aro-allo

stop treating aroallos like they're just shitty people for being interested in sex and not romance 2k19

2019 September 15, press y to honk (@ghostburritos), Twitter:

Harmful stereotypes about aroallos is that “they want sex all the time” and they’re “hypersexual” when that’s just not true.

2021 October 14, Ace Girl (@acegirleatscake), Twitter:

please start including aroallos more. i see a lot of people assuming all aros are ace, which is frankly untrue and are harmful to both communities. it’s very hard to find aroallos in media too

2022 June 1, keris (@keropiji), Twitter:

(informal, neologism) An aromantic and allosexual person.


rage farm

en-verb

rage farm (third-person singular simple present rage farms, present participle rage farming, simple past and past participle rage farmed)

rage farms (present singular third-person)
rage farming (participle present)
rage farmed (participle past)
rage farmed (past)

From rage + farm (systematically manipulating others into giving a particular response). Compare ragebait.

compound

You are being rage farmed. Your angry quote tweet = the goal.

2022 January 7, John Scott-Railton, Twitter:

Mr O'Toole is not a dumb man, which means he must know how bad this argument is. It's just rage farming by — and probably for the benefit of — his social media team. The Conservative Party is increasingly indistinguishable from a facebook group. #cdnpoli

Rage farming is the product of a perfect storm of f***, an unholy mélange of algorithms and anxiety

2022 January 12, Molly Jang-Fast, “Owning the Libs Is the Only GOP Platform: and "rage farming" is their most cynical tactic”, in The Atlantic:

Someone just asked “why do politicians keep trolling on Twitter?” Because their rage-farming is so extraordinarily effective; that’s why.

2022 January 27, @JustinRosenth11, Twitter:

Don't fall for this juvenile rage farming this time

2022 February 7, Steven Monacelli, Twitter:

When we come across something online that is so outrageous that we can't help but respond, we may be falling into the Rage Farming trap...Rage farmers don't care that people hate them...Rage Farming is a manipulative trick that all types of scammers use to go viral. Manipulators use the Read, Anger, Response cycle to rile us up.

Rage farming is a slang term for the political tactic of intentionally provoking political opponents in order to create or increase exposure for one’s group or cause. The tactic is especially associated with conservative and far-right political groups.

2022 March 13, Dictionary.com, Dictionary.com:

Tumblr never left and remains the only Social media site I know of that doesn't feed you algorithmic click farming rage. It's just who you follow ordered by the time they posted.

@thasnarkknight @TheCriticalDri2 Nah I’m pretty sure it's just a meaningless buzzword used by rage farming YouTubers.

I think it's simple. The GOP are successful in the U.S. It's basically tyranny by minority. Our system isn't as flawed. However, culture wars, victimization, white nationalism, rage farming, and hate bring in money and votes. PP/CPC are just following the GOP strategy book.

2022 August 11, @MyNameI89349435, Twitter:

A political scientist told The Tyee he expects aggressive attacks on politicians to increase in Canada as right-wing politicians continue to engage in "rage farming" by advancing false and misleading conspiracy narratives.

2022 August 27, Charles Rusnell, “The Attack on Freeland Sprouts from 'Rage Farming'”, in The Tyee:

This is the problem—well, one of them—with the rage farming that is consuming the modern conservative movement...InfoWars founder Alex Jones was making as much as $800,000 a day peddling conspiracy theories, misinformation, and other forms of rage-farming fertilizer

2022 August 28, Max Fawcett, The National Observer:

It's at the point where it isn't safe for anyone who's not on the far right of the political spectrum. Threats, intimidation, character assassination, lies, & conspiracy theories are encouraged by RW politicians engaging in rage farming. Much of the time, the MSM just ignores it.

2022 August 29, @janetwagner21, Twitter:

cynical politicians and right-wing media trolls continue to rage farm.

2022 September 1, David Moscrop, The Washington Post:

@DuaneBratt @leaderpost Scott Moe, the UCP and Poilievre are copying MAGA rage farming. We know and they know exactly where that leads in both countries

A thought: I'm not a member of any political party, but I am thinking of accumulating amounts to donate to the federal Libs & the AB NDP every time I see an anti-Trudeau hashtag trending, every time @PierrePoilievre or @ABDanielleSmith posts misleading info or rage farming BS,

@DennisKendel Another example of Cons rage farming. I for one am happy that someone is taking seriously water safety. Imagine the outrage if people not on reserves ended up with water boil advisories. Who would get the blame then? MAGA Light attacking federal agencies. Sound familiar?

@roulinski Rage Farming I wonder if the bug idea is Russian or Koch?

(Internet, derogatory) To publish false and misleading content to intentionally increase online interaction.


WAFFy

en-adj

WAFFy (comparative WAFFier, superlative WAFFiest)

WAFFier (comparative)
WAFFiest (superlative)

Part 1 was all the wonderfully WAFFy scenes of them getting ready to be married.

1996 February 13, BeBe 4 LC, “Possibilities, Possibilities”, in alt.tv.lois-n-clark (Usenet):

SUMMARY: Not much to say. After an emotional day, Scully and Mulder bond platonically over beer and pizza. Lots of WAFFy moments.

1996 April 22, Eric Johns, “Someone To Lean On 1/2”, in alt.tv.x-files.creative (Usenet):

Now if you are unfortunate enough to read on, immediately read some WAFFy fiction or something by Helm to wash out the bitter taste.

1999 December 28, Bastion, “[DARK][Songfic] This Is Not Hell (R)”, in alt.fan.sailor-moon (Usenet):

(fandom slang) Evoking, related to, or characteristic of warm and fuzzy feelings (WAFF).


hateship

From hate + ship (“a fictional romantic relationship between two characters”).

compound

also hateships gave us some real great classics like Drarry and Han/Leia so fight me

2016 December 22, Elliott (@elliohill), Twitter:

I remember back in the day when I though Draco/Harry was dumb bc they definitely hate eachother and now all my favorites are hateships lol

2017 August 8, v a p o r w a v e p a i s s a (@MildKat), Twitter:

Call me vanilla but I really don't get hateships or the enemies to lovers trope.

2019 April 8, E'dmund Tia (@catboy_on_main), Twitter:

(fandom slang) A ship involving characters with an adversarial relationship.


fandom bicycle

From town bicycle, the jocular idea being that, like a hypothetical bicycle shared by an entire fandom, "everyone gets a ride" with the character.

LOL Hermione is SO the fandom bicycle more so than Harry I think.

2010 September 14, Menacherie (@Menacherie), Twitter:

I am multiship TRASH. especially in Dragon Age, I'm happy with my faves kissing really any of my other faves. Especially Anders. man is the fandom bicycle and that is delightful, he deserves many smooches.

2021 September 7, Tirs For Fears (@potatowitch666), Twitter:

When I say Will Graham is my fandom bicycle I mean I’d pair him up with anybody. Stanitz….Zeller….Freddie….that policeman that was questioning him when he was sleepwalking…

2022 August 7, Hannigramwich (Darling Idiot) (@hannigramwich), Twitter:

(fandom slang) A character who is shipped with many other characters.


Barbie shipper

Presumably from the likening of shipping characters to playing with Barbie dolls.

Normally, I don't respond to your kind of bullshit or the other mindless Barbie shipper/Duchovbot bullshit I've had to endure, but I couldn't let this pass.

2001 July 10, Lizabeth V. Karaganis, “Re: Where to go in the 9th season?”, in alt.tv.x-files (Usenet):

CC's gamble to have 'Mulder the Absent Center' may have appeased a few barbie shipper types but it also drove off a lot of the fanbase as well.

2002 January 22, Medie, “Re: RP & last seacon”, in alt.tv.x-files (Usenet):

There was a big deal about SCULLY'S CHASTITY = DEVOTION TO MULDER during the heyday of the Shipper versus Noromo wars. That "Barbie Shippers" faction of XF fandom is currently cloistering itself somewhere in really dreadful, schmoopy fanfic where no other character threatens the purity of their "deep, abiding luv".

2005 June 25, campylobacter, “Re: Never Again question”, in alt.tv.x-files (Usenet):

(X-Files fandom slang, derogatory, dated) One who ships Fox Mulder and Dana Scully from the The X-Files.


stasiphobia

Basiphobia is the psychic element characteristic of pseudotabetics; also agarophobia^([sic]) and stasiphobia.

1922, International Medical Digest, page 374:

Stasiphobia is the fear of standing. Presumably, someone who suffers from both stasiphobia and kathisophobia has no option but to lay in bed all day while the rest of us work.

2019, Andrew Thompson, Spiders, Clowns, and Great Mole Rats: Over 150 Phobias That Will Freak You Out, from Arachnophobia to Zemmiphobia:

(rare) A morbid fear of standing upright.


Qcumber

I no longer refer to them as 'Qanon people.'
To me, they will forever be known as Qcumbers.
#QcumberCult

2020 April 19, just_mice33, Twitter, archived from the original on 2022-09-16:

(slang, derogatory) A follower of the QAnon movement.


homogenitality

From homogenital + -ity, equivalent to homo- + genitality.

The Bible’s concern is about same-sex acts, what had been called homogenitality.

2005, The Bible on homosexuality: Exploring its meaning and authority:

The Chuch now accepts homosexuality as a fact but does not accept homogenitality as a choice.

2000, Cistercian Studies Quarterly, Some problematic aspects of human sexuality: Psychological considerations:

1998, Whole and Holy Sexuality: How to Find Human and Spiritual Integrity as a Sexual Person
It is my view that homosexuality (understood as homogenitality) is not healthy, but that homosexual persons can be healthy .

Sexual activity with a person of the same genitalia, sometimes (potentially offensive) restricted to same-sex sex between males.


guilten

en-verb

guilten (third-person singular simple present guiltens, present participle guiltening, simple past and past participle guiltened)

guiltens (present singular third-person)
guiltening (participle present)
guiltened (participle past)
guiltened (past)

From Middle English gilten, gylten. From Old English gyltan, from gylt. By surface analysis, guilt + -en.

(rare, intransitive) To guilt; to make someone feel guilty

(rare, transitive) To become guilty; to start to feel guilty


Q+

I heard a woman ask a guy in a "Q+" hat — one of Q's signatures, he told me — what Q was about.

2018 August 3, Philip Bump, “There’s a virus in Trumpland”, in Washington Post:

The group regularly disseminates Q's messages on UCP's official YouTube livestream. Members toss off remarks like "thank God for Q and Q+, that’s Trump," actively look for Q messages and claim that real news is based those messages.

2019 April 23, Brendan Joel Kelley, “QAnon Conspiracy Increasingly Popular with Antigovernment Extremists”, in Southern Poverty Law Center:

Some QAnon devotees even believe that Mr. Trump posts himself, under the code name "Q+".

2020 February 9, Mike McIntire, Kevin Roose, “What Happens When QAnon Seeps From the Web to the Offline World”, in New York Times:

Ms. Perkins said she saw Mr. Trump as being involved in the Q effort, saying that she believed he was posting online under the pseudonym Q+.

2020 May 20, Mike Baker, “G.O.P. Voters Back QAnon Conspiracy Promoter for U.S. Senate”, in New York Times:

DAVIES: Let's just talk about some QAnon terms. When you see Q+, what does that mean?
 LAFRANCE: Well, Q+ refers to President Trump himself.

2020 August 20, Dave Davies, Adrienne LaFrance, Fresh Air, NPR:

(QAnon) A hypothetical individual believed to be in charge of QAnon, most commonly thought to be Donald Trump himself.


Ronniecoln

(fandom slang) The ship of characters Ronnie Anne Santiago and Lincoln Loud from the animated television series The Loud House.


super straight

Coined by Canadian TikToker Kyle Royce in a video posted on February 21, 2021, in which he explained that he had begun identifying as "super straight" in order to avoid accusations of transphobia for not wanting to date transgender people. It was later popularized by the 4chan board /pol/.

Nobody is required to date or have sex with trans people, but it's eerily violent to organize an identity and a movement around excluding them. For Super Straights to do just that, while claiming that they're persecuted is the ultimate irony.

2021 March 15, Michelle Santiago Cortés, “The Super Straights Are Definitely Not Okay”, in Refinery29, archived from the original on 2022-12-17:

To make the point they're trying to desperately prove legit, the Super Straights have come with a flag and merchandise though it's not quite sure who's buying it yet or who came up with the inspired colour scheme.

2021 March 24, Jaishree Kumar, “Inside the 'Super Straight' Movement That Got Banned on TikTok and Reddit”, in VICE, archived from the original on 2022-05-27:

"Have you seen these colors on a TikTok video? Scroll [away] instantly," a critic warned in one of many response clips. "These men are known as Super Straights. We have to keep them off the For You page."

2021 April 7, Conor Friedersdorf, “The Sexual Identity That Emerged on TikTok”, in The Atlantic, archived from the original on 2021-04-07:

Gold star gays/lesbians are just as transphobic as super straights. To be cisgender and require another to be cisgender before allowing oneself to be attracted to someone is transphobic. To have a preference, though, is valid.

2021 November 7, Rose Montoya, “Trans 101 by Rose Montoya: Gold Star Gays/Lesbians Transphobic?”, in Los Angeles Blade, archived from the original on 2022-07-04:

And hearing marginalized people speak up can feel like injustice for those accustomed to their stories being the only ones told. That's why white racists scream "reverse racism," and transphobes cry for the rights of the "super-straights."

2022 May 2, Ian D. Svetkey, “A White Man's Voice: The Role of the Privileged Actor”, in The Harvard Crimson, archived from the original on 2022-05-03:

(Internet slang, offensive) A person identifying as super straight.


bex

en-adj

bex (comparative more bex, superlative most bex)

more bex (comparative)
most bex (superlative)

Benquenos are bex about an oil spill caused by Westline bus.

2021 October 12, “Benquenos Bex About Oil Spill”, in 7 News Belize:


Australophobia

To counter any charge of Australophobia, we report that in contrast to your fine airports, our main international airport does not yet boast a permanent terminal building and the opening date slides away into unpredictability – 1969, 1972, 1973, Xmas 1974, October 1975 and now October 1976!

1975 June, “Transport in New Zealand”, in Australian Transport, volume 17, number 6, page 50:


scare the life out of

en-verb

scare the life out of (third-person singular simple present scares the life out of, present participle scaring the life out of, simple past and past participle scared the life out of)

scares the life out of (present singular third-person)
scaring the life out of (participle present)
scared the life out of (participle past)
scared the life out of (past)

(idiomatic) To scare something or someone to a great degree.


red string of fate

en-noun

red string of fate (plural red strings of fate)

Translation of Japanese 運命の赤い糸 (unmei no akai ito).

In East Asian mythology, a red string tied between soulmates' fingers.


declaration of love

declaration of love (plural declarations of love)


wet play

wet play (countable and uncountable, plural wet plays)

(sexuality) Sexual activity involving liquids; either urolagnia or sploshing (wet and messy fetishism).


morbs

Perhaps from morbid, ultimately from Latin morbus (“malady (of body or mind), distress”).

der

As a whole, New York audiences are the most responsive because they are made up largely of the happy, care-free transients, the human beings who come to New York to laugh. […] They are not wise as the morbs are, they are just happy, and natural and alive.

1919, Bert Williams, quotee, “Keeping up with the new laughs”, in Theatre Magazine, page 346:

(archaic, informal) One who suffers from melancholia or depression.

For whatever reasons, an astonishing assortment of English idioms (some dating to Elizabethan times) existed in the nineteenth century to literally give sorrow words: one spoke of the “blackdogs”, the “blue devils”, the “dismals”, the “dumps”, the “hyps”, the “mopes”, the “morbs”, the “mulligrubs”, the “mumps”, the “wiffle-woffles”, the “woefuls”, the “worrits”, and the “vapors”.

[1973, Stefan Grossman, Country Blues Songbook, page 16:

‘Oh Tess,’ giggled Kate, ‘you’re always such a tonic. I’m so glad you’ve come. I’ve got a severe case of the “morbs”.’

1995, Patricia Harding, A Woman of Africa, page 159:

Maybe i’m not up to dick today. I think I’ll just absquatulate before I get the morbs. Goodbye old chum.

2017 November 23, Anna W., “Caption this! Thanksgiving 2017”, in Recollections:

(archaic, informal, with the) A state of melancholy, sadness, ennui.


transphilia

From trans- + -philia or trans + -philia.

(rare) Sexual attraction to transgender or transsexual people.


biphilia

Coordinate term: homophilia

[…] from the outset it does not exhibit Gentlemen Prefer Blondes biphilia', of which, as Doty notes, "It's never a matter of the woman choosing either men or each other, but of having both women and men available to them."

2012 December 17, Timothy Shary, Millennial Masculinity: Men in Contemporary American Cinema, Wayne State University Press, →ISBN, page 186:

Philia is the propensity to fall in love romantically with members of a particular sex or gender (or both, as in the case of biphilia). The three affectional orientations include opposite-sex, same-sex, and bidirectional.

2015 January 1, Ada L. Sinacore, Freda Ginsberg, Canadian Counselling and Counselling Psychology in the 21st Century, McGill-Queen's Press - MQUP, →ISBN, page 114:


Snamione

Pairing names are often portmanteaus of characters' names, although fans may not always agree on the forms that these amalgamations take — the Snape/Hermione ship, for example, may be called Snamione, Sevmione, Snermione or Snanger, depending on the preferences of the fans who participate in it.

2015, Amanda K. Allen, “Social Networking, Participatory Culture and the Fandom World of Harry Potter”, in Gail Ashton, editor, Medieval Afterlives in Contemporary Culture, Bloomsbury Publishing, →ISBN, page 279:

Therefore, it is logical that the selected trope will more often be used in fics which have a non-normative ship: fandomstats relays that, within the EWE tag, some of the most prolific ships include Drarry, Dramione (Draco/Hermione, not a slash ship but still one that does not conform with Rowling’s normative ideas as it contains Draco, an antagonistic character), and ships involving Snape, including Snamione and Snarry.

2019, Beatriz Brito do Nascimento, "No heteros in this heterotopia: Harry Potter slash fanfiction as heterotopian space", dissertation submitted to the University of Porto, page 120

And the love bred a shameful number of Snamione fanfics in the coming years.

2021, Leighann Hart, “About the Author”, in Loving Rosenfeld, Crooked Hart Press, LLC, →ISBN:

(fandom slang) The ship of characters Hermione Granger and Severus Snape of the Harry Potter series.


aroflux

(LGBT, rare) Generally aromantic, but sometimes experiencing varying degrees of romantic attraction.


ace-aro

en-adj

ace-aro (comparative more ace-aro, superlative most ace-aro)

more ace-aro (comparative)
most ace-aro (superlative)

From ace (clipping of asexual) + aro (clipping of aromantic).

af

clipping of <i class="Latn mention" lang="en">asexual</i>

clipping of <i class="Latn mention" lang="en">aromantic</i>

No matter how we talk about our asexuality (or aromanticism), where we fall on the ace/aro spectrum, or how we decide to express our identity, knowing that other people feel the same way we do means a great deal.

2018 November 1, Claire Dwyer, “Asexual Awareness Week”, in The Scripps Voice, volume 27, number 3, Scripps College, page 5:

“I'm ace.” The moment the word leaves his mouth, it's like he'd been holding his breath for an hour and finally let it out. / I keep staring at him, and I realize I'm being rude, but I have no idea what I'm supposed to say. “A-ace?” / “Technically ace-aro. Asexual. Aromantic.” / My lip warbles. “Oh ... I don't know what that means.”

2020, Meredith Tate, The Last Confession of Autumn Casterly, New York, NY: G. P. Putnam's Sons, →ISBN, page 262:

(slang) Synonym of aro-ace (“aromantic and asexual”).


scare the hell out of

en-verb

scare the hell out of (third-person singular simple present scares the hell out of, present participle scaring the hell out of, simple past and past participle scared the hell out of)

scares the hell out of (present singular third-person)
scaring the hell out of (participle present)
scared the hell out of (participle past)
scared the hell out of (past)

(mildly vulgar, chiefly slang) To frighten someone.


scare the shit out of

scare the shit out of (third-person singular simple present scares the shit out of, present participle scaring the shit out of, simple past and past participle scared the shit out of)

scares the shit out of (present singular third-person)
scaring the shit out of (participle present)
scared the shit out of (participle past)
scared the shit out of (past)

That scared the shit out of me!

And he says, ‘we'll call you back soon, real soon, so get your ducks in a row’ and that scares the shit out of the corporate muckity-mucks.

1991, Winn Schwartau, Terminal Compromise:

(slang, vulgar) To frighten someone thoroughly.


dating sim

Unlike typical Western games, the goal in Japanese dating sims is to attain true love rather than defeat level bosses.

2004 September, “Dating Lessons With Anime Play?”, in CPU: Computer Power User, page 9:

Tokimeki Memorial was hugely influential not just in kickstarting the entire dating sim genre in Japan but also in the way its gameplay influenced the love mechanics I've already described in Persona 4 and Dragon Age: Origins.

2015, Nicholas Ware, “Interative romance and button-mashing sex: Gameplay design and video games' Nice Guy Syndrome”, in Evan W. Lauteria, Matthew Wysocki, editors, Rated M for Mature: Sex and Sexuality in Video Games, page 234:

Short had enjoyed playing dating sims in grad school, but grew frustrated by their focus on the desires of cishet men. "I was like, 'Ah, I gotta make a game where you can date whoever you want, because this is ridiculous'," she recalls.

2021 December, Edwin Evans-Thirwell, “Kitfox Games”, in Edge, page 93:

(video games) A social simulation game centered on building and maintaining a romantic relationship with one or more NPCs.


TatsuJun

(fandom slang) The ship of characters Tatsuya Suou and Jun Kurosu from the Persona series.

Persona 2: Innocent Sin#Setting and characters


divorced guy energy

Adapted from big divorce energy with reference to the stereotype of men reacting to divorce more negatively than women.

Elon Musk shot off a car into a void, a reeking-of-divorced-guy-energy Jeff Bezos recently announced he was into space colonies, and now NASA is planning on letting private companies sell extremely expensive tickets to the International Space Station.

2019 June 7, Harry Cheadle, “A Few Ideas for Those Rich People Who Have More Money Than They Can Spend”, in Vice:

On this chaotic, overstuffed record, West’s divorced-guy energy cannot hide his declining artistry.

2021 August 31, Elliot Hoste, “Kanye West enters his dad-rap era with new album Donda”, in New Statesman:

The Democrats’ Senate hopeful exudes a profound melancholy

2022, Cockburn, "Tim Ryan has big ‘divorced guy’ energy", The Spectator, 1 November 2022 (used in title only)

(slang, derogatory) A psychological state stereotypically characteristic of a recently-divorced man, often conceptualized as being pathetically arrogant or tryhard while also filled with anger, resentment, or melancholy.


big divorce energy

Coined as a play on big dick energy (“unassuming self-confidence”).

The longer you stare at an image like that one — and I don’t recommend it — the clearer this paradox becomes. It’s not that Bezos seems like an odd, wealthy bachelor who would never get hitched; it’s that for a couple of years now, he’s exuded what can only be termed “Big Divorce Energy.”
It’s confusing to find out he’s headed for splitsville when he strikes you as a dude who already has the first marriage in his rearview mirror. The updated clothes, the clean-shaven dome, the ripped revenge bod: “powerful divorced guy vibes,” as the Outline‘s Brandy Jensen put it.

2019 January 10, Miles Klee, “2019 Will Be The Year Of Big Divorce Energy”, in Mel Magazine:

Alvita, played with big divorce energy by an intoxicating Clare Perkins, swaggers around in a tight scarlet dress that – to use a phrase of my mother’s – she “falls out of” carefreely. Her voice is gravelly and feels like it could go at any moment, but not before she gives her husbands an earful, summoning each one for a bit of public humiliation. One is outed as a non-starter in the sheets, another as a fan of Jordan Peterson. Eek. The message is one of sex-positivity: Alvita has no time for “slut shamers” and “uptight churchy men” (Chaucer’s sermonising priests). She wants power and bodily autonomy; she wants – quite explicitly – to be satisfied.

2021 November 22, Katherine Cowles, “Zadie Smith’s stage debut is a filthy, feminist reworking of Chaucer”, in New Statesman:

According to one person, Brady’s photo was giving off “big divorce energy,” while another person said: “One of the most divorced men of all time.”

2023 February 6, Chelsea Ritschel, “Tom Brady divides fans after posting shirtless mirror selfie in his boxers to complete bet: ‘Get a job’”, in The Independent:

(slang, often derogatory) A psychological state stereotypically characteristic of a recently-divorced person.


heteroqueer

en-adj

heteroqueer (comparative more heteroqueer, superlative most heteroqueer)

more heteroqueer (comparative)
most heteroqueer (superlative)

I lived openly as a dyke for more than 20 years and no number of shots [of testosterone] ... will ever change my history. Nor do I have any interest in that happening....I've been without my lesbian ID card for several years now, but I can't really call myself straight either. I really have no concept of "straight" as a life experience ... so "heteroqueer" seems to fit best, or "I'm a guy who likes girls who like 'special' guys."

2011, Michael W., quoted in Genny Beemyn & Sue Rankin, The Lives of Transgender People, page 33

In Day's more lighthearted take on Sidney's story in Isle of the Gulls, Pyrocles's friend Demetrius (Musidorus in the Arcadia) comments on the unlikelihood of this erotic heteroqueer triangle: “That the duke should doate upon thee for a woman, makes for our purpose, but that the dutches should be enamord on thee for a man, is preposteroous."

2016, Simone Chess, Male-to-Female Crossdressing in Early Modern English Literature: Gender, Performance, and Queer Relations, page 114:

Deaf Chicano heteroqueer trans man Drago Renteria is an activist and writer who founded the National Deaf Queer Resource Center, an online information and resource website that has existed since 1995 and is run by volunteers.

2016, Genie Gertz, Patrick Boudreault, editors, The SAGE Deaf Studies Encyclopedia, page 318:

(LGBT) Heterosexual and queer (e.g. due to transness).

2003 December, Roberta Mock, “Heteroqueer Ladies: Some Performative Transactions between Gay Men and Heterosexual Women”, in Feminist Review, volume 75, number 1:

See Mock (2003) and Zita (1992) for interesting pieces on male lesbians and heteroqueer ladies – individuals who are attracted to members of the opposite sex, but feel as though they “should” be members of the opposite sex with same-sex sexual desires.

2009, Nicole Hagan Wolensky Civettini, "Same-Sex Unions: Do Theories of Marriage Apply?", thesis submitted to The University of Iowa, page 18

Roberta Mock presents Midler as a camp heteroqueer lady and reminds us of the fact that Michael Bronski described Midler as a “female female impersonator” (Bronski 1984: 107).

2018, Georges-Claude Guilbert, Gay Icons: The (Mostly) Female Entertainers Gay Men Love, page 116:

(of a woman) Heterosexual and having an affinity with gay men and/or the gay community.


divorced energy

My fear isn’t that [Laurence] Fox will be mayor of London: it’s that trying to be mayor of London will make more people aware of him, and, long story short, in five years’ time Commander Fox will change the national anthem to one of his hoary folksongs, and we’ll all have to endure a 40-year reign of him conveying his profoundly, almost medically divorced energy through a series of croakingly posh national addresses.

2021 April 29, Joel Golby, “Two YouTubers, Count Binface and a man who drank his own urine. Who gets your vote as London mayor?”, in The Guardian:

Inevitable, really, that a song called “I Drink Wine” would land in the top flight of a “divorced energy” list, but it’s not just the title that gets this one here. This mid-tempo piano track has a “getting up to sing in a bar on a night out that the girlies have brought you on to stop you crying into a Pot Noodle for the fourth night in a row” vibe, and when I hear her singing it I imagine her wearing a plaid shirt and sploshing a glass of Pinot about like Connie Britton in Friday Night Lights. Which is a good aesthetic, really.

2021 November 19, Laura O'Neill, “The Songs on Adele’s ‘30’, Ranked By How Divorced They Sound”, in Vice:

Why, some wondered on Twitter, did Mr. Musk have four open cans of caffeine-free Diet Coke next to his pillow? What was up with the image of George Washington crossing the Delaware River? Were either of the two guns he had on display real? (Observers said they looked like non-firing replicas—one of Washington’s own, the other from the videogame “Deus Ex: Human Revolution”—though Mr. Musk has not corroborated their observations.) The internet was quick to quip about the chaotic display and the “divorced energy” the items evoked.

2022 December 1, Lane Florsheim, “From Elon Musk to Drake, Celebrity Nightstand Photos Are Causing a Stir”, in The Wall Street Journal:

big divorce energy
big divorce energy#English

(slang, often derogatory) Synonym of big divorce energy.


heteroqueerness

Robert Heasley has begun to address the notion of heteroqueerness as it pertains specifically to the male subject. His paper focuses on a typology of men who perform queer masculinities and also identify as straight.

2015, Jamie Lee Coull, "Faux Queens: an exploration of gender, sexuality and queerness in cisfemale drag queen performance", thesis submitted to Curtin University, page 45

On this occasion, I will bring to the fore one example related to the homo-trans*- revolution sequence, and its flipside in the concealment of “homonormativity”, and another that expresses the hetero-cis-repression series and occludes the potential of heteroqueerness.

2017, Moira Pérez, "The Sex-Gender Revolution Series", Revista Estudos Feministas, Volume 25, Number 2, May-August 2017, page 437

She [Roberta Mock] defines queer as the ‘politics of the liberation of desire’ (2003, 23) and I would contend that heterosexual women who actively express a lack of desire to reproduce performing heteroqueerness.

2018, Kate Fox, “How stand-ups construct and are constructed by the 'Northernness Effect'”, in Comedy Studies, volume 9, number 1, page 28:


Mormonophobia

If we started allowing religious people to break basic anti-discrimination laws, where would we stop? Until 1975, the Mormon Church said black people didn't have souls. […] Would we let a Mormon registrar refuse to marry black people? Would it be "Mormonophobia" to object?

2010 August 10, Johann Hari, “The Slow, Whining Death of British Christianity”, in HuffPost:

The Mormon church's past anti-gay positions and its role in financing Proposition 8 – California's 2008 ban on same-sex marriage – may have been the first dominoes to fall around the faithful, but vetting Mitt Romney as a presidential candidate links the straightforward similarities between Mormonophobia and homophobia.

2012 July 11, Tony Plakas, “Mitt's Mormon marriage march”, in Sun-Sentinel:

Hold on there! That's hate speech, isn't it? That Mormonophobia! / Now if only you could be so frank about Islam there might be some hope for you.

2016 April 15, Bob Tiernan, “Re: A news item Billy will like”, in or.politics (Usenet):


BroTP

Blend of bro (“male comrade or friend”) + OTP (“one true pairing”).

blend

"Natasha Romanoff and Steve Rogers are adorbs together as friends, but I'd never ship them — total BROTP."

2015, Sam Maggs, The Fangirl's Guide to the Universe: A Handbook for Girl Geeks, page 31:

BROTPs and OT3s (shipping three characters in a polyamorous relationship) abound.

2016, Bethany A. Scettrini, "Fan Responses to Orphan Black and The 100 via Blogs, Fan Fiction, and Ship Wars", thesis submitted to Baylor University, page 51

Being in a fandom means that we willingly signed on to watch as our—soon-to-be — favorite character(s) die, as we find out our OTP may never truly get to be happy, or that our BroTP will always be at odds.

2019, Star, "Fixing What Shouldn't Be Broken", Lemon, page 14

(fandom slang) A platonic relationship between two characters that is a personal favorite of a fan.


LoVe

Blend of Logan + Veronica, as a deliberate homophone of love.

The complicated and, for fans, mostly frustrating relationship between these characters is the reason why stories dealing with Spuffy and LoVe pairings are by far more popular than stories based on any other possible ship.

2008, Manuela Scherf, "Character Formation in Fan Fiction Based on Popular TV Series, thesis submitted to the University of Vienna, page 15

“LoVe” (Logan/Veronica) was a very rapid OTP (one true pairing) candidate.

2018, Ivan Askwith, quoted in The Routledge Companion to Media Fandom (Melissa A. Click & Suzanne Scott), unnumbered page

Though all but two of my informants eventually self-identified as LoVe shippers—Eileen and Jodie were vocally opposed to the relationship, characterizing it as abusive—all were initially unwilling to involve that investment in their answers to my questions.

2018, Annemarie Navar-Gill, “Fandom as symbolic patronage: expanding understanding of fan relationships with industry through the Veronica Mars Kickstarter campaign”, in Popular Communication: The International Journal of Media and Culture, volume 16, number 3:

(fandom slang) The ship of characters Logan Echolls and Veronica Mars from the television show Veronica Mars.


NOTP

Usually it is best to keep your NOTP to yourself, unless you wish to start a shipping war.

2013, "Severus Snape", "Ship happens", The Sandscript (Sanderson High School, Raleigh, BC), March 2013 (April Fool's issue), page 5

Add the words you want to avoid to your black list (anything from your NOTP to seriously triggering topics), and posts containing them will never again show up on your dash.

2015, Sam Maggs, The Fangirl's Guide to the Universe: A Handbook for Girl Geeks, pages 66–67:

When questioned on why they disliked their ‘NOTP’, most respondents claimed it was often due to notable inclusion of paedophilic, incestuous, abusive, or non-consensual relationships and intercourse within the stories.

2019, Amy Pollard, “An investigation of fanfiction readers' and writers' views on fanfiction, with a focus on LGBTQ+ themes”, in Mesh: The Journal for Undergraduate Work Across English Studies, number 3, published 2009, pages 22–23:

(fandom slang) A ship that one strongly dislikes.


anti-Reylo

When Star Wars: The Force Awakens came out, the fandom found itself dividing across one really hard, bright line: the Reylos and the anti-Reylos.

2017 December 15, Ani Bundel, “More Than The Force Connects Kylo Ren & Rey In 'The Last Jedi' & It's Intense”, in Elite Daily:

Anti-Reylos read the pairing's on-screen encounters as rape, and they point out the age difference and potential familial relationship.

2018, Kristina Busse, “Afterword: Fannish Affect and Its Aftermath”, in Rebecca Williams, editor, Everybody Hurts: Transitions, Endings, and Resurrections in Fan Cultures, page 217:

This also means that there are significant clashes between Reylo shippers and anti-Reylos.

2019, Lauren Rouse, "The fan fiction reading guide: the use of multimedia and comments as close reading tools", thesis submitted to DePaul University, page 96

(fandom slang) An opponent of the ship of Rey and Kylo Ren from Star Wars (Reylo).


demipansexual

en-adj

demipansexual (comparative more demipansexual, superlative most demipansexual)

more demipansexual (comparative)
most demipansexual (superlative)

When asked how they would describe their sexual orientation, Reese stated: “I kind of have an idea. I’m pansexual, but I prefer women … cisgender women. I prefer cisgender women. I should say that because you should specify. … My romantic orientation is more, I don’t know, it’s demipansexual I guess. It’s just all encompassing.” With this passage Reese specified that, although they are demipansexual—may become attracted to people of any gender after they develop a strong emotional and romantic bond with them—they prefer cisgender women.

2016, Alicia Lapointe, “Postgay”, in Nelson M. Rodriguez, Wayne J. Martino, Jennifer C. Ingrey, Edward Brockenbrough, editors, Critical Concepts in Queer Studies and Education: An International Guide for the Twenty-First Century (William F. Pinar, Nelson M. Rodriguez, and Reta Ugena Whitlock, editors, Queer Studies and Education), Palgrave Macmillan, →ISBN, page 213:

AMANDA | 24, DEMIPANSEXUAL, PLUS SIZED, ATHEIST

[Maxfield] Sparrow, a white Generation Xer who identifies as metagender and demipansexual, holds an MFA in creative writing and poetics from Naropa University and continues their education in Colorado, with the goal of becoming a Certified Poetry Therapist.

2021, “Contributors”, in Emily Paige Ballou, Sharon daVanport, and Morénike Giwa Onaiwu, editors, Sincerely, Your Autistic Child: What People on the Autism Spectrum Wish Their Parents Knew About Growing Up, Acceptance, and Identity, Boston, Mass.: Beacon Press, →ISBN, page 203:

For her own part she [Quinn Simon] identifies as demipansexual, the term used to describe those capable of feeling sexually attracted to anyone regardless of gender, provided there is a deep emotional connection.

2021 September 10, Gemma Handy, “‘It took me a long time to accept who I was’”, in Antigua Observer, archived from the original on 2021-09-10:

Without such labels, explains demipansexual Aggie (29), she couldn’t explore sexuality, her gender, or even polyamory itself.

2022 May 20, Elizabeth Reid Boyd, “Hook-ups, pansexuals and holy connection: love in the time of millennials and Generation Z”, in Philippine Canadian Inquirer, volume 8, number 490:


arophobia

2016, https://www.asexuality.org/en/topic/149367-overcoming-internalized-arophobia/, Overcoming internalized arophobia
"I was dealing with internalized arophobia (like homophobia, but towards aromantics)."

2021, https://www.aromanticism.org/en/basic-terms, AUREA - Basic Terms
"Aromisia / Arophobia - The dislike of or prejudice against aromantic people."

(neologism) Fear, dislike, or hatred of aromantic people and/or human aromanticism.


objectum-sexuality

Sexual attraction to inanimate objects or things.


selenophobia

en-noun

selenophobia (countable and uncountable, plural selenophobias)

From seleno- + -phobia, from Ancient Greek Σελήνη (Selḗnē, “Moon”) + φόβος (phóbos, “fear”).

[…]the chronic use of dietary selenium supplementation or chronic ingestion of drinking water containing selenium slightly above normal or safe levels can facilitate the development of diabetes type 2 and neurodegenerative diseases. These observations do not indicate that we have returned to the era of selenophobia (the fear of selenium observed in the 20th century), but we have to be much more critical about the intentional or unintentional chronic use of selenium.

2017, Joao B. T. Rocha, Claudia S. Oliveira, Pablo A. Nogara, “Toxicology and Anticancer Activity of Synthetic Organoselenium Compounds”, in Organoselenium Compounds in Biology and Medicine, Royal Society of Chemistry, page 349:

A fear of selenium due to its perceived status as a carcinogen and toxin.


pluralphobia

pluralphobia makes us mad

2020 September 4, @QueerAnarch, Twitter, archived from the original on 2023-08-30:

singlets talking about plurality like *inadvertent constant pluralphobia*

2021 February 10, @caterpilled, Twitter, archived from the original on 2023-08-30:

I wouldn't recommend the second game though because for some reason they go hard on the pluralphobia, a lot of plot points are changed from the original, and Zach barely plays a role in it, which is really disappointing.

2021 November 13, u/Aichtachi, “DID/OSDD/Plural-ish Positive Media Recommendations?”, in Reddit, archived from the original on 2023-01-09:

you think internalized transphobia is bad? oh brother, just wait till the internalized pluralphobia hits

2023 February 8, @estroBiologist, Twitter, archived from the original on 2023-08-30:

Long before any sort of multiplicity was considered a mental disorder, the Christian majority was primed to hate and fear plurals. This pluralphobia later transferred over to DID systems

2023 March 7, sophieinwonderland, Tumblr, archived from the original on 2023-07-23:

(multiplicity slang) The dislike, denial, or stigmatization of, or prejudice against, people with multiplicity (the psychological condition).


scisaac

(fandom slang) The ship of characters Scott McCall and Isaac Lahey from the Teen Wolf series.


Linny

(fandom slang) The ship of characters Luna Lovegood and Ginny Weasley from Harry Potter.


Pansmione

(fandom slang) The ship of characters Pansy Parkinson and Hermione Granger from Harry Potter.


childhood memory

childhood memory (plural childhood memories)

A memory formed during the childhood years.


bifictional

From bi- + fictional, based on bisexual.

I don't know if Henry Wyckoff is bi-fictional, but the stories of his that I've read were gen.

1999 October 2, Sally, “Re: looking for. . .”, in alt.tv.sentinel (Usenet):

Recently some Sentinel fans have been discussing the various types of fanfiction written in the fandom. Some were curious about the proportion of gen only, slash only, and bifictional readers.

2000 June 6, S. Mallet (AKA Marmoset), “Preferences in Sentinel Fanfic -- New Poll”, in alt.tv.sentinel (Usenet):

At any rate, the first Trekfic I posted was non-slash, and I'm pretty much rampantly bifictional in my reading, although I don't like most het (probably because I don't have good enough filters in place to eliminate the bad stuff).

2000 June 22, laura jacquez valentine, “Re: Slash versus non-slash”, in alt.startrek.creative.erotica.moderated (Usenet):

(fandom slang, dated) Interested in the two predominant genres of fan fiction within a specific fandom (generally genfic and slashfic, or hetfic and slashfic).


kan cheong

en-adj

kan cheong (comparative more kan cheong, superlative most kan cheong)

more kan cheong (comparative)
most kan cheong (superlative)

[ˌkän˧ ˈt͡ʃjɔŋ˦]

From Singaporean Hokkien 緊張／紧张 (kán-chiong, “nervous; stressed”), from Cantonese 緊張／紧张 (gan² zoeng¹).

bor

I was so ‘kancheong’ (Cantonese for worried) about his tests that I woke him up at 5:30 am to remind him not to make mistakes.

2002 August 13, Michelle Ho, quoting Diana Liaw, The Straits Times, Singapore, page L8:

I wasn’t always this kan cheong about elections.

2008 November 2, Colin Goh, The Sunday Times, Singapore, page 14:

[…] they will just become more kan cheong and think that all the mata and SCDF kena nuked or something […]

2004, The Void Deck, soc.culture.singapore (Usenet):

(Singlish, Manglish) Nervous, anxious, keyed up


adronitis

Coined by American author and neologist John Koenig, creator of The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows, with reference to Latin andronitis, described by him as a "hallway connecting the front part of the house with a complex inner atrium" in Ancient Roman architecture. According to Koenig, "one quirk of Roman houses" is that front rooms generally have Greek names while back rooms have Latin names, something he saw as characteristic of "your outer self and your inner self […] speaking in completely different languages."

coin

Still, he contained^([sic]) his silent streak and finally, I just hung up with a feeling of adronitis.

2019, Jonna Wahl, Bloody Bloom, unnumbered page:

The more I learn
The more different I become
I begin to to^([sic]) feel mauerbauertraurigkeit
On top of adronitis

2019, Quashon Mayes, “Chilly Log Cabin Vibes”, in Geniuses Don't Belong In The Hood, unnumbered page:

Adronitis makes me not want to communicate with people.

2019, Zaffa Khalid, Deep Thinking, page 5:

(neologism, rare) Frustration with the amount of time required to become truly familiar with someone.


lachesism

Coined by American author and neologist John Koenig, creator of The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows, with reference to the Ancient Greek goddess Lachesis, the Fate responsible for alloting the span of each mortal's life.

I'd always been fascinated by lightning and had always had an unexplainable lachesism. I'm not sure why I had this desire to be struck by disaster and survive, to be struck by lightning in fact, […]

2015, Johnny Close, Eco-Lonely, page 110:

"What if I become just another flower on the side of the road?" I looked to him, shaking uncontrollably yet strangely calmed by an underlying sense of lachesism.

In that sense, we can probably say that the Covid-19 pandemic, which put the world on hold for over a year, satisfied our collective lachesism.

2021, "Sketching", The Designing Linguist, Issue #1 (2021), page 5

(neologism, rare) The yearning for the clarity or reprioritisation afforded by surviving a disaster.

Fates
Lachesis
The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows


kenopsia

Coined by American author and neologist John Koenig, creator of The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows, from Ancient Greek κενός (kenós, “empty”) and the modern English suffix -opsia, itself from the Ancient Greek -οψία (-opsía, “sight”).

Many of the places we visited have the distinct feel of kenopsia, which is that eeriness of places left behind or once teeming with people but now quiet, save for the wind blowing through open windows.

2019, Ellen Klinkel, Nick Gerlich, A Matter of Time: Route 66 through the Lens of Change, page 5:

WHO calls it a global pandemic,
Earth's population lost in kenopsia.

2022, Uboho Bassey, “Coronavirus”, in Times and Seasons: A Collection of Poems, unnumbered page:

The other difference I noticed from '42 was the sharp drop in oyster farmhands, from hundreds to only three today. Looking around, I felt a touch of kenopsia; the canal seemed much emptier.

2022, David Moscow, John Moscow, From Scratch: Adventures in Harvesting, Hunting, Fishing, and Foraging on a Fragile Planet, unnumbered page:

(neologism, rare) The haunting quality of seeing a location typically full of people in a state of emptiness or abandonment.


occhiolism

Coined by American author and neologist John Koenig, creator of The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows, from Italian occhiolino (“little eye”), the name given by inventor Galileo to a prototype microscope in the early 1600s, + -ism.

I've never been consumed by so much occhiolism, I was so small so insignificant.

2015, Johnny Close, Eco-Lonely, page 186:

Willow is a building site when I reach the top. It's barely recognisable as the place I had held a vimto-coke in one hand and an optimistic sense of occhiolism in the other merely 24 hours ago. The same people who served me several shots at the now dismantled bar are busying themselves with tearing up the carpet (there was a carpet!?) and in among them all is Tommy Fong, watching over the scene.

2015 September 29, Tom Butler-Roberts, “Tommy Fong's Final Farewell”, in York Vision, The University of York, page 11:

Increased depth in a scene, with the subject in the distance, can make a viewer feel as though the space is vast and provide a sense of occhiolism, while increased depth with the subject and environment filling up the scene can create a sense of claustrophobia.

2018, Shannon Benna, "Systems and Practices to Produce Stereoscopic Space on Screen", in Image – Action – Space: Situating the Screen in Visual Practice (eds. Luisa Feiersinger, Kathrin Friedrich, & Moritz Queisner), page 143

(neologism, rare) The awareness of the small scope of one's own perspective and the way it limits one's ability to fully understand the world.

Galileo
The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows
Timeline of microscope technology


monachopsis

Coined by American author and neologist John Koenig, creator of The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows, from Ancient Greek μοναχός (monakhós, “single, solitary”) + ὄψις (ópsis, “view, sight”).

der

My cliche teenage romance that every girl secretly craves deep down. […] He resolved my monachopsis with a warm vibe that I craved to be near.

Not being able to settle down and living on the edge send these women into monachopsis where the persistent feeling of being unbelonged and out-of-place looms over them constantly.

2020, Sharon Ee Ling Quah, Transnational Divorce: Understanding Intimacies and Inequalities from Singapore, unnumbered page

This frightful and empty sensation of feeling maladapted to your surroundings is known as monachopsis. For most people, including me on day one at my new schools, monachopsis is temporary and diminishes when the unfamiliar becomes familiar and new routines and unknown faces become norms.

2022, William Nippard, I Hate My Job: The Cure For The 9- 5 Syndrome, page 283:

(neologism, rare) The persistent sense that one is out-of-place or otherwise does not belong.


liberosis

Coined by American author and neologist John Koenig, creator of The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows, from Italian libero (“free”) and the modern English suffix -osis, referencing the libero position in volleyball and its ability to "move at greater liberty than other players."

I was cursed with liberosis, the desire to care less about everything. I am a skid mark on the lingerie of life; the only concern for its presence is to vanish.

2015, Johnny Close, Eco-Lonely, page 163:

“Any excuse to have a libation in this heat and indulge in the liberosis,” Francesca said joyfully.

2015, Gustaf Vonsheilds, Palm Springs Whispers, page 56:

Adults experience liberosis when life's worries make them miss the carefree days of their childhood.

2023, Jana Louise Smit, How to Kill an Earworm: And 500+ Other Psychology Facts You Need to Know, page 146:

(neologism, rare) The longing to feel a blissful childlike state of indifference and to experience life's joys without being burdened by its cares.

The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows
Volleyball#Libero


exulansis

Coined by American author and neologist John Koenig, creator of The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows, from Latin exulāns (“exiling; exile, wanderer”) + -sis (suffix forming nouns of condition).

suffix

sis<pos:suffix forming nouns of condition>

I am constantly struck by overwhelming feelings of exulansis—the inability to properly articulate one's reasons and feelings—when I try to convince friends or strangers that I objectively experienced noteworthy sufferings at a young age[…]

2019 August 22, Sara Beam, Emily Dial-Driver, Rilla Askew, Juliet Evusa, Voices from the Heartland: Volume II, University of Oklahoma Press, →ISBN, page 154:

[…] This unloved giving-in to exulansis behaves as[…]

2021 March 1, Engin Yurt, From Phenomenon Labyrinths To Midnights of Zugzwangs Or Missing Apparitions in Yūgen Recordings I, Elya Yayıncılık, →ISBN, page 81:

This frustration, which is called “exulansis,” happens when you talk to someone about an important experience but then realize that they cannot relate to or understand what you went through. Most people at the receiving end of exulansis[…]

2023 April 18, Jana Louise Smit, How to Kill an Earworm: And 500+ Other Psychology Facts You Need to Know, Simon and Schuster, →ISBN, page 149:

(neologism, rare) Resignation to stop talking about an experience, because others cannot relate to it.


chrysalism

From chrysalis (“butterfly or moth pupa”) + -ism. The thunderstorm sense was coined by Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows creator John Koenig.

Since Mr. Head's arrival in the woods, the weather had been uncertain; the snow was slushy, and walking far impracticable without the aid of snow-shoes, of which he had a horror; but on the 6th of March the world assumed another aspect, the snow clothed in glass, and the bay was frozen. A new pleasure was opened to him, he put on his skates, and seemed to have found a new sense; he had got wings and had left the state of chrysalism.

1830 April, “North American Forest Scenes”, in Museum of Foreign Literature and Science, page 329:

The silence was awful, and moreover much like the calm which precedes the storm; no sooner had the servants withdrawn than Mrs. Meadows, bursting from the chrysalism of taciturnity into the bright glow of volubility , started the agreeable topics of filial disobedience, maternal sorrows, the ingratitude of children, the folly of girls, and the merits of young Felton of Haversfield […]

1836, Edward Bulwer Lytton, Devereux, page 232:

The very sight of your writing, my dear Sir, does me good. Here I am still in my armed chair, having been during the last fourteen weeks three times out of the house–once to call at Dorchester House, once to dine with Sir Francis Burdett, and once on unavoidable business, all of which days were mild and moist. I have by reducing myself to this state of chrysalism, quite escaped cough, and hope now to act butterfly on the large scale.

1841, John Wilson Crocker, letter published in The Croker Papers The Correspondence and Diaries of the Late Right Honourable John Wilson Croker (1884), page 195

(dated, rare) A state of dormancy or rest.


AB/DL

any ab/dl's in the pittsburgh area wanna get to know one another??? males or females, e-mail me if your intrested in playing

1998 September 3, paul sanders, “26yo ab/dl seeks playmates”, in alt.sex.fetish.diapers (Usenet):

Through a phenomenological analysis of said media and empirical online research, the article questions the stigma associated with AB/DL, arguing that, while the eroticization of childhood is a constant of Western culture, the most shocking aspect of AB/DL sexual fantasies resides in the pleasure associated with regression and passivity.

2022 May 24, Elisa Cuter, “The shock value of infantilism: AB/DL practices in porn, documentaries and public perception”, in Porn Studies:


kismesis

en-noun

kismesis (countable and uncountable, plural kismeses)

Blend of kismet (“fate, destiny”) + nemesis.

blend

For quotations using this term, see Citations:kismesis.

(Homestuck fandom slang) A person with whom one shares an intense but adversarial connection; a nemesis; a rival.


instalove

These women didn’t have time to fall in love. As soon as they met a guy who was Good Enough, they pushed a little button somewhere and were imbued with InstaLove.

2007 March 23, John Blesso, “Raw Oysters and Steak Tartare”, in Sharehouse Confidential: Sex, Drugs and the Single Life Inside an Epicurean Beach House: a memoir, New York: Silk City Press, →ISBN, page 205:

We desperately wanted their relationship to develop naturally and not be a case of instalove.

2018, Piper Rayne, Birth of a Baby Daddy, unnumbered page:

I've never given much creed to the idea of instalove or soulmates, but damn if I didn't just feel something instinctual about her in the deepest part of me.

2020, Kathryn Andrews, Blue Horizons, unnumbered page:

Realizing the tuxedo kitten was an orphan like me, I scooped her up and brought her inside. It was a story of instalove.

2023, Tara Conrad, Real Life Romance: Duke and Percy, unnumbered page:

(informal, neologism) Quick or instantaneous affection.


hoplophilia

From hoplo- (“weapon, arms”) + -philia (“love”).

confix

People with hoplophilia, known as hoplophiliacs or hoplophiles, may seek sexual gratification in a number of ways. Many may feel aroused by viewing images of firearms or being in close contact with guns. Some may enjoy having their own guns or seek or sexual relationships with gun owners, especially those who use guns professionally like police officers and security guards.

2019 October 28, Kinkly.com, “Hoplophilia”, in Kinkly:

The love of or attraction to firearms or other weapons.


spiritual wifery

It seems he knew nothing of spiritual wifery before he came here. I suggested to him that, after such a discourse from Brigham, he was in duty bound to take two or three wives, at least.

1855 September, [Cornelia Ferris], “Life Among the Mormons”, in Putnam’s Monthly Magazine […], volume 6, number 33, page 265:

In it he stated his conviction that Bennett had not taught polygamy or spiritual wifery, and his belief that the church leaders at Voree were set “like flint” against spiritual wifery in every form.

1930, Milo Milton Quaife, The Kingdom of Saint James: A Narrative of the Mormons, page 97:

It is more than likely that the Rhode Island law against breaches of marriage covenants was a direct response to the rapid spread of spiritual wifery in this period.

1974, William G. McLoughlin, “Free Love, Immortalism, and Perfectionism in Cumberland, Rhode Island, 1748–1768”, in Rhode Island History, volume 33, page 70:

(chiefly Mormonism, often derogatory) Polygyny; plural marriage.


dodecaphobia

Suppose that you wanted to make a random-number [generator] that returns [all] random numbers between 1 and 20 [but] 12 (because you have […] dodecaphobia which […] is the fear of the number 12).

2017, Doug Lowe, Java All-in-One, 5th edition:

There’s also dodecaphobia, which is the (again, unofficial) fear of the number 12[.]

2019 June 5, “Five phobias you didn’t know existed”, in BBC Bitesize:

Dagmara read the next title. “‘Dodecaphobia’?”
 “There is something very troubling about the number 12,” Ema said gravely.


solo polyamorous

Engaging in, or relating to, solo polyamory.


solo polyamory

A form of polyamory in which the person leads a mostly independent lifestyle, for example not living with their partners or not sharing finances.


mspec

en-adj

mspec (comparative more mspec, superlative most mspec)

more mspec (comparative)
most mspec (superlative)

For quotations using this term, see Citations:mspec.


m-spec

From m (from multisexual) + spec, a clipping of spectrum. Probably modelled on the slightly earlier a-spec (“on the asexual spectrum”).

For quotations using this term, see Citations:m-spec.

(neologism) On, or relating to, the multisexual spectrum (bisexual, pansexual, etc).


solo poly

solo polyamorous
solo polyamorous#English


blood-chilling

blood-chilling (comparative more blood-chilling, superlative most blood-chilling)

more blood-chilling (comparative)
most blood-chilling (superlative)


koinophobia

Coined by American author and neologist John Koenig, creator of The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows, from Ancient Greek κοινός (koinós, “common, general”) and the modern English suffix -phobia, itself from the Ancient Greek -φοβία (-phobía, “fear”).

der

(neologism, rare) The fear of having lived an ordinary life.


emotional competence

en-noun

emotional competence (countable and uncountable, plural emotional competences)

(psychology) The quality of a person’s emotional response to any situation and how well they motivate a person towards beneficial responses.


PDF file

LL-Q1860 (eng)-Flame, not lame-PDF file.wav

From the phonetic resemblance between pedophile and PDF file (an electronic document in Portable Document Format).

Used other than figuratively or idiomatically: see PDF, file.


clench one's fists

en-verb

clench one's fists (third-person singular simple present clenches one's fists, present participle clenching one's fists, simple past and past participle clenched one's fists)

clenches one's fists (present singular third-person)
clenching one's fists (participle present)
clenched one's fists (participle past)
clenched one's fists (past)

To clench one's fists tightly because of anger.


Bumbleby

Derived from bumblebee, referring to the two characters' colours of yellow (Yang Xiao Long) and black (Blake Belladonna).

(fandom slang) The ship of characters Yang Xiao Long and Blake Belladonna of the web animation series RWBY.


foot fetish

(sexuality) A fetish involving sexual attraction to feet.


amoebophobia

We must warn patients that if their symptoms persist after adequate treatment a cause other than the amoeba must be sought. Consideration of these factors in the handling of the patient will prevent much demoralization, much belief in the incurability of amoebiasis and much amoebophobia.

1953 January 10, T. G. Armstrong, “Recent experiences in the treatment of amoebiasis”, in South African Medical Journal, volume 27, number 2, →PMID, page 44:

[W P. Stamm] concluded by pointing out that […] a zealous search for amoebae not followed by good clinical judgment could easily result in amoebophilia amongst doctors and a consequent amoebophobia in their patients.

1960 November, “Association of Clinical Pathologists: 65th General Meeting”, in Journal of Clinical Pathology, volume 13, number 6, London: British Medical Association, page 538:

Iatrogenic amoebiasis became common in some areas, creating an amoebophobia, not only in the individual patient, but also in communities, in some of which the label became a social status symbol!

1968, Ronald Elsdon-Dew, “The Epidemiology of Amoebiasis”, in Advances in Parasitology, volume 6, London: Academic Press, →LCCN, page 2:


heterogenitality

From heterogenital + -ity, equivalent to hetero- + genitality.

His anxiety was the consequence of prohibitions of heterogenitality, and guilt.

1956, Angel Garma, The International Journal of Psycho-Analysis 37, 414,, The meaning and genesis of fetishism:

1969, Art and Pornography: An Experiment in Explanation, 171p
heterogenitality , genital activity with the genitals of an individual of the opposite sex

2019, Consuming Desire Sexual Science and the Emergence of a Culture of Abundance, 1871-1914, 51p
Conversely, heterogenitality began to be understood only as a synthesis of impulses, a synthetic and unnatural construct.

Sexual activity with a person of the opposite genitalia.


Poképhilia

Probably a back-formation from Poképhile. Analysable as Poké- (pertaining to the Pokémon media franchise) + -philia (abnormal love of something).

con

My sister's owner is taking her to a photoshoot; she'd like me to come & make sure that it's not going to turn into a poképhilia shoot.

If you post poképhilia and hentai, I must follow you :3

Never knew it was Poképhilia that would split the chapter

When I strictly put Poképhilia accounts and freaks do not interact, I get a freaking Bulbasaur account that is disgusting and lewd.

Censoring Poképhilia:
In the Japanese version of Gen 4, a book in the Canalave Library says Pokemon and humans used to marry each other. But it was censored in the English version to remove the icky implication.

(fandom slang, rare) Sexual attraction to Pokémon.


anti-Scandinavianism

The fear or dislike of people, policies, culture, or government of Scandinavia.


practice girl

(derogatory, offensive) A loose woman or girl one does not want a genuine relationship with, but whom one may hook up with or court briefly to practice one's romantic and erotic skills and confidence.


Commitment Day

A day dedicated to displaying affection and devotion to loved ones, observed annually on January 1.


Naziphobia

Accusing a gay person of heterophobia is like accusing a Jew of Naziphobia.

2008 January 20, "Chief Thracian" (username), "Re: Under Attack", in alt.religion.shamanism and other newsgroups, Usenet

What if someone told you that you had a Naziphobia? Does it make you question your dislike of Nazis? Does it make you think that you should not fear an entire group of people who believe something evil because you should not have a phobia? The truth is, it is not a phobia. It is rational to be afraid of the Nazis. Yet, people will apply phobia to the end of any group to make you feel guilty for being afraid of them.

2019, Mitchell White, A Man of High Character:

[…] Naziphobia balanced by Anglophilia.

2022, Bernard F. Dick, The Star-Spangled Screen: The American World War II Film, page 68:


dark cloud

Strikes remain the other dark cloud hanging over the railway.

2024 February 7, Philip Haigh, “Railway's fragile resilience”, in RAIL, number 1002, page 3:

(idiomatic) A situation or future event that causes worry, problems or unhappiness, likened to such a cloud overhead in the sky.


Poképhiliac

en-adj

Poképhiliac (comparative more Poképhiliac, superlative most Poképhiliac)

more Poképhiliac (comparative)
most Poképhiliac (superlative)

From Poké- (pertaining to the Pokémon media franchise) + -philiac (pertaining to, or someone with, intense or abnormal love of something).

con

I do enjoy the other aspects of Pokémon sexually, even into Poképhiliac sex.

2017 August 28, justinrpg, “Why do YOU like Pokémon preds?”, in Eka's Portal:

Before long, you're downstairs again. Only a few short minutes had passed since your incredible, mind-blowing, furtive Poképhiliac tryst with the hot Lucario upstairs. Now, you were at the bottom of those stairs, standing in the entryway near the front door again.

2019 July 15, NightStalkerNS, “Lucariophilia”, in SoFurry:

Then it's a date. Whenever she's ready, send her to the zone. Or come with her. Always bring your friends for some pokephiliac fun

2023 December 19, @BreedingZne, Twitter:

(fandom slang, very rare) Relating to Poképhilia or to a Poképhile.


Larrie

From Larry (“real-person fiction ship of Louis Tomlinson and Harry Styles”) + -ie (suffix signifying an associated person).

suffix

As 1D are now on a hiatus and band members are pursuing solo carreers,^([sic]) the Larries still live on as a community engaged with support for LGBTQ youths—and producing 1D-themed merchandise for charity.

2019, Paola Brembilla, “Transmedia Music: The Values of Music as a Transmedia Asset”, in Matthew Freeman, Renira Rampazzo Gambarato, editors, The Routledge Companion to Transmedia Studies, New York, N.Y., Abingdon, Oxon: Routledge, →ISBN:

Representation of the Larry fandom has gone beyond pathologizing fangirls to framing their shipping practice in terms of “fake news.” The conspiracy theory panic around Larries misses the complex ways that subtext and queer reading are mobilized within the fandom to invoke feelings of queer intimacy and belonging. Drawing on a digital ethnography conducted on Twitter with Larries, we argue that these fans engage in queer reading strategies to explicitly imagine and interrupt dominant heterosexual narratives, and thus queer the figure of the fangirl.

2019 spring, Hannah McCann, Clare Southerton, “Repetitions of Desire: Queering the One Direction Fangirl”, in Girlhood Studies: An Interdisciplinary Journal, volume 12, number 1, New York, N.Y.: Berghahn Books, →DOI, →ISSN, pages 56–57:

The theory is so popular that one of the most retweeted tweets of all time is simply Louis wishing Harry well with “Always in my heart @Harry_Styles. Yours sincerely, Louis,” sent in October 2011. Larries, or Larry Stylinson shippers, believe the message is indisputable proof that the two were and are together, despite the fact that neither party has vocalized an interest in men and have only ever publicly partnered with women. When Tomlinson began dating Eleanor Calder in September 2011, one year into the band’s existence, Larries believed she was acting as a beard, though Louis assured fans that he wasn’t hiding homosexuality.

2020, Maria Sherman, Larger Than Life: A History of Boy Bands from NKOTB to BTS, New York, N.Y.: Black Dog & Leventhal Publishers, →ISBN:

While I mope my way out of junior year, my classmates meet a person worth skipping class for: our adolescent mainstay; Tumblr’s participation trophy; the face of all things wholesome yet perverse and totally, definitively, how-many-retweets-for-you-to-go-to-prom-with-me, fuck-the-larries-they’re-invasive, masturbate-to-a-Y/N, let’s-sell-out-a-Chelsea-boot, Internet. / Harry Styles.

2021, Via Bleidner, If You Lived Here You’d Be Famous by Now: True Stories from Calabasas, New York, N.Y.: Flatiron Books, →ISBN:

There is some room, mostly in offline conversations, to equivocate about Larry. Mina Hughes, a student from Texas, told me she didn’t identify as a Larrie, but she was invested in the story. “I am a grown-up, and I am self-aware enough to know that it’s really childish to want total strangers to be dating,” she told me. […] She [“Lisa”] fields questions nearly every day from new Larries who don’t have the same knowledge of a decade’s worth of lore—if she’s in the mood, that is. Otherwise she might simply command them to “scroll down.” Her bio explains that she has been part of the fandom since 2012 and a Larrie “since day 1.”

2022, Kaitlyn Tiffany, Everything I Need I Get from You: How Fangirls Created the Internet as We Know It, New York, N.Y.: MCD × FSG Originals, →ISBN:

From causing friends to drift apart, to committing oversexualization that disrespects Louis' and Harry's individual craft, Larries continue to exist and dominate spaces within the online world. […] “Louis and Harry are one day closer to being free” are the words tweeted daily by a Larrie twitter^([sic]) user @rogueskimo. While its realisation is yet to come, and the not-yet remains to be ever present, the Larrie sub-fandom, through occupying the field of romance and utilizing its unending potential will continue to yield a powerful noise that shall sustain not just their narrative of Louis and Harry’s relationship, but their very existence as a sub-fandom.

2022, Andrea Anne I. Trinidad, “‘Shipping’ Larry Stylinson: what makes pairing appealing boys romantic?”, in Ann Brooks, editor, The Routledge Companion to Romantic Love, Abingdon, Oxon, New York, N.Y.: Routledge, →ISBN, part VI (South and southeast Asian romance communities), pages 231 and 236:

(fandom slang) A shipping conspiracy theorist who believes that former One Direction bandmates Harry Styles and Louis Tomlinson have a long-term and secret romantic relationship.


ambiamory

A relationship plan undecided between polyamory and monoamory.


ambiamorous

/ˌæmbɪˈæm(ə)ɹəs/

[R]espondents are overall more comfortable being involved in additional sexual and romantic relationships themselves than they are with their partner doing so, and they are more comfortable with additional sexual relationships than with additional romantic relationships, both for themselves and for their partner. This holds true for monoamorous, ambiamorous, and polyamorous respondents.

2018 August 28, Anne-Laure Le Cunff, “Non-Monogamy: Measuring Degrees of Sexual and Romantic Exclusivity in Relationships”, in SSRN Electronic Journal, →DOI, page 4:

Stephanie M. Sullivan is a white, bisexual, ambiamorous, able-bodied, cisgender woman with a chronic illness.

2022 November 7, “About the contributors”, in Michelle D. Vaughan, Theodore R. Burnes, editors, The Handbook of Consensual Non-Monogamy: Affirming Mental Health Practice, London: Rowman & Littlefield, page 419:

Having no specific preference for either polyamory or monoamory.


mesugaki

Borrowed from Japanese メスガキ (mesugaki), from 雌(めす) (mesu, “female (animal)”) + 餓鬼(がき) (gaki, “brat”). The term began being used among English speakers around 2020.

ja-compound

WE NEED MORE POKEKID IN EEVEE COSTUME DOUJINS DAMMIT!!
preferably one that presents her as a mesugaki :9

2020 May 26, @harid_ziran, Twitter, archived from the original on 2024-07-18:

Riro quickly became one of the company’s most popular idols due to her gimmick as a “mesugaki” type character.

2023 November 28, Brandon Lyttle, “VTuber Riro Ron terminated for ‘dangerous and harmful’ activities”, in Niche Gamer, archived from the original on 2023-11-29:

Mutsuki is a brat that like to be suggestive with sensei. She's a mesugaki archetype, one of the more popular one in fact (despite it starting in azur lane)

2023 December 25, @megamega171, Twitter, archived from the original on 2024-07-20:

Youre Oshi is the vtuber who made the loli song playing into the lolicon fetish of the Mesugaki. Dude cant pick a side on this topic.

2024 April 16, @king_of_games34, Twitter, archived from the original on 2024-07-20:

(manga, anime, pornography) slutty brat girl


lolisho

en-noun

lolisho (countable and uncountable, plural lolishos)

From loli + a clipping of shota, or a clipping of lolishota (itself loli + shota).

(uncountable, collectively) Lolicon- and shotacon-themed media.

(countable) A person interested in, or sexually aroused by, lolicon- and shotacon-themed media.


EClaire

(fandom slang) The ship of Ethan Rom and Claire Littleton from the 2004 television series Lost.


Druna

I ship #Druna because I think Luna's free spirit and open mind would be able to handle Draco and help his vulnerable side come out..

2012 January 22, Its Lily, Bitch! (@Lily_Lovegood), Twitter:

I have found myself shipping Draco/Luna lately, Any other Druna shippers out there?

2012 December 15, lux (@luxkaur), Twitter:

Shipping Druna is so frustrating bc there are never new videos no new material and no good fics

2014 November 4, Inactive (@riinalmighty), Twitter:

(fandom slang) The ship of characters Draco Malfoy and Luna Lovegood of the Harry Potter series.


pedocon

another piece of evidence for pedocon theory […]

(slang, derogatory) A conservative paedophile.


ship and let ship

The second way the fandom anti is seen to transgress fandom mores is to ignore the fandom etiquette of "Ship and Let Ship" and attempt to impose their definition of appropriateness on popular character pairings, or ships, in various media texts.

2024 January 1, Rukmini Pande, “"Get out of here you anti": Historizing the Operation of Structural Racism in Media Fandom”, in Feminist Media Histories, volume 10, number 1, Oakland, C.A.: University of California Press, →DOI, →ISSN, →OCLC, pages 114–115:

(fandom slang) A pro-shipper slogan encouraging fans to focus on their preferred ships, avoiding ship wars and discourse over which ships are acceptable.


bibcam

From an abbreviation of "boys in bedroom" + cam.

Sergeant Matt Pilon was able to complete a direct download of a file with the ED2K value of, Scc6e5ac3a56f725dbab5fd43c222653, named, "Bibcam 13Yo Boy Timmy Showers For Webcam (2009. avi ".

2012 May 1, Karen B. Molzen, United States of America v. Antonio Gallegos:

Agent Matthews testified that "BIB" stands for "boys in bedroom" and "BIBCAM" typically indicates webcam videos of young boys.

2016 February 18, Shirley Padmore Mensah, United States of America v. Giboney:

The second video, entitled "[bibcam]in the right place.avi", is approximately eleven minutes and twenty-six seconds in duration.

2018 June 6, Lojs H. Goodman, United States of America v. Matthew Wolny:

a work of child pornography containing a webcam video of a boy


anti-anti

they’re not “anti antis” or “pro-shippers”, they’re enablers. enablers of grooming, abuse, sexualization of children, fetishization of rape, incest, abuse, paedophilia and dehumanizing, sexualizing and fetishizing the LGBT community, especially mlm.

2021, anonymous, quoted in Victor Larsen, "'It Makes Me, A Minor, Uncomfortable': Media and Morality In Anti-Shippers' Policing of Online Fandom", thesis submitted to Ghent University, page 47

Just so those "anti-anti" types who claim to be the real allies know, as a minor I have always felt so, so wary around you. You remind me so much of creepy people, especially men, who I have met IRL, and your attitude toward my objections about the work you produce (especially stuff involving adults and children and noncon) is flippant, disrespectful, and just plain shitty.

2022, anonymous, quoted in Angela Marie Fazekas, "Creative Becomings: Explicit Fanfiction, Reinventing Adolescence, and Queer Relationality", thesis submitted to the University of Toronto, page 106

In response to this, pro-ship and anti-anti groups largely emphasize that it is up to individuals to curate their fandom experiences and avoid content they dislike, not censor depictions of it.

2023, Samantha Aburime, “Hate narratives, conditioned language and networked harassment: A new breed of anti-shipper and anti-fan - antis”, in Journal of Fandom Studies, volume 10, numbers 2-3:


Ineffable Husbands

From a description of the plans of God as "ineffable" in the original novel (1990) by Neil Gaiman and Terry Prachett.

Known as the "Ineffable Husbands," their dynamic easily lends itself to being read as queer within the initial novel as well as in the miniseries, with the pairing significantly outpacing any other Good Omens pairing on the fanfiction site Archive of Our Own.

2023, Erin Giannini, Amanda Taylor, “In the Beginning: Nice and Accurate Analyses of Good Omens”, in Amanda Taylor, Erin Giannini, editors, Deciphering Good Omens: Nice and Accurate Essays on the Novel and Television Series, page 2:

Aziraphale and Crowley’s duality of personalities and complex approaches to life and morality means that you can tell almost any kind of story at almost any point in human history and find a way to shoehorn the Ineffable Husbands into the fray.

2023, Grey D. Mangan, "The Internet Isn’t Forever: Early Internet Fan Archives, Their Stewards, Lifespans, and the Political Nature of the Deaths of Their Queer Communities", thesis submitted to the University of Tennessee, page 87

Each of the fanfiction's chapters deals with an event that enables an interaction between the 'Ineffable Husbands' and allows one to observe their dynamic relationship.

2024, Ashumi Shah, The Mediaverse and Speculative Fiction Television: Understanding Speculative TV Fandoms, page 210:

(fandom slang) The ship of characters Aziraphale and Crowley from the novel Good Omens and its television adaptation.


Tomarry

It's that time again where I've returned to reading Tomarry fics. It's been about 5 years since this affliction began.

2017 January 22, chi (@maydenchina), Twitter:

Continuing the analyses, we move now to The Love of a Good Wizard, a Tomarry fic written by user SweetSorcery and published on AO3 in 2011.

2019, Beatriz Brito do Nascimento, "No heteros in this heterotopia: Harry Potter slash fanfiction as heterotopian space", dissertation submitted to the University of Porto, page 106

If you ship Tomarry or think Dolores Umbridge or Voldemort are forgivable, please dni

2023 December 17, Montague (@Snilysthirdwife), Twitter:

(fandom slang) The ship of characters Tom Marvolo Riddle (Lord Voldemort) and Harry Potter of the Harry Potter series.


Harrymort

I don't remember when I started shipping Harrymort. All I know is that I'm not sorry

2013 May 20, Inactive (@SamhainAndDean), Twitter:

So here I am, with 3 lines done of a 6 page essay and I'm reading harrymort fics....

2013 October 28, Beth (@ bethancelia), Twitter:

I'm gross and ship Harrymort. C'mon. Literal soulmates. That's about the only thing I seriously love in the book. They are brain mates! And soulmates!

2023 February 18, Mirya (@Miryaelle), Twitter:

(fandom slang) The ship of characters Harry Potter and Lord Voldemort of the Harry Potter series.


boy moment

(euphemistic) an experience that occurs when a male-attracted pedophile, hebephile, or ephebophile lustfully observes (and possibly interacts with) an underage male


Snaco

You need to talk to Femme. She's the quintessential Snaco fan.

2009 November 21, NurseDarry (@DarryWillis), Twitter:

I should be tackling the cupboard under the stairs. Instead, I've been sucked into reading Snaco. I don't even ship Snaco!

2011 January 2, corinoco (@idlesilver), Twitter:

I ship Snaco even more after reading the first two and a half books. Wtf

2016 June 10, A (@vventvvorth), Twitter:

(fandom slang) The ship of characters Severus Snape and Draco Malfoy of the Harry Potter series.


Kiliel

Wow I ship Kiliel a lot, but I also ship Kili and Legolas and Tauriel and Legolas and I don't know what to do

2013 December 14, Kayla (@Kay_Pereira), Twitter:

Accusing people of not being "real fans" of Tolkien because they ship Kiliel is just u being an asshole with superiority issues

2015 February 6, JJ Bug (@moonjellu), Twitter:

I am a filthy dirty garbage Kiliel shipper until the day my trash fire existence burns out…

2021 June 30, Space Lich and His Brick (@space_lich), Twitter:

(fandom slang) The ship of characters Kíli and Tauriel of The Hobbit film trilogy.


Bellamort

I'm thinking of writing a Bellamort fic because I feel crazy xD

2012 May 12, dutch plan der linde (@pornstartrek), Twitter:

I cannot believe jkr made bellamort canon

2016 August 27, kat (@belgenstruggles), Twitter:

I honestly love Bellamort. I HATE Bellatrix in the movies but in the books she’s fascinating even if a little submissive to Voldemort.

2024 February 27, はなみち (@hanamichivash), Twitter:

(fandom slang) The ship of characters Bellatrix Lestrange and Lord Voldemort of the Harry Potter series.


praeputiophobia

praeputiophobia (usually uncountable, plural praeputiophobias)

Fear or hatred of the human prepuce (foreskin or clitoral hood).


posthephobia

posthephobia (usually uncountable, plural posthephobias)

Fear or hatred of the human male prepuce (foreskin).


Bagginshield

I think I should stop swimming in denial now and just admit that I think I've become a Bagginshield shipper...

2013 January 31, @Seheehee1105, Twitter:

I'll stop shipping Bagginshield when Bilbo and Thorin stop being perfect for each other

Out here shipping Bagginshield in the year of our Lord two thousand and nineteen

2019 January 5, Binary Sunset (@binary_suunset), Twitter:

(fandom slang) The ship of characters Bilbo Baggins and Thorin Oakenshield of The Hobbit.


Victuuri

How does one watch this show without shipping Victuuri #YOI

2016 October 22, julie (@_snowthunder), Twitter:

I've been reading Victuuri fics heavy on the feels.

There must be a Venn diagram of Hailaveh shippers and Victuuri shippers and I'm smack bang in the middle of it bb

2023 December 8, Alley (@thealleyways_), Twitter:

(fandom slang) The ship of characters Victor Nikiforov and Yuuri Katsuki of the anime Yuri on Ice.


comshipper

Blend of complicated + shipper, or complex + shipper.

comshippers sometimes scare me more than proshippers

2023 May 19, Legs (@Pavryklvr), Twitter:

Comshippers ALWAYS use that excuse, as if it’s valid “at least I can tell fiction and reality is different!!”

“I don’t condone it IRL” is such a brain-dead defense proshippers/comshippers use, and I’m sick of hearing it.

2023 August 1, L0GIC (@123L0gic), Twitter:

(fandom slang) One who supports a ship with elements deemed morally complex or problematic, such as abuse, incest, or a power gap.


comship

Blend of complicated + ship, or complex + ship.

I know, but he's not a human and that makes it a comship. And there are many canonical comships, it's not necessarily a bad thing

2023 September 11, Julián (@Justigodesgod), Twitter:

I've always hated comships (besides the usual ones like immortal x mortal), but I just.. block people. It's as simple as that.

2023 September 12, Lumi (@oneiricstar), Twitter:

as long as you're nice and don't only talk about your comships as some make me uncomfy

2024 January 16, Lana (Ame-Chan) (@Ena_Irl_), Twitter:

(fandom slang) A ship featuring elements deemed morally complex or problematic, such as abuse, incest, or a power gap.


gravity's pull

From gravity + -'s + pull, literally “the pull of gravity”. Pull is a common collocation of the word gravity, especially as the phrasal verb pull down.

affix

Feeling Gravitys [sic] Pull

1985, R.E.M. (lyrics and music), “Feeling Gravitys Pull”, in Fables of the Reconstruction / Reconstruction of the Fables:

Call it a dark night of the soul. / Ticking the clocks, gravity's pull.

2015, Cold War Kids (lyrics and music), “First”, in Hold My Home:

(idiomatic, chiefly poetic) Stress or pressure of a situation acting upon a person.


Astarionmancer

As a professional Astarionmancer, you can get “Very High Approval” without the need to be evil.

I’m an Astarionmancer with a lot of thoughts and not enough creative outlets.

As a fellow Astarionmancer I don't mind a little peck before finishing his personal quest, but after that he should be more passionate.

(Baldur's Gate fandom slang) A player who romances Astarion during a playthrough of Baldur's Gate 3.


Galemancer

I know very well how hard it is, I'm a Galemancer since the beginning. I was surprised as well to see that he was so popular.

2021 January 28, disappearingcat, Reddit:

I agreed with some and disagreed with others, so I'm putting it out there for my fellow Galemancers: what's Gale's [zodiac] sign?

2023 December 22, Theia-Euryphaessa, Reddit:

As a Galemancer, I loved Tara and how they wrote her dynamic!

2024 February 25, coffeestealer, Reddit:

(Baldur's Gate fandom slang) A player who romances Gale during a playthrough of Baldur's Gate 3.


Galemance

As I am also pursuing a Galemance with my other MC, I look forward to your Gale portrait with great interest :3c

2020 November 6, TheAbominableMomo, Reddit:

Put my Galemance run on hold because I want them to fix the bug that happened with patch 3 first.

2023 October 4, literallybyronic, Reddit:

I'm doing my first Galemance run and I honestly melted when he started talking about his hundur sauce.

2024 June 2, Mysterious_Ad_1525, Reddit:

(Baldur's Gate fandom slang) The Gale romance subplot in the video game Baldur's Gate 3.


Astarionmance

As someone who's romancing both Astarion and Gale in simultaneous separate playthroughs, I am loving the difference so much: Galemance caters to my soft Harlequin Romance side while Astarionmance is so totally my Bodice-Ripper bag, baby!

2020 November 7, TheAbominableMomo, Reddit:

i will wait patiently for bg3 console release and NOT watch any more Astarionmance videos

2023 August 16, TheFallowMyre (@DemiPixellated), Twitter:

I just started a new Astarionmance as a reward for abstaining from him for a whole game 😅

2024 February 6, Becky (@Beckyhelene), Twitter:

(Baldur's Gate fandom slang) The Astarion romance subplot in the video game Baldur's Gate 3.


Fenrismance

I love the Fenrismance, but GOD some of the flirt options are awful and pull you right out of the actual conversation.

2019 January 20, SpaceQueenJupiter, Reddit:

The Fenrismance is SO GOOD for just those reason.

I was halfway through Act 2 when I realised I'd sabotaged my own Fenrismance T.T

(Dragon Age fandom slang) The Fenris romance subplot in the video game Dragon Age II.


Fenrismancer

I'm a chronic Fenrismancer (seriously I have a problem), but I just downloaded Mark of the Assassin and Legacy.

2015 January 26, [deleted user account], Reddit:

Plus I'm a chronic Fenrismancer who favors mage and rogue playthroughs, so I usually want him along as my warrior anyway.

I was never a Fenrismancer but now I might romance him again properly on my next run.

(Dragon Age fandom slang) A player who romances Fenris during a playthrough of Dragon Age II.


Andersmancer

Huh, I definitely didn't expect Cullen to be the most popular DAI romance among Andersmancers.

2017 September 6, presenceofwitch, Reddit:

I'm a Andersmancer for life tbh but I get it, he's not for everyone

That said, I'm a fuck the Chantry Andersmancer, and my Hawke lives with him in an underground bunker now.

(Dragon Age fandom slang) A player who romances Anders during a playthrough of Dragon Age II.


Andersmance

I love the Andersmance and Isabelamance because both of them change the story in their own ways.

My Andersmance is a playthrough that has very dear meaning to me, but Anders throws off so many red flags, he might as well be a matador.

My Andersmance was taken at a more leisurely pace, so I really got into the depth and grief over his character and his romance.

(Dragon Age fandom slang) The Anders romance subplot in the video game Dragon Age II.


Cullenmance

I purposely left Cullenmance for after my Solasmance because I need Cullen as my pick me up, but damn, this Solas thing is just sad.

The thing I like about the Cullenmance is that yeah, it's basically a fairy tale, but it's so obviously one that it makes it okay.

Do it. Do the Cullenmance. Love the Cullen. Marry the Cullen.

2018 December 31, emberwolfsasha, Reddit:

(Dragon Age fandom slang) The Cullen romance subplot in the video game Dragon Age: Inquisition.


Solasmance

I keep putting off my Solasmance, because I have an aversion to heartbreak.

I just fired up my second Solasmance playthrough after I spent a month promising myself, "never again."

I also vastly prefer the Cullenmance to the Solasmance.

2023 July 26, LikeAWildScallion, Reddit:

(Dragon Age fandom slang) The Solas romance subplot in the video game Dragon Age: Inquisition.


Cullenmancer

I'm a chronic Cullenmancer and I like romancing him with a Lavellan.

I'm much more of a Cullenmancer, myself, but I did the Solas romance and was very surprised.

2018 December 31, asha_bellanar, Reddit:

No hate to Cullenmancers, maybe blondes just aren’t my type lol. I’m not an Alistair or Anders-mancer either.

(Dragon Age fandom slang) A player who romances Cullen Rutherford during a playthrough of Dragon Age: Inquisition.


Solasmancer

I started a Solasmancer playthrough and it's going to kill me probably.

2015 September 18, vanisplusxzone, Reddit:

There's a pretty good payoff in Trespasser for a Solasmancer. And by "pretty good" I mean "angst and bittersweet feels".

All we Solasmancers have is pain, forever and always LMAO

(Dragon Age fandom slang) A player who romances Solas during a playthrough of Dragon Age: Inquisition.


Bullmance

Also, Dorian has a lot more dialogue options than I am finding in the Bullmance so far.

And yeah, I think a Bullmance can actually be really healthy for certain Inquisitors!

Krem has a few specific comments if you're in a Bullmance that are really sweet.

(Dragon Age fandom slang) The Iron Bull romance subplot in the video game Dragon Age: Inquisition.


Dorianmance

Dorianmance will be forever my fav in whole dragon age universe.

I always play as a female character so no Dorianmance for me.

It goes downhill in Trespassers tho, where Dorianmance was an afterthought compared to Adoribull.

(Dragon Age fandom slang) The Dorian romance subplot in the video game Dragon Age: Inquisition.


Dorianmancer

I'm full on Dorianmancer, but I like to think my Inquisitor gives Bull the suspicious stink eye when they're out adventuring.

As a hardcore Dorianmancer I have a ton, but I think this quote is basically him saying that he loves the Inquisitor for the first time.

Honestly, Dorian and Bull have better relationship than Dorian and Inky, even if Dorianmancers don’t want to admit it.

(Dragon Age fandom slang) A player who romances Dorian Pavus during a playthrough of Dragon Age: Inquisition.


Solavellan

Solavellan just gets me thinking the what ifs, headcanons, the theories. You have to really dig deep if you wanna understand the romance.

I am a (pretty hardcore) Solavellan shipper, though I completely understand it’s not everyone’s cup of tea.

Solavellan is probably my favorite romance from a narrative sense.

(fandom slang) The ship of Solas and the female elf Inquistor player character from Dragon Age: Inquisition.


Bullmancer

Kinda sucks that Bullmancers miss out on the dancing at the Winter Palace (well I suppose that happened, just off screen) and a wedding if true, […]

2015 September 8, alexandriaweb, Reddit:

As a Bullmancer, I’m going to have to fight you now. He’s the best romance with the most interesting relationship outcome depending on your choices.

2019 July 1, [deleted user account], Reddit:

The Bullmancers got fricked over in Trespasser imo

(Dragon Age fandom slang) A player who romances the Iron Bull during a playthrough of Dragon Age: Inquisition.


Solavellan Hell

Oh dear. Poor you. You're done for once you enter the Solavellan Hell.

Welcome to Solavellan Hell. Kleenexes on the table, and weeping is done in the corners.

We’ve all been through enough heartache with Solavellan Hell, so gotta keep it uplifting in here haha.

2024 February 9, [deleted user account], Reddit:

(Dragon Age fandom slang) The state of exquisite agony experienced by shippers of Solas and the Inquistor (Solavellan)


Cullavellan

I just read the best cullavellan fic and now my blood is boiling why do I have class

2016 February 3, cade (@tinygrunt), Twitter:

There was this one cullavellan fic where both Cullen and Lavellan didn't want kids and honestly it made me so happy.

All the other Cullavellan shippers I’ve met saying how their Inky and Cullen fell in love at first sight and stuff… Meanwhile mine was ready to fist fight this man in a Denny’s parking lot any day of the week

2022 February 12, ace (@ace_trash_boi), Twitter:

(fandom slang) The ship of Cullen Rutherford and the female elf Inquistor player character from Dragon Age: Inquisition.


Fenhawke

Assuming Fenhawke isn't an option here, I don't mind Fenbela if it's well-written.

I binge read some fenhawke fics from nearly a decade ago and still love them just as much :)

2020 March 2, Jill (@EphemeraBlossom), Twitter:

Fenhawke will always be my number 1 dragon age ship 😭😭

2023 February 3, fawn (@fuwafawn), Twitter:

(fandom slang) The ship of Fenris and player character Hawke from Dragon Age II.


Handers

Me listening to any song: Wow I can't believe this artist too ships handers, and decided to write a song about it, what an amazing world

2015 September 27, deneb (@v3gaaltair), Twitter:

Goddamn Handers ship being so beautifully angsty.

2016 January 29, Nyxie Black (@NyxieBlack), Twitter:

I have no idea what liking the Handers pairing says about me lol 😂.

(fandom slang) The ship of Anders and player character Hawke from Dragon Age II.


rivalmance

Yes, Anders' rivalmance is cruel. I never did it, and I don't plan it (I simply can't imagine).

2017 December 17, CaiusGermanicus, Reddit:

I actually like the unhealthy aspects of the rivalmances (and some of the romances) in DA.

2018 February 21, wardsarefunctioning, Reddit:

I preferred the friendmance with Fenris personally, but like with Isabela, the rivalmance is also pretty good.

2019 February 24, KvonLiechtenstein, Reddit:

(Dragon Age fandom slang) A romance with a character with whom the player has an antagonistic relationship in Dragon Age II.


rivalmance

en-verb

rivalmance (third-person singular simple present rivalmances, present participle rivalmancing, simple past and past participle rivalmanced)

rivalmances (present singular third-person)
rivalmancing (participle present)
rivalmanced (participle past)
rivalmanced (past)

And finally I would rivalmance Anders by being a hypocritical mage that supported the templars.

I love rivalmancing Anders and Fenris. Brings a lot of tension that I find really sexy lol.

2019 May 10, [deleted user account], Reddit:

i wanted to rivalmance Merrill once but that would cause my heart to explode.

(Dragon Age fandom slang) To romance a character in this manner in Dragon Age II.


friendmance

Fenris friendmance (especially with a mage Hawke) for heals and feels.

I really want to rivalmance Anders but honestly I love his friendmance so much I can’t do it

I feel like most people prefer the friendmances (especially for Fenris) but the rival paths are so interesting!

(Dragon Age fandom slang) A romance with a character with whom the player has a friendly relationship in Dragon Age II.


friendmance

friendmance (third-person singular simple present friendmances, present participle friendmancing, simple past and past participle friendmanced)

friendmances (present singular third-person)
friendmancing (participle present)
friendmanced (participle past)
friendmanced (past)

In my peronal^([sic]) opinion, Anders and Merrill are for friendmancing only, unless you want to truly, deeply hurt and bully them.

2015 December 28, [deleted user account], Reddit:

Friendmancing Fenris as a pro-Mage Hawke is another favourite. I really love the growth you see in him throughout.

If female Hawke friendmances Sebastian, he will suggest a chaste marriage with her taking vows as a Chantry sister.


Hawkebela

Hawkebela is such an under appreciated ship and I have no idea why

2016 December 11, Kyle!!! (@KaraZorEluthor), Twitter:

Hawkebela gives me heart eyes for days.

IS AO3 DOWN I'M LITERALLY READING THIS HAWKEBELA FIC LET ME IN

(fandom slang) The ship of player character Hawke and Isabela from Dragon Age II.


Cassmance

Don't worry, I'm solving this problem by writing Cassmance fanfic.

2014 December 14, jack (@vesaldi), Twitter:

I had a hard time not romancing Dorian with my second male playthrough, but I had to get at least one Cassmance in.

Tried to do a Cassmance run in my most recent playthrough but the Redcliffe vendor question bugged out on me and there was no fixing.

(Dragon Age fandom slang) The Cassandra romance subplot in the video game Dragon Age: Inquisition.


Cassmancer

Oh, I knew you'd be here, you hopelessly romantic Cassmancer.

[…] he was also supposed be a Cassmancer but ended up falling madly in love with Dorian.

2020 December 8, nihilisticspacebear, Reddit:

I'm a Cassmancer and I already have an AO3 account. i guess I'm ahead of the curve

(Dragon Age fandom slang) A player who romances Cassandra Pentaghast during a playthrough of Dragon Age: Inquisition.


Fenbela

how could the same franchise that gave us fenbela give us josie/blackwalll

2017 February 3, wizard of the order (@svirakir), Twitter:

Assuming Fenhawke isn't an option here, I don't mind Fenbela if it's well-written.

I love fenbela but I can’t write it cause it’s Too Sexy and I can’t look directly at it without losing my mind

2019 March 13, KIMMY'S SATANIC AIRBNB (@gothkimmyS(, Twitter:

(fandom slang) The ship of characters Fenris and Isabela from Dragon Age II.


Seramance

I think my next run after this will be human Chantry supporter & finally do a Seramance without the elfy stuff getting in the way.

2015 May 22, Christina González (@c_gonzalez), Twitter:

But divorced from my character, she feels like my little sister, making it feel weird to read any Seramance fics.

had no idea how GOOD the Seramance would be (it's just super bawdy which is exactly how I want romances written)

(Dragon Age fandom slang) The Sera romance subplot in the video game Dragon Age: Inquisition.