back gammon player

back gammon player (plural back gammon players)

Probably derived from a pun on backgammon, with backside and gammon (“the lower or hind part of a side of bacon”) in the context of anal sex.

Sir Thomas found it convenient to believe Doctor Nooth's assertion, and therefore packed up his baggage and effects to sail for England, on board the Triumph, with his military friend and back gammon player, Colonel Willington; this gentleman, while on shore, laughed at the absurdity of fearing the infection, but the moment he was on board, his opinion altered, it shifted with the wind, he began to insinuate, that it might be communicable, and in consequence, Sir George Barlow absolutely refused to permit Sir Thomas, or his baggage, to have a passage in the Triumph: Sir George acted very prudently, and Sir Thomas staid from necessity.

1808, A Letter to His Majesty: The Bandogs:

They always have boys with them because they're all back-gammon players, which is what we call sodomites.

2009, Rita Monaldi, Francesco Sorti, Secretum, page 623:

“Hey, you ain't a backgammon player, are you?” Mr. Temple drew a pistol from his pocket and pointed it at Guy. “Imply once more that I am of that breed who prefer amors with their own sex and I shall blow your head off,” he said levelly.

2014, M.C. Beaton, His Lordship's Pleasure, →ISBN:

(idiomatic, archaic, slang) A person, chiefly a homosexual, who has anal sex.


flaming

en-adj

flaming (comparative more flaming, superlative most flaming)

more flaming (comparative)
most flaming (superlative)

I wasted three hours in that flaming traffic jam!


ménage à trois

/ˌmeɪnɑːʒ ɑː ˈt(ɹ)wɑː/

/ˌmɛnɑːʒ ɑː ˈt(ɹ)wɑː/

/məˌnɑːʒ ɑː ˈt(ɹ)wɑː/

/ˌmeɪnɑːʒ ɑː ˈt(ɹ)wɑː/

/ˌmɛnɑːʒ ɑː ˈt(ɹ)wɑː/

/məˌnɑːʒ ɑː ˈt(ɹ)wɑː/

/məˌnɑːʒeɪ ˈt(ɹ)wɑː/

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Borrowed from French ménage à trois (literally “household of three”).

bor

David and Angela and I had a ménage à trois for about five minutes, but then I made her leave because David and I were gonna play.

1996, Cyrinda Foxe, in McNeil & McCain, Please Kill Me: The Uncensored Oral History of Punk, page 134

No, the two guys don't go for each other; the triad tried a ménage à trois once but stopped because Chris thought it was icky.

1999 November 15, John Cloud, “Henry & Mary & Janet &…”, in Time:

(sex) A sexual act or experience involving three people; a threesome.


HRT

en-noun

HRT (countable and uncountable, plural HRTs)

Just this week I read a news report that HRT “should not be prescribed to ease symptoms of anxiety and depression in menopausal women”, according to “landmark new guidelines”, with experts saying “there was little evidence that HRT helped to improve low mood, anxiety and mood swings”.

2023 November 5, Emma Beddington, “I could have sworn HRT had cured my brain fog and rage. Then I read that it hadn’t”, in The Guardian, →ISSN:

hormone replacement therapy
hormone replacement therapy#English

(medicine) Initialism of hormone replacement therapy.


flamer

The thinking is Ralston's gay—lots of us Fifth Squadders think he's gay. Me, I think he is, and it don't bother me any. You's queer, you's queer. So he's a flamer—big deal. Or maybe he's a switch-hitter, a bisexual. Who knows?

2010, Paul Bouchard, A Package at Gitmo, page 78:

(colloquial, often derogatory) A very flamboyant ("flaming"), effeminate gay male.


drag queen

From drag (“women's clothing worn by men”) + queen.

compound

Coordinate term: drag king

Donald was donning a brand new pair of pantyhose. He hadn’t shaved in a while, and he could feel his stubble snag on the nylon. It’s not pretty when a drag queen gets careless, he thought, but it was too late to do anything about it tonight.

1996, Robert Rodi, Drag Queen, New York: Dutton, →ISBN, retrieved 2022-02-05, page 37:

(LGBTQ, originally slang) A person, usually male, who dresses up in women’s clothing and makeup, typically in an exaggerated fashion and for public performance.


polyamorous

From a 1990 article by Morning Glory Zell-Ravenheart, "A Bouquet of Lovers", from poly- + amorous or polyamory + -ous.

Open to having such relationships, regardless of one's experience or current practices.


LF

en-noun

LF (countable and uncountable, plural LFs)

(baseball) Initialism of left field, Initialism of left fielder.

(architecture, engineering, construction) Initialism of linear feet.

(optics, imaging, photography) Abbreviation of light field.


androgyne

From French androgyne, from Latin androgynus.

Billy looked up at the face that went with the clogs. It was the face of a blond angel, of a fifteen-year-old boy. The boy was as beautiful as Eve. Billy was helped to his feet by the lovely boy, by the heavenly androgyne.

1969, Kurt Vonnegut, Slaughterhouse-Five:

The yogi is in this way the androgyne of prehistory reachieved.

1981, William Irwin Thompson, The Time Falling Bodies Take to Light: Mythology, Sexuality and the Origins of Culture, London: Rider/Hutchinson & Co., page 33:


SAM

Sample Analysis at Mars
w:Sample Analysis at Mars

Mars Science Laboratory
w:Mars Science Laboratory

(space science, NASA) Acronym of Sample Analysis at Mars. (a scientific instrument of the Mars Science Laboratory on board the Curiosity rover on Mars.)


SAM

surface-to-air missile
surface-to-air missile#English

(military) Initialism of surface-to-air missile.

A SAM conversion occurs when Java converts the SAM interface into functional code.

2020, Barry Burd, John Paul Mueller, Android Application Development All-in-One For Dummies, John Wiley & Sons, →ISBN, page 213:

(programming) Initialism of single abstract method.

The SAM is a way of deliberately de-coupling sex and romance.

2022, Eris Young, Ace Voices: What it Means to Be Asexual, Aromantic, Demi or Grey-Ace, page 167:

Now before anyone can excuse me of making this up or saying that the SAM is just another “modern” (therefore “uselessly millennial”) invention, the idea of distinguishing orientations is actually a concept that can trace its origins further back in history.

2023, Michele Kirichanskaya, Ace Notes: Tips and Tricks on Existing in an Allo World, page 94:

Not everyone who can or does experience these attractions differently uses or identifies with the SAM.

2023, Ace and Aro Journeys: A Guide to Embracing Your Asexual or Aromantic Identity, page 30:

split attraction model
split attraction model#English

(psychology) Initialism of split attraction model.

shared appreciation mortgage
shared appreciation mortgage#English

Initialism of shared appreciation mortgage.


pitcher

She's purtier'n uh pitcher, son, but what in th' name o' thunderin' snakes c'n you do with 'er in this here country?

1934, William Byron Mowery, Challenge of the North:

Nineteen sixty-nine, shore as hell, Clay Lawrence —that magazine had uh pitcher of ya—was uh All-American defensive back at the University of Missouri.

Pronunciation spelling
pronunciation spelling

Pronunciation spelling of picture, representing dialectal English.


monogamous

/məˈnɒɡəməs/

/məˈnɑɡəməs/

(zoology) Having only one sexual partner at a time.

monògam

having only one sexual partner at a time


fag stag

(slang, vulgar) A heterosexual man who socializes with or enjoys the company of homosexual men.


gunsel

From Yiddish גענדזל (gendzl, “gosling”), from Middle High German gensel, diminutive of gans (“goose”).

The boy’s eyes […] ran over Spade’s body from shoulders to knees […]
“Another thing,” Spade repeated, glaring at the boy: “Keep that gunsel away from me while you’re making up your mind. I’ll kill him […] ”

1929, Dashiell Hammett, The Maltese Falcon, [p. http://books.google.com/books?id=1uVajyyVaVkC&pg=RA1-PA13 13]

(slang, dated) Synonym of catamite: a young man kept by an elder as a (usually passive) homosexual partner.


catcher

Finding Dempsey in my mind's eye in January was not quite startling, ...but some other catchers turned up in my hot-stove reveries as well. Bob Boone, for instance.

1989 February 13, Roger Angell, Season Ticket: A Baseball Companion, Ballantine Books, page 22:

A “pitchometer” was installed on the scoreboard to time the pitchers. According the baseball rules a pitcher had to throw a pitch within 20 seconds after he received the ball from the catcher when there was nobody on base.

2003, John E. Peterson, The Kansas City Athletics: A Baseball History: 1954–1967, Jefferson, NC: McFarland & Company, →ISBN, page 210:

At the plate the catcher is responsible for catching pitches, keeping mispitched balls in front of the plate, calling pitches that are normally done through hand signals, picking off runners, and they are considered the leaders of the field.

2021, University of the District of Columbia, “The plate umpire may suspend play because of darkness”, in Course Hero:

(baseball) The player that squats behind home plate and receives the pitches from the pitcher.


gender bender

(idiomatic, colloquial) A person who dresses in the clothes of another sex, or in clothes which make their gender identity ambiguous.

(by extension) An event where people are encouraged to dress in the clothes of another sex, even if they would normally not.

(fantasy) A person capable of changing their physical sex.

(fantasy) An instance of someone's physical sex being changed, usually via magic.


en-adj

? (comparative more ?, superlative most ?)

more ? (comparative)
most ? (comparative superlative)


aro

aro (comparative more aro, superlative most aro)

more aro (comparative)
most aro (superlative)

Clipping of aromantic. Coined on the Internet in the 2010s.

For ace and aro people, the possibilities for diverse relationships are endless, despite how pop culture often brands our identity as restrictive and confined.

2016, Laura Chan, "My sexual preference is nope", Dalhousie Gazette (Dalhousie University), 12 February - 18 February 2016, page 16

For the show to completely and utterly ignore this is huge since there are very few representations of aro and ace-spec people in media of any kind.

2017 October 26, Melissa Reph, “You might not like hearing this, but I don't like 'Riverdale'”, in The Muhlenberg Weekly, Muhlenberg College, page 3:

This provides a home base for people looking to learn more about ace and aro identities.

2018 November 29, Alexis Stark, “A-spectrum student experiences on MSU's campus”, in The State News, Michigan State University, page 5:

(slang, neologism) Aromantic (not experiencing romantic attraction).


Uranian

Uranian (comparative more Uranian, superlative most Uranian)

more Uranian (comparative)
most Uranian (superlative)

Aphrodite Urania
Karl Heinrich Ulrichs
Plato

From Latin Ūrania (“muse of astronomy in Greek mythology”) + -an (suffix forming agent nouns). Ūrania is derived from Ancient Greek Οὐρᾰνῐ́ᾱ (Ouraníā, “muse of astronomy”), from οὐράνιος (ouránios, “of or relating to the sky, celestial, heavenly”) (from οὐρανός (ouranós, “the sky; heaven, home of the gods; the universe”), probably ultimately from Proto-Indo-European *h₁wers- (“rain”)) + -ιος (-ios, suffix forming adjectives meaning ‘pertaining to’).
The alternative form Ouranian is derived from Ancient Greek οὐράνιος (ouránios).
Adjective sense 2 (“homosexual”) and the noun sense (“a homosexual”) refer to Plato’s work Symposium (c. 385–370 B.C.E.), where the goddess Aphrodite, in her heavenly aspect Aphrodite Urania (see adjective sense 3) is described as inspiring a noble form of affection between older and younger men. Compare German Urning (“a homosexual, Uranian”), Urnigtum (“homosexuality”), also referring to Aphrodite Urania, coined by the German writer Karl Heinrich Ulrichs (1825–1895) in 1864. By the 1900s, the use of the word in this sense had largely been supplanted by homosexual (see further at that entry). The term is no longer mainstream and is almost never used in modern contexts, though it has enjoyed a slight revival as a term for "gay man" as an analogue to lesbian.

der

/jʊˈɹeɪnɪən/

Hence is that secret pardon we bestow / In the true instinct of the grateful heart, / Upon the Sons of Song. The good they do / In the clear world of their Uranian art / Endures for ever; while the evil done / In the poor drama of the mortal scene, / Is but a passing cloud before the sun; [...]

1853, Edward Bulwer[-]Lytton, “The Ideal World”, in The Poetical and Dramatic Works of Sir Edward Bulwer Lytton, Bart., volume III, London: Chapman and Hall, […], →OCLC, stanza IV, page 317:

Hail thou! sole Muse that, in an age of toil, / Of all the old Uranian sisterhood, / Art left to light us o'er the furrowed soil, / Of this laborious star!

1859, Owen Meredith [pseudonym; Robert Bulwer-Lytton, 1st Earl of Lytton], “Epilogue”, in The Wanderer, London: Chapman & Hall, […], →OCLC, part III, stanza I, page 424:

At first sight the winds would appear to be if anything Ouranian powers of the upper air, yet it seems that sacrifices to the winds were buried, not burnt.

1903, Jane Ellen Harrison, “The Anthesteria. The Ritual of Ghosts and Spirits.”, in Prolegomena to the Study of Greek Religion, Cambridge, Cambridgeshire: At the University Press, →OCLC, page 67:

[T]hose deities which are called ‘chthonic’ or earthly are, as a matter of fact, not in any sense deities of the earth. They are, in one of their aspects associated with the ‘underworld,’ but that underworld is but a segment of their cycle; they are deities of the underworld not because they appertain to the earth or are in any sense a personification of it, but because they are, on the contrary, heavenly bodies which, in the course of their cycle, pass under the earth. They are therefore just as much ‘uranian’ as are the Olympians.

1927, Robert Briffault, “The Great Mothers”, in The Mothers: A Study of the Origins of Sentiments and Institutions, volume III, New York, N.Y.: The Macmillan Company, →OCLC, pages 146–147:

If he [the Hindu god Varuna] cannot be classed exclusively among the "gods of the sky" he nevertheless has qualities proper to the ouranian divinities. He is visva-darsata, "everywhere visible", he "separated the two worlds", the wind is his breath; [...]

1991, Mircea Eliade, “The ‘God who Binds’ and the Symbolism of Knots”, in Philip Mairet, transl., Images and Symbols: Studies in Religious Symbolism, Mythos paperback edition, Princeton, N.J.: Princeton University Press, →ISBN, pages 96–97:

Conversely, Kenneth Anger's only widely released film since 1972, Lucifer Rising (1980), uses a megalithic temple (not Stonehenge) and a number of ancient Egyptian sites in a Crowleyan ritual hymn to chthonian and ouranian deities of power and light.

2002, P. Adams Sitney, “The End of the 20th Century”, in Visionary Film: The American Avant-Garde 1943–2000, 3rd edition, Oxford, Oxfordshire: Oxford University Press, →ISBN, page 417:

(comparable, literary, poetic) Celestial, heavenly; uranic.

uranien

celestial, heavenly — see also celestial, heavenly

To have altered my life would have been to have admitted that Uranian love is ignoble. I hold it to be noble – more noble than other forms.

1898 February 18?, Oscar Wilde, “Letter to Robert Ross”, in Merlin Holland, Rupert Hart-Davis, editors, The Complete Letters of Oscar Wilde, New York, N.Y.: Henry Holt and Company, published 2000, →ISBN, page 1019:

His [Plato's] Philosophical Eros is not the Uranian Eros which possessed the nation, and the Uranian doctrine is not primarily either philosophical or paederastic. It is a value attached to the masculine which included philosophy as masculine and paederasty when not anti-masculine, but was itself the idea and form of virtue.

1930, Arthur Lyon Raile [pseudonym; Edward Perry Warren], “The Uranian Idea”, in A Defence of Uranian Love, part the second (The Uranian Eros), [London]: Privately printed, →OCLC, pages 19–20:

Before these ideals would once again become available to "homosexuality" as a positive social identity, however, the Uranian modality of male love would be rejected by the avant-garde itself as an outworn fashion.

1994, Linda [C.] Dowling, “The Higher Sodomy”, in Hellenism and Homosexuality in Victorian Oxford, Ithaca, N.Y.: Cornell University Press, →ISBN, page 134:

[Edward] Carpenter was disappointed by these meetings with [Walt] Whitman but began to integrate a positive homosexual view into his socialist writings. Carpenter saw the Uranian (homosexual) spirit to be more enlightened than that of the common man and believed that Uranians were the new prophets of the coming social revolution.

2003, Chuck Stewart, “Biographical Sketches”, in Gay and Lesbian Issues: A Reference Handbook (Contemporary World Issues), Santa Barbara, Calif.: ABC-CLIO, →ISBN, page 138:

Through Veiled Eyes [by John Moray Stuart-Young, published in 1908] was produced by a specialist Uranian publisher for circulation to a specialist Uranian readership, and it required the audience to identify with an adult narrator who spends the bulk of one summer "grooming" an English boy for physical intimacy. This is the sexual scenario most likely to inspire public violence in contemporary Britain, [...] Set in the context of Uranian art, however, it is possible to regard this as a desire fated to be celibate, if only by the status of the angelic love object in the real world as a "real boy, grubby, ink-stained, insolent, uncomprehending of Uranian passion and rebuffing its smallest manifestations." Such a forgiving perspective is one of the few options available to literary critics wishing to avoid the discomfort of drawing biographical conclusions from the material produced by Uranian authors such as Stuart-Young.

2006, Stephanie Newell, “‘Uranian’ Love in West Africa”, in The Forger’s Tale: The Search for Odeziaku (New African Histories), Athens, Oh.: Ohio University Press, →ISBN, page 86:

(comparable, literary, archaic) Homosexual; also, pederastic; relating to a man's erotic love for adolescent boys; (specifically) of poetry: conveying appreciation for young men.

For assuredly are there two Venuses; one, the eldest, the daughter of Uranus, born without a mother, whom we call the Uranian; the other younger, the daughter of Jupiter and Dione, whom we call the Pandemian;—of necessity must there also be two Loves, the Uranian and Pandemian companions of these goddesses. [...] [T]he attendant on the other, the Uranian, whose nature is entirely masculine, is the Love who inspires us with affection, and exempts us from all wantonness and libertinism.

a. 1822, Percy Bysshe Shelley, “The Banquet. Translated from Plato.”, in Mrs. Shelley [i.e., Mary Shelley], editor, Essays, Letters from Abroad, Translations and Fragments, … In Two Volumes, volume I, Philadelphia, Pa.: Lea and Blanchard, published 1840, →OCLC, page 86:

That this is indeed the general tendency of his [Pausanias of Athens'] speech is made clear by two remarks that follow immediately upon his differentiating the Pandemian from the Uranian gods. [...] But what is true for Aphrodite seems to be a contradiction in terms: she is both one and two and all gods must be praised—both Uranian and Pandemian—and yet only the Uranian ought to be praised [...].

2010, Steven Berg, “Pausanias: Noble Lies and the Fulfillment of Greekness”, in Eros and the Intoxications of Enlightenment: On Plato’s Symposium (SUNY Series in Ancient Greek Philosophy), Albany, N.Y.: State University of New York Press, →ISBN, part 1 (Athens and Enlightenment), page 27:

(not comparable, Greek mythology, Roman mythology) Of Aphrodite Urania, the heavenly aspect of the Greek goddess of beauty and love Aphrodite and her Roman counterpart Venus, as contrasted with the earthly aspect known as Aphrodite Pandemos: heavenly, spiritual.

Graced by nurses (art's nurse highly grac'd him) / Who fed him with pure marrow of the Muses; / And when he list, with moisture to refresh him, / He drunke cleare Helicon: cleare from abuses, / He bent his mind to pure Vranian vses, / Vranianie him did to heau'n vpreare: / And made to man, him demi-god appeare.

1600, Cyril Tourneur, The Transformed Metamorphosis, [London]: Printed by Valentine Sims, […], →OCLC; republished in John Churton Collins, editor, The Plays and Poems of Cyril Tourneur: […] In Two Volumes, volume II, London: Chatto and Windus, […], 1878, →OCLC, page 213:

Actually, this little girl-child should have been as happy as a lark. But, she wasn't. This is because her Bengali genes had her continually wish to be a Sarasvati, or Uranian Muse, to all the males who came within her ambit – incessantly inspiring them to great works of Art or Scientific discoveries.

2007, Vivek Iyer, chapter 8, in Samlee’s Daughter: A Novel, Great Britain: Polyglot Publications, →ISBN, section I:

(not comparable, Greek mythology, dated) Relating to Urania, the Muse of astronomy.


Uranian

/jʊˈɹeɪnɪən/

[T]he fury of a fiery hot-brained Marsian, may kindle immediate and incessant wrangling and feuds; whilst a quiet placid Uranian, in his turn, may yet at times be excessively annoyed, ay, worried and tormented, by the tardiness, listlessness and inactivity of his dronish companion.

1839, A Fantastical Excursion into the Planets, London: Saunders and Otley, […], →OCLC, page 172:

And obviously, since the year of the Uranians lasts 84 of our years, the continuance of the sun above the horizon would last for many years. [...] And as with the summer day, so with the winter night, years elapse before either comes to an end. For upwards of 20 years, in a latitude corresponding to that of London, the Uranians—if there are any—never see the small Uranian sun.

1872, Richard A[nthony] Proctor, “Uranus and Neptune, the Arctic Planets”, in Other Worlds than Ours: The Plurality of Worlds Studied under the Light of Recent Scientific Researches, 3rd edition, London: Longmans, Green, and Co., →OCLC, pages 171–172:

(chiefly science fiction) An inhabitant of the planet Uranus.


bara

Short for barazoku, from Japanese 薔薇族 (barazoku, literally “rose tribe”), the name of Japan's first modern gay men's magazine, named after a post-World War II term for gay men.

bor

(Internet slang) A genre of homoerotic media, usually manga and often pornographic, made by gay men for gay men in Japan.

(Internet slang) Gay male media of a similar style and aesthetic, regardless of the creator's gender or ethnicity.

(Internet slang) Any homoerotic media or pornography that accentuates macho masculinity; gay porn.


fluff

en-noun

fluff (countable and uncountable, plural fluffs)

From earlier floow (“woolly substance, down, nap, lint”), also spelt flough, flue, and flew, from West Flemish vluwe,
of uncertain ultimate origin:
* Compare Old English flōh (“that which is flown off, fragment, piece”) - see flaw
* Possibly representing a blend of flue + puff; compare Middle Dutch vloe, or perhaps onomatopoeic; compare dialectal English floose, flooze, fleeze (“particles of wool or cotton; fluff; loose threads or fibres”), Danish fnug (“down, fluff”), Swedish fnugg (“speck, flake”).
* Alternatively, West Flemish vluwe may derive from French velu (“hairy, furry”), from Latin villūtus (“having shaggy hair”), from villus (“shaggy hair, tuft of hair”).
For words of similar sound and meaning in other languages, compare Japanese フワフワ (fuwafuwa, “lightly, softly”), Hungarian puha (“soft, fluffy”), Polish puchaty (“soft, fluffy”),Romanian puf (“down, peachfuzz, soft hair of some animals, powderpuff”).

onomatopoeic

onomatopoeic

cog

(LGBTQ) A passive partner in a lesbian relationship.


uke

From Japanese 受け (uke), derived from the verb 受ける (ukeru, “to receive, to get”).

Yaoi uke in fanfics often bear the brunt of stereotypical "negative female characteristics" such as passivity, helplessness, and masochism.

2008, Tan Bee Kee, “Rewriting Gender and Sexuality in English-language Yaoi Fanfiction”, in Antonia Levi, Mark McHarry, Dru Pagliassotti, editors, Boys’ Love Manga: Essays on the Sexual Ambiguity and Cross-Cultural Fandom of the Genre, McFarland & Company, →ISBN, page 142:

You'd rather have Sebas be an uke?

2010, Pentabu, My Girlfriend’s a Geek, volume 1, Yen Press, published 2012isbn=9780316221801:

Shizuku is so, so, so cute! I love him as an uke so much I can't stand it!

2010, Kyoka Wakatsuki, “Afterword”, in The Selfish Demon King, Digital Manga Publishing, →ISBN:

(Japanese fiction, fandom slang) A passive or submissive male fictional character in a same-sex relationship; a bottom.


intergender

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1999, Joanna Lynn McAfee., Differences in Intergender Communication Within Task-oriented Dyads:

intergender friendship, intergender wrestling

Taking place between people of opposite genders.


intergender

(LGBTQ, rare) A person whose gender identity is midway between male and female.

(LGBTQ, rare) An intersex person whose gender identity is influenced by being intersex.


FFS

(historical) Initialism of Free French Ship.


asexuality

en-noun

asexuality (usually uncountable, plural asexualities)

From a- (“lacking, without”) + sexuality, equivalent to asexual + -ity.

aseksualitet

state of not experiencing sexual attraction

Coordinate term: allosexuality

The quality of experiencing little or no sexual attraction.


fence sitter

From fence + sitter, from the verb sit on the fence.

What...? EW. You scored with the fence-sitter?

2007, Adrian Tomine, Shortcomings (graphic novel), page 65

(potentially offensive) One who is bisexual, or who is uncertain about their sexual orientation.


stemme

A lesbian, chiefly African-American, exhibiting both stud and femme traits.


sapphist

From sapphic + -ist, by analogy with Sapphist (“admirer or student of Sappho”).


-x

From the use of x as a neutral or nonspecific placeholder.

(neologism) Used to replace a gendered suffix, such as in alumnx, Chicanx, Latinx.


polygamous

/pəˈlɪɡəməs/


catamite

From Latin catamītus (“boy kept as a sexual partner”), from Catamītus, from Etruscan 𐌂𐌀𐌕𐌌𐌉𐌕𐌄 (catmite), from Ancient Greek Γανυμήδης (Ganumḗdēs, “Ganymede”), an attractive Trojan boy supposedly abducted to Mount Olympus by the god Zeus to become his cupbearer and lover. Doublet of Ganymede.

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It was the afternoon of my eighty-first birthday, and I was in bed with my catamite when Ali announced that the archbishop had come to see me.

1980, Anthony Burgess, Earthly Powers, page 7:

And what about your brother? – Is he to be a catamite?

2007 July 4, Mere Smith, “Heroes of the Republic”, in Rome, season 2, episode 5, spoken by Lyde:

A boy or younger man in a homoerotic relationship with an older man.


catamite

en-verb

catamite (third-person singular simple present catamites, present participle catamiting, simple past and past participle catamited)

catamites (present singular third-person)
catamiting (participle present)
catamited (participle past)
catamited (past)

To engage in a homoerotic relationship involving a boy and an older man.


assignment

en-noun

assignment (countable and uncountable, plural assignments)

assignment (computer science)
homework assignment
sex assignment

From Middle English assignement, from Old French assignement. By surface analysis, assign + -ment.

The categorization of something as belonging to a specific category.

(LGBTQ) The categorization of persons as belonging to the male or female sex.


hijra

bor

Hindi हीजड़ा (hījṛā)

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When the Mughal court was disbanded, Muslim hijras were exposed for the first time to the other, Hindu, tradition of eunuchry.

1993, William Dalrymple, City of Djinns, Penguin, published 2004, page 172:

A eunuch in South Asia, especially one who dresses as a woman.


boi

boi will be treated as a boi at all times and will find himself the recepitent ^([sic]) of many bare bottom spankings, private and in front of Daddies ^([sic]) friends.

2002 March 14, “"MR MARKS"|STRICT DAD FOR BAD BOYS IN PORTLAND OREGON”, in alt.personals.spanking.punishment (Usenet):

You, tattooed, butch boi with experience and a leash.

2004, Kelly A. Morris, Things - Now, Then & Strange, →ISBN, page 178:

I fucked the boi that way. His ass had never known how good a man's dick feels when it's deep inside […]

2007, Will Kane, Forbidden Fruit: Psalms of a Black Master, →ISBN, page 273:

(BDSM, especially in roleplay) A male bottom (i.e. submissive partner), defined not by junior age, but by his obedient role and submission to the dominant "top".

Most bois are in their twenties and have come of age in a time when women’s and gay rights seem like more of a given and less of an urgent struggle than they did to lesbians ten or twenty or more years older.

2004 January 2, Ariel Levy, “Where the Bois Are”, in New York Magazine:

(LGBTQ) A lesbian who adopts a boyish appearance.


A-gay

The A-Gays could talk about whoever was tooting coke in the bathroom.
The B-Gays, being largely decorative, were not expected to talk.

1998, Armistead Maupin, More Tales of the City:

The latter is long past its heyday of the 1950s and 1960s, while Marrakech continues to attract wealthy A-gays.

2003, Justin McGuinness, Footprint Morocco http://books.google.com/books?ie=UTF-8&hl=en&id=ldBtziUKLRIC&pg=PA26&lpg=PA26&sig=K8ZsVL04ipvY8FoPLVnUy0SFet4

We who suffered the pain of playground exclusion now practice an enforced segregation with an effectiveness that designates certain members of our community as A-gays and marks the rest as inferior.

(LGBTQ, slang) An A-list gay; an affluent, well-connected, upwardly mobile gay man or woman.


woodwork

en-verb

woodwork (third-person singular simple present woodworks, present participle woodworking, simple past and past participle woodworked)

woodworks (present singular third-person)
woodworking (participle present)
woodworked (participle past)
woodworked (past)

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From Middle English woodewerk (“carpentry”), equivalent to wood + work.

"Instead of 'woodworking,' or disappearing into the mainstream — as we are capable of and qualified to do — we have chosen not to do so." Outside of the transsexual community, other changes were taking place that made it possible for[…]

1997, Patrick Califia, Sex Changes: The Politics of Transgenderism:

Maybe — and this was essential for political activism — you didn't have to "woodwork" but could be transgendered for all to see. By the mid '90s the Internet had arrived — and spread these new ideas like wildfire.[…]

(LGBTQ, dated) To go completely stealth as a transgender person. (From the idea of fading or blending into the woodwork.)


zesty

en-adj

zesty (comparative zestier or more zesty, superlative zestiest or most zesty)

zestier (comparative)
more zesty (comparative)
zestiest (superlative)
most zesty (superlative)

(informal, LGBTQ, of a man) Effeminately or flamboyantly gay.


mary

From Mary (“female name”). Compare nan and nancy.

You that be of the court, & eſpecially ye ſworn chaplains beware of a leſſon that a great man taught me at my firſt coming to the court he told me for a good will, he thoughte it wel. He ſayd vnto me. You muſt beware how ſo euer ye do that ye cõtrary not the king, let him haue his ſaiyngs, folow him, go with him. Mary out vpon this counſel, ſhal I ſay, as he ſayes?

1549 April 29 (Gregorian calendar), Hughe Latymer [i.e., Hugh Latimer], Augustine Bernher, compiler, “[27 Sermons Preached by the Ryght Reuerende Father in God and Constant Matir of Iesus Christe, Maister Hugh Latimer, […].] The Seuenth Sermon of Maister Hugh Latymer, which He Preached before King Edward [VI], the .19. Day of Aprill.”, in Certayn Godly Sermons, Made uppon the Lords Prayer, […], London: […] John Day, […], published 1562, →OCLC, folio 93, recto:

And I pray thee (ſayde Pas,) gentle Nico, tell mee what miſchaunce yt was that broughte thee to taſte ſo fyne a Meate? Mary goodman Blockhead (ſayde Nico) bycauſe hee ſpeakes ageanſt Jeloſy, the filthy Treytor to true affection, and yet diſguyſing yt ſelf in the rayment of Love.

Albert Feuillerat, editor (1926), “The Third Book”, in The Countess of Pembroke’s Arcadia: Being the Original Version […] (Cambridge English Classics; The Complete Works of Sir Philip Sidney; IV), Cambridge, Cambridgeshire: University Press, →OCLC, page 232

Falst[aff] Fie, this is hot weather (gentlemen) haue you prouided me heere halfe a dozen ſufficient men? / Shal[low] Mary haue we ſir, will you ſit? / Falst. Let me ſee them I beſeech you. / Shall. Wheres the rowle? wheres the rowle? wheres the rowle? let me ſee, let me ſee, ſo, ſo, ſo, ſo, ſo (ſo, ſo) yea mary ſir, Rafe Mouldy, let them appeere as I call, let them do ſo, let thẽ do ſo, let me ſee, where is Mouldy?

c. 1596–1599 (date written), William Shakespeare, The Second Part of Henrie the Fourth, […], quarto edition, London: […] V[alentine] S[immes] for Andrew Wise, and William Aspley, published 1600, →OCLC, [Act III, scene ii], signature [E6], verso:

Alternative form of marry (“indeed, in truth”)


xem

1997, Jared Blackburn, in bit.listserv.autism http://groups.google.com/group/bit.listserv.autism/msg/b20545b793ca6c1e?dmode=source&hl=en
Still, most parents have some intuitive understanding that "our child is not like us, maybe someone like xem could help...."

The soft blue sky had the feel of a good omen. In Xir old age, the god moved slower every year; lingering in the shallows long after the last fish had been swallowed up by nets. Sometimes Xe stood still for days, in sight of the shore, as if Xe had not quite decided whether to beach Xemself for good. Let Xem only survive long enough to spawn a new god! Else Xir helpless people would be godless ans stranded in the haunted dryland where the dead cities slept. Where less kindly deities roamed.

2023, Aimee Ogden, “A Half-Remembered World”, The Magazine of Fantasy & Science Fiction, vol. 145, no. 1-2, whole no. 768 (July/August 2023), pages 146-202


werk

en-verb

werk (third-person singular simple present werks, present participle werking, simple past and past participle werked)

werks (present singular third-person)
werking (participle present)
werked (participle past)
werked (past)

The LGBT slang usage is very recent and in essence an orthographical variant. It is independent from the far older and long-obsolete alternative form which derived directly from Middle English werk.

Werk it, bitch!

(obsolete except as LGBTQ slang and eye dialect) Alternative form of work


AC/DC

en-adj

DC (comparative more DC, superlative most DC)

DC (canonical)
more DC (comparative)
most DC (superlative)

(not comparable) Able to operate with either alternating current or direct current.

Most everyone is AC/DC / Bisexuals on a loving spree

1975, “Ain't Nobody Straight in L.A.”, in City of Angels, performed by The Miracles:

I'm AC/DC and seek a gentle, full of energy, mid-30's gentleman who is also seekin companionship and knows the meaning of "LIFE," and is able to share it.

1981 December 12, David H. Silvestri, “Personal advertisement”, in Gay Community News, volume 9, number 21, page 15:

The woman had great difficulty explaining it. ‘You know, AC–DC,’ she kept repeating. Finally she said, ‘Swings both ways.’ ‘Oh, you mean bisexual,’ Sandy said, ‘Yeah,’ the woman said, ‘AC–DC.’

1997, Nancy Toder, Choices, 1980, page 132, quoted in Bisexual Imaginary: Representation, Identity, and Desire, Cassell, →OCLC, page 98:


homoerotic

homoerotic (comparative more homoerotic, superlative most homoerotic)

more homoerotic (comparative)
most homoerotic (superlative)

/ˌhoʊmoʊəˈɹɑtɪk/

/ˌhəʊməʊəˈɹɒtɪk/


sickening

sickening (comparative more sickening, superlative most sickening)

more sickening (comparative)
most sickening (superlative)

Richard Cranium does sickening stuff (if your budget permits), stones from Charles Brennan and lots of imagination.

2014, The Infamous Todd Kachinski Kottmeier, Drag King Guide: So You Want to Be a Male Impersonator, Lulu.com, →ISBN, page 188:

Latrice lives every day by her mantra, “It’s OK to make mistakes. It’s OK to fall down. Get up, look sickening, and make them eat it!” Translation: rise above your downfalls in life, and always look amazing while dismissing the haters.

2016, Juackie Huba, Shelly Stewart Kronbergs, Fiercely You: Be Fabulous and Confident by Thinking Like a Drag Queen, Berret-Koehler, →ISBN:

Back with the seventh season next March 2nd, RuPaul’s Drag Race promises to gather fans and followers in front of the computer to watch the new competition to crown the most sickening queen.

2017, Mayka Castellando, Heitor Leal Machado, “‘Please come to Brazil!’ The practices of RuPaul’s Drag Race’s Brazilian fandom”, in Niall Brennan, David Gudelunas, editors, RuPaul’s Drag Race and the Shifting Visibility of Drag Culture, Springer, →ISBN, page 172:


questioning

questioning (not generally comparable, comparative more questioning, superlative most questioning)

more questioning (comparative)
most questioning (superlative)

/ˈkwɛʃ.t͡ʃə.nɪŋ/

From question + -ing (noun via Middle English questionyng).

We entertain the boy and it becomes more evident that his dad is trans and he is questioning; my coworker keeps frowning about it.

2020 February 4, “Transitioning To Some New Protocols”, in Not Always Right, archived from the original on 2021-01-29:

(LGBTQ) Unsure of one's sexual orientation or gender identity.


moffie

Probably borrowed from Afrikaans moffie (from mofskaap, a castrated sheep), or possibly derived from mophrodite (a slang variant of hermaphrodite). Other theories derive it from Afrikaans moffie (“mitten”) or from English mauve but are considered tenuous and far-fetched.

Sometimes, they admonished their children in mock-protest for following and making fun of the moffies. "Go away," one moffie said in a shrilly^([sic]) voice, elaborately fanning out long painted scissors-like fingernails to scare the children away.

2005, Verenia Keet, Colored Hill, page 78:

(South Africa, derogatory, offensive) An effeminate homosexual man; faggot, fairy.


pathic

From Latin pathicus, from Ancient Greek παθικός (pathikós), from πάθος (páthos, “suffering, feeling”), from πάσχω (páskhō, “I feel, I suffer”).

In England the vices in fashion are whoring & drinking, in Turkey, Sodomy & smoking, we prefer a girl and a bottle, they a pipe and pathic.

1810, Lord Byron, letter (to Henry Drury), 3 May 1810

And enough of these gooey saints with a look of pathic dismay as if they getting fucked up the ass and try not to pay any mind.

1962 [1959], William S. Burroughs, Naked Lunch, New York: Grove Press, page 115:

But in those days I was Paul Dempster, who had been made to forget it and take a name from the side of a barn, and be the pathic of a perverted drug-taker.

1975, Robertson Davies, World of Wonders:

Clermont (known to his friends as Cordelia) was a nancy, a pathic, a male varlet, a masculine whore.

(now literary) Synonym of bottom: a passive usually-male partner in homosexual anal intercourse.


androphilia

A love of or sexual attraction to men or masculinity.


androphile

One who is attracted to masculinity or to men.


bat for the other team

en-verb

bat for the other team (third-person singular simple present bats for the other team, present participle batting for the other team, simple past and past participle batted for the other team)

bats for the other team (present singular third-person)
batting for the other team (participle present)
batted for the other team (participle past)
batted for the other team (past)

From cricket or baseball, in print c. 1990.

(idiomatic, humorous, euphemistic) To be homosexual.


sapphism

en-noun

sapphism (usually uncountable, plural sapphisms)

From Sappho (“a poet of the isle of Lesbos (612 B.C.E. - 570 B.C.E.)”) + -ism.

affix

Its odd that yᵉ Roman Women did not borrow that horrible Vice from Greece—it has a Greek name now & is called Sapphism, but I never did hear of it in Italy where the Ladies are today exactly what Juvenal described them in his Time—neither better nor worse as I can find.

1795 December 9, Hester Lynch Piozzi, Thraliana:


trannie

Sitting mute, I watched the faint line of smoke fade into oblivion, and with it went the hopes of this CQ Contest... The Receiver power trannie had packed up.

1968, CQ; the Radio Amateur's Journal, volume 24, numbers 7-12, page 52:

Alternative spelling of tranny (“mechanical transmission”)

My experience here has made me realise that gaining acceptance as a trannie is an ongoing process.

1999, Tracie O'Keefe, Sex, Gender & Sexuality: 21st Century Transformations, page 138:

Alternative spelling of tranny (“transsexual, transgender or transvestite”)


uranism

/ˈjʊəɹənɪzəm/

From German Uranismus, from Ancient Greek οὐράνιος (ouránios, “heavenly, spiritual”).

uder

Uranism is always a disease or an inversion. It is sometimes a symptom of degeneracy. It may be caused by disorders during embryonic life.

1894 November, The Medical Standard, volume XVI, number 6, page 152:


uranist

/ˈjʊəɹənɪst/

I discussed Soviet movies with expatriates. I sat with uranists in the Deux Magots. I published tortuous essays in obscure journals.


manhole

throw nickels around like manhole covers

(LGBTQ) The vulva or vagina of a trans man.


yaoi

en-noun

yaoi (countable and uncountable, plural yaoi or yaois)

From Japanese やおい (yaoi), a blend of 山(やま)無(な)し (yama nashi, “no climax”) + 落(お)ち無(な)し (ochi nashi, “no point”) + 意味(いみ)無(な)し (imi nashi, “no meaning”), originally mocking those who criticised early yaoi works for being too focused on sex scenes instead of storylines.

ja-blend

(pornography, anime, manga) A form of hentai involving two or more males in a gay relationship.


transsexualism

en-noun

transsexualism (usually uncountable, plural transsexualisms)

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Transfolk are not covered in any applicable laws like Title VII or the ADA - in fact, transsexualism is explicitly excluded from the ADA. Therefore, you have no causes of action against an employer based on federal law.

1997, A. Spencer Bergstedt, Transition and Beyond, page 28:

Being a transsexual is not something that can be ignored or suppressed forever. Unlike the fascinations of the cross dresser or the partially altered transgenderist, the absolute compulsion of classical transsexualism is a matter of life and death.

2012, Patrick Slattery, Curriculum Development in the Postmodern Era:

Transsexuality; the state of being transsexual.


SAG

(LGBTQ) Initialism of straight-acting gay.


allo-

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From Ancient Greek ἄλλος (állos, “other”), from Proto-Hellenic *áľľos, from Proto-Indo-European *h₂élyos (English else).

alloromantic is someone who experiences romantic attraction, alloerotic is having erotic desire of or attraction to another person of any sex, allonormativity is the assumption that all human beings are allosexual or alloromantic

(LGBTQ) Not asexual; attracted to others.


berdache

From French bardache, from Italian bardassa, perhaps from Arabic بَرْدَج (bardaj, “slave”). Doublet of bardash.

These culturally bound assumptions have bedevilled the entire anthropological literature on the berdache in Native American cultures, and it is because of this that I have followed the lead of Angelino and Shedd when referring to the phenomenon of the berdache-transgenderal, for as Fitzgerald (1977) points out: "A berdache . . . may be a transvestite, but a transvestite need not be a berdache; and neither need be homosexual."

1980, Kenneth E. Read, “Observations on the Current State of Anthropological Research on Homosexual Behavior”, in Other Voices: The Style of a Male Homosexual Tavern, Novato, Cali.: Chandler & Sharp Publishers, Inc., →ISBN, →LCCN, →OCLC, page 187:

Gender is the sociocultural designation of biobehavioral and psychosocial qualities of the sexes; for example, woman (female), man (male), other(s) (e.g., berdaches²). Notions of gender are culturally specific and depend on the ways in which cultures define and differentiate human (and other) potentials and possibilities. While many people in Western society may think first of heterosexual women and men when the word "gender" is mentioned, there are more gender possibilities than just those two.

1989, Sue-Ellen Jacobs, Christine Roberts, “Sex, Sexuality, Gender, and Gender Variance”, in Sandra Morgen, editor, Gender and Anthropology: Critical Reviews for Research and Teaching, Washington, D.C.: American Anthropological Association, →ISBN, →LCCN, →OCLC, page 439:

Male berdache have been documented in nearly 150 North American societies, while female berdache (females who take on the lifeways of males) appear in half as many groups.

2005, Michael J Horswell, Decolonizing the Sodomite, University of Texas, published 2006, page 20:

(anthropology, dated, now offensive, ethnic slur) Among Native Americans, a person who identifies with any of a variety of gender identities which are not exclusively those of their biological sex; a transgender person.

wíŋkte

Native American who identifies with a gender identity not exclusively corresponding to their biological sex — see also two-spirit


lesbigay

en-adj

lesbigay (comparative more lesbigay, superlative most lesbigay)

more lesbigay (comparative)
most lesbigay (superlative)

(LGBTQ, informal) Of or relating to lesbian, bisexual, and gay people or the LGB community.


lesbigay

(LGBTQ, informal) A lesbian, bisexual, or gay person.


pan-

Borrowed from Ancient Greek πᾰν- (pan-), combining form of πᾶς (pâs, “all, every”).

pancurious is exhibiting a state of uncertainty about one's pansexual or panromantic status; panphobia is fear, dislike, or hatred of pansexual people and/or pansexuality


uranic

From many other places in the classics the impression may be won that Uranic love attained a higher position even than her sister. More recent explanations of the homosexual instinct have emanated from philosophers, psychologists and natural scientists.

1894, Richard Krafft-Ebing (trans F. J. Rebman), Psychopathia Sexualis, page 341

The patriotic assassination that so glorified Harmodios and Aristogeiton was in a vengeance for what was a homosexual marriage, we may say, between the two youths—whose uranic love was so virilized.

1908, Edward Prime-Stevenson, The Intersexes A History of Similisexualism as a Problem in Social Life, page 189:

But the fact was that ever since Frederick the Great had forbidden women to his Praetorian Guard in the 1750s, obliging the guards to seek the company of boys for their pleasure, Berlin had been identified with soldierly inversion and uranic sexuality. Paragraph 175 of the Federal Criminal Code still forbade all homosexual activity but there were so many male prostitutes in Berlin […] that the law was more or less unenforceable.

(rare, historical) Of, related to, or characteristic of male same-sex erotic desire and relationships; homosexual.


binder

From Middle English byndere; equivalent to bind + -er.

He had to send back the binders and return to clothing that was at least gender-neutral.

(LGBTQ) Material or clothing used in binding or flattening the breasts.

束胸

LGBT: material or clothing used in binding or flattening the breasts


alternative lifestyle

en-noun

alternative lifestyle (plural alternative lifestyles)

Since getting divorced, I’ve been going to bathhouses because I’m interested in exploring an alternative lifestyle.

(euphemistic, dated) Homosexuality, or other LGB identity or behavior.


autogynephilia

/ˌɔːtəʊˌɡaɪnəˈfɪli.ə/

/ˌɔtoʊˌɡaɪnəˈfɪli.ə/

/ˌɑtoʊˌɡaɪnəˈfɪli.ə/

Coordinate term: autoandrophilia

Charles Moser (2010) “Blanchard’s Autogynephilia Theory: A Critique”, in Journal of Homosexuality, volume 57, number 6, →DOI, pages 790–809: “If autogynephilia were a paraphilia, we would expect that MTFs would want estrogens to feminize themselves, but decline anti-androgens or report that they disliked the effect. This is contrary to the observation that MTFs request and like the effects of anti-androgens.”

gender identity disorder
gender identity disorder

transvestic fetishism
transvestic fetishism

In Ray Blanchard's transsexualism typology, the proposed paraphilic tendency of someone who is anatomically male to be sexually aroused by the thought of being a female, sometimes framed as a form of gender identity disorder or transvestic fetishism.


inverted

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Phil was slumped over the edge of the mattress, inverted, watching her dress. He seemed to have a thing for that. She didn't mind; after eight years, she and Harry had long since ceased to ogle each other after bed. He'd taken longer than she had, but then, she knew he had more to look at than she did.

2024 September 12, HarryBlank, “Nothing Changes”, in SCP Foundation, archived from the original on 2024-09-15:

Having the order or direction changed; for example, turned upside down, reversed, or in any other way opposite or contrary.

(chemistry, of sugar) Having its polarization changed by hydrolysis; see invert sugar.

Among the Normans, everywhere, homosexuality was markedly prevalent; the spread of sodomy in France about the eleventh century is attributed to the Normans, and their coming seems to have rendered it at times almost fashionable, at all events at court. In England, William Rufus was undoubtedly inverted, as later on were Edward II, James I, and, perhaps, though not in so conspicuous a degree, William III.

1927, Havelock Ellis, Studies in the Psychology of Sex, volume 2:

(dated, psychology) Homosexual, in terms of the sexual inversion theory.

conspiracy theories
conspiracy theory#Noun

(Internet slang, conspiracy theories, of a person) Assumed to be transgender, in the terms of transvestigation.


on the down-low

(African-American Vernacular, LGBTQ) (of a male) Publicly identifying as heterosexual but secretly having sex with other men.


down low

down low (countable and uncountable, plural down lows)

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(sexuality) The state of being a man who secretly sleeps with people other than his partner.

I sleep with men, but I am not bisexual, and I am certainly not gay. I am not going to your clinics, I am not going to read your brochures, I am not going to get tested. I assure you that none of the brothers on the down low like me are paying the least bit of attention to anything you have to say.

2001 April 3, Linda Villarosa, “AIDS Education Is Aimed 'Down Low'”, in The New York times, page 5:

(African-American Vernacular, sexuality) The state of being a man who secretly sleeps with other men.

I think it must be hard for trans men who like guys. Most gay guys don't like vaginas. […] The guys I'm interested in are down-lows, DLs.

2014, Susan Kuklin, Beyond Magenta: Transgender Teens Speak Out, Humen: Candlewick Press, published 2015, →ISBN, →LCCN, Mariah: The Real Deal, page 90:

(African-American Vernacular, sexuality) A man who secretly sleeps with other men.


down low

en-adj

down low (comparative more down low, superlative most down low)

more down low (comparative)
most down low (superlative)

(African-American Vernacular, of a man) Purporting to be heterosexual while engaged in sex with men.


huckle

From huck (from Middle English hoke (“hook”), hokebone, probably so called because of its round shape) + -le. See also hook.

When moving into our present dwelling some 6 months ago..the puchase^([sic]) of a new bed was of primary importance.The puchase^([sic]) was completed by a right huckle who didn`t realise the importance of the "squeek"^([sic]) factor in the purchase of such an item.

2001 March 29, denislindridge [username], “Promotion”, in uk.sport.horseracing (Usenet):

He’s not! He can’t be! There's never been a huckle in the Osbourne family, and we can trace our lineage all the way back to the Second World War.

2002, “Bridge Over Troubled Waters”, in Auf Wiedersehen, Pet:

Sorry !
 Only into birds.
Why not get yourself along to the SOL. Plenty of huckles there.

2003 December 12, Finchy [username], “Re: Gay bars / Meatloaf - Re: SAFC - Hartlepool”, in alt.sports.soccer.sunderland (Usenet):


gayer

Many ex-gayers are encouraged to bond with an older straight man from their church.

1999, Dann Hazel, Witness: gay and lesbian clergy report from the front:

shut the fuck up you gayer :)

2002, Marblehead Johnson, “universal is no more”, in alt.music.oasis (Usenet):

Facist ^([sic]) Frankie, PMSL, you gayers are funny.

2008, Frankie Carbone, “Frankie's passed out”, in uk.sport.football.clubs.liverpool (Usenet):

(chiefly UK, colloquial, derogatory) Somebody who is gay (in the sense of either homosexual or uncool).


pseudohermaphroditism

en-noun

pseudohermaphroditism (countable and uncountable, plural pseudohermaphroditisms)

A condition in which an individual has the internal reproductive organs of one sex but the external genitalia of the other.

pseudohermafroditisme

having different internal and external sexual organs


preoperative

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Coordinate term: postoperative


preoperative

A transgender person who has not yet undergone gender reassignment surgery.


pre-op

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(transgender) A preoperative trans person.


sex change

A change in sex, either natural or artificial.


gay bar

Hey, but wait a minute, man, that's a gay bar

1975, “Ain't Nobody Straight in L.A.”, in City of Angels, performed by The Miracles:

One unidentified man spoke of how he was approached to "go to the Gents" with an MP at an event for young political activists while another man described how an MP invited his entire office staff to a gay bar.

2014 April 11, Charlotte Meredith, “The Palace of Sexminster”, in Huffington Post: United Kingdom:

A tavern or similar nightclub whose primary clientele are lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) people.

同性戀酒吧

nightclub whose primary clientele are LGBT people


fae

head

fae (oblique fae, possessive adjective faer, possessive pronoun faers, reflexive faerself)

fae (oblique)
faer (adjective possessive)
faers (possessive pronoun without-noun)
faerself (reflexive)

Vandikas' parents, for example, haven't yet fully embraced the concept. Faer mother once asked faer to help her understand how fae would like her to talk about faer. Fae was encouraged, but faer mother's use of the pronouns didn't last – maybe, fae said, because it was such a foreign concept to the older generation, "so I just said to myself, she's my mom, I'll deal with it."

2016 September 22, Kim Zarzour, “Language Matters”, in Parkdale Villager, Parkdale, Toronto, ON, page 15:

Fae had decked faerself in a modest amount of cheap jewelry, faer makeup inexpertly applied.

2022, Novae Caelum, The Truthspoken Heir: The Stars and Green Magics - Season One, unnumbered page:

Soul describes and shares part of the "I AM" poem which fae wrote for faer college application.

2022, Sherry Paris, You Can Make a Difference!: A Creative Workbook and Journal for Young Activists, page 24:

(rare, nonstandard, neologism) A gender-neutral third-person singular subject pronoun, equivalent to singular they, and coordinate with gendered pronouns he and she.


hormones

If the doctor gives the OK, I should be able to start hormones by the end of the month.

Hormone replacement therapy
hormone replacement therapy

(chiefly transgender slang) Hormone replacement therapy.


queerness

en-noun

queerness (countable and uncountable, plural queernesses)

(uncountable) The quality of being queer, in the sense of not conforming to sexual or gender norms.


leatherman

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A member of a homosexual male subculture that grew out of male-only motorcycle clubs formed by homosexual veterans returning from World War II, stressing masculinity in contradiction to androgynous and effeminate gay stereotypes, characterized by a fetish for leather gear and clothing, a sense of hierarchy, and a fraternal, militaristic code of protocol and behavior, often involving BDSM practices.


postoperative

/pəʊstˈɒpəɹətɪv/

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A transgender person who has undergone gender reassignment surgery.


bull dyke

Superficially bull + dyke, although bulldyke predates dyke by several decades. See dyke for more.

(colloquial, LGBTQ, sometimes derogatory) A masculine or butch lesbian. (See usage notes about dyke (“lesbian”).)


queering

queering (countable and uncountable, plural queerings)

(LGBTQ, social sciences) The process by which something is queered.


muffing

muffing (countable and uncountable, plural muffings)

In the sexual sense, popularized by Mira Bellwether's 2010 zine "Fucking Trans Women".

Muffing is a penetration technique enjoyed by some non-op trans women. It involves fingering (or otherwise penetrating) the inguinal canals, the canals through which the testes drop during puberty. […] Sometimes the testes are pushed back up into the body during muffing, and sometimes they're simply moved aside […]

2015, Allison Moon, Girl Sex 101, Allison Moon, →ISBN, page 153:

[…] she says she and her partner were having a great time last night and she really enjoyed the muffing.

2018, Eric Yarbrough, Transgender Mental Health, page 177:

(slang, uncountable) Penetration of the inguinal canal (e.g. with a finger, or by pushing the testicle back inside it) as a form of sexual activity among trans women and other people with testicles.


switch-hitter

I met this fat, balding, bisexual 'switch-hitter'— that was his word, 'switch-hitter'— and he was my first experience."

1983, Edmund White, States of Desire: Travels in Gay America, page 218:

The thinking is Ralston's gay—lots of us Fifth Squadders think he's gay. […] Or maybe he's a switch-hitter, a bisexual. Who knows?

2010, Paul Bouchard, A Package at Gitmo, page 78:

(slang, sexuality) A person who has sex with both male and female sexual partners.


U-Haul lesbian

The expression may have been originated in the early 1980s by comic Lea DeLaria, who joked:
: Q: What does a lesbian bring on a second date?
: A: A U-Haul.

(slang, US, often derogatory, in North American lesbian culture) A lesbian in a relationship that progresses very quickly, for example moving in together after only a short period of time.


hasbian

On the Hasbian Phenomenon [article title]

1989 June, Patricia Roth Schwartz, “On the Hasbian Phenomenon”, in off our backs, page 11; quoted in Arlene Stein, Sex and Sensibility: Stories of a Lesbian Generation, Berkeley; Los Angeles, Calif.: University of California Press, 1997, page 228, footnote 10

Evelyn White reports that in feminist circles, lesbians who have gone straight — apparently all the rage these days — are known as ‘hasbians’.

1990 March 12, Herb Caen, “Plenty of Monday”, in The San Francisco Chronicle:

Say that you’d only just got used to telling your friends your daughter was a lesbian and do not relish having to inform them that she is now a hasbian.

1995 November 20, “Dear Dawn”, in The Dominion:

(LGBTQ, slang, derogatory, sometimes offensive) A woman who formerly identified as lesbian but now identifies as heterosexual or bisexual.


eonism

Coined 1920 by British physician and sexologist Havelock Ellis (1859–1939) after Chevalier d'Eon (1728–1810), a French diplomat, spy and soldier who presented as male for 49 years, then as female for 33. Ellis had previously used the term sexo-aesthetic inversion.

The chief of these intermediate sexual anomalies are: (1) physical hermaphroditism in its various stages; (2) gynandromorphism, or eunuchoidism, in which men possess characters resembling those of males who have been early castrated and women possess similarly masculine characters; (3) sexo-esthetic inversion, or Eonism (Hirschfeld's transvestism or cross-dressing), in which, outside the specifically sexual emotions, men possess the tastes of women and women those of men.

1927, Havelock Ellis, Studies in the Psychology of Sex, Volume 2 (of 6):

Ellis seems, however, to regard this 'less common but more complete' type as embodying the essence of eonism, and he objected to the term transvestism because it focused attention solely on the element of cross-dressing.

2006, Richard Ekins, Dave King, The Transgender Phenomenon, SAGE Publishing, page 63:

2013, C. N. Armstrong, 12: Transvestism, D. Robertson Smith, William M. Davidson (editors), Symposium on Nuclear Sex, Elsevier (Butterworth-Heinemann), page 88,
Homosexuals do not as a rule want to change their sex and identity. This is the fundamental anomaly in eonism.

(sexology) The pretence of being the opposite sex, especially that by a man of being a woman; transvestism.

éonisme

pretence of being the opposite sex — see also transvestism


gay bob

en-adj

gay bob (comparative more gay bob, superlative most gay bob)

more gay bob (comparative)
most gay bob (superlative)

If you're too gay bob and want to go play with your dolls instead, I guess you don't have to play football with us.

(derogatory, colloquial) Divergent from the group, by comparison with a homosexual.

gay

pejorative for divergent, by comparison with homosexual


ladyboy

(colloquial, chiefly Thailand) A trans woman or transfeminine person in or from Asia.

人妖

effeminate homosexual man, especially an intergender person — see also kathoey

ニューハーフ ((pseudo-anglicism: from "new half"), レディーボーイ


yuri

Borrowed from Japanese 百合(ゆり) (yuri, “lily”), by analogy to 薔薇(バラ) (bara, “rose”), indicating love. See Yuri (genre) § “Terminology and etymology” at Wikipedia.

(slang) A narrative or visual work featuring a romance or sexual relationship between two or more women.

Yuri (genre)
Yuri (genre)#Terminology and etymology

ガールズラブ (gāruzu rabu, literally “girls' love”)

가르즈라부 (gareujeurabu, literally “girls' love”)


intersexuality

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The state of having the physical features of both sexes, or of having ambiguous sex, i.e. not unambiguously male or female.

intersexualitate

the state of having physical features of both sexes


gay rights

The concept that people of minority sexual orientations such as homosexuality (gay people), are entitled to the same rights and considerations as heterosexuals.


phalloplasty

sex reassignment surgery
sex reassignment surgery

(surgery) Plastic surgery to construct or repair a penis, performed to repair injury or as part of sex reassignment surgery.

siittimen korjausleikkaus

plastic surgery to construct or repair a penis


Adam and Steve

(humorous, often attributive) A phrase, often satirical, recasting the Biblical couple of Adam and Eve as a homosexual couple, Adam and Steve. In context, it may be used as a pejorative against either homosexuality or religious opposition to it.

Adão e Ivo

a phrase recasting the Biblical couple of Adam and Eve as a homosexual couple


bio queen

(idiomatic, slang, LGBTQ) A biologically female performance artist who performs in female drag at drag shows, or acts like a drag queen.


kamp

Spelling variant of camp (“homosexual”).

Finally we found the Western Park, a scungy unpopular pub then, which agreed to allow kamp girls to drink there.

1990, Julia Penelope, Sarah Valentine, Finding the Lesbians: Personal Accounts from Around the World, page 74:

It was 1961 and the kamp girls' scene had grown larger. Many Maori had begun moving to the cities, and among them were not only many more Maori drag queens but also Maori kamp girls.

1992, Stephan Likosky, Coming Out, page 264:

(New Zealand, historical) lesbian (in Maori communities)


tranny chaser

(slang, derogatory) Someone who is sexually attracted to transgender or transsexual people, generally in a fetishistic way.


pan

When she publicly acknowledged that she is pan, it educated citizens near and far on what that sexuality meant and the importance of being proud of who you are.

2012 December 28, Anna Waugh, “Texas got a pansexual legislator”, in Dallas Voice, volume 29, number 33, page 9:

Another anonymous pansexual disclosed, "Sometimes I feel really left out because I'm pan. […] "

2013, Alejandra Rodriguez, "Isn't That Bisexual?", Outwrite, Fall 2013, page 7

A similar experience is shared by individuals who identify their sexuality as pan, bi or queer.

2013, Megan Hertner, "Understanding Gender and Sexuality", Grapevine (Huron University College), December 2013, page 19


MSM

en-noun

MSM (countable and uncountable, plural MSM or MSMs)

men who have sex with men
w:men who have sex with men

(epidemiology) Initialism of men who have sex with men.


MSM

Meritorious Service Medal
w:Meritorious Service Medal

(military, US) Initialism of Meritorious Service Medal.

Modern Standard Mandarin
Modern Standard Mandarin#English


double-decker

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Indian MSM include self-identified gay men (Western acculturated), kothis (men who tend to be the receptive male partner in anal and oral sex and typically have more effeminate mannerisms), panthis (men who tend to be the insertive male partner in anal and oral sex), and double deckers (men who are both receptive and insertive partners). While MSM may self-identify as kothi, the terms panthi and double-decker are generally given by kothis to their male partners based on their sexual roles.

2011 December 29, Beena Thomas et al., “HIV in Indian MSM: Reasons for a concentrated epidemic & strategies for prevention”, in The Indian Journal of Medical Research, volume 134, number 6, →DOI, →ISSN, →PMID, page 921:

A double-decker is a term used for someone who functions as both. Double-deckers and Kothis have a high risk of HIV and sexually transmitted diseases according to studies among different MSM sub-groups in the nation.

2016 June 6, “Understanding LGBTQ+: An exhaustive explainer on gender and sexual identities”, in The News Minute:

Participants were either kothi (feminine acting, usually the receptive sexual partner) or double-decker (either insertive or receptive sexual partner; usually has male and female partners) at screening, and were required to speak English, Tamil (in Chennai), or Hindi (in Mumbai) fluently.

2021 April 29, Steven A Safren et al., “Strengthening resilience to reduce HIV risk in Indian MSM: a multicity, randomised, clinical efficacy trial”, in The Lancet Global Health, volume 9, number 4, →DOI, →PMID, page e448:

(India, LGBTQ slang) a man who both penetrates (top) and is penetrated (bottom) in sex with other men; sometimes also has relationships with women and/or presents masculine as well as feminine mannerisms and appearances.


labrys

From Ancient Greek λάβρυς (lábrus, “axe”), from Lydian 𐤩𐤠𐤡𐤭𐤧𐤳 (lapryš).

She said more Arts Council staff were expressing support by wearing labyrises ^([sic]) and pink triangles.

1988 April 2, Elizabeth Pincus, “NY Post gay-baits Arts Council”, in Gay Community News, page 5:

(LGBTQ) A symbol of a double-headed axe used to represent lesbian pride.


bleeder

Vostral (2008) sees menstrual technology as focused on allowing women to “pass” as non-bleeders, speaking to the sense of the female body as dysfunctional, problematic, and “out of control.”

2014, Michael O'Loughlin, Marilyn Charles, Fragments of Trauma and the Social Production of Suffering, page 154:

(LGBTQ) A person who menstruates (used in the context of transgender inclusivity).


two-spirit

Modern English neologism, coined in 1990 in English and also translated in 1990 into Ojibwe niizh manidoowag (“two spirits”, from niizh (“two”) + manidoo (“spirit”)). Replaced berdache (considered offensive) in anthropological literature.

cog

"'The elders will tell you the difference between a gay Indian and a Two-Spirit,' [Joey Criddle] said, underscoring the idea that simply being gay and Indian does not make someone a Two-Spirit."

2006, John Leland, “A Spirit of Belonging, Inside and Out”, in The New York Times:

"The term/identity of two-spirit does not make sense unless it is contextualized within a Native American frame." "Today, most people associate the term with LGBT Natives; however, the work of the two-spirit organizations is more akin with the traditional understanding."

2016, Harlan Pruden and Se-ah-dom Edmo for the National Congress of American Indians Policy Research Center, “Two-Spirit People: Sex, Gender & Sexuality in Historic and Contemporary Native America”, in ReWire:

A Native (North) American gender-variant, homosexual or bisexual person (especially one belonging to a traditional tribal third-gender, fourth-gender or transgender cultural category that has a ceremonial role).

ayagigux̂

gender-variant Native American — see also berdache

a'yai-kik-ahsi (male-bodied; lit. "acts like a woman")

awau-katsik-saki (female-bodied, lit. "warrior woman")

ninauh-oskiti-pahpyaki (female-bodied, lit. "manly-hearted woman")

he'émáné'e

male-bodied trans person; hermaphrodite; gay man

he'émane (male-bodied; lit. "pretends to be woman")

hetanémáné'e (female-bodied trans person; lesbian; lit. "pretends to be man")

mixo'ge (transvestite or transgender person)

st'amia (intersex/bigender person; female-bodied trans person)

êyihkwêw

especially in Plains Cree; male-bodied trans-/bi-/third-gender person

tüdayapi (male-bodied; lit. "dress like other sex")

ikwekaazo (male-bodied; lit. "men who chose to function as women" / "one who endeavors to be like a woman")

ininiikaazo (female-bodied; lit. "women who functioned as men" / "one who endeavors to be like a man".)

mix'uga (male-bodied; lit. "instructed by the moon")

ckúsaat

Skiri Pawnee: male-bodied person who lives and dresses as a woman

ndéʼsdzan (male-bodied, lit. "woman-man")

tonoo'tcim (Kocheyali; lit. "undertaker" but sometimes used of two-spirits; see entry)

tonochim (Tachi Yokuts; lit. "undertaker" but sometimes used of two-spirits; see entry)

í-wa-musp (male-bodied, lit. "man-woman")

musp-íwap náip (female-bodied, lit. "woman man-girl")

iwap kuti (Huchnom; male-bodied, lit. "man-woman")

female-bodied two-spirit, lit. "girl-man, tomboy")


compersion

/kəmˈpɜːʒən/

Coined by Kerista Community in the 1970s, probably following the model of dispersion. Less likely a derivation from the root of the Latin verb partior (“to divide, to share”) + prefix com- (“with”).
Another hypothesis that it may be derived from French compère (“partner”) + -sion, based on an earlier use of the French compérage to denote the practice of brothers-in-law sharing wives observed among Tupi people of the Brazilian Amazon, is less plausible: not only does it not correspond to any known morphological process, but a website run by former members of the community clearly states that neither the word compérage nor Lévi-Strauss's book were known to them at the time.

coin

A major component of jealousy, for many people, is the suspicion or resentment of the rival. In Kerista, on the other hand, the relationship that every man had with the other men and that every woman had with the other women elicited what they called “compersion” rather than jealousy.

1998, Ayala Malach Pines, Romantic Jealousy: Causes, Symptoms, Cures, Routledge, →ISBN, page 140:

There is nothing either magical or wrong with sex with more than one person at the same time. […] The beautiful thing about this dynamic is that it offers opportunities for compersion (the opposite of jealousy) and is symbolic of the expansiveness and unity we can feel in our love for each other.

2003, Mystic Life, Spiritual Polyamory, iUniverse, →ISBN, page 46:

I think this is the easiest way to teach compersion, to immerse oneself in the unconditional approval of another person’s pleasure.
We usually seek compersion in the context of our lover being sexual with another person, which can be very beautiful, but equally scary.
Compersion is the coveted secret elixer of emotions because it promises to turn the pain of jealousy into an ecstatic calm, or ecstatic release.

2005, Serena Anderlini-D’Onofrio, editor, Plural Loves, Haworth Press, →ISBN, page 174:

Some polyamorous people experience compersion, which means feeling joy that one’s partner is sharing closeness with another person (Keener, 2004; Polyamory Society, 1997). Keener’s (2004) study participants noted an absence of worry as to whether their partners might be cheating […]

2006, Ronald C. Fox, Ph.D. (editor), Affirmative Psychotherapy with Bisexual Women and Bisexual Men, Haworth Press, page 140

(neologism) Vicarious joy associated with seeing one's partner have a joyful romantic or sexual relation with another.

myötäilo

joy about partner's relation with another


flaming queen

By his senior year, Gary was a "flaming queen," wearing full makeup and platform shoes.

2003, Leila J. Rupp, Verta Taylor, Drag Queens at the 801 Cabaret, University Of Chicago Press, →ISBN, page 29:

No person could be masculine without becoming fully feminine, and no person could be feminine without also at the same time becoming fully masculine. In ethical-prescriptive terms, this would be interpreted as meaning that all femmes must become as butch as possible, and all butches must work their hardest to become flaming queens. Everyone must take the macho, made-up, cross-dressing basketball star or actor as the Christian role model—or the hyperfeminine drag queen fashion model, or the gentlemanly butch lesbian country singer.

2006, Dale B. Martin, Sex and the Single Savior: Gender and Sexuality in Biblical Interpretation, Westminster John Knox Press, →ISBN, page 89:

Outside the cell, Jose carried himself like a true gentleman, yet behind his cell door with Candy, he'd frolicked about like a flaming queen; Jose traipsed around in homemade thongs, cropped T-shirts, cut-off shorts and shower slippers.

2006, Meadows Damon Amin, Jason Poole, Convict's Candy, Ghettoheat, →ISBN, page 91:

(slang, LGBTQ) A homosexual, and often cross-dressing, man acting in an ostentatious and flaunting manner akin to a diva.


affirming

en-adj

affirming (comparative more affirming, superlative most affirming)

more affirming (comparative)
most affirming (superlative)

From Middle English affermynge; equivalent to affirm + -ing.

We remain because we are not without hope that the liberating spirit of Christ will make itself known through our insistence upon sharing fully in the life of the church as lesbian and gay Christians. We also stay because of the vital experiences of community with other lesbian, gay, bisexual and affirming Christians — community made possible by our mutual willingness to become visible to, and vulnerable with, one another.

1992, William R. Johnson, “Protestantism and Gay and Lesbian Freedom”, in Betty Berzon, editor, Positively Gay: New Approaches to Gay and Lesbian Life, updated and expanded edition, Berkeley, California: Celestial Arts, →ISBN, page 150:

For Paul would readily admit that as a Christian who is gay he knows first-hand what it means to experience the grace of God, divine grace that is received in the context of a welcoming—but not automatically affirming—church.

1998, Stanley J. Grenz, Welcoming but Not Affirming: An Evangelical Response to Homosexuality, Louisville, Kentucky: Westminster John Knox Press, →ISBN, page xii:

The majority of Episcopal churches that you’re visiting will be fairly affirming.

2018, Carol A. Shepherd, quoting Connor Gwyn, Bisexuality and the Western Christian Church: The Damage of Silence, Cham, Switzerland: Palgrave Macmillan, →DOI, →ISBN, page 245:

The Church of the Nazarene should be an affirming church because, as Wesleyans, we believe the Spirit shapes us and can even help us enter the process of reconciliation when we have been wrong.

2023, Katie A. Donaldson, “The Spirit Transforms”, in Thomas Jay Oord and Alexa Oord, editors, Why the Church of the Nazarene Should Be Fully LGBTQ+ Affirming, [United States]: SacraSage Press, →ISBN:

(Christianity) Accepting of same-sex/same-gender sexual relationships – or, more broadly, the gender identities, sexual orientations, and sexual relationships of LGBTQ people – on the same terms as those of cisgender, heterosexual people.


genderqueer

From gender + queer. First known appearance in print was in 1995 in a newsletter by Riki Wilchins.

(LGBTQ, sometimes offensive) Not exclusively male or female; having or pertaining to a gender identity which is not represented by the gender binary.

genderqueer

having a non-binary gender — see also non-binary


gay marriage

en-noun

gay marriage (countable and uncountable, plural gay marriages)

Marriage between two people of the same sex.

زَوَاج مِثْلِيّ

marriage between two people of the same sex

matrimonio tra persone dello stesso sesso

małżeństwo osób tej samej płci n małżeństwo homoseksualne

matrimonio entre personas del mismo sexo


biphobia

/ˈbaɪˌfəʊbiːə/


spiro

Ultimately from Latin spīra (“coil, twist”).

(organic chemistry, attributively) A polycyclic compound or system that contains a single atom as the only common member of two rings.


spiro

I was on estradiol tablets, finasteride, micronized progesterone, and spironolactone. I had an orchiectomy and have been taken off of progesterone and spiro. As far as changes to my body, they have been very miniscule in comparison to a person half my age. The most changes have been in my face.

2022, Laura Erickson-Schroth, editor, Trans Bodies, Trans Selves, 2nd edition, Oxford University Press, →ISBN, page 315:

After trying everything short of Accutane, she finally found her magic combo of spironolactone and hormonal birth control. “Birth control and spiro were my dream duo,” she says. “They knocked out my acne, my skin was flawless, but I had to have both.”

2022 January 31, Bella Cacciatore, “How Pregnancy and Social Media Helped Kara Nesvig’s Hormonal Acne”, in Glamour:

Important to keep in mind: It usually takes up to three months to see a difference with tretinoin. So don’t expect miracles in a matter of a few weeks. However! Because I had been using tret previously, it really was like I just added the tranexamic acid and topical spiro to my routine.

2024 September 24, Beth Gillette, “I Tested Apostrophe, and I’ll Never Get Acne Meds From My Derm’s Office Again”, in Cosmopolitan:

(pharmacology, informal) Clipping of spironolactone.


transgendered

en-adj

transgendered (comparative more transgendered, superlative most transgendered)

more transgendered (comparative)
most transgendered (superlative)

RAQUEL WELCH (left), moviedom's sex queen soon to be seen as the heroine/hero of Gore Vidal's transgendered "Myra Breckinridge," will be featured in her first television special at 8 p.m. today on CBS.

1970 April 26, “Raquel Welch”, in TV Guide, archived from the original on 2012-06-04:

(now uncommon and often offensive and proscribed) Transgender; denoting or relating to a person whose gender identity does not correspond with their sex assigned at birth.


hys

Petti’s effort was motivated by hys desire to change a practice that hy recognized as discriminatory, and thus clearly contrary to CC’s values.

2014, Han Sayles, “Beyond Inclusivity: An investigation of CC’s new trans-inclusive healthcare”, in Cipher Magazine (Colorado College), archived from the original on 2020-11-18, page 8:

(LGBTQ, nonstandard) Gender-variant or gender-neutral spelling of his.


gay up

en-verb

gay up (third-person singular simple present gays up, present participle gaying up, simple past and past participle gayed up)

gays up (present singular third-person)
gaying up (participle present)
gayed up (participle past)
gayed up (past)

(colloquial, transitive) To give something gay characteristics.


unpassable

I resolved that night that I would never, ever turn my back on a transgender friend — be they transsexual, cross-dresser, drag queen, or gender-fuck — no matter how unpassable they might be or how much they might get me clocked.

2009, Lannie Rose, Everything Nice, page 191:

(LGBTQ) Unable to pass successfully as the gender one wishes to be seen as.


troon

Etymology tree
Proto-Indo-European *terh₂-der.
Proto-Italic *trānts
Latin trāns
Latin trans-bor.
English trans-
Proto-Indo-European *ǵenh₁-
Proto-Indo-European *-os
Proto-Indo-European *ǵénh₁os
Latin genus
Old French gendrebor.
Middle English gendre
English gender
English transgenderblend.
Proto-Indo-European *dʰeǵʰ-
Proto-Indo-European *-ōm
Proto-Indo-European *dʰéǵʰōm
Proto-Indo-European *-ō
Proto-Indo-European *ǵʰmṓ
Proto-Germanic *gumô
Proto-West Germanic *gumō
Old English guma
Middle English gone?
English gooney
English goonblend.
English troon
Blend of transgender + goon (“member of Something Awful”). Coined in the comedy website and internet forum Something Awful in the late 2000s.

etymon

transgender>having a gender different from one's assigned sex

blend

goon<t:member of Something Awful><id:member of Something Awful>

Coordinate term: pooner

Good Woke Boys pretending like they didn't obsessively post "troons are mentally ill" for 5 years is my favorite* part of twitter

2016 September 19, @uchimatador, Twitter, archived from the original on 2023-05-29:

When the troons speak about ‘gender neutral spaces’ ALWAYS maintain they are promoting unisex spaces.

2020 August 29, @fifyfomum, Twitter, archived from the original on 2020-08-29:

how do I wear skirts without coming off like a troon twitter no-fashion-sense transbian

2021 October 26, @coolestrogen, Twitter, archived from the original on 2021-10-26:

(anti-LGBTQ slur, Internet slang, derogatory, offensive) A transgender person; most commonly, a trans woman.


orchi

Listen, when I come down to Mexico for my “orchi,” I want Dr. Arias to do some other stuff as well.” “Orchi” is a name we use for the surgical castration of our testicles. It's technically called an orchiectomy.

2012, Judith D. Rudakoff, Trans(per)forming Nina Arsenault: An Unreasonable Body of Work, Intellect Books, →ISBN, page 216:

(surgery, transgender slang) Clipping of orchiectomy.


heteronormativity

en-noun

heteronormativity (countable and uncountable, plural heteronormativities)

The assumption that all human beings are either male or female in both sex and gender, and that sexual and romantic attraction and activity only occurs, or is only normal, between people of different sexes.


pansexual

From pan- + -sexual. First attested in 1926 (with pansexualism attested since 1917), as a descriptor of the psychological theory that all human activity is based on sexuality. Used to describe a sexual orientation since at least the 1970s.

We like to attend pansexual group sex parties, which means that attendees may identify as gay or lesbian or bisexual or hetero or transgendered, but are generally comfortable and happy to play side-by-side with people whose desires may be entirely different than their own.

1998, Dossie Easton, Catherine A. Liszt, The Ethical Slut, →ISBN, page 262:

Welcoming people of all sexual orientations.


Dorian

en-adj

Dorian (comparative more Dorian, superlative most Dorian)

more Dorian (comparative)
most Dorian (superlative)

Constructed like the French Doriens. From the Latin root of Dōres + -ian. Compare Ancient Greek Δωριεύς (Dōrieús, “of Doris”).

cog

while the [Dorian] love of males for males in Greece obtained moralisation, and reached the high position of a recognised social function, the [Lesbian] love of female for female remained undeveloped and unhonoured

1883, John Addington Symonds, chapter 19, in A Problem in Greek Ethics:

All the Spartan kings and generals grew up under the institution of Dorian love. Epameinondas and Alexander were notable lovers; and the names of their comrades are recorded.

1890, John Addington Symonds in A. Strahan, The Contemporary Review, page 416:

And the evidence from Symonds's Memoirs seems to suggest that 'Ionian' implied pederastic relations, as attested in ancient Athens, whereas 'Dorian' involved two virile men.

2011, Daniel Orrells, Classical Culture and Modern Masculinity, page 159:

Dorian love, on the other hand, was a love between two virile equals, and so exceptional and unique.

2012, Daniel Orrells, “Greek love, orientalism and race: intersections in Classical reception”, in The Cambridge Classical Journal, Cambridge University Press:

Gay may not be ideal, and it has acquired negative connotations in recent years. I'd much prefer the beautiful word, Dorian, which can be both noun and adjective.

2015, John Lauritsen, “Down With LGBTQ!”, in Gay Liberation, Utrecht University:

Wilde’s choice for his main protagonist’s name a “veiled reference to ‘Dorian’ or ‘Greek’ love”.

2015, Lotte Campman, chapter 1, in Greek Love and Love for All Things Greek: Gay Subtext and Greek Intertext in Works by Oscar Wilde, page 9:

"Dorian love" between two masculine adult men should now be seen as a model for modern democratic, socialist politics.

2022, Sarah Olsen & Mario Telò, chapter 1, in Queer Euripides: Re-Readings in Greek Tragedy, page 31:

(of a man) Homosexual, gay; preferring exclusively men as romantic or sexual partners; male counterpart of lesbian.


Dorian

A male given name from Ancient Greek, famously used by Oscar Wilde in his novel The Picture of Dorian Gray (1891).


polyamorist

This lack of interest in multi-party marriage among polyamorists is particularly interesting given the fact that, as mentioned above, there is often a legal marriage between at least two of the partners in a polyfidelitous group.

2005, Kelsi Brown Corkran, “Exclusion and Expression in Marriage”, in The Georgetown Journal of Gender and the Law, volume 6, number 1, page 61:

An advocate or practitioner of polyamory.


dyke

Dyke (slang)
Green's Dictionary of Slang
dyke

Uncertain. Attested since the 1940s (in Berrey and Van den Bark’s 1942 American Thesaurus of Slang) or 30s. Semantic development from dyke (“ditch”) has been proposed, and some sources from the 1890s are said to record dyke as slang for "vulva" and hedge of the dyke as slang for "pubic hair", but Green's Dictionary of Slang says this is not found in connection to lesbianism and Dictionary.com considers a connection unlikely.
Bull dyke / bulldike is attested earlier, in reference to women since at least the 1920s (the 29 July 1892 Decatur Daily Review in Illinois mentions a woman who "won the affections of Harvey Neal, alias 'Bulldyke'", whose gender is unclear); compare dike (“noun: well-dressed man; verb: be well dressed”)), bulldyker, and bulldyking, which are all attested earlier than bare dyke, e.g. in Parke's 1906 Human Sexuality, in the speech of Philadelphians, and backcountry black Americans. Compare bulldagger, attested since around the same time and used especially by black women.
Other linguists suggested that bull dyke(r) referred to strong black women who dug dikes, or derived from bull + dick, perhaps in reference to black men. It has also been suggested dyke is a shortening of morphodyke, from morphodite, from hermaphrodite, but the derivation may go in the other direction instead, with morphodyke being a blend of morphodite with the already-extant word dyke.

(slang, usually derogatory, loosely, offensive) A non-heterosexual woman.


pansexuality

en-noun

pansexuality (usually uncountable, plural pansexualities)

They know nothing of flower power or meditation, pansexuality, or mind expansion.

1976 June 7, Nik Cohn, “Inside the Tribal Rites of the New Saturday Night”, in New York Magazine:

A sexual orientation characterized by the potential for aesthetic attraction, romantic love and/or sexual desire for people regardless of their gender or sex.


celesbian

Ellen DeGeneres and Portia de Rossi are well known celesbians.

The weekend parties, which feature thong-clad girls writhing on stripper poles, are hip enough to pull in a mix of faux-hawks, bridge-and-tunnel singles, celesbians, and even a spattering of boys.

2006 March 13, “Best Lesbian Bar”, in New York, volume 39, numbers 8–14, page 84:

I might've been able to get by with the whole gay thing had Gait been a "celesbian," like Ellen DeGeneres or Sheryl Swoopes.

2008, Linda Villarosa, Passing for Black, page 180:

Marie Claire got lucky in November with Lindsay Lohan talking openly about her "celesbian" affair, and InStyle struck gold in April with the freshly bobbed Katie Holmes.

2009, Sally Jackson, “Stand out and sell”, in The Australian, page 14:

Some clients will think that the life of celesbians (celebrity lesbians visible in movies and television) represent the life that all lesbians will have — leading to disappointment, confusion, and, in some, despair.

2010, Geoffrey L. Greif, Paul H. Ephross, editors, Group Work with Populations at Risk, 3rd edition, page 364:

A celebrity who is also famous for being a lesbian.


gynophilia

Alternative form of gynephilia (“love of women”)


TG

TG (countable and uncountable, plural TGs)

you can get rid of a man you don't like by writing a letter of introduction and putting him, with it, into the train. TG's are best treated thus.

1888, Rudyard Kipling, 'A Friend's Friend', Plain Tales from the Hills, Folio Society, published 2005, page 176:

temporary gentleman
temporary gentleman#English

transformational grammar
transformational grammar#English

Often, TGs are forced to revert to their original gender in order to obtain services.

1997, Nancy Goldstein, Jennifer L Manlowe, The Gender Politics of HIV/AIDS in Women:


gay pride

Gay Pride, for all its need to show off, did not alienate old-liners of the homophile movement, nor uncommitted young and middle-aged gays, nor even old and/or closety homosexuals.

1971, Donn Teal, The gay militants, page 85:

A feeling of pride in one's homosexuality; embrace of a positive gay identity and rejection of shame imposed by homophobia.

فَخْر مِثْلِيِّين

a feeling of pride in one's homosexuality


charge up

en-verb

charge up (third-person singular simple present charges up, present participle charging up, simple past and past participle charged up)

charges up (present singular third-person)
charging up (participle present)
charged up (participle past)
charged up (past)

The subcultural vernacular “I'll charge you up" evokes the act of charging a battery or readying a mechanism for action; […]

2009, Tim Dean, Unlimited Intimacy: Reflections on the Subculture of Barebacking:

(LGBTQ, slang, transitive) To deliberately infect (a person) with HIV as part of bug-chasing.


piece of ass

(rare, US, LGBTQ, idiomatic, colloquial, vulgar) A male prostitute.


hirself

head

hirself (a reflexive, third person singular, gender-neutral (or multigendered) personal pronoun)

en-pron

From hir + -self, following pattern of herself, himself, and itself.

It is here that Scratch has found hirself, bored out of hir mind but unable to sleep.

1996 June, Catilin Sullivan with Bornstein, Kate, Nearly Roadkill: an Infobahn erotic adventure, New York: Serpent's Tail, →ISBN, →LCCN, →OL, LCC PS3569.U3449 N43 1996, page 13:

Hir nostrils flared, and s/he stopped where s/he was, balancing hirself on hir toes without thought, as if poising hirself to make some sort of attack on whoever was there.

2000, Peter David, Renaissance (Star Trek New Frontier: Excalibur #2), Simon & Schuster, →ISBN, →OL, page 229:

The working person discovered that hir own body belonged, not to the state or to the moralist or to the authoritarian doctor, but to hirself.

2001 June 9, Timothy Leary, chapter 8, in Your Brain is God, Oakland: Ronin Publishing, →ISBN, →LCCN, LCC BP570.L43 2001:

Alas, S/He then remembered S/He had created Hirself to be omnisciently all-knowing and all-seeing, so there were no possibilities S/He didn't already know.

2009, Pope Gus Rasputin Nishnabotna Sni-A-Bar, “Biscuitus”, in The Nuclear Platypus Biscuit Bible: A Spiritual Guide for the Disciples of Biscuitism, →ISBN, →LCCN, page 16:

Ze changed hir name to one of those New Testament names, and re-fashioned hirself into a soft, puffy, half-finished hermaphrodite nicknamed, The Pop n' Fresh Doe.

2010 October 12, Erica Lopez, The Girl Must Die: A Monster Girl Memoir, Hicken, Jeffrey, San Francisco: Monster Girl Media, →ISBN, →LCCN, page 143:

A harrowing series of violent and transphobic confrontations (including some with hir parents) drives Ludo to attempt to kill hirself by going to sleep in a freezer.

2011, Jody Norton, “Transchildren and the Discipline of Children's Literature”, in Kenneth B. Kidd, Michelle Ann Abate, editors, Over the Rainbow: Queer Children's and Young Adult Literature, University of Michigan, →ISBN, LCC PS374.H63 O84 2011, page 306:

(reflexive) Hir, themselves; gender-neutral third-person singular object of a verb or preposition that also appears as the subject, coordinate with gendered himself and herself.

The trouble starts when gender (identity) ceases to be a reference point for connecting with a living growing person and is substituted for the person hirself.

1997 December 18, Kate Bornstein, My Gender Workbook: How to Become a Real Man, a Real Woman, the Real You, or Something Else Entirely, London, New York: Routledge, →ISBN, →LCCN, →OL, LCC HQ1075.B69 1998, page 164:

OOC talk and actions are taken to represent the player hirself and help other players to form an image, however tentative it may be, of that player.

2002, Frank Schaap, The Words That Took Us There: Ethnography in a Virtual Reality, Amsterdam: Aksant Academic Publishers, →ISBN, →OL, page 90:

Ash hadn't experienced much of that hirself, but s/he assumed it could happen.

2003 April 1, Susan Wright, Slave Trade (Slave Trade Trilogy #1), Pocket Books, →ISBN, →OL, page 97:

(emphatic) Sie; an intensive repetition of a gender-neutral subject, often used to indicate exclusiveness of that person as the only satisfier of a predicate.


cisgendered

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They seemed to be rather tense at first, and it was very funny to see that after talking for a while they found out that a TS guy is actually just a person you can have a chat and a giggle with, just like they are! Amazing, isn't it? 9:-) Anyway, kind of feels nice, the fact that you might have created understanding and compassion for another T* which you don't even know, through 'educating' cisgendered people.

1996 April 11, Carl Buijs, “A new perspective on an old topic”, in soc.support.transgendered (Usenet):

Gendering is the process of classifying and identifying the gender of other people, quickly and usually unconsciously, based on just a few visual and/or audio clues. This process of gendering privileges cisgendered people as few cisgendered people have had the experience of being misgendered. The experience of being misgendered is common for all transgendered people before they transition and for many transgendered people after they transition.

2013, Kelby Harrison, “Introduction: Many Have Passed; Some Have Failed”, in Sexual Deceit: The Ethics of Passing, Lexington Books, →ISBN, page 12:


cisgendered

The fact that many cisgendereds accept me as a woman despite the fact that my body is male and they know it says some cisgendereds accept the concept that 'person' defines gender. The fact that other cisgendereds and transgendereds(!) will only define my gender by my body shows that others reject the idea that gender is defined by person.

1996 April 24, MarlaB 01, “Re: Interesting Book”, in soc.support.transgendered (Usenet):

(nonstandard, rare) Synonym of cisgender.


hirs

S/he leaned forward and, to Selar's surprise, took the doctor's hand firmly between hirs.

1997 July 1, Peter David, Star Trek New Frontier (Book 1), Simon & Schuster, →ISBN:

She saw that Burgoyne was hefting hirs experimentally, sweeping it through the air. S/he twirled it around a few times, swung it back and forth.

2000, Peter David, Renaissance (Star Trek New Frontier: Excalibur #2), Simon & Schuster, →ISBN, page 157:

Ze takes my right hand in hirs and folds it into a fist.

2006 March 22, Leslie Feinberg, Drag King Dreams, New York: Carroll & Graf, →ISBN, →LCCN, LCC PS3556.E427 D73 2006, page 205:

(nonstandard) That which belongs to hir, theirs (singular). Possessive case of hir, used in place of a noun. Coordinate with his and hers.


cisgender

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From cis- (“on this side of”) + gender, by analogy with transgender. First attested in 1997. Compare slightly earlier cisgendered (1994).

To uphold the inequality that we choose to engage in, we regularly present the myth that trans people are deviant or a danger to cisgender people.

2009 April 25, Renee Martin, The Guardian:

As trans people, we have many cisgender allies—those who show their support for the concerns, needs, and rights of trans people, even though they may not personally face the same issues.

2014, Laura Erickson-Schroth, Trans Bodies, Trans Selves, page 6:

R. Moskowitz charges cisgender readers to be as conscious and deliberate with our religious identities as transgender and gender non-conforming people are with theirs, arguing that holiness is only achieved through continuous and unrelenting struggle and change.

2019, Rachel Timoner, “Book Review: Textual Activism by Rabbi Mike Moskowitz”, in Tikkun:

Gender assumed many roles in this pandemic. Cisgender men were more likely to die from the virus, which seemed to be about inherent vulnerabilities of those with XY chromosomes.

2020 April 17, Rebecca Solnit, “Coronavirus does discriminate, because that’s what humans do”, in The Guardian:

Transgender people report discomfort with their birth sex and a strong identification with the opposite sex. The current study was designed to shed further light on the question of whether the brains of transgender people resemble their birth sex or their gender identity. For this purpose, we analyzed a sample of 24 cisgender men, 24 cisgender women, and 24 transgender women before gender-affirming hormone therapy. We employed a recently developed multivariate classifier that yields a continuous probabilistic (rather than a binary) estimate for brains to be male or female. The brains of transgender women ranged between cisgender men and cisgender women (albeit still closer to cisgender men), and the differences to both cisgender men and to cisgender women were significant (p = 0.016 and p < 0.001, respectively). These findings add support to the notion that the underlying brain anatomy in transgender people is shifted away from their biological sex towards their gender identity.

2022 March, Florian Kurth, Christian Gaser, Francisco J. Sánchez, Eileen Luders, “Brain Sex in Transgender Women Is Shifted towards Gender Identity”, in Journal of Clinical Medicine, →DOI, →ISSN, →OCLC, archived from the original on 2022-07-25, Abstract:

Having a gender identity which matches the sex one was assigned at birth; or, pertaining to such people.

متوافق الجنس

having a gender the same as one's assigned sex at birth


l-word

(euphemistic, humorous) Any word beginning with l that is not normally taboo but is considered (often humorously) to be so in the given context.

"I want a lawyer right now." Landry shook his head and thought, Damn, already the dreaded L-word.

2008 December 29, Michael Whaley, Murder at 8, AuthorHouse, →ISBN, page 187:

Scott Pilgrim: Because I'm in lesbians with you.
Ramona V. Flowers: ... what?

2010, Edgar Wright, Marc Platt, Eric Gitter, and Nira Park (producers), Scott Pilgrim vs. the World, Universal Pictures Wallace Wells: Break out the l-word. Scott Pilgrim: ‘Lesbian’? Wallace Wells: The other l-word. Scott Pilgrim: ... ‘lesbians’? Wallace Wells: It's ‘love’, Scott. (later in the film:)


ambisexuality

en-noun

ambisexuality (countable and uncountable, plural ambisexualities)

(uncountable) The state of being ambisexual.