bit

From Middle English bitte, bite, from Old English bita (“bit; fragment; morsel”) and bite (“a bite; cut”), from Proto-Germanic *bitô and *bitiz; both from Proto-Indo-European *bʰeyd- (“to split”). More at bite.
Cognates
Cognate with West Frisian bit, Saterland Frisian Bit, Dutch bit, German Low German Beet, Biet, German Biss and Bissen, Danish bid, Swedish bit, Icelandic biti.

der

(BDSM) A gag of a style similar to a bridle.


big

Inherited from Northern Middle English big, bigge (“powerful, strong”), possibly from a dialect of Old Norse. Ultimately perhaps a derivative of Proto-Germanic *bugja- (“swollen up, thick”), from Proto-Indo-European *bʰew-, *bu- (“to swell”), in which case big would be related to bogey, bugbear, and bug.
Compare dialectal Norwegian bugge (“great man”), Low German Bögge, Boggelmann.

der

(BDSM, ABDL) The participant in ageplay who acts out the older role.


zipper

→ Cebuano: siper

→ Esperanto: zipo

→ French: zipper

→ Japanese: ジッパー (jippā)

→ Korean: 지퍼 (jipeo)

→ Portuguese: zíper

→ Spanish: zíper

→ Tagalog: siper

1925, zip + -er. The trade name was registered in 1925 by B.F. Goodrich for “boots made of rubber and fabric,” claiming use of the name since June 1923. No longer a registered trademark.

(BDSM) A string of clothes pegs or clips attached to the body and then quickly pulled off.


queen

en-verb

queen (third-person singular simple present queens, present participle queening, simple past and past participle queened)

queens (present singular third-person)
queening (participle present)
queened (participle past)
queened (past)
queene (alternative obsolete)
quene (alternative obsolete)
queyne (alternative obsolete)

From Middle English quene, queen, cwen, from Old English cwēn (“queen”), from Proto-West Germanic *kwāni, from Proto-Germanic *kwēniz (“woman”), from Proto-Indo-European *gʷénh₂s (“woman”).
Cognate with Scots queen, wheen (“queen”), Old Saxon quān ("wife"; > Middle Low German quene (“elderly woman”)), Dutch kween (“woman past child-bearing age”), Swedish kvinna (“woman”), Norwegian kvinne (“woman”), Danish kvinde (“woman”), Icelandic kvon (“wife”), Gothic 𐌵𐌴𐌽𐍃 (qēns, “wife”), Norwegian dialectal kvån (“wife”). Related to and possibly merged with and/or absorbed some senses of English quean, from Middle English quene, from Old English cwene (“woman; female serf, quean”), see quean. Generally eclipsed non-native Middle English regina (“queen”), borrowed from Latin rēgīna (“queen”) (see Modern English Regina). Doublet of quean and gyne.

gloss

"wife"; > Middle Low German <i class="Latn mention" lang="gml">quene</i> (“elderly woman”)

cog

The classic posture, in which you lie on your back while the male serves you, may make him feel arrogant and in charge. Try Queening him. Have him lie on his back while you sit on his face (make sure he has an airway through either his mouth or his nose).

1996, Lorelei, The Mistress Manual: The Good Girl’s Guide to Female Dominance, Scranton, Pennsylvania: Berkana Press, →ISBN, page 138:

She saw his pink tongue flickering on Clare's exposed nympha as she queened him, her love juices shining on his chin and throat[…]

2012, Yolanda Celbridge, The Castle of Maldona:

(BDSM, slang, transitive, usually of a woman) To sit on a person’s face to receive oral sex, typically while straddling the person’s head.


boy

en-noun

boy (countable and uncountable, plural boys or (eye dialect) boyz)

boys (plural)
boyz (plural pronunciation-spelling)
boi (alternative)

Jamaican Creole: bwoy

Sranan Tongo: boi, boy

→ Cebuano: boy

→ Chinese: boy

desctree

→ Dutch: boy
→ French: boy
→ Lingala: bɔ́i
→ Indonesian: boi

→ German: Boy

→ Hungarian: boy

→ Iraqi Arabic: بوي

→ Italian: boy

→ Japanese: ボーイ (bōi)

→ Polish: boy

→ Russian: бой (boj)

→ Spanish: boy

→ Swahili: boi

→ Tagalog: boy

→ Vietnamese: bồi

→ Welsh: boi

Etymology tree
Proto-West Germanic *bōjō
Old English *bōia
Middle English boye
English boy
From Middle English boy /boye (“servant, commoner, knave, boy”), from Old English *bōia (“boy”), from Proto-West Germanic *bōjō, from Proto-Germanic *bōjô (“younger brother, young male relation”), from Proto-Germanic *bō- (“brother, close male relation”), from Proto-Indo-European *bʰā-, *bʰāt- (“father, elder brother, brother”).
Cognate with Scots boy (“boy”), West Frisian boai (“boy”), Dutch boi (“boy”), Low German Boi (“boy”), and probably to the Old English proper name Bōia. Also related to West Flemish boe (“brother”), Norwegian dialectal boa (“brother”), Dutch boef (“rogue, knave”), Bavarian Bua (“young boy, lad”), German Bube ("boy; knave; jack"; > English bub), Icelandic bófi (“rogue, crook, bandit, knave”). See also bully.

gloss

"boy; knave; jack"; > English <i class="Latn mention" lang="en">bub</i>

boy

formerly, African male servant in colonies

mutil

male of any age, used as a friendly diminutive

poika

affectionate term of address for male dog

all work and no play makes Jack a dull boy

since Adam was an oakum boy in Chatham Dockyard

when Adam was an oakum boy in Chatham Dockyard


collar

en-verb

collar (third-person singular simple present collars, present participle collaring, simple past and past participle collared)

collars (present singular third-person)
collaring (participle present)
collared (participle past)
collared (past)

From Middle English coler, borrowed from Old French coler (Modern French collier), from Late Latin collāre, from Latin collāris, from collum (“neck”). Cognate with Gothic 𐌷𐌰𐌻𐍃 (hals, “neck”), Old English heals (“neck”). Compare Spanish cuello (“neck”). More at halse. Doublet of collet.

(transitive, BDSM) To bind (a submissive) to a dominant under specific conditions or obligations.


brat

en-noun

brat (countable and uncountable, plural brats)

Early Modern English (c. 1500) slang term meaning "beggar's child". Possibly from Scots bratchet (“bitch, hound”). Another possibility is that it was originally a dialectal word, from northern and western England and the Midlands, for a "makeshift or ragged garment," from Old English bratt (“cloak”), which is from a Celtic source (Old Irish brat (“cloak, cloth”)). In the sense "characteristic of a confident and assertive woman", coined by English singer and songwriter Charli XCX in her 2024 album Brat.

coinage

(BDSM) A submissive partner who is disobedient and unruly.


brat

en-verb

brat (third-person singular simple present brats, present participle bratting, simple past and past participle bratted)

brats (present singular third-person)
bratting (participle present)
bratted (participle past)
bratted (past)

Ruthie was Ed's own submissive, a short, pretty, feisty ash-blonde New York City native who combined her submission to Ed with a good deal of mischievous bratting and a lot of sharp, intelligent conversation […]

2021, Ardie Stallard, Switch: A Tale of Spanking, BDSM & Romance:

Rather, Ana moves between playful bratting and a type of “conquer me” wantedness that good Dominants would respond to with increased control and correction.

2020, Jessica M. Kratzer, Communication in Kink, page 43:

(BDSM, intransitive) To act in a bratty manner as the submissive.


milk

milk (third-person singular simple present milks, present participle milking, simple past and past participle milked)

milks (present singular third-person)
milking (participle present)
milked (participle past)
milked (past)

From Middle English milken, from Old English melcan, from Proto-Germanic *melkaną, ultimately from Proto-Indo-European *h₂melǵ-, the same root as the noun. Compare Dutch and German melken, Danish malke, Norwegian mjølke, also Latin mulgeō (“I milk”), Ancient Greek ἀμέλγω (amélgō, “I milk”), Albanian mjel (“to milk”), Russian молоко́ (molokó), Lithuanian mélžti, Tocharian A mālk-.

Controlled milking can actually establish and consolidate a mistress’s dominance over her sub rather than diminish it.

“No, no, no! When a male is in chas-ti-ty,” (Clive always drew out this word and also slavery, emphasizing every syllable to give it extra importance) “he should receive regular milking to maintain good hygiene.” (Yet more kinky behavior cloaked as healthy living.) “Milking helps flush out the toxins which accumulate within the prostate gland of a chaste male.”

2015, Joyce Snyder, Mistress Pussycat: Adventures with Submissive Men in the World of Femdom, Headpress, →ISBN:

(transitive, BDSM, vulgar) To masturbate a male to ejaculation, especially for the amusement or satisfaction of the masturbator rather than the person masturbated.


switch

→ Gulf Arabic: سويچ (swīč)

→ German: Switch

Perhaps from Middle Dutch swijch (“twig”), first attested in c. 1592. The mechanical device for altering the direction of something sense is first attested in c. 1797, pertaining to pivoted rails on minecart railways, which were once wooden.

камута́тар

system allowing the interconnection of telephone lines

Ideally, if one of your ladies happens to be a switch (or would be willing to switch for this scene), I would love to be able to inflict a little "revenge tickling" as well, as part of a scenario.

2012, Terri-Jean Bedford, Bondage Bungalow Fantasies, page 99:

(especially BDSM) One who is willing to take either a submissive or a dominant role in a sexual relationship.


switch

nl-noun

switch m (plural switches, diminutive switchje n)

switches (plural)
switchje (diminutive neuter)

(BDSM) switch (person interested in acting both in a dominant and a submissive sexual role)


switch

switch (nominative singular)
switchit (nominative plural)
switch (accusative nominative singular)
switchit (accusative nominative plural)
switchin (accusative genitive singular)
switchit (accusative genitive plural)
switchin (genitive singular)
switchien (genitive plural)
switchiä (partitive singular)
switchejä (partitive plural)
switchissä (inessive singular)
switcheissä (inessive plural)
switchistä (elative singular)
switcheistä (elative plural)
switchiin (illative singular)
switcheihin (illative plural)
switchillä (adessive singular)
switcheillä (adessive plural)
switchiltä (ablative singular)
switcheiltä (ablative plural)
switchille (allative singular)
switcheille (allative plural)
switchinä (essive singular)
switcheinä (essive plural)
switchiksi (singular translative)
switcheiksi (plural translative)
switchittä (abessive singular)
switcheittä (abessive plural)
switchein (instructive plural)
See the possessive forms below. (comitative)
switchini (nominative singular)
switchini (nominative plural)
switchini (accusative nominative singular)
switchini (accusative nominative plural)
switchini (accusative genitive singular)
switchini (accusative genitive plural)
switchini (genitive singular)
switchieni (genitive plural)
switchiäni (partitive singular)
switchejäni (partitive plural)
switchissäni (inessive singular)
switcheissäni (inessive plural)
switchistäni (elative singular)
switcheistäni (elative plural)
switchiini (illative singular)
switcheihini (illative plural)
switchilläni (adessive singular)
switcheilläni (adessive plural)
switchiltäni (ablative singular)
switcheiltäni (ablative plural)
switchilleni (allative singular)
switcheilleni (allative plural)
switchinäni (essive singular)
switcheinäni (essive plural)
switchikseni (singular translative)
switcheikseni (plural translative)
switchittäni (abessive singular)
switcheittäni (abessive plural)
switcheineni (comitative plural)
switchisi (nominative singular)
switchisi (nominative plural)
switchisi (accusative nominative singular)
switchisi (accusative nominative plural)
switchisi (accusative genitive singular)
switchisi (accusative genitive plural)
switchisi (genitive singular)
switchiesi (genitive plural)
switchiäsi (partitive singular)
switchejäsi (partitive plural)
switchissäsi (inessive singular)
switcheissäsi (inessive plural)
switchistäsi (elative singular)
switcheistäsi (elative plural)
switchiisi (illative singular)
switcheihisi (illative plural)
switchilläsi (adessive singular)
switcheilläsi (adessive plural)
switchiltäsi (ablative singular)
switcheiltäsi (ablative plural)
switchillesi (allative singular)
switcheillesi (allative plural)
switchinäsi (essive singular)
switcheinäsi (essive plural)
switchiksesi (singular translative)
switcheiksesi (plural translative)
switchittäsi (abessive singular)
switcheittäsi (abessive plural)
switcheinesi (comitative plural)
switchimme (nominative singular)
switchimme (nominative plural)
switchimme (accusative nominative singular)
switchimme (accusative nominative plural)
switchimme (accusative genitive singular)
switchimme (accusative genitive plural)
switchimme (genitive singular)
switchiemme (genitive plural)
switchiämme (partitive singular)
switchejämme (partitive plural)
switchissämme (inessive singular)
switcheissämme (inessive plural)
switchistämme (elative singular)
switcheistämme (elative plural)
switchiimme (illative singular)
switcheihimme (illative plural)
switchillämme (adessive singular)
switcheillämme (adessive plural)
switchiltämme (ablative singular)
switcheiltämme (ablative plural)
switchillemme (allative singular)
switcheillemme (allative plural)
switchinämme (essive singular)
switcheinämme (essive plural)
switchiksemme (singular translative)
switcheiksemme (plural translative)
switchittämme (abessive singular)
switcheittämme (abessive plural)
switcheinemme (comitative plural)
switchinne (nominative singular)
switchinne (nominative plural)
switchinne (accusative nominative singular)
switchinne (accusative nominative plural)
switchinne (accusative genitive singular)
switchinne (accusative genitive plural)
switchinne (genitive singular)
switchienne (genitive plural)
switchiänne (partitive singular)
switchejänne (partitive plural)
switchissänne (inessive singular)
switcheissänne (inessive plural)
switchistänne (elative singular)
switcheistänne (elative plural)
switchiinne (illative singular)
switcheihinne (illative plural)
switchillänne (adessive singular)
switcheillänne (adessive plural)
switchiltänne (ablative singular)
switcheiltänne (ablative plural)
switchillenne (allative singular)
switcheillenne (allative plural)
switchinänne (essive singular)
switcheinänne (essive plural)
switchiksenne (singular translative)
switcheiksenne (plural translative)
switchittänne (abessive singular)
switcheittänne (abessive plural)
switcheinenne (comitative plural)
switchinsä (nominative singular)
switchinsä (nominative plural)
switchinsä (accusative nominative singular)
switchinsä (accusative nominative plural)
switchinsä (accusative genitive singular)
switchinsä (accusative genitive plural)
switchinsä (genitive singular)
switchiensä (genitive plural)
switchiään (partitive singular)
switchiänsä (partitive singular)
switchejään (partitive plural)
switchejänsä (partitive plural)
switchissään (inessive singular)
switchissänsä (inessive singular)
switcheissään (inessive plural)
switcheissänsä (inessive plural)
switchistään (elative singular)
switchistänsä (elative singular)
switcheistään (elative plural)
switcheistänsä (elative plural)
switchiinsä (illative singular)
switcheihinsä (illative plural)
switchillään (adessive singular)
switchillänsä (adessive singular)
switcheillään (adessive plural)
switcheillänsä (adessive plural)
switchiltään (ablative singular)
switchiltänsä (ablative singular)
switcheiltään (ablative plural)
switcheiltänsä (ablative plural)
switchilleen (allative singular)
switchillensä (allative singular)
switcheilleen (allative plural)
switcheillensä (allative plural)
switchinään (essive singular)
switchinänsä (essive singular)
switcheinään (essive plural)
switcheinänsä (essive plural)
switchikseen (singular translative)
switchiksensä (singular translative)
switcheikseen (plural translative)
switcheiksensä (plural translative)
switchittään (abessive singular)
switchittänsä (abessive singular)
switcheittään (abessive plural)
switcheittänsä (abessive plural)
switcheineen (comitative plural)
switcheinensä (comitative plural)


parachute

Borrowed from French parachute, from para- (“protection against”) (as in parasol) and chute (“fall”).

Under that there are dildos and butt-plugs arranged by size on two shelves: two fat butt-plugs and four small ones, four two-headed dildos, eight ordinary dildos. Under that, the little material hanging on nails: five different pairs of nipple clamps, some clothespins, a parachute for the balls, a dog collar, two hoods, one in leather, one in latex, six cockrings, in steel or leather, regular or with built-in ball-squeezers, two dick sheaths […]

1998, Guillaume Dustan, translated by Brad Rumph, In My Room, London: Serpent’s Tail, →ISBN, page 53:

Parachutes are usually made of leather and can be purchased through most fetish catalogs or stores catering to the BDSM scene.

2012, Peggy Sue, Guide to Female Supremacy, London: Gynarchy International Editions / Lulu Press, →ISBN, page 75:

She came near and grabbed his balls tightly with her left hand, tugging them downward while applying a parachute harness with her right hand. […] His balls stretched downward under the delicious weight.

2016, John Caesar, Wife Scorned!, Lulu.com, →ISBN:

A parachute is a small collar, usually made from leather, which fastens around the scrotum, and from which weights can be hung.

2022, Mohamed A. Baky Fahmy, “Scrotum in Human Conscience”, in Mohamed A. Baky Fahmy, editor, Normal and Abnormal Scrotum, Cham, Switzerland: Springer, →DOI, →ISBN, page 22:

(BDSM) A small collar which fastens around the scrotum and from which weights can be hung.

parachute

BDSM: scrotum collar from which weights can be hung


parachute

→ Azerbaijani: paraşüt

→ Albanian: parashutë

desctree

→ Dutch: parachute
→ Indonesian: parasut
→ Papiamentu: parachüt

→ English: parachute

→ Ottoman Turkish: پاراشوت (paraşüt)

Turkish: paraşüt

→ Russian: парашю́т (parašút)
→ Armenian: պարաշյուտ (parašyut)
→ Kazakh: парашют (paraşüt)

From para- (“protection against”) + chute (“fall”).

af

En dessous il y a les godes et les plugs, rangés par taille sur deux étagères: deux gros plugs, quatre petits, quatre godes doubles, huit godes simples. En dessous il y a le petit matériel, accroché à des clous: cinq paires de pinces à seins différentes, des pinces à linge, un parachute pour les couilles, tin collier de chien, deux cagoules, une en cuir, une en latex, six cockrings, en acier, en cuir, simples ou avec serre-couilles incorporé, deux étuis à bite […]

1996, Guillaume Dustan, Dans ma chambre [In My Room], Paris: POL, page 71; quoted in David Caron, My Father and I: The Marais and the Queerness of Community, Ithaca, New York: Cornell University Press, 2009, →ISBN, page 106:

Below there are the dildos and plugs, ranging in size on two shelves: two big plugs, four small, four double-dildos, eight simple dildos. Below there is the small equipment, hung on nails: five pairs of different nipple clamps, clothes pegs, a parachute for the balls, a dog collar, two hoods, one leather, one latex, six cockrings, in steel, in leather, simple or with built-in ball clamps, two cock-sleeves […]

(BDSM) parachute (scrotum collar from which weights can be hung)


slave

Inherited from Middle English sclave, from Old French sclave, from Medieval Latin sclavus (“slave”), from Late Latin Sclavus (“Slav”), traditionally assumed to be because Slavs were often forced into slavery in the Middle Ages. The Latin word is from Byzantine Greek Σκλάβος (Sklábos); see that entry and Slav for more. Displaced native Old English þēow. Thrall and bondsman/bondswoman, however, remain common synonyms. Doublet of ciao and Slav.
An alternative hypothesis derives sclavus from Ancient Greek σκῡλεύω (skūleúō), σκῡλάω (skūláō, “to strip or despoil a slain enemy”).

In the clip the black female “slave” dons a chain around her neck for which her white mistress possesses the key. The black woman sub is further disciplined by the power of speech—the force of silence.

[2016, Ariane Cruz, The Color of Kink: Black Women, BDSM, and Pornography, NYU Press, →ISBN, page 39:

(BDSM) A submissive partner in a BDSM relationship who consensually submits to, sexually or personally, serving one or more masters or mistresses.

奴隸 /奴隶

submissive partner in a BDSM relationship who (consensually) submits to (sexually) serving


drone

→ Asturian: dron

→ Dutch: drone

→ Italian: drone

→ Punjabi: ਡ੍ਰੋਨ (ḍron)

→ Polish: dron

→ Portuguese: drone

→ Spanish: dron

From Middle English drane, from Old English drān, from Proto-West Germanic *drānu, from Proto-Germanic *drēniz, *drēnuz, *drenô (“an insect, drone”), from Proto-Indo-European *dʰreh₁n- (“bee, drone, hornet”). Cognate with Danish drone (“drone”), Dutch dar (“male bee or wasp”), German Drohne, dialectal German Dräne, Trehne, Trene (“drone”), Low German drone (“drone”), Swedish drönje, drönare (“drone”).
The etymology of the sense of "remote-controlled aircraft" is disputed; theories include early military UAVs dumbly flying on preset paths.

inh

Coordinate term: programmer

(BDSM) In dronification kink, one who is mindless and obedient to a dominant, characterized by a detached and robotic identity and an anonymous appearance, typically composed of a latex suit and gas mask.


pineapple

From Middle English pinappel (“pinecone”, literally “pine-apple/pine-fruit”), from Proto-West Germanic *pīnapplu. Later applied to the fruit of the pineapple plant due to its resemblance to a pinecone. Compare the Middle Dutch and Dutch pijnappel (“pinecone", formerly also "pineapple”), and Middle Low German pinappel, Old High German pīnapful, Middle High German pīnaphel, and early Modern German pinapfel — all in the sense of “pine cone”. Compare also the post-Classical Latin pomum pini, the Old French pume de pin, the Middle French and French pomme de pin and Spanish piña. By surface analysis, pine + apple.


little

en-noun

little (countable and uncountable, plural littles)

From Middle English litel, from Old English lyttel, lȳtel, from Proto-West Germanic *lūtil, from Proto-Germanic *lūtilaz (“tending to stoop, crouched, little”), from Proto-Indo-European *lewd- (“to bend, bent, small”), equivalent to lout + -le. Cognate with Dutch luttel, regional German lütt and lützel, Saterland Frisian litje, West Frisian lyts, Low German lütt, lüttje. Related also to Old English lūtan (“to bow, bend low”); and perhaps to Old English lytiġ (“deceitful”), Gothic 𐌻𐌹𐌿𐍄𐍃 (liuts, “deceitful”); compare also Icelandic lítill (“little”), Faroese lítil, Swedish liten, Danish liden, lille, Gothic 𐌻𐌴𐌹𐍄𐌹𐌻𐍃 (leitils), which appear to have a different root vowel. More at lout.

der

An adult in a child-like role, or in the more junior of two paired roles.

(countable, BDSM, ABDL) The participant in ageplay who acts out the younger role.


top

en-noun

top (countable and uncountable, plural tops)

From Middle English top, toppe, from Old English top (“top, highest part; summit; crest; tassel, tuft; (spinning) top, ball; a tuft or ball at the highest point of anything”), from Proto-West Germanic *topp, from Proto-Germanic *tuppaz (“braid, pigtail, end”), of unknown ultimate origin.
Cognate with Scots tap (“top”), North Frisian top, tap, tup (“top”), Saterland Frisian Top (“top”), West Frisian top (“top”), Dutch top (“top, summit, peak”), Low German Topp (“top”), German Zopf (“braid, pigtail, plait, top”), Swedish topp (“top, peak, summit, tip”), Icelandic toppur (“top”).
The sense of a spinning toy is separated from this, obscurely related to Dutch top and dop in this sense, against Standard Dutch tol, and French toupie having this sense.

suprulo

BDSM: dominant partner in a BDSM relationship or roleplay

one's elevator doesn't go all the way to the top

(BDSM) A dominant partner in a sadomasochistic relationship or roleplay.

(loosely, by extension) A dominant partner in a sexual relationship.


top

en-verb

top (third-person singular simple present tops, present participle topping, simple past and past participle topped)

tops (present singular third-person)
topping (participle present)
topped (participle past)
topped (past)

I used to be a slave, but I ended up topping.

Giving advice to the dominant partner on how to run the BDSM session is called "topping from the bottom".

(BDSM) To be the dominant partner in a BDSM relationship or roleplay.


dom

Coordinate term: domme

(BDSM) A dominant in sadomasochistic sexual practices, especially a male one.


dom

dom (third-person singular simple present doms, present participle domming, simple past and past participle dommed)

doms (present singular third-person)
domming (participle present)
dommed (participle past)
dommed (past)

Nola is actually "Nurse Nola," a dominatrix who specializes in medical role playing. […] "After that," she continues, "I started domming, which I did for a long time, but have never liked much."

2006, Bitch: feminist response to pop culture, numbers 31-34:

(slang, online gaming or BDSM) To dominate.


versatile

en-adj

versatile (comparative more versatile, superlative most versatile)

more versatile (comparative)
most versatile (superlative)

[ˈvɜː.səˌtaɪɫ]

LL-Q1860 (eng)-I learned some phrases-versatile.wav

/ˈvɜː.səˌtɑɪl/

[ˈvɜː.səˌtɑɪɫ]

From Latin versātilis (“turning easily”), from versātus, past participle of versō (“I turn, change”), frequentative of vertō (“I turn”).

2004, queenchaser1158, “Horny Versatile TV/TS Wanted in Phoenix”, in alt.personals.gay (Usenet):

(BDSM) Being a switch; capable of taking either a dominant or a submissive role.

مُبَادِل

gay sexual slang: capable of taking both a top and bottom role


bottom

en-noun

bottom (countable and uncountable, plural bottoms)

bottoms (plural)
botton (alternative dialectal)

→ Dutch: bottom

→ French: bottom

→ Portuguese: bottom

PIE word
 *bʰudʰmḗn
From Middle English botme, botom, from Old English botm, bodan (“bottom, foundation; ground, abyss”), from Proto-West Germanic *butm, from Proto-Germanic *butmaz, *budmaz, from Proto-Indo-European *bʰudʰmḗn (“bottom”). Cognate with Dutch bodem, German Boden, Icelandic botn, Danish bund; also Irish bonn (“sole (of foot)”), Ancient Greek πυθμήν (puthmḗn, “bottom of a cup or jar”), Sanskrit बुध्न (budhna, “bottom”), Persian بن (bon, “bottom”), Latin fundus (“bottom”) (whence fund, via French).
The sense “posterior of a person” is first attested in 1794; the verb “to reach the bottom of” is first attested in 1808. bottom dollar (“the last dollar one has”) is from 1882.

cog

Since what I wanted to do was be a bottom, a masochist, I had to learn that you could do it and be safe, that you could do it and not sign your life away, that you could do it by agreement, and that it was still fun.

1981 August 15, Nancy Wechsler, Gayle Rubin, Pat Califia, “Sadomasochism: Fears, Facts, Fantasies”, in Gay Community News, volume 9, number 5, page 6:

(countable, BDSM) A submissive partner in a sadomasochistic relationship.

(countable, loosely, by extension) A submissive partner in a sexual relationship.


bottom

en-verb

bottom (third-person singular simple present bottoms, present participle bottoming, simple past and past participle bottomed)

bottoms (present singular third-person)
bottoming (participle present)
bottomed (participle past)
bottomed (past)
botton (alternative dialectal)

(BDSM, intransitive) To be the submissive partner in a BDSM relationship.


sub

* Shortened form of any of various words beginning with sub-.

[…] roleplay where a sub or bottom takes care of a top's bodily and hygiene needs […]

2004, Paul Baker, Fantabulosa: A Dictionary of Polari and Gay Slang:

"It means that I'm both a sub and a dom." "Submissive and dominant," I said. He nodded.

2007, Laurell K Hamilton, The Harlequin:

Typically a dom and a sub have a more or less standard routine that they like to go through all the time.

2008, Lannie Rose, How to Change Your Sex:

We're not that kind of sub!

2012, “Karai's Vendetta”, in Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles:


sub

sub (third-person singular simple present subs, present participle subbing, simple past and past participle subbed)

subs (present singular third-person)
subbing (participle present)
subbed (participle past)
subbed (past)

switch

one who is willing to take either a sadistic or a masochistic role

You've never subbed before. Jessica will be expecting a man on stage that follows orders and enjoys what she's going to be doing. Do you want to be spanked? Possibly whipped?

2012, Alicia White, Jessica's Breakdown, page 53:

Wasn't like she'd never subbed before. She'd been a sub longer than she'd been a Dominatrix–ten years she'd spent in a collar.

2012, Tiffany Reisz, Little Red Riding Crop:


verse

fr-noun

verse f (countable and uncountable, plural verses)

(especially BDSM) One who is willing to take either a submissive or a dominant role in a sexual relationship; a switch.


daddy

daddies (plural)
daddie (alternative Scotland often)

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The guy I've been dating offered to do bondage with me, and I was like "Yes please, daddy."

The very attractive Daddy-type in the harness and cap.

1988 May 7, Christopher Wittke, “It Takes Two To Tango”, in Gay Community News, page 10:

(BDSM, sexual slang) A dominant male partner, often used as an address.


master

masters (plural)
maistre (alternative archaic)
Marse (alternative Caribbean US dialectal obsolete)
marse (alternative Caribbean US dialectal obsolete)
mas'r (alternative)
Master (alternative)
mastre (alternative obsolete)
maister (alternative obsolete)
mayster (alternative obsolete)
Massa (alternative)
massa (alternative)
massah (alternative)
massy (alternative)
masta (alternative)
Mastah (alternative)
mastah (alternative)
mastuh (alternative)
measter (alternative UK obsolete pronunciation-spelling)
mester (alternative dialectal)
mister (alternative dialectal)

Sranan Tongo: masra

→ Catalan: màster

→ Finnish: master

→ French: master

→ German: Master

→ Polish: master

→ Portuguese: máster

→ Spanish: máster

→ Turkish: master

From Middle English maister, mayster, meister (noun) and maistren (verb), from Old English mǣster, mæġster, mæġester, mæġister, magister (“master”), from Latin magister (“chief, teacher, leader”), from Old Latin magester, from Proto-Indo-European *méǵh₂s, (as in magnus (“great”)) + -ester/-ister (compare minister (“servant”)). Reinforced by Old French maistre, mestre (noun) and maistriier, maister (verb) from the same Latin source. Compare also Saterland Frisian Mäster (“master”), West Frisian master (“master”), Dutch meester (“master”), German Meister (“master”). Doublet of maestro, magister, and meister.

doublet

Southern US, African-American Vernacular, obsolete

use the master's tools to dismantle the master's house

Coordinate term: mistress


master

master (nominative singular)
masterit (nominative plural)
master (accusative nominative singular)
masterit (accusative nominative plural)
masterin (accusative genitive singular)
masterit (accusative genitive plural)
masterin (genitive singular)
masterien (genitive plural)
mastereiden (genitive plural)
mastereitten (genitive plural)
masteria (partitive singular)
mastereita (partitive plural)
mastereja (partitive plural)
masterissa (inessive singular)
mastereissa (inessive plural)
masterista (elative singular)
mastereista (elative plural)
masteriin (illative singular)
mastereihin (illative plural)
masterilla (adessive singular)
mastereilla (adessive plural)
masterilta (ablative singular)
mastereilta (ablative plural)
masterille (allative singular)
mastereille (allative plural)
masterina (essive singular)
mastereina (essive plural)
masteriksi (singular translative)
mastereiksi (plural translative)
masteritta (abessive singular)
mastereitta (abessive plural)
masterein (instructive plural)
See the possessive forms below. (comitative)
masterini (nominative singular)
masterini (nominative plural)
masterini (accusative nominative singular)
masterini (accusative nominative plural)
masterini (accusative genitive singular)
masterini (accusative genitive plural)
masterini (genitive singular)
masterieni (genitive plural)
mastereideni (genitive plural)
mastereitteni (genitive plural)
masteriani (partitive singular)
mastereitani (partitive plural)
masterejani (partitive plural)
masterissani (inessive singular)
mastereissani (inessive plural)
masteristani (elative singular)
mastereistani (elative plural)
masteriini (illative singular)
mastereihini (illative plural)
masterillani (adessive singular)
mastereillani (adessive plural)
masteriltani (ablative singular)
mastereiltani (ablative plural)
masterilleni (allative singular)
mastereilleni (allative plural)
masterinani (essive singular)
mastereinani (essive plural)
masterikseni (singular translative)
mastereikseni (plural translative)
masterittani (abessive singular)
mastereittani (abessive plural)
mastereineni (comitative plural)
masterisi (nominative singular)
masterisi (nominative plural)
masterisi (accusative nominative singular)
masterisi (accusative nominative plural)
masterisi (accusative genitive singular)
masterisi (accusative genitive plural)
masterisi (genitive singular)
masteriesi (genitive plural)
mastereidesi (genitive plural)
mastereittesi (genitive plural)
masteriasi (partitive singular)
mastereitasi (partitive plural)
masterejasi (partitive plural)
masterissasi (inessive singular)
mastereissasi (inessive plural)
masteristasi (elative singular)
mastereistasi (elative plural)
masteriisi (illative singular)
mastereihisi (illative plural)
masterillasi (adessive singular)
mastereillasi (adessive plural)
masteriltasi (ablative singular)
mastereiltasi (ablative plural)
masterillesi (allative singular)
mastereillesi (allative plural)
masterinasi (essive singular)
mastereinasi (essive plural)
masteriksesi (singular translative)
mastereiksesi (plural translative)
masterittasi (abessive singular)
mastereittasi (abessive plural)
mastereinesi (comitative plural)
masterimme (nominative singular)
masterimme (nominative plural)
masterimme (accusative nominative singular)
masterimme (accusative nominative plural)
masterimme (accusative genitive singular)
masterimme (accusative genitive plural)
masterimme (genitive singular)
masteriemme (genitive plural)
mastereidemme (genitive plural)
mastereittemme (genitive plural)
masteriamme (partitive singular)
mastereitamme (partitive plural)
masterejamme (partitive plural)
masterissamme (inessive singular)
mastereissamme (inessive plural)
masteristamme (elative singular)
mastereistamme (elative plural)
masteriimme (illative singular)
mastereihimme (illative plural)
masterillamme (adessive singular)
mastereillamme (adessive plural)
masteriltamme (ablative singular)
mastereiltamme (ablative plural)
masterillemme (allative singular)
mastereillemme (allative plural)
masterinamme (essive singular)
mastereinamme (essive plural)
masteriksemme (singular translative)
mastereiksemme (plural translative)
masterittamme (abessive singular)
mastereittamme (abessive plural)
mastereinemme (comitative plural)
masterinne (nominative singular)
masterinne (nominative plural)
masterinne (accusative nominative singular)
masterinne (accusative nominative plural)
masterinne (accusative genitive singular)
masterinne (accusative genitive plural)
masterinne (genitive singular)
masterienne (genitive plural)
mastereidenne (genitive plural)
mastereittenne (genitive plural)
masterianne (partitive singular)
mastereitanne (partitive plural)
masterejanne (partitive plural)
masterissanne (inessive singular)
mastereissanne (inessive plural)
masteristanne (elative singular)
mastereistanne (elative plural)
masteriinne (illative singular)
mastereihinne (illative plural)
masterillanne (adessive singular)
mastereillanne (adessive plural)
masteriltanne (ablative singular)
mastereiltanne (ablative plural)
masterillenne (allative singular)
mastereillenne (allative plural)
masterinanne (essive singular)
mastereinanne (essive plural)
masteriksenne (singular translative)
mastereiksenne (plural translative)
masterittanne (abessive singular)
mastereittanne (abessive plural)
mastereinenne (comitative plural)
masterinsa (nominative singular)
masterinsa (nominative plural)
masterinsa (accusative nominative singular)
masterinsa (accusative nominative plural)
masterinsa (accusative genitive singular)
masterinsa (accusative genitive plural)
masterinsa (genitive singular)
masteriensa (genitive plural)
mastereidensa (genitive plural)
mastereittensa (genitive plural)
masteriaan (partitive singular)
masteriansa (partitive singular)
mastereitaan (partitive plural)
masterejaan (partitive plural)
mastereitansa (partitive plural)
masterejansa (partitive plural)
masterissaan (inessive singular)
masterissansa (inessive singular)
mastereissaan (inessive plural)
mastereissansa (inessive plural)
masteristaan (elative singular)
masteristansa (elative singular)
mastereistaan (elative plural)
mastereistansa (elative plural)
masteriinsa (illative singular)
mastereihinsa (illative plural)
masterillaan (adessive singular)
masterillansa (adessive singular)
mastereillaan (adessive plural)
mastereillansa (adessive plural)
masteriltaan (ablative singular)
masteriltansa (ablative singular)
mastereiltaan (ablative plural)
mastereiltansa (ablative plural)
masterilleen (allative singular)
masterillensa (allative singular)
mastereilleen (allative plural)
mastereillensa (allative plural)
masterinaan (essive singular)
masterinansa (essive singular)
mastereinaan (essive plural)
mastereinansa (essive plural)
masterikseen (singular translative)
masteriksensa (singular translative)
mastereikseen (plural translative)
mastereiksensa (plural translative)
masterittaan (abessive singular)
masterittansa (abessive singular)
mastereittaan (abessive plural)
mastereittansa (abessive plural)
mastereineen (comitative plural)
mastereinensa (comitative plural)


rigger

(BDSM) A person who applies functional or artistic rope bondage to another person's body.


dominant

→ Polish: dominant

This calendar is not for the faint of heart (unless you have some strong butch dominant to hold you while you swoon)

1988 December 25, Wickie Stamps, “Leather, Peace and Wombyn over Forty”, in Gay Community News, volume 16, number 24, page 7:

His story was a fable you told dominants in training to stress the importance of comprehending the depths of your submissive's needs.

2011, Jayne Rylon, Mistress's Master, page 65:

(BDSM) The dominating partner in sadomasochistic sexual activity.


dominant

head

dominant (comparative dominantare, superlative dominantast)

dominantare (comparative)
dominantast (superlative)
dominant (indefinite positive)
dominantare (comparative indefinite)
dominantast (indefinite superlative)
dominant (indefinite neuter positive singular)
dominantare (comparative indefinite neuter singular)
dominantast (indefinite neuter singular superlative)
dominanta (indefinite plural positive)
dominantare (comparative indefinite plural)
dominantast (indefinite plural superlative)
dominante (archaic indefinite masculine plural positive)
dominantare (archaic comparative indefinite masculine plural)
dominantast (archaic indefinite masculine plural superlative)
dominante (definite masculine positive singular)
dominantare (comparative definite masculine singular)
dominantaste (definite masculine singular superlative)
dominanta (definite positive)
dominantare (comparative definite)
dominantaste (definite superlative)


domination

en-noun

domination (countable and uncountable, plural dominations)

/ˌdɒməˈneɪʃən/

/ˌdɑːməˈneɪʃən/

From Middle English domynacion, from Old French dominacion, from Latin dominātiō (“rule, dominion”), from dominor (“domineer; rule”); see dominate.

By night, I am Mistress Shay Noir, the Black queen of domination. The world's most beautiful sadist.

2017, Teejay LeCapois, The Black Dominatrix Universe, →ISBN, page 121:

(BDSM) A fetish characterized by control and power over and discipline of one's sexual partner.


gimp

Attested in US slang since the 1920s. Maybe influenced by, or cognate with limp.

(BDSM) A submissive dressed in a full-body suit of latex or a similar material.


scene

scenes (plural)
scæne (alternative archaic)

From Late Middle English scene, from Middle French scene, borrowed from Latin sc(a)ena, from Ancient Greek σκηνή (skēnḗ, “scene, stage”). Doublet of scena and skene.


scene

en-verb

scene (third-person singular simple present scenes, present participle scening, simple past and past participle scened)

scenes (present singular third-person)
scening (participle present)
scened (participle past)
scened (past)
scæne (alternative archaic)


stray

From Middle English stray, strey, from Anglo-Norman estray, stray, Old French estrai, from the verb (see below).

(BDSM) A submissive that has not committed to submit to any particular dominant.


(BDSM) A relationship in which the submissive is available for the dominant at all times.


(BDSM) Of or relating to a 24/7 relationship.


(BDSM) twenty-four seven (relationship where the submissive if always available)


(BDSM) twenty-four seven (of or relating to a 24/7 relationship)


sissy

af

clipping of <i class="Latn mention" lang="en">sister</i>

sissy bar

a passenger backrest for a motorcycle or bicycle

sissy squat

a weightlifting exercise emphasizing knee extension

I realised I still held my normal male clothes and dropped them to the floor under the desk, out of the way. […] Would it hurt? Yes, I knew it would from watching videos of sissies being spanked by their dominant mistresses.

2018, Paul Zante, Sissy Dreams: Motel Sissy, page 4:

(BDSM) A male crossdresser who adopts feminine behaviours.


blackmail

Anglo-Scottish border
Scottish Highlands
blackmail
border reivers

From black + mail (“a piece of money”). Compare Middle English blak rente (“a type of blackmail levied by Irish chieftains”).
The word is variously derived from the tribute paid by English and Scottish border dwellers to border reivers in return for immunity from raids and other harassment. This tribute was paid in goods or labour, in Latin reditus nigri (“black mail”); the opposite is blanche firmes or reditus albi (“white rent”), denoting payment by silver.
McKay derives it from two Scottish Gaelic words blàthaich, pronounced (the th silent) bl-aich, "to protect" and màl (“tribute, payment”). He notes that the practice was common in the Scottish Highlands as well as the Borders.
More likely, from black + Middle English mal, male, maile (“a payment, rent, tribute”), from Old English māl (“speech, contract, agreement, lawsuit, terms, bargaining”), from Old Norse mál (“agreement, speech, lawsuit”); related to Old English mæðel (“meeting, council”), mæl (“speech”), Gothic 𐌼𐌰𐌸𐌻 (maþl, “meeting place”), from Proto-Germanic *maþlą (“gathering, agreement”), ultimately from Proto-Indo-European *med- (“to give advice, measure”). From the practice of freebooting clan chieftains who ran protection rackets against Scottish farmers. Black from the evil of the practice.
Expanded c. 1826 to any type of extortion money. Compare silver mail (“rent paid in money”) (1590s); buttock mail (“fine imposed for fornication”) (1530s, Scottish).

der

(by extension) Compromising material that can be used to extort someone.

(BDSM) A type of roleplay where the submissive shares information that may be extorted by the dominant.


submissive

(BDSM) One who submits to a dominating partner in BDSM practices.


homework

en-noun

homework (usually uncountable, plural homeworks)

/ˈhəʊmˌwɜːk/

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(BDSM) Tasks assigned by a dominant for a submissive to perform when they are physically away from their dominant or otherwise free.


dungeon

From Middle English dongeoun (“keep of a castle; dungeon; abyss, cave, den; whirlpool”), from Anglo-Norman donjun (“keep of a castle; keep used as a prison; dungeon”) and continental Old French donjon (“keep of a castle”), from Vulgar Latin *dominiōnem, seemingly derived from Latin dominus (“master, lord”) perhaps via some figurative sense like “dominant building”. Doublet of donjon. The sense of “prison (associated with a castle)”, first attested in Anglo-Norman (13th c.) and apparently never in continental Old French, likely developed in combination with Old English dung (“underground prison cell”), whence Middle English donge (“pit, abyss”, senses that are also attested for Middle English dongeoun).
The game term has been popularized by Dungeons & Dragons.

der

senses that are also attested for Middle English <i class="Latn mention" lang="enm">dongeoun</i>

(BDSM) A room dedicated to sadomasochistic sexual activity.


CNC

consensual non-consent
consensual non-consent#English

(BDSM) Initialism of consensual non-consent.


CBT

en-noun

CBT (countable and uncountable, plural CBTs)

Here Welles engages in the same kind of stereotypical thinking his characters condemn in their antagonists. For example, in a gay male psychology, testicles are not mandatory for “manhood,” if manhood is defined as being able to produce offspring. Testicular manipulation, or “cock and ball torture” (CBT) as it is known in sadomasochistic parlance, is an act around which extensive sexual scenes can be constructed.

1992, Les Wright, “Gay Genocide as Literary Trope”, in Emmanuel S. Nelson, editor, AIDS: The Literary Response, New York: Twayne Publishers, →ISBN, page 60:

For the female dominant, men’s cocks can provide hours of delightful fun. In the scene, this is often known as cock-and-ball torture or CBT, and bondage is an important part of this specialty.

1994, John Warren, The Loving Dominant, New York: Rhinoceros, →ISBN, page 167:

For CBT you will need thinner rope, rope that is quarter of an inch thick, and six to eight feet long. If he is particularly hairy, you may have to trim or shave him so his little hairs don’t get caught in the rope.

1998, Claudia Varrin, The Art of Sensual Female Dominance: A Guide for Women, Secausus, New Jersey: Citadel Press, published 1999, →ISBN, page 47:

cock and ball torture
cock and ball torture#English

(BDSM, uncountable) Initialism of cock and ball torture.


clover clamp

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(chiefly BDSM) A metal clamp, usually joined to another by a chain, meant to be worn on the nipples to cause pain.


munch

munch (countable and uncountable, plural munches)

From Middle English monchen, a variant of mocchen, mucchen ("to munch (food); chew audibly"; > Modern English dialectal mouch), probably imitative in origin (compare English crunch; German mampfen).

gloss

"to munch (food); chew audibly"; > Modern English dialectal <i class="Latn mention" lang="en">mouch</i>

onomatopoeic

imitative

And thanks to the stunning paxie for getting it all together and creating the best munch ever in the history of munches. :)

1996, peh^ – the prat with the hat, “What Is a 'Munch'?”, in alt.sex.femdom (Usenet):

does anyone know any BDSM parties and munches, in greece???

2000, Anton, “BDSM Parties and Munches”, in alt.sadistic (Usenet):

(countable, BDSM) A casual meeting for those interested in BDSM, usually at a restaurant, bar or pub.


-trix

Most of these derived terms were borrowed directly from Latin

(BDSM, plural usually -trixes) Forms nouns defining women who engage in specific forms of sexual dominance (by analogy with dominatrix)


juego

Inherited from Latin jocus, iocus.
Cognates include English joke, Occitan jòc, Catalan joc, French jeu, Portuguese jogo, and Italian gioco.

juego con cera de velas


Dom

(BDSM) Alternative letter-case form of dom.


Master

Masters (plural)
master (alternative)
Massa (alternative)
Mastah (alternative)

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(BDSM) Used as the title of a dominant, especially a male one.


Mistress

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(BDSM) Used as the title of a female dominant.


CG

(ABDL, BDSM, age regression) Initialism of caregiver.


SAM

Sexy dyke seeks seasoned top to spice up my play life. Interested? Think you have what it takes to tame a novice SAM? Write me at GCN Box 545

1991 February 4, “Butch In The Streets.... (personal advertisement)”, in Gay Community News, volume 18, number 28, page 13:

(BDSM) Initialism of smartass masochist; a brat.


fet

oh, btw...when you consider the fet-clothing available out there, realize how many have a collar attached.

1997, NuBabyByte, “Iron Shackles, Bare Feet”, in alt.torture (Usenet):

It was 'Lingerie Night' at a local fet club a few years ago.

2003, Morgane, “Relatives turning up in the scene”, in soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm (Usenet):

(BDSM, usually attributive) Clipping of fetish.


boi

boi will be treated as a boi at all times and will find himself the recepitent ^([sic]) of many bare bottom spankings, private and in front of Daddies ^([sic]) friends.

2002 March 14, “"MR MARKS"|STRICT DAD FOR BAD BOYS IN PORTLAND OREGON”, in alt.personals.spanking.punishment (Usenet):

You, tattooed, butch boi with experience and a leash.

2004, Kelly A. Morris, Things - Now, Then & Strange, →ISBN, page 178:

I fucked the boi that way. His ass had never known how good a man's dick feels when it's deep inside […]

2007, Will Kane, Forbidden Fruit: Psalms of a Black Master, →ISBN, page 273:

(BDSM, especially in roleplay) A male bottom (i.e. submissive partner), defined not by junior age, but by his obedient role and submission to the dominant "top".


BD

en-noun

BD (countable and uncountable, plural BDs)

(BDSM) Initialism of bondage and discipline.


thud

From Middle English thudden (“to strike with a weapon”), from Old English þyddan (“to strike, press, thrust”), from Proto-Germanic *þuddijaną, *þiudijaną (“to strike, thrust”), from Proto-Germanic *þūhaną, *þeuhaną (“to press”), from Proto-Indo-European *tūk- (“to beat”). Cognate with Old English þoddettan (“to strike, push, batter”), Old English þȳdan (“to strike, stab, thrust, press”), Old English þēowan (“to press”), Albanian thundër (“a hoof, talon, a shaft", figuratively, "oppression, torment”).

cog

Pillowcase whippings offer the look and feel of a flagellatio scene’s atmosphere, mood, and psychology while involving only very mild amounts of pain. (A pillowcase is almost all “thud” and very little “sting” in the sensations it creates.)

1992, Jay J. Wiseman, SM 101: A Realistic Introduction, 2nd edition, San Francisco: Greenery Press, published 1996, →ISBN, page 181:

It still wasn’t what I’d call painful but as he swung his arm and the strands of the flogger hit me together it felt like a solid thud rather than a number of different tails stinging me.

2013, Sophie Morgan, No Ordinary Love Story, London: Penguin Books, →ISBN, page 294:

(BDSM) A slower, dull impact with a wide surface area.


blood sport

en-noun

blood sport (countable and uncountable, plural blood sports)

blood sports (plural)
bloodsport (alternative)

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CEI

2014, “Erotic Girl 4 ALL Your Pleasures Are You SERIOUS About EDGING? JOI ? CEI ? Let's See How Much Will Power You Have”, in alt.penthouse.sex.femdom:

2015 May 23, Humiliate You, “Are You A Little Dick Man?? WANT Little Dick Humiliation - JOI with A Side of CEI”, in alt.sex.femdom (Usenet), retrieved 2022-02-02:

(BDSM) Initialism of cum-eating instructions: written or recorded instructions directing a submissive to consume semen.


DM

DM (countable and uncountable, plural DMs)


soumis

fr-noun

soumis m (plural soumis, feminine soumise)

(BDSM) masochist, bottom, submissive, sub


DS

en-noun

DS (countable and uncountable, plural DSs or DSes)

DSs (plural)
DSes (plural)
D. S. (alternative)
D.S. (alternative)


nipple clamp

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(BDSM) Either of a pair of metal clamps, usually joined by a chain, meant to be worn on the nipples to cause pain.


主人

CJKV/code

Sino-Xenic (主人):
* → Japanese: 主人(しゅじん) (shujin)
* → Korean: 주인(主人) (ju'in)
* → Vietnamese: chủ nhân (主人)

/ʈ͡ʂu²¹⁴⁻²¹ ʐən³⁵/

/ʈ͡ʂu⁵¹ ʐəŋ²⁴/

/t͡syː³⁵ jɐn²¹/

/t͡syː³⁵ jɐn²¹⁻³⁵/

/t͡si⁵⁵ ᵑɡin²²/

/t͡si⁵⁵ ᵑɡin²²⁻²²⁵/

/t͡ʃu²⁴⁻³³ ŋin⁵⁵/

/t͡suo³³⁻²¹ nˡøyŋ⁵³/

/t͡su⁵³⁻⁴⁴ laŋ¹³/

/t͡su⁴¹⁻⁴⁴ laŋ²³/

/t͡su⁵³⁻⁴⁴ laŋ²⁴/

/t͡su⁵⁵⁴⁻²⁴ laŋ²⁴/

/t͡su⁵³⁻⁴⁴ lin²⁴/

/t͡su⁵⁵⁴⁻²⁴ lin²⁴/

/t͡si⁵³⁻⁴⁴ d͡zin¹³/

/t͡su⁴¹⁻⁴⁴ zin²³/

/t͡su⁵²⁻³⁵ d͡ziŋ⁵⁵/

/t͡sz̩³³ n̠ʲin⁴⁴/

/ʈ͡ʂu²¹⁴⁻²¹ ʐən³⁵/

/ʈ͡ʂu⁵¹ ʐəŋ²⁴/

/t͡syː³⁵ jɐn²¹/

/t͡syː³⁵ jɐn²¹⁻³⁵/

/t͡si⁵⁵ ᵑɡin²²/

/t͡si⁵⁵ ᵑɡin²²⁻²²⁵/

/t͡ʃu²⁴⁻³³ ŋin⁵⁵/

/t͡suo³³⁻²¹ nˡøyŋ⁵³/

/t͡su⁵³⁻⁴⁴ laŋ¹³/

/t͡su⁴¹⁻⁴⁴ laŋ²³/

/t͡su⁵³⁻⁴⁴ laŋ²⁴/

/t͡su⁵⁵⁴⁻²⁴ laŋ²⁴/

/t͡su⁵³⁻⁴⁴ lin²⁴/

/t͡su⁵⁵⁴⁻²⁴ lin²⁴/

/t͡si⁵³⁻⁴⁴ d͡zin¹³/

/t͡su⁴¹⁻⁴⁴ zin²³/

/t͡su⁵²⁻³⁵ d͡ziŋ⁵⁵/

/t͡sz̩³³ n̠ʲin⁴⁴/

Coordinate term: 女主人 (nǚzhǔrén)


domina

domina (nominative singular)
dominat (nominative plural)
domina (accusative nominative singular)
dominat (accusative nominative plural)
dominan (accusative genitive singular)
dominat (accusative genitive plural)
dominan (genitive singular)
dominoiden (genitive plural)
dominoitten (genitive plural)
dominain (genitive plural rare)
dominaa (partitive singular)
dominoita (partitive plural)
dominassa (inessive singular)
dominoissa (inessive plural)
dominasta (elative singular)
dominoista (elative plural)
dominaan (illative singular)
dominoihin (illative plural)
dominalla (adessive singular)
dominoilla (adessive plural)
dominalta (ablative singular)
dominoilta (ablative plural)
dominalle (allative singular)
dominoille (allative plural)
dominana (essive singular)
dominoina (essive plural)
dominaksi (singular translative)
dominoiksi (plural translative)
dominatta (abessive singular)
dominoitta (abessive plural)
dominoin (instructive plural)
See the possessive forms below. (comitative)
dominani (nominative singular)
dominani (nominative plural)
dominani (accusative nominative singular)
dominani (accusative nominative plural)
dominani (accusative genitive singular)
dominani (accusative genitive plural)
dominani (genitive singular)
dominoideni (genitive plural)
dominoitteni (genitive plural)
dominaini (genitive plural rare)
dominaani (partitive singular)
dominoitani (partitive plural)
dominassani (inessive singular)
dominoissani (inessive plural)
dominastani (elative singular)
dominoistani (elative plural)
dominaani (illative singular)
dominoihini (illative plural)
dominallani (adessive singular)
dominoillani (adessive plural)
dominaltani (ablative singular)
dominoiltani (ablative plural)
dominalleni (allative singular)
dominoilleni (allative plural)
dominanani (essive singular)
dominoinani (essive plural)
dominakseni (singular translative)
dominoikseni (plural translative)
dominattani (abessive singular)
dominoittani (abessive plural)
dominoineni (comitative plural)
dominasi (nominative singular)
dominasi (nominative plural)
dominasi (accusative nominative singular)
dominasi (accusative nominative plural)
dominasi (accusative genitive singular)
dominasi (accusative genitive plural)
dominasi (genitive singular)
dominoidesi (genitive plural)
dominoittesi (genitive plural)
dominaisi (genitive plural rare)
dominaasi (partitive singular)
dominoitasi (partitive plural)
dominassasi (inessive singular)
dominoissasi (inessive plural)
dominastasi (elative singular)
dominoistasi (elative plural)
dominaasi (illative singular)
dominoihisi (illative plural)
dominallasi (adessive singular)
dominoillasi (adessive plural)
dominaltasi (ablative singular)
dominoiltasi (ablative plural)
dominallesi (allative singular)
dominoillesi (allative plural)
dominanasi (essive singular)
dominoinasi (essive plural)
dominaksesi (singular translative)
dominoiksesi (plural translative)
dominattasi (abessive singular)
dominoittasi (abessive plural)
dominoinesi (comitative plural)
dominamme (nominative singular)
dominamme (nominative plural)
dominamme (accusative nominative singular)
dominamme (accusative nominative plural)
dominamme (accusative genitive singular)
dominamme (accusative genitive plural)
dominamme (genitive singular)
dominoidemme (genitive plural)
dominoittemme (genitive plural)
dominaimme (genitive plural rare)
dominaamme (partitive singular)
dominoitamme (partitive plural)
dominassamme (inessive singular)
dominoissamme (inessive plural)
dominastamme (elative singular)
dominoistamme (elative plural)
dominaamme (illative singular)
dominoihimme (illative plural)
dominallamme (adessive singular)
dominoillamme (adessive plural)
dominaltamme (ablative singular)
dominoiltamme (ablative plural)
dominallemme (allative singular)
dominoillemme (allative plural)
dominanamme (essive singular)
dominoinamme (essive plural)
dominaksemme (singular translative)
dominoiksemme (plural translative)
dominattamme (abessive singular)
dominoittamme (abessive plural)
dominoinemme (comitative plural)
dominanne (nominative singular)
dominanne (nominative plural)
dominanne (accusative nominative singular)
dominanne (accusative nominative plural)
dominanne (accusative genitive singular)
dominanne (accusative genitive plural)
dominanne (genitive singular)
dominoidenne (genitive plural)
dominoittenne (genitive plural)
dominainne (genitive plural rare)
dominaanne (partitive singular)
dominoitanne (partitive plural)
dominassanne (inessive singular)
dominoissanne (inessive plural)
dominastanne (elative singular)
dominoistanne (elative plural)
dominaanne (illative singular)
dominoihinne (illative plural)
dominallanne (adessive singular)
dominoillanne (adessive plural)
dominaltanne (ablative singular)
dominoiltanne (ablative plural)
dominallenne (allative singular)
dominoillenne (allative plural)
dominananne (essive singular)
dominoinanne (essive plural)
dominaksenne (singular translative)
dominoiksenne (plural translative)
dominattanne (abessive singular)
dominoittanne (abessive plural)
dominoinenne (comitative plural)
dominansa (nominative singular)
dominansa (nominative plural)
dominansa (accusative nominative singular)
dominansa (accusative nominative plural)
dominansa (accusative genitive singular)
dominansa (accusative genitive plural)
dominansa (genitive singular)
dominoidensa (genitive plural)
dominoittensa (genitive plural)
dominainsa (genitive plural rare)
dominaansa (partitive singular)
dominoitaan (partitive plural)
dominoitansa (partitive plural)
dominassaan (inessive singular)
dominassansa (inessive singular)
dominoissaan (inessive plural)
dominoissansa (inessive plural)
dominastaan (elative singular)
dominastansa (elative singular)
dominoistaan (elative plural)
dominoistansa (elative plural)
dominaansa (illative singular)
dominoihinsa (illative plural)
dominallaan (adessive singular)
dominallansa (adessive singular)
dominoillaan (adessive plural)
dominoillansa (adessive plural)
dominaltaan (ablative singular)
dominaltansa (ablative singular)
dominoiltaan (ablative plural)
dominoiltansa (ablative plural)
dominalleen (allative singular)
dominallensa (allative singular)
dominoilleen (allative plural)
dominoillensa (allative plural)
dominanaan (essive singular)
dominanansa (essive singular)
dominoinaan (essive plural)
dominoinansa (essive plural)
dominakseen (singular translative)
dominaksensa (singular translative)
dominoikseen (plural translative)
dominoiksensa (plural translative)
dominattaan (abessive singular)
dominattansa (abessive singular)
dominoittaan (abessive plural)
dominoittansa (abessive plural)
dominoineen (comitative plural)
dominoinensa (comitative plural)

(BDSM) domina, domme, dominatrix (dominant female in sadomasochistic practices)


flogger

From flog + -er. Compare Low German flogger (“a flail”).

Savanna walked around the stock, unhooking her flogger from her belt.

(BDSM) A lightweight whip with multiple lashes.


collaring

en-noun

collaring (countable and uncountable, plural collarings)

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Collarings in my view are significant events and should be treated as such. They should include a fair amount of forethought and dedication on the part of both parties.

2022, Dan & Dawn Williams, Hearts & Collars, page 147:

(BDSM) The binding of a submissive to a dominant under specific conditions or obligations.


aftercare

(BDSM) Tender affection and physical care given to a partner after an activity, usually to serve as a transition between the activity and whatever follows it.

事後照顧 /事后照顾

affection given to a partner after a BDSM activity


aftercare

Unadapted borrowing from English aftercare.


asphyxiophilia

(BDSM) A paraphilia involving an attraction to breathplay.


subspace

en-noun

subspace (countable and uncountable, plural subspaces)

subspaces (plural)
sub space (alternative)
sub-space (alternative)

From sub (“submissive”) + space (“state of mind”).

compound

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My problem, though, is that when he whips me, I resist going into subspace. He has to whip me for fifteen or twenty minutes before I even begin to feel any psychological effects.

2000, Gloria G Brame, Come hither: a commonsense guide to kinky sex:

When he was far gone into subspace, pain was enough to make him come.

2003, Chelsea Shepard, Two Moons: Worthy of a Master Book One:

(BDSM) The psychological state of the submissive or bottom during sadomasochistic activity.


mummification

en-noun

mummification (countable and uncountable, plural mummifications)

From mummify + -ication, after French momification.

(BDSM) The practice of wrapping a person's arms, torso, and legs in order to restrict their movement.


ravishment

ravishment (countable and uncountable, plural ravishments)

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humbler

Mistress Desiree removed the ball crusher and then selected the humbler. Telling him to bend over so she could apply this sweet looking device.

2023, Sandra Wild, Lustful Whispers: Forbidden Passions Ignite:

(BDSM) A physical restraint that clamps around the base of the scrotum and prevents straightening of the legs.


passivo

pt-adj

passivo (feminine passiva, masculine plural passivos, feminine plural passivas)

passiva (feminine)
passivos (masculine plural)
passivas (feminine plural)

(slang, LGBTQ, BDSM) bottom, sub (of or relating to the submissive partner in a sexual relationship, usually the one who is penetrated)


passivo

(slang, LGBTQ, BDSM) bottom, sub (a submissive partner in a sexual relationship, usually the one who is penetrated)


collared

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From Middle English colered, colleryde; equivalent to collar + -ed.

(BDSM) Of a person, committed to submit to a particular dominant.


gunplay

en-noun

gunplay (usually uncountable, plural gunplays)

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My problem with gunplay is that it could lead to very bad habits. They're always loaded, even when they're "not loaded", and if you get used to thinking of them as not loaded you're going to get careless.

1998 August 5, the wharf rat [username], “Re: ATTENTION, People new to "BDSM"”, in soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm (Usenet):

The recent fuss about gunplay isn't an ickiness issue but a safety argument.

1999 October 21, Malcolm McMahon, “Re: A proposal: soc.subculture.bdsm-ykiok?”, in soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm (Usenet):

When the professor turned out to be too warped even for my tastes — consensual knifeplay is one thing; drunken gunplay quite another […]

2009, Quince Mountain, “Cowboy for Christ”, in Jeff Sharlet, Peter Manseau, editors, Believer, Beware: First-person Dispatches from the Margins of Faith, Beacon Press, →ISBN, page 116:

(BDSM) A sexual practice involving the use of a (usually unloaded) firearm for physical and mental stimulation.


dominator

dominators (plural)
dominatour (alternative)

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Young looking 30 yr old dominator, but might bend (flexible) for the right person.

1988 May 7, Jeff Winters, “Personal advertisement”, in Gay Community News, page 13:

One who, or that which, dominates.
(BDSM, uncommon) A male dominant.

One who, or that which, dominates.
A male dominant.


playroom

playrooms (plural)
play-room (alternative)

She'll take them to bed with her, and she'll give them stuff to make them feel like lords of creation, and they'll play round games. Then one day they'll wake up in shackles in her playroom.

(BDSM) A room dedicated to sadomasochistic sexual activity.


綁縛

/pɑŋ²¹⁴⁻²¹ fu⁵¹/

/pɑŋ²¹⁴⁻²¹ fu³⁵/

/pɔːŋ³⁵ pɔːk̚³/

/pɑŋ²¹⁴⁻²¹ fu⁵¹/

/pɑŋ²¹⁴⁻²¹ fu³⁵/

/pɔːŋ³⁵ pɔːk̚³/


Domina

de-noun

Domina f (genitive Domina, plural Dominas)

Domina (genitive)
Dominas (plural)
Domina (nominative singular)
Dominas (definite nominative plural)
Domina (genitive singular)
Dominas (definite genitive plural)
Domina (dative singular)
Dominas (dative definite plural)
Domina (accusative singular)
Dominas (accusative definite plural)

Borrowed from Latin domina (“lady, mistress”).

bor+

(BDSM, informal) dominatrix (dominant woman in sadomasochism)


who's your daddy

I got fisted one time [by] a very short lesbian. [mimes] "Who's your daddy?" "...Eileen?" "That's right, bitch!"

A humorous or sarcastic statement of (often sexual) superiority over someone else.

(BDSM) An assertion that one is the dominant in a relationship or situation.


dommy

en-adj

dommy (comparative more dommy, superlative most dommy)

more dommy (comparative)
most dommy (superlative)

Rita said she thought she’d be a sub, but found in the scene she was ‘getting a bit dommy’.

2010, Stephanie Clifford-Smith, “A Dynamic Duo”, in Kink: A Straight Girl's Investigation, Crows Nest, N.S.W.: Crows Nest, →ISBN, page 88:

I don’t usually get that wet, but apparently, all I was missing before was a hot dommy man slapping my ass.

2022, Renee Rose, chapter 2, in The Cleaner (Chicago Bratva), →ISBN:

He anchors his hands on his hips, one of my favorite moves of his, because he looks all dommy.

2023, Jane Henry, chapter 16, in Adoration (Montavio Brotherhood), →ISBN:


gasper

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1999, floodin...@webtv.net, “gay male gaspers/breath control and choking roleplay.”, in alt.sex.necrophilia (Usenet):

(BDSM, slang) One who is aroused by autoasphyxiation.


subi

subi (nominative singular)
subit (nominative plural)
subi (accusative nominative singular)
subit (accusative nominative plural)
subin (accusative genitive singular)
subit (accusative genitive plural)
subin (genitive singular)
subien (genitive plural)
subia (partitive singular)
subeja (partitive plural)
subissa (inessive singular)
subeissa (inessive plural)
subista (elative singular)
subeista (elative plural)
subiin (illative singular)
subeihin (illative plural)
subilla (adessive singular)
subeilla (adessive plural)
subilta (ablative singular)
subeilta (ablative plural)
subille (allative singular)
subeille (allative plural)
subina (essive singular)
subeina (essive plural)
subiksi (singular translative)
subeiksi (plural translative)
subitta (abessive singular)
subeitta (abessive plural)
subein (instructive plural)
See the possessive forms below. (comitative)
subini (nominative singular)
subini (nominative plural)
subini (accusative nominative singular)
subini (accusative nominative plural)
subini (accusative genitive singular)
subini (accusative genitive plural)
subini (genitive singular)
subieni (genitive plural)
subiani (partitive singular)
subejani (partitive plural)
subissani (inessive singular)
subeissani (inessive plural)
subistani (elative singular)
subeistani (elative plural)
subiini (illative singular)
subeihini (illative plural)
subillani (adessive singular)
subeillani (adessive plural)
subiltani (ablative singular)
subeiltani (ablative plural)
subilleni (allative singular)
subeilleni (allative plural)
subinani (essive singular)
subeinani (essive plural)
subikseni (singular translative)
subeikseni (plural translative)
subittani (abessive singular)
subeittani (abessive plural)
subeineni (comitative plural)
subisi (nominative singular)
subisi (nominative plural)
subisi (accusative nominative singular)
subisi (accusative nominative plural)
subisi (accusative genitive singular)
subisi (accusative genitive plural)
subisi (genitive singular)
subiesi (genitive plural)
subiasi (partitive singular)
subejasi (partitive plural)
subissasi (inessive singular)
subeissasi (inessive plural)
subistasi (elative singular)
subeistasi (elative plural)
subiisi (illative singular)
subeihisi (illative plural)
subillasi (adessive singular)
subeillasi (adessive plural)
subiltasi (ablative singular)
subeiltasi (ablative plural)
subillesi (allative singular)
subeillesi (allative plural)
subinasi (essive singular)
subeinasi (essive plural)
subiksesi (singular translative)
subeiksesi (plural translative)
subittasi (abessive singular)
subeittasi (abessive plural)
subeinesi (comitative plural)
subimme (nominative singular)
subimme (nominative plural)
subimme (accusative nominative singular)
subimme (accusative nominative plural)
subimme (accusative genitive singular)
subimme (accusative genitive plural)
subimme (genitive singular)
subiemme (genitive plural)
subiamme (partitive singular)
subejamme (partitive plural)
subissamme (inessive singular)
subeissamme (inessive plural)
subistamme (elative singular)
subeistamme (elative plural)
subiimme (illative singular)
subeihimme (illative plural)
subillamme (adessive singular)
subeillamme (adessive plural)
subiltamme (ablative singular)
subeiltamme (ablative plural)
subillemme (allative singular)
subeillemme (allative plural)
subinamme (essive singular)
subeinamme (essive plural)
subiksemme (singular translative)
subeiksemme (plural translative)
subittamme (abessive singular)
subeittamme (abessive plural)
subeinemme (comitative plural)
subinne (nominative singular)
subinne (nominative plural)
subinne (accusative nominative singular)
subinne (accusative nominative plural)
subinne (accusative genitive singular)
subinne (accusative genitive plural)
subinne (genitive singular)
subienne (genitive plural)
subianne (partitive singular)
subejanne (partitive plural)
subissanne (inessive singular)
subeissanne (inessive plural)
subistanne (elative singular)
subeistanne (elative plural)
subiinne (illative singular)
subeihinne (illative plural)
subillanne (adessive singular)
subeillanne (adessive plural)
subiltanne (ablative singular)
subeiltanne (ablative plural)
subillenne (allative singular)
subeillenne (allative plural)
subinanne (essive singular)
subeinanne (essive plural)
subiksenne (singular translative)
subeiksenne (plural translative)
subittanne (abessive singular)
subeittanne (abessive plural)
subeinenne (comitative plural)
subinsa (nominative singular)
subinsa (nominative plural)
subinsa (accusative nominative singular)
subinsa (accusative nominative plural)
subinsa (accusative genitive singular)
subinsa (accusative genitive plural)
subinsa (genitive singular)
subiensa (genitive plural)
subiaan (partitive singular)
subiansa (partitive singular)
subejaan (partitive plural)
subejansa (partitive plural)
subissaan (inessive singular)
subissansa (inessive singular)
subeissaan (inessive plural)
subeissansa (inessive plural)
subistaan (elative singular)
subistansa (elative singular)
subeistaan (elative plural)
subeistansa (elative plural)
subiinsa (illative singular)
subeihinsa (illative plural)
subillaan (adessive singular)
subillansa (adessive singular)
subeillaan (adessive plural)
subeillansa (adessive plural)
subiltaan (ablative singular)
subiltansa (ablative singular)
subeiltaan (ablative plural)
subeiltansa (ablative plural)
subilleen (allative singular)
subillensa (allative singular)
subeilleen (allative plural)
subeillensa (allative plural)
subinaan (essive singular)
subinansa (essive singular)
subeinaan (essive plural)
subeinansa (essive plural)
subikseen (singular translative)
subiksensa (singular translative)
subeikseen (plural translative)
subeiksensa (plural translative)
subittaan (abessive singular)
subittansa (abessive singular)
subeittaan (abessive plural)
subeittansa (abessive plural)
subeineen (comitative plural)
subeinensa (comitative plural)


escravo

pt-noun

escravo m (plural escravos, feminine escrava, feminine plural escravas)

escravos (plural)
escrava (feminine)
escravas (feminine plural)
iscravo (alternative)

Borrowed from Medieval Latin sclavus (“slave”), from Late Latin Sclavus (“a Slav”), from Byzantine Greek Σκλάβος (Sklábos), which see for more. Doublet of eslavo, esloveno, esclavão / eslavão, and tchau / chau.

doublet

(BDSM) slave (submissive partner in BDSM play)


femdom

en-noun

femdom (countable and uncountable, plural femdoms)

→ Russian: фемдо́м (femdóm)

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From female + dom, short for domination or dominance.

(BDSM, uncountable) Female domination; a sexual practice in which women dominate men or other people.

I'm acutely aware that I'm on my knees in front of a gorgeous femdom.

2017, D. L. King, Unspeakably Erotic: Lesbian Kink:

She wished she had some fuck-me stiletto thigh-high boots on to give her more of a Domme appearance, but she had seen plenty of femdoms at the club wearing comfortable walking shoes.

2018, Kallypso Masters, Box Set: Rescue Me Saga Books 4-6 and Bonus Western Dreams:

(BDSM, countable) A female dominator in sadomasochistic sexual practices.


femdom

fr-noun

femdom f (countable and uncountable, plural femdoms)

(BDSM, uncountable) femdom (sexual practice where women dominate other people)

(BDSM, countable) femdom (female dominator)


ballbusting

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Near-synonym: cock and ball torture

(informal, BDSM) The beating or kicking of the testicles.


karada

Borrowing from Japanese 体 (karada, “body”).

I began the entrancing process of getting into my karada. Being new, the rope only had a little give in it[…]

2009, Gemma Martinelli, Journeys In My Bare Feet, page 281:

(BDSM) An intricate rope structure tied around the body.


ativo

pt-adj

ativo (feminine ativa, masculine plural ativos, feminine plural ativas)

ativa (feminine)
ativos (masculine plural)
ativas (feminine plural)
activo (alternative)

From earlier autivo, from Latin actīvus (“active”).

(slang, LGBTQ, BDSM) top (of or relating to the dominant partner in a sexual relationship, usually the one who penetrates)


ativo

(slang, LGBTQ, BDSM) top, pitcher (a dominant partner in a sexual relationship, usually the one who penetrates)


safeword

safewords (plural)
safe word (alternative)

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Likewise, a top's ability to respond to your safeword is what makes her a safe partner.

2004, Felice Newman, The Whole Lesbian Sex Book, →ISBN, page 201:

If you don't like something that's happening or you want the scene to stop right away, simply say your safeword.

2006, Tristan Taormino, The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women:

My guess is our victims probably used their safewords or protested at some point, but our guy doesn't care about safewords or the BDSM creed...

2007, Sloan Christopher, Dangerous Obsession:

(chiefly BDSM) A word used in (especially sadomasochistic) sexual practices to unambiguously indicate that a participant actually desires the activity to cease and is not merely feigning a lack of consent.

paraula de seguretat

a word used to indicate that a participant wants to stop


safeword

en-verb

safeword (third-person singular simple present safewords, present participle safewording, simple past and past participle safeworded)

safewords (present singular third-person)
safewording (participle present)
safeworded (participle past)
safeworded (past)
safe word (alternative)

Like it's kind of in my head that maybe I could surprise him, like Eddie said, you know, before I flip out and safeword.

I am going to trust you to safeword though. Say red if you need to. Okay?

2015, Cari Silverwood, Take Me, Break Me, page 177:

This can be difficult if your partner is trying to safeword but all that is coming out is a mew or growl.

2011, Lee Harrington, Spirit of Desire, page 199:

(chiefly BDSM) To stop a sex act by using a safeword.


ponygirl

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(BDSM) A woman, usually submissive, who takes the role of a pony; this typically includes wearing tack such as a bridle and bit


CFNM

Initialism of clothed female, naked (or sometimes nude) male.

On Jan 28, 3:12 am, "yon" wrote: > > On Jan 23, 12:49 am, goi...@hotmail.com wrote: > > > >And with CMNF (so the > > > reverse of CFNM) - some […]

2007 January 30, Anna, Re: Nude swimming class, rec.nude, Usenet

“He went for my zipper, but I took his hand and held it firmly behind his back, and I could feel his heartbeat quicken”
Power games
Clothed female, naked male (CFNM) and clothed male, naked female (CMNF) are both popular kinks and […]

2012, Debby Herbenick, Grant Stoddard, Great in Bed, Penguin, →ISBN:

“It's called CMNF. Clothed male, nude female, and CFNF, clothed female, nude female. They're two major fetishes that have gotten popular recently. We employ the big one, CFNM, clothed female, nude male extensively in London.”

2017, Emily Elizabeth Varner, The Event, eXtasy Books, →ISBN, page 328:

(BDSM) A form of sexual roleplay in which the players act out situations in which the woman wears clothes but the man is naked.


toilet training

en-noun

toilet training (usually uncountable, plural toilet trainings)

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Toilet Training […] involves teaching them how to drink pee or poop (depending on which they're into), straight from a woman's body. I talk in detail about how I will make them drink my pee, or I talk about pissing over their face. […] Somewhat similar to toilet training are toilet boys. These guys like to worship your ass and be used as your toilet paper.

2011, Stacey Weiss, Secrets of a Phone Sex Operator, page 40:

“I know you're in a lot of pain right now, my pet, but I desperately need to pee and I think I'd like to start your toilet training now.”
“Yes Mistress,” Millie said, offering no resistance to the inevitable.
“Fucking hell that's hot!” Mistress Carla exclaimed. “I mean, I've literally seen thousands of men and women drinking piss, but to see the owner do it? And for a ponygirl? You must be something truly special,” she said to Kayla.

2021, Faye Valentine, Trained for Charity:

(BDSM, euphemistic) The practice of enforced coprophagy or urophagia.


ponyboy

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In other words, I don't fantasize about having a ponyboy brought over to me and being bred with him. That hasn't come into the fantasies...

1999, Katharine Gates, Deviant Desires: Incredibly Strange Sex:

They may really love to play the role of a ponyboy at a public club on weekends...

2000, Gloria G Brame, Come Hither: A Commonsense Guide to Kinky Sex:

The age-old fetish of the ponygirl or ponyboy has never been hotter! History shows that humans have thrilled for millennia to the idea of turning a human being into a horse — even Aristotle reportedly loved to be saddled...

2008, Rebecca Wilcox, The Human Pony: A Handbook for Owners, Trainers and Admirers:

(BDSM) The male equivalent of a ponygirl.


slaveboy

slaveboys (plural)
slave-boy (alternative)
slave boy (alternative)

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(BDSM) A young male slave (submissive partner) in a BDSM relationship.


Saint Andrew's cross

Saint Andrew's cross (plural Saint Andrew's crosses)

Saint Andrew's Cross (BDSM)
Saint Andrew's cross

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(BDSM) An upright X-shaped frame to which a participant can be tied.


госпожа

ru-noun+

госпожа́ • (gospožá) f anim (genitive госпожи́, nominative plural госпожи́, genitive plural госпо́ж, masculine господи́н)

госпожа́ (canonical)
gospožá (romanization)
госпожи́ (genitive)
госпожи́ (nominative plural)
госпо́ж (genitive plural)
господи́н (masculine)
госпожа́ (nominative singular)
госпожи́ (nominative plural)
госпожи́ (genitive singular)
госпо́ж (genitive irregular plural)
госпоже́ (dative singular)
госпожа́м (dative plural)
госпожу́ (accusative singular)
госпо́ж (accusative irregular plural)
госпожо́й (instrumental singular)
госпожо́ю (instrumental singular)
госпожа́ми (instrumental plural)
госпоже́ (prepositional singular)
госпожа́х (plural prepositional)
госпожа́ (dated nominative singular)
госпожи́ (dated nominative plural)
госпожи́ (dated genitive singular)
госпо́жъ (dated genitive irregular plural)
госпожѣ́ (dated dative singular)
госпожа́мъ (dated dative plural)
госпожу́ (accusative dated singular)
госпо́жъ (accusative dated irregular plural)
госпожо́й (dated instrumental singular)
госпожо́ю (dated instrumental singular)
госпожа́ми (dated instrumental plural)
госпожѣ́ (dated prepositional singular)
госпожа́хъ (dated plural prepositional)

→ Bulgarian: госпожа (gospoža)

Ru-госпожа.ogg

(BDSM) mistress (term of address by a submissive partner to a dominant woman)


painslut

Now I'm not saying that it isn't an edge I cross from time to time, but I need the confidence that some little painslut won't decide afterward to press charges.

2001, Edbun, “Do you enjoy the pain of spanking?”, in soc.sexuality.spanking (Usenet):

You two are quite an addition to my little circle. We've got just about one of everything: painsluts, pony boys, rubber queens, latex lovers […]

He was playing a part, but River had never really understood painsluts. A little slap and tickle was one thing, but getting off on being beaten just didn't make anything like sense to him.

(BDSM, slang, sometimes derogatory) A person who enjoys receiving pain.


bloodplay

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No surprise, not all Goths are in it for the beliefs, the bloodplay, the S&M violence, mostly underage fashion victims who like the smell of leather...

2005, Mike Philbin, The Life and Death of Hertzan Chimera:

...the appeal of bloodplay, at least for some individuals, arises from the very risks that this practice poses.

2007, Michelle Belanger, Vampires in Their Own Words: An Anthology of Vampire Voices:

It may involve increased risk of spreading disease (cutting, bloodplay), psychological danger (humiliation play, incest fantasies, rape roleplay)...

2008, Anil Aggrawal, Forensic and Medico-Legal Aspects of Sexual Crimes and Unusual Sexual Practices:

(BDSM) Sexual activity in which a participant is deliberately cut so as to release blood.


subbie

“This is my subbie, and you get no say in that.”
“She's not your subbie, Dominic,” I stated. “You left her hanging in the shibari room last night. […]

2014, Katherine Rhodes, Not Quite Juliet: Silver Soul 1:


noncon

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I liked the point you made about the ep showing both consensual and noncon BDSM.

2002 February 8, atara <asta...@cyberg8t.com>, “Re: Did anyone see Buffy the Vampire Slayer last night?”, in soc.subculture.bondage-bdsm (Usenet):

consensual non-consent
consensual non-consent

(BDSM) Involving consensual non-consent.


奴隸

/nou̯²¹ tɐi̯²²/

/lɔ²⁴⁻¹¹ le³³/

/lɔ²⁴⁻²² le⁴¹/

/lɔ²³⁻³³ le³³/

/lɔ²⁴⁻²² le²²/

/lɔ¹³⁻²² le²²/

/nɔ̃¹³⁻²² le²²/

/nou⁵⁵⁻¹¹ ti³⁵/

/nou̯²¹ tɐi̯²²/

/lɔ²⁴⁻¹¹ le³³/

/lɔ²⁴⁻²² le⁴¹/

/lɔ²³⁻³³ le³³/

/lɔ²⁴⁻²² le²²/

/lɔ¹³⁻²² le²²/

/nɔ̃¹³⁻²² le²²/

/nou⁵⁵⁻¹¹ ti³⁵/

(BDSM) slave (submissive partner in a BDSM relationship who consensually submits to, sexually or personally, serving one or more masters or mistresses)


hardpoint

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(BDSM) A structure for holding someone suspended with rope.


OTK

/ˈəʊ ˈtiː ˈkeɪ/

My Mom's paddlings were usually for *back-talking* or *being fresh* - a habit I never broke. They were spontaneous and sharp, usually OTK or standing up, secured by one arm, and given with the hand or the hairbrush.

1994 July 24, Gaetana <gaetana@aol.com>, “Hot Summer Nights”, in alt.sex.spanking (Usenet), retrieved 2022-01-30:

I thought of the other identity as my darker self. Her screen name was Pirategrrl; her “real” name was Jenny. I listed her hobbies as swordplay and, on the advice of a friend well versed in chat-room culture, OTK--over the knee, erotic shorthand for spanking.

1997 July, Lynn Darling, “‘Dear Ravager, I've never done this before...’”, in Esquire, volume 128, number 1, New York, →ISSN:

Lynn Darling (1997), for example, created the identity of Pirategrrl just to test out her own reaction to taking part in the OTK (“over the knee,” or spanking) culture.

1998, Walter S. DeKeseredy, Martin D. Schwartz, “Male Peer Support and Woman Abuse in Postsecondary School Courtship”, in Raquel Kennedy Bergen, editor, Issues in Intimate Violence, Thousand Oaks, California: Sage Publications, →ISBN, page 89:

[…] the OTK site with its graphic spanking photos […]

2002, Les Roberts, The Dutch: A Milan Jacovich Mystery:

“So, you want a straightforward, otk, bare butt, hand spanking. Don't blame you. They're the best kind.”

2006, Kiki Faran, Once Upon a Knee Mf Spanking & Domestic Discipline Stories Book Three:

Haron's howling came later that afternoon, as she was upended for a bare-bottomed, open-air, OTK spanking on the Mull of Kintyre. I think I'm always going to giggle in future whenever I hear the relevant Paul McCartney song.

2008, Abel and Haron, The Spanking Writers:

(BDSM) Initialism of over the knee (spanking position).


sahip

head

sahip (definite accusative sahibi, plural sahipler)

sahibi (accusative definite)
sahipler (plural)
sahip (nominative singular)
sahipler (nominative plural)
sahibi (accusative definite singular)
sahipleri (accusative definite plural)
sahibe (dative singular)
sahiplere (dative plural)
sahipte (locative singular)
sahiplerde (locative plural)
sahipten (ablative singular)
sahiplerden (ablative plural)
sahibin (genitive singular)
sahiplerin (genitive plural)
sahibim (first-person nominative singular)
sahiplerim (first-person nominative singular)
sahibin (nominative second-person singular)
sahiplerin (nominative second-person singular)
sahibi (nominative singular third-person)
sahipleri (nominative singular third-person)
sahibimiz (first-person nominative plural)
sahiplerimiz (first-person nominative plural)
sahibiniz (nominative plural second-person)
sahipleriniz (nominative plural second-person)
sahipleri (nominative plural third-person)
sahibimi (accusative definite first-person singular)
sahiplerimi (accusative definite first-person singular)
sahibini (accusative definite second-person singular)
sahiplerini (accusative definite second-person singular)
sahibini (accusative definite singular third-person)
sahiplerini (accusative definite singular third-person)
sahibimizi (accusative definite first-person plural)
sahiplerimizi (accusative definite first-person plural)
sahibinizi (accusative definite plural second-person)
sahiplerinizi (accusative definite plural second-person)
sahiplerini (accusative definite plural third-person)
sahibime (dative first-person singular)
sahiplerime (dative first-person singular)
sahibine (dative second-person singular)
sahiplerine (dative second-person singular)
sahibine (dative singular third-person)
sahiplerine (dative singular third-person)
sahibimize (dative first-person plural)
sahiplerimize (dative first-person plural)
sahibinize (dative plural second-person)
sahiplerinize (dative plural second-person)
sahiplerine (dative plural third-person)
sahibimde (first-person locative singular)
sahiplerimde (first-person locative singular)
sahibinde (locative second-person singular)
sahiplerinde (locative second-person singular)
sahibinde (locative singular third-person)
sahiplerinde (locative singular third-person)
sahibimizde (first-person locative plural)
sahiplerimizde (first-person locative plural)
sahibinizde (locative plural second-person)
sahiplerinizde (locative plural second-person)
sahiplerinde (locative plural third-person)
sahibimden (ablative first-person singular)
sahiplerimden (ablative first-person singular)
sahibinden (ablative second-person singular)
sahiplerinden (ablative second-person singular)
sahibinden (ablative singular third-person)
sahiplerinden (ablative singular third-person)
sahibimizden (ablative first-person plural)
sahiplerimizden (ablative first-person plural)
sahibinizden (ablative plural second-person)
sahiplerinizden (ablative plural second-person)
sahiplerinden (ablative plural third-person)
sahibimin (first-person genitive singular)
sahiplerimin (first-person genitive singular)
sahibinin (genitive second-person singular)
sahiplerinin (genitive second-person singular)
sahibinin (genitive singular third-person)
sahiplerinin (genitive singular third-person)
sahibimizin (first-person genitive plural)
sahiplerimizin (first-person genitive plural)
sahibinizin (genitive plural second-person)
sahiplerinizin (genitive plural second-person)
sahiplerinin (genitive plural third-person)

Inherited from Ottoman Turkish صاحب (sahib), from Old Anatolian Turkish صاحب (ṣāḥib), from Arabic صَاحِب (ṣāḥib).


BDSMer

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Rather than occasional BDSM indulgences in the bedroom, lifestyle BDSMers practice their craft 24/7.

2007, Peter Ludlow, Mark Wallace, The Second Life Herald:

After many more visits and discussions with BDSMers, I began to understand the power play and sexual high that BDSM can bring.

2007, Marlene Wasserman, Pillowbook: creating a sensual lifestyle:

(informal, BDSM) One who participates in BDSM.


TNG

For example, some communities set up TNG (The Next Generation) groups to address the issue of young people coming into communities and being overwhelmed by attention from much older, and more experienced, dominants (a dynamic which is exacerbated by many older submissives having left the community following non-consensual experiences, MacAulay Millar, 2012).

2013 December, Meg Barker, “Consent Is a Grey Area? A Comparison of Understandings of Consent in Fifty Shades of Grey and on the BDSM Blogosphere”, in Sexualities, volume 16, number 8, →DOI, →ISSN, page 907:

Research on these topics at college campuses might be difficult to conduct, particularly if the researchers do not want to focus on people who already identify with the BDSM community. The researchers might want to connect with local TNG (The Next Generation, for people 18-35 years old) groups, whose members might attend college.

2018, Carolyn Meeker, Negotiating Self: An Exploration of Women’s Perceptions of Their Feminist and Submissive Identities (doctoral dissertation), Miami, Florida: Florida International University, retrieved 2022-02-28:

When asked about the demographic makeup of her TNG group, Megan explained that it was fairly diverse. Most participants are queer.

2018, Sarah R. Young, “Creating Safe Schools: Clubs, Curriculum, and School-Based Inclusion for LGBTQ+ Youths”, in Chuck Stewart, editor, Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Americans at Risk: Problems and Solutions, Santa Barbara, California: Praeger, →ISBN, page 137:

He also noted that older crowds tended to be a lot more sexual in their play, and that many of the older folx in the community also were often members of other alternative lifestyle communities, namely that of “swinging.” This, he explained, is different from most of the TNG crowd, who are at BDSM clubs to participate in things like suspensions, needle play, extreme degradation and S&M, pony or puppy play, etc.

2019, Justine Roxanne Leiser, Deviants Performing Deviance: A Participant/Observer Case for BDSM as Performance (doctoral dissertation), University of Colorado, retrieved 2022-02-28:

Many kink communities have a TNG group in their area, and local dungeons will have TNG play party nights where only members who are 18-35 can attend.

2020, Jessica M. W. Kratzer, “Kinky Access: Information Provided to Young Adult Kinksters by ‘The Next Generation’ Groups on Fetlife.com”, in Rachel Kalish, editor, Young Adult Sexuality in the Digital Age, Hershey, Pennsylvania: IGI Global, →DOI, →ISBN, page 199:

(BDSM) Of or pertaining to younger BDSM practitioners, typically under the age of approximately 35 years, especially as a collective.


TNG

Many cities including Madison (Wisconsin), San Francisco, Boston, Vancouver, Columbus (Ohio), Albuquerque, Glendale (Arizona), Tucson, and Austin (TX) also have a TNG.

2009, Jennifer Tyburczy, Exhibiting Sexualities: Pleasure, Power, and Performance in Museums (doctoral dissertation), Evanston, Illinois: Northwestern University, page 294:

TNG was the brainchild of some young adult kinksters entering the BDSM scene in New York and the first one formed there in 1999. Since then TNGs have sprung up nationwide in many major cities.

2015 February 25, Darian, Keiden, Laura, Reese, and Tex, “Kinked Off” (letter to the editor), in Baltimore City Paper Baltimore, Maryland: Baltimore Sun Media Group, retrieved March 2, 2022

TESTNG was one of the first two TNGs to ever exist, which was a sort of, TES is an extremely hierarchical organization and there are all these little sub-organizations within it, so there’s all these branches, you know, and there’s one specifically for women tops or femme tops who have submissive bottoms, there’s one specifically for people who are into master and slave relationships.

2017 March 29, Stella Dance, “NYC TOHP Interview Transcript #036”, interview by Michelle Esther O'Brien, New York City Trans Oral History Project, New York: New York Public Library, retrieved March 2, 2022, page 22

(BDSM) A social club for younger BDSM practitioners, typically for those under the age of approximately 35 years.


köle

head

köle (definite accusative köleyi, plural köleler)

köleyi (accusative definite)
köleler (plural)
köle (nominative singular)
köleler (nominative plural)
köleyi (accusative definite singular)
köleleri (accusative definite plural)
köleye (dative singular)
kölelere (dative plural)
kölede (locative singular)
kölelerde (locative plural)
köleden (ablative singular)
kölelerden (ablative plural)
kölenin (genitive singular)
kölelerin (genitive plural)

Inherited from Ottoman Turkish كوله (“slave”), from Proto-Turkic *kȫle. Compare Azerbaijani kölə (“slave”).

inh+

(BDSM) slave; a submissive partner in a BDSM relationship.


maledom

en-noun

maledom (countable and uncountable, plural maledoms)

From male + dom, short for domination or dominance.

(BDSM, uncountable) Male domination; a sexual practice in which men dominate women or other people.

And these things are better coming from a femsub like her because you so often dismiss criticism from maledoms as proof that they can't take competition.

1997, Anthony & Joy Hilbert, “Attention Joy gets (was: Woofie on Trust)”, in alt.personals.bondage (Usenet):

(BDSM, countable) A male dominator in sadomasochistic sexual practices.


topman

Back in the alcove I watched as a bearded daddy type whipped a guy who was bent over the sawhorse. The topman kept the tip of his tongue poked between his lips like a little kid hard at work in a coloring book.

1989 February 12, Christopher Wittke, “A Leather Belt Is The Perfect Accessory...”, in Gay Community News, volume 16, number 30, page 8:


Berkley horse

After Theresa Berkley, its supposed inventor.

(BDSM) A BDSM apparatus consisting of a triangular frame to which a person can be tied for flogging.


pissplay

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We did everything we'd written about, even pissplay. The sex was great, but she was hysteric. She didn't want me to have sex with other women; she left her husband for me. That was a real tragedy, and I learned my lesson.

2000, “Eurydice”, in Satyricon USA: A Journey Across the New Sexual Frontier:

GWM, grn, brn, 41, looking for asian or hispanic that wants to piss all over or in me. Do you live in the San Jose, CA area. Email me. Looking for fun.

1998, Herryass, “PissPlay”, in alt.sex.watersports (Usenet):

(BDSM) Any sexual activity involving urine or urination.


superulo

eo-head

superulo (accusative singular superulon, plural superuloj, accusative plural superulojn)

superulon (accusative singular)
superuloj (plural)
superulojn (accusative plural)