AA

en-noun

AA (countable and uncountable, plural AAs)

approach anxiety
approach anxiety#English

(seduction community) Initialism of approach anxiety.


wall

From Middle English wal, from Old English weall (“wall, dike, earthwork, rampart, dam, rocky shore, cliff”), from Proto-West Germanic *wall (“wall, rampart, entrenchment”), from Latin vallum (“wall, rampart, entrenchment, palisade”), from Proto-Indo-European *welH- (“to turn, wind, roll”).
Perhaps conflated with waw (“a wall within a house or dwelling, a room partition”), from Middle English wawe, from Old English wāg, wāh (“an interior wall, divider”), see waw.
Cognate with North Frisian wal (“wall”), Saterland Frisian Waal (“wall, rampart, mound”), Dutch wal (“wall, rampart, embankment”), German Wall (“rampart, mound, embankment”), Swedish vall (“mound, wall, bank”). More at wallow, walk.

cog

the apples on the other side of the wall are the sweetest

throw enough mud at the wall and some of it will stick

throw things at the wall and see what sticks

Depreciation of assets happens. Prepare yourself
Marla. Get ready for the wall.

1996 December 27, “The Definitive Answer to "Why Nice Guys Finish Last"”, in alt.romance (Usenet):

At what age would you peg the
'wall' to be for men, on or thereabouts?

2001 February 2, “what a drag it is getting old”, in soc.singles (Usenet):

I have never had a problem getting the attention of men. I'm 44
and there's no wall staring me in the face

2001 June 19, “the laws of biomechanics”, in soc.singles (Usenet):

That was only six
years later and Natasha is not near the wall yet

2002 January 22, “towards a useful smv metric”, in soc.singles (Usenet):

As for the wall....Im convinced part of this is just something us guys tell ourselves to 'get back'(in our minds) at all the girls who wouldn't sleep with us 5-10 years ago

2015 July 20, “catcalls are bad”, in rec.sport.football.college (Usenet):

(slang, seduction community, chiefly definite) The stage of biological aging where physical appearance and attractiveness start to deteriorate rapidly.


Chad

From Middle English Chadde, from Old English Ċeadda, of obscure meaning; name of a seventh-century Anglo-Saxon saint, revived in the 20th century.
The sense of “alpha male” originates from an apparent stereotype that men with such a name tend to bear that temperament, first attested in c. late 1990s in Chicago, Illinois (specifically "successful white man, yuppie"), but in common usage only as of the late 2010s via 4chan slang.

etydate

They are united by the fact that women will not have sex with them, usually attributed to shallow obsessions with looks or superficial personality, and by their hatred of “Chads” and “Stacys”, the men and women who have sex.

2018 April 25, Alex Hern, “Who are the 'incels' and how do they relate to Toronto van attack?”, in The Guardian:

Short for “female humanoid”, it’s used in place of the word “woman” to depict how, in an incel’s view, women are not entirely human, but are instead robot-like androids who only crave sex with Chads.

2018 April 28, Kate Wilson, “Last week in tech: sex robots”, in The Georgia Straight:

(Internet slang, seduction community, incel slang) A very handsome, usually tall man whom women find sexually attractive; at times seen as an alpha male of a group.


plate

→ Maori: pereti

→ Hindi: प्लेट (pleṭ)

From Middle English plate, from Old French plate, from Medieval Latin plata, from Vulgar Latin *plat(t)us, from Ancient Greek πλατύς (platús, “broad, flat, wide”). Compare Spanish plato.
(foot): Cockney rhyming slang, from "plates of meat" for "feet".

der

More plates means more dates!

(slang, seduction community) Any of the potential romantic or sexual partners with whom a person keeps in touch as part of plate spinning.


game

en-verb

game (third-person singular simple present games, present participle gaming, simple past and past participle gamed)

games (present singular third-person)
gaming (participle present)
gamed (participle past)
gamed (past)

From Middle English game, gamen, gammen, from Old English gamen (“sport, joy, mirth, pastime, game, amusement, pleasure”), from Proto-West Germanic *gaman, from Proto-Germanic *gamaną (“amusement, pleasure, game", literally "participation, communion, people together”), from *ga- (collective prefix) + *mann- (“man”); or alternatively from *ga- + a root from Proto-Indo-European *men- (“to think, have in mind”).
Cognate with Old Frisian game, gome (“joy, amusement, entertainment”), Middle High German gamen (“joy, amusement, fun, pleasure”), Swedish gamman (“mirth, rejoicing, merriment”), Icelandic gaman (“fun”). Related to gammon, gamble.

cog

Returning briefly to his journalistic persona to interview Britney Spears, he finds himself gaming her, and she gives him her phone number.

2005 October 6, “Picking up the pieces”, in The Economist:

A business associate of mine at the time, George Wu, sat across the way, gaming a stripper the way I taught him.

2010, Mystery, The Pickup Artist: The New and Improved Art of Seduction, Villard Books, →ISBN, page 100:

How did Amanda know she wasn’t getting gamed? Well, she didn’t. “I would wonder, ‘Is he saying stuff to other girls that he says to me?’ We did everything we could to cut it off […] yet we somehow couldn’t.”

2010 July 9, Sheila McClear, “Would you date a pickup artist?”, in New York Post:

(transitive, seduction community, slang, of males) To perform premeditated seduction strategy.


neg

The purpose of a neg is to lower a woman's self esteem while actively displaying a lack of interest in her—by telling her she has lipstick on her teeth, for example, or offering her a piece of gum after she speaks.

2005, Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, Text Publishing Company, →ISBN, →OL, pages 20–21:

A neg is not an insult but a negative social value judgment that is telegraphed.

2007 February 6, Erik von Markovik, The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed, St. artin's Press, →ISBN, →OL, page 94:

As we sped down Lake Michigan Drive, I was still feeling a little star-struck and decided that on account of her uber-hot looks, I'd need to start launching negs at her like there was no tomorrow.

2011, Benton Miller with Travis Wolfe, The Journal: Man's Quest for the Perfect Match, Moon Planet Publishing, page 104:

Negs include asking whether her nails are real, or saying that you saw someone else wearing her skirt.

2012, Meg Barker, Rewriting the Rules: An Integrative Guide to Love, Sex and Relationships, Routledge, →ISBN, →OL, pages 77–78:

(seduction community) An expression or implication that one has a negative value judgement of someone in order to make them desire one's approval, especially when trying to pick up a date.


neg

en-verb

neg (third-person singular simple present negs, present participle negging, simple past and past participle negged)

negs (present singular third-person)
negging (participle present)
negged (participle past)
negged (past)

Women, on the other hand, are wired to believe that men are always ready to reach home base and never turn down a booty opportunity. So when he negs you, it seems unnatural, and you may worry that something’s wrong with your relationship.

2011 December 16, Jessica Knoll, “The Surprising Reasons He Turns You Down For Sex”, in Cosmopolitan:

I mean, the thing is, overall you want the chick to feel good about herself around you and because of you. It's true that good negging really helps that, but bad negging--negging where she's already insecure--can kill it.

2001 January 18, traction_free, “Negging”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet), message-ID <9477av$dpq$1@nnrp1.deja.com>:

She's an 11. This is going to take some hardcore negging.

2005, Neil Strauss, quoting Erik von Markovik, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, Text Publishing Company, →ISBN, →OL, page 151:

(transitive, seduction community) To express or imply a negative value judgement of someone to make them desire one's approval, especially when trying to pick up a date.


AFC

en-noun

AFC (countable and uncountable, plural AFCs)

I've successfully transformed myself from an AFC (Average Frustrated Chump) into an RAFC (Recovering Average Frustrated Chump).

2008, Zander Martin, The Players, →ISBN, page xxxvi:

Most AFCs, most guys looking in from the outside, can relate to the idea of what an average frustrated chump is – they can identify with it.

2011 September 13, Rollo Tomassi, “Average Frustrated Chump”, in The Rational Male:

My problem was the same as every other average frustrated chump (AFC).

2015, Trina Boice, Base Hits and Home Run Relationships: What Women Wish Guys Knew, →ISBN:

average frustrated chump
average frustrated chump#English

(seduction community) Initialism of average frustrated chump.


lair

From Middle English leir, leire, lair, lare, from Old English leġer (“couch, bed”), from Proto-Germanic *legrą, from Proto-Indo-European *legʰ-.

(seduction community) A group where pickup artists meet to discuss and practise seduction techniques.


sarge

From sergeant, q.v. In reference to PUA slang, coined by American writer and television personality Ross Jeffries after the behavior of his cat Sarge.

coinage

I did not interpret this advice correctly at first and in the same sarge as the hand-slap Juggler observed that she was really into me and liking my game but a little annoyed that I kept encroaching on her by moving myself closer to her while keeping myself square.

2003 March 4, SexPDX, “Juggler Workshop Review and Lay Report (VERY LONG)”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

I thought it would be funny and depressing to join them on what they call the "Saturday Sarge." A sarge is when a group of morons roam around looking for girls to annoy. Sounds gr8 right?

2012 September 25, Matt Jenkins, Bertie Brandes, “My Day Out with the London Seduction Society”, in VICE, archived from the original on 2023-07-23:

(seduction community) An instance of sarging.


sarge

en-verb

sarge (third-person singular simple present sarges, present participle sarging, simple past and past participle sarged)

sarges (present singular third-person)
sarging (participle present)
sarged (participle past)
sarged (past)
Sarge (alternative)

Sure, the echoes of PUA raise concerns and I have no doubt Saturday Sarge has its fair share of men just wanting to pick up women for sex (Phil says in the four years he's sarged he's only slept with about 10 – the same amount another sarger says he's slept with in the last six months).

2014 October 18, Gareth May, “Saturday Sarge: meet the men who go hunting for women”, in The Daily Telegraph, London: Telegraph Media Group, →ISSN, →OCLC, archived from the original on 2019-03-01:

(intransitive, seduction community) To go out and engage women in order to pick them up.


orbiter

The orbiters in her life in high likelihood like to talk about this and make themselves her emotional tampon and outlet.

2015, Jack N. Raven, Penetration: A Tactical Manual on Forming Deep Emotional Connections!:

(slang, seduction community) A person who constantly hangs around with someone they are attracted to, but too shy to talk to.


chad

(Internet slang, seduction community, incel slang) Alternative spelling of Chad (“alpha-male; a virile man”).


kino

Coined by Ross Jeffries, from kinesthesia.

I noticed, however, that the more interested the 11 became, the more kino the 10 gave me.

2005, Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, Text Publishing Company, →ISBN, →OL, page 154:

It is the specific pacing of escalating kino that is important, not the physical touches.

2007 February 6, Erik von Markovik, The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed, St. Martin's Press, →ISBN, →OL, page 138:

There's no way for me to find out a girl's attitude toward kino without giving it a try and pushing some limits, so I never miss an opportunity to touch her.

2008 September 23, Tony Clink, The Plan: Have Sex Tonight with a Gorgeous Woman in 69 Easy Steps, New York: Citadel Press, →ISBN, →OL, page 27:

(seduction community) Physical contact with another person, touch.


ASD

en-noun

ASD (countable and uncountable, plural ASDs)

anti-slut defense
anti-slut defense#English

(seduction community) Initialism of anti-slut defense.


HB

(slang, seduction community) A hot babe, someone pickup artists try to seduce. (Usually followed by a number in the 1-10 scale of physical beauty, e.g. HB10.)


pickup artist

Researching a book proposed by an editor, I allowed myself to be taken under the wings of the greatest self-proclaimed pickup artists in the world and entered an underground subculture of men dedicated—sometimes to an unhealthy extreme—to figuring out the mystery of the opposite sex.

2004 January 25, Neil Strauss, “HE AIMS! HE SHOOTS! YES!!”, in The New York Times, →ISSN:

(seduction community) One who uses specialized tactics to seduce women.


SDL

(seduction community) Initialism of same day lay.


shit test

shit tests (plural)
shittest (alternative)
shit-test (alternative)

Coleman left and Passow texted him an apology, the Intercept reported. In reply, Coleman said that he was only warming up the car, and added, "I'm sorry baby I failed your shit test."

2020 August 26, Carter Sherman, “Teen Democratic Candidate Aaron Coleman Accused of Choking His Girlfriend”, in VICE, archived from the original on 2023-05-27:

(seduction community, vulgar) A conscious or unconscious challenge posed by a woman to a man to determine his suitability as a romantic or sexual partner consisting of acting in a cold, unfriendly, provocative or otherwise defiant manner and seeing how the man reacts and whether he is able to stay unfazed.


shit test

en-verb

shit test (third-person singular simple present shit tests, present participle shit testing, simple past and past participle shit tested)

shit tests (present singular third-person)
shit testing (participle present)
shit tested (participle past)
shit tested (past)
shittest (alternative)
shit-test (alternative)

This all started because the American accused me of "shit testing" him. I had no idea what he meant so I Googled it, and spent an afternoon in silent wonder.

2014 December 13, Stella Grey, “Online dating: wandering into the manosphere”, in Alan Rusbridger, editor, The Guardian, London: Guardian News & Media, →ISSN, →OCLC, archived from the original on 2021-06-24:

(transitive, seduction community, vulgar) To target with a shit test.


peacocking

Peacocking may take place in legislatures and lodges, churches and chain stores. But it is particularly evident and bizarre in academia, a world where everyone is supposed to produce logically ordered exchanges of ideas.

1997, Emily Toth, Ms. Mentor's impeccable advice for women in academia, University of Pennsylvania Press, page 66:

Men do it to get attention from women. Peacocking in pickup circles is pretty much a given. It's not for everyone and if you do decide to do it, you have to fully commit to it.

2010, Dag Albright, How to Meet and Pick Up Women, Leisure Crest International, →ISBN, page 85:

While you can decide for yourself if peacocking is your thing or not, I recommend you make a conscious effort to stand out from the crowd when you head out. If you dress like everyone else, you'll just blend into everyone else.

2010, Eric Rogell, The Art of War for Dating:

Brian: Quagmire told us to dress flashy so girls would notice us.
Stewie: Oh, right. Peacocking.

2011 April 10, Tiegs for Two (Family Guy), season 9, episode 14, spoken by Brian and Stewie Griffin (Seth McFarlane):

(seduction community) Ostentatious dress or behaviour employed by a man in an attempt to impress women.


number close

number close (third-person singular simple present number closes, present participle number closing, simple past and past participle number closed)

number closes (present singular third-person)
number closing (participle present)
number closed (participle past)
number closed (past)

I number closed her but she flaked.

(seduction community) To end the pickup of a woman by getting her telephone number.


number close

(seduction community) The successful acquisition of a woman's telephone number at the end of a pickup attempt.


sarging

en-noun

sarging (usually uncountable, plural sargings)

I noticed you have done a lot of preperation for your sargings and I must say, you learn quickly. My advice is to immediately find another chick or 3 to get to know.

1999 October 20, RE>< Ialt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

Unlike actual tomcat behavioral patterns, presumably sarging does not involve biting a woman on the back of the neck to render her in a kitten-like, docile state before entering her with a barbed, hook-like penis.

2016 October 27, Bethy Squires, “Pick-Up Artists Don't Understand What 'Alpha' Even Means—As Evidenced by Wolves”, in VICE, archived from the original on 2023-06-02:

(seduction community) The act of sarging.


DHV

As you demonstrate higher value (DHV) to the set and neg the target, attraction is created.

2007 February 6, Erik von Markovik, The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed, St. Martin's Press, →ISBN, →OL, page 88:

You have to telegraph the notion that everyone wants you. It’s all part of a tactic called DHV, or “demonstration of higher value” in pickup parlance.

2008, Faye Flam, The Score: How the Quest for Sex Has Shaped the Modern Man, Penguin Group, →ISBN, →OL, page 31:

“You see, Mother Natures users emotions to enforce certain biological imperatives, and those emotions are triggered by DHVs.”
“Wait, hold on, I’m confused. What do you mean by a DHV?” asked Adam.
“A DHV,” I replied, “is a demonstration of higher value that makes the woman notice that you are of higher value than the average next guy or the last guy.”

2010 January 26, Erik von Markovik, The Pickup Artist: The New and Improved Art of Seduction, New York: Villard, →ISBN, →OL, pages 177–178:

Correct application of DHV lays the foundation for attraction since nearly every woman prefers a guy who is considered a winner.

2011, Benton Miller with Travis Wolfe, The Journal: Man's Quest for the Perfect Match, Moon Planet Publishing, page 27:

(seduction community) Demonstrate higher value / demonstration of higher value.


IOI

If she asks you what your name is, that's an IOI. If she asks you if you're single, that's an IOI. If you take her hands and squeeze them, and she squeezes back, that's an IOI. And as soon as I get three IOIs, I phase-shift.

2005, Neil Strauss, quoting Erik von Markovik, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, Text Publishing Company, →ISBN, →OL, page 151:

She gives you a fake IOI to see if you will start chasing her.

2007 February 6, Erik von Markovik, The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed, St. Martin's Press, →ISBN, →OL, page 129:

Pickup artists must continually gauge their reactions, seeking IOI, or “indicators of interest” from the opposite sex.

2008, Faye Flam, The Score: How the Quest for Sex Has Shaped the Modern Man, Penguin Group, →ISBN, →OL, page 32:

(seduction community) Initialism of indicator of interest.


stylemog

en-verb

stylemog (third-person singular simple present stylemogs, present participle stylemogging, simple past and past participle stylemogged)

stylemogs (present singular third-person)
stylemogging (participle present)
stylemogged (participle past)
stylemogged (past)

Blend of Style (“pseudonym of Neil Strauss in the seduction community”) + AMOG, reportedly coined by Owen "Tyler Durden" Cook.

“What? I just said ‘awesome.’ That’s because I think it’s hilarious. Seriously, I can't wait to read it.”
They all laughed again. Evidently I was Stylemogging them.

2005, Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, Text Publishing Company, →ISBN, →OL, page 292:

Strauss himself created "Stylemogging", a more subtle technique in which one uses barbed compliments to establish oneself as the supreme arbitrator of whatever is under discussion. "You've got better at that, a bit," is apparently a classic Stylemogging comment. At this level, it all starts to get a little scary.

2005 September 3, “Operation pick up”, in The Times, London: News UK, →ISSN, →OCLC, archived from the original on 2020-02-26:

I think what you did was okay. Keep up the good work.

2010 May 25, Bernd Jendrissek, “Re: Anomalous event code: 24052010/1”, in alt.support.shyness (Usenet), message-ID <4dfcf912-ea34-47a6-a636-58037997c7f4@v18g2000vbc.googlegroups.com>:

(seduction community) To patronize or talk down to someone by complimenting them as though from a position of authority on the compliment's subject.


AMOG

So he watched the body language AMOGs used to lower his status in sets; he observed the eye contact they used to signify to girls that he was a creep; he analyzed the way they’d pat him on the back with so much force that he’d lose his balance.

2005, Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, Text Publishing Company, →ISBN, →OL, page 234:

You start the whole thing by approaching a “set,” then pick a “target,” throw her a “neg,” assess her IOIs, use your wingman to help you with a DHV, then, working your way from the final attraction phase, A3, you change location for C1 through C3, always ready to counter her ASD and disarm or escape the AMOG. Who ever said women were the more complicated sex?

2008, Faye Flam, The Score: How the Quest for Sex Has Shaped the Modern Man, Penguin Group, →ISBN, →OL, page 2:

He backs this up with an understanding of how to annihilate an AMOG—the alpha male of a group—with a vital skill known as ‘amogging’ (making them look stupid).

2011, Anouchka Grose, Why Do Fools Fall in Love: A Realist's Guide to Romance, Tin House Books, →ISBN, →OL, page 197:

(seduction community, incel slang) Initialism of alpha male of group.


LMR

I figured she'd probably started dating someone else, someone who had been able to break through her LMR.

2005, Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, Text Publishing Company, →ISBN, →OL, page 372:

A woman's LMR threshold may differ from person to person, and a woman's own LMR threshold will change depending on the value of the man she is about to sleep with and other circumstances.

2007 February 6, Erik von Markovik, The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed, St. Martin's Press, →ISBN, →OL, page 200:

The first way around this L.M.R is, if she says, "We shouldn't be doing this", reply, "You are right. This is so bad." And continue kissing.

2012, Greg Dean, Elite Dating Skills: Black Book, Sonic Audio Publishing, →ISBN:

(seduction community) Initialism of last-minute resistance.


PUA

Sure, the echoes of PUA raise concerns and I have no doubt Saturday Sarge has its fair share of men just wanting to pick up women for sex (Phil says in the four years he's sarged he's only slept with about 10 – the same amount another sarger says he's slept with in the last six months).

2014 October 18, Gareth May, “Saturday Sarge: meet the men who go hunting for women”, in The Daily Telegraph, London: Telegraph Media Group, →ISSN, →OCLC, archived from the original on 2019-03-01:

Many also did not know that there is a name for men who often use such cruel tactics in pursuit of women: PUAs, or pickup artists.

2019 December 29, Li Yuan, “For China’s Pickup Artists, Sex Is the Goal and Urging Suicide Is a Tactic”, in The New York Times:

(seduction community) Initialism of pickup artist.


incel

en-noun

incel (countable and uncountable, plural incels)

Blend of involuntary + celibate. Coined by "Alana" in 1997 on an online forum (originally as invcel). Came to widespread usage in the mid-2010s, chiefly online, but now more widespread.

(uncountable, seduction community, informal) "Involuntary celibacy": the state of being not sexually active despite wishing to be.


incel

People who are 'incel' are often suspected as being gay. It's annoying.

2001 May 30, Gra - gra, “I love you!”, in alt.support.shyness (Usenet):

(seduction community) Not having sexual relations despite wishing to.


hit the wall

en-verb

hit the wall (third-person singular simple present hits the wall, present participle hitting the wall, simple past and past participle hit the wall)

hits the wall (present singular third-person)
hitting the wall (participle present)
hit the wall (participle past)
hit the wall (past)

LL-Q1860 (eng)-Flame, not lame-hit the wall.wav

Don't tell Heather Locklear. She won't be able to hear you anyway, as she is over forty and will have to turn up her hearing aid. By the way, please note that, according to urbandictionary.com, men don't hit the wall.

2014, Lisa Scottoline, Francesca Serritella, Have a Nice Guilt Trip, page 50:

N. L. Shraman, How to Seduce a Girl? The Science of Seduction
Ninety percent of girls hit 24, they hit the wall; 25 they hit the wall because they don't care take care of themselves. They don't know any better because they hit their peak so young.

(informal, idiomatic, seduction community) Of a woman: to lose her physical attractiveness through growing older.


IOD

(seduction community) Initialism of indicator of disinterest.


SMV

en-noun

SMV (countable and uncountable, plural SMVs)

When alpha male podcasters and bloggers boast that “Men’s Peak SMV is Age 37”, I agree.

2024 February 1, “When Men’s Dating Options Hit The Wall”, in Salt Lake Single Guy, archived from the original on 2024-12-26:

sexual market value
sexual market value#English

(seduction community) Initialism of sexual market value.


manlet

But, let’s not limit our options here: there are some taller manlets on this list, because their manlet energy is just unbeaten, regardless of their height.

2022 February 5, Various Authors, “What’s a ‘Manlet’? Recounting some of Fandom’s Finest Weird Guys”, in QSO Media:

(derogatory, seduction community) A short man, especially a muscular one.


two set

(seduction community) Two women who are out together socially, and one of whom the pickup artist wishes to isolate and seduce.


average frustrated chump

average frustrated chump (plural average frustrated chumps)

Wryly admitting his afc status (average frustrated chump), Mr Strauss logs on as Style, achieves pua stardom and becomes role model and tutor to a new generation of afcs.

2005, The Economist - Volume 377, Issues 8446-8458, page 92:

I've successfully transformed myself from an AFC (Average Frustrated Chump) into an RAFC (Recovering Average Frustrated Chump).

2008, Zander Martin, The Players, →ISBN, page xxxvi:

My problem was the same as every other average frustrated chump (AFC).

2015, Trina Boice, Base Hits and Home Run Relationships: What Women Wish Guys Knew, →ISBN:

Though I knew my new mind-set was seriously warped, I felt more ethical in many ways as a pickup artist than I had been as an average frustrated chump.

2015, Allie Borden, The Celibacy Project:

(seduction community, derogatory) Someone who does not get as much sex as they want.


beta orbiter

... who, despite his money, spends most of his time as beta orbiter to a woman named Daisy whom he met in Army training. Gatsby spends his money on lavish parties he doesn't attend at a house he bought across from Daisy's ...

2018, Felix Biederman, Matt Christman, Brendan James, Will Menaker, Virgil Texas, The Chapo Guide to Revolution: A Manifesto Against Logic, Facts, and Reason, Simon and Schuster, →ISBN, page 216:

(slang, derogatory, seduction community, neologism) A person who accommodates or mingles with others in the hope of eventually getting sex.


AFChick

I am an AFChick (female version of "average f*cking chump") who has been lurking, posting, dodging, and lurking again for a few months now.

1999 December 28, Janice Graham, “Does saying belowme really work?”, in soc.men (Usenet):

I figured that I wasn't going to ever break out of AFChick status unless I beared^([sic]) a little constructive pain and stuck with it.

2000 January 6, The Fair Penitent, “Smelling funny? (Re: interesting airplane ride... )”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

One of them is already for a long time member of the lesbian/feminazi scene here, and for I can tell most of them are way beyond the AFChick stage and hearing about some of them trying to act like an "alpha female" was sooooo pathetic...

2000 February 13, Boris, “Women as AFChicks”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

average frustrated chump
average frustrated chump

(seduction community, slang) A female average frustrated chump.


AFCdom

And I think this is CENTRAL to AFCdom getting perpetuated in our society. Chicks are unaware of what they want, announcing all the time that they want things that are different from what they actually respond to.

2001 July 1, Final D, “Failure Report”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

That reaction would fit my personality, and I'd have the added benefit of it being a neg, (makes her feel a *little* silly for thinking I would), while at the same time showing her that I'm so far removed from AFCdom that it didn't even occur to me buying a drink was an option.

2001 September 5, Bet For A Living, “Can't buy drinks?”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

Are you trying to drag us back into the middle ages of AFCdom?

2006 July 1, Bernd Jendrissek, “A Jim Summers Update”, in alt.support.shyness (Usenet):

(seduction community) The state or condition of being an AFC.


AFCness

I will admit that I was having difficulty understanding the gist of the thread in general since you all were talking about female AFCness in ways that I have not considered.

2000 February 13, Zipjack, “Women as AFChicks”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

AFCness is an addiction, in that it's a detrimental state that creates a certain sense of security in the short term, does not benefit the addict in the long term, but a dependency on that state is very difficult to get rid of.

2001 October 31, FinaliDentity, “Thanks for everything in this NG - but I just aren't a "player" guys!”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

AFCness is a very resilient disease. I've heard of many cases where it seemed to be in total remission, but then came back with a vengeance.

2006 June 24, Czouch, “About to suffer info overload”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

(seduction community) The state of being an AFC.


WBAFC

I guess this shows that even WBAFC's aren't completely clueless. :)

2001 July 30, TSntana97, “Why alt.seduction.fast is not for me (long)”, in alt.support.shyness (Usenet):

The Last Seduction [snip of a long, pointless post by a WBAFC who needs a spanking]

2002 October 15, Vince Runza, “seduction by AFC signs - VERY HELPFUL?”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

The only "special" status I've claimed on ASF so far is that I am/was WBAFC. I'm not sure I'd say I'm WBAFC anymore.

2006 December 28, speeding, “Is speeding any better than gordo???”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

(seduction community slang) Initialism of way-below-average frustrated chump.


BAFC

Don's a BAFC.

1997 August 29, Ross Jeffries, “Ross Special Offer (Paul Ross)”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

Im not sure where to begin, I am a BAFC (below average frustrated chump), Im 33 and have only gotten laid by two different girls (purely by accident, dont think i had anything to do with it)

2000 April 13, brother_...@my-deja.com, “hi Im new, please flame me.”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

I'm realizing now what a BAFC I was before I found this place 5 months ago.

2001 September 6, Wintermute, “Thanks ASF!”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

(seduction community slang) Initialism of below-average frustrated chump.


doggy dinner bowl look

doggy dinner bowl look (plural doggy dinner bowl looks)

doggy dinner bowl looks (plural)
DDBL (alternative initialism)

Presumably an allusion to the expectant gaze of a dog waiting for its owner to put food in its bowl.

She smiles, laughs, has a doggy-dinner-bowl look.

2004, Tony Click, The Layguide: How To Seduce Women More Beautiful Than You Ever Dreamed Possible, unnumbered page:

She began to give me the doggy dinner-bowl look, as the PUAs call it. It is the look that is the goal of any approach. Her eyes glazed over, her pupils dilated, and she just watched my lips move, entranced and attracted.

2005, Neil Strauss, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, page 154:

CJ tries to use a Doggy Dinner Bowl look on me, saying, 'Pete, I can't let her see me like this, she'll think I'm some kind of pervert. You gotta meet her, say I'm sick, really sorry, all that shit.'

2008, Zander Martin, The Players, page 258:

(informal, seduction community) A look of rapt attention, expectation, or excitement, seen as a sign of romantic interest or pleading.


mâle alpha

(seduction community, figuratively) alpha male (dominant, assertive, protective, oftentimes successful, leadership-type man or male)


DDBL

doggy dinner bowl look
doggy dinner bowl look#English

(informal, seduction community) Initialism of doggy dinner bowl look.


notch count

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From the English idiom notch on one's bedpost.

Guys who've only ever had long-term partners or a limited notch-count often have boring, bland, quick, vanilla sex.

2016, Tom Torero, Street Hustle, page 192:

Don’t reveal your notch count. If a woman asks you how many girls you’ve been with, just say something like, “What, today? Not many...” or “If I told you, I’d have to kill you.”

2022, Dominic Mann, Alpha Male: How to Become the Dominant, Masculine Alpha Male Women Want to Submit To, unnumbered page:

Many times a woman with a higher notch count is more difficult to get into bed with than a woman who has had few sexual partners.

2022, Sam Wilson, The Definitive Guide to Having Sex with Women in the 21st Century, unnumbered page:

(seduction community slang) The number of sexual partners of a given individual.


cold approach

Since I became a pick-up artist, I've performed over two hundred cold approaches.

(seduction community) The act of approaching a stranger (usually female) and asking them on a date.

kylmä lähestyminen

the act of approaching a stranger and asking them on a date


shit tester

Ok, 6 years ago I had this awful fling for about two months with the ultimate shit-tester bitch.

2001 August 18, Lars Hansen, “++ Tips for contacting a chyck from 6 years ago.”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

Except that if she's a shit-tester, she's already proven herself to be SHIT.

2002 April 24, Win At Betting, “Passing Shit Tests By NEVER TRUSTING HER”, in alt.seduction.fast (Usenet):

"I've just looked that up. Shit tester. It seems to mean, a woman who disagrees with you."

[2014 December 13, Stella Grey, “Online dating: wandering into the manosphere”, in Alan Rusbridger, editor, The Guardian, London: Guardian News & Media, →ISSN, →OCLC, archived from the original on 2021-06-24:

(seduction community, vulgar) Someone who shit tests.


anti-slut defense

This is known as her 'Anti-Slut Defense', and will happen at some point during the escalation. It can be when you go to feel her thigh, feel under her shirt or even right before you two are about to have sex.

2016, Lamont Lloyd, Be Fearless With Women: Unleash Your Animal Magnetism, page 164:

As part of her anti-slut defense, she will be accused of saying she was too drunk to say no, so she could not be labeled a slut or have to take responsibility for having consensual sex.

2020, Karen Stollznow, On the Offensive: Prejudice in Language Past and Present, page 84:

(seduction community) The avoidance of taking responsibility for initiating or agreeing to sex, so as not to appear slutty.


sarger

Atul quit sarging earlier this year – he now has therapy, a gym routine and a girlfriend (who he met online) – so instead, I shadow Phil for the day. Phil's story is typical of many sargers. A bad break up led him to the PUA community, which led him to Saturday Sarge. A sarger for four years (he started at 26) he's now a respected 'approach coach' – someone who guides the more inexperienced or nervy 'sargers' through their first few months of approaching women on the street.

2014 October 18, Gareth May, “Saturday Sarge: meet the men who go hunting for women”, in The Daily Telegraph, London: Telegraph Media Group, →ISSN, →OCLC, archived from the original on 2019-03-01:


day game

Near-synonym: street pick-up

(seduction community) The practice of going out in daylight hours to cold approach strangers and attempt to seduce them.


approach anxiety

(seduction community) The anxiety one experiences at the prospect of chatting up a stranger.


gutter game

(seduction community) The practice of going out at night to cold approach strangers on the street outside nightclubs etc. and attempt to seduce them.


plate spinning

(informal, seduction community) The practice of staying in contact with a number of potential romantic or sexual partners at the same time.


same day lay

same day lays (plural)
same-day lay (alternative)

(seduction community, vulgar) An act of sexual intercourse with a woman one has cold approached on the same day.


inspin

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Blend of involuntary + spinster, after incel

(Internet slang, seduction community) A woman incel.


night game

(seduction community) The practice of going out in nighttime hours to cold approach strangers and attempt to seduce them.


betatize

en-verb

betatize (third-person singular simple present betatizes, present participle betatizing, simple past and past participle betatized)

betatizes (present singular third-person)
betatizing (participle present)
betatized (participle past)
betatized (past)
betatise (alternative)

beta + -ate (verb-forming suffix) + -ize

af

She can hold her purse, she's just trying to betatize you, and I don’t use that world lightly, into doing something for her and kind of turning you into this, like, doormat for. You might think I'm exaggerating here and I'm being this complete red pull guy, I'm telling you, it’s the truth, she’s willing to see if she can steal the frame and make you her personal assistant and kind of make you do something, like, everything you do has to be on your own terms, right, so when she says hold my purse for me and you hold it for her, I know it may not seem deep, but it definitely is.

2024 December 18, YBCTooCold, 5:17 from the start, in Female Sh*t Tests (TIER LIST):

(seduction community) To turn into a beta in socio-sexual hierarchy.


RAFC

I've successfully transformed myself from an AFC (Average Frustrated Chump) into an RAFC (Recovering Average Frustrated Chump).

2008, Zander Martin, The Players, →ISBN, page xxxvi:

(seduction community) Initialism of recovering average frustrated chump.