factfem

Polite factfems help people outside of this discussion wake up 🥰

2020 January 11, Lorelei (@hatpinwoman), Twitter:

trying to be my best factfem self by writing a long introductory thread to radical feminism 😔✊

2021 December 12, Yana (@lesbian_envy), Twitter:

Benji is also a great factfem. She always has so much information.

2022 July 1, Lorelei (@hatpinwoman), Twitter:

(slang) A radical feminist who uses persuasion and education in their approach.


nicefem

Another day being a mean lesbian and not a nicefem and I've never felt hotter

2020 April 23, Inappropriate Happiness (@gaytoastu), Twitter:

im one of the nicefems too, i barely get in qrt fights and usually gender ppl correctly aswell^([sic]),,,, wait until they meet the rudefems😌

2020 November 15, Amy (@chlorofem), Twitter:

I’m getting there daily. I was sooo nice when I first peaked. And I appreciate nicefems, still am one, but I’m def learning to take less shit.

2021 March 13, zara (@cache_pas), Twitter:

(slang, sometimes derogatory) A radical feminist who is cordial and patient in their approach.


meanfem

I think we absolutely must be kind to rad learning women so they aren’t scared away by meanfems doing their thing 😋

2021 March 29, zara (@cache_pas), Twitter:

i love meanfems so much idgaf about appearing sane

2021 March 29, thea (@wingfem), Twitter:

It's become popular among the "meanfem" segment of radfems too.

2022 March 30, Fox (@RohanTheMajesty), Twitter:

(slang, sometimes derogatory) Synonym of rudefem.


febfem

Contraction of female-exclusive bisexual female.

possibly The spiciest take of today from me: generalising bi women is weird as hell and demanding that the only type of ""good"" bi women are febfems is 😐

2021 April 11, thea (@wingfem), Twitter:

i'm a febfem and i've never had a boyfriend in my life, now what

2021 September 22, sarah (@sarahofzion), Twitter:

i feel very lucky to be a goldstar febfem.

2022 July 4, wait shes selling vegan edibles?! (@commieharley), Twitter:

(LGBTQ, gender-critical) A cisgender bisexual woman who exclusively dates other cisgender women.


TEHM

Acronym of trans-exclusionary homosexual male. Coined after the pattern of TERF (“trans-exclusionary radical feminist”).

acronym

Slowly for the TEHMs at the back ... not fancying a trans man (if you’re gay) doesn’t make you a transphobe. Making a big issue of it, or ironically claiming you aren’t transphobic just because you don’t find trans men attractive, means you probably are transphobic!

2019 June 7, Eloïse-saur-u (@WorldWearyWoman), Twitter:

There is something organised about a load of TERFs and TEHMs who all follow each other on Twitter ganging up on Stonewall for supporting the trans community.

2021 May 23, doggy foodle (@doodle_bobby), Twitter:

can we also stop pretending like terf rhetoric doesn’t also deeply affect trans men? bc terfs are often the ones to spread misinfo like this and indoctrinate ppl into being TEHMs

2021 June 6, jay (@bumbleshines), Twitter:

(usually derogatory) A trans-exclusionary homosexual male; a gay man who holds gender-critical or anti-transgender views, particularly one who considers trans men to be women.


autogynesmile

I guess deep dream decided you needed a bigger autogynesmile

2015 July 19, Mirah Image (@mirahimage), Twitter:

And there's that autogynesmile, that DUPER'S DELIGHT.

2017 December 7, Doctress Jiu Bao (@DoctressXiaoMao), Twitter:

And always with the autogynesmile. That smug face would make me lose my shit.

2020 July 24, Dixie Chick (@dixiechick547), Twitter:

(slang, derogatory, gender-critical) A coy or gloating smile exhibited by a trans woman.


transvestigator

You gotta be kidding me. Transvestigators are wild. Here I am just tryna find some Anne Hathaway movies and I see this. [screenshot of a Google search in which the top "people also ask" result is "Was Anne Hathaway born a boy?"]

2019 November 7, Devastated 24/7 (@roo_tea), Twitter:

No you can't always tell. Of the trans women I've known who told me they were trans I certainly couldn't "tell" when I met them. And the transvestigators just suspect every cis woman.

2020 August 10, Ann Coates (@setoacnna), Twitter:

I've known cisgender women who were kicked out of restrooms by transvestigators. It's the most poorly developed of all the Bigotry Sciences right behind phrenology.

2022 May 19, Lylac Doll (@LylacDoll), Twitter:

conspiracy theories
conspiracy theory#Noun

(Internet slang, conspiracy theories) A person who performs transvestigation; someone who routinely conducts or promotes informal investigations into whether a public figure is secretly transgender, generally by analyzing that person's appearance and anatomical structure.


thembo

Blend of them + bimbo, by analogy with himbo.

2020, “Bimbos, himbos, thembos, and topping the almighty eggplant”, in Verse Magazine, 33rd edition, University of South Australia, published 2020, page 40:

Anyone who wishes to embrace their femininity and sexuality is welcome on the bimbos' glittery island, regardless of gender expression — Chlapecka address^([sic]) her audience as “bimbos, thembos, himbos, bimboys, or any 'bo' you wanna be” in a "get ready with me" video on her profile.

2021, Elena Plumb, “Rise of the Bimbo”, in The Avenue, Northeastern University, published Spring 2021, page 41:

Miller and Hanson hired nonbinary people and trans and cisgender men to staff their cart—describing the workforce as “himbos, thembos and flirts” on the cart's social media pages.

2021 November 3, Andrew Jankowski, “Hot Coffee Cart”, in Williamette Week, published 2021, page 24:

(slang, sometimes derogatory) A physically attractive non-binary person who lacks intelligence; the non-binary equivalent of a bimbo.


transpatient

If transpatients experience sub-standard, insensitive, or frankly discriminatory care in an emergency department, providers should address this deficiency directly with the department or hospital administration.

2005, R. Nick Gorton, Jamie Buth, Dean Spade, Medical Therapy and Health Maintenance for Transgender Men: A Guide For Health Care Providers, page 76:

Metabolic diseases also need to be considered in transpatients.

2014 January, Cécile A. Unger, “Care of the transgender patient: the role of the gynecologist”, in American Journal of Obstetrics & Gynecology, page 23:

The quickest way to thwart analytic work with transpatients is to use legally assigned, as opposed to chosen, names and pronouns.

2018, Sheila L. Cavanagh, “Principles for Psychoanalytic Work with Trans Clients”, in Oren Gozlan, editor, Current Critical Debates in the Field of Transsexual Studies: In Transition, unnumbered page:


FART

Acronym of feminism-appropriating reactionary transphobe deliberately constructed to be homonymous with fart.

Reminder that FARTs don't actually believe trans women are men. They don't speak to people they think are men the way they do to trans women.

2018 September 16, Panic Dixie Scream Girl (@ChaKatKimber), Twitter:

“Blaming trans people for everything” is to FARTs as Three Blind Mice is to the bloody recorder.

2019 May 16, Dan (@DanDanYamagata), Twitter:

Tellingly, FARTs often end up in alliance with other far right movements with xenophobic, white supremacist, and nativist and ethno-nationalist reactionary politics.

2022, Alex Khasnabish, Making Sense of Society: Power and Possibility, page 118:

(derogatory) A trans-exclusionary radical feminist (TERF).


booty bandit

The booty bandits, who craved sex with the weaker inmates, and the merchants, rich with scrounged or stolen items who kept safe through an uncanny craft to barter anything, followed.

2000, Rob Taft, Leaders of the City, page 23:

(prison slang) A male prison inmate who preys on other male inmates for sex.


golden shower boy

en-noun

golden shower boy (plural golden shower boys)

(LGBTQ, sexology) A male homosexual who enjoys urinating on other homosexuals or being urinated on by them.


girlslash

For quotations using this term, see Citations:girlslash.

(fandom slang) Slash fiction that focuses on romantic and/or sexual relationships between female characters.


antigenderist

From anti- + gender + -ist, anti- + genderist, or antigender + -ist.

For quotations using this term, see Citations:antigenderist.

One who supports or engages in antigenderism.


homocrat

Blend of homosexual + democrat. Coined or popularized by lesbian author and activist Sarah Schulman.

Although assimilationist gays, or “homocrats” in Sarah Schulman's parlance (Shepard 2001), were beginning to be elected and appointed to positions of power around the country, this incorporation (or co-optation) did not extend to[…]

2005 October 9, L.M. Bogad, Electoral Guerrilla Theatre: Radical Ridicule and Social Movements, Routledge, →ISBN, page 128:

Some, such as author Sara Schulman, blame the problem on the “homocrats” seduced into inaction by Bill Clinton. Yet, the phenomenon is not unique to the last decade. Since the birth of the modern gay liberation movement in 1969[…]

2001, Monthly Review: An Independent Socialist Magazine:

56 These political insiders, called "homocrats" by lesbian activist Sarah Schulman, were like many others in the early days of the Clinton Administration: virtual political newcomers to Washington. In an interview following the[…]

2013 October 15, Craig A. Rimmerman, Gay Rights, Military Wrongs: Political Perspectives on Lesbians and Gays in the Military, Routledge, →ISBN, page 283:

In the seventies, the argument raged between grassroots activists and homocrats. In the 1980s, the fight was between those favoring direct action and the gay lobbyists. In the early nineties the term assimilationist was popularized by[…]

2015 November 18, Urvashi Vaid, Virtual Equality: The Mainstreaming of Gay and Lesbian Liberation, Anchor, →ISBN:

Wealthy gays were outraged by our tactics, homocrats accused us of being counterproductive. Many people who felt that they owned or defined the gay movement were threatened by ACT UP. Within the organization there was a uniting[…]

2018 September 24, Sarah Schulman, My American History: Lesbian and Gay Life During the Reagan and Bush Years, Routledge, →ISBN:

(US, LGBTQ, chiefly historical) A gay person who supports slow and assimilationist movement toward equality, working politically with the Democratic Party; an assimilationist (as contrasted with a radical).


cisbi

I’m married, my husband is cishet but I’m always going to be cisbi.

2019 December 29, amanda (@rarityfirefly), Twitter:

Cisbi married couples elbow each other in the yogurt section when the young assistant manager with suspenders and Buddy Holly glasses walks by.

2021 December 16, Elizabeth (@EMK55102), Twitter:

I've seen it from cishet and cisgay people. But all my cisbi friends and my cisbi fiancée are as chill as can be.

2022 April 19, Joey (@AutumnBreezeOff), Twitter:

(LGBTQ, informal, neologism) Cisgender and bisexual.


cisbi

As a cishet married to a cisbi this doesn’t make her less bi for being in our relationship.

2020 January 1, RPGHour Studios (@RPGHour), Twitter:

The way cisgays gatekeep cisbis from the LGBT lunch table, telling them that they cannot sit with us and are too cishet for team rainbow

if a cisbi comes into queer spaces where we’re taking about our tangible oppression & they start yelling about not feeling *included* bc they’re in a straight passing relationship, sorry, but we aren’t even having the same convos, so there’s no point in trying to talk with them.

2022 June 7, sunglasses cryptid (@railroadlesbian), Twitter:

(LGBTQ, informal, neologism) A cisgender and bisexual person.


genderbread person

genderbread person (plural genderbread people)

From Blend of gender + gingerbread, from the resemblance to a gingerbread man.

He notes that schools are using cartoon characters such as a “genderbread person” or unicorn to indoctrinate students, beginning with seventh graders, to believe that one's biological sex, psychological sense of sex, manner of dress, and erotic feelings are independent of one another.

2019, David Limbaugh, Guilty By Reason of Insanity: Why The Democrats Must Not Win:

Have you ever been asked to complete a genderbread person? This person looks like a gingerbread cookie, but instead of drawing icing and eyes, you indicate your biological sex, your gender identity, and who you are sexually attracted to.

2022, Mary E. Kite, Bernard E. Whitley, Jr., Lisa S. Wagner, Psychology of Prejudice and Discrimination:

A simple diagram of a person with symbols over the brain, heart, and groin to represent a person's gender identity, orientation, and biological sex as separate aspects of the person, with a further label indicating outward gender expression.


Shiara

i'm having so many shiara feelings lately and i don't know why oh my god i love liara so much what a cutie

liara and f!shepard are the best. I love them. I love my Shep and Liara, i love seeing other people's f'sheps and Liara. Shiara is too pure

2016 November 17, Yeehaw Todd (@AfroPrincex), Twitter:

Daily reminder that I stan Shiara and that I live and die for them

2021 February 25, Atrast nal Tunsha, salroka (@Illusive_s0ul), Twitter:

(fandom slang) The ship of characters Commander Shepard and Liara T'Soni from the video game series Mass Effect.


Shenko

Finished my Shenko doodle but tumblr is barfing all over me. *kicks tumblr*

2011 July 8, Kia Purity (@kiapurity), Twitter:

I don't get some Shenko fans. It's like, yeah Kaidan is my space husbando but I ain't gonna flip shit if you don't like him lmao

2012 December 9, hannah (@floraofmoon), Twitter:

I have just read a 500k word Shenko fic that was far better than the game.

2020 February 5, Siân (@alphra_), Twitter:

(fandom slang) The ship of characters Commander Shepard and Kaidan Alenko from the video game series Mass Effect.


big dyke energy

(slang, somewhat derogatory) The equivalent of big dick energy in a lesbian; unassuming self-confidence in a lesbian.


LGBQ

Initialism of lesbian, gay, bisexual, queer.


U-Haul syndrome

(slang, US) In North American lesbian culture, the tendency of relationships to progress very quickly, for example when partners move in together after only a short period of time.


Lesbaru

Blend of lesbian + Subaru. Subaru was known for intentionally marketing to a lesbian demographic.

We have the Subaru Outback, or as it's more commonly known in the industry, the Lesbaru.

By then I was out and proud, with Martina Navratilova telling me to buy a Subaru. I liked the Lesbaru.

2016, Fay Jacobs, For Frying Out Loud: Rehoboth Beach Diaries, page 66:

(Canada, US, slang) A Subaru automobile, regarded as a popular choice of lesbian drivers.


Pearlnet

(fandom slang) The ship of characters Pearl and Garnet from the Steven Universe series.


Rupphire

(fandom slang) The ship of characters Ruby and Sapphire from the Steven Universe series.


Pearlmethyst

(fandom slang) The ship of characters Pearl and Amethyst from the Steven Universe series.


Harlivy

(fandom slang) The ship of characters Dr. Harleen Quinzel ("Harley Quinn") and Dr. Pamela Isley ("Poison Ivy") from DC Comics.


Lapidot

See also: Lapidoth
Romanization of Hebrew לַפִּידוֹת (Lapīḏōṯ, literally “torches”), a pluralization of לפיד (lapíd, “torch”).

der

Ma'ale Yosef Regional Council
w:Ma'ale Yosef Regional Council

A moshav in Ma'ale Yosef Regional Council council area, Northern District, Israel.


Lapidot

Blend of lapis (from lapis lazuli) and peridot.

(fandom slang) The ship of characters Lapis Lazuli and Peridot from the Steven Universe series.


Amedot

(fandom slang) The ship of characters Amethyst and Peridot from the Steven Universe series.


Pearlrose

Blend of pearl and rose (from rose quartz).

(fandom slang) The ship of characters Pearl and Rose Quartz from the Steven Universe series.


titty skittle

LL-Q1860 (eng)-Flame, not lame-titty skittle.wav

In reference to Skittles candy, as well as the breast growth caused by the extended use of estrogen.

Kayla even used the nickname for the little blue pills sold as Estrofem: titty skittles.

After six months of researching options for non-binary amab folk who want titty skittles without the titty, I am OFF TO MY FIRST HORMONE APPOINTMENT

2018 August 2, farbandish, Twitter, archived from the original on 2022-08-18:

My girlfriend's 1 year on titty skittle was yesterday!!!,

2019 February 9, mmtruooao, “Ya girl just took her first titty skittle :^)”, in Reddit, traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns, archived from the original on 2022-08-18:

2019 August 29, Darcyblue, “Guess who finally got on the titty skittles? This girl right here! This was a long wait.”, in Reddit, traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns, archived from the original on 2022-08-18:

Trans people I knew—the cultists! —had insisted that the “titty skittles” would make my breasts grow.

2020, Grace Lavery, “Egg Theory's Early Style”, in Transgender Studies Quarterly, page 388:

I DREAM OF A WORLD WHERE ONE DAY ALL GOATS CAN HOLD THEIR HEADS UP HIGH AND BLEAT A SONG OF JOY BECAUSE THEIR PRIVATES MATCH THEIR GENDER IDENTITY AND EVERYONE IS OK WITH THAT PLUS THEY GET FREE GOVERNMENT TITTY SKITTLES

2021 May 16, fred k. engels®, “Trans goat rights are caprine rights”, in rec.radio.shortwave (Usenet), retrieved 2022-08-18:

I'm misses estradiol
I'm misses E
I'm misses titty skittle
I'm misses HRT
Friends call me girlmiser
Whatever I touch
turns to girls in my clutch
I’m just too much

2022 January 16, Hex_Bomb, Twitter, archived from the original on 2022-01-16:

2022 February 8, Jaydee_O, “I got my titty Skittles! 💥🎊🎉🍈🍈”, in Reddit, MtF, archived from the original on 2022-08-18:

Yes, I know.
Thinking about this is scary.
Believe me, I was there every day of every month leading up to when I personally finally popped a titty skittle.
I'm just saying, this has been the best decision I've literally ever made & I regret not making it sooner.
Just saying.

2022 April 22, RileyGryc, Twitter, archived from the original on 2022-04-22:

hormone replacement therapy
hormone replacement therapy

(transgender slang, humorous, usually in the plural) An estrogen pill taken as part of hormone replacement therapy.


Fem&M's

It's the little things while you are pre everything. Hopefully not for long though because I go on Thursday to hopefully get my Fem&m's

2017 September 24, ccbarber1014, “I got my belly button pierced!”, in Reddit, MtF, archived from the original on 2022-08-18:

2019 April 19, Fraih, “MRW I got a prescription for fem&m's after my first endo appointment without any gatekeeping.”, in Reddit, traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns, archived from the original on 2022-08-18:

Congrats Hun! Enjoy the Titty Skittles, Fem&M's, Breast Mints, Tit Tacs, Galtoids, Anticistamines

2019 February 9, Syn-the-Guardian, “I started on E!!!”, in Reddit, traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns, archived from the original on 2022-08-18:

THREE GODDAMN YEARS OF FEM&M’S TODAY AND IT JUST KEEPS GETTING BETTER HELLLL YEA

2019 December 8, SomeBWord, Twitter, archived from the original on 2022-08-18:

Good luck! Get them Fem&M's, Girl!

2019 December 9, ThatEdgyOne, “Got my first appointment in 2 hours for hrt so so so so soooooo excited but also super nervous hope you all have an amazing day today <3”, in Reddit, traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns, archived from the original on 2022-08-18:

I'm still only on Fem&M's and Antidudeimines.

2020 April 23, Riggy_Minus, Twitter, archived from the original on 2022-08-18:

At the pharmacy waiting to pick up my titty skittles, fem&ms and anticistamines 💜💙

2022 March 1, Selenaissapphic, Twitter, archived from the original on 2022-08-18:

(transgender slang, humorous) Estrogen pills taken as part of hormone replacement therapy.


endosexism

There's nothing threatening about saying some common trans ontologies in their infancy were rooted in endosexism

2017 October 6, Siobhan O'Leary, tweet (archived)

In fact, numerous studies have demonstrated how manhood also relies on and reproduces societal patterns of cissexism, endosexism, monosexism, heterosexism, classism, racism, ageism, nationalism, and religious privilege in the United States.

2020, J. E. Sumerau, Violent Manhood, Rowman & Littlefield Publishers, →ISBN, pages 6–7:

We discuss this finding with reference to cisgenderism and endosexism, focusing particularly on being critical of ‘gender’ and foregrounding biological sex, and views for and against self-identifying gender.

2020, Elizabeth Peel, Hannah J. H. Newman, Gender's wider stakes: lay attitudes to legal gender reform, in feminists@law (ISSN 2046-9551)

Stigma and discrimination combined with minority stress, and cultural and social norms that give preference to heterosexuality, cisgenderism and endosexism, are some of the root causes that contribute to these health inequalities.

2020 May, Valeria Donisi et al., “Training healthcare professionals in LGBTI cultural competencies: Exploratory findings from the Health4LGBTI pilot project”, in Patient Education and Counseling, volume 103, number 5, pages 978–987:

Intersex people are not extremely rare, although endosexism (up to and including forced genital surgery in infancy) has contributed to conditions that lead us to believe they are.

2022 September 6, Reese Minshew, Treating Trauma in Trans People: An Intersectional, Phase-Based Approach, Taylor & Francis, →ISBN:

(rare) A system, practice, or bias privileging endosex people over intersex people.


goddex

First off: to anyone feeling an iota of guilt for indulging your plant-loving inner green goddex during the pandemic—you stop that right now.

2020 November, Cheryl Rafuse, “Why You Should Quarantine (Your Plants)”, in Boston Compass, page 6:

These days, a Witch or pagan might welcome a warm summer wind as an inherently feminine blessing from a femme goddex, […]

2021, Elliot Director, "The Gender Evolution of Air", in Astraea Taylor, Air Magic, page 56

Thank God, or Goddess, or Goddex we failed and found each other.

2022, Monique Jenkinson, Faux Queen: A Life in Drag, unnumbered page:

(neologism) A genderless or non-binary deity; a deity whose gender is unknown.


TERFspeak

Truth be told parroting actual TERFspeak for it's^([sic]) comedy value might have been a bad call.

2018 March 13, venyle (@cold_inthewater), Twitter:

"Trans-identified male" is TERFspeak for trans woman.

2019 December 17, fern +r | Badenlily (@fernseasons), Twitter:

“Respecting other people’s boundaries” is just TERFspeak for “trans women are not welcome to use public spaces”.

2022 March 3, Bette Joy (@SlaggitySlag), Twitter:

The jargon and rhetoric of gender-critical or trans-exclusionary feminists.


trans cult

The rage and despair of seeing your flesh and blood drift into the trans cult and turn against you is unspeakable.

2018, "GenderCriticalDad", "'I'm Not A Hideously Bigoted Parent Who Doesn't 'Get' It'", in Transgender Children and Young People: Born in Your Own Body (eds. Heather Brunskell-Evans & Michele Moore), page 82

Clichéd insults await the wrongthinkers: deny TW and you’re a bigoted transphobe; assert it and you’re a deluded member of the transcult.

2020, Alex Byrne, “Are women adult human females?”, in Philosophical Studies, volume 177, page 3798:

There is seemingly a widely held concern that trans men are simply naive and manipulated gender non-conforming lesbians who have been led astray by the so-called trans cult or trans cabal.

2021, Finn Mackay, Female Masculinities and the Gender Wars: The Politics of Sex, unnumbered page:

(gender-critical, derogatory) The transgender community, viewed as cultlike.


pronounphobia

en-noun

pronounphobia (countable and uncountable, plural pronounphobias)

Pronounphobia omg. Do they realise that they’ve used pronouns in that tweet 🤦

2020 April 10, Charlie (@ThenonbinaryC), Twitter:

Fr [for real]. All this internalised pronounphobia, like duh, everyone has pronouns

2020 November 11, 'Ala ad-Din (@IbnAbiQ), Twitter:

I agree, there needs to be more research into pronounphobia. Why do so many people get so upset about a part of speech?

2021 May 19, Max Harvey (@max_harvey), Twitter:

(chiefly sarcastic) Fear, hatred, or aversion to pronouns, especially as relates to gender.


Stridercest

LL-Q1860 (eng)-Flame, not lame-Stridercest.wav

I'm writing Stridercest fic holla if you wanna read it when i am done

2012 June 24, que snacky, snacky (@badsnacks), Twitter:

I think one of the grossest Homestuck ships is Stridercest because of the fucked-up power dynamic.

2013 June 7, godless neutrois (@the_stars_abide), Twitter:

Are we going to ignore the fact that almost everyone in Homestuck shipped Stridercest?

2015 March 26, HealthcareBoywife (@das_uberchicken), Twitter:

(fandom slang) The incestuous ship of brothers Dave Strider and Dirk Strider from the Homestuck series.


gendersex

Holm provides a contextualised analysis of two life stories by persons in trans or intersex(ed) positions who applied for the legal change of their gendersex status, as Holm innovatively names it.

2019, Riikka Taavetti, “From Present Trans and Intersex(ed) Politics to Past Embodied Experiences”, in Suomen Queer-tutkimuksen Seuran, →DOI:

the technologies and histories of racial and colonial gendering that have established binary gendersex as one of the primary fault lines for securing and differentiating the national body

2022, Christopher Joseph Lee, “Transmedia Uprising”, in TSQ: Transgender Studies Quarterly, →DOI:

Sex or gender. A division of organisms into masculine, feminine and possibly others, by sexual or social characteristics.


khwaja sira

From Urdu خواجہ سرا (xāja sarā), ultimately partly from Persian.
Emphasising the mismatch between their visible bodies (hazir) and the invisible soul (ruh), they presented the khwaja sira as a feminine soul that was stuck in a masculine body. In presenting this definition of their gender and seeking legitimacy for it, khwaja siras seek to define the distinctiveness of their soul. It is not just any feminine soul but one endowed with certain spiritual qualities.1

That the discussion kept focusing on the sexual behavior of khwaja siras agitated a number of transgender activists, who were uncomfortable that these issues were being discussed in the presence of people who were not khwaja siras. […] Beena's response demonstrates the tendency of khwaja sira activists to represent themselves and their communities in a socially acceptable manner as respectable and religious people. She emphasized the conservatism[…]

2014 December 18, Susan S Wadley, South Asia in the World: An Introduction: An Introduction, Routledge, →ISBN, pages 182–183:

Funding that is targeting the Khwaja Sira community ought to go through Khwaja Sira organisations, she says, insisting on being more than a token for international NGOs that have little or no knowledge about the local conditions.

2018 June 12, Lena Martinsson, Diana Mulinari, Dreaming Global Change, Doing Local Feminisms: Visions of Feminism. Global North/Global South Encounters, Conversations and Disagreements, Routledge, →ISBN:

The individual and shared identity of khwaja siras is pivotal to studying why and how they are persecuted. According to Khan (2014a), there is no universally agreed upon definition for a khwaja sira, and the fluid term has a distinct trajectory of use in Pakistan. Transgender Pakistanis may use the term hijra to refer to themselves,[…]

2018 December 6, Arzu Güler, Maryna Shevtsova, Denise Venturi, LGBTI Asylum Seekers and Refugees from a Legal and Political Perspective: Persecution, Asylum and Integration, Springer, →ISBN, page 52:

A member of a traditional transfeminine third gender in Pakistan and India since Mughal times.


Johndave

I SHIP EVERYTHING because I am an equal opportunity sort of gal. I secretly ship JohnDave a lot too.

2011 January 8, M. Elizabeth Em. (@weareallpuppets), Twitter:

johndave shippers are the most devoted/gung ho shippers i have ever seen..........

2012 February 26, emily hu (@emilyyyhu), Twitter:

i’ll forever hold johndave close to my heart fhdhdhdd

2019 September 7, fuglying (@fnyacking), Twitter:

(fandom slang) The ship of characters John Egbert and Dave Strider from the Homestuck series.


Johnkat

Totally shipping johnkat. Just for the record.

2011 December 9, gimnim (@lordbisleepykimalingual), Twitter:

having mysterious inexplicable resurgence of johnkat feelings oops

2012 March 28, Undead Anime Trash Princess (@caporushes), Twitter:

just saw Johnkat referred to as a 'crack pairing' ...... i genuinely think people don't know what that term originally refers to at this point

2019 November 16, zen (@archeradicator), Twitter:

(fandom slang) The ship of characters John Egbert and Karkat Vantas from the Homestuck series.


Davekat

ship dynamics EXCEPT ITS LITERALLY JUST DAVEKAT (or what i know from fanfics ive read because im not done homestuck yet <3)
also includes:
- constant lighthearted teasing and banter
- cuddling
- helping each other overcome emotional boundaries
- i love them so much

2019 April 17, mspa_reading, Twitter, archived from the original on 2022-08-28:

Davekat is canon, and that's really all there is to say on the matter. <3
#homestuck #davekat

2019 May 9, Blimpcatt, Twitter, archived from the original on 2022-08-28:

in honor of #homestuck day, i'm here to confess something: i used to be a davekat shipper except i mostly liked it as them hate dating instead of normal dating and i guess most of the fandom disagreed with me on that point. anyway, here's some fanart from 2013-2014

2020 April 13, prettypinkpansy, Twitter, archived from the original on 2022-08-28:

davekat and romcom movie posters ? wat an outlandish idea.... o_o

2020 September 12, vomitcore, Twitter, archived from the original on 2022-08-28:

(fandom slang) The ship of characters Dave Strider and Karkat Vantas from the Homestuck series.


alloromantic

In Simon's case, the feeling is resolved by owning up to his gay identity, and he is almost immediately rewarded with a hunky new boyfriend – a rather optimistic ending that may appeal more to alloromantic than to aromantic aces.

2018, "Blue Ice-Tea", "Ace Mini-Review: 'Love, Simon'", AVENues Newsletters, October-December 2018, page 22

An alloromantic individual will enjoy activities associated with intimate relationships such as holding hands, kissing, cuddling, emotional intimacy, and commitment.

2019, Katherine Rachlin, “The Intersection of Gender Diversity and Asexuality: Psychotherapy with TGNC Individuals Who Identify as Ace”, in Gary J. Jacobson, Jan C. Niemira, Karalyn J. Violeta, editors, Sex, Sexuality, and Trans Identities: Clinical Guidance for Psychotherapists and Counselors, page 133:

"Do you think it's possible... Do you think two people could fall in love with no physical intimacy?"
I shrugged. “I mean, alloromantic asexual people must do it, right?”

2021, L. C. Mawson, Ethics in Magic, unnumbered page:


alloromantic

“The language and the physicality that are associated with romance and sexuality are not limited to people who are allosexuals or alloromantics,” they said.

2018 February 8, Talia Soglin, “Super Ace”, in Yale Daily News:

Seth: I don’t understand you alloromantics. Love letters, long walks in the park, listening to each other’s heartbeats? No thank you. I am only allosexual.

2021, Chloe O. Davis, “Allosexual”, in The Queens’ English: The LGBTQIA+ Dictionary of Lingo and Colloquial Phrases, Clarkson Potter, →ISBN, page 21:

It is unfortunately not uncommon for allosexuals and alloromantics to see those on the asexuality or aromanticism spectrums as not having valid identities, as needing to be fixed.

2022 May 17, Alex Brown, “Alex Brown Reviews Fire Becomes Her by Rosiee Thor”, in Locus:

Someone who experiences romantic attraction.


allocishet

en-adj

allocishet (comparative more allocishet, superlative most allocishet)

more allocishet (comparative)
most allocishet (superlative)

It's frustrating that allocishet folks are often unable to grasp the nuances of queer sex.

2018, K. M. Szpara, quoted in Caroline M. Yoachim, "Interview: K. M. Szpara", Uncanny Magazine, July/August 2018, unnumbered page

I can't think of a single allocishet person taking the time to explain their identity to anyone.

2022, Saundra Mitchell, Out There: Into the Queer New Yonder, unnumbered page:

Black consumers who are beyond the allocishet “norm” must search harder, look deeper, to find their community .

2022, Jessica P. Pryde, “Introduction”, in Jessica P. Pryde, editor, Black Love Matters: Real Talk on Romance, Being Seen, and Happily Ever Afters, page xvii-xviii:

(LGBTQ, neologism) Allosexual, cisgender, and heterosexual.


grayromantic

I might be kind of vaguely aromantic, honestly. Or whatever. Grayromantic?

Grayromantic asexual people are between romantic and aromantic and less likely to experience romantic attraction compared to most people.

2019, Julie Xuemei Hu, Shondrah Tarrezz Nash, “Sexuality and Sexual Relationships throughout Life”, in Marriage and the Family: Mirror of a Diverse Global Society, Routledge, →ISBN:

Asexual people (who do not generally desire romantic connection with others), and people who identify as graysexual, grayromantic, or grayscale (comparatively low sexual or romantic desire for other) are also part of the TGD community.

2022, Reese Minshew, “Introduction”, in Treating Trauma in Trans People: An Intersectional, Phase-Based Approach, Routledge, →ISBN:

Intermediate between romantic and aromantic; sometimes, but not usually, experiencing romantic attraction and desire.


split attraction model

We'll be looking more at the 'split attraction model' of sexuality in the next chapter, and how romantic attraction and sexual attraction can be different for different people.

2021, Erin Ekins, Queerly Autistic: The Ultimate Guide For LGBTQIA+ Teens On The Spectrum, page 34:

The Split Attraction Model distinguishes between romantic and sexual attraction, meaning that someone could be romantically attracted to anybody but only sexually attracted to other genders.

2022, Cate Campbell, Sex Therapy: The Basics, unnumbered page:

Within asexual contexts, people commonly reference this distinction as the “split attraction model” (Przyblo, 2019), and many use this model in describing their personal identities.

2022, Amanda L. Mollet, “Asexuality & Asexuality Studies”, in Kamden K. Strunk, Stephanie Anne Shelton, editors, Encyclopedia of Queer Studies in Education, page 45:

(psychology) A model of human desire which distinguishes sexual and romantic attraction.


acespec

acespec (comparative more acespec, superlative most acespec)

more acespec (comparative)
most acespec (superlative)

From ace (“asexual”) + spec (“spectrum”).

For the show to completely and utterly ignore this is huge since there are very few representations of aro and ace-spec people in media of any kind.

2017 October 26, Melissa Reph, “You might not like hearing this, but I don't like 'Riverdale'”, in The Muhlenberg Weekly, Muhlenberg College, page 3:

Be open to ALL acespec folx! No matter what other identities intersect with their acespec identity and no matter how they behave in whatever types of relationships they may have.

2020, Will, quoted in "Questions Of The Month", AVENues Newsletter, July-September 2020, page 23

While there can still be a tendency for allosexual characters in YA science fiction to perform conscious and unconscious microaggressions against ace, acespec, aro and arospec characters, some recent novels manage to challenge the aphobic presumption of compulsory sexuality, and to ultimately create and sustain asexual-inclusive speculative worlds.

2021, Patricia Kennon, "Asexuality and the Potential of Young Adult Literature for Disrupting Allonormativity", International Journal of Young Adult Literature, Volume 2, Issue 1 (link)

(neologism) Belonging or related to the asexual spectrum.


arospec

arospec (comparative more arospec, superlative most arospec)

more arospec (comparative)
most arospec (superlative)

From aro (“aromantic”) + spec (“spectrum”).

After some research into various arospec (aromantic spectrum) identities, I found the term “wtfromantic” and a whole bunch of people who identified with that.

2016, Ashley Mardell, The ABC's of LGBT+, unnumbered page:

In fact, I've, uh... well, there's this forum for demisexual and other ace/arospec people, and I've been a member for a while.

2017, Talia Hibbert, That Kind of Guy, unnumbered page:

(neologism) Belonging or related to the aromantic spectrum.


aroness

people who believe gintoki's aroness can be 'fixed' really need to reevaluate themselves

2015 September 19, church (@gntmconfessions), Twitter:

While much more work is obviously needed on exploring Martin’s aceness and aroness, I want to suggest that Martin’s assertions suggest that while lesbian, Martin was also aromantic and asexual.

2021, Ela Przybyło, “Ace and aro lesbian art and theory with Agnes Martin and Yayoi Kusama”, in Journal of Lesbian Studies, volume 26, number 1:

Not every aro-spec person is going to experience aroness the exact same way as another.

2021 June 15, Glitter's Garden (@GlittersGarden), Twitter:

(slang, neologism) The state of not experiencing romantic attraction to others.


Patrochilles

Mainly because I want to cry and see Patrochilles in all their glory!

2018, Nkiya Machona, quoted in Curiositales, September 2018, page 82

Perhaps even more problematically for the Patrochilles naysayers, is that this ambiguity throughout Homer's original epic is really not that ambiguous.

2021, Amelia Koen, "An Olive Pit, A Lyre, A Fig", Honi Soit (University of Sydney), Week 8, Semester 2 (2021), page 19

The Twitter account Incorrect Patrochilles Quotes has over 20,000 followers and is entirely devoted to The Song of Achilles.

2021, Sarah Leidich, "From Muse To Material: The Defiance Of Homeric Identity Through Creative Adaptation", Meliora, Volume 1, Issue 1 (link)

(fandom slang) The ship of characters Patroclus and Achilles from the novel The Song of Achilles by Madeline Miller.


queerbaity

queerbaity (comparative queerbaitier, superlative queerbaitiest)

queerbaitier (comparative)
queerbaitiest (superlative)

From queerbait (“to create homoerotic tension in a narrative without intention of realizing it”) + -y.

suffix

sherlock holmes and john watson except theyre lesbians and its not queerbaity

2016 January 28, @hereticglory, Twitter:

wangxian‘s true love and cql’s lack of queerbaiting set the bar so high I’ll never be satisfied with settling for subpar queerbaity content from shows like sherlock, spn, teen wolf, (etc) anymore.

2019 December 24, @wangxianling, Twitter:

Oh wow I had totally forgotten how extreeeeeemely queerbaity Sherlock was from the very first episode.

2020 July 4, Yllogique (@Yllogique), Twitter:

(LGBTQ, fandom slang) Exhibiting or characterized by queerbaiting.


aro-allo

en-adj

aro-allo (comparative more aro-allo, superlative most aro-allo)

more aro-allo (comparative)
most aro-allo (superlative)

It was always clear that my beliefs — that an aro-allo woman was independent while an aro-allo man was a fuckboy — were gendered stereotypes I should disavow.

2020, Angela Chen, Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex, page 130:

It seems like aro-allo people often have distinct experiences and face distinct challenges.

2020 August 12, Transcendragon (@a_the_orange), Twitter:

Aroallo people are not automatically hypersexual, nor are we predators.

2021 October 12, Ian Stobaugh, “Experiences of an aromantic, not asexual”, in The Daily Eastern News, Eastern Illinois University, page 3:

(informal, neologism) Aromantic and allosexual.


aro-allo

stop treating aroallos like they're just shitty people for being interested in sex and not romance 2k19

2019 September 15, press y to honk (@ghostburritos), Twitter:

Harmful stereotypes about aroallos is that “they want sex all the time” and they’re “hypersexual” when that’s just not true.

2021 October 14, Ace Girl (@acegirleatscake), Twitter:

please start including aroallos more. i see a lot of people assuming all aros are ace, which is frankly untrue and are harmful to both communities. it’s very hard to find aroallos in media too

2022 June 1, keris (@keropiji), Twitter:

(informal, neologism) An aromantic and allosexual person.


Tejanx

The gender-neutral suffix -x replaces the gendered Spanish suffixes -a and -o.

-a-o-x

He also understood reciprocal paternalistic obligation as more important than the impersonal alienations of contract or law—something an older generation of Texans, or Tejanxs, might have appreciated.

2021, Ethan Blue, The Deportation Express: A History of America Through Forced Removal, Oakland: University of California Press, →ISBN, page 244:

A Texan of Mexican descent (of any gender); a Tejano or Tejana.


transplain

en-verb

transplain (third-person singular simple present transplains, present participle transplaining, simple past and past participle transplained)

transplains (present singular third-person)
transplaining (participle present)
transplained (participle past)
transplained (past)

When you lead with story instead of education, then it becomes absorbed emotionally and intuitively so you don't really have to explain things. I don't think people respond as well to being transplained.

2015, Rhys Ernst, quoted in Mehera Bonner, "Rhys Ernst on the Pop Culture Trans Movement", Marie Claire, 21 August 2015

The “they” I’m referring to is not transgender people. (Though the bullies will pretend that it is.) I’m referring to the “trans activists” — some sinister, most joyless, and more than a few who don’t even identify as transgender themselves — who delight in “transplaining” to the rest of us the rules of this new, glittering utopia, where spaces must be shared, safeguards dismantled, disagreement decreed to be hate speech, and women must not be allowed to gather to discuss laws that will affect them.

2018 October 1, Lucy Bannerman, “Trans movement has been hijacked by bullies and trolls”, in The Times, UK:

"It's all about the lens to me," Escola continues. "A lot of culture and art is created with the straight audience in mind, gay-splaining and transsplaining to a straight audience. Like, 'We are human. Look, we cry just like regular people! And you're a good person because you cried when we cried.'"

2021, Cole Escola, quoted in Meredith Blake, "Contains Multitudes", Los Angeles Times, 21 January 2021

(colloquial, usually derogatory, chiefly Internet) To explain transgender issues to a cis person (as a trans person or ally), especially in a condescending, heavy-handed, or preachy manner.


Femme&M's

(transgender slang, humorous) Alternative spelling of Fem&M's.


breast mint

LL-Q1860 (eng)-Flame, not lame-breast mint.wav

this just reminded me that i forgot my breast mints today, thank you~

2016 February 24, @CryptChiroptera, Twitter, archived from the original on 2023-04-17:

thanks 🖤 yea I’ve been on breast mints up to now

2018 April 23, @janusrose, Twitter, archived from the original on 2023-04-19:

Hmmm, I know it's only day two of being on breast mints but I figured I'd feel something by now?

2022 March 21, @ByCharlotteFinn, Twitter, archived from the original on 2022-03-22:

(transgender slang, humorous, usually in the plural) Synonym of Tit Tac.


Tit Tac

LL-Q1860 (eng)-Flame, not lame-Tit Tac.wav

god i can never remember if i took my tit tacs already anymore

2018 December 5, @im_a_bitch_ty, Twitter, archived from the original on 2023-04-15:

Hey it's been 7 months on HRT so here's the thread i do every month about my progress with the tit tacs!

2020 February 15, @sup_im_sammy, Twitter, archived from the original on 2020-02-16:

today is 23 months on tit tacs 😋

2021 June 12, @emily_dawnxo, Twitter, archived from the original on 2021-06-12:

(transgender slang, humorous, usually in the plural) A pill taken as part of feminizing hormone replacement therapy, especially spironolactone (called by this name due to its peppermint smell) or estrogen such as estradiol.


homogenitality

From homogenital + -ity, equivalent to homo- + genitality.

The Bible’s concern is about same-sex acts, what had been called homogenitality.

2005, The Bible on homosexuality: Exploring its meaning and authority:

The Chuch now accepts homosexuality as a fact but does not accept homogenitality as a choice.

2000, Cistercian Studies Quarterly, Some problematic aspects of human sexuality: Psychological considerations:

1998, Whole and Holy Sexuality: How to Find Human and Spiritual Integrity as a Sexual Person
It is my view that homosexuality (understood as homogenitality) is not healthy, but that homosexual persons can be healthy .

Sexual activity with a person of the same genitalia, sometimes (potentially offensive) restricted to same-sex sex between males.


Jefferson has been a leader in the LGBTQ2A community for over three years. […] Jefferson is the owner of the event coordination company, Jefferson Presents, and has coordinated […] Ride for Pride Home, a spin-a-thon supporting Saskatoon's LGBTQ2A youth and Welcome To The Club, a fundraiser for the GLCR.

2018 November 14, “Meet 2018's third batch of 10 Future 40 winners”, in CBC:

(LGBTQ, chiefly Canada) Initialism of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender/transsexual, queer/questioning, two-spirited, and allied/asexual/aromantic/agender.


pro-LGBT

en-adj

pro-LGBT (comparative more pro-LGBT, superlative most pro-LGBT)

more pro-LGBT (comparative)
most pro-LGBT (superlative)

So rather than an outright ban, he drew up a manifesto with their help, founded on the principle that any country could host the event if they signed a contract saying the Games had to have a pro-LGBT ethos.

2022 August 6, Simon Hattenstone, “Tom Daley on his LGBTQ+ awakening: ‘I had my head in my hands. I felt so dark about being British’”, in The Guardian:

Supporting LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender/transsexual) people and/or rights.


LGBTQIA+

They also teach workshops on creating safer spaces for LGBTQIA+ communities and on something called radical sex positivity.

2022 August 30, “The sex ed most queer students never got”, in Life Kit, spoken by Lili Quiroz, via NPR:

The quartet will be joined by a plethora of LGBTQIA+ icons and allies, from The X Factor champion Alexandra Burke to ‘Shoulda Woulda Coulda’ icon Beverley Knight and Big Brother co-host AJ Odudu.

2024 September 12, Sam Damshenas, “‘A new direction for the franchise’: Drag Race UK stars on “mind-blowing” season 6”, in Gay Times:

(LGBTQ) Initialism of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender/transsexual, queer/questioning, intersex, allied/asexual/aromantic/agender, etc.


ashtime

There were, as I have pointed out, three genders in traditional Maale: atinke, lali, and ashtime. Male, female, and transvestite.

1999, Donald L. Donham, History, Power, Ideology, page 106:

Among the Maale people of Ethiopia, a male transvestite serving in the king's court, regarded as a third gender.


GAH

(medicine, LGBTQ) Initialism of gender-affirming hormone.


bisexual lighting

en-noun

bisexual lighting (countable and uncountable, plural bisexual lightings)

/baɪˌsɛkʃʊəl ˈlaɪtɪŋ/

From bisexual (adjective) + lighting (noun), referring to the pink, purple, and blue colours of the bisexual flag (also known as the bisexual pride flag).

(LGBTQ, often art, film, television) The simultaneous use of pink, purple, and blue lighting, often to indicate bisexuality.


en-proverb

gender is between your ears, not between your legs

Coined by American writer, musician and actor Chaz Bono, who is also a trans man.

coinage

Gender only exists as a social construct, and is not confined to one's birth sex.


super straight

Coined by Canadian TikToker Kyle Royce in a video posted on February 21, 2021, in which he explained that he had begun identifying as "super straight" in order to avoid accusations of transphobia for not wanting to date transgender people. It was later popularized by the 4chan board /pol/.

These TikTok users have also come up with a flag to symbolize 'super straight' people. The flag is made up of black and orange colors. Several users have made the flag their profile picture or have been using it on their bio.

2021 March 7, Prerna Nambiar, “What is super straight movement on TikTok? Super straight flag gets slammed”, in HITC, archived from the original on 2021-03-07:

Super straight, yeah, you can check the flag / I was bisexual for a minute, but switched back

2021 March 7, “Super Straight”performed by LilCockPump:

"I've made a new sexuality," Kyleroyce said in his video. "Straight men get called transphobic because I wouldn't date a trans woman. Now, I'm super straight. I only date the opposite gender, women, that are born women. So you can't say I'm transphobic now because that is just my sexuality."

2021 March 8, Steven Asarch, “A social-media trend has people identifying as 'super straight.' The transphobic campaign was meant to divide LGBTQ people.”, in Insider:

We also encountered numerous posts referring to the trend as "SS pride" and one talking about tattooing the SS rune as part of their "Super Straight pride."

2021 March 11, Nur Ibrahim, “Did the 'Super Straight' Trend Originate With Nazis on 4chan?”, in Snopes, archived from the original on 2022-01-27:

According to super straight "advocates", this sexual orientation describes cisgender people who are only attracted to cisgender individuals of the opposite gender. Super straight people claim that the identity is just like any other identity that falls under the LGBTQ spectrum, and that identifying as one is a way to "come out" and express that they are proud to be straight and cis.

2022 June 14, “Is there a straight Pride flag? Exploring the controversy of the heterosexual flag”, in LGBTQ Nation, archived from the original on 2022-08-17:

(alt-right, Internet slang) Being sexually attracted only to cisgender people of the opposite sex.


super straight

Nobody is required to date or have sex with trans people, but it's eerily violent to organize an identity and a movement around excluding them. For Super Straights to do just that, while claiming that they're persecuted is the ultimate irony.

2021 March 15, Michelle Santiago Cortés, “The Super Straights Are Definitely Not Okay”, in Refinery29, archived from the original on 2022-12-17:

To make the point they're trying to desperately prove legit, the Super Straights have come with a flag and merchandise though it's not quite sure who's buying it yet or who came up with the inspired colour scheme.

2021 March 24, Jaishree Kumar, “Inside the 'Super Straight' Movement That Got Banned on TikTok and Reddit”, in VICE, archived from the original on 2022-05-27:

"Have you seen these colors on a TikTok video? Scroll [away] instantly," a critic warned in one of many response clips. "These men are known as Super Straights. We have to keep them off the For You page."

2021 April 7, Conor Friedersdorf, “The Sexual Identity That Emerged on TikTok”, in The Atlantic, archived from the original on 2021-04-07:

Gold star gays/lesbians are just as transphobic as super straights. To be cisgender and require another to be cisgender before allowing oneself to be attracted to someone is transphobic. To have a preference, though, is valid.

2021 November 7, Rose Montoya, “Trans 101 by Rose Montoya: Gold Star Gays/Lesbians Transphobic?”, in Los Angeles Blade, archived from the original on 2022-07-04:

And hearing marginalized people speak up can feel like injustice for those accustomed to their stories being the only ones told. That's why white racists scream "reverse racism," and transphobes cry for the rights of the "super-straights."

2022 May 2, Ian D. Svetkey, “A White Man's Voice: The Role of the Privileged Actor”, in The Harvard Crimson, archived from the original on 2022-05-03:

(alt-right, Internet slang) A person who identifies as super straight.


gusband

When we identify to a car, a gusband, a wife, they control us.

2011, A.J. Prince, Soul Exposed Volume 2: Inner Guidance, Facts and Self Literacy:

I would like to be on a reality show called Gusbands. It's me and my three gay husbands and what we go through all living under one roof. Each gay husband I choose would have a quality that I need in a partner.

2014, Heather McDonald, My Inappropriate Life:

Jeff would affectionately call his tall brunette neighbor with the bright red lipstick his “swife” (straight wife), and she referred to him as her "gusband” (gay husband).

2020, Heather Cabot, The New Chardonnay:


cissplainer

(LGBTQ, colloquial, derogatory, chiefly Internet) A person who practices or engages in cissplaining.


bachelorx party

en-noun

bachelorx party (plural bachelorx parties)

"Replacing 'bachelor/ette' with 'bachelorx' welcomes the growing number of straight folks who aren't into the outdated idea surrounding these get togethers as their 'last night of freedom,'" Blattel says. "With that attitude, it's no shock that gendered bachelorx parties are seen as the last chance for fun."

2019 August 29, Louis Baragona, “What's a Bachelorx Party? The Binary-Breaking Way to Celebrate”, in The Knot:

(neologism) A party held for a couple about to be married; a bachelorette party or bachelor party open to all guests, rather than those of a specific gender.


bachelorx

From bachelor + -x (“used to replace a gendered suffix”).

suffix

One of my personal fave sex educators, Stella Harris, is your guide for this hilarious live, interactive game show, where contestants complete challenges to win a date with an eligible "bachelorx," and audience members are encouraged to forge love connections on their own!

2019 September 12, Steven Humphrey, “Where to See Portland's Best Sex Shows”, in Portland Mercury:

Nevertheless, we would like to take this opportunity to celebrate bi folks. Let’s start with a list of very eligible bachelors, bachelorettes, and bachelorxes.

2022 September 24, “50 of The Most Eligible Single Bi+ Celebrities”, in Gayety:

(neologism) Someone who has not yet married; a bachelor or bachelorette of any gender identity, especially one identifying as non-binary.


nounself pronoun

en-noun

nounself pronoun (plural nounself pronouns)

According to [Judith] Butler, identity is tied to gender, and we perceive each other through the lens of gender (1999:22). This makes the gender binary with only its two choices very limiting. Nounself pronouns can be seen as an attempt to break free from this.

2016, Ehm Hjorth Miltersen, “Nounself pronouns: 3rd person personal pronouns as identity expression”, in Journal of Language Works, volume 1, number 1, page 48:

Nounself pronouns are when you adapt a noun of your choosing into a pronoun to create a wide variety of very personal and descriptive pronouns.

2021, Erin Ekins, Queerly Autistic The Ultimate Guide For LGBTQIA+ Teens On The Spectrum, page 105:

This suggests that neopronouns in general and nounself pronouns in particular are used to express something very individual about the selector.

2022, Katrina Callaway, "From Ey to Ze: Gender-Neutral Pronouns as Pronominal Change", dissertation submitted the University of Georgia, page 67

third-person singular
third-person singular

(linguistics) A type of third-person singular neopronoun constructed (often as an in-group identifier or nonce word) from a referent noun.


faerself

Solomon faerself is ambiguous about the term, suggesting of The Deep that: […]

2021, Megan de Bruin-Molé, "Salvaging Utopia: Lessons for (and from) the Left in Rivers Solomon’s An Unkindness of Ghosts (2017), The Deep (2019), and Sorrowland (2021)", Humanities, Volume 10, Issue 4 (link)

Fae had decked faerself in a modest amount of cheap jewelry, faer makeup inexpertly applied.

2022, Novae Caelum, The Truthspoken Heir: The Stars and Green Magics - Season One, unnumbered page:

For Sara, growing up in a Baptist home and being involved in the Baptist church faerself is not in contradiction to the usage of southern folk magic common in the south.

2022, Gina Snooks, "Between Words: Artful Auto/Biography and/as Pagan Healing", thesis submitted to Western University, page 90

(rare, nonstandard) Reflexive case of fae.


faers

But familiarity with Solomon (fae/faer/faers)’s previous work led me to believe this would not be simply (for lack of a better phrase) torture porn.

2021 July 24, Christina Orlando, “Monstrosity: On Rivers Solomon’s 'Sorrowland'”, in Los Angeles Review of Books:

Once we see Soul's gorgeous glass work, we immediately recognize the piece as theirs/faers because the because the bouquets are arranged in the shape of their/faer scars, which is a stylemark of Soul's art.

2022, Sherry Paris, You Can Make a Difference!: A Creative Workbook and Journal for Young Activists, page 117 (bolding in original altered for emphasis)

They paused at a door halfway down the corridor and waved their key at the lock pad. “Here—press your hand here to add your biometrics, please.”
Ari did so, and then stepped aside to let Bettea press faers, too.

2022, Novae Caelum, The Truthspoken Heir: The Stars and Green Magics - Season One:

(rare, nonstandard) Possessive case of fae.


one joke

I should add that Gilliam also made that one joke during his aforementioned rants about #MeToo, saying he identifies as, "a melanin-light male."

2020 December 9, Gwendolyn Ann Smith, “One Joke too Many”, in Pride Source:

I have seen fucked up things that suck before and I already know the joke. They only have the one joke. Anti-woke trans-bash comedians are cultivating an audience I want very much not to be a part of.

2022 May 25, Steve Albini (quoted), Will Richards, “Steve Albini hits out at Ricky Gervais' "fucked up" Netflix special”, in NME:

When it boils down to it, there is only one transphobic joke, and it repeats itself ad infinitum - indeed, the joke is so stale that there’s a whole subreddit (r/onejoke) that exists to parody it. Without the "one joke," comedians like Gervais and Dave Chappelle would have to figure out some fresh material - the Babylon Bee would go out of business entirely.

2022 May 30, Dani Di Placido, “Ricky Gervais Has Become The Man He Used To Mock”, in Forbes:

(LGBTQ) Humour satirising transgender and non-binary gender identities through mocking self-identifications (typically by "identifying" as something absurd or self-evident).


real-life experience

real-life experience (plural real-life experiences)

(LGBTQ) A period of time in which transgender individuals live full-time in their identified gender role in order to be eligible to receive gender-affirming treatment.


LGBTQA+

The popular musician has been accused many times of "queerbaiting" –a term for a marketing technique in which a person hints at but does not depict same-sex romance or other LGBTQA+ representation.

2022 August 24, “Harry Styles hits back at 'queerbaiting' accusations in new Rolling Stone interview”, in The New Zealand Herald:

(LGBTQ) Initialism of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender/transsexual, queer/questioning, allied/asexual/aromantic/agender etc.


LGBTA+

“If you truly believe what you preach ... why do you insist that anyone who is an ally or champion of the LGBTA+ community be silenced and hidden in our buildings?” Schwartz said.

2022 May 11, Maddie Hanna, “Central Bucks parents protest removal of Pride flags and other actions they say are hostile to LGBTQ students”, in The Philadelphia Inquirer:

(LGBTQ) Initialism of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender/transsexual, allied/asexual/aromantic/agender etc.


LGBTQI+

He stayed with friends and even spent a few nights in a hotel when had nowhere else to go. In September 2019, he moved into a flat with three other gay asylum seekers through Le Refuge, an organisation supporting isolated LGBTQI+ youth.

2020 August 5, Francesca Spinelli, “Meet David: born in France, raised in Belgium, facing removal to the DRC”, in The Guardian:

Immense respect and many thanks to Olumide Popoola for founding and running the Futures in the Making and Future is Back projects for LGBTQI+ writers, your vision and fortitude are invaluable.

2022, Leon Craig, “Acknowledgements”, in Parallel Hells, Sceptre, →ISBN:

(LGBTQ) Initialism of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender/transsexual, queer/questioning, intersex etc.


The centre is receiving free kits as part of a national distribution pilot called Test Now, a program run by the Community-Based Research Centre in Vancouver, seeking to improve testing access for LGBTQ2A+ people.

2021 June 18, Zak Vescera, Gillian Francis, “HIV self-tests hard to come by in Saskatchewan”, in The StarPhoenix:

(LGBTQ, chiefly Canada) Initialism of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender/transsexual, queer/questioning, two-spirited, allied/asexual/aromantic/agender etc.


LGBTIQ+

Anna Bernasochi, suicide prevention manager at Switchboard Victoria, said the release of the data – a recommendation of the royal commission into mental health – was the first step in improving the understanding of suicides in LGBTIQ+ communities.

2022 October 13, Benita Kolovos, “Victoria’s 208 LGBTQ+ suicides to be outlined for the first time in new report”, in The Guardian:

“Why are we bystanders when countries such as Uganda, Ghana, Kenya, Tanzania and Namibia introduce anti-homosexuality laws that seek to erase LGBTIQ+ people?” Letsike asked in June at the South African Aids conference.

2023 August 7, Mia Malan, “A pandemic is not just a disease – it’s a political, social and economic crisis fuelled by inequality”, in The Guardian:

(LGBTQ) Initialism of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender/transsexual, intersex, queer/questioning etc.


LGBTI+

The Australian men’s national team released a video on Thursday morning with 16 players delivering their message line by line, raising concerns about the “suffering” of migrant workers and the inability in Qatar of LGBTI+ people “to love the person that they choose”.

2022 August 26, Natasha May, Mike Hytner, “Socceroos make collective statement to speak out about Qatar’s human rights record”, in The Guardian:

(LGBTQ) Initialism of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender/transsexual, intersex etc.


trans the gay away

en-verb

trans the gay away (third-person singular simple present transes the gay away, present participle transing the gay away, simple past and past participle transed the gay away)

transes the gay away (present singular third-person)
transing the gay away (participle present)
transed the gay away (participle past)
transed the gay away (past)

We're seeing this new 'trans-the-gay-away' movement happening, and people think that it's progressive, when in reality this is happening in some of the most conservative areas across the globe.

2020 February 13, Mary Farrow, quoting Mary Kate Fain, “On transgenderism: Common ground, and real differences, between Catholics and radical feminists”, in Catholic News Agency:

One plausible line of inquiry by those questioning transitioning is whether it involves homophobia, as in the phrase "trans the gay away".

2020 May 4, Monica Rose, “10 painful things I learned when my daughter transitioned”, in MercatorNet:

A gay clinician there resigned due to concerns that some parents appeared overly happy to "trans the gay away".

2021 August 12, Petra Kindler, “Conversion Therapies Bill”, in Irish Times:

LGB Alliance believes that treatment at the NHS’s Tavistock Clinic is "transing the gay away". It argues that puberty blockers and experimental drugs are the "greatest threat" to young people it represents.

2022 September 12, Hayley Dixon, “Tavistock clinic 'putting young gay people at risk by treating them as trans'”, in The Telegraph:

(gender-critical) To induce a gay person to undergo gender transition so that they become heterosexual.


passoid

easy to say as a passoid

2020 May 4, anonymous author, 4chan, /lgbt/:

I find it very interesting that "hons" (ugly masculine men) and "passoids" have so much animosity

2022 July 27, @MalesOfReddit, Twitter, archived from the original on 2023-02-03:

i don't usually block chasers, but if any tgirl calls me a youngshit or a passoid it's on sight

2022 November 4, @kateisdeflate, Twitter, archived from the original on 2023-02-02:

Our FedEx delivery person is a voice passoid

2022 November 9, @FemboyLifestyle, Twitter, archived from the original on 2022-11-15:

I used to really hate being tall, but now that I've been on E for a while and am a bit of a passoid I've realized that being a tall queen is hot shit and I am totally here for it. I love being a 6'3 blonde bitch.

2023 January 28, @Cassandra_Nya, Twitter, archived from the original on 2023-02-03:

(4chan /lgbt/ slang, sometimes derogatory) A transgender person who is passing.


youngshit

Yes and it's also no youngshits. Leave.

2016 September 1, anonymous author, 4chan, /lgbt/:

no it hasn't, it's just that this board is full of youngshit passers, hence the need for this thread

2016 September 26, anonymous author, 4chan, /lgbt/:

me trying to rizz up the beautiful youngshit at the party tn

It's ok I'm proud of being a midshit and not a youngshit

2023 January 27, @kimchicel, Twitter, archived from the original on 2023-07-05:

i would be the youngest youngshit to exist istg

2023 February 2, @VICTIMTR4P, Twitter, archived from the original on 2023-07-05:

(4chan /lgbt/ slang, sometimes derogatory) A transgender person who began transitioning at a young age.


gigapassoid

From giga- + passoid (“a transgender person who is passing”).

pre

I mean everyone's going to leave this God forsaken general at some point and be replaced by other bdd gigapassoids so yea life goes on

2021 June 12, anonymous author, 4chan, /lgbt/:

I just got asked if I was pregnant today lmao. I am a fucking gigapassoid lmao

2022 April 9, @AmooliaGang, Twitter, archived from the original on 2023-06-18:

The poster child for being a gigapassoid thinks that red states would have loved letting people transition if only the rude nonbinaries weren't so loud and this is an opinion I'm supposed to treat like it's serious?

2022 August 23, @Devon_OnEarth, Twitter, archived from the original on 2023-06-18:

Every day on twitter is another day getting mogged by gigapassoids and youngshits

2022 August 29, @princessyntheia, Twitter, archived from the original on 2023-06-18:

that feel when literally one inch of jaw bone decides whether im a twinkhon or a gigapassoid

2022 October 15, @WalkingInRuins, Twitter, archived from the original on 2023-06-18:

*gigapassoid voice* ugh I'm so masculine

2023 January 3, @girlofswords, Twitter, archived from the original on 2023-06-18:

(4chan /lgbt/ slang, sometimes derogatory) A transgender person who passes extremely well.


manmode

I actually wanna record one of my songs for the Youtubs^([sic]) but I don't know if I'm ready to come out on Youtube and I don't wanna record in MaNmOdE it's a crisis 😩

2021 March 3, @CaptAmazo, Twitter, archived from the original on 2021-03-03:

Gotta spend Friday afternoon with my family in manmode tho, rip

2022 June 24, @MsTransKafka, Twitter, archived from the original on 2022-07-13:

christmas manmode (my mom asked for hair advice)

2022 December 25, @HORMONEABUSER, Twitter, archived from the original on 2023-07-05:

(especially in transgender slang) The state of presenting as a man, regardless of one's actual gender identity, especially of a trans woman.


le$bian

(Internet slang) Filter-avoidance spelling of lesbian.


pooner

From poon (“poontang; vagina”) + -er. Possibly inspired by boomer derivatives such as coomer and doomer.

How will pooners recover?

2021 February 22, anonymous author, 4chan, /lgbt/:

Dude..., could you have picked a less attractive name? Lmfao. If I were a pooner I'd say my name is Thor or Magnus.. not FUCKING FRODO

2021 November 23, @DryOldHooker, Twitter, archived from the original on 2022-12-08:

sorry but the barney mf literally looks like a pooner caricature

2022 June 24, @AmarylisRetard, Twitter, archived from the original on 2022-07-12:

someone said i was larping as a pooner because of this

2022 October 12, @ARYANFAGGOT, Twitter, archived from the original on 2023-07-05:

you cannot unironically look like a pooner cartoon and then complain about misgendering

2023 January 1, @transmedbiomed, Twitter, archived from the original on 2023-07-05:

pooners when they have to cut their hair, remove their piercings and take testosterone to pass

2023 May 8, anonymous author, 4chan, /lgbt/:

Pooners pass poorly in general and have a harder time fitting in with what society expects of a man.
Of course no one knows this because pooners are fucking invisible

2023 May 14, anonymous author, 4chan, /lgbt/:

(4chan /lgbt/ slang, derogatory, offensive) A trans man who does not pass; a clocky trans man.


tranner

Girl I am also a tranner I got dysphoria diagnosis. So I know what the hell dysphoria is. You are just being unreasonably bitter at everything from what I have seen. Just relax. I have right to establish my rules on my own account.

2020, August 6, "Sky guy" on Twitter https://twitter.com/SkyGuyArt/status/1291380466587701255

its weird that whenever a tranner on here expresses disatisfaction with their transition, a whole army of trans people that never post their face arrive to tell them they're evil and should stop existing

2022, October 16, "cafebeef" on Twitter https://twitter.com/0xCAFEBEEF/status/1581655481051123713

I am coming out as a tranner

2022, January 2, "Tel0din" on Twitter https://twitter.com/Tel0dinparody/status/1477439238471888902

2022, August 4, "Civil_Exchange4116" on Reddit https://www.reddit.com/r/4tran/comments/wg3gdk/twitter_tranners_moment/
Twitter tranners moment
today i had a thought that surprised me / if i could snap my fingers and just BE a cis woman / i don't think i'd do it

(Internet slang, derogatory, offensive) A transgender person.


trutrans

Very disturbed at the current attacks on @AutumnSandeen by both radfems and trutrans. Her surgeon seems to have been unethically indiscreet

2011 September 10, @RozKaveney, Twitter, archived from the original on 2023-07-05:

when i finally get a choker to complete my outfit im turning into a trutrans

2017 September 25, @saturniidawn, Twitter, archived from the original on 2023-07-05:

Genderlife was set up by Calpernia Adams in (I think) the late 90s.
 It was a hive of trutranses and chasers pretending to be trans women, but it was all we had.

2020 July 23, @CateSpice, Twitter, archived from the original on 2020-07-24:

(transgender slang, sometimes sarcastic) A genuine or legitimate transgender person.


manmoder

From manmode + -er. By surface analysis, man + -moder.

Coordinate term: boymoder

manmoders need a community too

2021 December 26, @estrogenizedboy, Twitter, archived from the original on 2021-12-26:

told myself i wont tweet about trans stuff, so i've deleted that stuff, suffice to say i will defend boymoders, manmoders and repressors.

2022 March 18, @0xCAFEBEEF, Twitter, archived from the original on 2023-01-22:

friend informing me that one of my friends formerly had a "boymoder podcast" and i should tell her to restart it so i can start one called "manmoder podcast"

2022 May 10, @tahukann, Twitter, archived from the original on 2022-05-11:

Manmoders and hons are not allowed to reclaim the F slur

2022 August 30, @Real_tttt_takes, Twitter, archived from the original on 2022-08-30:

(transgender slang) One who is in manmode (presenting as male regardless of gender identity).


rapehon

Compound of rape + hon (“a trans woman who does not pass”).

com+

we need to form twinkhon death squads to hunt and execute the rapehons

2018 October 26, anonymous author, 4chan, /lgbt/:

>also repressing trans, will evolve into rapehon at 50

2018 November 7, anonymous author, 4chan, /lgbt/:

from what i can tell it it a term used by reddit rapehons to explain why they get hard when crossdressing

2021 December 8, @estrogenizedboy, Twitter, archived from the original on 2021-12-08:

Im not ugly enough to immediately revolt and disgust all my friends like a boomer rapehon but im ugly enough for them to want to befriend me to make themselves feel better in comparison

2022 March 22, @aphextwinkhon, Twitter, archived from the original on 2022-03-22:

but yeah from the laptop stickers and being an oldshit (19) rapehon this *is* literally me

2022 May 10, @estrogenizedboy, Twitter, archived from the original on 2022-12-08:

If Destiny was a trans woman he would be a rapehon

2022 May 18, @LibtardAthena, Twitter, archived from the original on 2022-05-18:

this 14 year old kid is out of her mind calling people "rapehons" and telling them to "41%." youre in middle school?

[2022 September 23, @wittlett, Twitter, archived from the original on 2022-12-08:

the current moment creates this sort of deepfaked person with no traits outside of posting or saying "ive been observing this rapehon clique" etc

2022 September 23, @LeadingLoss, Twitter, archived from the original on 2022-12-08:

(4chan /lgbt/ slang, derogatory) A trans woman who acts in a perverted or rapey way.


theymab

Etymology tree
Proto-Indo-European *tóy
Proto-Germanic *þai
Proto-Norse *ᚦᚨᛁᛉ (*þaiʀ)
Old Norse þeirbor.
Middle English þei
English they
Proto-Indo-European *h₂éd
Proto-Italic *ad
Latin ad
Latin ad-
Proto-Indo-European *sek-der.
Proto-Italic *seknom
Latin signum
Proto-Indo-European *-éh₂
Proto-Indo-European *-yéti
Proto-Indo-European *-eh₂yéti
Proto-Italic *-āō
Latin -ō
Latin signō
Latin assignōlbor.
Old French assignerbor.
Middle English assignen
English assign
English assigned
Latin mās
Proto-Indo-European *-lós
Proto-Italic *-elos
Latin -ulus
Latin -culus
Latin masculus
Vulgar Latin masclus
Old French maslebor.
Middle English male
English male
Proto-Indo-European *h₂éd
Proto-Germanic *at
Old English æt
Middle English at
English at
Proto-Indo-European *bʰer-
Proto-Indo-European *-tis
Proto-Indo-European *bʰértisder.
Proto-Germanic *burþiz
Old Norse burðrbor.
Middle English birthe
English birth
English AMAB
English theymab
Blend of they + AMAB (“assigned male at birth”).

blend

Coordinate term: theyfab

*holding your newborn baby* so are they theymab or theyfab

2022 May 18, @CartaMonir, Twitter, archived from the original on 2022-05-18:

Thinking about how she had a theymab signed to her label to be all inclusive and cool but he turned out to be a predator

2022 July 7, @reignarain, Twitter, archived from the original on 2022-11-25:

if you call people theymabs or theyfabs then you're transphobic.

2022 August 8, @gwencystic, Twitter, archived from the original on 2022-08-08:

(LGBTQ slang, derogatory) A non-binary person who was assigned male at birth, often one that does not change their physical appearance.


theyfab

Etymology tree
Proto-Indo-European *tóy
Proto-Germanic *þai
Proto-Norse *ᚦᚨᛁᛉ (*þaiʀ)
Old Norse þeirbor.
Middle English þei
English they
Proto-Indo-European *h₂éd
Proto-Italic *ad
Latin ad
Latin ad-
Proto-Indo-European *sek-der.
Proto-Italic *seknom
Latin signum
Proto-Indo-European *-éh₂
Proto-Indo-European *-yéti
Proto-Indo-European *-eh₂yéti
Proto-Italic *-āō
Latin -ō
Latin signō
Latin assignōlbor.
Old French assignerbor.
Middle English assignen
English assign
English assigned
Proto-Italic *fēmanā
Latin fēmina
Proto-Indo-European *-lós
Proto-Italic *-elos
Latin -lus
Latin -la
Latin fēmella
Latin fēminader.
Old French femelebor.
Middle English femele
Middle English female
English female
Proto-Indo-European *h₂éd
Proto-Germanic *at
Old English æt
Middle English at
English at
Proto-Indo-European *bʰer-
Proto-Indo-European *-tis
Proto-Indo-European *bʰértisder.
Proto-Germanic *burþiz
Old Norse burðrbor.
Middle English birthe
English birth
English AFAB
English theyfab
Blend of they + AFAB (“assigned female at birth”)

blend

Coordinate term: theymab

i watch the trans women in my life matter of factly talk about how most cis women & theyfabs & transmascs systematically mistreat them at worst and use them as free therapy at best and i'm like Hmm i wonder what hidden dynamics of abuse and labour are going on here

2022 August 7, @uncanny_eli, Twitter, archived from the original on 2022-11-25:

if you hate the term theyfab so much, then stop putting afab in your bio. stop introducing yourself as afab nonbinary. stop using afab as shorthand for being safe. and for the love of god stop telling trans women they have amab bodies.

2022 August 8, @fagfemme_menace, Twitter, archived from the original on 2023-03-17:

I'm non binary in a theyfab way but I'm a trans woman

2022 November 18, @girlofswords, Twitter, archived from the original on 2022-11-25:

(LGBTQ slang, derogatory) A non-binary person who was assigned female at birth, often one that does not change their physical appearance.


TDoR

Transgender Day of Remembrance
w:Transgender Day of Remembrance

(LGBTQ) Initialism of Transgender Day of Remembrance.


anticistamines

Blend of antihistamine + cis (“cisgender”).

Super excited for you to finally get those anticistamines

2017 September 7, @JackRoyce, Twitter, archived from the original on 2023-04-16:

(cw meds) tfw you're on the train to pride and you realize the one thing you forgot to pack is your anticistamines

2019 June 8, @concavetriangle, Twitter, archived from the original on 2023-07-05:

9 months on anticistamines ✨🖤 trans joy is ~everything~

2021 February 27, @__jajaja___, Twitter, archived from the original on 2023-07-05:

(transgender slang, humorous) Medication used for transgender hormone replacement therapy.


chosen family

...but when a sudden change of events jeopardizes their summer in gay paradise, their bonds as a chosen family are pushed to the limit.

2022 December 23, Taylor Henderson, “Matt Rogers Reveals Potential Ideas for Fire Island 2 Sequel”, in Out Magazine:

De La Cruz's writing offers caregiving models that blend biological and chosen family, a narrative strategy central to the contemporary trans fiction of Casey Plett.

But while partners are an integral part of the enduring chosen family for lesbians and gay men in the United States, for hijras and kotis, their pantis or husbands are categorically not family

1994, Michael W. McCann, Rights at Work: Pay Equity Reform and the Politics of Legal Mobilization:

(LGBTQ) A group of people who are not biologically related but who have formed a supportive group that fills the role normally expected to be supplied by the family one is born into.


dragphobia

From drag (“women's clothing worn by men for the purpose of entertainment”) + -phobia.

af

drag<t:women's clothing worn by men for the purpose of entertainment>

When challenged on their dragphobia, organizers pointed to the presence of L'Entrepeau (a drag queen bar) in the parade as evidence of their inclusive politics.

1996, Brett Beemyn, Michele Eliason, Queer Studies: A Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, & Transgender Anthology, →ISBN, page 187:

The drag queen star of a controversial tampon advertisement, pulled amid backlash from the transgender community, has defended the campaign and has hit out against "dragphobia".

2012 January 4, Matthew Backhouse, “Drag queen defends 'transphobic' tampon ad”, in The New Zealand Herald, archived from the original on 2021-09-20:

Celebrity Big Brother winner Shane Jenek/Courtney Act has voiced his confusion about fellow housemate India Willoughby's supposed 'dragphobia'.

2018 February 5, Rianne Houghton, “Celebrity Big Brother winner Shane Jenek is confused over India Willoughby's 'dragphobia'”, in Digital Spy, archived from the original on 2022-12-27:

Reaching more than 10 pubs for drag performance we were constantly rejected because of DRAGPHOBIA (yes, it's a thing). Meanwhile, I faced backlashes from people within and outside the community on my style of drag.

2021, Patruni Chidananda Sastry, My Experiment with Drag: Sexy, Sacred and Suffocated:

"There is clear and present danger against our community and threats... we really haven't seen it at this level in over a decade, if ever," GLAAD president and CEO Sarah Kate Ellis said on the "Takeaway" podcast this week in a conversation the group posted on Twitter. "Dragphobia is on the Rise," the Twitter post said.

2022 December 16, Andrew Mark Miller, “LGBT group warns 'dragphobia' is on the rise, conservatives blast post on Twitter”, in Fox News, archived from the original on 2022-12-22:

(LGBTQ, uncommon) Hatred or fear of drag queens and drag kings.


GRS

While medical association recommends gender affirmation surgery (and by that I mean things like top surgery or shit live tracheal shave) to be open to 16+, and very very rarely it is done on 16+ if the person is considered at high risk of suicide and if the surgery would alleviate that, no GRS surgeries are done on teen, even less kids.

2022 December 29, Naiva_Prism, “As a modern centrist, here’s some reactionary right wing hyperbole…”, in Reddit, ENLIGHTENEDCENTRISM, archived from the original on 2022-12-30:

gender reassignment
gender reassignment#English

Initialism of gender reassignment surgery.


hearts, not parts

People's personalities as opposed to their biological sex.


transphilia

From trans- + -philia or trans + -philia.

(rare) Sexual attraction to transgender or transsexual people.


biphilia

Coordinate term: homophilia

[…] from the outset it does not exhibit Gentlemen Prefer Blondes biphilia', of which, as Doty notes, "It's never a matter of the woman choosing either men or each other, but of having both women and men available to them."

2012 December 17, Timothy Shary, Millennial Masculinity: Men in Contemporary American Cinema, Wayne State University Press, →ISBN, page 186:

Philia is the propensity to fall in love romantically with members of a particular sex or gender (or both, as in the case of biphilia). The three affectional orientations include opposite-sex, same-sex, and bidirectional.

2015 January 1, Ada L. Sinacore, Freda Ginsberg, Canadian Counselling and Counselling Psychology in the 21st Century, McGill-Queen's Press - MQUP, →ISBN, page 114:


transphile

(rare, chiefly Internet, derogatory) A person who has a positive attitude or an attraction towards transgender or transsexual people and/or transness.


faggotization

He protests the "faggotization and feminization" of America.

2001, Robert Young Pelton, The Adventurist: My Life in Dangerous Places, page 225:

Then came a 'pro-family group' of about twenty people with banners reading 'Serbian Home Never Sodom' and 'Stop Faggotization'.

2019, Amelia Abraham, Queer Intentions: A (Personal) Journey Through LGBTQ+ Culture:

The faggotization and/or hypermasculinization of the Muslim and/or Arab Other are required because their “connective selves” (Joseph 1993a, 1994, 1999b) expose the limits of one of the ideals most cherished by political modernity, liberal feminism, and certain LGBTIQ movements: freedom from norms.

2022, Gustavo Barbosa, The Best of Hard Times: Palestinian Refugee Masculinities in Lebanon, page 175:

(derogatory, offensive) The process of faggotizing, or making homosexual.


LGBTQWERTY

From LGBT + QWERTY (“standard layout of keys on a keyboard for typing”), mocking the practice of expanding the initialism with different letters denoting related communities.

and why do you hate the lgbtqwerty crowd? ur a h8r!11111!1!!!11 White cisgendered patriarchical oppressor!

2015 April 24, The Cheesehusker, Trade Warrior, “Re: I'll take two microaggression sandwiches, some fries and a coke”, in rec.sport.football.college (Usenet):

The parents and the judge should be locked up. The LGBTQWERTY agenda clearly isn't about the issue of rights. I wouldn't have any issue with that. It's about normalising mental illness, sexualising children, spreading perversion and sidelining normal people because they don't like feeling like misfits.

2019 May 13, Incubus, “Child abuse”, in uk.politics.misc (Usenet):

One of the most dynamic cultural events of past year was not any of the LGBTQWERTY ‘re-imaginings’ so beloved of Radio 4’s fawning arts coverage, but rather the speech made by the unlikely revolutionary, Roger Bolton[.]

2023 January 6, Julie Birchill, “Radio 4 is becoming a parody of itself”, in Spiked, archived from the original on 2023-07-13:

(derogatory, offensive) Synonym of LGBT+ and LGBTQ+.


“I’ve been working with at-risk LGBTQIA2 youth, but just to let you know ahead of time, I will be making fun of Cailtin (Jenner)," said Griffin, who performs Friday, April 22, at the Count Basie Theatre in Red Bank and Saturday, April 23, at the Mayo Performing Arts Center in Morristown.

2016 April 15, Alex Biese, “Kathy Griffin, no holding back in New Jersey”, in Asbury Park Press:

(LGBTQ, chiefly Canada) Initialism of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender/transsexual, queer/questioning, intersex, allied/asexual/aromantic/agender, and two-spirit.


Despite greater acceptance of sexual and gender diversity […], lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans, queer, intersex, two-spirit (LGBTQI2+) persons are still commonly told that they can or should change their sexual orientation (SO), gender identity (GI), or gender expression (GE).

2022 April 6, Martin Blais, Fabio Cannas Aghedu, Florence Ashley, Mariia Samoilenko, Line Chamberland, Isabel Côté, “Sexual orientation and gender identity and expression conversion exposure and their correlates among LGBTQI2+ persons in Québec, Canada”, in PLOS One, volume 17, number 4, →DOI, page 2:

(LGBTQ, chiefly Canada) Initialism of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender/transsexual, queer/questioning, intersex, two-spirited etc.


LGBTQQ

The new club joins eight other San Francisco Rotary groups. Its initial support will go to three Castro-based nonprofits: Larkin Street Youth Services; Lyric, for young LGBTQQ (if you’re wondering about the double Q, it’s queer and questioning) Asian and Pacific Islanders; and Openhouse, which helps LGBT seniors.

2018 April 11, Leah Garchik, “In the Castro, first gay Rotarian Club in the nation”, in San Francisco Chronicle:

(LGBTQ) Initialism of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender/transsexual, queer, and questioning.


transsexualist

Most transsexualists are males […] Pseudo-hermaphrodites or other intersexes are not to be confused with transsexualists; transvestites may be transsexualists, but not necessarily.

[M]oreover the femininity would be required for the body only, not for the mind. For if a transvestite wanted to be female all the time, he would be a transsexualist.

1992, John Oulton Wisdom, Freud, Women and Society, page 80:


tryke

[…] faggots dykes and trykes who have not found the ability or the words […]

2005, Emanuel Xavier, Bullets & Butterflies: Queer Spoken Word Poetry, page 117:

I mention an idea for Tryke T-shirts. "They'd say 'Trykes like dykes' on the front," I explain, and 'Dykes like Trykes' on the back. I wonder if anyone would wear them?
One of the Avengers looks at me. She is very pretty. I feel something pass between us. "I would wear it," she says. I wonder what she sees, what I've passed as.

2020, Riki Wilchins, Joan Nestle, Clare Howell, GenderQueer-Voices from Beyond the Sexual Binary, page 237:


aroflux

(LGBTQ, rare) Generally aromantic, but sometimes experiencing varying degrees of romantic attraction.


queernorm

en-adj

queernorm (comparative more queernorm, superlative most queernorm)

more queernorm (comparative)
most queernorm (superlative)

For me, queernormative books represent possibilities of something better, but also like a homecoming: when I was at Lambda Literary’s fellowship retreat a few years ago, being among all queer people, where our queerness was assumed and also unquestioned, I finally felt like I was in a community where I belonged—and reading queernorm books has that exact same feeling for me.

2022 August 23, Naseem Jamnia, “5 SFF Books With Queernormative Worlds”, in Tor.com:


ace-aro

ace-aro (comparative more ace-aro, superlative most ace-aro)

more ace-aro (comparative)
most ace-aro (superlative)

From ace (clipping of asexual) + aro (clipping of aromantic).

af

clipping of <i class="Latn mention" lang="en">asexual</i>

clipping of <i class="Latn mention" lang="en">aromantic</i>

No matter how we talk about our asexuality (or aromanticism), where we fall on the ace/aro spectrum, or how we decide to express our identity, knowing that other people feel the same way we do means a great deal.

2018 November 1, Claire Dwyer, “Asexual Awareness Week”, in The Scripps Voice, volume 27, number 3, Scripps College, page 5:

“I'm ace.” The moment the word leaves his mouth, it's like he'd been holding his breath for an hour and finally let it out. / I keep staring at him, and I realize I'm being rude, but I have no idea what I'm supposed to say. “A-ace?” / “Technically ace-aro. Asexual. Aromantic.” / My lip warbles. “Oh ... I don't know what that means.”

2020, Meredith Tate, The Last Confession of Autumn Casterly, New York, NY: G. P. Putnam's Sons, →ISBN, page 262:

(slang) Synonym of aro-ace (“aromantic and asexual”).


transvestigation

Etymology tree
Proto-Indo-European *terh₂-der.
Proto-Italic *trānts
Latin trāns
Latin trans-bor.
English trans-
Proto-Indo-European *ǵenh₁-
Proto-Indo-European *-os
Proto-Indo-European *ǵénh₁os
Latin genus
Old French gendrebor.
Middle English gendre
English gender
English transgenderblend.
Middle English investigacioun
English investigationblend.
English transvestigation
Blend of transgender + investigation.

etymon

informal investigation of public figures

transgender>having a gender different from one's assigned sex

The conspiracies I think are really bad is the ones that come from elitism and say that one group is better than another, so that's what I think is really stupid. Another thing that gets me are transvestigations, conspiracies about people's gender, like Justin Bieber being a girl and Miley Cyrus being a guy. It's just so stupid.

2018 August 10, Mack Lamoureux, quoting Cami Knodel, “We Asked Flat Earthers What The Dumbest Conspiracy Is”, in Vice News, archived from the original on 2022-11-28:

It didn't take long for users to point out that EmergentReality has no idea about the various shapes, sizes, and anatomical variations that both trans and cis women experience. "The Great Transvestigation strikes again, folks," Twitter user @indigowhiskey wrote. "It's been over 3 hours and I still don't know what an Adonis belt is."

2018 December 14, Ana Valens, “Dude gets dunked on for claiming Keira Knightley's 'six pack' makes her trans”, in The Daily Dot, archived from the original on 2022-07-18:

[…] and "transvestigations" refers to attempts to expose celebrities (such as Madonna and Mike Tyson) as secretly transgender.

[2021 May 25, John Ferrannini, “LGBTQ Agenda: GLAAD finds major social media sites 'unsafe' for LGBTQ users”, in Bay Area Reporter, archived from the original on 2022-12-05:

Inanna Snow, the "Transvestigation Disclosure" admin who argued that Cavill is trans due to his feminine gaze, was dethroned from her own page in recent weeks when others accused her of being trans, on equally flimsy grounds.

2022 July 18, Miles Klee, “Unhinged 'Transvestigators' Think They're the Only Cis People Left.”, in MEL Magazine, archived from the original on 2022-12-18:

The biggest transvestigation groups have a few thousand members – tiny by Facebook standards – and the biggest elite gender inversion Twitter account, Son of Man, has 25,000 followers.

2023 September 21, Hayden Vernon, “The Conspiracy Theory That All Celebrities Are Secretly Trans”, in Vice News, archived from the original on 2023-12-12:

The "transvestigation" conspiracy involves internet pundits using phrenology to "prove" that apparently cisgender celebrities are in fact trans, despite pretending otherwise

2024 February 8, Patrick Lenton, quoting Jay Daniel Thompson, “A Wild Investigation of Transvestigators, the People Who Think Celebs Are All Trans”, in Vice News, archived from the original on 2024-08-14:

(Internet slang, conspiracy theories) An informal investigation into whether a public figure is secretly transgender, generally conducted by analyzing that person's appearance and anatomical structure.

transvestigation

informal investigation into a public figure's gender identity


genderfae

From gender + fae, presumably from the stereotypical depiction of fairies as feminine or genderless.

Kang identifies as a nonbinary/genderfae human and uses they and them pronouns.

2021, Carol Morris, "Hants West Green Party candidate hopes to alleviate causes of stress if elected", The Valley Journal Advertiser (Hants County, Nova Scotia), 29 June 2021 (link)

Bristow also claims to be a ‘genderfae female person’.

2021 July 19, Jo Bartosch, “The Greens: torn apart by trans mania”, in Spiked:

For River, a pansexual genderfae non-binary trans woman in her thirties, receiving gender affirmation from her best friend had not only helped her recover mentally, but had also allowed her to be physically safe at a time when her religious community and family of origin had rejected her.

2022, Elisabeth Dromer, Olivier Ferlatte, Trevor Goodyear, David J. Kinitz, & Travis Salway, "Overcoming Conversion Therapy: A Qualitative Investigation of Experiences of Survivors", SSM - Qualitative Research in Health, Volume 2, December 2022 (link)

(neologism) Having a genderfluidity that does not include male or masculine gender identities or presentations.


priestx

I’ve been ordained as a pagan priestx!

2019, Maia Kobabe, Gender Queer: A Memoir, The Lion Forge, LLC, →ISBN, page 189:

It turns out that across cultures and through recorded history, creating culture and recording history are among the most essential functions of the priestx.

2019 October 15, Kristian Wilson Colyard, quoting Mya Spalter, “Let These 9 Witches Tell You How You Can Be A Witch, Too”, in Bustle, archived from the original on 2019-10-22:

There will always be another teacher, leader, priestx, organizer, etc.

2020 July 29, Sidney Eileen, “Words Have Power – We Need Acceptance Instead of Tolerance”, in The Balancing Path (Patheos), archived from the original on 2020-09-24:

The Assembly of the Sacred Wheel (ASW) issued a press release announcing an amendment to their charter to be more inclusive and affirmative to non-binary leadership, and have added the gender-neutral term, “Priestx” as an option for leaders.

[2020 August 17, “Pagan Community News: Unauthorized ritual at Istrehågan in Norway, Assembly of the Sacred Wheel amends its charter, and more!”, in The Wild Hunt, archived from the original on 2020-09-21:

To be honest, I didn’t even know Hekate that well when I began, but within weeks I had gone from a sideline observer to a dedicated priestx.

2021, Rowan “Briar” Rivers, “Foreword by Rowan “Briar” Rivers: Coming to the Crossroads”, in Jennifer Teixeira, Hekate: Temple of the Bones, Moon Books, John Hunt Publishing, →ISBN:

I CAN FINALLY COMPLETE OUR TRIAD WITH A REAL FREAK PRIEST/PRIESTESS/PRIESTX.

2022, John Allison, Steeple, volume 3 (That’s the Spirit), Dark Horse Books, →ISBN:

(neologism, rare) Non-binary or gender-neutral equivalent of priest.


noun-self pronoun

en-noun

noun-self pronoun (plural noun-self pronouns)

Fae is an example of a “noun-self'” pronoun. […] Noun-self pronouns are often common amongst people who identify with xenogenders (see definition above, under X terms), but can be used by anyone.

2021, MSU Pride Community Centre 2STLGBQIA+ Handbook, page 15:

Noun-self pronouns can refer to animals—so your pronouns can be “bun/bunself” and “kitten/kittenself.”

2021 May 1, Ezra Marcus, “A guide to neopronouns”, in Honolulu Star-Advertiser, 140th year, number 90, page 8:

Other neopronouns are “noun self-pronouns,” where a word that already exists is adapted as a pronoun.

2022, Robyn Ryle, She/He/They/Me: An Interactive Guide to the Gender Binary, →ISBN, page 76:

Noun-self pronouns can reflect a person’s connection to nature, fandom, or other interests, and are highly individualized.

2022, Laura Erickson-Schroth, editor, Trans Bodies, Trans Selves: A Resource by and for Transgender Communities, 2nd edition, Oxford University Press, →ISBN, page 194:

You may be used to hearing and using sentences like, “I love the new album by Sam Smith; they’re my favourite artiste,” but there are others such as ze, per, ey, e… as well as a system of noun-self pronoun which uses an existing word of the individual’s choice.

2022 January 25, Rafael Nadal, “The way we talk now”, in StarLifestyle (The Star):

Another section explains how noun-self pronouns are used by “xenic” individuals whose gender does not fit within “the Western human binary of gender alignments”.

2022 February 6, Ewan Somerville, “Male, female, feline … Bristol University guide lectures staff about emoji pronouns and ‘catgender’ awareness”, in The Sunday Telegraph:

nounself pronoun
nounself pronoun#English


gay-in

On June 28, 1970, young gays in the city held a “Gay-in” in Golden Gate Park, and Gay Sunshine ran a photo of some of the participants in their inaugural issue […]

2012, Todd J. Ormsbee, The Meaning of Gay, page 313:

[…] a “Gay-In” at Presidio Park […]

2015, Douglas M. Charles, Hoover's War on Gays: Exposing the FBI's "Sex Deviates" Program, page 327:

A form of protest where people assemble in a public place to promote gay rights.


“We represent a variety of things: of course women, women of color, members of the LGBTQIA2+ community and much more,” Bird said of the players’ involvement.

2022 May 19, Frankie de la Cretaz, “Opinion: Sports Illustrated’s swimsuit issue is a step back in time. And not in a good way”, in CNN:

(LGBTQ, chiefly Canada) Initialism of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender/transsexual, queer/questioning, intersex, allied/asexual/aromantic/agender, two-spirited etc.


Wrath Month

Originated as a Twitter meme in 2018, as a play on pride and wrath as two of the seven deadly sins.

Now that you know it exists, you might be wondering how to celebrate. Lucky for you, we’ve assembled a handy list of activities for Wrath Month newcomers to dig into, so you can celebrate and frighten as many Trump supporters as possible.

2018 July 5, John Paul Brammer, “After Pride Comes Wrath Month — Here's How to Celebrate”, in Them:

July 1 marks the beginning of the lesser-known but increasingly-relevant Wrath Month. In the face of so much hate, queer folks are fighting back on their own terms.

2022 July 3, Erin Rook, “This Week on LGBTQ Twitter: Prepare for Queer Wrath Month”, in LGBTQ Nation:

(Internet, social media, neologism) The month after Pride Month; an occasion to call attention to LGBT issues.

In the midst of these protests, many LGBTQ folks online started calling June 2020 “Wrath Month” rather than Pride Month, as we harnessed the righteous fury that started our movement in the first place.

2020, Alissa Smith, “Opinion: This is why we called June “Wrath Month””, in Colorado Springs Indy, archived from the original on 2022-07-05:

In 2020, Mr. Eye complained about the “performative bullshit” of Sacramento Mayor Darrell Steinberg and “the rest of the Pharisee council,” posted that Gay Pride has been replaced with “Gay Wrath Month,” and was promptly named Poet Laureate by the government he allegedly hates.

2023 February 9, Steven W. Aunan, “Sacramento's Violent Poet Laureate”, in The Semi-Pro Pilgrim:

(LGBTQ, neologism) A more politically activist version of Pride Month, typically during June.