturally teased him a good deal about them.

1889, Susan Coolidge, Just Sixteen; republished Germany: Outlook Verlag, 2018, →ISBN, page 147:

That night, therefore, I told my cousin of my plans, and she greatly astonished and dismayed me by saying that she, too, would go with me and be bridesmaiden.

1896, The Primitive Methodist Magazine, volume 77, page 329:

And now, after all, here I had been married with ne’er a bridesmaiden at all!

1896, The Strand Magazine, volume 11, page 44:

Then turning to Mrs. Mummer, “And you smiling at her. Think you I want a bridesmaiden with a red nose?”

1915, Emilie Benson Knipe, Alden Knipe, Peg O' the Ring: A Maid of Denewood, Century Company, page 23:

I s’pose when we’re married you’ll have to, because I promised you you could be bridesmaiden.

1915, The Mount Holyoke, volume 24, page 344:

None other than Sally shall be my chief bridesmaiden, and none other than your dear self shall deck me for my wedding.

1927, St. Nicholas Magazine, volume 54, page 1025:

Young people of Sweden confess that they like moral, they follow the norm, they concentrate on education that pays and they want to marry in church with wedding gown, dress-coat and bridesmaidens.

1992 February 19, Marcus Gustavsson, “Re: systemet (was a whole bunch a things)”, in soc.culture.nordic (Usenet), message-ID <9288@chalmers.se>:

The bridesmaiden is 12 years old, and has yet to decide if she would rather sit with the bridal party or with her parents (we gave her that choice, and she's letting us know soon).

1996 May 29, Kelley Teahen, “wedding party spouses ‹ where to seat”, in alt.wedding (Usenet), message-ID <31ACAAD7.75BD@lfpress.com>:

Just tell your aunt & cousin that a bridesmaid should be between the ages of x and y - so the cousin could either be a flower girl, junior bridesmaid or bridesmaiden (as Megan/NutmegGA would say!).

1996 July 19, kellie whitehurst, “Re: Bridesmaids dilemma”, in soc.couples.wedding (Usenet), message-ID <4sp76g$8lm@qualcomm.com>:

And when the bridesmaidens had dressed her for bed / I stepped in amongst them and kissed the bride / And wished that I could have been laid by her side / And by that means I'd got me the favour.

1998 September 3, Dyrath, “Re: Sharing songs”, in alt.fan.dragons (Usenet), message-ID <3232.550T522T11922346@mail.telepac.pt>:

I wore my best cream dress and traveled in the coach accompanied by Lily, my bridesmaiden, and my soon-to-be new mama and papa.

2017 January 3, Jacey Bedford, Silverwolf, DAW Books, →ISBN:


CPD

en-noun

CPD (countable and uncountable, plural CPDs)

cephalopelvic disproportion
cephalopelvic disproportion#English

(obstetrics) Initialism of cephalopelvic disproportion.


trans-identified female

trans-identified female (plural trans-identified females)

trans-identified females (plural)
TIF (alternative)

(derogatory, offensive, dysphemistic) A trans man.


pick-me girl

pick-me girls (plural)
pick me girl (alternative)
pick me (alternative)
pickmeisha (alternative)

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From the phrase pick me + girl, the implication being that such women, like someone pleading "pick me!", are desperate to be chosen over their putative competition.

Coordinate term: pick-me boy

Perhaps that's why Daniel saw her past the rest of the “pick me” girls.

2013, Stephen Hayes, Rock Haulter, eBookIt.com, →ISBN:

She kept changing her mind about which pick-me girl it would be from the Popular Group who would get to share her tent.

2020, Suzanne Daniel, A Girl in Three Parts, Knopf Books for Young Readers, →ISBN, page 55:

I have been called a handmaiden, a “pick me” girl, and been accused of vying for male attention.

2022 February 4, Marie Le Conte, “Feminism has been reduced to the transgender debate”, in The New Statesman:

(originally African-American Vernacular, derogatory) A woman who asserts that she is unlike (and sometimes better than) most other women, in order to gain attention, approval, or validation from men.


Ah Soh

(Singapore, Malaysia, slang) sister-in-law (elder brother's wife)


violinist argument

The argument was first used in the essay “A Defense of Abortion” by Judith Jarvis Thomson, first published in the Philosophy & Public Affairs journal in 1971.

(philosophy) An argument in favour of a right to abortion that appeals to a thought experiment in which a person with a rare blood type is kidnapped and plugged into a famous unconscious violinist with a fatal kidney ailment; if the violinist is unplugged, he will die, but if he stays plugged into the kidnappee for nine months, he will recover from his ailment. The argument assumes that in this hypothetical scenario, the kidnappee has the right to unplug themselves from the violinist at any time even if this will cause his death, because the violinist does not have a right to the kidnappee’s body.

A Defense of Abortion
A Defense of Abortion#The violinist
Judith Jarvis Thomson
Philosophy & Public Affairs


compulsory heterosexuality

In none of these books, which concern themselves with mothering, sex roles, relationships, and societal prescriptions for women, is compulsory heterosexuality ever examined as an institution powerfully affecting all these; or the idea of "preference" or "innate orientation" even indirectly questioned.

1980 Summer, Adrienne Rich, “Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence”, in Signs, volume 5, number 4, →DOI, page 633:

How could I have missed this milestone of compulsory heterosexuality? Who would teach my daughter whatever girls with fathers learned on these dates and dances, like how to wait for doors to be opened or hold a fork like an unmistakable catch?

2019 April 26, Asha French, “A ‘Daddy-Daughter Date,’ Queer Single Mom-Style”, in The New York Times:

(LGBTQ, feminism) The idea that heterosexuality is often assumed and forced upon individuals regardless of their own sexual orientation by a patriarchal and heteronormative society.


mxn

From men + -x-. Respelled to use x (like e.g. Latinx) to convey that the word has a broad scope, and to foreground people of color; compare womxn.

A womxn whose ability to carry out this work is through the grace of Anishinaabe mxn and institutions? A womxn without a grove of birch whose bark may be harvested without fear of negative consequences?

2018, Julie A. Gallagher, Barbara Winslow, Reshaping Women's History: Voices of Nontraditional Women Historians, University of Illinois Press, →ISBN:

Fundamental to these interventions is how gender is understood and how womxn¹ and mxn are positioned as (non)gendered beings. Central, too, is an understanding of the ways in which womxn and mxn are positioned within these interventions […]

2019, J. M. J. Marvuso et al., “Overcoming Essentialism in Community Psychology”, in Floretta Boonzaier, Taryn van Niekerk, editors, Decolonial Feminist Community Psychology, Springer, →ISBN, page 12:


softboy

softboys (plural)
softboi (alternative)
soft boy (alternative)

(informal, often derogatory) A man who is not traditionally masculine, but willing to show emotion and to wear feminine or androgynous clothing.


tranarchist

What follows is a distillation of hours of conversation with two of these women, Justine and Zoë, founding members of the "tranarchist" affinity group that has helped jump-start a movement that has swept the nation and the world.

2011 November 9, Gina Quattrochi, “When the System Itself is the Problem”, in Gay City News, page 10:

As Justine Tunney (27), self-described "tranarchist" and founder of the main OWS website (occupywallst.org) phrased it, "I believe that the hetero-normative, cis-normative, patriarchal, state-capitalist establishment is evil and must be destroyed."

2013, Mark Bray, Translating Anarchy: The Anarchism of Occupy Wall Street, unnumbered page:

Some noted with bemused incuriosity that Tunney, an avowed anticapitalist “tranarchist” (transgender anarchist), was at one time a prominent and divisive fixture of the Occupy Wall Street movement.

2018, Corey Pein, Live Work Work Work Die: A Journey into the Savage Heart of Silicon Valley, unnumbered page:

(neologism) A transgender person who espouses anarchist views.


black piller

black pillers (plural)
blackpiller (alternative)

But in contrast to a therapeutic mode of connecting with others, this nihilistic network does not seek to overcome its condition: Black Pillers accept their fate and even dwell in its finality.

2019, Jack Bratich, Sarah Banet-Weiser, “From Pick-Up Artists to Incels: Con(fidence) Games, Networked Misogyny, and the Failure of Neoliberalism”, in International Journal of Communication, volume 13, page 5017:

Hate and revenge are the principal driving satisfactions for Blackpillers targeted at women (especially fat women and Indian and Asian women because they only want to have sex with "Chads"); […]

2019, Stephanie Swales, Carol Owens, Psychoanalysing Ambivalence with Freud and Lacan: On and Off the Couch, unnumbered page:

Some biological essentialists blackpillers promote fatalism, believing that it is impossible to change female nature (gender essentialism), so we should just "give up".

2020, Incels.co wiki, quoted in Anne Jones, "Incels and the Manosphere: Tracking Men's Movements Online", thesis submitted to the University of Central Florida, page 66

A person who has adopted a nihilistic and often far-right philosophy, especially an incel who believes men's dating success is determined purely by their physical appearance.


brotherboy

Senator McCarthy's plea to 'stay strong' resonates because all too often sistergirls and brotherboys suffer, not only from verbal harassment and ostracism, but also violence and sexual abuse.

2017, Stephen Kerry, Trans Dilemmas: Living in Australia’s Remote Areas and in Aboriginal Communities, unnumbered page:

This, however, is changing in some communities, with some sistergirls and brotherboys being able to negotiate participation in men's business or women's business, allowing for greater connection to country.

2019, Sonja J. Ellis, Damien W. Riggs, Elizabeth Peel, Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans, Intersex, and Queer Psychology: An Introduction, page 84:

For example, Jeremy, who identifies as a brotherboy (trans) and is bisexual, reveals: […]

2020, Corrinne Sullivan, “Indigenous Australian Sexualities Explored Through The Lens Of Sex Work”, in Anindita Datta, Peter Hopkins, Lynda Johnston, Elizabeth Olson, Joseli Maria Silva, editors, Routledge Handbook of Gender and Feminist Geographies, unnumbered page:

Australian Aboriginal
Australian Aboriginal

(Australian Aboriginal) A member of a traditional gender role in Australian Aboriginal cultures, resembling trans men.


looksmaxx

en-verb

looksmaxx (third-person singular simple present looksmaxxes, present participle looksmaxxing, simple past and past participle looksmaxxed)

looksmaxxes (present singular third-person)
looksmaxxing (participle present)
looksmaxxed (participle past)
looksmaxxed (past)
looksmax (alternative)

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Incel culture advises men to “looksmaxx” or “statusmaxx”—to improve their appearance, to make more money—in a way that presumes that women are not potential partners or worthy objects of possible affection but inconveniently sentient bodies that must be claimed through cold strategy.

2018 May 15, Jia Tolentino, “The Rage of the Incels”, in The New Yorker:

Some attempt to “looksmaxx” with money by finding methods of increasing their sexual market value like getting plastic surgery.

2020, Annie Jones, "Incels and the Manosphere: Tracking Men's Movements Online", thesis submitted to the University of Central Florida, page 48

This can be achieved through one of two ways: by ‘looksmaxxing’ or improving one’s physical characteristics in order to become more attractive (Chapter Four) or through the ‘just be white’ (JBW) theory.

2020, Angus Charles Lindsay, "Swallowing the Black Pill: A Qualitative Exploration of Incel Antifeminism within Digital Society", thesis submitted to Victoria University of Wellington, page 79

(transitive, intransitive, incel slang) To seek to enhance one's physical appearance to increase one's sexual market value.


formenism

From for + men + -ism, to sound like feminism.

A form of Christian-oriented, female-led masculism in South Africa.

Masculism#South African masculinist evangelical movements


currycel

From curry + -cel, referencing the stereotype of curry as a staple of Indian cuisine.

Smaller groups of “Ricels”^([sic]) and “Currycels” representing East and South Asian incels exist, and explicitly tie their celibacy to preference for whiteness in society.

2018 September, Shannon ZImmerman, Luisa Ryan, David Duriesmith, “Recognizing the Violent Extremist Ideology of ‘Incels’”, in Women In International Security Policy Brief, page 4:

Currycel teen, extreme manlet (5'5 3/4 but I say 5'6 so I can make myself seem taller), incel because I am curry in the west, and if you are ethnic in the west you are fucked unless you can pass as either white, latino or black.

2019, anonymous, quoted in Clara Rubertsson, "'The majority of females are selfish and don’t want to help us lonely men out': En netnografisk studie om män som är incels", thesis submitted to Lund University, page 33

Particularly for self-described ‘currycels,’ there seemed to be a consensus that white Incels held a higher value on the sexual market.

2020, Angus Charles Lindsay, "Swallowing the Black Pill: A Qualitative Exploration of Incel Antifeminism within Digital Society", thesis submitted to Victoria University of Wellington, page 83

(incel slang, often offensive) An incel of South Asian (especially Indian) heritage.


ricecel

From rice + -cel, referencing the fact that rice is a staple food in East Asia.

Smaller groups of “Ricels” and “Currycels” representing East and South Asian incels exist, and explicitly tie their celibacy to preference for whiteness in society.

2018 September, Shannon Zimmerman, Luisa Ryan, David Duriesmith, “Recognizing the Violent Extremist Ideology of ‘Incels’”, in Women In International Security Policy Brief, page 4:

The latter term encompasses currycels and ricecels—people of Indian and East Asian descent respectively, who are often involved in the practice of whitemaxing (trying to change their appearance with creams and surgeries to achieve a more Caucasian look).

2020, Małgorzata Waśniewska, "The Red Pill, Unicorns and White Knights: Cultural Symbolism and Conceptual Metaphor in the Slang of Online Incel Communities", in Cultural Conceptualizations in Language and Communication (Barbara Lewandowska-Tomaszczyk), page 67

As with some other incel terms, this manages to come remarkably close to a structural critique of racism and white supremacy, but the underlying reasoning that ricecels use is almost always grounded in the evolutionary psychology of women, rather than socially constructed structures of oppression.

2020, Whiteaker A. James, “The Story of the 'Incel Saint': A Rhetorical Analysis of Elliot Rodger's My Twisted World”, in Shayna Engdahl, editor, Source 2020: Conference Proceedings, page 150:

(incel slang, often offensive) An incel of East Asian (especially Chinese) heritage.


mentalcel

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Joey, on the other hand, claims he is a mentalcel: involuntary celibate due to his mental challenges.

2019, Thea Høiland, "Incels and the stories they tell: A narrative analysis of Incels’ shared stories on Reddit", thesis submitted to the University of Oslo, page 90

We even have research confirming that 'mentalcels' struggle in the same way high-functioning autistic adolescents struggle when it comes to relationships.

2019, “Dr. Castle”, in The Blackpill Theory: Why Incels Are Right & You Are Wrong, page 143:

Some suspect that gay men are using this site and attempt to ostracize them from it. Others insist that mental illness is not an excuse for someone to be an incel. Jewsel does both in the same comment: “Well, you are severe gaycel, or an extreme mentalcel. Just go to therapy and stop being this loli creepy guy and you would escape inceldom easily.”

2020, Joshua A. Segalewitz, "'You Don’t Understand... It’s Not About Virginity': Sexual Markets, Identity Construction, and Violent Masculinity on an Incel Forum Board", thesis submitted to the University of Dayton, page 31

(incel slang) Someone who is an incel due to mental illness or a psychological disorder.


Chadlite

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Because redpillers are usually normies or Chadlites while incels are ugly low-value males that women feel innately repulsed by.

2018, anonymous, quoted in Rebecca Karlén, "Incels: En kartläggning av diskursen på forumet incels.is", thesis submitted to Uppsala University, page 31

This story starts with the sentence: “When you hear the foid above you gets pushed down the stairs by her Chadlite bf but she gets up and goes back to him” (A), accompanied by an image of Pepe the frog laughing so hard he has to dry tears from his eyes (see image 4).

2019, Thea Høiland, "Incels and the stories they tell: A narrative analysis of Incels’ shared stories on Reddit", thesis submitted to the University of Oslo, page 74

One user states: “They don’t give a shit about us. Nobody does. That’s why I have no problem if any of us starts killing as many people as possible. The more young women, Chads, Chadlites, normies, cucks, and Boomers who get slaughtered, the better”.

2019 November, Sylvia Jaki, Tom De Smedt, Maja Gwóźdź, Rudresh Panchal, Alexander Rossa, Guy De Pauw, “Online Hatred of Women in the Incels.me Forum: Linguistic Analysis and Automatic Detection”, in Journal of Language Aggression and Conflict, volume 7, number 2:

(incel slang) A man of a slightly lower ranking on a scale of physical attractiveness than Chad.


looksmatch

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Overwhelmingly incels (and men in general) want to date someone they consider to be their "looksmatch."

2019, “Dr. Castle”, in The Blackpill Theory: Why Incels Are Right & You Are Wrong, page 31:

Body dysmorphia “was invented by old psychologists who grew up in the Fifties and had NO problem to find a looksmatch [someone who is your counterpart in terms of appearance] or even better-looking wife”, noted another.

2019 June 8, Alice Hines, “Men are having their faces rebuilt – and it’s all to get a date”, in The Times, UK:

High iq. If all those things happened giving us an equal playing field it would be like before feminism, and foids [women] wouldn't be as picky with men around their looksmatch, probably even willing to settle for less than their looksmatch since usually men make more money.

2020, anonymous, quoted in Annie Jones, "Incels and the Manosphere: Tracking Men's Movements Online", thesis submitted to the University of Central Florida, page 57

(incel slang) A person of equal ranking to another on a scale of physical attractiveness.


betabux

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From beta + bux, the second component being a leetspeak-influenced respelling of bucks (“money”), from the incel phrase alpha fucks, beta bucks.

They reproduce with "genetically inferior" men just fine. They don't usually reproduce with chads because they use birth control, they wait until they turn 35 and find some betabux cuck to have giga incel kids with.

Chad has to work hard to avoid having kids, roasties will beg for condoms off and lie about birth control to get his seed. … Meanwhile normie betabux can’t even be sure that his one kid is biologically his. The foid could’ve cheated on him while ovulating and his blue pilled ass would never know.

2019, anonymous, quoted in Stephane J. Baele, Lewys Brace & Travis G. Coan, "From 'Incel' to 'Saint': Analyzing the violent worldview behind the 2018 Toronto attack", Terrorism and Political Violence

For one user “Hoping to go back to uni so I can moneymaxxx and not die of a lack of healthcare in this American shithole country. If I can get enough money, some foid will at least want me to be her betabuxx provider.”

2020, anonymous, quoted in Angus Charles Lindsay, "Swallowing the Black Pill: A Qualitative Exploration of Incel Antifeminism within Digital Society", thesis submitted to Victoria University of Wellington, page 54

(incel slang, derogatory) A beta male who acts as a provider for a woman who has decided to finally settle down.


fishman

From Middle English fisscheman; equivalent to fish + -man.

Without an exception, save ourselves, the boat was occupied by fishmen and fishwomen, returning from effecting their purchases at Billinsgate, and who availed themselves of this new mode of transit to reach the West End, without having the barriers of Fleet-street, the hills of Holborn, or the other localities which have to be traversed to reach from the city to the quarters where they had their business and connection.

1846, “Our Tattler”, in The Mirror of Literature, Amusement, and Instruction, page 175:

We arrived in the night, and all were asleep and still. But in the morning, what a Babel of sounds assailed and stunned us! There were fishmen and fishwomen in “schools”—boatmen and boatwomen—sailors, of every nation, “pulling and hauling”—artisans of every description plying the hammer and the axe—all mechanical powers in noisy operation—ponderous wagons of most thundering construction—men, women, and children yelling to the very top of their voices, to outcry each other in selling their wares.

1856, George Foxcroft Haskins, “Chapter V. — Marseilles”, in Travels in England, France, Italy, and Ireland, Boston: Donahoe, Patrick, page 29:

Fishmen and fishwomen, costermongers and other small traders, spit on their “hansel” (the first money they take); and boxers spit on their hands to make them deliver winning blows.

1899, William Thomas Fernie, Animal Simples: Approved for Modern Uses of Cure, page 412:

The butcher, the baker, the greengrocer, the old eggwoman, the vegetable dealer from the country, the fishman, every one who in any way purveyed to my little household, came to lay presents on the sunny engawa.

1907 April, Eliza Ruhamah Scidmore, “At Home—Colonel and Mrs. Vladimir von Theill”, in As The Hague Ordains: Journal of a Russian Prisoner’s Wife in Japan, New York, N.Y.: Henry Holt and Company, →OCLC, page 303:


mayhole

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[…] held an annual Mayhole Celebration, "a feminist takeoff on the maypole"; […]

1996, Harper's, volume 292, numbers 1748-1753, page 72:

Andreja Novakovic and Betty Draper used to dance around the “mayhole” in white dresses every spring […]

2010, James B. South, Rod Carveth, Mad Men and Philosophy: Nothing Is as It Seems:

(rare) A hole dug in the ground for dancing around on May Day, a feminist alternative to the supposedly phallic maypole.


gendervague

Someone who is gendervague cannot separate their gender identity from their neurodivergence—being autistic doesn't cause my gender identity, but it is inextricably related to how I understand and experience gender.

2016, Lydia X. Z. Brown, quoted in Finn V. Gratton, Supporting Transgender Autistic Youth and Adults: A Guide for Professionals and Families (2019), page 15

[…] Julia Feliz—a gendervague, pansexual, Afro-Boricua (Puerto Rican)—created the flag design used in this image.

2019, "Acknowledgements", in Katie Steele & Julie Nicholson, Radically Listening to Transgender Children: Creating Epistemic Justice Through Critical Reflection and Resistant Imaginations, unnumbered page

Lei Wiley-Mydske is an autistic and otherwise disabled mom, […] activist, artist, and gendervague writer from the Pacific Northwest.

2021, “Contributors”, in Emily Paige Ballou, Morénike Giwa Onaiwu, Sharon daVanport, editors, Sincerely, Your Autistic Child: What People on the Autism Spectrum Wish Their Parents Knew About Growing Up, Acceptance, and Identity, page 204:

(neologism) Having a gender identity linked to one's neurodivergence (particularly autism).


PIH

(obstetrics) Initialism of pregnancy-induced hypertension.


penisocracy

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To prove you're not part of the dreaded penisocracy, pretend to share her beliefs.

2003 November, “How To Cure A Feminist”, in Maxim, page 58:

Some would go so far as to say that the workforce is a penis-ocracy rather than a meritocracy […]

2013 May 8, Helen Stringer, “The Looking Glass”, in Time Off, page 23:

What happened to the righteous indignation toward the Penisocracy? Now you want a male doctor?

2019, Therese Oneill, Ungovernable: The Victorian Parent's Guide to Raising Flawless Children, unnumbered page:

(informal, derogatory) A government or social order dominated by men.


Uncle Tomahawk

They criticized the old leaders as “Uncle Tomahawks.”

1994, David De Leon, Leaders from the 1960s, page 4:

The supposed “Uncle Tomahawks” included the leadership of the Five Tribes, and the Chicago conference and subsequent NIYC rhetoric alerted the more-conservative Five Tribes leaders of potential challenges to their rule […]

2013, Mark Edwin Miller, Claiming Tribal Identity, page 110:

(derogatory, ethnic slur) A Native American who is subservient to white authority.


otokonoko

en-noun

otokonoko (plural otokonokos or otokonoko)

otokonokos (plural)
otokonoko (plural)
otoko no ko (alternative)

/ɒ.təˈkəʊ.nəˌkəʊ/

Borrowed from Japanese 男の娘 (literally “male girl”).

bor+

(Internet slang) A male-to-female cross-dresser.


mispronoun

en-verb

mispronoun (third-person singular simple present mispronouns, present participle mispronouning, simple past and past participle mispronouned)

mispronouns (present singular third-person)
mispronouning (participle present)
mispronouned (participle past)
mispronouned (past)

At times, people mispronoun us, calling us by incorrect pronouns, or misgender us, assuming incorrect genders. Mispronouning and misgendering can be intentional or unintentional.

2014, Holiday Simmons, Fresh! White, “Our Many Selves”, in Laura Erickson-Schroth, editor, Trans Bodies, Trans Selves: A Resource for the Transgender Community, Oxford: Oxford University Press, →ISBN, page 17:

If Victoria doesn't feel that she can sufficiently trust Susan to help her out when James, for example, mispronouns her, then Victoria may simply cease to eat lunch with her colleagues.

2017, Rachel McKinnon, “Allies Behaving Badly: Gaslighting as epistemic injustice”, in Ian James Kidd, José Medina, Gaile Pohlhaus, Jr., editors, The Routledge Handbook of Epistemic Injustice, page 171:

When trans people are forced to correct others after being mispronouned, they are reminding those they correct that their assumptions regarding both the individual in question and the larger system of gender are wrong.

2019, C. J. Venable, Kyle Inselman, Nick Thout, “Negotiating Fit While 'Misfit': Three Ways Trans Professionals Navigate Student Affairs”, in Brian J. Reece, Vu T. Tran, Elliott N. DeVore, Gabby Porcaro, editors, Debunking the Myth of Job Fit in Higher Education and Student Affairs, unnumbered page:

(transitive) To refer to (someone) using third-person pronouns other than their preferred gender pronouns, either unknowingly or intentionally.


womanspeak

Women often punish men without even knowing it. For example, a woman may say, "This trash fills up quickly." This is woman-speak for, "Get up right now and take out the trash."

2012, Barry Cooper, Stopping the Epidemic of Divorce: Practical Steps to Stop Divorce in Its Tracks, unnumbered page:

"Come on, are you kidding me? Really?"
Brandon patted his chest, then the front pockets of his jeans. "Oh no. It looks like I forgot my woman-speak code breaker at home, so do you mind helping me out with a little translation on what I'm missing?"

2012, James L. Rubart, Soul's Gate, unnumbered page:

It was clear that this was womanspeak and that they were familiar with this term because there wasn't the customary smiles and laughs that usually follow such novel-type statements.

2014, Raymond D. Petty, Thug Love: Why Women Are Attracted to Bad Boys, page 95:

(derogatory or humorous) Communication by women viewed as nagging, critical, or shallow.


incelosphere

Almost 1,000 references to dehumanising misogyny or violent action are recorded each day in the “incelosphere” as the toxicity of male supremacist content continues to intensify.

2022 October 30, Mark Townsend, “Experts fear rising global ‘incel’ culture could provoke terrorism”, in The Guardian, retrieved 2023-12-03:

2023 June, Lewys Brace, Stephane J. Baele, Debbie Ging, “Where do ‘mixed, unclear, and unstable’ ideologies come from? A data-driven answer centred on the incelosphere”, in Journal of Policing, Intelligence and Counter Terrorism:

(Internet, neologism) The online communities where incels communicate.


mommom

"My first flyfishing experience was in the early 1960s when my grandmother, Margaret Glidewell, taught me and all of her grandchildren to fish," she says. "My fondest memories are of my youth, when I was five or six, staying at the cabin and fishing next to my Mommom, as we called her."

2006, Cecilia Kleinkauf, River Girls: Fly Fishing for Young Women, Big Earth Publishing, →ISBN, page 116:

In 2005, I was privileged to be at my grandmother's bedside when she went Home to be with Jesus. My “Mommom” had only confirmed with me a year earlier, ...

2018, Heather DeJesus Yates, All The Wild Pearls: A Guide for Passing Down Redemptive Stories Heather DeJesus Yates, Bridge Logos Inc, →ISBN, page 24:

Similar to the generational pattern observed in my mommom's and grandfather's relationship, ...

2020, Dr. Geri-Lynn Utter PsyD, Mainlining Philly: Survival, Hope, and Resisting Drug Addiction, Literary House Publishing, →ISBN:


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While I am poly-genderflux (meaning I experience several different genders fluctuating), genderflux to others could just be some days feeling like a boy, and then other days not really having the same vibe. Essentially to me, genderflux ...

2016, Ashley Mardell, The ABC's of LGBT+, Mango Media Inc., →ISBN:

Usually a genderflux person will identify as a man or a woman, on any given day. […]

2016, Angela N Tharp, Gender Spectrum Theory (West Haven, CT: University of New Haven)

(e.g. biflux, a genderflux identity with two specific gender aspects, or demigirl, […] )

2017, Johann S Koehle, Anti-Fat Bias as a Barrier to Transition-Related Medical Care (thesis submitted to The University of California, Santa Barbara)

“How do you describe yourself?” I asked. “Genderflux femme,” Cori said. “What's genderflux?” I asked. “Genderflux femme means I'm more and less femme. I'm fluxing ..."

2019, Ann Roberts, In the Silences, Bella Books, →ISBN:

This latter group includes, but is not limited to, those who experience not having a gender identity (agender) or as having a gender identity that is changing and shifting over time (genderfluid or genderflux).

2020 April, Guy T'Sjoen, Jon Arcelus, Annelou L.C. De Vries, Alessandra D. Fisher, Timo O. Nieder, Müjde Özer, Joz Motmans, “European Society for Sexual Medicine Position Statement “Assessment and Hormonal Management in Adolescent and Adult Trans People, With Attention for Sexual Function and Satisfaction””, in The Journal of Sexual Medicine, volume 17, number 4:

(LGBTQ, rare) Having a gender identity which fluctuates, either in intensity or between multiple genders.


fakecel

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While some posters questioned whether Minassian, 25, was a “fakecel” — the term for someone whose average looks disqualifies him from community membership — most hailed him as a hero of the movement.

2018, NBC News, After Toronto attack, online misogynists praise suspect as 'new saint':

Thus Peterson was called a “fakecel.” No, Peterson says, that’s wrong. He definitely still is an incel. He is a part of the group. Where then does he now belong?

2018, Daily Beast, Sympathy for the ‘Incel’:

Shut the f*** up you fakecel (ph). Like, oh, well, if you had any experience, then you can get another one eventually.

2019, NPR Invisibilia, The End of Empathy:

Others insist that race alone does not make someone an incel. For example, spicycurry says, “Arab men can get Indonesian/Pakistani/Back girls without a problem. If you only try for white girls then you are a fakecel.”

2020, Joshua A. Segalewitz, "'You Don’t Understand... It’s Not About Virginity': Sexual Markets, Identity Construction, and Violent Masculinity on an Incel Forum Board", thesis submitted to the University of Dayton, page 31

Anyone who successfully interacts with women is instantly branded a "fakecel" - meaning "fake incel".

2020, BBC, Toronto van attack: Inside the dark world of 'incels':

The following expressions recur with particular frequency: "Looksmaxing" (the business of personal self-improvement and cosmetic surgery); "NEET" ("Not in education, employment, or training"); "LDAR" ("Lay Down and Rot"); "AWALT" ("All Women Are Like That"); "Roped" (to have committed suicide) "Statusmaxx" (to make more money); "Manlet" (a short incel); "Volcel" (voluntary celibate); "Marcels" (married incels); and "Fakecels" (those who falsely claim to be an incel).

[2020 September 24, Simon Cottee, “Incel (E)motives: Resentment, Shame and Revenge”, in Studies in Conflict & Terrorism, volume 44, number 2, Taylor & Francis, →DOI, →ISSN, →OCLC, page 6:

(incel slang) Someone who claims to be incel, despite having had some success in romance and dating.


hypergender

en-adj

hypergender (comparative more hypergender, superlative most hypergender)

more hypergender (comparative)
most hypergender (superlative)

Given the research results indicating that hypermasculine men and hyperfeminine women appear to share similar attitudes and the overlap in content of several of the HMI and HFS items, it is plausible that acceptance of hypergender ideologies (i.e., hypertraditionality, Byrne & Schulte, 1990; Smith, 1989; Smith et al., 1995) represents a unifying constellation of attitudes that encompasses both. That is, hypermasculinity and hyperfemininity may represent gender-typed manifestations of a broader constellation of attitudes, which we call hypergender ideologies.

1996 June, Merle E. Hamburger, Matthew Hogben, Stephanie McGowan, Lori J. Dawson, “Assessing Hypergender Ideologies: Development and Initial Validation of a Gender-Neutral Measure of Adherence to Extreme Gender-Role Beliefs”, in Journal of Research in Personality, volume 30, number 2, →DOI, page 161:

Other attitudes and beliefs included belief in rigid or extreme gender difference (hypergender ideology), greater acceptance of using verbal pressure and greater misperception about a woman's friendly behaviour. […] Hypergender ideology, beliefs that heterosexual relations were adversarial and rape myth acceptance formed a ‘block’ of interrelated attitudes among participants, […] (Loh et al., 2005, p.1334).

2014, Antonia Quadara, “The Everydayness of Rape: How Understanding Sexual Assault Perpetration Can Inform Prevention Efforts”, in Nicola Henry, Anastasia Powell, editors, Preventing Sexual Violence: Interdisciplinary Approaches to Overcoming a Rape Culture, Basingstoke: Palgrave Macmillan, →ISBN, pages 51–52:

Relating to or exhibiting strict adherence to one's traditional gender role or gender stereotypes.


no-ho

Coordinate term: no-op

So the no-ho's & crosslivers tend to push buttons among the usually more mainstream ts's, esp at alt.support.srs which is supposed to be a support group reserved for srs-related issues (not that one can tell any more).

2005 February 13, cat-o-matic, “Re: A Rationale for SRS”, in soc.support.transgendered (Usenet):

hormone replacement therapy
hormone replacement therapy

(LGBTQ) A transgender or transsexual person who has chosen not to undergo hormone replacement therapy.


cross-live

en-verb

cross-live (third-person singular simple present cross-lives, present participle cross-living, simple past and past participle cross-lived)

cross-lives (present singular third-person)
cross-living (participle present)
cross-lived (participle past)
cross-lived (past)
crosslive (alternative)

From cross- + live. Possibly modelled after cross-dress.

For example, there apparently is a clinic in Canada that makes people crosslive for a year before giving them hormones!

1996, Geri Nettick, Beth Elliot, Mirrors: Portrait of a Lesbian Transsexual, New York, NY: Masquerade Books, →ISBN, page 332:

Although some of these subjects were lesbians inclined to cross-dress and to cross-live in order to cope with social prohibition of woman-to-woman sexual relationships, it is likely that at least some male-identified subjects who were biologically born as female had come to realize a psychological transgender male identity.

2002, Billy E. Jones, Marjorie J. Hill, editors, Mental Health Issues in Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Communities (Review of Psychiatry; 21), Washington, D.C.: American Psychiatric Publishing, →ISBN, page unknown:

[Transgenderists] will probably, although not necessarily, cross-live (see next section) and/or take part in hormonal therapies that would cause certain sex characteristic changes.

2005, Liz Winfeld, Straight Talk About Gays in the Workplace: Creating an Inclusive, Productive Environment for Everyone in Your Organization, London: Routledge, published 2013, →ISBN, page unknown:

I also don't consider Transgenderists to be a different creature from a Transsexual -- I consider the two to be two points on a spectrum. Some people can get by with crossliving, while others need to take further steps.

2009 July 22, Nicole Massey, “Re: So...”, in alt.support.srs (Usenet), retrieved 2021-11-13:

(intransitive, LGBTQ) To live full-time in a gender role different from that associated with the sex one was assigned at birth.


cross-liver

cross-livers (plural)
crossliver (alternative)

1977-1980, Lou Sullivan, personal diary, quoted in 2019, Ellis Martin, Zach Ozma (editors), We Both Laughed In Pleasure
Maybe the stigma comes from being either a TV or a TS—but there is a middle ground that I've never considered...what Georgia calls a "cross-liver." Someone who takes hormones & lives their desired gender role, but who have not necessarily made a decision on having surgery.

And that doesn't invalidate or lessen the T*ness of the person. Some people believe that being afull^([sic]) time crossliver makes them somehow more than a person who dresses up on the odd Tuesday night.

1998 February 11, Katheryn D'Medici, “Re: Close Calls - Comments?”, in alt.fashion.crossdressing (Usenet), retrieved 2021-11-12:

My point was that if someone got m2f SRS and continued to 'present' as a crossliver rather than as an 'f', you would have fewer objections to 'her' as a person than to someone who wished to disappear into 'cisgendered' society.

1999 July 5, Jan, “Re: Rubber ckickens and other lawn ornaments”, in soc.support.transgendered (Usenet):

So the no-ho's & crosslivers tend to push buttons among the usually more mainstream ts's, […]


gender-nonconforming

en-adj

gender-nonconforming (comparative more gender-nonconforming, superlative most gender-nonconforming)

more gender-nonconforming (comparative)
most gender-nonconforming (superlative)
gender non-conforming (alternative)
gender-non-conforming (alternative)
gender nonconforming (alternative)

Jamestown Township isn’t the first library to have its operations disrupted in this way. Libraries across the country have recently become a culture war battleground, facing an unprecedented number of book challenges and bans from conservative and far-right extremist groups opposed to the inclusion of LGBTQ+ authors, staff, and events. Last month, a public library in Iowa was forced to close temporarily after all full-time employees quit. The exodus came after months of complaints from conservative residents, who criticized the display of LGBTQ+ books and complained of gender non-conforming library workers "cross-dressing."

2022 August 5, Claire Woodcock, “This Town Voted To Defund its Public Library After it Included LGBTQ+ Books”, in Vice.com, archived from the original on 2022-12-11:

Having a gender expression not in accordance with traditional masculine or feminine gender norms.


gender expression

en-noun

gender expression (countable and uncountable, plural gender expressions)

A person's selection of behavior, mannerisms, interests, and appearance that are associated with gender in a particular cultural context.


lifefuel

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When Stephen Paddock massacred dozens of “normies” at an outdoor concert in Las Vegas, Reddit’s incels celebrated the news as “PURE LIFEFUEL.”

2018 May 5, David Futrelle, “The Time For 'Incel' Explainers Was Years Ago”, in Huffington Post:

In the wake of the Toronto van attacks, for example, Minassian was celebrated not merely as a giver of “lifefuel” to the incels, but also as a prophet of black pill ideology—someone whose destruction of the normies would herald a wider apocalypse.

2020, Tara Isabella Burton, Strange Rites: New Religions for a Godless World, unnumbered page:

An example of a LifeFuel thread is titled “Whore crying because her chad bf murdered (sic)”, where a woman’s boyfriend was killed in a terrorist attack and incels responded saying “lmao cry little whore”.

2020, Katrine Rummelhoff, "Incels and Misogyny; what’s so appealing about hatred?", thesis submitted to the University of Oslo, page 59

(incel slang) Something that causes one to feel schadenfreude or nihilistic satisfaction, especially over the suffering of women.


LGBTQQIA

(LGBTQ) Initialism of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender/transexual, queer, questioning, intersex, and allied/asexual/aromantic/agender.


live-in son-in-law

(This entry is a translation hub.) man who marries and lives with his wife's family

kollovar

live-in son-in-law, man who marries and lives with his wife's family


feminar

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teleabortion

teleabortion (countable and uncountable, plural teleabortions)

Teleabortions, where a woman has a phone consultation with a doctor and is then sent the medications required, are available everywhere but South Australia. In WA, a teleabortion requires a referral from a doctor.

2019 August 1, Caroline Zielinski, “What are the laws on abortion in Australia?”, in The Sydney Morning Herald:

(medicine) The practice of using teleconsultation to assist a patient in aborting a pregnancy.


biofeminism

The view that women are biologically superior to men


gender reveal

It was going to be a super-busy weekend at the palace—with the royal babies' official gender reveals today and the baby showers tomorrow.

2019, Ann Omasta, The Royally Broke Billionaire:

(chiefly US, often attributive) An event at which the sex of an expected baby is revealed to family and friends as being either male or female, often by means of a cake, balloons, etc., coloured blue for male or pink for female.


alumnx

The gender-neutral suffix -x replaces the gendered Latinate suffixes -us and -a. Compare Latinx, Mx.

-a-us-x

Since re-booting the Alumnx Council last fall, we've embarked on a fresh direction that we're very excited about. Through projects and initiatives aimed at you, our mission is to provide support, encourage connection, and strengthen the ties of our alumnx community.

2018 Winter/Spring, John Schwerbel, “Alumnx HQ: A Note From the Chair”, in The Pool, number 2, California Institute of the Arts, page 63:

vsc & vcfa alumnx exhibition: “It went like this: the skyline was beautiful on fire,” works by 24 alumnx created in response to contemporary political upheaval, juried by Meg Onli.

2018 May 9, “Art: New This Week”, in Seven Days, volume 23, number 34, Burlington, VT: Da Capo Publishing Inc., page 76:

This study examines the relationship between undergraduate experience and alumnx factors on perceptions of campus climate for lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans*, and queer (LGBTQ) graduates of four-year higher education institutions in the U.S. […] Findings from the step-wise regression explained 45% of the variance in perceptions of campus climate for LGBTQ alumnx.

2018 Fall, Jason C. Garvey, Maureen A. Flint, Laura A. Sanders, “Perceptions of Campus Climate among LGBTQ Alumnx”, in Philanthropy & Education, volume 2, number 1, →DOI, page 97:

A typical process entails bringing together staff responsible for designing these interactions: admissions, new student orientation, housing, academic advising, student affairs, LGBT+ resource center (if a campus has one), registrar, health providers and health educators, development and alumnx relations, and so forth.

2020, Kristen A. Renn, “Success for LGBT College and University Students”, in Gail Crimmins, editor, Strategies for Supporting Inclusion and Diversity in the Academy: Higher Education, Aspiration and Inequality, Cham, Switzerland: Palgrave Macmillan, →DOI, →ISBN, page 191:

(neologism, often proscribed) An alumnus or alumna (of any gender).


xenogender

From xeno- (“strange”) + gender. Coined by American Tumblr user baaphomett on June 24, 2014, at age 19 or 20, along with other gender-related terms.

coinage

(LGBTQ) A non-binary gender that is defined not in relation to male or female but by characteristics connected to a thing or concept.


TME

Coordinate term: TMA

(LGBTQ) Initialism of transmisogyny-exempt.


transfem

en-adj

transfem (comparative more transfem, superlative most transfem)

more transfem (comparative)
most transfem (superlative)

Coordinate term: transmasc

Self-described transfem performer and activist The Lady B, a cast member of the show “Dear White People,” says gender-fluid identity poses daily challenges. [image caption]

2017 January 26, Tyrone Beason, “Black Like Me: It’s time for a deeper conversation about race in America”, in Pacific NW Magazine:

“People are always surprised when I tell them, but as transfem nonbinary folks, what we face is drastic,” Mx. Tobia said, explaining how on a visit to New York not long ago they listened in horror on a subway car as two strangers loudly discussed whether to set them aflame. “They were, like: ‘What is that? We should be burning that.’”

2018 September 18, Guy Trebay, “For Capitalism, Every Social Leap Forward Is a Marketing Opportunity”, in The New York Times:


himpathetic

Blend of him + sympathetic, or of himpathy + sympathetic.

Yet it would be a mistake to view them as on a different plane of moral obtuseness, as opposed to merely being on the extreme end of a himpathetic spectrum on which many of us lie. Brock Turner's defenders exhibited forgiving tendencies, ...

2017, Kate Manne, Down Girl: The Logic of Misogyny, Oxford University Press, →ISBN, page 200:

But in a himpathetic world view this does make sense because the question we are invited to ask is what does it mean for him? That Kavanaugh's (and, to an extent, Thomas's) privilege is such that his greatest fear is the loss of his name […]

2019, Karen Boyle, #MeToo, Weinstein and Feminism, Springer Nature, →ISBN, page 113:

This was picked up and repeated by women in the media who were “himpathetic” to the idea. Trump's win “gives us an opportunity to reflect on how badly misogynist forces can distort our thinking and bias our reasoning” (Manne 2019, 250).

2019, Maria B. Marron, Misogyny and Media in the Age of Trump, Lexington Books, →ISBN, page 98:

When a woman fails to give a man what he's supposedly owed, she will often face punishment and reprisal — whether from him, his himpathetic supporters, or the misogynistic social structures in [society].

2020, Kate Manne, Entitled: How Male Privilege Hurts Women, Crown, →ISBN, page 11:

(feminism) Exhibiting or pertaining to himpathy; inappropriately sympathetic to men or boys, especially ones guilty of sexual transgressions.


himpathize

en-verb

himpathize (third-person singular simple present himpathizes, present participle himpathizing, simple past and past participle himpathized)

himpathizes (present singular third-person)
himpathizing (participle present)
himpathized (participle past)
himpathized (past)

Blend of him + sympathize, or of himpathy + sympathize.

As Manne (2017) and Solnit (2017) have shown, we tend to sympathize (or 'himpathize') too much with men and their standpoints, and not enough with women and their standpoints. This results in a tendency to downplay men's transgressions ...

2019, Michelle Ciurria, An Intersectional Feminist Theory of Moral Responsibility, Routledge, →ISBN:

... move in the political realm, particularly when they are challenging male authority. Female misogynists have made themselves visible in this era, being willing to exonerate, himpathize, and dismiss other women's concerns and accusations, were crucial to the outcome.

2019, L. H. Blumenfeld, Female Misogyny and Political Power, in Maria B. Marron, Misogyny and Media in the Age of Trump, Lexington Books, page 4

So here, as elsewhere, we ought to resist the pressure to himpathize. Incels have generated many headlines recently. It's easy to understand why, given the egregiously violent acts of misogyny some incels have committed.

2020, Kate Manne, Entitled: How Male Privilege Hurts Women, Crown, →ISBN, page 30:

(feminism, rare) To exhibit himpathy; to inappropriately sympathize with men or boys, especially ones guilty of sexual transgressions.


all-boys

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(education, of a school) Providing instruction for male students only.

男子的

providing instruction for male students only


all-girls

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(education, of a school) Providing instruction for female students only.

女子的

providing instruction for female students only


multimillionairess

It is safe to say that there is not one of our multimillionaires who could not be a peer, or at least a baronet, if he were an Englishman; and it is really a great hardship, and enough to make a multimillionaire hate and despise his native land, that he can be nothing of the kind in America. In the case of our multimillionairesses it is not quite so bad, for they can easily buy titled husbands; but even if their brothers bought titled wives, they could not share their titles, and become dukes and lords as the multimillionairesses become duchesses and countesses.

1896, Harper’s Weekly, volume 40, page 150, column 3:

Mr. Pfeiffer: When you were trying to show Mrs. Feuerring to be a wealthy woman, and how much money she has. You want Mr. Roosevelt to think she is a multimillionairess so that if he wanted to award $100,000, it wouldn’t be a penny out of her pocket.

1945, New York Court of Appeals, Records and Briefs, page 2524:

At this point the multimillionairess appears and hands the check to the mayor.

1981, Samar Attar, The Intruder in Modern Drama, →ISBN, page 87:

Before giving up, she [Cathy Hughes] decided to try one more bank and they approved her.[…]Imagine if she hadn’t gone to that last bank? She wouldn’t have the media empire she has today, and have become one of the few multimillionairesses in our field.

2011, Shirley Strawberry, Lyah Beth LeFlore, The Strawberry Letter, One World Books (The Random House Publishing Group), →ISBN, page 15:


fishmongress

VERSES TO A BEAUTIFUL FISHMONGRESS

1890, Henry Lloyd, London: Humorous Readings, page 11:

They have quite ceased to act as saleswomen, and only some twenty or thirty fishmongresses come occasionally to buy.

1900, The Pilot: A Weekly Review of Politics, Literature and Learning, volume 2, page 286:

Réjane, the beautiful fishmongress sold silver-grey mackerel, holding them up by the tail in her adorable fingers, a sight that would have ravished Velasquez, and did ravish me.[…]And some of me for the Alhambra, and some of me for the fish market at Granada and the loveliest of fishmongresses.

1942, Henry Dwight Sedgwick, Memoirs of an Epicurean, pages 284, 286:

The inhabitants of Ballymena were the kindest I have ever known, they plied us with everything, but best of all with their goodwill, and I never pass through without seeing Jane McCurry, the fishmongress of the town, who always gives me a cup of tea.

1950, Adrian Carton de Wiart, Happy Odyssey, Pen & Sword, published 2007, reprinted 2011, →ISBN:

‘Fishmongress’ she calls me, as though Father’s trade was aught to be ’shamed of!”

1954, Anya Seton, Katherine, Hodder & Stoughton, →ISBN:

At the shore, the fish may be packed into jute sacks or doum-palm leaves baskets and taken to the nearest market place for sale to fishmongresses. The fish mongress^([sic]) then puts the fish in whatever container she may have, or just spreads them out on a mat, figure 10.[…]Figure 10. Fishmongress at Market Place, Diré, 1962.

1963, Alexandria Journal of Agricultural Research, pages 28, 30:

Off Grafton St., the statue of the fetching fishmongress Molly Malone is referred to as “the tart with the cart.”

2000, Let’s Go: Ireland, →ISBN, page 117:

Nene Duseisi, the fishmongress, had just explained to her where she could find Ma Akuba: someone who would help her beloved Misi Elza and free her from the cursed Misi Sarith.

2010 [1987], The Cost of Sugar, HopeRoad Publishing, translation of Hoe duur was de suiker by Cynthia McLeod, →ISBN, revised in 1995:


ex-lesbian

A woman who considers herself to be no longer lesbian, usually due to pseudoscientific conversion therapy.


paw paw

As soon as Khi put Baby on the floor she started yelling for her paw paw. Wallace came out of his office with a huge smile on his face. “Who is that yelling for their paw paw?” He asked. Although Baby just learned to walk but that never stopped ...

2010, Kimmi Illuminati, Daddy's Girl, iUniverse, →ISBN, page 302:

Her paw paw was threatening to kill Gordon. Poor Gordon; he had too much women trouble. Annette got pregnant, and they signed for them to get married. When Ellen Mae heard about this, she came back to town to see if she could still get ...

2012, B.J. Young, A Piece of Man Is Better Than No Man: A Work in Progress, Xlibris Corporation, →ISBN, page 69:

Georgia had taken him out to her paw paw's land, where the old house had fallen into ruin. “What are y'all going to do with this?” he'd asked, looking around at the fifteen acres and dilapidated house covered in vines. “Dunno,” Georgia said ...

2014, Liz Talley, Kim Law, Terri Osburn, Cowboys for Christmas, Penguin, →ISBN:

Alternative form of pawpaw, grandfather.


liberal feminism

en-noun

liberal feminism (countable and uncountable, plural liberal feminisms)

(politics, feminism) A type of feminism defined by its focus on achieving gender equality within the framework of liberal democracy and through political and legal reform


girls' night out

girls' night out (plural girls' nights out)

A night out for women.
An informal social gathering of women.

An arranged event at a bar or similar venue where only female patrons are allowed.


transpopulation

It should be remarked, that as dynasties changed the transpopulation which made Babylon decline was frequently repeated; as under Seleucus, for the benefit of Seleucia, so under the Parthians for the benefit of Ctesiphon, under the Arabs for that of Baghdad.

1866, Rowland Williams, The Hebrew Prophets Translated Afresh from the Original, […] , volume 1, Williams and Norgate, →OCLC, page 297:

Transpopulation of these hemopoietic and lymphopoietic tissues back to host-type tissue was induced by the intravenous injection of spleen, but not so far by lymph node, cells isologous with the host.

1963, “8436 A/CONF.15/P/97”, in The Effects of Radiation and Radioisotopes on the Life Processes: […] , US Atomic Energy Commission, →OCLC, page 990:

The significance of this area for his state's security is seen in Philip's measures to consolidate it: perhaps now his “transpopulation” policy began, whereby Macedonians proper were encouraged to move to live in areas where previously there had been a mixed stock, and perhaps even another marriage-alliance (to Phila, of the Elimiote royal house).

2002, Joseph Roisman, Brill's Companion to Alexander the Great, page 77:

The act of altering one or more populations by the introduction of a different population or the removal of a particular subpopulation.


chitthi

chitthis (plural)
chithi (alternative)
chitti (alternative)

From Tamil சித்தி (citti) (aunt, stepmother) (father's second wife, maternal younger aunt, paternal younger uncle's wife).

gloss

(India, informal) aunty; a friendly older motherly woman


chitti

(India, informal) Alternative form of chitthi


neuterism

I mentioned that whenever I speak in front of a crowd of women about male emotional neuterism, the audience accepts the statement universally. I stressed that sexual dysfunctioning problems are one of the major causes of human unhappiness and breakdown in the stability of relationships.

1982, Felix Donnelly, One Priest's Life, page 169:

I was familiar, of course, with the protocols of neuterism, the silly, self-contradictory tenets of unisex, invented by those apparently as innocent of logic as glands, and the pathetic absurdities of "personism," such things, the fictions, the lies, the pretenses, the many tiny, brittle crusts concealing the smoldering depths of difference, of reality, of sexuality within one.

A belief in or support for gender neutrality.


elotero

A man who runs a Latin American corn on the cob (elote) food cart.


behind every great man is a great woman

behind every successful man there stands a woman#English

Synonym of behind every successful man there stands a woman (“men's success often depends on the support and work of their wives or female partners”)


first gentleman

en-noun

first gentleman (plural first gentlemen)

(generic) A man that is or was a spouse of the political chief executive, when speaking non-specifically.


Second Gentleman

The Second Gentleman is the husband of the Vice President of the United States.

The male spouse of the second-in-command or first in the line-of-succession of a political jurisdiction.


second gentleman

second gentleman (plural second gentlemen)

A man that is or was a spouse of the political second-in-command or first in the line-of-succession of a political jurisdiction.


second lady

A woman that is or was a spouse of the political second-in-command or first in the line-of-succession of a political jurisdiction.


Second Lady

The Second Lady is the wife of the Vice President of the United States.

The female spouse of the second-in-command or first in the line-of-succession of a political jurisdiction.


animatrix

With Foucault, Goldhill assumes that “the desiring subject” (p. 45) is male; in his learned disquisition on the importance of the act of reading (p. 45), Goldhill never addresses the gender of the reader, that curious creature who is at once the target of the text and its reanimator—or animatrix.

1997, Journal of the History of Sexuality, volume 7, page 603:

She is a prose writer and essayist, a professor of complit & polisci at the University of Cluj, a cultural animatrix, a historian of violence and the gulag, and, to propose this (pilgr)image to the factotum, a formidable poet who said things no one else had the guts or flair to say in Romanian lit.

2008, “By a Tiger Writ: An Afterword”, in Joyce Mansour, Ruxandra Cesereanu, transl., Crusader-Woman, Black Widow Press, translation of Femeia-cruciat by Ruxandra Cesereanu, →ISBN, page 117:

Marie Antoinette, animatrix of the Petit Trianon, had a special fancy for the cotton toiles de Jouy, introduced into France in the 1770s, for chinoiserie or pastoral scenes in the style of Boucher.

2001, Antonia Fraser, Marie Antoinette: The Journey, Nan A. Talese, →ISBN, page 220:

(rare) A female animator (one who animates something, brings something to life).

Video Video, organized by Marien Lewis, video artist and ex-animatrix of A Space, and Monumenta, organized by Stan Denniston, Dave Clarkson and Bernie Miller, two photographers and a sculptor and presently directors of YYZ, are only further proof that such centres have been the seedbeds and forums for advanced art in Canada over the past decade either feeding the commercial or establishment systems or fulfilling the responsibilities such systems have abrogated.

1983, The Canadian Forum, volume 62, page 48, column 1:

[title]

2003, Heidi Guedel, Animatrix—a Female Animator: How Laughter Saved My Life, iUniverse, →ISBN:

She conspired with Colorlab to unveil the rediscovery, which revealed a perfect continuity between the eleven-year-old’s use of film and the hand visible in her mature body of work: an animatrix with a childlike sense of joy and fun, a maker and pixilator of handmade objects, an animalier whose creatures could be monstrous as well as endearing.

2010, Dan Streible, “8. Media Artists, Local Activists, and Outsider Archivists: The Case of Helen Hill”, in Diane Negra, editor, Old and New Media after Katrina, Palgrave Macmillan, →ISBN, page 164:

It was always God the Father who was the Animator with capital A. An argument can be made, however, for reconceiving the animator function as feminine. This animatrix model would resonate better with the medium’s long-established parthenogenesis narratives. The toons, then, become truculent children who eventually return to domesticity with the expectation that in their next incarnation they too will be life givers. Since there are many cinesthetic bodies in animation, who is to say that their genders are fixed by a priori assumptions? As readily as we may change the default genders of our avatars in video games, in virtual worlds, and perhaps in our everyday imagination, so may we shift the authorship of animation performance between animators and animatrices.

2013, Donald Crafton, “Coda: The Shadow of a Mouse’s Tail”, in Shadow of a Mouse: Performance, Belief, and World-Making in Animation, Berkeley, Calif., […]: University of California Press, →ISBN, page 299:

(rare) A female animator (one who creates an animation or cartoon).


masculine of center

en-adj

masculine of center (not generally comparable, comparative more masculine of center, superlative most masculine of center)

more masculine of center (comparative)
most masculine of center (superlative)
masculine-of-center (alternative)
masculine of centre (alternative)
masculine-of-centre (alternative)
MOC (alternative)

Coined by B. Cole in 2008. Compare left of center, right of center.

Coordinate term: feminine of center

Working-class women, non-white women, some transwomen, and butch/ masculine-of-center women are stereotypically less fragile than the “ideally” feminine woman.

2015, Robin James, Resilience & Melancholy: Pop Music, Feminism, Neoliberalism, John Hunt Publishing, →ISBN:

[…] where there was a plethora of even more well-dressed masculine of center heart throbs and their writings, […]

2017 Fall, Vanessa Rochelle Lews, "Nourrir Spotlight", in Nourrir, issue 12, page 21

The Queer Resource Center announced that they will be hosting an event series for transmasculine and masculine of center communities called the T-House, […]

2020 Nov. 19 - Dec. 2, An Pham, "Charlie and the T-House Event Series", in The Guardsman (City College of San Francisco), volume 170, issue 7, page 4

(LGBTQ) Having a gender identity or presentation that is on the masculine side; masc or butch.


feminine of center

feminine of center (not generally comparable, comparative more feminine of center, superlative most feminine of center)

more feminine of center (comparative)
most feminine of center (superlative)
feminine-of-center (alternative)
feminine of centre (alternative)
feminine-of-centre (alternative)

Modelled on the slightly earlier masculine of center (and more generally, left of center, right of center).

Coordinate term: masculine of center

This is also gendered: it is women and feminine-of-centre people who are producing these forms of activism as well as being fodder for appropriation. What started as resistance and critique by people with limited capital to participate in ...

2016, Charlotte Cooper, Fat Activism: A Radical Social Movement, Intellect Books, →ISBN:

Moreover, Miss Andry was the only participant who identified feminine of center. When taking into consideration the social forces faced by a feminine of center person on a dating app like Grindr, an app oriented for men who have sex with men ...

2020, D. Nicole Farris, D'Lane R. Compton, Andrea P. Herrera, Gender, Sexuality and Race in the Digital Age, Springer Nature, →ISBN, page 133:

(LGBTQ) Having a gender identity or presentation that is on the feminine side; femme.


non-binarity

From non-binary + -ity or non- + binarity.

Beyond Ladefoged's arguments for non-binarity (1970), I feel that the human nervous system is not constructed in a way that it could use binarity easily, either in perception or production.

Through his use of ellipsis, understatement, unspecified agency, and non-binarity, Johnson is thus attempting to bring about a change in the status of the Negro without explicitly acknowledging or processing conflict and dispossession.

1990, Henry Louis Gates Jr., Reading Black, Reading Feminist: A Critical Anthology, Plume:

As regards its particular mass and age, and probably its non-binarity, "anthropic" explanations may seem in place. The possible tendency for the Sun, as compared with similar stars, to be somewhat rich in iron relative to other elements […]

1998, Claus Fröhlich, M. Huber, S.K. Solanki, Rudolf von Steiger, Solar Composition and its Evolution — from Core to Corona: Proceedings of an Issi Workshop 26-30 January 1998, Bern, Switzerland, Springer Science & Business Media, →ISBN, page 419:

On the non-binarity of the null subject parameter

2003, Josep Quer i Carbonell, Romance Languages and Linguistic Theory 2001: Selected Papers from 'Going Romance,' Amsterdam, 6-8 December 2001, John Benjamins Publishing, →ISBN, page 32:

Nor can we maintain the converse position that a defining property of parameters is non-binarity, as there appear to be some, most notably the directionality parameters, which by their very nature are binary.

2019, I. M. Roca, Logical Issues in Language Acquisition, Walter de Gruyter GmbH & Co KG, →ISBN, page 13:

The quality of being non-binary (not binary); absence of binarity.


nonbinarity

Assimilation : optionality versus nonbinarity, and natural classes

1992, Heinz J. Giegerich, English Phonology: An Introduction, Cambridge University Press, →ISBN, page 213:

The namer's power to authorize the pairing of word and thing underscores the nonbinarity of the sign even as it insures that pairing.

1992, Susan Derwin, Professor Susan Derwin, The Ambivalence of Form: Lukács, Freud, and the Novel, Johns Hopkins University Press:

"Innocence" here takes the form of a nonbinarity between binarity (day and night divided by the punctual moment of sunset) and nonbinarity (the fading light in which the moment is embedded, making the boundary negotiable).

1997, Ira Livingston, Arrow of Chaos: Romanticism and Postmodernity, U of Minnesota Press, →ISBN, page 2:

None of the norms of identification for sex need change much for someone who is clearly male or clearly female when they discover the nonbinarity of biological sex.

2007, Jorge J. E. Gracia, Race Or Ethnicity?: On Black and Latino Identity:

Nonbinarity can also enter into MV-optimal GGDDs with s>1, as demonstrated next. Though neither binarity nor equal replication is required, Theorem 3.8(i) does imply binarity when p = 0.

2015, Angela Dean, Max Morris, John Stufken, Derek Bingham, Handbook of Design and Analysis of Experiments, CRC Press, →ISBN, page 122:


play-actress

play-actresses (plural)
playactress (alternative)


Miss Ann

(among African-Americans, derogatory) An arrogant and condescending woman, especially of European ancestry.


female chauvinism

During the five years I spent on and off dating apps, I described myself as a feminist on my profile, inviting some lovely messages including (and I quote) "third-wave feminism is all about female chauvinism" and "R U feminist?

2016 November 24, Suzannah Weiss, “Are You a Female Chauvinist?”, in Glamour:

A belief in the innate superiority of women over men.


female chauvinist

en-noun

female chauvinist (plural female chauvinists)

2010 February 15, Karen Salmansohn, “Are You a Female Chauvinist?”, in Psychology Today:


genderly

en-adverb

genderly (comparative more genderly, superlative most genderly)

more genderly (comparative)
most genderly (superlative)

They do identify themselves ethnically as Italian or Irish or Polish or Puerto Rican, racially as white or black, and genderly as male or female […]

1996, Ira Shor, When Students Have Power, page 8:

If not, are those who do not merely victims of false consciousness, or are they perhaps as genderly programmed, and as firmly, as the most childhood-gender-dysphoric of transsexuals?

2000, GLQ: A Journal of Lesbian and Gay Studies, volume 6, page 456:

As we have examined these individuals excluded from the community of the rational throughout the history of many of these disciplines, they consistently seem to be those people who are culturally, racially, sexually, genderly, and/or economically different from the experts […]

2004, Joe Kincheloe, Kathleen Berry, Rigour & Complexity in Educational Research, page 62:

The economic theory, (neo)classical and Chicago style, which has nurtured and sustained this economic worldview is heavily male-focused and entirely genderly biased.

In my case, I'm genderly different, not just sexually different. In the case of my partner, she is not very genderly different, so she does fuck women but doesn't (as often) require or demand an alternate social interaction scheme with men or other women, regardless of their sexuality.

2017, Anne M. Harris, Stacy Holman Jones, Sandra L. Faulkner, Queering Families, Schooling Publics:

(rare) According to or with regard to gender.


Big Mike

Calque of French Gros Michel; from gros (“big”) + Michel (“Michael”)


tucute

McConnell said that because of this, people who do have gender dysphoria and wish to take those same hormones or have the surgery have less access to these resources as "tucutes" have already used some of them.

2018 December 14, Natalie Cerf, “How The Media And The LGBTQ+ Community Interact”, in Redwood Bark, Redwood High School, Larkspur, CA, page 14:

Generally, tucutes are defined by their belief that gender dysphoria isn’t necessary to be transgender.

2019, Jessica Rae Fisher, "Transgender Digital Embodiments: Questions Of The Transgender Body In The 21st Century", thesis submitted to Kennesaw State University (May 2019), page 38

I personally fall closer to the transmedicalist end of the transmed/tucute political spectrum; but, my position does not give me, or any other person in the transmed or tucute community, the right to belittle other people.

2019, Olliver Benton, "'I'm Not Afraid of My Name Anymore'", Aerial (Atherton High School, Louisville, KY), Volume 94, Issue 4, Summer 2019, page 33

(Internet slang, neologism) A person who believes that gender dysphoria is not an essential requirement for being transgender.


abortion clinic

en-noun

abortion clinic (plural abortion clinics)


Lucky Pierre

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(sex, slang) The person in a threesome who both penetrates and is penetrated.


bull-dagger

(LGBTQ, slang) A masculine or butch lesbian. (See usage notes about dyke (“lesbian”).)


onii-chan

(Japanese, childish, often as a term of address) Older brother


trans bash

en-verb

trans bash (third-person singular simple present trans bashes, present participle trans bashing, simple past and past participle trans bashed)

trans bashes (present singular third-person)
trans bashing (participle present)
trans bashed (participle past)
trans bashed (past)
trans-bash (alternative)

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(transitive, slang) To physically or verbally assault or victimize someone due to the victim's being (or appearing to be) transgender (including non-binary).


cissplaining

-For me what matters is whether they’d stop if I asked them, or whether I’d get this outburst of cisplaining!

2012, anonymous, "Discuss: LGBT Culture", No Definition (Cambridge Students' Union), Easter 2012, page 30

I often thought that as a straight, cisgender woman, maybe activism “wasn't my place” and certainly didn't want to fall into the trap of “cisplaining,” if you get my meaning.

2015, Victoria Lemay, "Allies must stand for trans teens", QNotes, 16 January 2015 - 29 January 2015, page 4

Nowhere was cisplaining more evident than in gender identity clinics.

2021, Zoë Playdon, The Hidden Case of Ewan Forbes: And the Unwritten History of the Trans Experience, page 230:

The act of condescendingly explaining transgender issues (as a cis person) to a trans person.


Mussulwoman

From Mussulman (as though the second component were English man), and woman.


kadin

From Ottoman Turkish قادین (kadın, “lady, matron, materfamilias; lady consort”).


obstetrician-gynecologist

obstetrician-gynecologists (plural)
OB-GYN (alternative)

The town had only one obstetrician-gynecologist.

(countable, medicine) A physician who is both an obstetrician and a gynecologist.

szülész-nőgyógyász

a physician who is both an obstetrician and a gynecologist


Anzaldúan

en-adj

Anzaldúan (comparative more Anzaldúan, superlative most Anzaldúan)

more Anzaldúan (comparative)
most Anzaldúan (superlative)

Of or relating to Gloria E. Anzaldúa (1942–2004), American feminist and academic.


singing girl

She was a stranger in Palembang: she had fled from some one in in the interior, and had lately entered the house of Tumunggung Nora Wangsa; who was patron, also, of another singing girl present, called Sahdeeah.

1856, Walter M. Gibson, The Prison of Weltevreden: And a Glance at the East Indian Archipelago, Sampson Low Son & Company, page 213:

The Guide to the Yoshiwara gives a list of fifty-five singing-girls, besides a host of minor stars. These women are not to be confounded with the courtesans.

1870, “Tales of Old Japan, No. II—The Loves of Gompachi and Komurasaki”, in The Fortnightly Review, volume 14:

A girl is not considered disgraced if, for her parent's sake, she sells herself into the life of a "singing girl", geisha, or plain prostitute.

1943, Clyde B. Camerer, Peter E. Huth, “The Social Evil in Japan”, in United States Naval Medical Bulletin, volume 41:

One was a revolt of the people of Medina, who had publicly withdrawn their allegiance to Yazid, in spite of his attempts to conciliate their leaders, in reaction, we are told, to the caliph's personal unsuitability for his office—charges such as enjoyment of singing girls and playing with a pet monkey are brought against him in the tradition.

2000 July 13, G. R. Hawting, The First Dynasty of Islam: The Umayyad Caliphate, AD 661-750, 2nd edition, Routledge, →ISBN, page 47:

A young woman of low social status (often enslaved) who performs as a musician and entertainer, especially in Asian societies.


Braidottian

Braidottian (comparative more Braidottian, superlative most Braidottian)

more Braidottian (comparative)
most Braidottian (superlative)

Of or relating to Rosi Braidotti (born 1954), philosopher and feminist theoretician.


wagecuck

From wage + cuck (“weakling or traitor”).

Have fun at your lame-ass nine to five, wagecuck.

This Ressentiment, this focus on extolling the virtues of the ‘weak’ in any situation calls back to Anonymous’ gestation on 4chan, a place which to this day still frequently sees similar discussion among people who are (or claim to be) desperately poor, disaffected or lonely; using a shield of Ressentiment against so-called ‘wage-cucks’ or ‘normies’ with jobs, houses or who have any kind of genuine emotional connection to another human being.

2017, Benjamin Thomas Collins, "Who Are Anonymous?: A Study of Online Activism", thesis submitted to King's College London, page 276

I've written a lot and looking back, I wonder why I wrote all this (probably sound like a wagecuck but hey, I probably am one). So let's just end off with this: hire me plz.

2020, "Gradient descent", "How To Create A Company That Co-Op Students Thirst After", mathNEWS (University of Waterloo), 10 July 2020, page 9

Average man is a crippling lonely wagecuck with two childhood friends and a 7 year long dryspell [sic].

2021, anonymous, quoted in Hugo Engholm, "The lack of looks: A study on the Incel ideology of Incelism during the 2010s–2020s and its relation to historical and contemporary ideologies particularly within far right milieus", thesis submitted to the University of Uppsala, page 62

(Internet slang, derogatory) A person who works a mindless, low-paying job.


heterogenderal

[…] the "confused" behavior of "kiki" women, those who would not choose a [butch or femme] role. […] "kiki" also referred to two butches or two femmes who were lovers. They often had to "sneak it," she says, because of the hostility of those who were committed to roles. Membership in her group demanded that one select a partner who was heterognderal, that is, who took the opposite role, at least in appearance.

2012, Lillian Faderman, Odd Girls and Twilight Lovers: A History of Lesbian Life in Twentieth-Century America, Columbia University Press, →ISBN, page 168:


freebleeder

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(slang) One who abstains from the use of tampons or other menstrual hygiene products during a period.


Chad Thundercock

en-noun

Chad Thundercock (plural Chad Thundercocks)

(Internet slang, vulgar, humorous) A stereotypical male who is especially sexually attractive.


Abbreviation of trans for trans. Popularized on the personals section of Craigslist in the early 2000s. Compare M4M, M4F, F4F, W4W, etc.

Gay chat rooms therefore evolved into m4m (men for men), T4T (trans for trans), bisexual chat, leather and bear, lipstick lesbian, etc. By the mid-90's, it wasn't unusual to see mm4mm groups (married men for married men) and other [even more] highly specific types of discussion groups.

2008, Kimeron N. Hardin, Loving Ourselves: The Gay and Lesbian Guide to Self-esteem, Alyson Books, page 278:

Online, t4t tends to denote an erotic orientation or practice, but in [Torrey] Peters' novella it also becomes an ethos around which a group of trans women organize themselves […]

2020, Cameron Awkward-Rich, “T4T: Toward a Crip Ethics of Trans Literary Criticism”, in Alice Hall, editor, The Routledge Companion to Literature and Disability, Taylor & Francis, →ISBN:

(transgender) Of, pertaining to, or focused on relationships between trans people.

Likewise, a lot of people who have spewed hate over trans people seemed extremely confused at the idea that trans people could date each other - newsflash, gender and sexuality are different things and T4T (“trans for trans”) couples are fairly common in the LGBTQ+ community!

2023 May 8, Erin Reed, “The Zooey Zephyr I Love, From The Woman She Just Proposed To”, in Erin In The Morning, archived from the original on 2023-06-18:

(transgender, of a couple or relationship) Between trans people.


I remember how I used to be before the contagion. Embarrassed to be seen with another trans woman, for fear that her transness would reveal my transness and we'd both get clocked. T4T is an ideal, I guess, and we fall short of it most of the time. But that's better than before. All it took was the end of the world to make that happen.

2016 August 23, Torrey Peters, Infect Your Friends and Loved Ones, pages 54–55:


interphobia

Behrensen condemns the practice of targeting certain athletes and subjecting them to the indignity and humiliation of a procedure that has no bearing on athletic ability and that further violates privacy in the service of accommodating interphobia.

2017, Thomas Keith, Masculinities in Contemporary American Culture: An Intersectional Approach to the Complexities and Challenges of Male Identity, page 283:

I knew those attitudes were out there, but I'd already learned that I had to reject the racism I'd experienced as a child, and the homophobia later on, so it seemed natural to also reject the interphobia I saw directed at intersex people.

2018, August McLaughlin, Girl Boner: The Good Girl's Guide to Sexual Empowerment, unnumbered page:

Many intersex people and intersex studies scholars note how various oppressive systems—interphobia, heterosexism, phallogocentrism, queerphobia, as well as compulsory dyadism, heterosexuality, and able-bodiedness—work together to justify curative violence.

2021, Rohini Bannerjee, Karim Mukhida, From Band-Aids to Scalpels: Motherhood Experiences in/of Medicine, Demeter Press, →ISBN:

Fear, dislike, or hatred of intersexual people and/or intersexuality.


male-fail

en-verb

male-fail (third-person singular simple present male-fails, present participle male-failing, simple past and past participle male-failed)

male-fails (present singular third-person)
male-failing (participle present)
male-failed (participle past)
male-failed (past)
malefail (alternative)

I just male-failed with a customer and I'm so happy!

Was blonde until last year and since going red, things changed a lot. I male-fail so much more often and people talk to me more. It’s good but weird. 💁♀

So, I guess I male-failed at work today? Sweet old lady with her grandkids, didn't bother correcting herself when she got closer... Yay for me? 😁

2019 February 21, @Gravy_Bunny, Twitter:

(intransitive, informal, transgender) Of a trans woman: to fail to pass as male; to make a successful male-to-female transition.


alpha fucks, beta bucks

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Be the guy who's large and in charge because alpha fucks, beta bucks yo.

2018, Jennifer Wright, Why Incels Hate Women (from Harper's Bazaar Web site); quoted in: 2020, John Casperson, What If God Has a Vagina?: Why Eve Took the Rap
Alphas are supposedly men who trigger lust in women, because women settle down with betas only because they offer financial stability. Or, as they pithily term it “alpha fucks, beta bucks.” When you look at the men who are labeled alphas and betas, though, you'll notice it gets weird in a way that might surprise you if you are a woman or a normal human.

This gets into the Alpha-fucks-beta-bucks concept discussed in the previous chapter. As soon as you get to know a girl, she has designated you either as a nice guy who can provide emotional and (possibly) financial support, but isn't attractive to have sex with, or an Alpha whose clear purpose is only for sex but can't be trusted for anything else.

2019, Adam Glasier, Online Dating For Men 101: How to Find, Date, Attract, Connect, and Get Into Great Relationships with Women from Online Dating:

The following, according to popular belief across the manosphere, is the dual biological imperative of what women are attracted to:
1. physical attraction (genes)
2. life comforts (resources)
When writers in the manosphere discuss “Alpha Fucks, Beta Bucks” this is essentially the dynamic they are referring too^([sic]).

2019, Dr. Lukas Castle, The Blackpill Theory: why incels are right & you are wrong, page 155:

(vulgar, slang) Women prefer sex with alpha males but are willing to use beta males as a source of financial support.

альхва ябе, а бэта грошы дае

Women see alpha males as sexual partners, while beta males merely as source of money


chapwoman

From Middle English chapwoman, by analogy with chapman.

(chiefly British, archaic) A woman who buys and sells; a female trader.


founding mother

en-noun

founding mother (plural founding mothers)

/ˌfaʊndɪŋ ˈmʌðə/

/ˌfaʊndɪŋ ˈmʌðɚ/

From founding (“who or that founds (establishes, starts) or founded”) + mother, modelled after founding father.

compound

Finally there is a comprehensive, well-documented life of founding mother Elizabeth Cady Stanton: In Her Own Right, by Elisabeth Griffith. Griffith focuses upon both the life and the social atmosphere which led to the beginnings of the first wave of American feminism.

1984 December 29, Michael Bronski, “Hot Off The Presses”, in Gay Community News, volume 12, number 25, page 10:

She (Audrey Lorde) is a member of the founding collective of Kitchen Table: Women of Color Press and a founding mother of SISA, Sisterhood in Support of Sisters in South Africa.

1986, Johnnetta B. Cole, All American Women: Lines that Divide, Ties that Bind, →ISBN:

There could even be a case made for treating Jane Harrison as a founding mother of social science (Beard, 2000).

2003 April 21, Sara Delamont, Feminist Sociology, SAGE, →ISBN:

The initial founding mother, Eve, becomes a paradigmatic figure in later Jewish and Christian exegesis[…]

2020 October 21, Kathleen Gallagher Elkins, Mary, Mother of Martyrs: How Motherhood Became Self-Sacrifice in Early Christianity, Wipf and Stock Publishers, →ISBN:

A woman who founded (established or started) something.


bottom growth

Bottom growth within days, noticed my vocal cords are being funny two weeks in and voice dropped around the third month.

2014 April 18, [Unknown], “Recently started T. How long did it take you guys to start seeing and feeling changes?”, in Reddit, archived from the original on 2024-02-04, comments:

Growth of the clitoris under masculinizing HRT.


transface

From trans + face (attested online since at least 2009), based on earlier blackface.

[…] the days of transface are numbered.

2018, The New York Times Editorial Staff, Sex and Sexuality, The Rosen Publishing Group, Inc, →ISBN, page 79:

A particularly troubling outcome of transface is the reinforcement of biodeterministic views of gender.

2019, Jamison Green, Rhea Ashley Hoskin, Cris Mayo, sj Miller, Navigating Trans and Complex Gender Identities, Bloomsbury Publishing, →ISBN, page 99:

Transface also has negative consequences for trans actors because it limits their employment opportunities.

2021, Abbie E. Goldberg, Genny Beemyn, The SAGE Encyclopedia of Trans Studies, SAGE Publications, →ISBN:

The practice of a cisgender person (especially one of the opposite gender) portraying a transgender person in media.


detrans

Clipping of detransition, by surface analysis, de- + trans.

Research on supporting detrans could enable a variety of interventions designed to help detrans people.

2020, Rowan Hildebrand-Chupp, “More than ‘canaries in the gender coal mine’: A transfeminist approach to research on detransition”, in The Sociological Review, volume 68, number 4, page 812:

They [detransitioners] find each other online: on Twitter, where they use the lizard emoji to signal their detrans status, […]

2021, Helen Joyce, Trans: When Ideology Meets Reality, unnumbered page:

The aim of this study is to analyze the specific needs of detransitioners from online detrans communities and discover to what extent they are being met.

2021, Elie Vandenbussche, “Detransition-Related Needs and Support: A Cross-Sectional Online Survey”, in Journal of Homosexuality:

(LGBTQ, informal) Relating to, or having undergone, detransition.


NIPT

(obstetrics) Initialism of noninvasive prenatal testing.


Poor Clare

The Poor Clares... have also divided into Clarissines and Urbanists.

1883, Encyclopaedia Britannica, volume XVI, page 711:

Following Francis' example, Clare founded an order of religious women known as the Poor Ladies of Assisi (like Francis' Poor Men), and later as the Clarissas or Poor Clares in her honor.

1991, Thomas Head, “Clare of Assisi”, in An Encyclopedia of Continental Women Writers:

(Catholicism) A nun of the Poor Clares, a member of the Order of Saint Clare.


enbyphobia

From enby + -phobia, patterned on homophobia, transphobia, etc.

For quotations using this term, see Citations:enbyphobia.

(neologism) Fear, dislike, or hatred of non-binary people and/or of non-binariness.

embyphobie

Fear, dislike or hatred of non-binary people


cistem

It is this toilet cistem that served to cement the spatially constructed division between man and woman that is still present today.

2017, Nigel Patel, “Violent cistems: Trans experiences of bathroom space”, in Agenda: Empowering Women for Gender Equity, volume 31, number 1, page 52:

I can think of no better role model for a transgender individual, particularly one looking to tackle the "cistem" of health care.

2019, Kyan Lynch, “The Trans Man and the Warrior Women”, in Transgender Health, volume 4, number 1, page 278:

Capital High’s school culture is seemingly accepting to the LGBTQIA+ population, yet it is also one saturated by a white heteropatriarchal cistem, and continued education and activism are required to combat this.

2022, Kenan Omercajic, “'Basement Boys' in the All-Gender Bathroom: Investigating Student-Inspired Trans-Activism and White Cisgenderist Barriers to Supporting Trans Students in School”, in Teacher College Record, volume 124, number 8, page 229:

(LGBTQ, social sciences, neologism) A system or societal structure that privileges cisgender people and marginalizes transgender people.


boy hole

LL-Q1860 (eng)-Flame, not lame-boy hole.wav

“I don't have a vagina,” he explained, “I have a bonus hole. Other names that don't make me cringe are boy hole and front hole”.

2015, Tiffany Jones, Andrea del Pozo de Bolger, Tinashe Dune, Amy Lykins, Gail Hawkes, Female-to-Male (FtM) Transgender People’s Experiences in Australia: A National Study, Springer, →ISBN, page 112:

(uncommon, informal) The vagina of a trans man.


antigenderism

For this reason, there is also a mounting trend towards talk of 'antigenderism' (On the current shift from antifeminism to 'antigenderism', […])

2016, Brigitte Liebig, Karin Gottschall, Birgit Sauer, Gender Equality in Context: Policies and Practices in Switzerland, Barbara Budrich, →ISBN, page 250:

Historically, the current antigenderism is the latest sociohistorical expression of several waves of antifeminism since the nineteenth century, […]

2020, Heidemarie Winkel, Angelika Poferl, Multiple Gender Cultures, Sociology, and Plural Modernities: Re-reading Social Constructions of Gender across the Globe in a Decolonial Perspective, Routledge, →ISBN:

Opposition to "gender ideology" or "genderism" (a variously-defined catch-all for things like transgender rights, same-sex marriage, and feminism).