lesbianism

lesbianism (countable and uncountable, plural lesbianisms)

Because all Asari present as female and use female pronouns, the deadly sexual nature of Ardat-Yakshi may reflect the continued fear of lesbianism that persists among many in human society.

2018, Alexandra M. Lucas, “From Smoldering Justicar to Blue-Skinned Space Babe: Asari Sexuality in Mass Effect”, in Heidi McDonald, editor, Digital Love: Romance and Sexuality in Video Games, CRC Press, →ISBN, →LCCN, →OCLC, page 72:

Female homosexuality; the state of a woman being sexually attracted to other women.


heterosexuality

en-noun

heterosexuality (usually uncountable, plural heterosexualities)

From heterosexual + -ity or hetero- + sexuality.

The state of being sexually and romantically attracted primarily or exclusively to persons of the opposite sex.


bisexuality

bisexuality (countable and uncountable, plural bisexualities)

(of humans or other animals) The state of being sexually or romantically attracted to members of either sex or gender.

1926, Dorothy E. Newton, The Bisexuality of Individual Strains of Coprinus Rostrupianus:

Recall from earlier in this paper that H. longicornis consists of obligatory bisexual diploid races (20+XX 0; 20+X) […] and variance is obscured because of the simultaneous variables of method of reproduction (bisexuality vs. thelytoky) and […]

1983, Entomological Society of America, Bulletin of the Entomological Society of America:

(chiefly botany) The state of being bisexual (“having both male and female parts or roles”).


arse bandit

And all the sodomites and catamites, poncey sausage jockeys, arse bandits, turd burglars and fudge packers, fur burger-licking carpet munchers, gormless imbeciles, morons, geeks, cretins and retards […]

2011, Bruce Mason, The Telomere Conspiracy, page 96:

(UK, Ireland, Commonwealth, slang, derogatory) A gay man.


out

en-verb

out (third-person singular simple present outs, present participle outing, simple past and past participle outed)

outs (present singular third-person)
outing (participle present)
outed (participle past)
outed (past)

→ German: outen

⇒ Polish: autować

From Middle English out, oute, from a combination of Old English ūt (“out”, preposition & adverb), from Proto-West Germanic *ūt, from Proto-Germanic *ūt (“out”); and Old English ūte (“outside; without”, adverb), from Proto-Germanic *ūtai (“out; outside”); both from Proto-Indo-European *úd (“upwards, away”).
Cognate with Scots oot, out (“out”), Saterland Frisian uut, uute (“out”), West Frisian út (“out”), Dutch uit (“out”), German Low German ut (“out”), German aus (“out”), Norwegian/Swedish ut, ute (“out; outside”), Danish ud, ude (“out; outside”).

inh

She throws her head back and lets out a warm laugh before she continues, “After that I thought, What am I so worried about? So I began to tell more people, and the more I outed myself, the easier it got.”

2014 July 18, Jase Peeples, “Susan Blu: Transformation of an Animation Icon”, in The Advocate:

Trans Media Watch had recently spoken at the Leveson Inquiry about how the Sun and the Daily Mail routinely outed trans people, publishing old names and photos, for no reason other than because they could.

2015, Juliet Jacques, Trans: A Memoir, Verso Books, →ISBN:

Always in my life I knew I was different. I also accepted that in a way, but I thought I could just live out those desires in private, for myself. I also have gone out en femme for a couple of years. […] I outed myself to my sister, which was super positive and is^([sic]) now my biggest supporter (love u sis!).

2015 December 30, Kathy, “Kathy's Favorite Photo (of Kathy!)”, in Femulate:

The Parkses were strict and narrowminded, and not knowing what to do with their recently outed bisexual teenage daughter, their obvious solution was to cut her off from her friends and keep her from leaving the house.

2016, Molly Booth, Saving Hamlet, Little, Brown Books for Young Readers, →ISBN:

As of 2018, I chair the workforce committee and lead on diversity and inclusion, including heading up a policy review on gender identity and trans inclusion, although that led me to be publicly outed as non-binary in the Sunday Times.

2020, Jos Twist, Meg-John Barker, Kat Gupta, Benjamin Vincent, Non-Binary Lives: An Anthology of Intersecting Identities, Jessica Kingsley Publishers, →ISBN, page 116:

(transitive, LGBTQ) To reveal (a person) as LGBT+ (gay, trans, etc).


out

in

antonym(s) of “disqualified from playing”

closeted

antonym(s) of “openly acknowledging that one is LGBT+”

vyautovaný

cricket, baseball: disqualified from playing further in an inning

It's no big deal to be out in the entertainment business.

I had not come out yet and he was out but wasn't; quite ungay, I would say, and yet gay.

2011, Allan Bérubé, My Desire for History: Essays in Gay, Community, and Labor History:

However, for a transgender man, while living stealth can be a feasible option for some, key people will need to know […] Not everyone has to be out, loud and proud or march down the streets holding trans flags […]

2018, Matthew Waites, Supporting Young Transgender Men: A Guide for Professionals, Jessica Kingsley Publishers, →ISBN, page 40:

(LGBTQ) Openly acknowledging that one is LGBT+ (gay, trans, etc).


strap

en-noun

strap (countable and uncountable, plural straps)

→ Japanese: ストラップ (sutorappu)

From a variant of earlier strope (“loop on a harness”), from Middle English strope, stropp, from Late Old English strop, stropp (“a band, thong, strap; oar-thong”) and Old French estrope (“strap, loop on a harness”), both from Latin stroppus, struppus (“strap”), from Ancient Greek στρόφος (stróphos, “rope”) (compare strophe), from στρέφω (stréphō, “to twist”), ultimately from Proto-Indo-European *strebʰ- (compare Proto-West Germanic *stroppōn (“to twist, writhe”)). Cognate with Scots strap, strop (“strap, band, thong”), Dutch strop (“noose, strop, loop”), Low German Strop (“strap”), German Struppe, Strüppe, Strippe (“string, cord”), Danish strop (“strap”), Swedish stropp (“strap, loop”).

ремък

a long, narrow, pliable strip of leather, cloth, or the like

ивица

a narrow strip of anything, as of iron or brass

After that, I graduated up to my first serious queer relationship where I learned the ropes. The first partner who strapped me made it everything I had wished for. She was thoughtful, patient, and would take her cues from how I responded. It was the complete opposite of my first sexual experience which was deeply disappointing and harmful. She bought a new strap just for us — a purple one with a Black harness. She had trouble putting it on, and it was important to her that she didn’t get dressed in front of me. As she struggled in the bathroom with the door open I laughed. “Don’t look!” she screamed as I heard her adorably grunt. She refused my giggly filled offer of help but that little moment beautifully eased the mood for my first time, releasing the tension I felt at being awkward and so new to strap-on sex, especially with a partner who had over a decade more experience than me.

2021 November 8, Addie Tsai, AKALAC, “To Strap Or Not To Strap — That Is The Question”, in Autostraddle, archived from the original on 2021-11-08, Lesbian Sex:

18. A strap-on harness fit for a queen because of its faux leather design and plush lining for comfortable wear. This easy-to-adjust harness fits hips up to 64 inches wide and offers a crotchless and open-back style, so you can let your creativity run wild.
The harness also includes three O-rings in different sizes to support a variety of dildo bases.
Peepshow Toys is an immigrant-owned sex toy boutique that promotes sex-positivity and education by only selling products created with body-safe and non-toxic materials.
Promising review: "This strap is so stunning✨ Super high quality, and durable!! I’m a bigger girl, and the size it was pre-measured at was great with plenty of space for expansion. Highly recommend in the red color!!" —Cleo

2022 March 26, Negesti Kaudo, quoting Cleo, “28 Strap-On Dildos And Harnesses Because "Woo, You A Pegga"”, in BuzzFeed, archived from the original on 2022-03-26, Sex Toys:

One of the side effects of strap-on sex is that sore pelvic bone feeling you get after pounding into a hungry body. Silicone dildos might feel amazing inside, but they have a tendency to hit and rub against the most delicate parts of the person wearing the strap.

2022 June 29, Archie Bongiovanni, “The Best Sex Toys For Trans Folks and Non-Binary Horndogs”, in Vice Media, archived from the original on 2022-06-29:


versatile

en-adj

versatile (comparative more versatile, superlative most versatile)

more versatile (comparative)
most versatile (superlative)

[ˈvɜː.səˌtaɪɫ]

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/ˈvɜː.səˌtɑɪl/

[ˈvɜː.səˌtɑɪɫ]

From Latin versātilis (“turning easily”), from versātus, past participle of versō (“I turn, change”), frequentative of vertō (“I turn”).

The versatile anther is an important step up in flowering plant evolution and it may be the most widespread of all simple anther types.

1996, William G. D'Arcy, edited by William G. D'Arcy and Richard C. Keating, The anther: form, function, and phylogeny:

(biology) Capable of moving freely in all directions.

wendbaar

biology: capable of moving freely in all directions

Among men who do engage in anal intercourse, about one-quarter are tops, one-quarter are bottoms, and one-half are versatile.

2017, Simon LeVay, Gay, Straight, and the Reason why: The Science of Sexual Orientation:

Synonym of vers (“Willing to take either a penetrative or receptive role in anal sex”)

vers

2004, queenchaser1158, “Horny Versatile TV/TS Wanted in Phoenix”, in alt.personals.gay (Usenet):

(BDSM) Being a switch; capable of taking either a dominant or a submissive role.

مُبَادِل

gay sexual slang: capable of taking both a top and bottom role

(sex, broadly) Capable of being either a dominant or a submissive partner in a sexual relationship.


homosexuality

en-noun

homosexuality (usually uncountable, plural homosexualities)

/ˌhəʊmə(ʊ)sɛkʃʊˈælɪti/

From homosexual + -ity, equivalent to homo- + sexuality and after the model of German Homosexualität, coined by journalist Karl Maria Kertbeny in 1869, and French homosexualité, attested in 1891.

Great diminution or complete absence of sexual feeling for the opposite sex, with substitution of sexual feeling and instinct for the same sex. (Homo-sexuality, or contrary sexual instinct).

1892, Richard von Krafft-Ebing, translated by Charles Gilbert Chaddock, Psychopathia Sexualis, page 185:

Some of the experts have gone into the question of homosexuality with great care, and advanced sundry learned and scientific theories in regard to that abnormal condition.

1892 April 2, “Hereditary Insanity: This is What Dr. Comstock Says Alice Mitchell Has”, in Memphis Appeal-Avalanche, Memphis, Tenn., page 1:

Of the dozen or so surviving articles, squibs, and letters to the editor, the most remarkable appeared in the Whip and Satirist’s February 12, 1842, issue, and disclosed the existence of a cabal of gay men in New York's otherwise wholesome nightscape of brothels and riots. Moreover it identified the spider who minced so delicately along the wide-flung strands of the sodomitical web. "There is not one so degraded as this Captain Collins, the King of the Sodomites." He was a foreigner, an Englishman, in the long tradition of blaming homosexuality on the influence of aliens. Among the syndicate of perverts, the writer announced, "we find no Americans as yet—they are all Englishmen or French" (the English called homosexuality the French vice and the French the English vice; for the Whip it was the French and English vice).

2005, Mark Caldwell, New York Night, page 133:

The state of being sexually attracted primarily or exclusively to persons of the same sex, sometimes (potentially offensive) restricted to same-sex attraction between males.

Bourneville believes that 75 per cent. of the inmates of the Parisian venereal hospitals have practised homosexuality.

1897, Havelock Ellis et al., Sexual Inversion, page 101:

A Prussian proposal for a harsh penal code made male homosexuality an even more serious crime.

2004 June 10, Leslie Feinberg, “The love that dared to speak its name”, in Workers World:

Third, it is possible to have gay sex with a crew member on your team. This isn’t possible with every crew member—only some, according to their pre-programmed sexual orientation. It’s obvious why this is an issue for Christians. Scripture explicitly says homosexuality is a sin (Genesis 18:20-21; 19:4-5, 24-25; Leviticus 18:22; Romans 1:26-27; 1 Corinthians 6:9-11; 2 Peter 2:4-10). Denying what Scripture says on it is nothing short of joyful ignorance and intellectual dishonesty.
Society, conversely, says it’s not a sin, and as such has thrown it into pop culture without a care for whom they offend. Obviously, for the Christian, do not go this route. If you believe homosexuality is a sin (and you should, considering God’s Word is inerrant and infallible and you say you’re a Christian), do not choose a gay romantic route. You may think it’s harmless if you do, but what’s the point in making a confession coherent with Scripture but not living according to that confession? Quite frankly, it’s hypocritical and needs repentance.

2019 October 31, Garrick Beckett, “Beckett: How BioWare Approaches Religion & Sexuality”, in The Lutheran Column, archived from the original on 2020-09-17, Blog:

Sexual activity with a person of the same sex, sometimes (potentially offensive) restricted to same-sex sex between males.


bi-

PIE word
 *dwóh₁
Borrowed from Latin bi-, from Proto-Italic *dwi-, from Proto-Indo-European *dwi-. Doublet of twi- and di-.

noun (m. sg.) + בן שתי + noun (f. pl.) (e.g. בניין בן שתי קומות, "a two-story building")

noun (m. sg.) + בן שתי + noun (m. pl.) (e.g. ספר בן שני חלקים, "a two-part book")

noun (f. sg.) + בת שתי + noun (f. pl.) (e.g. קואליציה בת שתי מפלגות, "a two-party coalition")

noun (f. sg.) + בת שני + noun (m. pl.) (e.g. מערכת בת שני גופים, "a two-body system")

གཉིས་ལྡན (gnyis ldan, literally “having two”)

ཟུང་ལྡན (zung ldan, literally “having a pair”)

གཉིས་མ (gnyis ma, literally “both, double”)

གཉིས་རེ (gnyis re, literally “every two”)

ལྡབ་གཉིས (ldab gnyis, literally “twice”)

bicentric is having a bisexual bias or basis, biphobia is antipathy towards bisexuals, biromantic is romantically attracted to both males and females

(LGBTQ) Bisexual, relating to bisexuality.


poly

Coordinate term: mono

Whether the family is poly, L.G.B.T.Q. or another minority, such as a religious one, coming out is very much a personal decision.

2020 August 4, Cynthia McKelvey, “The Challenges of Polyamorous Parenting”, in The New York Times:


hetero-

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From Ancient Greek ἕτερος (héteros, “other, another, different”).

bor

heterocentric is having a heterosexual bias or basis, heteroamorous is characterized by love with another of the opposite sex; heteroromantic, heterofemale is a woman who is heterosexual

allo-

sometimes synonymous; differentiated in transplantation sense, intraspecies versus interspecies


bisexual

en-adj

bisexual (comparative more bisexual, superlative most bisexual)

more bisexual (comparative)
most bisexual (superlative)

Charles Gilbert Chaddock
Havelock Ellis
Otto Weininger
Palisot de Beauvois
Psychopathia Sexualis
Richard von Krafft-Ebing
Robert John Thornton

From bi- + -sexual, via the French bisexuel (bi-, sexuel). Attested since 1792 as a synonym in botany for "hermaphroditic" ("having male and female parts"). First used of sexuality in Richard von Krafft-Ebing's 1886 Psychopathia Sexualis (in German) and Charles Gilbert Chaddock's 1892 English translation thereof, due to the theory that people were naturally attracted to the opposite sex and so the brain or mind of a person attracted to "both" sexes (or to the same sex) must be partly of another sex and thus "hermaphroditic".

двухпо́лы

botany: having both male and female organs

The bisexual name, such as Marion and Carol (and Evelyn and Vivian in England), is frequently a source of annoyance and embarrassment to the letter writer, who, if he does not know his ambiguously named correspondent personally […]

1947, Louise Pound, Kemp Malone, Arthur Garfield Kennedy, William Cabell Greet, American Speech:

At the desk, he completed the registration card, signing his name Jean Cable and giving a New York address. He did not know for sure that he was being pursued, but if so, he knew his pursuers would check new registrations around the city. The bisexual name would give them one more obstacle […]

1976, Frank V. Fowlkes, The Peruvian Contracts: A Novel, Putnam Publishing Group, →ISBN, page 128:

And although Stevens introduces Nanzia Nunzio as a woman, the inflections of the bisexual name and the symbolism implicit in the messenger's characteristics suggest that the "contemplated spouse" is something more than a woman.

Consider the identity play of the French artist who gave herself the bisexual name of Claude Cahun (1894–1954).

2003, Efrat Tseëlon, Masquerade and Identities: Essays on Gender, Sexuality and Marginality, Routledge, →ISBN, page 59:

On August 16, in Mankato, Blue Earth County, Minnesota, Michael McConnell alone applied for a marriage license for himself and Baker, under his new adoptive name. The "bisexual name of Pat […]"

2005, Minnesota Law Review, volume 89, number 6, page 1762:

The Bionic Woman of the television serial of the seventies, though she wears ordinary dress most of the time, has the bisexual name of Jamie Summers.

2013, Marina Warner, Joan of Arc: The Image of Female Heroism, Oxford University Press, USA, →ISBN, page 307:

(chiefly botany) Having both male and female parts, characteristics, or functions.


constellation

PIE word
 *ḱóm
From Middle English constellacioun, constillacioun (“(astrology) position of the moon or a planet in relation to the ascendant sign of the zodiac; horoscope; (astronomy) formation of fixed stars, constellation; (astronomy) elevation or position of the sun”) [and other forms], borrowed from Old French constellation (modern French constellation), or directly from its etymon Late Latin cōnstēllātiōnem, the accusative singular of cōnstēllātiō (“collection of stars supposed to exert an influence upon human affairs, constellation”), from Latin con- (prefix denoting a bringing together of several objects) + stēlla (“star; meteor; planet”) (ultimately from Proto-Indo-European *h₂stḗr (“star”)) + -ātiō (suffix forming nouns).

nb...

constelacioun, constellacion, constellacyon, constellacyoun, constillacion, constillacione, constillacioune, constillatioun, constollacion, constolacioun

sterrebeeld

arbitrary formation of stars perceived as a figure or pattern, or a division of the sky including it

rykelmä

configuration or grouping of related things

But alas such peruerse constellation nowe reigneth ouer men, that where some be aptely and naturally disposed to amitie, and fyndeth one, in similitude of studie and maners, equall to his expectation, and therfore kendeleth a feruent loue towarde that persone, puttinge all his ioye and delite in the praise and auauncement of him that he loueth, it hapneth that he which is loued, beinge promoted in honour, either of purpose neglecteth his frende, therby suppressynge libertie of speche or familiar resorte; or els esteming his mynde with his fortune onely, and nat with the suertie of frendship, hideth from him the secretes of his harte, and either trusteth no man, or els him whome prosperous fortune hath late brought in acquaintaunce.

1531, Thomas Elyot, “The Diuision of Ingratitude and the Dispraise therof”, in Ernest Rhys, editor, The Boke Named the Governour […] (Everyman’s Library), London: J[oseph] M[alaby] Dent & Co; New York, N.Y.: E[dward] P[ayson] Dutton & Co, published [1907], →OCLC, 2nd book, pages 188–189:

[H]e was born under the constellation that gives a man skill, riches, and integrity, whatever that constellation may be, which is of the less consequence because babies can't choose their own horoscopes, and, indeed, if they could, there might be an inconvenient rush of babies at particular epochs.

1862 July – 1863 August, George Eliot [pseudonym; Mary Ann Evans], “First Impressions”, in Romola. […], volume I, London: Smith, Elder and Co., […], published 1863, →OCLC, book I, page 72:

The configuration of planets at a given time (especially a person's birth), as believed to affect events on Earth, or used for determining a horoscope.


bug-chaser

(gay slang) A man who practises bug-chasing.


batty boy

From Caribbean slang batty (“buttocks”) + boy (“person”).

(Jamaica, Caribbean, UK, Canada derogatory slang) A homosexual man.


batty man

From Caribbean slang batty (“buttocks”) + man (“person”).

(Jamaica and Caribbean derogatory slang) A homosexual man.


bi-curious

en-adj

bi-curious (comparative more bi-curious, superlative most bi-curious)

more bi-curious (comparative)
most bi-curious (superlative)

/bʌɪˈkjʊə.ɹɪəs/

/bʌɪˈkjɔː.ɹɪəs/

From bi + curious. First appears c. 1984 in a personal ad in the newspaper The Orange County Register.

Bi curious M/F or cpls.

1984, anonymous author, Register (Orange County, California):

"Does this make us bi-curious, or are some dudes just that girly?"

2014 October 8, Dan Shive, El Goonish Shive (webcomic), Comic for Wednesday, Oct 8, 2014:

Skirt Club caters to bisexual or bicurious women. No men are allowed, but women with all levels of experience in same-sex sexuality, from bicurious to fully lesbian, are welcomed.

2016 October 7, Juliet Bennett Rylah, “Skirt Club Is a Sex Club for the Casually Bisexual Modern Woman”, in VICE:

(LGBTQ) Interested in having relationships with both men and women, curious about one's potential bisexuality; especially, of heterosexual people, considering a first sexual experience with a member of the same sex.

bischierig

Curious about one's potential bisexuality


come out of the closet

en-verb

come out of the closet (third-person singular simple present comes out of the closet, present participle coming out of the closet, simple past came out of the closet, past participle come out of the closet)

comes out of the closet (present singular third-person)
coming out of the closet (participle present)
came out of the closet (past)
come out of the closet (participle past)

She finally came out of the closet to her religious family regarding her atheism.

Now, we're coming out / Out of our closets / Out on the streets / Yeah, we're coming out

1972, Lou Reed (lyrics and music), “Make Up”, in Transformer:

(intransitive, idiomatic) To tell others about one's homosexuality, bisexuality, transness, or any minority or disapproved-of identity, belief, preference, etc., where previously this had been kept secret.

sortir de l'armari

to tell others about a secret belief or preference


closeted

en-adj

closeted (comparative more closeted, superlative most closeted)

more closeted (comparative)
most closeted (superlative)

From closet (“state of concealment”) + -ed.

Sally Gearhart, an ex-christian from Illinois who in the early seventies abandoned closeted lesbianism on Midwestern church college faculties for radical feminism in San Francisco,

1979 December 15, Jil Clark, Sally Gearhart, “Spirituality vs. Politics”, in Gay Community News, volume 7, number 21, page 8:

1992, Tony Kushner, Angels in America: A Gay Fantasia on National Themes, New York: Theatre Communications Group, 1995, Part Two: Perestroika, Act One, Scene 4, p. 156,
Belize: Get out your oven mitts. Guess who just checked in with the troubles? The Killer Queen Herself. New York's number one closeted queer.

romantic orientation
romantic orientation

(informal) Not open about one's sexual orientation, romantic orientation, or gender identity.

skabs-

not open about one's sexual orientation, romantic orientation, or gender identity


bottom

PIE word
 *bʰudʰmḗn
From Middle English botme, botom, from Old English botm, bodan (“bottom, foundation; ground, abyss”), from Proto-West Germanic *butm, from Proto-Germanic *butmaz, *budmaz, from Proto-Indo-European *bʰudʰmḗn (“bottom”). Cognate with Dutch bodem, German Boden, Icelandic botn, Danish bund; also Irish bonn (“sole (of foot)”), Ancient Greek πυθμήν (puthmḗn, “bottom of a cup or jar”), Sanskrit बुध्न (budhna, “bottom”), Persian بن (bon, “bottom”), Latin fundus (“bottom”) (whence fund, via French). The sense “posterior of a person” is from 1794; the verb “to reach the bottom of” is from 1808. bottom dollar (“the last dollar one has”) is from 1882.

cog

bottom dysphoria

bottom surgery


moneyboy

(slang, LGBTQ, especially in China and Thailand) A rentboy; a (usually young) male who earns money by offering sexual services.


auntie

Tok Pisin: anti

Torres Strait Creole: anti

→ Burmese: အန်တီ (anti)

⇒ Chinese: 安娣 (āndī)

→ Pennsylvania German: Aendi

→ Scottish Gaelic: antaidh

→ Yoruba: àǹtí


homocentric

en-adj

homocentric (comparative more homocentric, superlative most homocentric)

more homocentric (comparative)
most homocentric (superlative)

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With this year's onslaught of homocentric networks, queer television programs for 2005 literally run the entire gay gamut.

2005 September 27, The Advocate, number 947, page 62:

(LGBTQ) Having a homosexual bias or basis.


anti-gay

anti-gay (comparative more anti-gay, superlative most anti-gay)

more anti-gay (comparative)
most anti-gay (superlative)

Against or opposed to gay people, or to rights for gay people.

反同的

against or opposed to gay people, or to rights for gay people


chaser

Inherited from Middle English chaser, chacer, chasour, borrowed from Old French chaceür, chaceor, from chacier (“to chase, hunt”); later senses from or influenced by chase (“pursue”) + -er. Doublet of chasseur.

преследва́ч

person or thing (ship, plane, car, etc.) who chases

These types despise TGentlemen and insist that any man who is interested in TGirls is automatically a troll, a chaser, or just a gay man in denial.

2016, Michael David Freel, Trans-Oriented: A Guide to Love and Relationships, →ISBN:

(slang) A person who is attracted to and seeks out sexual partners with a particular quality, usually in a fetishistic manner.

(LGBTQ slang) A chaser for transgender people; a tranny chaser.

(fiction, Harry Potter) In the sport of Quidditch or Muggle quidditch, a player responsible for passing the quaffle and scoring goals with it.

(taxonomy) Any dragonfly of family Libellulidae.


chaser

From chase (“groove; decorate metal”) + -er.

bow chaser; stern chaser


gaff

From Middle English gaffe, from Old French gaffe, from Old Occitan gaf (“hook”), derivative of gafar (“to seize”), from Gothic 𐌲𐌰𐍆𐍆- (gaff-) derived from 𐌲𐌹𐌱𐌰𐌽 (giban, “to give”). Doublet of gaffe.
The underwear sense apparently derives from the idea that the garment tricks or deceives others about the wearer's genitalia.

This may sound strange to readers who know little about nudes but many female impersonators, or femme-mimics, work au naturel—except for a gaff, a bra, body makeup, jewelry, and a wig (on their head). See! Semi-nude!!

1964, Kenneth Marlowe, Mr. Madam: Confessions of a Male Madam, Los Angeles: Sherbourne Press, →LCCN, page 17:

Sissy maids may be required to wear a gaff to disguise the male genitals, and a dominant may wish a slave to wear it on a daily basis.

1996, Christina Abernathy, Miss Abernathy's Concise Slave Training Manual, San Francisco: Greenery Press, →ISBN, page 35:

Vicky is a pre-operative MTF transsexual […] Wearing feminine underwear over her gaff in bed helps her to redefine her absence of female genitalia during sex (sexuality) in terms of it being her 'time of the month', as she jokes to Sean [her first boyfriend].

2006, Richard Ekins, Dave King, The Transgender Phenomenon, Sage Publications, →ISBN, page 227:

(LGBTQ) A type of tight, panty-like underwear worn to hold the male genitalia tucked backwards and make one's genital region look smooth, as if one had a vulva.


gaff

She bought a roll of black gaff to tape down the loose cords.

(informal, uncountable) Clipping of gaffer tape.


mono

mono (comparative more mono, superlative most mono)

more mono (comparative)
most mono (superlative)

Coordinate term: poly


fem

Oral history gave them an opportunity to share their vision of the world across generations, while giving us a chance to imagine the pleasure and pain of daily life for butches and fems in an earlier period.

2014, Elizabeth Lapovsky Kennedy, Madeline D. Davis, Boots of Leather, Slippers of Gold: The History of a Lesbian Community, Routledge, →ISBN:


fem

fem (comparative more fem, superlative most fem)

more fem (comparative)
most fem (superlative)

Dozens of queers, including female to male/male to female transsexuals, leathers, bears and bisexuals, butch and fem lesbians, […]

2007, Cameron McCarthy, Globalizing Cultural Studies: Ethnographic Interventions in Theory, Method, and Policy, Peter Lang, →ISBN, page 79:


kiki

In the sense "lesbian who is neither butch nor femme", sometimes said to mean "neither-nor" in some language; related to kai kai (“sexual activity between drag queens”); see that entry for more. In the sense "a gathering for gossiping and chit-chat", perhaps imitative of giggling.

Let's have a kiki / I wanna have a kiki / Lock the doors tight / Let's have a kiki

2012 September 11, Scissor Sisters (lyrics and music), “Let's Have a Kiki”, in Magic Hour, track 6:

Get on my knees and have a kiki with Jesus

2016 April 22, Lucian Piane (lyrics and music), “Pray & Slay”, in RuPaul’s Drag Race: The Rusical:

(LGBTQ, slang, US) A gathering of friends for the purpose of gossiping and chit-chat.

For quotations using this term, see Citations:kiki.

(LGBTQ, US, derogatory, dated or historical) A lesbian who is neither butch nor femme.


kiki

en-verb

kiki (third-person singular simple present kikis, present participle kiki-ing, simple past and past participle kikied)

kikis (present singular third-person)
kiki-ing (participle present)
kikied (participle past)
kikied (past)

We spent a whole lot of time kiki'ing around—fooling around.

2010, David Carter, Stonewall: The Riots That Sparked the Gay Revolution, page 130:

Went home, changed for my show, kikied with Bruce and walked over to the apartment for my weekly meeting and Sally was just walking into the building from Sirius.

2016, Andy Cohen, Superficial: More Adventures from the Andy Cohen Diaries:

“I still had my corporate job, so we would talk on GChat all day while I was at work,” says Olisa. (She’s still based in New York; Garner Valentine has since relocated to Georgia. Both are in their 30s.) “To the outside world, I was working diligently, but I was really kiki-ing with my friend.”

2019 September 5, Ana Colón, “How Two Women Turned $12 Into the Curvy Con, the Biggest Plus-Size Event at Fashion Week”, in Glamour:

(LGBTQ, slang, US) To meet with friends without any agenda or goals.


les

(slang, colloquial, derogatory) Clipping of lesbian.


les

en-adj

les (comparative more les, superlative most les)

more les (comparative)
most les (superlative)


trans

Clipping of transgender or transsexual (ultimately from Latin trāns).

Last week, a study released in Belgium suggested that trans people’s brains – including those of trans children – more closely matched those belonging to other members of the gender they identified with than with members of the gender associated with their sex at birth.


trans

Good thing about Thanksgiving with the transes is you don;t need to explain your need to dialate in the middle of a movie. ; ) Dana a#344.

2001 November 23, D a#344, “TS out and proud compensation for passabilty?”, in alt.support.srs (Usenet):

(informal, sometimes offensive, sometimes humorous) A trans person.


pack

en-verb

pack (third-person singular simple present packs, present participle packing, simple past and past participle packed)

packs (present singular third-person)
packing (participle present)
packed (participle past)
packed (past)

From Middle English pakken, from the noun (see above). Compare Middle Dutch packen (“to pack”), Middle Low German packen (“to pack”).

وَضَّبَ

to put things together for storage or transporting

I am a butch bisexual woman […] Frequently I like to appear as masculine as I can, often passing for male on the street. […] Sometimes I pack when I go out, putting my dildo in my pants and wearing my dick out of the house.

1995, Robin Sweeney, “Too Butch to Be Bi (or You Can't Judge a Boy by Her Lover)”, in Naomi Tucker, Liz Highleyman, Rebecca Kaplan, editors, Bisexual Politics: Theories, Queries, and Visions, Binghamton: The Haworth Press, →ISBN, page 181:

(intransitive, LGBTQ, especially of a trans man or drag king) To wear an object, such as a prosthetic penis, inside one’s trousers to appear more male or masculine.


ginger beer

en-noun

ginger beer (countable and uncountable, plural ginger beers)

Have no fear, the ninja here / Feel 'em like the tinge in your ear from drinkin' ginger beer

2004, “Kon Queso”, in Mm..Food, performed by MF Doom:

(uncountable) A fermented, typically non-alcoholic, drink flavoured with ginger.


nancy

From Nancy, pet form of the female given names Agnes and Anne, under influence from earlier nan (“serving girl, maid; male homosexual”), itself from Nan, another pet form of the same names. Compare Mary.

(British, Ireland, Australia, New Zealand, US, derogatory, slang, offensive) An effeminate man, especially a homosexual.


poof

pouffe (with certain dialects and/or accents)

The product of flatulence, or the sound of breaking wind.


tranny

tranny (countable and uncountable, plural trannies)

All are shortened forms of the indicated terms + -y.

When I spoke with lesbians, most would tell me, “I don't date trannies. […]

2018, Roddie Lee Kingsfield, M.Ed., Purple Passionflower: The Path to Becoming a Powerful Trans Peace Warrior, page 56:

(slang, chiefly derogatory, offensive) A transsexual, transgender, or transvestite person, usually a trans woman.

травестит

(colloquial, derogatory) a transsexual, transgender or transvestite person


polyandry

polyandry (usually uncountable, plural polyandries)

The having of a plurality of husbands at the same time; usually, the marriage of a woman to more than one man, or the practice of having several husbands, at the same time.


clone

→ Italian: clone

→ Polish: klon

→ Turkish: klon

Coined (in botany) in 1903, based on Ancient Greek κλών (klṓn, “twig”). Figurative use from the 1970s.

Some of me is clone, but a good part of me is still disco.

1984 August 11, Martin, “Untitled cartoon (caption)”, in Gay Community News, volume 12, number 5, page 7:

these are cultural categories. they change over time. new ones appear (the Leatherman is recent, the Bear very recent), old ones vanish (though individual aunties and clones are still to be found - arch-clone jimmy pike is still making videos and keeping his stomach muscles in great shape - the Auntie and the Clone as generally recognized categories are no longer with us).

1991 August 31, Arnold M. Zwicky, “What the hell is a TWINKIE?”, in soc.motss (Usenet):

Since the Second World War and the rise of the middle-class “clone gay” in the US and a similar move away from homosexual effeminacy in Britain—often rooted in working class culture—gender nonconforming or effeminate gay males have been edged out of mainstream understandings of what it means to be gay.

2022, Richard Vytniorgu, “Effeminate Gay Bottoms in the West”, in Journal of Homosexuality, volume 70, number 10, page 2113:


lipstick lesbian

lipstick lesbian (plural lipstick lesbians)

Mona dashed to the window and peeped down at an elegantly dressed brunette waiting in the entrance alcove. She certainly looked like a friend of Serra's. The lipstick lesbians were everywhere.

1986 [1984], Armistead Maupin, Babycakes (Tales of the City), page 65:

(LGBTQ, slang) A lesbian who has glamorously feminine characteristics, as opposed to a butch lesbian.


inter-

Etymology tree
Proto-Indo-European *h₁en-
Proto-Indo-European *h₁en-
Proto-Indo-European *h₁én
Proto-Indo-European *h₁entér
Proto-Italic *ənter
Latin inter
Latin inter-bor.
English inter-
Borrowed from Latin inter- (“between, amid”), a form of prepositional inter (“between”).

bor+

intersexual is an intersex person; interphobia is fear or hatred of intersex people, intergender is an intersex person whose gender identity is influenced by being intersex

(LGBTQ) Intersex: relating to intersex people.


merkin

1617, probably a variant form of malkin, from Malde + -kin.

Well, I seem to recall Tori and Patrick being seen together, and a reference in People comes to mind, with a photo attached. I'm not for sure that Patrick is completely gay, but he's at least bi according to a person I know with first hand experience. Perhaps we have a dual merkin-beard relationship here, eh?

1996 January 10, Colin Wright, “Tori Spelling & Patrick Muldoon on NBC Movie”, in alt.showbiz.gossip (Usenet):

(LGBTQ, slang) The male counterpart of a beard, a companion to a lesbian to feign her straightness.


TIM

en-noun

TIM (countable and uncountable, plural TIMs)

Abbreviation.
* (trans-identified male): when applied to trans women by transphobes, perhaps influenced by the name Tim.

trans-identified male
trans-identified male#English

(usually derogatory, offensive, dysphemistic) Initialism of trans-identified male.


zest

zest (countable and uncountable, plural zests)

(slang, LGBTQ, derogatory) State of being effeminate or a flamboyant homosexual.


tray

(LGBTQ slang) A gay trans person, particularly a man (a man who is both transgender and gay)


wig

Clipping of periwig, itself an alteration of French perruque. The meaning of "to reprimand" perhaps came from this being something a bigwig would do or perhaps from the expressions to flip one's wig, wigs on the green, or dash my wig!

(LGBTQ, Internet slang) An expression of shock.


presentation

presentation (countable and uncountable, plural presentations)

/ˌpɹɛzənˈteɪʃən/

From Old French presentation (French présentation), from Latin praesentātiōnem, accusative singular of praesentātiō (“representation, exhibition”).
Morphologically present + -ation

(mainly LGBT) Gender presentation; gender expression.


hermaphrodite

From Hermaphroditus, the mythical son of Hermes and Aphrodite, who merged bodies with a naiad, thereafter having both male and female qualities.

deledash

organism having both male and female gonads

An earthworm is a hermaphrodite.

(biology) Cosexual: an organism possessing both types of gonads; a flower possessing both stamens and pistils.

Comb jellies are sequential hermaphrodites.

(biology) Dichogamous: an organism which begins its life as one sex and changes its sex over its life cycle.

armoured fighting vehicle
armoured fighting vehicle

(World War I military, historical) An armoured fighting vehicle having features of both male tanks and female tanks.


hormone

Learned borrowing from Ancient Greek ὁρμῶν (hormôn), present participle of ὁρμάω (hormáō, “to set in motion, to urge on”), from ὁρμή (hormḗ, “rapid motion forwards, onrush, onset, assault, impulse to do a thing, effort”).

hormon

synthetic compound with the same activity as a hormone

I'm going to be going to slightly higher doses of hormones soon.

hormone replacement therapy
hormone replacement therapy

(pharmacology) A synthetic compound with the same activity.

(LGBTQ, colloquial, usually in the plural) Sex hormones, as used in hormone replacement therapy for transgender or intersex people.


dykey

en-adj

dykey (comparative dykier or more dykey, superlative dykiest or most dykey)

dykier (comparative)
more dykey (comparative)
dykiest (superlative)
most dykey (superlative)

Let it all hang out. Let it seem bitchy, catty, dykey, Solanisesque, frustrated, crazy, nutty, frigid, ridiculous, bitter, embarrassing, man-hating, libelous, pure, unfair, envious, intuitive, low-down, stupid, petty, liberating.

1970 January, Robin Morgan, “Goodbye to All That”, in Rat:

[…] when Torrence is elected captain of the cheerleading team, another girl supports the subplot of girl cattiness by calling her a slut and calling the “real” gymnast who joins the team (emphasizing to the audience that cheering can't be “real” gymnastics), an uberdyke and a big dykey loser.

2006 August 8, Sharon Lamb with Lyn Mikel Brown, Packaging Girlhood: Rescuing Our Daughters from Marketers' Schemes, New York: St. Martin's Press, →ISBN, →OL, page 230:

(slang, derogatory) Of a woman, whether actually lesbian or not, having stereotypically lesbian characteristics; that looks like a dyke.


TWOC

There is no scientific or medical research to support "trans panic" theory, and this defence is nothing but a poor justification for committing violence against TWOC.

2015, “Violence Against Queerfolk”, in Raix/zine, volume 1, number 2, page 9:

Her advocacy campaign, “Stop the Unjust Arrests of TWOC (Transgender Women of Color), #FreeEisha,” challenges what to be an inevitability for Black transgender women who dare to defend themselves against gender-based violence

2016, Ellen L. Short, Leo Wilton, Talking About Structural Inequalities in Everyday Life: New Politics of Race in Groups, Organizations and Social Systems, →ISBN, page 156:

Initialism of trans woman of color or trans women of color.


hir

head

hir (third-person singular, gender-neutral, objective case, reflexive hirself)

en-pron

But once the disorientation had passed, hir forced hirself back to full consciousness--and worked quickly to establish hir position, and Ruskin's.

1988, Jeffrey Carver, From a Changeling Star, New York: Bantam Books, →ISBN, →OL, page 232:

I don't know what Scratch looks like in the real world, I met hir online.

1996 June, Caitlin Sullivan with Bornstein, Kate, Nearly Roadkill: an Infobahn erotic adventure, New York: Serpent's Tail, →ISBN, →LCCN, →OL, LCC PS3569.U3449 N43 1996, page 10:

Words like "freak" became attached to hir name, and I don't believe "brave" was ever a word the media associated with hir.

1997 December 18, Kate Bornstein, My Gender Workbook: How to Become a Real Man, a Real Woman, the Real You, or Something Else Entirely, London, New York: Routledge, →ISBN, →LCCN, →OL, LCC HQ1075.B69 1998, page 130:

T'Pau leveled a gaze at hir. "You are male and female ... and neither. 'It' is the proper word. We have no use for semantic games on Vulcan."

2000 August 29, Peter David, Renaissance (Star Trek New Frontier: Excalibur #10), Simon & Schuster, →ISBN, →LCCN, →OL, page 137:

(nonstandard) Them (singular). Gender-neutral third-person singular object pronoun, coordinate with him and her.


gay icon

A celebrity who is much admired by gay men and/or lesbians.


dykon

LESBIAN ICONS AND REAL LESBIAN ICONS
If Madonna is the first among equals, the major female icon of the moment, she now has competition for dykon status in k. d. lang, who to many lesbians represents their very own 'real life' lesbian hera.

1994, Diane Hamer, Belinda Budge, The Good, the Bad and the Gorgeous, page 36:

[…] Singer-songwriter Hawkins has become a '90s dykon, due to her free-spirited sensuality […]

1998, Raymond Murray, Images in the Dark: An Encyclopedia of Gay and Lesbian Film, page 599:

Deneuve was more articulate when she said of her own dykon status, "The Hunger has a very strong image of beautiful women, so perhaps it is true. […] Yes, I showed you can be beautiful and be a lesbian."

1999, Ellis Hanson, Michael Moon, Michele Aina Barale, Out Takes: Essays on Queer Theory and Film, page 190:

She [the television presenter Kirstie Allsopp] says the screen Kirstie – who is now something of a dykon thanks to her bossiness, her spike heels, her 'luscious dark hair' – is pretty close to the real thing, 'just more domineering'.

2004 September 5, The Observer Magazine, page 17:

(informal) A celebrity, especially a woman (often a lesbian), who is much admired by lesbians.


invert

(architecture) An inverted arch (as in a sewer).

We can seldom, therefore, congratulate ourselves on the success of any "cure" of inversion. The success is unlikely to be either permanent or complete, in the case of a decided invert; and in the most successful cases we have simply put into the invert's hands a power of reproduction which it is undesirable he should possess.

1897, W. Havelock Ellis, Sexual Inversion, page 202:

(obsolete, psychology) A homosexual person, in terms of the sexual inversion theory.


invert

invert sugar

(chemistry) Subjected to the process of inversion; inverted; converted.


shim

[…] that I was a hermaphrodite, and that things would probably be getting much, much worse as other "parts" of me began to grow manly and I made the full transformation into a "shim."

2009, Laurie Notaro, The Idiot Girl and the Flaming Tantrum of Death: Reflections on Revenge, Germophobia, and Laser Hair Removal, Ballantine Books, →ISBN, page 89:

(informal, often derogatory) A person characterised by both male and female traits, or by ambiguous male-female traits; a hermaphrodite.


From Nan, pet form of the formerly very common female given names Anne and Agnes. As a nursemaid and grandmother, a clipping of earlier nana, from nanny under the probable influence of mama, also from Nan. Compare Mary.

(obsolete) Synonym of maid: a servant girl.

(slang, obsolete) Synonym of nancy: an effeminate male homosexual.

We had my nan over for Christmas dinner.

(British, Ireland, Australia, Canada, endearing) Synonym of grandmother.


Gerry ordered poppadoms and parathas and then he was interrupted by requests for vindaloos, chicken madrases and sag joshes, rice, raita and nan, from Priest, Morgan and Maria Grazia.

2002, Desmond Barry, A Bloody Good Friday, page 157:


hermaphroditic

Of or pertaining to hermaphrodism; being a hermaphrodite.


asexual

Coordinate term: platonic

The central paradox of Linton's writing was her inability, or unwillingness, to imagine an asexual friendship between women.

2004, Martha Vicinus, Intimate Friends: women who loved women, 1778-1928, page 150:

Nonsexual in nature, unmarked by sexual activity.

Many asexual people experience attraction, but feel no need to act out that attraction sexually. Because they don't see a lack of sexual arousal as a problem to be corrected, asexual people focus their energy on enjoying other types of arousal and pleasure.

2010, Jerrold S. Greenberg, Clint E. Bruess, Sarah C. Conklin, Exploring the Dimensions of Human Sexuality, fourth edition, pages 357-358:

Benoit is determined to ensure other asexual (or “ace”) people don’t feel broken or alone in a world in which lust and desire pulsate through our entire culture.

2021 March 21, Jamie Waters, “‘I don’t want sex with anyone’: the growing asexuality movement”, in The Observer:

(especially of a person) Not experiencing sexual attraction; lacking interest in or desire for sex.

(biology) Lacking distinct sex, lacking sexual organs.


asexual

11.2 Demonstrating the Status of Long-Lived Asexuals
… Indeed, if sex has so many advantages, then which special adaptations - if any - allow long-term survival without it? However, the main task of the research teams dealing with such putative ancient asexuals has thus far been to demonstrate that their respective groups (mainly bdelloids, darwinulids and certain lineages within orbatid mites) indeed merit the status.

2009, Isa Schön, Giampaolo Rossetti, Koen Martens, Darwinulid Ostracods: Ancient Asexual Scandals or Scandalous Gossip?, published as Chapter 11 of Lost Sex: The Evolutionary Biology of Parthenogenesis, Isa Schön, Koen Martens, Peter van Dijk (editors), page 221

(biology) A species which reproduces by asexual rather than sexual reproduction, or a member of such a species.


packer

From Middle English pakker, pakkere, packare, equivalent to pack + -er.

(LGBTQ) An artificial penis or similar object worn by a drag king, trans man, etc., inside the trousers.


molly

(India, South Asia) Alternative spelling of mali (“a member of a caste in South Asia whose traditional occupation is gardening; hence, any South Asian gardener”).


blind

en-adj

blind (comparative blinder, superlative blindest)

blinder (comparative)
blindest (superlative)

From Middle English blynd, from Old English blind, from Proto-West Germanic *blind, from Proto-Germanic *blindaz.

a nod is as good as a wink to a blind horse

even a blind pig can find an acorn once in a while

even a blind squirrel can find a nut once in a while

in the land of the blind, the one-eyed man is king

there are none so blind as those who will not see


drab

Alteration of drag, possibly via the folk-etymological backronym "DRessed As a Girl" (with boy replacing girl).

Just for those who may not be aware of the term, “drab” is how you might describe a transgendered person (including transsexuals, crossdressers, drag queens, etc.) that is presenting as their birth sex. For instance, if Rain is dressed as a boy, she is dressed in “drab”. My original idea had Ruby on this page too, but that took away from the “drab” theme.

2012 November 1, Jocelyn Samara D., “Comic 278 - Ch. 12 - Drab”, in Rain, archived from the original on 2020-01-21:

(chiefly transgender slang) An instance of a transgender or non-binary person presenting as the gender corresponding to their sex assigned at birth instead of that corresponding to their internal gender identity (for instance, a trans woman dressed as a man).


peak

en-verb

peak (third-person singular simple present peaks, present participle peaking, simple past and past participle peaked)

peaks (present singular third-person)
peaking (participle present)
peaked (participle past)
peaked (past)

From earlier peake, peek, peke, from Middle English pek (in place names), itself an alteration of pike, pyke, pyk (“a sharp point, pike”), from Old English pīc, piic (“a pike, needle, pin, peak, pinnacle”), from Proto-Germanic *pīkaz (“peak”). Cognate with Dutch piek (“pike, point, summit, peak”), Danish pik (“pike, peak”), Swedish pik (“pike, lance, point, peak”), Norwegian pik (“peak, summit”). More at pike.

cog

I came to this via sport but the thing that really peaked me was this.

2019 August 4, Alison Weir (@WeirAlison), Twitter:

My friend peaked me last year, at the GRA [Gender Recognition Act] consultation.

2019 August 31, MrsMiggins (@MrsMiggins13), Twitter:

Solidarity from Spain, @jk_rowling. Thank you for peaking so many people all over the world.

2021 November 22, DefendingMySisters (@DefendingMy), Twitter:

(gender-critical) To cause to adopt gender-critical or trans-exclusionary views (ellipsis of peak trans).


punk

en-noun

punk (countable and uncountable, plural punks)

Uncertain. Possibly from punk ("rotten wood dust used as tinder", attested since 1678; see Etymology 2 below) to anything worthless (attested since 1869) and then to any undesirable person (since 1908).

gl

The Beaus...
At night make a Punk of him that's first drunk.

(countable) A person used for sex, particularly:

(LGBTQ, obsolete) Synonym of catamite: a boy or younger man used by an older man as a (usually passive) homosexual partner.

catamite

(chiefly US, LGBTQ) Synonym of bottom: any passive or effeminate homosexual male.

bottom

They'd pick up youngsters as, well—as their playthings. These kids were called punks.

1973, Barry Broadfoot, Ten Lost Years, 1929-1939: Memories of Canadians who survived the Depression, page 137:

(US, LGBTQ, slang) A boy who accompanies a hobo, especially as used for sex.

(US, LGBTQ, derogatory, chiefly African-American Vernacular) Synonym of faggot: any male homosexual.

A person used for sex
Synonym of faggot: any male homosexual.

A punk, if you want it in plain English, is a boy with smooth skin who takes the place of a woman in a jailbird's love life.

1946, Milton “Mezz” Mezzrow, Bernard Wolfe, “Don’t Cry, Ma”, in Really the Blues, New York, N.Y.: Random House, book 1 (1899–1923: A Nothin’ but a Child), page 15:

If he is small and weak, he may decide to become a ‘punk’ and allow himself to be raped by the inmate most likely to protect him.

2001, Joseph T. Hallinan, Going Up the River: Travels in a Prison Nation, page 106:

Because he was so weak, Vinny soon became Tony's punk.

(US, LGBTQ, prison slang) Synonym of bitch: a man forced or coerced into a homosexual relationship, especially in prison.


iron hoof

en-noun

iron hoof (plural iron hoofs or iron hooves)

iron hoofs (plural)
iron hooves (plural)

Cockney rhyming slang
Cockney rhyming slang

(Cockney rhyming slang) A poof (a male homosexual).


cis

Clipping of cisgender or cissexual, ultimately from Latin cis.

Coordinate term: trans

We're demonized and criminalized as perverts out to trick and deceive cis hetero men; therefore anything that happens to us, we 'had coming.'

2017 November 21, Trish Bendix, quoting Ashlee Marie Preston, “Why it matters that transgender women are speaking out about Jeffrey Tambor — and that people are listening”, in Yahoo! Lifestyle:

Oh yeah, because you know who's been long overdue a challenge? The trans community. Oh, they've had their guard down for too long if you ask me. They'll all be checking their privilege on the way home now thanks to you, you brave little cis boy!

2019 January 17, James Acaster: Cold Lasagne Hate Myself 1999, spoken by James Acaster:

The reality is that LGBTQ+ people face challenges at disproportionally higher rates than their straight counterparts — drug use, sex work, and financial instability can be an unfortunate result. My privilege as a young cis white man whose parents weren't going to let me drown afforded me the ability to make those mistakes and live to talk about it.

2019 September 24, Johnathan Van Ness, Over the Top: A Raw Journey to Self-Love, HarperCollins, →ISBN, pages 117–118:

Cisgender (or sometimes cissexual): not trans (transgender or transsexual) nor non-binary.


nelly

Shortened from Nelly Duff, for puff, i.e. breath of life.

(Cockney rhyming slang) A person's life.


nelly

(derogatory, slang) An effeminate homosexual man.

Macronectes giganteus
Macronectes giganteus#Translingual

Macronectes halli
Macronectes halli#Translingual

A giant petrel, Macronectes giganteus and Macronectes halli.


GC

GC (countable and uncountable, plural GCs)

GCs prove everyday they're actually just critical of trans people, not critical of gender

2021 November 19, Yana (@lesbian_envy), Twitter:

That’s LITERALLY what trans activists say and what GCs are fighting against.

2021 November 28, SophieXY (@SophieXY44), Twitter:

When I pointed out the other day that prominent GCs had been pretty silent on #RoeVsWade or had tried deflecting onto trans people, I had this response from a GC.

2022 June 26, Lee WilliamDesigns (@designs_william), Twitter:

(informal) Initialism of gender critical.


butch

Originally, it was probably used as an abbreviation of butcher. Later, in the 1940s, the sense “masculine lesbian” developed.

Coming out appeals to the narcissistic pleasure of presenting to another a finished image of ourselves, which they return to us in exactly the same form: [someone tells] you [they are] a bisexual butch, and you confirm it. But instead, it seems all too likely – especially, perhaps, for bisexuals, whose claims to identity always need that much more proof – that no such mirror-image will be returned.

1997, Bi Academic Intervention, Bisexual Imaginary: Representation, Identity, and Desire, A&C Black, page 30, quoting Jo Eadie

(slang, LGBTQ, countable) A lesbian who appears masculine or acts in a masculine manner.


pussy

pussy (countable and uncountable, plural pussies)

Maori: poti, puihi

(LGBTQ, vulgar) The anus of a man, usually the passive participant in gay sex.

(LGBTQ, vulgar) The anus of a trans woman.


polyamory

polyamory (usually uncountable, plural polyamories)

[ˌpɒlɪˈæməɹi]

From poly- (from Ancient Greek πολύς (polús, “many”)) + Latin amor (“love”) + -y.

af

from Ancient Greek <i class="Polyt mention" lang="grc">πολύς</i> (polús, “many”)

Some of these are poly intimacy, polyamory, polygamy, omnigamy, multimate, multiple adult relationship, combo, cellular family, expanded family, nonexclusive relationship, intimate friendship and inclusive relationship.

1992, Deborah M. Anapol, Love without limits, page 4:

Any of various practices involving romantic or sexual relationships with multiple partners with the knowledge and consent of all involved.

puliamore

practices involving relationships with multiple partners


monogamy

en-noun

monogamy (countable and uncountable, plural monogamies)

From French monogamie, from Late Latin monogamia, from Ancient Greek μονογαμία (monogamía). By surface analysis, mono- + -gamy.

A form of sexual bonding involving a permanent pair bond between two beings.


homophobia

homophobia (countable and uncountable, plural homophobias)

From homo- (“from homosexual”) + -phobia, coined in 1971 by George Weinberg in Society and the Healthy Homosexual.

af

from <i class="Latn mention" lang="en">homosexual</i>

Hatred, fear, dislike of, or prejudice against homosexuals.

Hatred, fear, dislike of, or prejudice against LGBTQ+ people in general.


roommate

→ Japanese: ルームメイト (rūmumeito)

→ Japanese: ルームメート (rūmumēto)

→ Korean: 룸메이트 (rummeiteu)

(LGBTQ slang, humorous, ironic) A same-sex significant other with whom one lives; a coinhabitant in a non-heterosexual relationship.


allo

en-adj

allo (comparative more allo, superlative most allo)

more allo (comparative)
most allo (superlative)

Asking a person to work on themself to have more sex seems natural and intuitive, but imagine asking the allo partner to be celibate.

2020, Angela Chen, Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex, page 83:

However, being aro adds another layer of urgency. As we get older, a lot of our monogamous allo friends will find their life partner, get married, and have kids.

2021, Izzy, "Live While We're Young: Aromantic Frienships, Youth and Futures", CAMP Magazine (University of Melbourne), Volume 4 (2021), page 20

I would say that it'd help so much if the ace characters would be explicitly acknowledged by the creators, but this doesn't always fix things. In the case of Jughead Jones, his asexuality and aromanticism were explicitly stated, but that didn't stop people from completely disregarding it, to the point where most fanart and fanfiction of him makes him allo.

2021, anonymous, quoted in "Questions Of The Month", AVENues Newsletters, July-September 2021, pages 14-15

(informal) Allosexual and/or alloromantic; experiencing sexual and/or romantic attraction.


allo

Allos might feel infatuated with a new acquaintance or be more attached to their best friend than to any romantic partner, yet they can deny the possibility of romantic feeling because of the lack of sexual attraction. Allos can wave their hand and say, "There are people I want to sleep with, and I don't want to sleep with you, so it's only platonic."

2020, Angela Chen, Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex, page 108:

Then maybe asexuals wouldn't face negative responses ("You're a late bloomer" or You haven't met the right person" etc.) when they come out to allos.

2021, "Will", quoted in "Member Highlight: Multi-Member Question And Answer", AVENues Newsletter, January-March 2021, page 19

Part of why I’m writing this essay is to tell allos we exist, to make them aware of our struggle and our pain.

2021, Adam Key, "The Silent A: A Critical Soundtrack of Asexuality", Journal of Autoethnography, Volume 2, Issue 4, Fall 2021

(informal) One who is allosexual and/or alloromantic.


transition

en-noun

transition (countable and uncountable, plural transitions)

/tɹænˈzɪʃən/

/tɹænˈsɪʃən/

/tɹɑːnˈzɪʃən/

/tɹænˈzɪʃən/

Etymology tree
Middle French transitionbor.
English transition
From Middle French transition, from Latin transitio. By surface analysis, transit + -ion.

etymon

filtered-popping recursive transition network

(genetics) A point mutation in which one base is replaced by another of the same class (purine or pyrimidine); compare transversion.

The preoccupation with transition and surgery objectifies trans people. And then we don't get to really deal with the real lived experiences.

2014 January 7, Katie McDonough, quoting Laverne Cox, “Laverne Cox flawlessly shuts down Katie Couric's invasive questions about transgender people”, in Salon, archived from the original on 2014-03-01:

The LED lights up her face as she watches the YouTube video of a goth girl in New Orleans again. Nobody could tell to look at her. She has a year-long film of her transition and at the end of it she has black lips and long hair and she is hot.

2016, Jenni Fagan, The Sunlight Pilgrims, William Heinemann, page 29:

When trans young people talk about their own transition, usually they mean using a different name and pronouns from the ones given to them at birth, and adapting their gender presentation to better express themselves, while asking that others (particularly family members, peers and teachers) acknowledge this presentation.

2021 September 2, Shon Faye, The Transgender Issue, →ISBN:

(LGBTQ) The process or act of changing one's gender role or physical and sexual characteristics, by social, medical, or legal methods, to conform to their identified gender, rather than the sex assigned at birth.

(aviation) A published procedure for instrument flight, coming between the departure and en-route phases of flight, or between en-route flight and an approach/landing procedure.


transition

en-verb

transition (third-person singular simple present transitions, present participle transitioning, simple past and past participle transitioned)

transitions (present singular third-person)
transitioning (participle present)
transitioned (participle past)
transitioned (past)

/tɹænˈzɪʃən/

/tɹænˈsɪʃən/

/tɹɑːnˈzɪʃən/

/tɹænˈzɪʃən/

The soldier was transitioned from a combat role to a strategic role.

(transitive) To bring through a transition; to change.

променям

(transitive) to bring through a transition; to change

Eric told me that after he transitioned, he wanted to learn to fish and all the things his father never taught him.

2006, Taylor J. Holder, All Points in Between: Shifting on the Scale of Sex and Gender, →ISBN:

And simply being accepted into one of these programs was not a guarantee that one would be allowed to transition. First, the trans person had to undergo extensive, sometimes indefinite, periods of psychotherapy […]

2009, Julia Serano, Whipping Girl, →ISBN:

If the transitioning person leaves the family home, there will be moving costs, and costs associated with the acquisition of another home or the renting of an apartment. If the non-transitioning spouse leaves the family home, […]

2009, Mara Drummond, Transitions - A Guide To Transitioning For Transsexuals And Their Families, page 71:

After he transitioned, he changed jobs so he could go stealth, hoping that no one would discover he was once a woman.

2012, Kevin Alderson, Counseling LGBTI Clients, →ISBN, page 195:

Weimar Berlin. The first known case of a British person medically transitioning from one gender to another with the assistance of hormones and surgeries was Michael Dillon, a trans man (or 'female-to-male transsexual').

(intransitive, LGBTQ) To change one's gender role or physical and sexual characteristics to conform to one's identified gender.

korjata sukupuolensa

(intransitive, LGBT) to change from one gender role to another, or bring one's outward appearance in line with one's internal gender identity


come out

come out (third-person singular simple present comes out, present participle coming out, simple past came out, past participle come out)

comes out (present singular third-person)
coming out (participle present)
came out (past)
come out (participle past)

Nigerian Pidgin: komot

Sranan Tongo: komoto

My new book comes out next week.

Her interview comes out in the next edition of the newspaper.

The song came out on radio in 1967.

(intransitive) To be published or released; to be issued; to be broadcast for the first time.

There were a lot of problems at the start, but it all came out well in the end.

The photos came out fine.

I have looked into some of the reasons why Del-Norte still lacks proper medical staff to deal with situations in here. The result of that came out to be, they don't want to spend money on things like that.

1991 April 22, Jacque Ferguson, “Change Medical Care”, in Gay Community News, page 5:

(copulative) To end up or result; to turn out to be.


fishwife

LL-Q1860 (eng)-Flame, not lame-fishwife.wav

From Middle English fysshewyfe; equivalent to fish + wife (“(obsolete) woman”) (see also midwife).

(LGBTQ, slang) The wife of a homosexual man.


ze

But I do know what sex ze is. It used to influence me. But now I talk to hir like a normal person. I mean, without thinking about what ze is.

1996 June, Caitlin Sullivan with Bornstein, Kate, Nearly Roadkill: an Infobahn erotic adventure, New York: Serpent's Tail, →ISBN, →LCCN, →OL, LCC PS3569.U3449 N43 1996, page 10:

A case in point is Tula, a transgendered woman who for years lived well as a model and actress until ze was outed in both national and international media.

1997 December 18, Kate Bornstein, My Gender Workbook: How to Become a Real Man, a Real Woman, the Real You, or Something Else Entirely, London, New York: Routledge, →ISBN, →LCCN, →OL, LCC HQ1075.B69 1998, page 130:

Ze takes my right hand in hirs and folds it into a fist.

2006 March 22, Leslie Feinberg, Drag King Dreams, New York: Carroll & Graf, →ISBN, →LCCN, →OL, LCC PS3556.E427 D73 2006, page 205:

Ze changed hir name to one of those New Testament names, and re-fashioned hirself into a soft, puffy, half-finished hermaphrodite nicknamed, The Pop n' Fresh Doe.

2010 October 12, Erika Lopez, The Girl Must Die: A Monster Girl Memoir, Hicken, Jeffrey, San Francisco: Monster Girl Media, →ISBN, →LCCN, page 143:

Hir face was implacable, but ze dashed away in tears.

2011 March 15, M. J. Locke, Up Against It, New York: Tor, →ISBN, →LCCN, →OL, LCC PS3612.O249 U7 2011, page 361:

(rare, nonstandard) a gender-neutral third-person singular subject pronoun, equivalent to singular they, and coordinate with gendered pronouns he and she.


GWM

SO's affection for cats is important, but not nearly as important as not being allergic! It's really irritating to date a person who stops breathing whenever he's in your apartment. "GWM, 26, ISO G/BiM, must be kind to animals and have no allergies to pets..."

1992 November 23, Joseph E. Beason, “Re: gayfolk and cats”, in soc.motss (Usenet):

GWM, grn, brn, 41, looking for asian or hispanic that wants to piss all over or in me. Do you live in the San Jose, CA area. Email me. Looking for fun.

1998, Herryass, “PissPlay”, in alt.sex.watersports (Usenet):

(in personal ads) Initialism of gay white male.


straight-acting

en-adj

straight-acting (comparative more straight-acting, superlative most straight-acting)

more straight-acting (comparative)
most straight-acting (superlative)

(of a gay or bisexual man (or, rarely, of a lesbian), potentially offensive) Having the appearance, mannerisms, etc., of a stereotypical heterosexual of the same gender rather than those stereotypically associated with gay men or lesbians.


homophobic

homophobic (comparative more homophobic, superlative most homophobic)

more homophobic (comparative)
most homophobic (superlative)

homophobic abuse

Exhibiting homophobia; characteristic of homophobes.


homophobic

Painful as skid row life is for everyone, it becomes doubly so for the gay segment of the population. If you can for a moment visualize yourself living in a house with hundreds of homophobics you have the idea; and there are few closets where one can hide.

1981 August 1, Ray Thompson, “Down and Out and Gay”, in Gay Community News, page 10:

If you say something negative about homosexuals, you will be labelled an intolerant "homophobic."

2007, William D. Gairdner, The War Against the Family:

When placed in a situation that threatens to excite their repressed or latent sexual preferences, homophobics tend to react with panic, anger, and hostility as a means to avert or deny the threat (West, 1977).

2016, Ralph Erber, Maureen Erber, Intimate Relationships: Issues, Theories, and Research, Second Edition:


homophobe

Recent definition:
Back-formation from homophobia, equivalent to homo (“homosexual”) + -phobe

[ˈhɒməˌfəʊb]

[ˈhəʊməˌfəʊb]

A person who is prejudiced against the LGBTQ+ community.


fabulous

fabulous (comparative more fabulous, superlative most fabulous)

more fabulous (comparative)
most fabulous (superlative)

From Late Middle English fabulous, fabulose, from Latin fābulōsus (“celebrated in fable”); Equivalent to fable + -ous.

Of or relating to fable, myth or legend.

(obsolete) Known for telling fables or falsehoods; unreliable.


bummer

From German Bummler (“a drifter, a stroller, a rambler, a loiterer, a laggard”), from bummeln (“loaf, loiter, stroll, ramble”).

bor

(obsolete, historical) A forager, especially in Sherman's March to the Sea of November to December 1864.

“If I get away I sha’n’t be here,” I says, “to prove these rapscallions ain’t your uncles, and I couldn’t do it if I was here. I could swear they was beats and bummers, that’s all, though that’s worth something.

1884 December 10, Mark Twain [pseudonym; Samuel Langhorne Clemens], chapter XXVIII, in The Adventures of Huckleberry Finn: (Tom Sawyer’s Comrade) […], London: Chatto & Windus, […], →OCLC:

(US, slang, dated) An idle, worthless fellow, without any visible means of support; a dissipated sponger.

A lamb (typically the smallest of a multiple birth) which has been abandoned by its mother or orphaned, and as a consequence is raised in part or in whole by humans.


bummer

From bum (“make unhappy”) + -er (agent noun suffix), originally US drug slang.

af

This young man never had a bummer in some 33 LSD trips. Every one of the them was a delight—everything under control. He needed only to snap his fingers, and down he came, anytime. But on Voyage 34, he finally met himself coming down an up staircase, and the encounter was crushing.

2000, “Phase I”, in Voyage 34: The Complete Trip, performed by Porcupine Tree:

(slang, dated, drug use) A psychedelic crisis; hallucinogenic drug use producing undesirable dysphoric psychological effects, most often fear, paranoia, and especially horrifying hallucinations; a bad trip.


bummer

From bum (“engage in anal sex”) + -er (agent noun suffix).

You know, the kind of guy who would, if he wasn't gay, probably be shouting ‘Oi, gay boy!’ or ‘You bummer!’ or even ‘Oi, paki!’ or what have you. They're not enlightened.

Matt (interviewee) quoted in 2021, Laura Dixon, Gender, Sexuality and National Identity in the Lives of British Lifestyle Migrants in Spain (page 108)

(UK, slang, derogatory, offensive) A gay man.


MLM

multi-level marketing
multi-level marketing#English

(business) Initialism of multi-level marketing.

[In] the responses from participants above, it can be noted how these particular Christian MLM bring their daily experiences in their approach to the Bible. […], refusing to be addressed as men who have sex with other men (MSM) but opting to be known as men who love other men […] Second, Christian MLM also underline the need for the churches in Zambia to contextualize biblical texts […]

2016, Ezra Chitando, Adriaan van Klinken, Christianity and Controversies over Homosexuality in Contemporary Africa, Routledge, →ISBN:

(fourth meaning)

(LGBTQ) Initialism of men loving men or men who love men.


MLM

Muslim Lives Matter
w:Muslim Lives Matter

(politics) Initialism of Muslim Lives Matter.


androgyny

en-noun

androgyny (usually uncountable, plural androgynies)

/ænˈdɹɑd͡ʒəni/


hermaphroditism

hermaphroditism (countable and uncountable, plural hermaphroditisms)

(biology) Being able to reproduce as both male and female, either simultaneously (simultaneous hermaphroditism or cosexuality) or sequentially (sequantial hermaphroditism or dichogamy).

hermafroditisme

state of having both male and female sexual organs


panphobia

I would say that I’ve probably encountered more disbelief/disrespect/panphobia from the queer community than from my straight friends, which I think is really interesting.

2013, anonymous, quoted in Ayisigi Hale Gonel, "Pansexual Identification in Online Communities: Employing a Collaborative Queer Method to Study Pansexuality", Graduate Journal of Social Science, Volume 10, Issue 1 (2013), pages 51-52

Panphobia has arisen via accusations they're trying to 'one up' bisexuals, […]

2016 February 15, Zoe Godden, “What Is Pansexuality?”, in The Courier, Newcastle University, page 13:

Biphobia / panphobia is still very real and alive today. As a pansexual woman, my identity and experiences have been denied many times […]

2020, Hope, quoted in Queerfully and Wonderfully Made: A Guide for LGBTQ+ Christian Teens (ed. Leigh Finke), page 197

(neologism) Fear, dislike, or hatred of pansexual people and/or pansexuality.

panphobie

fear, dislike, or hatred of pansexual people


GM

GM (countable and uncountable, plural GMs)

Indeed, because of the paucity of literature on GM youth and the important distinctions between GM and SM youth, ...

2018, Peter M. Monti, Suzanne M. Colby, Tracy O'Leary Tevyaw, Brief Interventions for Adolescent Alcohol and Substance Abuse, Guilford Publications, →ISBN, page 306:

(countable, also attributively) Initialism of gender minority.


orientation

orientation (countable and uncountable, plural orientations)

/ˌɔɹiɛnˈteɪʃən/

From French orientation. By surface analysis, orient + -ation.

sexual orientation
sexual orientation#English


outing

From out + -ing. Compare Old English yting ("outing, journey").

This was a fine day's outing for anybody who had been cooped up in the shops for a few months.

1944 September and October, A Former Pupil, “Some Memories of Crewe Works—I”, in Railway Magazine, page 285:

The role is the latest dramatic outing for Radcliffe since the end of the successful Potter franchise.

2012, BBC News, Daniel Radcliffe defends casting as poet Allen Ginsberg:

Other erstwhile stalwarts are also wavering. Southampton had two of the best full-backs in the league last season but Ryan Bertrand has been below par this season and Cédric Soares made an uncharacteristic lapse that led to Stoke’s winning goal in Southampton’s last outing.

2017 October 14, Paul Doyle, “Mauricio Pellegrino yet to find attacking solution for stuttering Southampton”, in the Guardian:

A performance in public, for example in a drama, film, on a musical album, as a sports contestant etc.

másvalaki homoszexualitásának/transzneműségének felfedése/nyilvánosságra hozása

Advocates for gay and lesbian issues suggest the increase in discharges reflects the hostility of the military towards homosexual soldiers and a growing number of "forced outings" of gay and lesbian troops.

2006, Matthew Hoddie, Ethnic Realignments:

The practice of publicly revealing that a person is homosexual or transgender without that person's consent.


fag hag

From fag + hag. First use appears c. 1965 in the publication The Guild Dictionary of Homosexual Terms.

Susan "Suki" Eagan, manager of the Boston bar Chaps, describes her own personal odyssey as "local debutante to fag hag to fag bar owner."

1977 August 27, Steve Savage, Susan "Suki" Eagan, “Everything You Wanted to Know About Suki, But Were Too Distracted In Chaps to Ask Her”, in Gay Community News, volume 5, number 8, page 8:

Becoming a glam fag hag was not about money or privilege. Au contraire. Any working-class girl was eligible. All she had to do was get a job in a fag-rich environment, be it a hair salon or a department store.

2012, Simon Doonan, Gay Men Don't Get Fat, Penguin, →ISBN:

(sometimes derogatory, slang, LGBTQ) A woman who enjoys the company of gay men.


assign

en-verb

assign (third-person singular simple present assigns, present participle assigning, simple past and past participle assigned)

assigns (present singular third-person)
assigning (participle present)
assigned (participle past)
assigned (past)

Etymology tree
Proto-Indo-European *h₂éd
Proto-Italic *ad
Latin ad
Latin ad-
Proto-Indo-European *sek-der.
Proto-Italic *seknom
Latin signum
Proto-Indo-European *-éh₂
Proto-Indo-European *-yéti
Proto-Indo-European *-eh₂yéti
Proto-Italic *-āō
Latin -ō
Latin signō
Latin assignōlbor.
Old French assignerbor.
Middle English assignen
English assign
From Middle English assignen, from Old French assigner, asigner, from Latin assignō, from ad- + signō (“mark, sign”).

luokittaa

to attribute or sort something into categories

(transitive) To attribute or sort (something) into categories.

(LGBTQ) To categorize (someone) as belonging to the male or female sex.


PGP

en-noun

PGP (countable and uncountable, plural PGPs)

My PGPs are he and him.

(LGBTQ, countable) Initialism of preferred gender pronoun.


tuck

en-verb

tuck (third-person singular simple present tucks, present participle tucking, simple past and past participle tucked)

tucks (present singular third-person)
tucking (participle present)
tucked (participle past)
tucked (past)

From Middle English tuken, touken (“to torment, to stretch (cloth)”), from Old English tūcian (“to torment, vex”) and Middle Dutch tucken (“to tuck”), both from Proto-Germanic *teuh-, *teug- (“to draw, pull”) (compare also *tukkōną), from Proto-Indo-European *dewk- (“to pull”). Akin to Old High German zucchen (“to snatch, tug”), zuchôn (“to jerk”), German Low German tuken (“to tug, pluck, grab and pull towards”), Old English tēon (“to draw, pull, train”). Doublet of touch.

cog

(transitive) To pull or gather up (an item of fabric).

to tuck a dress

To sew folds; to make a tuck or tucks in.

Honey, have you tucked today? We don’t wanna see anything nasty down there.

(LGBTQ, of a drag queen, trans woman, etc.) To conceal one’s penis and testicles, as with a gaff or by fastening them down with adhesive tape.


pink pound

(UK) The business generated by providing goods and services to the homosexual community.


gynephilia

From Ancient Greek; equivalent to gyne- + -philia; see gyne.

The love of women; a sexual attraction to women, in general; female-oriented teleiophilia.


GLBT

Gayglers include the company's GLBT (gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transsexual) employees.

2009, Janet Lowe, Google Speaks: Secrets of the World's Greatest Billionaire Entrepreneurs, Sergey Brin and Larry Page, John Wiley & Sons, →ISBN, page 161:

Initialism of gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender/transsexual.


male-to-female

(LGBTQ) Transitioning or having transitioned (in gender identity or presentation, physically, etc) from being male to being female.

(electronics, of an adapter) That changes a male end (with pins, usually a plug) of a connection into a female one (usually a socket).


male-to-female

A male-to-female transsexual or transgender person; a trans woman.


female-to-male

(LGBTQ) Transitioning or having transitioned (in gender identity or presentation, physically, etc) from being female to being male.


female-to-male

The lack of a crossgender peer group is a gaping reality for most female-to-males. While all transvestites/transsexuals are a hidden minority, the female-to-males are an even more hidden minority within that minority.

1980, Louis Sullivan, Information for the Female-to-male:

A female-to-male transsexual or transgender person; a trans man.


gaydar

en-noun

gaydar (countable and uncountable, plural gaydars)

Blend of gay + radar, equivalent to gay + -dar.

This is not your Hallmark in Ames, Iowa. And there is “family” working there … no radar like gaydar, I always say.

1982 July 15, Gloria Goodqueen, “What’s in a card”, in Bay Area Reporter, volume XII, number 28, San Francisco, Calif.: Benro Enterprises, →OCLC, page 7, column 1:

When you first come out, you might have an overactive gaydar. When I realized I was gay, I wanted everyone to be gay too, which led to a lot of wishful thinking. "Helen Hunt is gay!" Dream on, girl!

1996, Judy Carter, “Step 3: Find Another Homo”, in The Homo Handbook: Getting in Touch with Your Inner Homo, New York, N.Y.: Fireside Books, Simon & Schuster, →ISBN, page 51:

"I dunno. He's carried this one on since Halloween. I'm starting to think the lie was actually the 'straight guy role'. I may have a crappy gaydar, but having faked heterosexuality before, I feel like I should be able to recognize it."

2013 May 12, Jocelyn Samara DiDomenick, “Comic 368 – January Girls”, in Rain (webcomic), archived from the original on 2022-12-08:

The research, which went viral this week, used a sample of online dating photos, limited only to white users, to demonstrate that an algorithm could correctly distinguish between gay and straight men 81% of the time and 74% for women, suggesting machines can potentially have much better "gaydar" than humans.

2017 September 9, Sam Levin, “LGBT groups denounce ‘dangerous’ AI that uses your face to guess sexuality”, in Katharine Viner, editor, The Guardian, London: Guardian News & Media, →ISSN, →OCLC, archived from the original on 2023-04-29:

Dr. Lillihammer started to walk past her, but stopped directly in front of her. Inches apart, they stared at each other. Sizing the other woman up, doing a little consulting of their gaydars. Heather felt Lillian's breath on her cheek and tried not to visibly let the shiver go down her spine.

2024 February 25, Queerious, “The Deadname Meme”, in SCP Foundation, archived from the original on 2024-09-02:

(LGBTQ slang) The supposed ability to detect whether or not a person is gay by observing that person's appearance, mannerisms, etc.


shemale

(offensive, proscribed, especially in pornography) A male-to-female transsexual or transgender person; a trans woman.

人妖

a male-to-female transsexual or transgender person

sukupuolenvaihtaja

has no specific word; may use "transgender person"

шиме́йл

anglicism, indeclinable if used as feminine

She-male garter snakes exploit the amorous attentions of other males to warm up.

2001, R. Shine, B. Phillips, H. Waye, M. LeMaster, R. T. Mason, Benefits of female mimicry in snakes, in Nature (414, 267)

(biology, nonstandard, see usage notes) A male animal which displays female traits or behaviors; for example, a male reptile which gives off female pheromones.


gayness

gayness (usually uncountable, plural gaynesses)

From Middle English gaynesse, equivalent to gay + -ness.

Coordinate term: queerness (sometimes synonymous)

You cannot blame their gayness, their queerness, their homosexuality on sudden wealth.

1940 January-June, Allen Bernstein, Millions of Queers (Our Homo America), [Unpublished MS of the United States National Library of Medicine], →OCLC, page 51:

Tell Al Sublette I met a great new pianist called Cecil Taylor, [he] plays like [Oscar] Peterson gone Classical, fast runs but Brubeck-Stravinsky-Prokofieff chords, a Juilliard classicist—He, like [James] Baldwin, [is] colored, [and] I think gay,—Baldwin is gay. I don’t dig all this gayness.

1954 October 26, Jack Kerouac, “Jack Kerouac [Richmond Hill, New York] to Allen Ginsberg [San Francisco, California] Oct. 26, ’54”, in Jack Kerouac and Allen Ginsberg: The Letters, Penguin, published 2010, →ISBN, page 247:

I doubt very much that their "gayness" had any deep sexual roots. I think it was simply an exotic form of juvenile delinquency.

1959 May, David McReynolds, “McReynolds Reply to [Seymour] Krim”, in Mattachine Review, volume V, number 5, Los Angeles: Mattachine Society, →ISSN, page 9:

Those of us who have been in heterosexual marriages too often have blamed our gayness on the breakup of the marriage.

1970, Carl Wittman, The Gay Manifesto, New York: The Red Butterfly, →OCLC, page 4, column 1:

Were there gay people in the ancient world, or is gayness a uniquely modern category?

Their goal was to compel open legal recognition of their beliefs about sex and gayness as being the law in the United States.

2015, E. Reltso, Our Sex Saturated Society:

(uncountable) The state of being gay (homosexual); homosexuality; demeanor stereotypically representative of it.


transwoman

LL-Q1860 (eng)-Flame, not lame-transwoman.wav

Coordinate term: transman

She had been attracted to Sharon from the time they met, but had not felt comfortable with the idea of dating a transwoman.

2007, Reid Vanderburgh, Transition and Beyond: Observations on Gender Identity:

A transwoman is thus required to fashion her own body as a blank in order to gain a document that is not itself a blank; the document will not speak her sex until her body fails to.

2010, Gayle Salamon, Assuming a Body: Transgender and Rhetorics of Materiality:

Not only do people harass and attack transwomen for being who they are: transwomen also face scrutiny from both ciswomen and cismen over “what” they are.

2010, Holly Kearl, Stop Street Harassment: Making Public Places Safe and Welcoming for Women, Greenwood Publishing Group, →ISBN, page 57:

Conversely, if you are a lesbian-identified transwoman who was legally married to a woman prior to transition, some people may claim your union is now illegal because it is presently a same-sex marriage.

2012, Nicholas M. Teich, Transgender 101: A Simple Guide to a Complex Issue:

“There’s going to be a lot of people for whom this is going to mean nothing, but for the few it does impact, it means the world,” said Facebook software engineer Brielle Harrison, who worked on the project and is herself undergoing gender transformation, from male to female. On Thursday, while watchdogging the software for any problems, she said she was also changing her Facebook identity from Female to TransWoman.
“All too often transgender people like myself and other gender nonconforming people are given this binary option, do you want to be male or female? What is your gender? And it’s kind of disheartening because none of those let us tell others who we really are,” she said. “This really changes that, and for the first time I get to go to the site and specify to all the people I know what my gender is.”

2014 February 13, Martha Mendoza, quoting Brielle Harrison, “Facebook offers new gender options for users”, in AP News, archived from the original on 2023-06-09:

(often derogatory, offensive) Alternative spelling of trans woman.


transman

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Coordinate term: transwoman

Like many transmen, he chose not to remove his female reproductive organs.

2008 June 22, Guy Trebay, “He’s Pregnant. You’re Speechless.”, in New York Times:

(often derogatory, offensive) Alternative spelling of trans man.


LGBT

Initialism of lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender/transsexual, derived from earlier LGB. Attested since 1988. Used as a self-designation in United States gay rights activism since about 1990.

initialism

This differential treatment in both the community of culture and mainstream white LGBT community may lead some LGBT people of colour to experience varying degrees of visibility and invisibility within these communities, and their identity as a LGBT person may change depending on the cultural context.

2010, Geoffrey Nelson, Isaac Prilleltensky, Community Psychology: In Pursuit of Liberation and Well-Being, →ISBN:

In a restaurant in Changsha, the capital of central China's Hunan province, Hu Mingliang and Sun Wenlin exchanged their wedding rings, and received blessings from over 200 friends, relatives, as well as LGBT rights activists from around the country.

2016 May 17, Cherie Chan, “Chinese gay couple marry despite court ruling”, in DW News, archived from the original on 2016-05-18, LGBT rights:

Being lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender, or relating to these groups as a collective.

مُجْتَمَع المِيم

lesbijánki, géi, bisɛksuály i transgéndɛry

лесбия́нки, ге́и, бисексуа́лы и трансге́ндеры

กลุ่มบุคคลที่มีความหลากหลายทางเพศ

glùm bùkkon têe mee kwaam làak lăai taang pâyt


dysphoria

en-noun

dysphoria (countable and uncountable, plural dysphorias)

From Ancient Greek δυσφορία (dusphoría, “excessive pain”), from δύσφορος (dúsphoros, “grievous”), from δυσ- (dus-, “bad”) + φέρω (phérō, “I bear, carry”).

der

gender dysphoria
gender dysphoria#English


Larry

No one gets named Larry anymore. It's had it as a name. Think of someone called Larry and you automatically conjure up a guy drinking beer in a sixties rec room.

1998, Carol Shields, Larry's Party, Penguin, →ISBN, page 254:

"Larry, name's Larry." I smiled, it was too ridiculous. He was worried about me calling him Lawrence instead of Larry with a rogue zombie climbing out of the dirt.

2002, Laurell K. Hamilton, Circus of the Damned, JOVE, →ISBN, page 149:

A diminutive of the male given name Laurence or Lawrence, popular as a male given name in the U.S. in the 1940s and the 1950s.


cis-

From the Latin preposition cis (“on this side of”). The earliest known sexuality-related use of the prefix in any language was in a 1914 German-language book on sexology. According to the Oxford English Dictionary, the earliest use of the prefix in the context of gender in English dates from 1994.

quote-book

Lexikon Des Gesamten Sexuallebens

1914, Ernst Burchard, Lexikon Des Gesamten Sexuallebens, Berlin, BV047570799, page 32:
Cisvestitismus, die Neigung, die Kleidung einer anderen Altersstufe, Volks- oder Berufsklasse des gleichen Geschlechts zum Zwecke sexueller Entspannung anzulegen, dem Transvestitismus verwandt (s. Verkleidungstrieb).
Cisvestism, the tendency to don the clothes of a different age group, ethnic group, or profession of the same sex for the purpose of sexual relaxation, related to transvestism (see disguise instinct).

cis- + gender → cisgender

cis- + sexism → cissexism

cis- + normativity → cisnormativity

(gender) Being, or pertaining to being, cis (cisgender or cissexual).


trans-

cis-

antonym(s) of “chemistry, other side/beyond, gender”

Borrowed from Latin trāns (“across, on the far side, beyond”).

bor

transmasculine, transfeminist, transphobia

For quotations using this term, see Citations:trans-.

Transgender or transsexual, or pertaining to those who are transgender or transsexual.


androgynous

en-adj

androgynous (comparative more androgynous, superlative most androgynous)

more androgynous (comparative)
most androgynous (superlative)

From Latin androgynus (“man-woman, hermaphrodite”), from Ancient Greek ἀνδρόγῠνος (andrógunos), from ἀνήρ (anḗr, “man”) + γῠνή (gunḗ, “woman”) + -ος (-os, “-ous”, adjectival suffix).

af

<i class="Latn mention" lang="en">-ous</i>

Possessing the sex organs of both sexes.

Nicknames like Pat, Sam, and Chris are androgynous, used by both men and women.

And I was taught that to be an actress, one should be fashionable, and to be fashionable is to be androgynous. And I am androgynous not less than David Bowie himself.

1982, Slava Tsukerman, Anne Carlisle, Nina V. Kerova, Liquid Sky, spoken by Margaret (Anne Carlisle):

My name is androgynous, in pronunciation at least – Lauren sounds like the more masculine Loren.

1993, Octavia E. Butler, Parable of the Sower, HEADLINE PUBLISHING GROUP (2019), page 199:

Pertaining to a feature or characteristic that is not definitively of either sex.

andróxinu

pertaining to a characteristic that is not definitively of either sex

The truth is, a great mind must be androgynous.

1832 September 1, Samuel Taylor Coleridge, “Great Minds Androgynous—Philosopher’s Ordinary Language”, in H[enry] N[elson] C[oleridge], editor, Specimens of the Table Talk of the Late Samuel Taylor Coleridge. […], volume II, London: John Murray, […], published 1835, →OCLC, page 96:

APAS is an androgynous docking system, so – in principle, at least – any APAS-equipped vehicle should be able to hook up with any other, without having to worry about matching male with female ports.

(of a connector or docking port) Able to connect to another connector or port of the same type, rather than being restricted to connecting to solely male or solely female connectors or ports.


unisex

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From uni- (prefix meaning ‘one, single’) + sex.

prefix

Kim is a unisex name.

Not distinguished on the basis of sex or gender; suitable for any sex or gender.

unisex

not distinguished on the basis of sex or gender; suitable for any sex or gender


STP

en-noun

STP (countable and uncountable, plural STPs)

(especially LGBTQ) Initialism of stand-to-pee.


gay for the stay

(colloquial, LGBTQ, of a normally heterosexual person) Engaging in homosexual relationships when segregated from the opposite sex.


sex reassignment surgery

sex reassignment surgery (countable and uncountable, plural sex reassignment surgeries)

sex reassignment surgeries (plural)
SRS (abbreviation)

(transgender, sometimes proscribed) Surgical procedure that alters a person's sexual characteristics to conform to one's identified gender, particularly for transgender people, or to conform to societal standards for intersex people to present in a dyadic fashion, the latter often done without consent.

sukuelinten korjausleikkaus

surgical procedure that changes a person's sex characteristics so that they conform to a standard


transsexuality

transsexuality (countable and uncountable, plural transsexualities)

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From trans- + sexuality or transsexual + -ity.

The state, condition, or properties of being transsexual.

ৰূপান্তৰকামিতা

the state, condition, or properties of being transsexual


size queen

Our Size Queen took a second glance—And almost flipped a gasket. This fellow simply was too much: He showed a lovely basket.

(idiomatic, slang, originally LGBTQ, sometimes derogatory) Someone who prefers sexual partners with large penises.


Latine

Borrowed from Spanish latine (“Latine; Latino or Latina”). Gender-neutral e replaces the gendered endings/elements a and o.

-a-o-e

(gender-neutral, neologism) Hispanic; Latino or Latina.


Turner

en-proper noun

Turner (countable and uncountable, plural Turners)

From Middle English Turner, Turnur, Turnure, Turnour, from Middle English turner, turnare, tornere, an occupational surname for a turner or tumbler.

census-designated place
census-designated place

Androscoggin County
Androscoggin County#English

A number of places in the United States:

A town and census-designated place therein, in Androscoggin County, Maine.

A township and village therein, in Arenac County, Michigan.

An unincorporated community in Kanawha County, West Virginia.


TS

en-noun

TS (countable and uncountable, plural TSs or TSes)

(pathology) Initialism of Turner syndrome.


E

Coordinate term: T (“testosterone”)

(chiefly LGBTQ) Abbreviation of estrogen or estradiol.


E

From the Hanyu Pinyin romanization of Mandarin 誒／诶 (ê̄), from E ɛ⁵⁵.

A Tai-Chinese mixed language spoken primarily in Rongshui Miao Autonomous County, Guangxi, China; Kjang E.

誒話

a Tai-Chinese mixed language spoken primarily in Rongshui Miao Autonomous County


xe

head

xe (third-person singular, gender-neutral, nominative case, oblique xem, reflexive xyrself, possessive xyr)

en-pron

xem (oblique)
xyrself (reflexive)
xyr (possessive)

Apparently independently invented by several people, including Don Rickter (the pronoun appeared in the Unitarian Universalist publication UU World on 1 May 1973 and Mario Pei gave Rickter credit on page 145 of his 1978 book Weasel Words).

Anyone I would be interested in would have to be a pretty special person. I wouldn't want to miss out on knowing such a person just because xe happened to be the "wrong" sex.

1992, Jim Sinclair, “If you could choose...”, in Jim Sinclair's Web Site, archived from the original on 2003-11-03:

Telepathy would require that you share the other person's knowledge of xyr own mind, which in turn requires recognizing that xe is actually aware of what xe's thinking, which is incompatible with psychiatry.

1993 September 14, Jim Sinclair, “Re: Jim and Steve's snoring discussion”, in bit.listserv.autism (Usenet), message-ID <AUTISM%93091417074261@SJUVM.STJOHNS.EDU>:

Now full ownership in the modern sense... implies four rights of the owner: 1. The right to decide what xe does with xyr property; 2. the right to decide what others do with xyr property; […]

1999 April 28, Dagmar Alpen, “Re: Think of a small tribe of people...”, in talk.politics.libertarian (Usenet), message-ID <7g74qb$8sq$1@rzsun02.rrz.uni-hamburg.de>:

Since xe went to the trouble of re-posting, I figured it was about something of more than usual importance to hir... I wrote to EmGee privately and xe said yes, that was one of the things xe was talking about.

2000 December 11, Mary Ellen Curtin, “Silencing and ad hominem attacks”, in alt.startrek.creative.erotica.moderated (Usenet), message-ID <074d01c06393$c1a2fb00$5be9cfcf@default>:

I mean, suppose there's someone who can't leave the house because xe's all tied up with counting tiles in the bathroom all day, and if xe manages to get done with that, there's the stove to check again and again ... you get the idea.

2002 March 3, Ken von Mattell, “Re: Newbie...not quite sure yet...”, in alt.suicide.holiday (Usenet), message-ID <rif48uc0ja9q3km9o2jf167d4u4o3qpk1k@4ax.com>:

The soft blue sky had the feel of a good omen. In Xir old age, the god moved slower every year; lingering in the shallows long after the last fish had been swallowed up by nets. Sometimes Xe stood still for days, in sight of the shore, as if Xe had not quite decided whether to beach Xemself for good. Let Xem only survive long enough to spawn a new god! Else Xir helpless people would be godless ans stranded in the haunted dryland where the dead cities slept. Where less kindly deities roamed.

2023, Aimee Ogden, “A Half-Remembered World”, The Magazine of Fantasy & Science Fiction, vol. 145, no. 1-2, whole no. 768 (July/August 2023), pages 146-202

(nonstandard) they (singular). Gender-neutral third-person singular subject pronoun, coordinate with gendered pronouns he and she.


FMS

Federated Malay States
Federated Malay States#English


T

en-noun

T (countable and uncountable, plural Ts)

Coordinate term: E (“estrogen”)

(especially LGBTQ) Abbreviation of testosterone.